A Check Off List To See If You Are Ready To Be In A Relationship
1. You have forgiven your past relationships. if you are still hurt or wounded, stay single until you have really forgiven and let go of the past.
2. You have learned from past dating relationships
3. You are independent and not scared to be alone. If you are afraid to be alone you will attract the wrong partner out of desperation and loneliness.
4. You can trust and feel safe. If you are scared of your partner cheating on you because the last one did, than you are still living in the past and should take a healing time out. Treat each relationship as a new beginning. You would not want your new partner to judge you on their past relationships so don't do it to them.
5. You are confident. you do not need to be told that you are loved and beautiful everyday by your partner in order to feel secure. You can tell yourself how beautiful you are.
6. You have your own friends and your own life. Do not make your partner your whole world.
7. You have realistic expectations of your new partner.
8. You are willing to risk being hurt. Even the best person can hurt you.
9. You are able to feel comfortable to be your real self around your partner without fearing rejection.
10. You love yourself more than you expect someone to love you. No one can heal you but you. No one can validate you but you.
11. You do not believe in fairy tales. They do not exist. Relationships are work.Be ready to give 110% of yourself to your relationship.
12. Do not expect your partner to know how you are feeling unless you tell them. Assuming that your partner will know how you feel is insanity. It will lead to misery. Always speak your truth to your partner.
13. Knowing that love is not universally defined.
14. Being clear on what you want out of your relationship.
15. Being strong enough to ask for what you want.
16. Will stand up for yourself.
There are many other things that need to be considered before entering a relationship. These are steps towards having a happy relationship that yield understanding and honest expectations.