The Best Way To Get Over Someone Is Not Necessarily To Get Under Someone New
There has been many of you who are just plain frustrated and rightfully so. So many of you have a long winded relationship that is draining because you have done your part and your partner has not done their part.
Yes, some of you have to move on and some of you have to keep yourself busy while you are waiting for your partner to get their self together.
This blog is for those of you who do not want to deal with the soulmate/relationship stress and just want a smoother situation. Your current relationship/break up has been disappointing and you just want a partner that is emotionally present and ready to take the lead. I say that you must take a break and analyze your past relationship/break up before trying to date.
THERE IS PLENTY OF GOOD REASONS TO TAKE A BREAK FROM DATING....
If you are still hurting over your past relationship and want to date in order to escape the pain, you can be adding on even more pain. the reason why is because you are going to attract someone who is just like you, trying to forget the ex by getting under someone new. You both will be making each other responsible for eachothers' happiness. You will criticize everything that goes wrong in the new relationship and swear that it is just like your past relationship. You will be correct in a sense that you can only see the bad side of a person if you have not let go of the past.
You will require your new partner to cater to your emotions so that you are so busy until you do not have time to think about your past relationship. This will become a mental work out for you and your new partner. You may want to speed up the relationship by wanting to know if you can marry the new person or at least live together so that you can feel secure that your new partner isn't going ot leave you. This will prevent you from knowing the new person well enough to even know if you would want a long term relationship with them. The relationship will be needy and not healthy. That will make it a new form of emotional torture.
There is much to be said about rebound relationships. They can be very fast, hurtful, intense and very emotional destructive. It is better to take a break in between relationships So that you can be clear on who you are and what you need. This will help you to pick a healthy partner.
HOW TO HEAL FROM PAST BAD RELATIONSHIPS.........
1. Forgive it. Learn what you could of done differently and forgive yourself. than forgive your partner for their part in the break up. YOU MUST FEEL THE PAIN IN ORDER TO HEAL THE PAIN. SO DEAL WITH THE PAIN!
2. Learn what ever lessons came form the relationship. Whether you learned to stand up for yourself, to compromise, etc. that way the lessons are not repeated in your next relationship.
3. No blaming the other person. People come with baggage and some never face their baggage, If your ex cheated or whatever they did to you. Let it go because it does not serve you. Cheating is about the cheater and not the person being cheated on.
4. Make sure that you love yourself so that you are not outsourcing for validation. You want a balanced relationship.
5. Be yourself but a healthy self.
6. Be clear on what you want in a partner. Write it down. Give as much as you take in a relationship.