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Your Comfort Zone

I hear it often from callers that they do not want to leave their comfort zone. It is the same as not taking a risk but still hoping to receive something that they want. It is also the same as saying that they hope the UPS man will delivery to them what they want. I know that people hate being uncomfortable. Remember the people who are happy and successful were willing to leave their comfort zone and take the necessary risks to achieve their wants and goals. When we are in our comfort zone, we are alone. A comfort zone is really a protective shield. A shield from taking risks and getting hurt. So guess what you are alone in your comfort zone. No one will be able to reach you there. You will stay a lone too. Nothing comes easy in life. If you want to have something, you will have to decide to let go of needing to feel safe. As long as you need to feel safe, you will not have your desires. Just think if everyone stayed in their comfort zone, no one would communicate. There would not be any great jobs obtained, no great friendships or relationships.

Everything that I have achieved in my life, I had to go out and get. Even my friendships. When I moved back home to the Los Angeles area, I did not know anyone in the area where I now live.  I had been away from Los Angeles for 6 years. My intuition told me to move home so I did it and I have no regrets. I needed a realtor so I used the dreaded craigslist. He is still my friend to this day. I hang out with him and I have met several wonderful friends because of this connection. My friend " M " is a connector by nature and extremely out going. He told me that after he sold me my condo that we would stay friends. I told him that it was not necessary because we have a business relationship. We are  now great friends. I go to all of his parties. I went with him and his many friends to Vegas this past weekend. We had a wonderful time. I have so many wonderful female friends because of ' M ".vI had also joined many social networking sites. I have met lots of great friends who are a wonderful support system. We go every where and I have rediscovered Los Angeles because of the risks that I have taken. I would be alone and it would be my fault, if I did not decide to leave my comfort zone.

As you all know, life has never been easy for me. I chose to go to school despite many disadvantages. No whining about not having a car or being poor, I just did it. It was not easy going to private school with trust fund babies who drove 100k cars and traveled the world on school breaks. I was an outsider. I chose to leave my poor person mentality behind. I went to school and it changed my life.

If you want to change your life. It is not by calling a psychic and hoping that we tell you that everything will be wonderful and you just have to sit and wait on a time frame. I will tell you what to do exactly in order to get what you want. YOU MUST PARTICIPATE IN YOUR LIFE. If you stay in a safe comfort zone, you will lose out on great friendships, romantic relationships, great job opportunities,etc. You will lose in every way. Decide now to accept change and risk taking. That is when you will see yourself happiest.

 

Published Saturday, January 10, 2009 11:00 AM by justaskdrdonna

Comments

Thursday, November 19, 2009 10:32 AM by jkiu

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YOU ARE RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  well written.
love,
cathryn
Thursday, November 19, 2009 11:04 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Thanks for your comment cathryn. Our comfort zone can become our enemy. It can become a prison that keeps us from having all of the great things that we desire.
Thursday, November 19, 2009 11:57 AM by tbitty

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This an excellent blog.. DrD.. I did this the other night.. with something I was soo curious about.. so fr it worked.. at least somewhat... who knows...but we will see..
Thursday, November 19, 2009 1:39 PM by Angelic Visions

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You are speaking to me right now, and I needed it. Thanks
Friday, November 20, 2009 6:38 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dear tbitty and Angelic Visions,
it is nice to take a risk. I am personally addicted to risk taking. It is usually what our guides want us to do. The results are most often good.
Friday, November 20, 2009 6:39 AM by justaskdrdonna

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I always say that we do not know until we risk it and try. People who succeed are never in their comfort zones.
Saturday, November 21, 2009 12:37 PM by Holly29

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What a great post!  Being proactive in life and stepping out of your comfort zone will bring great changes.  
Sunday, November 22, 2009 11:12 AM by a new start

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I needed to read this too! I just moved back to my hometown after 12 yrs of being away and feel I'm struggling with getting out of my comfort zone as well. This is a great reminder! I also want to say that I was in a comfort zone before I moved and something beyond my control knocked me off that path and forced me back up here, where I do feel overall happier. I heard this quote.."First the universe whispers, then nudges, then starts shouting when its time to get moving on something." I feel as though that circumstance was the "shout" from the universe even though I had played around with the idea of moving for quite some time.. But I was too comfortable, even though I wasn't very happy, to do anything about it. And I was scared to make another big move. The whispers and nudges weren't enough for me to listen, apparently. I can be too stubborn for my own good sometimes! Thanks for always blogging about relevant topics, for being so honest with me, being so compassionate and giving, and being so available!
Sunday, November 22, 2009 2:53 PM by Tamaro

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This is so true Donna. But every next time we have to step out of our comfort zone, it steel feels equally hard-even when we have a gut feeling that that`s the thing to do. Thank you for another great blog.
Sunday, November 22, 2009 3:53 PM by justaskdrdonna

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thank you to everyone for your comments. I realize that this blog was necessary because some callers want things to happen but do not want to do the work in order for them to happen. this often leads to frustration. Yes fear issues can come up when we take risks but it is necessary or nothing good can happen.
Sunday, November 22, 2009 3:54 PM by justaskdrdonna

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To everyone, good communication and telling people how you feel is a necessary risks. No one can read your mind and should not be expected to do so. This was the greatest thing that I have learned. I always express my feelings whether it is appreciated or not.
Tuesday, December 01, 2009 9:53 AM by information30

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You are right!  I am now working on the hardest part of getting out of my comfort zone and taking risk.  As you always say.... If you continue to do what you have always done you will continue to get the same results.  I am moving on to do something different and look forward to the reward of different results!

Thanks so much Donna
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