In Part 1 - Are You Waiting for Mr. Right... or Are You Afraid of Commitment? Part 1 of 2, we discussed how fear of commitment can be holding you back in your search for a perfect relationship. In this post, we'll have a look at the idea of waiting for "Mr. Right" to show up at our door. Does this sound like you? Let's see if it does. I am always amazed at people who expect they will meet their perfect mate by sitting at home, watching reruns of Friends. Then there are those of us that figure that God will bring them the right person - so they sit at home waiting for their Perfect Mate to come to them as though Divine Intervention was a pizza man making a delivery. Ah, if only true love was so automated and predictable. And conveinient.

Ok. Well, actually it can be easier, but accomplishing anything worthwhile does takes some active intent on your part. It's just not enough to just expect miracles to happen on their own. The Law of Attraction states that you do need to set some intent in motion. In other words, you need to take some form of action.

Love is Like Real Estate.... Location, Location, Location

First of all, let's examine what your current game plan for finding your Perfect Mate. Are you always doing the same thing on a Saturday night? Are you always going to the same local hangout? Are you living in a remote area where your choices in meeting someone new are limited? Your Digital Matchmaker If you answered yes to those questions, then your computer may be your best matchmaker. In this case, I would strongly suggest internet dating. Right away some of you are panicking and thinking, "Oh, no.. not me. I'm not that desperate." Trust me - desperation is not the your worst problem here... lack of options - is a bigger threat.

When your choices are limited to your surroundings (and not-so-distant relatives) you may want to think over that internet dating taboo that you've convinced yourself you're so terrified of. Will you have lousy experiences? Well, sure there are a lot of cuckoo birds in the world and any one of those fools could own a computer and register at the same internet dating service that you are. And if they managed to get that far, they could certain respond to your ad in particular.

However, by using the internet you are opening up a whole new world of possibilities (admittedly, both bad and good). I often tell my customers waiting at home is like fishing with just a pole. You may not be fishing "in the right spot". To make matters worse, you could be fishing in that wrong spot for hours. Or days. Or years. Or forever.

On the other hand, internet dating is like fishing with a net. You may catch a lot of useless crap or creepy stuff that has to be tossed right back, but the plus is your chances of finding the right person increase, mathematically as well. Ah, finally... a use for all that math you learned in high school.

The Creative Dating GamePlan

Let's go over a few other options to meet someone new:
  • Tell the world you are looking to meet someone special. Have your friends set you up on a blind date.
  • Try exploring dating or matchmaking services - yes, there really are people that can help you find a person more suited to your taste. To find one, either pick up the phonebook or try Google.
  • Personal Ads - Why not? If you are worried about people recognizing you, hide behind a clever username. And stop worrying!
Whatever technique you use, be sure to do something. When it comes to stretching out and doing something new, Fear is the biggest block in your way of  leading a happy life. When it comes to Love, you need to confront your fears head-on and annihilate them.

The Holy Grail of True Love

Setting out on the honorable mission of Meeting the Right Person is like pursuing the Quest for the Holy Grail.... except (thankfully) it's a whole lot easier. But like that Grail quest, you will meet a lot of forks in the road, and encounter a lot of silly (sometimes frustrating) situations that can sidetrack you from were you want to go by chipping away at your confidence and your belief that Love is out there waiting for you. So you have to be like Braveheart - well... with a happy ending, anyway. You can't be worried about looking foolish, or desperate or hopeless for that matter. You can't let fear control your life.

My Last Little Love Note to You

Love waits for the brave and the committed. It is reserved for those that believe in it and will not accept anything less or in place of it.

Love requires strenghth and commitment. So be Brave! Love is not for the squimish! So go for it!

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