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ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH A SOCIOPATH?

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Relationships with Socio’s accompany a great deal of anxiety, when you are not with them. They usually have many similar chords and relationships, in other words if you are being “played” then usually, you are not the only one being played. Ultimately they symbolize a lot of disappointment and ultimate betrayal. Here are some valuable tips on how to a) recognize them and b) get away from them.

 

 

TIPS ON HOW TO SPOT A SOCIOPATH EARLY ON IN THE GAME.

 

  • They are too nice
  • The relationship (and potential future relationship) feels too good to be true.
  • There is little or no emotion behind his words.
  • He is charming and sparkly, but when he leaves the room, you feel empty, like you’ve been drained of all your energy.
  • You have an increasing sense of anxiety when he leaves. His personality switches and the anxiety is a message telling your body, the interaction is not GENUINE.
  • When he appears to have ADD and can’t focus on getting simple tasks done, e.g. paying the check at a restaurant, running errands, going to the bank, his life is in chaos, his home and his working life is extremely chaotic.
  • The ADD often leads to alcohol or drug use and is a symptom of the sociopathic behavior.
  • He makes you feel like you are the only person on the planet, yet when he leaves you feel a strange ache, mixed with anxiety and “weird energy”.
  • Once he starts talking, he will have illusions of grandeur about his future, i.e. he wants to be a pop star, but yet, he doesn’t play a musical instrument or practice. Yet talks as if it is all in the works.
  • There is no DISCIPLINE or real hobby in his life.
  • He knows a lot of people, likes the superficial attention of people, but doesn’t remember information about them and has no long term friends who respect him.
  • He physically twitches. He seems calm on the outside, but inside is a ball of stress and when you ask him about it, he will deny it.
  • There is a hot and cold, on and off, intense suffocation and abandonment pattern going on. Ultimately, he is attempting to enslave you for the purposes of his ego.
  • Manipulative power games early on in the relationship are a clear indication.
  • Get out of it as fast as you can. He will never change.

 

 

 

 

 

TIPS TO GET OVER A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SOCIOPATH

 

  • Break off emotionally as soon as you can. Use the help of good friends, therapists, healers, whatever works.
  • Once you break the chord, the healing ought to be instant because there was no substance to the connection. It was all hot air.  Usually it is your pride or ego that is hurt the most.
  • Think of something you are more excited about than being with him, and focus on it so you break the cycle of thinking about him all the time.
  • Shift your mind focus to more “real concerns” loving and nurturing family, friends and colleagues and ask them for nurturing in return.  
  • Start dating again and hanging out with good, normal people.
  • Sociopaths are very charming and you usually end up telling them all your dark secrets. Don’t worry about the embarrassing stuff he knows about you. He is so in love with himself, he cannot retain much information.
  • If he does blab a little, deny it. There will be no love lost, he feels no remorse.
  • If the relationship was short-lived, deny its complete existence. Tell friends it was “a moment of inattention.”
  • Have a sense of humor about it, they are very charming and delightful, rather like the icing on the cake, they have their uses, don’t beat yourself up for falling for him. It happens.
  • Look for the silver lining, what did he bring into your life? Was there a good purpose? Did he introduce you to someone or something? What good thing can you take from the experience?
  • Most of all remember the energy and the interaction, so you recognize another sociopathic type personality much quicker in the game.
  • You don’t want to socialize, work or have romance with one in the future, so it is good to be able to see them clearly when they show up in your life.  
  • Go on vacation, retreat, visit good friends, and try not to be alone until the stress of separation has left.

 


 CLINICAL QUALITIES OF A SOCIOPATH

  • Glibness/Superficial Charm
  • Manipulative and Conning
  • Grandiose Sense of Self
  • Pathological Lying
  • Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
  • Shallow Emotions
  • Incapacity for Love
  • OTT Need for Stimulation
  • Callousness/Lack of Empathy
  • Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
  • Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
  • Irresponsibility/Unreliability
  • Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
  • Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
  • Semi Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
  • Deeply Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
  • Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
  • Authoritarian
  • Secretive
  • Paranoid
  • Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
  • Conventional appearance
  • Goal of enslavement of their victim(s), either emotional or otherwise
  • Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
  • Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
  • Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
  • Incapable of long lasting human attachment to another
  • Narcissism, grandiosity (self-importance not based on achievements)

 

 

 

 

 

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THE CAT IS OUT OF THE BAG

Or so we say in Scotland. The gig is up, the curtain has lifted, there is no going back. Now we can see who is who and what is what in our lives, and we stand there looking at one another in all the naked truth. There is shocking information, funny information and lurve moving towards us at the speed of light. The question is -- NOW YOU SEE THE LIGHT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

Time for action.

As the Universe continues to put a spotlight on "Truth in relationships" and also puts "how we relate" to one another under a giant microscope -- we feel embarassed, naked and yet strangely protected and covetted by this new light at the same time. As this is going on, you may find more than one suitor is trying to attract your attention. But which soulmate to choose from? What is real, what is fake? (Help me, help me, I just wanna be loved.)

Currently, we are also getting the opportunity to clear out, the last remaining addictions to "unavailable love" and also to heal those conflicts between our careers and love. There is no conflict, in fact your Soulmate is going to be a work buddy in this. They may not be in the office with you, but they provide your missing piece of energy to help ground you, round you off, and give you the guts to face the world again. And your Soulmate is going to turn out to be in many cases, highly unprobably. Highly illogical. But totally magical. ALL I ASK YOU TO DO IS stay OPEN.

Right now, the feeling is to "communicate to all things" and not make hasty decisions. There is still that brutal "left field shock energy" waiting to pounce on us unsuspecting humans at any given time. So don't set a wedding date just yet, wait for the celestial dust to settle and the tinkerbell sparkles will start to round up and pull you into your faster and more elevated "destiny groove of work" because as we going through this incredible TRANSFORMATION in our relationships, the universe is putting us into our DIVINE CAREER ASIGNMENTS, and as we knuckle down to our joyful work, the love is drawing itself to us, in the shape of romance. However the devil is still lurking around in shadows tempting us to go backwards, into our old limited vision of self.  He skates around in circles like a predator, waiting for a moment of self doubt or insecurity to hit. Then he scrunches closer to tickle you in the ribs.

THE SECRET -- Laugh back at him, he serves his purpose too, but now is not a time to be insecure about your feet. Now is a time for ACTION. Love is an action, it is not a feeling, and it needs to be expressed to others, not only the object of our affections, our hearts desire and our One True Love, it is also to be given to the universe to help raise this new blanket of light that is currently being woven around a planet, for new systems to be created.

Like the Madonna song, "Wear your love, share your love, feel your love, give your love."

EVERYONE has a small role to play in bringing in this new high level energy. EVERYONE, and pretty soon we are all going to be partnered up permanently. As we join our new partners, we will also be opening up to new soul groups, new communities and countless new relationships to boot.

It is an all or nothing type dance, so the message of the day is just to keep dancing. Keep sharing, communicating, participating -- all your dreams are coming down the pipeline. Look out for the pixie dust, and enjoy the Left field shocks when they come, what doesn't kill you, brings you higher and higher..... They hit us all at different times, so when you are in a peaceful flowing phase, you are supposed to be helping those on the ground.

May the forces be with you, ride the waves as they hit
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ASTRAL REPORT (OCT) -- "Separated Soulmates"

In the week that saw a run-away Japanese groom set light to the church where he was supposed to be wed, badly behaved future grooms/boyfriends/soulmates and lovers take on a whole new dimension this week. If they're not running away, then maybe you want them too!!!!    During this astral storm -- which is set to end IN A FEW DAYS, it is important to have a sense of humor. I've been blogging about this "tough love" the Universe is putting us through in our romantic/sexual relationships for a couple of months now and in a nutshell, the method behind the madness of this craziness, is to ultimately adjust our chakras to process higher vibrations of light, i.e. love. By clearing out the old, closed emotional patterns, by releasing the pain we become more open to unconditional love, acceptance and higher vibrations, and boy oh boy, are we being tested right now.

If you have a sense of humor and a non judgemental perception, consider the possibility -- EVERY relationship is what you deserve. If your lover is behaving, distant, cold, unavailable controlling -- look at where you are not open to share. While you're lover may have ran away (for the time being) open up and share with whoever is around you, and break down your walls.

Look at where you are closed on the inside, and open up where it feels appropriate. The universe is waiting to deliver real love to you and perform miracles... just perhaps not in the shape you want it, THIS WEEK.

But NEXT week, is a whole other story....

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The REUNITING process begins



Right now until the end of the month, we still see some of this "anti-relationship" energy hanging on -- where even happy couples will look at each other and spit. As this cycle comes to a complete end around November 7th, we move into an altogether nicer vibe. Phew.

Regarding the exact dates, what I'm describing is a "wave" and it hits all of us at different times, but the shift is upon us. Good news is almost here. Warm fuzzy feelings will abound. Clarity will show us who is real and who isn't in our lives. There are only a few more days now, so try to relax until the last of this storm passes away.

If you've just gotten rid of a bunch of false friends, expect your new soul group to emerge.

Soon you will wonder why you ever felt lonely.

Long term couples who have been milking the conventionality train will not be able to fake it any longer, and doors will open for them to make a lovely and clean farewell.

It is like a truth curtain gets pulled over everyone's eyes and suddenly we're on the next step of consciousness and everything becomes painfully clear. This will signal FAST and INTENSE moment in relationships and this awful astral stalemate that has kept us all in a growth period for so long transforms into a feeling like we're on top of the clouds -- being carried up to the skies of love. And you may not end up with who you were longing for. However your emotions will be in line with your higher self, and a lot of stale relationship karma will clear INSTANTLY.

No more waiting. No more blockages. No more lessons. Just love, lurve and even more love.

Single people will even fell the fragrance of new love and friendships, associations and all connections will open up and start to become lovely, dovey and warm and fuzzy.

Just in time for the holidays.

Emotions will be flying everywhere because there is a feeling of beginnings and endings, but it will be good emotions, not bad ones. Reach out to all people, all ages and all cultures and share.

Also you will be catapulted to the location where the universe wants you, and included in this, will be the completion of your relationships.

Happy travelling and see you on the Ethers.



AUDREYSEES


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Separating Soulmates Part 2: When did it all begin


Thanks for all your comments and sharing your personal stories, it is nice to see so many posts. The more the merrier. The more posts I see, the more I will write about this. Blogging is new to me, and I need more information about spreading the word. Any info on that too, would be greatly appreciated, all leads and advice heeded.

So, okay, when did it start. For sure the energies hit everyone at different times, but there was a noticeable push around the end of November/early December 06. By 07 you would have found yourself alone again, and absolutely no reason why. It is like the fabric of society was lifted into the air and being ripped apart.  The false ways we lived are no longer applicable, and this wave which was quite brutal, showed itself in our deep emotional lives, and in the external world in a very tangible way. Tangible but also hard to describe. I am doing my best as a writer, and could rabbit on about this for a very long time.

In a nutshell however, it is like we were living falsehoods we didn't believe in, and so we have to go through various brutal steps in order to find our true selves, because the truth seems to be the only safe haven at the moment.

As we are shaking these "falsities" on the internal, the external waves hitting us pulled us away from our nearest and dearest. Basically it is an act by mother nature to get us to "Clean up our act".  By being alone and separated, we regroup, reorganize and rebalance our chakras, ten times quicker than if we were cosying up to our loved one.

When in a relationship, there is very little transformation going on, since transformation is all about finding love, not only love in a partner, but in finding a broader more all inclusive relationship to the whole universe. 

A lot of changes are required to happen to ensure the survivial, not only of our planet, but of humanity itself. We are very closed to self destruction, it is not even funny and we are very far away from reaching our highest potential.

This brutal splitting up and breaking up of all old conditionning that has been grumbling under the surface, but started to show its head in the last two years, is now revealing itself in our economy. Again the truth will be the only thing to save the economy, and you will see the experts, politicians and other high notables struggle very hard to resist dealing with the truth.

As painful as it seems, the truth and the whole truth is the quickest way out of pain, in all aspects of life.

We as a race, in preparation for the big shift in 2012, designed to elevate large sections of the human race, were bombarded with light, higher energies, and circumstances, forcing us to let go our outer insecurities, scaffolding, props, clutches and whatever other false devices we were using to keep ourselves in tact.

The fact is, your soul doesn't need these devices and your true self can be fearless confident, creative unabated, but for too long now, society and the lower darker forces have sought to hold the light workers back.

These new energies are blasting us with a new "doorway" a big gap we can walk through, where we are no longer held back by the grid.

And so, this is why we had to go through such deep inner transformation. And the yanking away of the fake scaffolding, while enjoyable (after you figure out what's happening) is somewhat of a raw, private, inner, difficult to explain to anyone experience -- and the very nature and timing of this "yanking" in and of itself, pushes away everything we know and believe about conventional relationships.

In other words, two people, destined to be together, would find it impossible to share this process with one another.

First of all it happens at different times.

Second of all, it is inexplicable, and it always includes elements of a "Fake past" that is no longer the real you, and it comes up in an exaggerated way, and if you're partner ever found out about it anyway, they'd be so disgusted, they'd dump you right there and then. But then again, that too is illogical, because it is an EXAGERRATED form of your past, not your true past. This is mother natures way of getting you to dump old energies, by blowing up and expanding what is false.

So the shedding process is happening at different times and speeds for everyone. No one wants to really advertise and share their dark and distant past with their one true love, and last but not least, the shadow stuff that gets pulled up, is very unsexy.

And so we were pulled in opposite corners of the country and the world to go through this safely, and just as negative and destructive this may seem on one level, it is highly creative loving and beautiful on another, because once all the shedding and rebalancing work is done. In a very magical way, we are going to be reunited with our one true love.

Not only our soul mate, but a whole new community of like minded souls, and at this point we are going to start building new communities, new forms of group conscioiusness and a whole new beginning for the planet, it is going to feel warm, fuzzy, upbeat and PRODUCTIVE.

As part of the separation process, it is absolutely fundamental that everyone gets the chance to reorganize their base chakra into their higher spiritual purpose, i.e. build a new foundation that is not as restrictive and dark as before. As I've tried to explain above. Once this difficult task has been completed, count the days down to the reuniting of you and your soul mate.

It could happen any day, any time, out of the blue. Remember, it is out of your hands, but it is going to happen.  Your soul mate, is someone designed to assist you in that higher purpose. Both of you will have to be grounded in your individual higher purposes. Remember, there is a bigger thing going on, with the timing of when you are reunited, because from the moment you are pulled back together, it isn't going to be a date here, and a date there. It is going to be a huge shift in your life, and you will literally forget about this weird growing time when you felt so alone.

Like giving birth, the mother forgets the labor pains, the moment her baby is safely in her arms.

You guys will be living together, in a whole new wave of light, co-creating with other high souls, and the love you share as a couple, will radiate out into this higher purpose. It will not CONFLICT with it. It will flow in a divine new way, and as I said before, in addition to being reunited with your soul mate, you will also be reunited with other people from your past, and new friends, a new soul group, you will have felt you have known forever.

Anything that conflicts, resists, is not in agreement with, has to be worked out individually while you are both going through your practical transformations. By the time you get together again, it will be an energetic "stepping up", not just a simple reunion.

Many things will reorganize and reconfigure in your life from that moment. The timing will be divine, it is all about your own relationship to the divine, which is what we as spiritual advisors are here to help you with. There is no separation, separation is an illusion, and as you work through your illusions and move towards, the light, the truth, you embrace the magic of your soul and your higher spiritual purpose.

If you have not yet been reunited with your loved one, I'd say to search for your highest purpose, and this will open up all new relationships in your world to open the doors for your soul mate to walk in.

So now the questions are:-

1. What is your highest purpose?
2. What is blocking you from that, and how can you start releasing these blocks today.
3. Who and what around me is helpful and how do I increase that.
4. Who and what around me blocks me and how do I release that.
5. Work in the divine flow. Don't be in a hurry there is plenty time to rest and regroup.
6. Every relationship in your life is a mirror of you, where are YOU not supporting you.

I hope my writing helps to ground some energy for you, on your special path, and remember, I am always here to help guide you.

I give all my clients free minutes, and sometimes follow-up emails as well as include them in my regular meditations, which are like prayers.


Namaste.
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Separated Soulmates

There is a weird astrological configuration going on at the moment pulling soulmates apart. Part of this energy is connected to the 2012 shift, where we are all being prepared, to live our destinies, and become co-creators with the higher universe.

People working in the energy field, i.e. healers, doctors, teachers, light workers, artists and other sensitives, will especially be noticing this.

Just as this wave, deliberately pulled you apart, for a higher purpose, it is going to bring you back together again in an equally dramatic way. The first "doorway" for this to happen is October 2008. The final frontier, is February 2009 after which there will be no more of this "separating pull" going on and you will be working through issues together.

You will see during both these times that you will be reconnected with your One True Love again and will start the preparation to join up two forces, two lives, into one complete whole. This intricate, complex and highly involved process which involves a lot more than putting two people into the same room together.

Understand at the moment, if you are separated from your Soul Mate, there is a divine reason. Ask yourself.

1. What do I need to let go of, in order to make my dreams come true?
2. What new qualities in myself do I need to enhance?
3. How can I become the love I want to receive.
4. How can I activate this energy into the material plane.

Repeat all the steps and the sooner you drop the old you, the sooner you move into the faster vibrations.

Many clients have noticed this trend, and I would like to open this topic up for discussion, because the more of you who share your experiences, the better everyone else feels, because the sooner everyone realizes this is not only global, it is universal, then you may stop taking the separations personally.

Also if I get a good response to this blog. I will write more detailed steps on how to get through this time, and speed up the process to reunite with your One True Love.


Namaste....
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