Are You The Cause Of Your Sadness?
I am the perpetrator of my suffering
- but only all of it."
~ Byron Katie
I am writing this blog because I notice a pattern that lives within us humans. We all have this issue to some degree. We love to torture ourselves with negative thoughts. Yes I believe this to be true.
HOW DO WE MAKE OURSELVES SUFFER?.........
1. When we say that we are unlucky in love. What makes a person lucky in love.
2. When we assume that if he/she is not with us than he/she must be with another woman/man. Sometimes people need their space. It does not make them a cheater.
3. When we focus on the one thing that is not working in our lives. You will magnify the negative by focusing on it. Remember, the universe has one job and that is to prove you right.
4. That damn #@!&* my space, facebook. You know those social groups that represent fantasy land. Stop looking at a person's page if you can not handle it emotionally. So many of you see a comment, a new friend on a person's page that you have a love interest for and you freak out. How many people actually talk to their friends on these sites? Very few. It is a fantasy world and it was designed for teens. Stop judging people by the comments and pics on the site. When you let your imagination run wild that they must be dating this person, you are the cause of your own suffering! There is nothing that the person did to you, you are harming yourself.
STOP THE INSANITY!
1. If you do not hear it from the horses mouth that they are cheating than do not believe it.
2. If you think you are unlucky in love, get over it or else you will stay unlucky in love.
3.Stop making up story lines in your head. You are stressing yourself out for no reason.
4. Learn to think positive and you will get positive experiences in return. Stop expecting the universe to prove you wrong. It don't work that way.
5. Learn to forgive and let go of the past. It is not going to ever serve you in a healthy manner if you keep on thinking about the past. Learn from the experiences and move forward.
The bottom line is to stay in touch with your reality. You can decide what happens in your life. If you want a positive life you have got to create it.