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Common questions: "Why hasn't he called me?"


Let me say upfront, here and now, that you'll need a reading to narrow it down, but here are the possible answers:

Worst case scenario: he could care less. But this is actually RARE...he sure was interested before! Let's look at the other possibilities:

Technical problems. He didn't get your text or voicemail for one reason or another. Many, many times I've gotten messages that people sent the day before, and this with various carriers that I've had over the years. It's possible your message "got hung in the pipes".

He's busy. Whether you've left him a message or not, life has intervened and he's busy with day to day stuff, problems, trying to keep body and soul together. Maybe there's been a family emergency, or his work has has become a priority to the exclusion of everything else. It's possible that he doesn't have his phone on him. Sometimes people get a lot of calls and they have something else they have to attend to, so they turn the cell off or leave it someplace. In other words, life has gone crazy on him. You know the feeling, it happens to all of us. It's not you he's dodging, and when he sees your message he could be very sorry he missed it! Maybe he's not feeling very good about himself for not answering promptly...if it's been awhile try contacting him again to let him know you understand and that the door is open...

There's someone else. OK, where are you in the relationship? Has he given you his word that he's committed to you? No point calling him a dog or a skunk if he hasn't. It's early in the game, or maybe that line has never been formally drawn and he doesn't want to end up out in the cold. He hasn't broken his word. If you really want him you'll stand your ground...give it time! Of course, if he HAS committed to you only, this is a problem...take some time to seriously consider whether you want to stay and fight for him, or cut your loses and start fresh.

He doesn't want to appear clingy or needy. Guys actually advise each other to be a little indifferent, ignore a text now and then, etc. Just like women sometimes tell each other not to call men, to keep a man waiting, etc.! If this is the case, it's the best possible sign! He's doing everything in his power not to mess things up because he's crazy about you! It's not easy for him...

In any case, it's important not to jump to conclusions. Investigate carefully and tactfully, and call me for a reading if you need to. Hope this helps!

Published Friday, December 23, 2011 2:29 PM by fennario
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