I first want to wish ALL Moms a Happy Mothers Day! I hope you enjoy this day with loved ones! I DO have a message though for ALL MOMS and DAUGHTERS I feel is a 'MUST READ'!......
I first wish to say to all Moms that your job as a Mother can be a very tough one-but also a rewarding one! Taking care of an infant is tough work-especially if you work outside the home. Even being a full-time MOM is hard work-which some days you feel is not appreciated by maybe a spouse or your own kids! BUT know one day-they will be gone-out on their own. The time you have to spend with them NOW is what they will remember clearly into the future-the words you say, the little things you do for them--THIS is what creates the memories that all of us remember about MOM! Moms aren't perfect-neither are children-but know it's the smallest things you do and say to kids-words of love, kindness and compassion that those kids will remember as adults. Sometimes I get Moms who call-complaining about their 'kids behavior'-talking about why can't they DO this or THAT-why are they making choices YOU don't approve of--(because you 'taught them better?*)! Just remember--once you've done your job as a Mother-to the BEST of your ability--and those 'kids' are now ADULTS-your job to teach them-is DONE! It is now time to release them to let them grow up and make mistakes-maybe even choices you don't approve 'of'-but regardless it IS their choices in life to do what they feel is best for them! It doesn't mean you have the right to push them away or ignore them-just because YOU don't LIKE what they do-that resolves nothing and it is NOT 'LOVE'. Letting go of kids growing up is part of being a "MOM"-and knowing when to do it-is when they are old enough to make decisions for themselves-it boils down to still having and giving respect to them-IF you want it in return! I hear from daughters a lot sad saying their Moms don't love them-they don't approve of what they 'do' (usually in relationship choices or career choices*); but just remember YOU can't live your lives through your kids-they must find their own way in life-just as you did. Let them have that right-it is their life-just give them your love and support-never push away your kids-one day you will regret it as you get older in life; and find suddenly the kids are 'moved away'-and you will want them around as you grow older too! All kids want is to be LOVED-but no kid is 'perfect'--but thank heavens no MOM is either! SO-the next time you want to 'dish' the kids for what their choices in life are--because YOU don't approve of 'this or that'-stop and remember--Love em anyway-THAT is what Moms are for!
Daughters-NO Mother is perfect--know that-but neither are you! All of us make mistakes in life-even Mothers. BUT don't ever 'hold a grudge' against your Mother because she doesn't like things you do or choices you make. The day WILL come one day she want you to be around-as she grows older or may face health and/or life/death issues with mates/spouse. If she is abusive-you do NOT have to take that-from anyone-but also just remember Moms that are abusive didn't 'get that way overnight'-something HAD to have hurt THEM in their lifetime too! Mothers are SUPPOSED to be the nurturing parent-sometimes though-some Moms struggle with that-maybe THEIR Moms didn't know 'how to give love!' But in this day and age--MOST of you hip and are smarter, more educated about relationships-and see things about parents who struggle, go through divorces-maybe didn't have a supportive MAN/Father figure period-Moms who may then end up working 2 jobs and really WANT the best for their kids-maybe was YOU! Just remember if and when you have a 'difficult Mom' and you don't understand her or you butt heads--just MAYBE it can be the two of you are more ALIKE that you realize! If you end up becoming a Mom yourself one day (even if you do NOT*)-you will see being a Mom can be stressful and you may SEE things a bit differently about your own Mother. Mothers sometimes struggled with things YOU may have never known about-with their husband or your Father-things that they may have never told anyone-maybe out of shame or embarrassment. No matter what ever happens-just know this--you will always have only ONE "MOM"-disagree with her-ignore her if she's rude-maintain your space-set YOUR own boundaries with Mom--but NEVER stop loving her and caring about her well-being no matter what! Moms are mortal-as you are-and Moms do not live forever. Make peace with yourself AND her starting NOW--on this Mothers Day-call her-talk to her-tell her you LOVE HER-'no matter "WHAT"! I promise you - you'll never regret it the rest of your life and she WILL remember it for the rest of HERS!
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL MOMS!
:::This is dedicated in loving
memory of my own Mother.:::