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I got screamed at today by a caller and I screamed right back!

For the most part, I have amazing callers. I have manifested that for myself. I use to feel like I had to be tolerant of whiny and screamer callers but no more. I realized that tolerating screaming is the same as condoning it. When I screamed back, the caller did not like it but needed to know what it feels like.

Screaming is a childish behavior. Screaming at your advisor will not get you what you want. If you are angry or hurt than get over it by dealing with it and place the hurt and anger where it belongs. I find that screamers are scared to yell at the person that is making them upset. So screaming at the advisor is misdirected anger and cowardly. If you do not have the courage to scream at who is making you upset, than that means that you should not be screaming. Learn to deal with things in a mature manner which will yield a mature result.

I have many great callers that are going through some major things in their life. I mean serious things. If they are not screaming and angry than no one should be. Instead my callers who are going through a lot are considerate, loving and compassionate towards others despite their hardship.

So if you call me screaming, I will scream back. We can either have a great time on the phone or a shouting match. It s your dollar. I hope you choose the first. I am here to be of service which I love doing. I feel that being an advisor has been a blessing to me and a great learning journey. I am so thankful for my life even though I have gone through many unimaginable things that could of made me angry. Everyday, I feel and see the blessings pouring in from every direction. I have co created greatly with the universe. I wish the same for you.

 

Published Tuesday, January 05, 2010 1:37 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Sunday, January 03, 2010 8:53 PM by SILVANA4LESS

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Dear Doc,
Im so sorry you had such a horrible experience. I too had a client insult me today but it was via emails and put me down...I chewed on it for an hour then decided to retaliate. I wrote them back letting them know I wont be disrespected or put down. Its ridiculous and dillusional for people to think we will tolerate abuse from them. We are here to serve, "NOT TO BE SOME ONES' WHIPPING BOY".
Well done for letting them see how it feels. I hopre they are reading this, As they really need to call u asap and appologize.
NO ONE, ESPECIALLY NOT A SENSITIVE INTUIT (WHICH IS WHAT WE ARE AS READERS) NEEDS THIS KIND OF HARDSHIP IN OUR LIFE.
Warrior for Righteousness- SILVANA
Sunday, January 03, 2010 9:46 PM by SoulVisions

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LOL Donna, you are precious.

But it's so true.As sensitives and empaths we cannot handle this energy.
I don't know how it works for you, but for me, anger is overpowering energy and I can't see anything but reds..
Actually I have it posted on my page for clients not to call me when angry because it takes a lot of time and energy to get pass it.

I'm with you on this one: Please don't yell, or we are just going to end up talking about the shades of red.

Blessings
Jen

Monday, January 04, 2010 4:08 AM by minaluv

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omy! but at least you understand why and didn't take it personally.
hagd!
s
Monday, January 04, 2010 5:56 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Sylvana,
yes we have to let them know how it feels. That type of behavior is rediculous. I say not telling them is condoning it. I know some people feel like they are paying us to take their crap. I say that they would hate it if their boss or a customer at their job treated them that way. I say that that type of attitude is probably what ran the person off that they are asking about. being demanding will bite a person in the rear each time. No one is going to pay the price for someone else's misery.
Monday, January 04, 2010 6:00 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear soulvisions,
once a caller starts the whining, screaming and trying to force me to tell them what they want to hear, I shut down. I have to rejuvinate before I can take other callers. It is toxic for me to be screamed at. I do not live my life that way and I could not imagine anyone who acts like that ever being happy. I had to put it back on her. I have had my share of caller who want to call just to leave nasty feedback. I say that the karma police works 24/7/365. What you put out you will get back ten times. Make it sweet and sweet will come back.
Monday, January 04, 2010 6:02 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Minaluv,
Thank you for your comment.yes I know why they are doing it but it is so inexcusable. The callers who are going through major hell do not act that way. I just will not tolerate it from no one. I say to the ones who are misplacing anger.......GET THERAPY!
Monday, January 04, 2010 10:34 AM by laContessa

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Thank you so much for sharing this.  It's so important that clients realize that screaming makes it difficult to read for them with a clear mind.  We can offer suggestions for the future and how to handle an unhappy turn of fate, but we cannot manipulate it for them.  We are human after all.  I had a client who'd call me and scream and I couldn't read for them anymore.  I was always afraid they would de-stabilize on me at any minute.  It was awful. I'm so glad it's not just me.
Monday, January 04, 2010 12:27 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear laContessa,
thank you for your comment. Callers seem to forget that we are human with a gift that is fragile when we are screamed at. I know some are under some strange belief that we are spiritual and should tolerate their childish behavior. They fail to see us as human. I realized that I needed to remind that caller that I am not going to tolerate her ranting when she has the power to change her situation. I am tired of the screaming callers who want to avoid personal responsibility and dump on me. My new thing is if the caller has a fit on the phone, I will have one back. When i have to play silly games, I make sure that I win. So I will just be more obsurd.lol! I do not even care if they leave bad feedback because it is a sign of their feeling powerless.
Monday, January 04, 2010 12:55 PM by psychicangel1

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i started doing morning clearings ( house blessings) and take breaks.it helped clean off my lines from that.....and I re-direct when people are "emotionally voltile" with a ton of "I am sorry...your really upset..your really right to feel this..this I learned from watching
therapy shows ( dr drew) intervention show also.

also.take a long ..... pause..they will go "HELLO???
HELLO..it brings a pause,for them to chill...
by taking long pauses..they will have to SLOW..down..
then I gently answer "i am listening..I am here".
i think I had a period where I had more "medicatedtherapy clients then the psych ward..lol..stay strong..love angel
Monday, January 04, 2010 1:01 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Psychicangel1,
I like your comment. I can get many callers to breathe thank goodness. The slow down cpmments works well.
I do also beleive that the callers need to feel what they are feeling. I feel that they need to put the anger where it belongs. It seems so safe for them to scream at us. It is so passive aggressive. I feel like they need to feel how it shuts a psychic down when we get screamed at. Hopefully, the screamers will read our comments and this blog and learn how to deal better for their life's sake. Screaming and anger will guarantee loneliness because most people will not want to be around a screamer.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 12:54 PM by jkiu

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My holidays had 4 different people venting to me (the safe place).  Anger directed at me that they have not resolved.  I have been trying to find an answer to Anger.  We tolerate other emotions easier, at least I do.  As a healer, I would like to come up with the right approach to deal with people that do this.  I HATE IT.  So far, it is an in the moment creative process.  Sometimes I talk them down with love, sometimes I yell back, which I don't like to do.  If I am in a strong mood, I use humor.  Oh but I wish their was just one answer.  I want to always just remove myself but not sure if I will or can.  Love suggestions on how to deal with anger..books???, wisdom.? My neice is angry, my brother is angry, clients are angry..ugh.
love
cathryn
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 1:26 PM by Jon Constantine

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I'm always amazed because the vast majority of screamers, perhaps 99% are calling about relationship issues. I had a screamer the other night too. I tuned into a rather pleasant man who basically wanted her to be alone. To me, a client is calling to hear the truth, so I have an obligation to tell the truth even if it means retaliatory feedback. She began insulting the man and I advised her that he was not a bad man at all, it was a compatibility issue and she was better off letting the past stay in the past and moving on. Immediately she began screaming, "No, you're off! You're completely off! I called three different psychics and you're all taking HIS SIDE!"

Then she hung up (the call was less than three minutes) and left false and misleading feedback. After she hung up, my first impression was, "Could you imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with or married to someone like this?" And it dumbfounds me that some people just don't get that the reason they get dumped is that they're very unpleasant.

The other thing I find about screamers is that some of them use the phone to take the edge off of being a wimp at the expense of an anonymous stranger. Many are obviously the type who would not have the backbone to talk to anyone like that face to face, and the phone provides a medium for being aggressive with others without fear of consequence.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 2:12 PM by Ask Donna Sue

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Bless your heart! I think you handle that perfectly.There have been those times that I just simply wanted to ask "and WHY were you calling me since its plain to see that YOU have all the answers".
There's always a great message to your blogs Drdonna and I ejoy each one! Thank you for sharing (and caring). DonnaSue
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 2:23 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear jkiu,
Thank you for your comment. It is hard to deal with angry people. I do not know of a specific book to read about dealing with angry people. I just know that people are angry because of the following reasons.
1. feeling powerless in their lives
2. scared to take responsibilty
3. scared to change
4. rather blame and play victim
5. fear
6. denial
7. trying to change things that they know they cant so they are wasting energy on whining about the past and what someone should of not done to them
I say ask them why they are angry and make them own it. I shove it right back on them. I accuse they of being cowardly by being angry. a person with courage will face their pain and anger. I am pushy these days but I tried the nice route and I got pooped on. I am pooping back.lol!
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 2:27 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Jon,
you nailed it. The internet and the phone has allowed for passive aggressive behavior by true cowards. I have a psycho coward who leaves ridiculous comments on my blogs that i mostly delete. She would never say it to my face. She is a chicken and weak. She is a true cyber stalker.
So many women who are unpleasant are so clueless that that is why they are single. They are in their own delusional bubble and deserve to be alone.
I had a caller for several years. She would contact her many boyfriends and would leave nasty messages if they did not respond right away. one time she emailed me and I was out living my life and she left me ten nasty feedbacks because I did not respond to her right away. she was so nasty and demanding. she had the nerves to be shocked that she has been in non committed relationships for so many years. totally clueless that she is the cause of her own misery.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 2:34 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Donna sue,
I love the caller who gives their own reading. Or better yet tells me that a prediction can not possibly happen because of x must =ymust =z. then they wonder why nothing happens for them. It is simple because they aregue with the universe, reality and their advisor. The "knowitall" attitude is self defeating and they do not get it.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 5:46 PM by Jon Constantine

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I think we may have gotten the same screamer. That was exactly how the caller in my last post behaved, "That's not possible because if he felt that way, then this then he would do this.." like human beings can be analyzed in a syllogism. And in her feedback she said what I was telling her didn't make sense. I kept saying over and over again human behavior is not logical, if it were no one would have to call me.

The only syllogism I see applying to them is:

Major premise: You're a very unpleasant person.
Minor premise: Unpleasant people get dumped.
Conclusion: You got dumped.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 6:54 PM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Jon,
I love how you summed it up. Being unleasant and witchy will get you dumped. I love how some callers argue the whole time. I say how you do anything is how you do everything and if they are arguing with us than they are definitely arguing with their man. I know some women feel like a man should prove their love for them by tolerating their crap but a man will just look for an easier relationship.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 7:57 PM by justaskdrdonna

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I hope for every screamer out there that ends up reading this blog that you will see that you are working against yourself in your life. Please turn it around or the end result is being alone. There is no benefit in being angry. Anger has never led to happiness. It tends to lead to further self destruction and isolation.
Tuesday, January 05, 2010 9:49 PM by annecd23

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Although this may sound odd...the fact that you screamed back at the person was the reason I called you tonight. It is a shame that someone cannot accept the guidance one is seeking. I appreciate you posting this for it shows that you are true and will only give the truth... and that to me is the greatest gift. I very much enjoyed talking with you Donna and I appreciate your honesty...someday the person that screamed at you will realize that your honesty was exactly what they needed. It sad that that person is so blinded in pain and misery unable to hear the truth of what is happening that they have no control over their emotions. Sorry to you for having to experience that, but thank you for not telling us what we want to hear and simply be honest with your gift.
Talk to you soon. Thank you again for talking tonight and I will keep you posted.
Anne
Wednesday, January 06, 2010 4:48 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Annecd23,
I love it! thank you for appreciating my blog. I really love doing readings. I have learned so much about myself and people because of this job. It is hard at times and yes I would love to give only good news. I have had a lot of bad things happen in my life and I know tat life is tough but not unfair. I know love relationships brings out a lot of emotions and fear plus expectations. that is why the caller probably screamed at me. Screaming back was empowering for me. I had bought into the belief that I the advisor had to tolerate whatever was thrown at me. It was getting to me over the years when i go abuses by a caller. Screaming at her gave me my power back. It also reminded me that I deserve to be treated well as an advisor. I am human than a spiritual being. Spirituality does not mean taking abuse. thank you again for your understanding.
Thursday, January 07, 2010 4:46 AM by TripleMoonGoddess

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It is a shame, every now and then you get a person who feels the need to take all their troubles out on us. They scream,and leave one star ratings because they didn't hear what they want to. We get people who are drunk, high, can't understand our language and even people who try to pick us up...folks think this job is a walk in the park...more like a walk through the haunted fun house at the carnival some days! I am sorry this happened to you. I hope callers realize they see the same people leaving one stars over and over and over.
This job can be a handful somedays, especially when we are trying to help them out of the situation they are in, and all they want to do is scream, abuse, and one star. Our good hearts and intentions will get us through Donna, and Karma will bite them on the butt and give them more to scream about, not less.
Hang in there, KEEN needs readers who are authentic and know what they are doing....even though many callers want to "kill the messenger".
Thursday, January 07, 2010 6:30 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear Triple Moon Goddess,
You said it perfectly. People want to blame and take their troubles out on us. Leaving the one star is their sense of false power. I do get my share of drunk and high callers. It is hard to read a person who is stoned. I have been hit on too and got bashed when I said no. We take a lot of abuse from some callers. I am sure that the people in their lives are fed up with them. My heart is in this big time. I hope that the angry callers will wake up and realize that we are on their side and their last hope. killing the messenger will not ease your pain.
Thursday, January 07, 2010 7:12 AM by TripleMoonGoddess

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Amen Donna! Well said!
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