Common Mistakes Women Make With Their Relationships
I have noticed that a lot of women fit into a common mistake pattern with their relationships that has ultimately caused it to end. Here are the top common mistakes women make.
1. Falling in love with the potential of the person instead of who they really are. So many women want to get married so badly until they try to make any man fit into a mold of their expectation. I see it often. You had two good dates and you decided that he is ideal and he should be the one that you marry. Then you have a few more dates and you see that he is a man with simple flaws. He does not fit your ideal of ' perfect ". You actually get mad at him for him being himself. He never lied to you but you sold yourself a fantasy about him. That is what ruined the relationship, you not getting to know him before you decide that he is the one.
2. Thinking that having sex right away means he wants to marry you. It means that he is attracted to you enough to want to sleep with you. if you have sex right away that is your business but it does not mean to him what it means to you. Sex is just sex. It does not lead to a marriage.
3.Not telling him what you want or expect out of the relationship. You feel that if he loves you that he will just read your mind and know that you expect. Than when he does not know what you are feeling, you get mad at him and swear that he does not love you. First of all, everyone defines love differently. If you do not tell him what you need that how can he know what you need. Communication is always the key. If you are scared to tell him what your needs are then it is best not to date until you can tell him.
4. Thinking that you are the number one priority in his life. Every girl wants to be the priority in a man's life. You want to be his number one. It is not realistic for a person to put someone else above their self. I say put your spirituality first, than yourself, than your partner. That is the natural order.
It all goes back to us women needing to validate ourselves instead of needing a man to validate us. That need to have a man "complete " us is the destruction of a relationship. Do the Byron Katie worksheets and you will see that we really want to be true to ourselves and not having our man fix us.