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LETTING GO!!

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
   it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off,
   it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable,
   but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
   the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
   it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
   but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
   but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
   but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
   but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
   it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
   but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
   but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
   but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
   but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
   but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more
      Remember: The time to love is short

~author unknown~

 

Hello everyone! You know.....I am starting this post with this writing about 'letting go' because we all know how important it is when we really find our energy being drained by a situation....it means we are holding on too tightly and trying to control it. What we can control is ourselves and how we choose to feel and then respond or not respond to a person/situation.

  Many of you have been asking me to create a post that opens up comments to how your life has changed since you have become more AWARE of your own SPIRITUAL growth....have tamed the "ego" monster...have learned more about heart-centeredness and have applied the laws of attraction to your life.....

OK LETS SHARE!!!

 

xoxo

Debra

 

Published Monday, April 30, 2007 4:00 PM by WhiteLightAngel

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# re: LETTING GO!! @ Monday, April 30, 2007 1:22 PM

its funny i should open this blog and see this because it what im going thru in my marraige im holding on and my husband is too comfortable all thouugh hes opening up to why we broke up i think i need to push back a bit

tiffyt1

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Monday, April 30, 2007 6:49 PM

I also have been clinging on to negative thoughts, and I worry about a significant other. It's hard to let go, but I am trying. I know everything will retract to where things need to be. It's just difficult sometimes, especially when feeling are involved from the both of us

Looking4Hope

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Monday, April 30, 2007 7:25 PM

Wonderful Post Debra!

Gabbie Chase

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 12:12 AM

Letting go is the hardest of lessons to learn...second only to patience LOL! I guess my final letting go came just 24 hours ago...no co incidence that Debra posted this blog today, almost as a confirmation to me. But when I think about it I been letting go for a while now..a gradual process of trying not to control situations, and others. Just get on with me, and what I need to achieve for myself. Honouring and respecting myself. All my life I have found it hard to let go, for fear of losing. Time and time again I have been told the value of letting go, and never really listened nor acted upon it. Fear is the only thing that stops us.

There is so much truth in the saying "feel the fear and do it anyway"...finally I gave up and let go...feeling I could try no more, do no more to help or manipulate the situation. It was out of my power, I offered it to the universe, and said "you sort it, if it is meant to be, it will be"

Never in my dreams did I expect such an instant reaction. Contact that I have so long waited for,(8 months now) and a desire to meet me again, manifested in 24 hours.

It is early days still, but I have now seen the value of trusting through those moments of darkness and oblivion. Those moments when nothing seems as it could be, or one wishes it to be. Trust and faith are the major lessons, and those that try and continue to try by accepting their faults, and working on them, surely have their dreams manifested. Nothing is a fait a complis...it takes continued learning and continual effort, but after all is said and done, we can look back on our very own spiritual growth and smile.

Debra has always encouraged us all to be true to ourselves and value the soul within us. We are all Souls living in a human body...not humans trying to find a soul within us.

Debras effort and achievements are validated for her when her clients finally take the key she has always encouraged us to use. Thank you Debra.


Child of the Rainbow

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 5:00 AM

What an excellent blog Debra! Letting Go, is so misunderstood by so many, myself included! For several years now, I have been mislead by readers, (yourself not included deb!) saying "he's coming back, he's coming back, just wait, be patient" and that has stunted my emotional healing for lack of a better analogy I would say.  I have grown in other areas, but I think many (readers on keen) neglect to say "let go" and live your life and let the control go to the universe.  I have FINALLY let that go and I feel SO MUCH BETTER! A weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and it's freeing. I am living my life for me not worrying about, "is he coming back" I can't control it, him, the situation, none of it! I control ME and my responses and my thoughts, my emotions!  Finally the lightbulb went on! I got it!!  Thanks Deb... :))

040475

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 8:24 AM

I love this !!!!   It so clearly speaks to what you have been trying to teach us, myself for the last 3 years!  I finally have it and have to say that I feel so much better. For many years my insecurities and lack of self confidence had me trying to control everything so that other's would be proud, impressed with me and like me. Not realizing that giving constantly to someone who doesn't want it or need it only makes them feel uncomfortable and full of resentment. So acts of love on my part, with some misguided philosphy that it would get me friendship and love, only further pushed the men in my life away.  Now, I have learned that the more I focus on what is good for "me" and what I love to do for "me", the more I am attracting the kind of people into my life that I have always wanted. While these last few have not yet been lasting relationships, I have learned more from them and each has taken me into a MUCH BETTER place. One where I KNOW that my "ideal" partner is hear we just haven't met yet, but soon, very soon. There is another advisor, who Debra recommends, who also said it best with something "become the person you are trying/or believe you want in your life and that is the person you will attract." If you struggle with parts of the characteristics/traits yourself, then know they will to and have compassion or re-evaluate if it what you are seeking is realistic or even too narrow of a band. Are you holding yourself back by wanting something you are not?  Are you holding yourself back by clinging to the past and wishing that "this could have been the one" ? I choose to see it as a positive and only focus on ALL of the good things in that relationship and know that these qualities will be carried into the next attraction, I don't want to focus on the negative or I'll get that too!  Let go, smile, dance, sing and just be happy.  Go outside and look at the catepillars and see how they are reborn as the butterfly emerges.  You too are beautiful butterflies just waiting to emerge and fly free.  Love to all.

darlingdame

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 1:01 PM

Thank you for the reminder and this is something I still need to work on. My ego gets in the way and flares up. It's not an easy beast to tame, that's for sure.

There are times in life when we have no choice but to let go. Well, we could continue hanging on but at a high price.

The times when I really let go is when I have felt such peace so I'm working on going back to that place. For I have seen with my own eyes how letting go and letting the Universe handle the details brings things about in a magical way.

dragongirl08

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 5:26 PM

Finally I get what letting go means- I will practice the puttin it into action:)

Child of Rainbow(formerly Hawaii 7)- could you share your story...its ok if you say no. Do you know that it was your feedback which led me to Debra?

fulloflove22

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# re: LETTING GO!! @ Tuesday, May 01, 2007 6:27 PM

For Fulloflove22!
I am glad that in some small way I lead you to Debra. Debra has been helping/teaching/advising me for  well over a year now...with love and incredible accuracy. Debra correctly predicted the arrival of my significant other, 2 months before he appeared, even down to his physical appearance. I knew before I even met him, he was that magical soul mate.(Indeed Debra has verifed this on numerous occassions.) True to form, as in all soul mate stories we were brought together, had difficulties, and then were separated, in order for us both to work on our own lessons. The whole thing was compounded by his serious illnesses. Both of us feeling unconditional love for each other, him letting me go because he felt he had no real future, and me standing back whilst he went 'through his tunnel'. We have stayed in minimal contact. Times when I didnt even know whether he was in hospital or not..or worse. Many sad times, and dark moments to have to master and learn through. I carried on as best I could. I chose a change of career, and am training as a massage therapist. I also have taken my first workshop in Lomi Lomi (Hawaiian Spiritual Healing) and hence that is why I have changed my screen name. I finally learnt to let go and let God, a slow process at first, but it finally culminated last weekend when I told the universe I could do no more. I was helped all along by Debra, her predictions and validations came thick and fast over the past weeks. I found them so encouraging, and each time they came I knew movement was on its way, just as Debra predicted. It was the Universe's way of telling me "Keep it up...it will come". Believe it or not...words that meant something to me appeared, just as Debra foretold. Finally on Sunday the same word was written in the clouds in the sky. Then I knew....and sure enough an email came from my soul mate, the next day suggesting a meeting.

Full of love22 open your heart to what people say to you, what you see that is not evident or meaningful to others. Spirit have a way of "speaking" to us in ways that they know we will understand.

I have always over analysed things, and been such a 'doubting Thomas'..trying to control others and situations...my soul mate was exactly the same. The Universe teaches us our lessons in different ways, once we are on our way to understanding and learning, TRUSTING, and getting on with what WE have to do for ourselves, doors finally open.

Debra will have guided you the same I am sure. LISTEN TO HER..She always speaks from her heart and with honesty and tremendous integrity.

I wish you love, aloha and luck. xox

Child of the Rainbow

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 5:42 AM

Im reading all your comments with great keen interest.  You see, I know I have to let go, but I just can't seem to.  From the day my husband left 7 months ago, I've been waiting. Waiting for him to come back, waiting for him to decide that he wants to be married after all. All I do it wait; and nothing happens.  I feel so emotionally crippled that I can barely get through the day.  I hope I see the light as you all have before I get lost in the dark forever.

moonbeam

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 6:50 AM

Moonbeam,
I am so sorry for what you are going through.  It was almost a year after my husband moved out that I first spoke to Debra.  I had spent much of that time trying to figure out what "I had done once again to deserve this". I was just beginning to look for answers as to why I always felt so all alone inside, like there was this physical hole right through the middle of me. A hole that I was constantly trying to fill with "love" but by loving others and wanting them to love me, not by LOVING MYSELF. I know how it feels to just want to cry all the time, as many of us who have spoken to Debra can testify.  Please JUST BELIEVE AND KNOW (and if you can TRUST ME when I tell you) that if you start to focus on yourself, your wants and really do the things that Debra guides you to do, that you WILL come out of this not only a survivor, but A NEW PERSON! One who will ultimately have a better life and much happiness. It's not about what she sees (though she is incredible at that)but about what she has been able to teach us about ourselves, who we are, that we are all valuable, loved and creators of our own lives. You will be more than fine, I promise.  Love and Hugs, Susan

darlingdame

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 7:21 AM

Thank you for sharing Child. I guess your feedback spoke to me because of so many similarities. Soulmate issue, patience issue and letting go. Still working on that....hopefully for a happy outcome:)

fulloflove22

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 9:36 AM

For Moonbeam with love x

Your screen name alone speaks of the key to unlock your sorrow. Shine your light within yourself, value who you are, and cherish the soul within you. All things have Divine purpose, even though sometimes they are so painful for us to understand, or cope with. Do not hold yourself responsible for your husbands departure, do not blame yourself. This is his time of enlightenment, respect that. It is also your own time as well to grow spiritually. Use this time to put love back into your life for yourself. Love yourself. Value yourself. It is the hardest thing to do....I know. We are brought up to love others before ourselves, to put them first. This is not the right way. Without loving,respecting, and cherishing ourselves first, we have no hope of truly loving another. Take solace in all the good things around you, however simple they might be, but things that make you smile, and even those that once did not make you smile, welcome them anew with gratitude and blessing. It does help, and it does make you come alive again, and it does help you shine the light within you.

I wish you love and luck as you begin the journey of enlightenment. Remember you are never alone, but guided and helped all along your way. xox

Child of the Rainbow

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 10:15 AM

Debra, just this morning I was looking for the words to tell my girfriend of 2 years that I just can't do this anymore. I still love her immensely, but I just can not deal with the way that she loves. She is a wonderful girl and I still would like to be there for her, but I can't do it for her anymore.
They say that there are no coincidences. That if you see what you believe to be a coincidence, it is actually the hand of the Divine. Thank you for facilitating that.

Andrew

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 10:20 AM

my name  is  matthew, I not  sure  how  to  strt  but  letting go is  what ive  alway done. yet  for my situation that letting go is letting  go  with part of  waht  make  you tick. inside!! Im not  much a person  but  what  goo that  is  i  giv  to all and  all take  it  from me ! I give willingly to what  is inportant to me. I have this person that  is  in my life and  I never  loved in this manner  bfore  to where i want to giv  my all.  yet  still i do more  good than bad. to offerd  my kindness and  heart! im lost w/o her  and  ive  been on  and  off  with her  for  almost 8 yrs-- I  wld  sacfifise  all that  i have  for her.  I know that  there  is  only one  true love  out there  for a  person and i wish  to be  with her  still. i sometime  feel lost  sad, confused to find  a  way  to  do  something  i know  i  did  for the  rigth reason lencing a  helpful hand  when it  was  need  without  any other  reason  but  form my heart! i cry for her  everday  and  i feel for  her  everyday. Not, sure  wh  when  everything  i do to make   her  happy  and  to  show  here  that  she  can  count on me  it  seems to be that  i  croos the  line  in  her  territory i  advised  her  the  help is  there  if  she  wants it --weather  be  finacially , to  vent, etc . I know that  where im at  now  im  fnd  in a position that  i must  find a place to live yet  sacficing  all that i know  what  and how  to do ! im happy inside and  i do  love  myself sometimes  but  yet  try to  inproving  my well being  to have  her  see  that  how  much i lovemy self and her each day.   her name is  jill my angel good has  blessed me  with !!!

matthew

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 10:30 AM

Right there with you Moonbeam. Except she really hasn't left physically, just emotionally. There's a big hole in my heart that I kept waiting for her to fill, but today I realized that she can't fill it, only I can fill that hole. Fill it with all of the things I have been denying myself because I spent the time waiting by the phone for her to call or by my computer waiting for her to e-mail/ Message. We have to complete ourselves Moonbeam. No one can do that for us. It is nice to have someone there who can help, but ultimately the task is ours. It is tough but extremely fulfilling work. :-)

Andrew

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 10:45 AM

This came at a time in my life when I really thought that all was lost to me in my life including myself!  I lost the love of my life that I truly thought was my SOULMATE and still do!!  Lost my job, lost my friends, and now my mom is lost to me.  I have never felt more alone.  What has been written here in Letting go, has really hit me hard.  I know what I need to do but just have a hard time knowing where to start!  Just  want to smile and shine again!  Please HELP ME SAVE ME!!

Sunshine

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 10:45 AM

Matthew...wow. I know exactly where you are. My girl's name is Misty. She is the center of my world. I would do anything for her, but more and more it is becoming clear that she would not walk across the street for me. When we are together it is wonderful. But then she drifts away, and I become unimportant. Sometimes Matthew you have to take the time to step back and look at what is going on. I know it is hard, but if you are giving all of yourself away and getting nothing in return, then eventually there will be nothing left. Sometimes you just have to let go Matthew.

Andrew

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 11:05 AM

i  tried to lett  go  but  all that  matter is  that  i am  happy  even if  im  not  next  her.  God  has  made a plan. Andrew  thanks for  letting me  in -- folks  I peronsnally dont have  anyfriend any  more. my  friend  is  jesus and  god!  im still hanging in ther  for  jill. You know  i  do  giv  and offerd  hlep and the  female  that  wrote moment ago  about  givin  and offering  help  when is  not  need or  wanted  and then makeing the person you  love  uncofrtable  or  resntiing the  fact that  i wanting to help.. I know if  i  just  keep trying  that  i  can and  will be  true  to my heart and  the  at the same time to  her  --she  sed that  she was  glad  i never  gv up on her  and still kept  kick and  trying  she  sed that to me  and  that  it  showed me  that  the  one  i love  is  telling  fix myself  first  well i have  and  now  its  time  for a  fine  tune  new me  to prisist and  try again  with her   all my  life  was  givning  up and never trying  this  time  i  
do  all tha  i can .. a survior  or  broken  heart  and this  heart  will not accept  being  brokn.. by  some  i  know  still loves and car  for me  even  if  she  is  givn me th  cold  shlder.  ertc..

matthew

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 11:43 AM

I'm not sure how many of you have read or listened to Byron Katie's book "Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life", but she said something in there that really resonated and struck home with me.  If you are constantly spending/giving all of YOUR time, energy and even love on someone else by attempting support, fix, worry about and give to THEM, then WHO is living your life ? You can't be in two places at the same time??? I'm sure that many of you have had conversations with Debra pertaining to taking care of yourself first and that relationships are give and take but on an "even balance". When you are giving, you are momentarily moving into their world, which is fine in balance, but you HAVE to get back to yours, it's YOUR life. You can't keep yourself in their world forever or you completely lose yourself.  Try treating yourself to all of those wonderful gifts you were showering on them (love, time, support, kindess). I have no doubt that you will then attract your true soulmate. One who  understands the meaning of "balance" and one who feels as priviledged to share your life with you as you do hers.

Susan

darlingdame

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 12:07 PM

Debra,was tryin to express m thouts to my x boyfrnd.........it made m realise that we never meant to b.thank u

faa

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 12:09 PM

Debra,can we talk

faa

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 12:37 PM

To all of you who feel lost and alone, denied and rejected. The answer lies in yourself. Acknowledge it, cherish it, and walk towards it. You may stumble along the way, but your own admission to yourself, of who you are, and what you wish for IS achievable. There is never a time scale to our own personal learning, no one, however accurate can pin point that. It is solely up to ourselves, that is the "key" that Debra has always shown us. Trust and have faith in yourself.
Love to you all, along the golden road...to yourself. xox

Child of the Rainbow

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 12:49 PM

Im at a point in my life where I feel competely lost, I have so much love in my heart but none for myself. I don't know how to give myself the love and attention that I know I need and deserve. Im always looking to someone else to give that to me and I'm Always giving to the people who mean the most to me. I dont trust anybody because I was greatly wronged by my mother at an early age and never trusted her again. She died and now I feel like I will never be abel to make a mends with her. Even though I still hold this emence grudge againsed her,I'm so angry! This sadness that never seems to go away completely is holding me back from being a whole & happy. I dont know where to start when it comes to letting go of my many insecurities and other problems, they just build inside me. Please help me find myself!!

Stephanie

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 1:35 PM

Hi Everyone......I am so thrilled to see you all sharing and some real beginnings of healing here  :))  I have to step out and can't write right now... but I will be back in acouple hours with some real comments for you. If you want to spesk with me....I am always here for you....ok?
~Angel Hugs~

WhiteLightAngel

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 3:14 PM

Hello,  It's ironic that i should stumble on to this topic you see in july of last year i met a woman on line on a dating site and this woman pretended to be something she wasn't and i fell for her lies hook, line and sinker. . .i am a firm believer in honesty is the best policy because even if it hurts at least you know where you stand and that deserves respect no matter the out come. . .I  continued to talk to her  Now keep in mind i havent seen her just communicating through telephone calls and internet any way to make this very long and lonley story short she has come to mean a great deal to me and i have spent many hours thinking of her wishing to hear her voice however the truth is that i have fallen in love with a fantasy that is not real. . .she does exsist and says she cares for me yet it leaves me longing to take it to the next level and she is obviously never going to give that part of herself too me. she made the first enitial approach but it seems as soon as she won me over she stopped leaving all attemps to follow through soley up to me ,  now if i dont write her 1st I dont hear from her her and when i do send an email she will most of the time reply not always but mostly, recenttly she got back together with her x and it devestaded me i thought i could offer my friendship and deal with that but the truth is it is killing me slowly she calls and cries on my shoulders and tells me things she has never told anyone,  but i keep holding on to the ideal that someday she will give me a chance to show her how wonderfull and genuine my love is. . .l am in love with an ideal that isn't even real and dont know how to let her go i have spent every waking moment thinking of her and ways to win her love but i know i am never going to see my dream become a reality but as i said I dont know how to stop all communication with her and so im miserable every time i say "thats it im never gonna write her again" the very next thing i know im hitting send in an email to her ..I need to let this go and can't im failing miserably and in love with a ghost thanks for allowing me to post my pain sincerly the giver  

The Giver

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 3:22 PM

Hello,  It's ironic that i should stumble on to this topic you see in july of last year i met a woman on line on a dating site and this woman pretended to be something she wasn't and i fell for her lies hook, line and sinker. . .i am a firm believer in honesty is the best policy because even if it hurts at least you know where you stand and that deserves respect no matter the out come. . .I  continued to talk to her  Now keep in mind i havent seen her just communicating through telephone calls and internet any way to make this very long and lonley story short she has come to mean a great deal to me and i have spent many hours thinking of her wishing to hear her voice however the truth is that i have fallen in love with a fantasy that is not real. . .she does exsist and says she cares for me yet it leaves me longing to take it to the next level and she is obviously never going to give that part of herself too me. she made the first enitial approach but it seems as soon as she won me over she stopped leaving all attemps to follow through soley up to me ,  now if i dont write her 1st I dont hear from her her and when i do send an email she will most of the time reply not always but mostly, recenttly she got back together with her x and it devestaded me i thought i could offer my friendship and deal with that but the truth is it is killing me slowly she calls and cries on my shoulders and tells me things she has never told anyone,  but i keep holding on to the ideal that someday she will give me a chance to show her how wonderfull and genuine my love is. . .l am in love with an ideal that isn't even real and dont know how to let her go i have spent every waking moment thinking of her and ways to win her love but i know i am never going to see my dream become a reality but as i said I dont know how to stop all communication with her and so im miserable every time i say "thats it im never gonna write her again" the very next thing i know im hitting send in an email to her ..I need to let this go and can't im failing miserably and in love with a ghost thanks for allowing me to post my pain sincerly the giver  

The Giver

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 7:01 PM

nice one , but i donot agree with you as i donot let go  i take the responsibility of what i do in my life and always with the help of god i achieve. as GOD IS MY ROCK MY REDEAMER MY SAVIOUR IN WHOM I TAKE REFUGE AND PUT ALL MY TRUST . you should also . donot let go anything as time will never come again. live it. and enjoy your life design it what you want . GOD IS WITH YOU IN YOU . HIS PROMISSES IS ALWAYS GREATER THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN THIS WORLD. GO FOR IT AND DONOT RATHER NEVER LET GO
BLESS YOU ALL
ABHA

abha

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 7:13 PM

Abha...In letting go, you LET GOD. In letting go you allow the fulfillment of God in your soul. THAT IS WHAT LETTING GO MEANS.
It does not mean we loose self responsibility, nor free will. It means that we hand over to God/ Universe/ Divine Intention the responsibilty of others and situations that we  have no control over. We relinquish our ego.

THAT IS WHAT LETTING GO MEANS.

Child of the Rainbow

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Wednesday, May 02, 2007 11:26 PM

I had a difficult time letting a lover go until he left me.

Doris

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 2:18 AM

Letting Go, Well it means so much to everyone, but to me, My whole life has been my children and my husband, I worked teo jobs to give my kids everything they wanted and still was there for all thier personal needs too , while they slept i worked, Then my husband of 15 years came into my life ( not kids father) I gave all of me to him too. I work my self till i was so sick and tired in the last year, i was put in hospital for exhaustion. I lost the only father i never knew ( my step dad) to cancer, i took care of him till he died on st patty's day in march 06. My husband and i moved back home from living in other stat for three years to care for my dad and my mother. We both ( my husband and i ) our all till we were broke and had to file bankruthy. My children mean while needed money we send it and paid for all medical bills and living costs for both of my sick parents.
 Now my sisters and step brother wants more money to care for my mom and our children want more money but will not let us see our grandchildren.
well we let go on easter weekend and told everyone there was no more money. We love to see all of them but we had nonething let to even live on. So i told them all if you set someone free to live thier own lifes and make thier own mistakes ,they will come back of thier own free will because they love you. Well it hasn't happened yet and we don't see our grandchildren and was told we disown the children and we don't love my mom. so we are hoping that things will change soon. We let let go of the hard feeling and harsh words said to us from everyone. We set our selves free. wish us luck and love in coming months

Donna

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 5:59 AM

I have a friend who is in a mentally and physically abusive relationship.She is married to this man for almost 3 years.She adores him.Does everything for him.It is sickening!But she tells me that she can't take it anymore.She broke her back in a freak accident and isn't able to go back to work.So her husband got himself laid off from his job to "TAKE CARE OF HER".He sleeps all day long,drinks alcohol excessively,steals her pain medication and then lies to her about not taking them.She has to hide her meds either on her body or in her pillow case when she sleeps!She needs to leave him.But is afraid he will try to kill himself.Then she will have to live with that guilt.WHAT SHOULD SHE DO?She goes to church and prays everyday that he will change.But it is only getting worse.I am afraid he will hurt,if not kill her if she doesn't get out.She has to have surgery on her back in June 2007.She tells me she is going to let go to be with Jesus during the surgery.She doesn't want to go through this anymore.The pain,the rejection,the arguing and the beatings.I don't blame her.But I can do only so much.I live in another state than her and have a house,2 toddler and a husband who need me here.What should I do?I am so torn and don't know what to do myself.Does anybody have some insight for us?

LISA

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 8:51 AM

This are the right words, at the right time:
This is what I needed at this time in my life.
thanks

Marco

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# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 9:09 AM

Thank you for the post on letting go. I would like to send it to my daughters. Two of my six children are extremely rebellious and living a life I would never wish for them. However, they are adults and it is time for me to let go and know they will reap the fruits of their labor, however unpleasant that may be. Thank you for putting that up at "just the right time" It makes my struggle to let go easier. <3
Angelita

Angelita

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 11:30 AM

wow this came to me at a perfect time...sometimes we need a little push to move on, like someone said "we are the ones holding ourselves back"..."fear is our worst enemy"!!
..things happen for a reason and you will always know later down the line WHY. But we are all here for a reason and its so strange to understand in months or even years why things went the way they went...from losing a job to finding a new life. Love the article!













teri

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 3:12 PM

In the process of letting go today, I clicked on your link and found so many encouraging, supportive souls!  I'm not sure just what I am letting go of - perhaps having a person or object, place or plan to let go of is the opposite of letting go because then, my focus is still  on something/someone.  I know that control is an issue with me and that the perfect Peace that Jesus promised saves me from having to sort this all out.  That was mentioned in another comment - Peace.  I came across this yesterday and it's helping me: "I have said this to you, so that in me you may have peace.  In the world you face persecution. But take courage; I have conquered the world!" John 16:33
Lena

Ice Crystal

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 03, 2007 7:44 PM

I think it hits home.....letting go of the old and experiencing the new is awsome ..letting go can be very hard but worth the effort involved.. my ex husband is the one i am letting go and just ;like a drug addiction no rehab needed  just the strenght to move on to bigger and better things!!

tina

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Friday, May 04, 2007 9:44 PM

It's been 4 days and i finally gave in and sent her an email. . .I have found myself in a tuff situation . . .I love her so heres my choices #1 i can quit and never talk too her again miss her and be really miserable or #2 I can continue our friendship and just be happy that i get to see her and have an open line of communication  those are my opptions  im not ready to let her go so number 2 it is   thanks  

the giver

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Saturday, May 05, 2007 12:11 AM

great stuff

c.james

# re: LETTING GO!! @ Thursday, May 24, 2007 5:55 AM

"Letting Go"...a concept that you will continue to find value, definition, and meaning.  Let me explain...I just found out that the man I believe to be the love of my life is getting married next weekend.  Everyone has been telling me for yrs that we would reconnect and have another opportunity.  My heart and my gut kept resonated the same...that is why I feel so completely blindsided.  I started asking allot of questions, to the Universe, advisors on Keen, friends, family, delving into books, going back over past dreams... feelings... signs...meditation, energy work...etc...you name it.  How could I have been so wrong about something?  My instincts have never let me down before....especially when I feel something so strong....its a knowing.  It may take months even yrs for it to come to fruition but by some amazing set of events it all turned out in the end.  So what happened?  As I continued to search for the answer I started thinking about him and how he has prospered over the yrs since we parted...We even work for the same company doing the same thing....mister failed out of college, smoking gun man accomplished the same feat as me!  With out either of us knowing we were hired 2 months apart...in a company is considered one of the hardest companies to get into!  WHY? WHY? WHY??  He seemed to be doing great w/o me...he moved on, has a great job, has "seemed" to found someone who trumps our connection....I mean for God sakes he is getting married...mister I'm never going to get married is taking the ultimate step in commettment...so why?  Why with her?  Was it timing?  most likely....especially when it comes to men...but the fact remains he has been w/ this women for 4.5 yrs...right after we parted ways.  Many said it was his 'free will'...he moved off his path...etc...Well, I'm not completely sold...actually, I believe that the Universe plays a bigger hand in our lives than we give credit...and I have many, many storied that support MY belief.  So frustrated I turned to Debra's site and started reading this blog...and then it HIT me like lightening...I NEVER TRULY LET GO...Yes i moved on, started a new life, have been dating someone that I love for 1.5, relocated for my job, new friends, hobbies, etc...and I thought I LET GO...I stopped calling keen about him and refocused my attention.  Only when I was bombarded by thoughts, dreams,a nd energy about him did I call to confirm that I was right.  And what I mean that I truly never LET GO was that I was SPIRITUALLY feeding him.  Subconsciously I was still loving him, supporting him, being there for him...and thus helped him along his path.  Debra woudl always tell me that as I progressed in life I helped him b/c we are so connected.   I thought I understood that at the time...uh, NOT REALLY...not until now.  And she would tell me that I had to completely LET GO b/c he would never really truly feel the loss of my energy and would mistaken it for a connection w/ this girl...BINGO!!!!  I have to believe that is why so many times something extremely life changing happens to make us LET GO..and when we TRULY do all ALL LEVELS...the person in question will FINALLY have to deal w/ the loss, the void, the heartache, the questions that you have been carrying for the both of you.  That is why they will fianlly appear back in you life!  Its not just about making yourself happy...although it plays a big part in helping you Let Go.  Its about cutting the tether...really and truly setting yourself FREE from ALL ENERGY and TIES...to a point that you ARE NOT picking up thoughts and emotion from the other person b/c you won't allow it, not even on a SPIRITUAL level.  And I know it will still take sometime for me to be COMPLETELY free...lets face it, when you have trained yourself to carrry these emotions its like a death, an addiction, a crutch and to let go you have to be willing to give up the control which can truly make you feel naked, scared, out of control...its fear of what will happen to you when you finally release it.  How do you begin to replace that void that that energy has been holding fo rso long....and it begins by making yourself happy but it ends w/utter pure love for yourself!

As I heal and sope with this situation I have truly allowed the Universe to feed me..with friends, messages, love, and whatever gifts they throw my way.  And the cutest experience that I have had was this morning...I woke up singing "The Farmer and the Dell"...Now the last time I heard that song I was a 6 yr old girl playing in gym class....I have no kids and aren't around any as I live far away from family.  I lept singing it over and over...I find the Universe will put songs in my head right when I wake up to give me messages...so why this childhood sing-a-long?  And then it hit me...it was time of being completely FREE...no worries, no problems,  Love was still so pure and free of hurt and pain...you laughed and played and danced and didn't have a care in the world.  To be able to tap into that moment, even if it only lasted a brief second felt so wonderful.

I wanted to share my story b/c 4.5 yrs of my life I have spent waiting for my life to happen w/him...all the while his life was happening w/someone else.  NO ONE on Keen saw this in their readings...matter of fact all said that we would reconnect and have another opportunity to make it work...Well, maybe not now, maybe in ten yrs, 20 yrs, maybe next lifetime, maybe never...but I have to be honest and say that I disappointed myself thru this all.  Although my gut and heart knew this connection existed and that we would be together...I also had this underlying feeling that something was wrong so that is why a call to keen was still making me feel uneasy even thought they were telling me that it was still going to happen...I even had several dreams about this and everyone said it was my fears...When actually it was the UNIVERSE trying to send me messages of the truth...the reality that existed at this time.

SOO long story short, don't second guess yourself...really truly live your life as if you were soaring like an eagle...feeling completely free and open to possiblity.  Know that the Universe is there for you and that "if not this...something better" is planned.  Easier mantras to say but to truly believe in you soul is another matter.  Spend your money on trips and life not on keen.

I can only speak to myself and honestly say that I'm still learning...still letting go...still trying to soar...but the universe has cut the tether for me...I just hav eto be willing to fly free.  

PlatinumSpirit

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