FORGIVENESS The Best Weight Lose Ever
We hear people talk about
forgiveness and they all keep saying…forgive people and let it go. Well that is all fine and good, but we as
humans find it very hard to do this. When
someone breaks our trust or hurts us, we find it hard to forgive them. It is hard to forgive your ex for breaking
your heart or emotionally hurting you.
But this inability to forgive carries through from one relationship to
the next. We have been hurt and we
expect it to happen in the next relationship.
Much of the time we wait for the next relationship to do the exact same
thing.
How often do we see this in
animals? You go to the pound and get a
small dog for your child. You are told
nothing about the dog just that it is up for adoption. You take the dog home and notice that the
dog wants nothing to do with your husband.
Even if your husband plays with the new family member, the dog runs and
hides. When visitors stop by and are
introduced to the dog he puts his tail between his legs and runs and
hides. You instantly know the dog is
scared of humans and has mostly been abused by humans. You begin working with the dog to win him
over and get him to trust you and forgive humans for what has been done to him.
But when it comes to the
new man in your life or the new job, you still hide from it when it shows up in
your life. You do not forgive the person from the past and you do not forgive yourself
and you carry the broken trust and hurt from one place and one person to
another. It is almost like if you had a car accident and you get into your new
car, you are waiting for the car accident. Look back at your past relationships
and you see the car accidents in your past relationships. Have you forgiven
that person? Mostly likely not and you are
still carrying them around on your back and it keeps popping up in the
relationship. Can I trust that he loves
me? If you are waiting for the other shoe to drop and the relationship to end, guess
what it is going to happen.
Looking back at my life, I
can see how when my first relationship ended I had so much pain and so much
hate towards him. I could not even stand to be in the same space as we
dissolved our life together. I
literally sat in one room with my attorney and he sat in another room with his
attorney. My attorney’s assistant ran
back and forth with the negotiations.
Then I started dating and
looking for a new mate. Within weeks I
found someone. Guess what, within time
the relationship grew. But when it
reached a point that we need to step out on that tree branch, I ran for the
hills. I actually moved 5 states
away. Without a word of reason, I just
packed the car and ran. It took me two
years before I could deal with walking out to on that limb. And I could not do it till I let go of the
hate and pain and not only forgave him but forgave everyone who was a part of
it. I had to go back to day one and sit
down and write a letter to each person that has been in my life from my parents
and the teacher that failed me, to my first love. After hours of writing many
letters, I felt better and I started moving on with my life not giving it a
second thought. I lost weight almost
instantly. Why? Because the weight was emotional baggage
which my body was storing. Why you
ask. Because if you hold or carry
something around you, your body is going to carry it as excess weight. How many
times have you done everything from starving yourself and working out like a
mad person and still you lost some weight but you never kept the weight off, you
put on more weight? Because that is
your body storing the baggage. And
until you realize the hurt, the pain, the forgiveness and forgive the people
that have broken your heart, and you let the hatred and pain go, you will
continue to gain weight. One reason is
because many times we use food for comfort and our body stores the pain not
only in our mind, but also in the body.
But back to the story after
two years into a happy relationship thinking I'm free from the past, I was
seeing and reading something and my spirit guides starting talking with me. Dave said to me you have forgiven everyone
that is not in your life. But what about
the most important person and I sat their dumb founded thinking of who I forgot.
I forgave this one and this one and
this one. Dave looked at me and said,
what about yourself. You never forgave
yourself, the one that matters the most.
You have yet to trust yourself or to let yourself be forgiven. You are the one person you hold to count and
it hit me I was still blaming myself. So
as you sit and begin to write a letter to the people in your life that has failed
or hurt you don’t forget the most important step, forgive yourself. And stop
storing the pain that you are still holding on to from other people.
An
easy way to do this is to set down and ground yourself. Then while you are in that state, start to visualize
a country road. Visualize walking down the country road. As you walk down it and you come upon
someone within your life that hurt you, talk to them. Tell them what they have done and then say to yourself, I forgive
them and they will forgive you. But
remember, the first person you should forgive is yourself.