I would like to address a comment to my blog:
"Are You Waiting for Mr. Right.... or Are You Afraid of Commitment? Part 2 of 2"

Comment by Neeru
"Love is unconditional and does not needs commitments. It is felt not necessarily spoken. Commitments often makes a person feel trapped and fearful. love is to make a person happy and friendly, with setting limits it can make he or she uneasy and uncomfortable. Mr.Right comes with destiny, true desire and willingness of God."

Hi, Kittenit here - First of all, thanks for your post. As far as what love and commitment, I believe this depends on how you define both of those words.
  • Some people define love as commitment, that is, monogamy.
  • Other people define love as sex with as many people as possible. Some people say they "love" their wives or husbands, yet find no issue in sleeping with other people behind their backs (or with their knowledge).
  • Some people say they love their dog but have no problem dumping them off to the pound after they ate the remote control.
  • If a loved one were in an endless coma, some people would want to "pull the plug" out of their love for that person.
  • Another person might elect to keep them alive as long as their natural life will allow, regardless of the misery that person is in.
Which of these is love? Any and all of these. Why? Because that is how that particular person defines it in their lives. We choose to create our own reality.

I know that is hard to accept when you have been taught something quite to the contrary. But whatever a person believes is their reality. You may not agree with every other person's definition of love or commitment and you are certainly entitled to disagree. But you can't change other people's reality. Criticizing or judging others does not make one better. It just makes one critical and judgmental.

I do believe that the highest form of Love is unconditional and perfect. But soon after thinking that I find myself a bit of a hypocrite. How many of us are truly capable of loving unconditionally and perfectly? I'll say I'm working on it... but I'm certainly not there yet.

Unconditional means everyone should be entitled to receiving your love. Loving those you love is easy. Loving those that do not like you and may never like you is a whole lot harder. Loving those that wish you or your loved ones harm is very difficult.  Yet all of that is what unconditional love states. If you only reserve it for certain people, then it is very conditional.

Let me state, I am not a religious person, but I do recognize the great spiritual leaders that have been sent our way. For instance, Jesus was a great role model for forgiveness. He taught us to forgive people of the most atrocious actions, including harm and pain they inflict on ourselves and others.

Defining Commitment

As far as commitment, if you describe or define "commitment" using threatening words like "trap", "fearful" then that is how it will manifest for you. Why? Perhaps that has been your experience of it - and as a result, that is how you are choosing to define it.

If you define commitment using words like loyalty, love, devotion, caring, security, acceptance, and responsibility towards others - suddenly the energy around the word, "commitment" changes. It doesn't sound so threatening and scary. Instead, it sounds very safe and loving.

"Mr.Right comes with destiny, true desire and willingness of God."
God is always willing to give your hearts desire, always and forever. You don't need God's permission for that - you have always had it. You are not separate from God, waiting for a scrap or two of kindness from the Great One. You are a Child of the Divine Consciousness and are entitled to be happy, productive and prosperous.

The Laws of Nature desire that all species flourish and abound with prosperity and happiness.  When we do not flourish, when we are miserable and unhappy, this is a clear sign that we have lost touch with The Source of All.

So you see, it all comes about based on how you perceive it. No one is right and no one is wrong.

"You create your reality as you go along." – Winston Churchill

Love & Light,

Kittenit