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Changing Is A Part Of Growing Spiritually

Most people do not like changes because it seems to threaten their security in their life. People love their routines. Routines are safe and predictable. Fear of change is tied into a need to control our lives. We can not control our life. The majority of people have a misconception about change. It is assumed by many people that if change occurs than they are doing something wrong. Change will happen whether we like it or not. Changes occur as a part of the human evolution. JUST THINK WHERE THE WORLD WOULD BE WITHOUT CHANGE. We would not have the technology today without change.

THE COMMON FEARS ABOUT CHANGE...........

1. That if you have to change than there is something wrong with you. FALSE! It is impossible to live in a world and interact with people on a daily basis and have so many world influences without it needing to become more fluid as an individual.

If you plan to have friendships and romantic relationships, you must be willing to be flexible or you will fail in the relationship area whether it is with friends, a partner, co workers ,etc.

When we hold on hard to our belifs, we are strangling our perception of truth and not allowing for others to have their perception of truth. This is a sure way to invalidate your partner, friends,etc and it will create isolation from the people you want in your life.

2. If I change than that means that I am changing my belief system. FALSE! It is impossible to not have a core belief system. It is how a human navigates in their life. Due to our life experiences, we will have interpretations that lead to a belief system. The only issue with our beliefs is that we must remember that we can not inflict them on others.

We must be open to other people and who they are. Remember everyone has been influenced in a way that causes them to have their own set of beliefs. The key is to not have tunnel vision and to stay open to the fact that truth is different for every individual.

REMEMBER.

Change is about having a core self definition with room for expansion of who you are. Change is not completely giving up who you are. It is just staying open to your environment and the people in it. Embrace change and you will have a more enjoyable life because you are allowing for more opportunities to come to you.

Published Monday, December 08, 2008 6:32 AM by justaskdrdonna

Comments

Sunday, November 30, 2008 3:15 PM by Madea-Michelle

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Good post, Donna. I have found the more I fear change, the more I deny myself opportunity. The most fantastic times in my life always seem to come after a drastic change that I did not initiate, even struggled against. Thank you for this.
Sunday, November 30, 2008 4:19 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Madea, I agree with you. So many of us want something good to happen but we forget to allow it into our lives. The minute that I do not try to control the process, the doors just open. I had two major opportunities come my way that would of not came if I was not open. Idid not worry about the " how " and the " why " and things just flowed.
Tuesday, December 02, 2008 12:19 PM by Debskm

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Change is always uncomfortable!!! I find that if I don't go threw the change that it ends up coming around later in life. Month, year, and that sucks even more!!!  LOL I think I hate it more the second time around than the first! :-)
Sunday, December 07, 2008 8:11 AM by rumisunshine

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Dear Dr. Donna,
I want to thank you for you definitely made me embrace change even though it was in a very dramatic way. You cleverly guided me to finally face my fear of change .. you did this both directly and indirectly forcing me to see what I was doing that was not best for me.. I know I fought you on it and questioned you ... but I want to let you know i am Thankful for you and your guides and the pendulum for I have continued to have many AHA moments ever since... by trusting and letting go that the universe has my best interest at heart!!! So yesss the lessons even if painfully experienced could have been avoided if i had just listened and not been so stubborn.. and yet i realize now that was part of my lesson.. so from the purification of these fires of experiences which inspired me with many gifts I didn't know I possessed. i want to thank you for igniting my vibration to a higher level to where i could finally understand what you had been trying to teach me all along!
Rumi
Monday, December 08, 2008 6:31 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Rumi, thank you for the kind note. I appreciate it greatly.Our life journeys can be painful and full of questions and frustrations. You survived it well!
Monday, December 08, 2008 10:51 AM by Little White Witch

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Donna . . . you ROCK!  Always so real.

:)LWW
Monday, December 08, 2008 10:57 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Thank you LWWW. I appreciate your comment.I appreciate you calling me real. I try to be real all the time. I say be honest with ourself and then we can be honest with others.
if a person is not changing their beliefs some than they are stuck. We are always adding on to ourselves. The core is still there.
I learned that people with stubborn beliefs that they should not change are usually unhappy, angry, hurting, frustrated and not forgiving which leads to diseases of the worst kind. They see change as being wrong and needing to be fixed. That is not the case.
change is a form of freedom.
Monday, December 08, 2008 11:13 AM by Little White Witch

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I have been known to get angry with my mother for not changing . . . but I'm also coming to a point of being OK with her ways too . . . as the Universe provides so well for me and mine . . . I have a life so full of love and adventure . . . there is some solice knowing all this joy and seeing her STUCK in hers!

LOL!

I know that, this may be bit ego . . . and there is obviously some room for CHANGE in me to see it in a more positive and OK and beautiful instead of . . . almost a gleeful revenge at her stuborn ways  . . . as I love . . . and others love me back . . . when I compare to her . . . selecting who she will love or who is worthy of her love . . . I see her loveless and alone in that.

Sad for her . . . and I send healing energy to her . . . in my better moments.

:)LWW
Tuesday, December 09, 2008 7:15 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Lww, changing a parent? GOOD LUCK! Parents really can be from the old school of change=doubt. There is that belief that we must hold our ground. Be firm in our beliefs. Maybe mom is thinking everyone else should change. lol!
Wednesday, December 10, 2008 9:29 AM by tiddlywinks33

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This whole changing thing is getting quite exhausting... LOL... and I wish there were an easy way to get used to it! Fear is what tends to undermine change... and I'm not afraid to admit that I have plenty of fear... LOL!
Wednesday, December 10, 2008 6:38 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Fear does undermine change. you are so right about that Tiddly. Have fun changing though. It can be an interesting journey.
Thursday, January 01, 2009 10:06 AM by Tinkerbell1020

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I have changed so much from the events that have happen in my life the past 1 1/2. I will never allow myself to be brainwashed by a man ever again. I am a new  better person. I have forgiven myself for all the wrong, and loving who I am for who I am and what I stand for. I welcome change in my life for I wouldn't be the whole person I am today. Now, I can see a snake in the grass for what it really is, a snake.
Tinkerbell
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