Ally's Musings

When you need someone the most - where are they?

Have you ever noticed that when you need people the most; when you are having the worst time - that's when it seems that no one is there to help? Ever notice that the more down; upset or frustrated you are that is when you can't seem to find anyone who understands? This is when we find our depth of strength. This is when we find out how to confront our worst fears and discover our own character and coping mechanisms. Strange how when you don't need people - there they are. Detach; try not to focus on being alone and watch; you won't be. Its the law of attraction; the law of distraction and murphy's law too. Think positive and you will attract positive. Of course NO ONE is capable of thinking positive 24/7/365 and that is why you need to learn to distract yourself when you can't be positive. And we all know Murphy's law indicates that when you think everything possible has already gone wrong; something else always will! If you can laugh at yourself - or at least distract yourself - be it with an old movie; a walk; exercise; an episode of Jackass - whatever it is! And maybe that one more thing won't go as wrong as you'd once feared it could. And when you're not so desperate; not so down; you don't just have yourself, you have others who care too but maybe just didn't understand how you "needed" them in that one moment of darkness they way they've needed you before. Its not always fair - but sometimes it is as long as you don't really let the "need" overpower everything else. Don't be "needy" and you will find that your needs are met more consistently. Especially if you are caring for yourself and providing security for and in yourself. When you need someone the most - there YOU are. If you're ok with you - then no matter what happens; you're always taken care of.

Who do you love?

It better be you !  If not, its time to look at mistakes you're making in relationships and how they're affected by your love for you.  Charity does truly begin at home and you can't give to another unless you can give to you!  More importantly, you can't receive from another unless you receive from yourself. 

If you're asking a partner to accept you with all your flaws - ask yourself why you're so hard on you about your imperfections.  Perhaps if you were gentler with yourself, your relationship partners would also be easier on you.  Perhaps if you aren't ready for a relationship, its time to admit it and just DATE or don't socialize for a while or whatever it is aside from attaching to people who aren't available for you to emotionally bond with. 

Most people who are emotionally unavailable are that way because they can't allow themselves to be happy - but if you're one of those people yourself; you're only setting yourself up for failure if you aren't loving and acting in a loving manner toward YOU!

Love yourself.  Honor yourself.  No one else if you can't.  Or at least no one that you'd truly WANT or NEED. 

Love is all you need.  Love YOU!

Lighten it up!

Look to yourself and see - why am I feeling as though THIS - this problem; this challenge; this MOMENT is so dire?  Why can I not take a breath, pull a Scarlett O'Hara and say "tomorrow's another day" and veg my brain out for a few minutes?

You'll find that if you can just breathe through it for a bit ... get a tiny bit of sage advice and coast through til the light is dawning tomorrow, the situation may just have resolved itself AND you may just find yourself being more at peace in these darker moments than you could imagine!

Scarlett was a brat !  But she did have something right - letting go of the powerful charge and pull of the moment can get you and indeed the very situation you're fearful about - to an entirely different place AND FAST! 

Rest, breathe and don't forget to laugh -
It will help you lighten your own mood and the mood of those connected to you!

Love and light -
Ally

Themes and who a reading is really for

There are nights as I sit talking with you that I realize we're seeing patterns in each of our lives. At times these patterns speak to Astrological influences. Sometimes, I read for several in a row of the same sign or their partners are of the same sign. I see these patterns immediately and make a mental note. Sometimes spirit lets me know that pattern is going to be ongoing for a while or that we can get ready for change. There are other times that your readings actually speak to aspects of my own life I'm going through - or have gone through and tell me its time to change or to share or to be grateful I'm at the place I am and that whiel I have far to go, I'm on the way! Thank you all for allowing me to share with you and to reach you through my listing. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to assess patterns and shifts in our collective consciousness. I learn each day from talking to each of you and I am grateful for the opportunity to do so.