Just Making You Think and Keeping It Real

This is Good DrD.. this resonates to me so strongly.  This is exactly the thing that I am sure most people have gone through; even myself.  I am just lucky that I could recognize it.   GREAT POST

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Hi Donna good to see your blog, A very good one. From my experience dealing with lies, half told truths, and the emotional turmoil behind it. You do have to consider the circumstances going on and what brought it out in the open. One may not have intensions to be the bad person. Learning to deal with this is the task to be open minded and forgiving~ nice post

Thanks D.  I really REALLY needed to read this today. I've been struggling so much and realize this whole situation is a mirror of my own wounds.  I was JUST having dinner with a friend and I was discussing this very issue. The Universe works in mysterious ways :)

Dr. D:  I often wonder when the employment community is going to realize that you can't stop the law of attraction.  Over the past couple of decades in particular this has been the case.  I recently became attracted to a lady in my now former workplace.  Seems as though she suddenly turned against me and now I no longer have a job.  Still don't know for sure if that was the reason why.  I do feel I became the victim of some inflated egos, and the situation has created a lot of unresolved tension for me.  And to top it off, the temp agency who assigned me the job is trying to keep me from  obtaining unemployment benefits, and the case is now going to litigation.  Would love to hear your thoughts on this one.

Hurt feelings are indications that someone has not forgiven . . . and are continuing to hurt others due to their own pain.

We are responsible for our own feelings.  Own them!

Hurt???  We are are going to get hurt!!  Get over it!  Heck, I hurt today!!!  But I also, am open to the opportunities to forgive and rejoice in something EVERY DAY!

Remember who loved us soo much that he died for us!!!  And there is no way you can tell me that the crucifiction didn't hurt!!!  And what did he say????

"Forgive them . . . they know NOT what they do or done or are doing"

:)LWW

I love you . . . spunky one!!!

:)LWW

predictions wont happen either until a person is ready to heal and forgive their past. having a prediction occur means that you are ready. if it does not happen it is because the universe knows that the person needs to do more work. remember we are not given anything that we are not ready for. so if it is taking forever for something to happen make sure the past is cleaned up and forgiveness has occurred. know your responsibility and do not blame. blaming is a sign of not being ready.

Dear breath of..... THANK YOU FOR THE COMPLIMENT!one great part about being a keen reader is that there is an opportunity to really empower people. I do a lot of reading, meditation, energy medicine, asking my guides questions and working on myself. I know the journey is hard sometimes. but there is freedom at the end of the road.

Dear sothrowed, think of the first time you felt rejected or not good enough. it could of been with friends, a family,etc. It does not have to start with a relationship. then forgive that experience and see how it affected your life and how you felt about yourself. then keep forgiving each negative experience. then forgive yourself for your part in the experiences. then do affirmations that give you high self esteem.this is a quick approach but it still works. people who rejected you do not mean to reject you or make you feel less than. they are just busy expressing their opinion.

Dear LWW. I love it! thanks for your comment!

Funny!

I freaking lovey life!

LOL!

And my iPhone

:)LWW

Fantastic and for me opportune. I have been having many conversations lately about this very subject. Indeed I have received two emails today containing a similar message. Well done girl! I have never seen it better expressed and the comments have been equally enlightening. Synchronocity in action. Thank you all.

I call it the ultimate freedom to own our feelings and not make anyone responsible for what we feel. Thank You  THE WHITE LIGHT for your comments.

If we thought of a world that actually was like that ... A world where everone was responible for how we felt ... I think we would all crumble in guilt!  Thank god for boundaries.

Empathics feel so strongly, picking up energies ... Boundaries can be a life time to learn.

:)LWW

Dear Sister Otheilia,thank you for your comment. It is hard as a giver to never receive. I say give less for a while and then the door opens for receiving. I think of you as being very kind and it is ok to do nothing for a while.

FlyAngel . . . what does "love" mean for you?

What a fantastic blog, and so timely...As I part with a man that has been in my life for a long time, but I finally realized was never going to fulfil my needs.It hurts real bad, But your post provided the support I needed right now, to remind me that Its best I face the truth now while Im still able to start fresh, Rather than letting it go on any longer.. HOPE AND TIME AND YOUR BLOG SHOULD HELP ME ALONG THE WAY. Thank You DrDonna

this is so true and it makes since

Feeling hurt is a prison in itself. I always tell callers and patients that they have the keys to the prison and can take theirselves out of prison whenever they want to. It is easy to get hurt when we wont address the source of the pain. I always say face head on and know it is tough but the pay off is freedom.

Wow!  This topic has created a lot of discussion!

In my experience, I have come to realize that anything another person does or says to me really cannot hurt me.  Being hurt is a result of MY THINKING about what the other person said or did, not actually about the act itself.  Think about it . . . If I hold the thought that someone cutting me off on the highway is unjust and I must get back at them, I create road rage.  If the same thing happens, but I have the thought that the person who cut me off was simply not paying attention and no harm done, then I proceed with my trip in peace.  Same occurrence - different thoughts, and thus, totally different experiences.  

Another example:  I am checking out at the supermarket and the clerk is rude.  If I have the thought that the clerk has no right to be rude to me, then I am likely to say something rude back to them and feel angry.  If, however, I have the thought that "gee, she must be having a bad day" and don't take her behavior personally, then I can ignore her behavior and leave feeling peaceful and happy.  Again, same occurrence, different experiences - all  having to do with how we think.  

It gets a bit trickier in intimate relation-  ships because we tend to take everything personally or as a reflection upon ourselves, but again, check out your own thinking.  What was really said?  What did you hear thru the filter of your thoughts and expectations?  Was your loved one just venting?  Having a bad day?  If you are not sure, remove yourself and calm down so you can reflect on what happened from an emotionally balanced state so you will get a more accurate understanding. So often, we over-react to something one says or does, when if we had simply removed ourselves and calmed down, we would have seen that what happened or was said was not really that big of a deal.  

Seeing the innocence in what the other person is saying or doing helps greatly.  All of us are doing the best we know how in the moment, and sometimes the best we know isn't all that great!  So give the other person a break!  Most people really don't want to hurt us - and when loved ones say or do hurtful things it is usually because they are trying to convey something - they need to feel heard or understood.  So give them the benefit of the doubt, and talk it out calmly.

Check it out for yourself . . . I truly believe that it is NEVER the other guy!  My upsets come from my own thinking! And I can choose how I think/react to others or the situations in my life by changing my thinking. I no longer take anything personally. If an issue comes up in a relationship, I wait until all parties are calm before talking it out, and if one of us becomes upset again, I call a "time-out" to calm down and make a time to meet again to continue the discussion in a mature manner. I have learned to let go of the negatives and turn towards the positives, which helps me avoid other people's drama (and making a total fool of myself!) like water flying off a duck's back!  Have fun with this!