I admit to sometimes wondering if there is a niche in my business for what I do – as I would vehemently contest that I am not a psychic. To me this title conveys a few meanings and stereotypes – and I do not fit any of them. I am of no particular culture with a mixed heritage. I do not believe in Crystal work ( and in fact do not agree with their use as they are an environmental heritage and not an essential tool. One Crystal can take a few million years to grow ). I do not believe in sorcery or witchcraft. I do not believe in controlling people or being controlled by people and magic. I do not have to use any tools, except when clients wish for predictions. I do not advertise making predictions as I am not comfortable with taking a person’s power away or giving it to them. I do not wish to ‘mess with karma or decision making’. Strictly speaking, in theory – as we are all telepaths – am I as a trained empathy or telepath, any more ‘psychic’ or just more experienced? I do have dreams that are prophetic – but I study my clients’ dreams and they can be too.
I also find I cannot tell people what I do for a living. For one, they usually assume I want to know everything about them. I experience a lot of condescension. This is due to people who do peddle this trade as if it were a money making game – and many of us have lost face due to their antics.
We psychics mostly avoid trying to pry – we simply may not be interested in everyone after a long day of work – and also understand that perhaps not everyone is interesting. We don’t go around and scan people. And we do not know everything! I do not personally talk about my work, except to promote myself, and to help you understand why I do what I do, but otherwise have been doing it so long, I do not find it interesting.
Yes, I can get outcomes – given some time and with an explanation – as I see how people will FEEL in a few weeks. I feel that this can be divined in any manner, whether it be rocks, clouds, numbers, the Bible, or the Tarot – you just have to have an eye for it and this can be gleaned through study. I also found certain experiences in my life cued me into survival mode so much that I do actually have an extremely keen eye – but I would not say it developed for any other reason than survival – certainly not an interest in the subject. This gift tragically fell into my lap, and now I am more than happy to share. On the other hand, you would have to be in an extreme situation to get the type of experience I have and until you have intuited or dreamed your way out of death’s eye, can you be as attuned. Some of us are – and those are some of the best readers.
The downside of being a psychic, as all psychics here will concur is that we cannot tell people what we do. For one, you would be surprised ( perhaps not ) that we still have 14th century attitudes in our 21st century – we seem progressive on ideas like giving up our privacy, expression, sexual rights, women’s rights and the most impossible sciences – and still we have not been noted in any way as a world religion. It’s easier for someone to pursue the idea of intergalactic flight than the study of the human brain.
I once expressed that I was being harassed due to my work to authorities that are meant to pursue safety for all people – no matter what gender, race or creed – and they said that we were not considered a religion, and thus not privy to any rights that people in world religions enjoy. Yet look around, and now the ‘Psychic’ has been marketed onto paper coffee cups and intuitive vitamin drinks, and last I checked, Dianetics are listed as a world religion!
Well I would ask you – what do you want us to be? I cannot be a fortune teller. Please do not ask me if he is having an affair. I can tell you what he thinks about having an affair – sometimes down to the word. If you want entertainment , I take my work too seriously to be that to you. I have helped inspire my colleagues to work like myself – within their own contexts, their own techniques and within their own beliefs. Beware though of anyone trying to sell you a dream. For example - the dream of perfect relationships. Beware of anything about ‘How to do’ anything. If it’s instant, I avoid it. I can tell you from experience that some courses may only help in part slightly, because like a language, you have to work in that language full time or speak it with the people who speak it to understand it.
Theory and ideas are nice to listen to – and so many religions are as well – I am a great appreciator of all world religions – also in part because most have utilized psychics when it worked for their religion. A good movie in that vein is: Vision – the Story of Hildegaard von Bingen. (2009) She was a nun allowed to practice and deliver her visions in the Christian faith – and she has a respected place in history – but still many modern Christians would decry her natural visions, her place in culture, and ignore another fact, and this fact is, apart from the apparent use of Astronomers in the Bible, that psychics were often consulted.
In fact, it was normal to have visions – many the Saints did. A good reminder of Christian visions is the story of Constantine and the battle of the Milvian Bridge, where Jesus told him to defend his people in a dream – and the army followed this dream sign. All good Christians if they did their work would be wise to remember how much respect these seers had – commanding armies and changing histories. Even odder still, some speak in tongues – which is channeling in the strictest sense of the word, yet doing the same thing in intelligible language is seen as an aberration.
I wonder sometimes whether to write a book, lest it become a fad – yet another pop psychology seller that floated in on the indigo wave of 2012 only to disappear into an endless sea book of ‘How to’ books. I do not want to cheapen what we do. One day I may do this for myself, as I can only blog some ideas out, in rough, and not with a full structure and I do enjoy writing. Perhaps I may just end up writing short stories, but that’s for another blog...
I am not any more ‘special’ than any other seer out there – but do look for the ones that are genuine – even if they are wrong occasionally – look for those who do not promise – look for those who can admit to be human, and look for those not wanting to adopt the image of being psychic or being ‘better than you’.
For one, I would not leave my clients after ten years of working with them, but I would be loathe to say that I own this title, as a human, when I see so many of my clients becoming as good as I am at what I do. This is what I set out to do – and perhaps one day, I will have trained my clients so well that I may well be without income – but is that not what I set out to do? I wanted us to learn to feel again – feel each other – so that may be one outcome – and one I am prepared to accept.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2012
I know that I am being given information that to a large part cannot be identified or classified. This means when you ask a question, the cards will deliver a message - but I cannot always parse what the message is pertaining to - the present, the near future, the outcome, or a channel. I am an empath too, but in this article I am talking about the Tarot cards, which is a specific way of gaining information in a hard copy format.
When I start reading for you, I will give you a general overview without you giving me any details. This is to free associate - not to impress you, but to get a feel before we get going. I will keep the cards out after we have talked, and I can then go over the information.
I literally will give details that are being delivered without indication as to what tense it is in. This then the point where I ask you to write it down if possible, and then let me know what is going on in this person's life - I don't need a lot of detail, a basic overview after the initial reading will allow me to understand the time frames or tenses I am working with.
As I mentioned in my earlier blogs, you cannot ask a question and expect the answer to your question in a literal manner. Your cards may be picking up your subconscious and even you may not be aware of the real content of this part of your self. Carl Jung investigated and lauded the Tarot for its ability to unmask the unconscious - our darkest fears and our fantasies and it can be a fantastic tool for therapy and self investigation.
This means that a simple question of 'Tell me about this' or 'Will it work out' or 'What is the outcome?' do not always materialize. You cannot force the way your subconscious organizes information. So if we read these deepest recesses of our most private and unknown selves, we get answers we never expected, precisely because it is hidden, and we can investigate it when it does come out.
This leads me to giving you some pointers as to framing the question in a way that you will be open to with a satisfactory answer, even if it is not the answer to the question you asked! I know its maddening, but after years of studying the Tarot - after using it for myself and watching patterns emerge time and time again - it's clear to me it is a study of the present, and even if you wanted a particular answer, as you don't know all the facts, it cannot always be verified. For example - if you ask me about your partner - and all I get is financial information, then that is your answer - he is worried about work now - and not about you at this moment. Often the client cannot verify the information I have given them and may mark it as wrong or discount it, because they cannot call their partner to ask if this information is true or not!
This is frustrating, but with a few more minutes we can tease an answer out. I would never pay less than $60 for a reading ever, unless I were getting a reading from someone on the street. I am a professional, I am a mystic, not a fortune teller, a nonofficial psychologist who despite not getting a degree has been working with other psychologists who have been happy to train me unofficially in their work to get the training I need. That is the magic of networking.
Having read text books and studied for years on and off the internet I am confident I can provide you with some decent, informed support, though I will not advise in a clinical context and even though I do have some understanding of what it involves.
The best questions are: 'Tell me about so and so" - I work best with motives. This means I may get all the detail on his life - not your life together. Given enough time, and I do recommend more than 6 minutes, I will be able to flesh out the answer for you more thoroughly. Really if I thought I could sum up a complex personality in less than five minutes I would be exceptional - above and beyond what our best psychologists can do after hours of consultations and years of training and field experience - and no one is that good.
Be open minded that the answer may not be comforting when you are fighting with someone - though I can explain to you their motives if you can take some criticism, as we are going into their darkest and most private parts. Be aware of the mutability of emotion, and that it is flexible, not fixed, and when calling you need to be aware that you have picked one moment to call to investigate but one moment in time in your relationship. That in itself is positive, as it means your situation will evolve. I am forever trying to get my clients to understand the best way of phrasing questions and the timing to call, and the outlook to have. I am doing this so you can understand your answers better, not to defend my work, but in truth to help you get the most from your reading.
I am certain a small portion of my callers ‘test the psychic’. This is part of our job. Often we get questions like: ‘What am I thinking now?’ or ‘Tell me about Mark’ ( not telling me its their husband, and setting the question so that with a retort like “He’s my husband” and ending a conversation, without my being able to explain perhaps what he is really feeling and why. )
Other 'techniques' are easy to spot, such as clients laughing or snickering during the reading.
I deal with these cases very patiently because I am probably picking up on another dominant energy in their life, and as a card reader can tell as they are asking the question, which question is being asked. It’s like a running log of the clients questions, possible answers, and the subsequent ‘ report’ which will tell me, as the reader whether the client is lying or not. If they are paying for the entertainment aspect, I do understand that I can benefit in depth from the reading I am getting from them, often enlightening me on many important events, like watching a news log, irrespective of this being their question or not. Sometimes I am getting four or five answers at once, and it will take a bit of a conversation to explain all aspects of them.
I humor them as I know the answer I am getting will be about them, possibly a prediction, and as they are not phrasing the question directly, another answer to a completely different issue. I also wonder if they are trying to ‘mask’ the situation, if I am picking up their true question ( disguised as a false question ) and perhaps other issues such as world events and up to the minute channels on what is occurring in this very moment in our present moment of time. My cards, or information is very strict, and also will deliver warnings and suggestions, even if they cannot hear them. I tend to learn a tremendous amount from any question asked due to multiple time frames or ‘realities’.
I am able to track a clients’ question due to the consistency of the cards, and it’s like a three way conversation:
I can see what question the client is asking. As they ask it as each card will mirror this to the moment. I then have to ask the client to stop talking so I can focus on the answer. I have even had the most interesting readings where the cards will announce when the client is being disconnected due to a dropped call or needing to add funds!
Should the question be incorrect, they will get a channel about something else in their lives, sometimes a prediction, which they will not be able to determine unless I was able to give them more information by knowing what their true question is.
Occasionally I even spot advice for me as to what to tell a client.
On some occasions, the reading will be advice for me.
If I spot inconsistencies, I will continue to relay the information to the client as I read it. Cards are fantastically accurate, which to me like a system can always be reproduced, even if only an experienced card reader can see the repeating patterns, bearing in mind there is a considerable talent needed to see all planes ( time frames at once ). If the proposed prankster were to write the information down and not frame it according to the questions they demanded, they will have an answer in time. Remember, you cannot force the cards ( or me ) to answer a question, information does not present as a yes or no, but as a fact.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2012
One of the main reasons I started working on my theory of empathy and telepathy was because I noticed our physical selves were leaking into the digital etherium – with only faces and words to guide us, we have become unknowingly a largely telepathic society, with or without our concession. This is how we may be forced to communicate from now on.
Telepathy to me is definitely not like streaming media – it is more based on the emotional association to the message being received. Empathy though is the ability and foreknowledge of developing good relationships with people despite any telepathic messages ( telepathy is like catching one good or bad thought, one sentence from a complex emotional state ) – so empathy is a more innate and ability to cue into people’s emotional states for the improvement and preservation of the relationship, and subsequently our self esteem.
Originally I asked myself: is this an opportunity for us to hide – or will this be an opportunity for some to go deeper and beyond the plan to dehumanize each other?
In my estimation, some people have begun to discern other people’s emotional states – but this is rarer than anticipated, as our society has become largely blunted to suffering through overexposure to the media.
What is the media? Apart from artists, writers and journalists, it is a managed plan for both marketing and sometimes propaganda. It changes swiftly, confusing those who try and follow, scattering our opinions, shaking us in our own intuitive cores, and leaving us for the most part feeling powerless – and we are not.
Who are they?
We are. We are consuming ourselves. Ask yourself, what part can you play in improving our own existences, not just beyond survival, but towards opportunity and a promising cultural evolution.
As I am sure some of you are, I have to really look, nay, peer deeply into the back stories, the missing stories, the gaps and the obvious messages, and these days do research across all the channels and sources world to find a consensus opinion on what we want. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately not all of us are inclined to develop a website, or a company reflecting a better opinion or aspiration. Now what used to be people to me have become consumables, faces have become products – and our emotional value has dissipated as we continue to market ourselves.
I feel that there is a deep need for people to speak about themselves, but they are losing their message by over exposing themselves. This in turn dehumanizes any of the attempts to improve the state of our world. It’s the old tale of ‘crying wolf’.
Now, left with only print and images, I can rely solely on my momentary connection to each person that I encounter – only one second in the exposure, and cannot base my entire opinion on either a ‘print’ or ‘media’ connection, nor on one meeting with these people, as I know how fluid they can be, and how their behavior changes from moment to moment. People are by nature truly beautifully insecure, and this journey has been so interesting for me at times as it levels the playing field but frightening at times as well, when I see the influence these people could have and the insecurity they display despite their influence.
All we are left with are ciphers and electromagnetic matrixes to make our decisions about the most vital parts of our lives – our emotional selves and our relationship to each other, and our home.
I sincerely hope that the path for many of us to becoming a largely empathic and compassionate society does not encompass more suffering. The question I have been grappling with, and will update you on in time is: does a person have to suffer or witness suffering in person to become empathic? Or are there those that suffer and who witness it possibly not? Are there those just born with the potential for good, or do they need more validation that they are born for good?
For now, listen to your own natural responses to the imagery – go beyond the programming, and use whatever means, whatever deity, whatever religion or belief you have to transcend some of these fabrications to guide yourselves. Ask yourself: I know this news channel or company thinks this is right: do I think it is right? Do I have to think like everyone else to be right?
Like evolution, empathy is not discretionary – it exists despite of religious teachings, despite controls – it is by the grace of God, or by the grace of humanity, truly the one thing that may help us ascend beyond the labels designated to us and designed by economists and politicians – and fall into your true emotional and spiritual selves by ignoring both the good and the bad? Can we now discover our consciences? This is the right time to do so.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2012
To conclude the year, I want to discuss the coping mechanisms we as empaths can employ against bullying.
I would like to preface this with good news: As a sensitive I have an advantage against them – I have a great advantage – knowing the bully's or harrassers weak-points and knowing when to take their concerns seriously, and when to not let it take over one's life. Relationships have these qualities, and if you can do this with one person, you can do this with many.
I can assure you this: most people who harrass or lie do not know themselves and have a few weaknesses – something I will illustrate in a later essay and even as a compassionate empath, I occasionally get ‘tickled’ watching them perpetually work against themselves - like an endless comedic skit of someone setting a trap for someone and falling into the trap they set themselves.
My biggest fear – knowing that someone did not like me – evolved into the knowledge that they did not know me and they did not know themselves, or who their own friends or enemies were – and with this knowledge, as well as more strengths I have developed under severe duress, this has made me, an unaffected negotiator, someone who can decide when to take action against them or not, no matter how much pain they are in, how much compassion they may need, or tenderness they may lack.
I would tell you this: the moment you display any success – you will – and I will repeat – you will be bullied – or I prefer to call it harassed. I am a victim of harassment – and I have gotten to know many perpetrators over time - through life, through my clients, and through their experiences. We see it happen throughout life by people we trust the most - and you too can refuse to become ‘one’ to defend yourself against their people's idle lies.
Left unchecked people do have bad things happen to them – even worse, I am seeing the bullies get their bullying back – something which I dislike seeing, because it seems so pointless.
To be truthful, I now have a lot of supporters in the ‘bullying community’ and so many people in the media and in our insititutions are now admitting to having been victims - and are appalled that they mistook it for normal, or even worse, their fault.
Today’s current mode of harassment is based on anonymous extreme form of of communication - which means, that the abuse of these tenets has progressed into a classless – genderless, formless, and pointless form of bullying, which is not necessarily personal, but definitely a viral mass consciousness – the truth is – these are bored individuals who can only work well in groups to attack, and its apparent even in developed societies. I have also seen my clients relationships deteriorate due to social networking – another form of social intimidation for many people – and so many of my clients are suffering due to these modes of communication.
This has nothing to do with intelligence. This has nothing to do with experience, but every psychologist knows how weaknesses shine through this behavior. I do believe that some of these people ( the bullies ) can recover from the abuses of our society that made them this way – and I am here to assure you, those people do not have to concern you. I You can be a sensitive and you will not take on their pain!
And for the very brave - get to know your bully because they may need a hug.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
My primary talent is empathy – or a subtle form of emotional transfer – and this stems from my naturally sensitive personality and Pisces moon. One’s moon in one’s chart is the way we feel our express our emotions, and I can assure you that people with this configuration could be deemed as overly sensitive, but fortunately with my cool Aquarian Sun I am very adept at analysis and I enjoy relationship ‘strategies’.
I decided to promote myself as an empath as I had the perspective of: Why does that person feel this? Is this directed at me? What do they think of me? And with this natural people-pleaser characteristic I started asking all these questions early. I lucked into the Psychic industry and decided to create this niche in 2002 and have been blogging about it ever since.
All I need from you is the person’s name. Once I have this information I quickly access their emotional state, which to me means I am temporarily assuming some of their emotions.
I also tend to find their insecurities very quickly. It is extremely rare for me to read anyone who doesn’t have them, so I identify these fears and I quickly assign them to a personality type. With this information in hand, with your questions, I am able to tease out their desires, their motivations, and their feelings for you and regarding relationships. I think having this talent is only for the brave – because it is a fact that most people seem to see the faults in us first. With this in mind, I usually meet people in real life and put up a ‘firewall’ in essence, and work best over the phone sometimes because I will not be distracted by body language – even subtle cues, like crossed arms for example, could put me on the defense and skew my reading.
When you call this is the typical format you can expect - this is a sample reading:
Client: Please tell me about Marc.
Carmen: Marc is aggravated right now. He seems like he is in a bad mood or tired. I am not certain if at this point it would be good to read him in entirety as his day seems ‘coloured’ right now his outlook or he is depressed and this may not reflect on you. Nonetheless, beyond his frustration, I pick up that he is anxious.
Client: Anxious? About me?
Carmen: No, he has anxieties about relationships in general. It feels to me like he is moving at high speed when he is put in a vulnerable situation. This is why he may be hard to hold onto.
Client: Does he care about me?
Carmen: He has some muted feelings about you right now because you have not spoken for a while. This means he has temporarily detached – but beneath that detachment, I feel he misses you and this makes him anxious. When was the last time you spoke?
Client: Three weeks ago. Has he moved on?
Carmen: At this point, I am going to take out my cards to define this for you better and try and obtain a brief overview in through the cards to get any details I missed. They will then show me and outcome. I can tell you though he has not ‘moved on’ – he still worries about you.
I then lay out the cards.
Carmen: I know he is thinking about the next contact, so I don’t feel he has moved on. You are also getting contact cards ( pages ) coming up in your reading – so I feel he won’t be able to. This doesn’t mean he is going to make a move right now – this is only indicating there will be contact in the future.
Client: Does he love me?
Carmen: I feel all kinds of love from different people, each one is unique so let me characterize this: it is anxious and wants to please –it is shy but frustrated that it cannot speak it’s truth – and he can get depressed which makes me feel you have affected him deeply. I feel you need to see each other.
And finally, we will move into the latter half of the reading, which is the Tarot or outcome analysis, which I detailed in my earlier blogs. In total I do well with about 7 minutes for an empathic reading – and work extremely fast with the Tarot - please be aware that I may not be able to explain everything in detail initially, but given an average of about fifteen minutes, I will be able to give you a thorough primarily empathic reading, with a near future outlook ( ranging from a few hours to a few days ) and an intermediary outcome ( up to a few months ) and a long-term intuitive assessment. If you work with me over time, one can adjust aspects of the relationship along the way, which to me is the best feature of my work – it means you have some control over the outcome!
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
The other day someone I worked with commissioned me to do some work for them, and made the assumption that people of my caliber, or people in our profession are associated with some power or ‘arts’ of darker origin. He meant it as innocently as possible, and I hearkened back to the middle ages - but I have to remind myself that not everyone is familiar with what a psychic is.
To be psychic means, literally, from the Greek, ‘mindly’ or of the mind. This is interesting as it seems to hint at previous thinking having not been superstitious, but possibly appreciative of the power of the mind. The connotation becomes difficult when it is associated with power.
When you look at power, historically, you will find countless movements against it. Primarily, larger powers have always focused on taking the power away from the individual, and in many instances applying an ‘evil’ connotation to people who make decisions away from the norm.
I will not pretend it is not frightening at times to have a window onto worlds that I find confusing, mesmerizing and a gift to me – but for the most part, I give my power up to this other state of existence, and do not try and harness it. I have also had more negative experiences with humans, being by far the most demonic at times, than any dreams I have had, visitations I have had, or visions I have seen – and I would have to think, logically, as a conclusion, that should I wish to be completely ‘good’ and saintly’ and ‘evil-free’ that I would have to abstain from hanging out with them!
Basically, think of us unfortunate psychics as one of the most downtrodden, the most demonized and feared free thinkers there are – because it takes a tremendous amount of courage to stand up to religion, or the state, or radical free thinkers who abuse peaceful ideals.
I must admit, when I am out some days, my psychic self has learned to accept that many of us are the embodiment of some evil, at some point in our lives, for some time, and that some will not find anything else because they are too fearful to accept that power can be attained by being good. I have not had to invoke one demon, or utter one prayer to feel people’s feelings or to succeed in life, to move beyond illness, misfortune – this is innate, instinctive and biological, and by my own right, it has offered me the power of superior survival. I listen now to everything I have a hunch on, every dream I have, and every card I read, no matter how difficult it is. And should there be no cards to read from, nature will divine a way for me to see – and I cannot in my good conscience, accuse nature of having evil intent.
I do know of psychics who like to use this stereotype to intimidate, gain power, or make money off of other’s suffering, but these days, I would be hard pressed to find many powers now, corporate or individual, who cannot say the same thing.
COPYRIGHT Carmen Miro 2011
Technical issues update for clients:
These are internet wide, and telecommunications wide. This is independent of the country you are in. The problems you may experience here on Keen are:
Inability to connect to me ( many of us ).
Not being able to add funds to extend a call.
Poor line quality.
Calls suddenly being dropped.
Slow loading of websites.
Delayed emails or redirected emails.
Not being able to reach your advisor and reaching another instead.
Not being able to rate your advisor.
Advisors looking as if they are on calls, when the system has paused.
This is a brief problem list, you may experience more.
I have seen this problem across the internet in various forms and I would like to make a few recommendations for safe internet use, and the protection of your identity.
Clear our any SPAM from your inboxes. Also be aware that those nice little forwards from your friends are SPAM. They cannot verify it's safety, often viruses are undetectable because there are so many.
Use social networking on a separate PC to your work and email PC as there are many trojans and viruses. Try not to use your work email for these accounts, or get a fake one.
Make sure you know the sites you are going to. Be selective!
Clear out your PC every couple of months. Anti-virus software is not catching all the viruses.
I know it's funny, I know you are bored, but try not to follow links off of search and movie sites. These can be malicious pages as well should you follow the wrong one. Try and refrain from playing those annoying little web games - crooks are paid to put them together and virus your PC, thus stealing your important log in information - yes, even Keen. And the more fun they are ( and usually the lamer they are ) the more people offer up their lives to these people.
When you clean your PC, please format.
Try not to use internet banking or have your bills, especially your phone bills account information emailed to you.
I know this may seem obvious, but it is not: people think it's 'part of the course' to accept people they do not know into their friends list - but they are so they don't look friendless. What an easy way into your Identity, and not only yours, but your friends, your kids, your family. All so that you can maybe have a conversation while you are bored or are waiting for 'the one'?
Update your email passwords. If you are suspecting a problem, if it is easy, try to make a new email address and don't have the information forwarded to your old email.
I know social networking is 'important' but remember this: your friends may not be maintaining their PC 'cleanliness' and forwarding you cute little viruses without knowing it by you both playing a game.
CHECK to make sure you are actually on the website. Do not follow links without typing it and if you do, make sure you are actually reaching this page. You could experience URL redirection and then surf off to another malicious page, which may look the same! Do not follow links, get the address, try the address before .com and open the page from there.
Why should you do this you ask?
Because this is sometimes why you cannot get through to the advisors, this is sometimes why your cell calls get dropped on private calls, and this is why you may have money stolen from your bank account. I have had my ID stolen and I know what to look for. You cannot get your identity back when it's stolen, your government cannot just 'assign you a new one' and nobody will really care if you lose it, you will just be part of a group of people who just have to deal with occasional credit and business disruptions. I hear of stories of people who just never go online, never can go back to their businesses, and the FBI is often unable to prosecute or resolve the issue.
As a frightening side note: I have seen that you have options now to apply for unemployment and social assistance online, thus disseminating your social security number to everyone. Hackers don't have to be smart, they just have 'bots' or software waiting for these digits to appear.
Fortunately credit card companies are taking care of some of the online transaction issues - if you watch your card, you may not experience as much fraud but - watch all your passwords, and try not to bank online!
Last if not least, please email me if you cannot get through, do not give up, and mail Keen en masse to let them know you cannot get through to YOUR favorite advisor. The number for customer service is 1 -877-keen hel. 1 877 -533 6435
I am not comfortable with the idea of working with someone so hard through a relationship and then finding out you could not get through and Advisor X has told you to 'Call him' etc. I have a long standing relationship with my clients often going through months to establish a decent relationship.
Please be aware that some of the calls being dropped are because of your phone provider. With everyone starting up their own, sometimes quality can suffer.
Some calls do not work well on cell, or it could be due to the country you are living in. Sometimes just try, try again, or get another phone provider and change your account passwords often.
Carmen Miro
One of the main reasons I started working on my theory of empathy and telepathy was because I noticed our physical selves were leaking into the digital etherium – with only faces and words to guide us, we have become unknowingly a largely telepathic society, with or without our concession. This is how we may be forced to communicate from now on.
Telepathy to me is definitely not like streaming media – it is more based on the emotional association to the message being received. Empathy though is the ability and foreknowledge of developing good relationships with people despite any telepathic messages ( telepathy is like catching one good or bad thought, one sentence from a complex emotional state ) – so empathy is a more innate and ability to cue into people’s emotional states for the improvement and preservation of the relationship, and subsequently our self esteem.
Originally I asked myself: is this an opportunity for us to hide – or will this be an opportunity for some to go deeper and beyond the plan to dehumanize each other?
In my estimation, some people have begun to discern other people’s emotional states – but this is rarer than anticipated, as our society has become largely blunted to suffering through overexposure to the media.
What is the media? Apart from artists, writers and journalists, it is a managed plan for both marketing and propaganda. It changes swiftly, confusing those who try and follow, scattering our opinions, shaking us in our own intuitive cores, and leaving us for the most part feeling powerless – and we are not.
Who are they?
We are. We are consuming ourselves. Ask yourself, what part can you play in improving our own existences, not just beyond survival, but towards opportunity and a promising cultural evolution.
As I am sure some of you are, I have to really look, nay, peer deeply into the back stories, the missing stories, the gaps and the obvious messages, and these days do research across all the channels and sources world to find a consensus opinion on what we want. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately not all of us are inclined to develop a website, or a company reflecting a better opinion or aspiration. Now what used to be people to me have become consumables, faces have become products – and our emotional value has dissipated as we continue to market ourselves.
I feel that there is a deep need for people to speak about themselves, but they are losing their message by over exposing themselves. This in turn dehumanizes any of the attempts to improve the state of our world. It’s the old tale of ‘crying wolf’.
Now, left with only print and images, I rely solely on my momentary connection to each person that I encounter – only one second in the exposure, and cannot base my entire opinion on either a ‘print’ or ‘media’ connection, nor on one meeting with these people, as I know how fluid they can be, and how their behavior changes from moment to moment. People are by nature truly beautifully insecure, and this journey has been so refreshing for me at times as it levels the playing field but frightening at times as well, when I see the influence these people could have and the insecurity they display despite their influence.
All we are left with are ciphers and electromagnetic matrices to make our decisions about the most vital parts of our lives – our emotional selves and our relationship to each other, and our home.
I sincerely hope that the path for many of us to becoming a largely empathic and compassionate society does not encompass more suffering. The question I have been grappling with, and will update you on in time is: does a person have to suffer or witness suffering in person to become empathic? Or are there those that suffer and who witness it possibly not? Are there those just born with the potential for good, or do they need more validation that they are born for good?
For now, listen to your own natural responses to the imagery – go beyond the programming, and use whatever means, whatever deity, whatever religion or belief you have to transcend some of these fabrications to guide yourselves. Ask yourself: I know this news channel or company thinks this is right: do I think it is right? Do I have to think like everyone else to be right?
Like evolution, empathy is not discretionary – it exists despite of religious teachings, despite controls – it is by the grace of God, or by the grace of Science, truly the one thing that may help us ascend beyond the labels designated to us and designed by economists and politicians – and fall into your true emotional and spiritual selves by ignoring both the good and the bad? Can we now discover our consciences? This is the right time to do so.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
Just because it's a click away doesn't make it instant! You have decided to take the plunge into the online dating pool presents various advantages as well as disadvantages.
He can make the indirect approach without too much of a loss of face. He doesn't have to commit to one email.
You will be given a fair opportunity to decide whether he is suitable or not, and each party has the 'acceptance' or 'declination clause' which is a more suitable way of saying: 'I am really ready' - or 'I thought I was ready but...'
You have no idea whether they are really busy or not, after all, if they are online, they could be so busy, they are unable to go out in 'real life' which has the obvious plus of looking successful, temporarily socially unavailable and steadfast and strong.
This can give the potential partner the time to reflect and then take action, within a reasonable time period.
Remember that many of these individuals can skulk around these sites for months, yes, even years at a time, occasionally sometimes making a frustrated foray into virgin territories, such as new social networking and dating areas when they have 'failed' the 'main pool'. The good aspect to this can be: you can 'sort of' get to know each other.
At this point I would like to stress that this is not any easier than trying more traditional avenues, and the idea of 'I will come across more serious individuals on a dating site than in a bar' may not necessarily apply anymore.
With the advent of all social networking streams having inundated our lifestyles, what was 'quaint' and a serious attempt to forge long lasting relationships has become even more frustrating as the person is so tweeted out by the time he or she has come across you, the intent may seem scattered. It really is not as focused as it used to be.
Lament not!
All too often you can come across their developing personas during various mutually frustrated times in your lives, and create a type of 'close-knit' process of familiarity. For example: "Oh, I thought he had listed himself as looking for friends, and now he is back in the long-term commitment ring - does that mean he had a good ( reaffirming ) online dating experience which has brought him back here?" or could it be: "Argh, look, there he is again, now its back to friends only after he had been so intent on long-term commitment - what happened in between?"
It's an all too common question. Over time, you may experience each others evolution, and actually one day laugh at how long it took for you two to get over each others' mutual online dating site rejection experiences to actually get together.
So - what can seem like a quick fix may ironically take years to mature: sit back...browse, and expect that a portion of people may come in and check up on you from time to time, even whilst having met 'the one'. And should it not work out, he or she may know where to find you.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
You may be curious as to what the benefit is of an empathic reading compared to a predictive reading.
The difference is two types of control: Empathic readings allow you to take control of the present and optimize your future potential. This is based on what a person is feeling right now. This is not based on how the person is going to feel, unless you don't recognize and improve your perception on the situation.
I can make predictions, and in one of my upcoming blogs I will try and explain how they work for me.
In a predictive reading you are handing your fate over to fate, and you are relinquishing any future possibilities that may be presenting themselves right now.
For example: you want to know if something is going to work out. If simply left to what 'the cards have in store' this is the current action of 'fate' should you just allow it to take over. I have worked with clients in specific ways in order to help them to make choices which can improve the relationship. For example, if your partner is in a bad mood, if the partner is angry, if they don't want to talk, what would be the best course of action now? Can you control your own impulses to resolve, talk about or draw an answer out of this person? If done properly you can allow for a relationship to evolve at the other person's pace, which can then allow for the full propensity of the relationship to develop.
Ask yourself: would you like to maximize your current potential? Make the right choices in timing to allow a person to gain some perspective? Or would you like to hand your life over to one fate, one out of many?
I specifically advertise empathic readings. Clients still wish for outcomes. I can deliver them on occasion, but I can assure you, that I am picking up the current situation 99% of the time. This is why I work with the full deck very quickly, often drawing out around 234 cards per 15 minute reading. I also can sense the person's feelings, and I can 'taste' their feelings and will attempt to describe them.
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
So you have called that psychic, the one that will help you let go. The one that will tell you: 'It's over'. YES! Now you are free! But what happens when it is not?
You have had a bad break up. You are now ready to let go. Completely ready to let go. You are hoping for the golden answer: 'You can let go; he or she will not come back'. Satisfied in your present sense of release, you can now move on.
Can you really?
As a psychic I can attest to this conundrum. It is vexing and frustrating. We want something over when it is not, and someone to come back when they wont. What can one do?
Each reading is a testament to the present moment. You do really know if it's over or not. If you feel a sense of deep dread, that's an indication. You dread them creeping back. You dread them being away. All I can truly say out of my own experience, is use this as a way to affirm your feelings about your experience, rather than an ultimate answer, the 'get-away' or the solution.
Time will tell!
Copyright Carmen Miro 2011
It's so easy. Like a reflex we hit that send button or that auto-dial. When is it really a good time to write or call? How does one know?
Essentially, what I tell my clients is when they have to ask if they should call and experience a tremendous amount of anxiety over the issue then they should not. It is so easy to go with that impulse. Ask yourself is it self-gratification, or is it a true response for him or her to hear from you?
I have trained myself especially well to listen out for these cues. To some extent though, I have also gained the self-control to not always respond to these cues. Think about it logically and ask yourself these questions:
What is your desired result?
What is the likely outcome based on present circumstances?
What is the trajectory of the outcome should you wait? Can you plan better? Look at the outcome as a linear time line or an ascending or descending curve. The longer you wait sometimes, the better the outcome can be.
What is your gut feeling on the outcome? Do you feel a sense of dread?
What did this person ask of you? Did they display any interest in hearing from you? If they did not, ask yourself what you did perhaps to encourage this?
If you think about all these questions, not necessarily in order, but in as a logical account of the situation, what do you really think the outcome will be? Should self-restraint not be more gratifying at times? Many things can be gained from restraint, such as a better understanding of the situation in time, and an increase in self-esteem which may benefit your relationship more in the long term.
If you are feeling true anxiety about the call or text, or email, don't do it. This is my number one rule. But you have to look at where your anxiety comes from. Is it from a self imposed limitation, such as social anxiety? Is it your fear that you will lose this person and experience grief? Or is it because you know deep down that should you do so, you would get an undesirable result?
There is also a flip side to this. I have perceived clients who judge the situation too quickly. Again ask yourself why. Is it because of a previous relationship or a family dynamic? Most of my clients are women. I have to remind them continuously that men are very similar to us, and that sometimes the just want a little tenderness. But you have to imagine their fears such as; overbearing ex girlfriends, an overwhelming mother, or perhaps just like you, a little reluctance to jump into something too quickly, or are they perhaps not madly in love with you but cannot vocalize it? Yet, you call. You want to make it all better. Try not to. Try to let time pass.
I have to continuously remind my clients that love is not an instant result of action and inaction. Sometimes, things take a long time. Occasionally outside circumstances we have no control over bring it to fruition. Think of a lifetime. Think of it kindly, because we do not have to rush through a relationship and pronounce it as 'dead' if there is no immediate result. Nowadays we are being inundated with media ideas that something needs an immediate result to be satisfactory. I have heard of too many stories of long lost loves coming back twenty years later. What if in the meantime you had dated so much and worn yourself out to such a degree your pain did not allow you to experience this re-emerging relationship, perhaps your deepest desire, to its fullest?
I will in some further blogs try and go deeper into the machinations of feeling another person's feelings, but for now, work on the logical, the most easily attainable, work from the outside in and try not to look too deeply, the answer is often just on the surface!
Copyright Carmen Miro 2010
This confounding idea has been the bane of much suffering and heartbreak. Sorcerers and folklore, superstition and fact have all conspired and collided over this issue. In this essay, I will examine the role of empathy for you for a better understanding on this matter.
For one, it depends on compatibility. There are certain biological and social rules we cannot always supersede such as pheromones ( attraction and scent hormones ), social standing, family structures, religion, moral values, life experience, psychology. I don't feel one can always override these structures, but there are spiritual and empathic elements one can utilize with to improve on these elements.
The spiritual aspects have to do with timing, soul connections and life lessons. Sometimes one's spiritual timing may not initially work, but given time and patience one can learn to recognize the difference between a closed or an open possibility. This can be done through intuition, dream-work and spiritual practice. The empathic and telepathic aspects can be employed as aids to enhance the experience with your partner. I believe telepathy is a survival technique that helps us communicate on a subconscious level, and to some extent we can also use it consciously.
Conscious use of empathy entails a lot of psychological self help work. This means learning to recognize whose feelings are whose: getting to know the self. By understanding one's own emotional mindset, responses and reactions, one can learn to distinguish between one's own feelings and the other person's feelings. This has to be done by examining one's own family structures first and why we make the choices in relationships we do. Once the psychological work has been done, one attains a type of clarity that allows for the recognition of intuitive guidelines.
For example, you will know how a person feels about you, and why. The 'why' or the motivation for their behavior is the most important aspect. Once you understand a person's fears and losses, you can then learn to forgive, obtain closure or allow the person back into your life. This is important as it opens up 'empathic channels', which is part of my theory on 'empathic transfer'.
Empathic Transfer is when you transfer emotions back and forth to each other, as they bounce back and forth. For example, you will feel the person's guilt, and you may assume it yourself. This can keep two people feelings stuck in a relationship problem.
I have clients who have been through difficult relationships who have worked through this problem by examining themselves and also through the understanding of the other person's feelings, are able to let go of the bad feelings, open up a new channel and then allow the other person to let go of that negative emotion as well. Once that fear or pain is dissolved, the other person will be free to move into another state with you ( because they are automatically 'with you', in mind ).
This means we are essentially holding onto so many fears without self-examination, sometimes we are sabotaging our own potential relationships. Possibilities arise that we neglect due to complex modern relationships which lack structure, and this can cause deep fissures, not easily fixed on their own.
Once you have learned to understand the reason behind a person's pain, you can help them let go of that pain, essentially is may just melt away. This is great news! This means one can solve relationship problems from a distance, without having to engage the person in what can be sometimes seen as threatening to the other person, the dreaded 'discussion'.
I have seen people melt away their issues with people, make old relationships work, improve on new ones and become happier, more self adjusted individuals who can trust in the process of relationships, rather what can be perceived as the the sometimes 'negative outcome'!
Copyright Carmen Miro 2010
It’s in the eyes. Look into their eyes. The first flash of emotion will seem obvious to you. “It looks like he is just making an expression in the picture, anyone can read that!|”. Go a bit deeper. This principal expression is actually a caricature of who he is, in other words, it is intensified. You can take that information and go with it. If he looks angry: he is. If he looks frantic: he will not have the time for you etc. It’s really that easy.
Next: Which profiles stick out at you? Is it their color or their composition? You can sometimes get a rough ‘feeling’ off of a picture. It may be gentle, sad, or confusing. Take note of this feeling.
Then read the text in the profile. Sometimes people are not good at expressing themselves and may not write good profiles, but look out for key words like ‘humor’ ’love’ or ‘family’. Also look out for phrases like ‘We’ll see where this goes and if it works out, then maybe something more. Or you may encounter’ I am looking for this type of person” listing everything you are probably not. That could be the sign of a controlling personality. Do they talk more about their work?
Men usually do. So they perhaps are feeling insecure and will need a lot of stroking. If there are spelling mistakes chances are this person is either texting his profile and has no spell check, or he is not putting any effort into the profile. Even if he is dishy, run like hell. Avoid those guys who think they have a sarcastic sense of humor and are proud of it. Chances are, they are acting arrogant and narcissistic.
So you got a letter: And it’s not texted because it actually spells out whole words, and he has not just cut and pasted a form letter to send on to you. How do you read between the lines? This is the part where you need to take a bit of control. Usually you may be pushed to meet the person right away, because people feel that the internet is flaky, and want to push the rubbish out first. The problem with that is that we need some time to get to know someone.
Next there is the ‘we have spoken on the phone so now we have to meet routine’. Don’t let yourself get pressured into meeting. Remember he does not have as many dates coming at him as you are, and doesn’t want to let this opportunity go. Keep your boundaries up. Hormones and attraction can skew impulses and make them more antsy, and he will still like you if he really wants more with you a few weeks down the road.
The conversation should be the most telltale sign. If you do not get on during the phone call, it may not work, but endure, because digital communication means very little these days. Listen to his tone of voice. Is it sexy to you? Is he listening to you? You can usually feel this receptiveness through your back and forth conversation, and he has to be interested in you. If he feels like he is pretending, he probably doesn’t want a relationship right now and is chancing it.
In Part 2 I will go into more detail as to what good healthy courtship is like! I think so many of us have ‘forgotten’ or have been brainwashed or pressured to do things differently, even if it goes against our instinct and well being. It doesn’t matter what popular culture dictates, you can still find good old fashioned values in many people, even on the internet. Just be careful what or how you say something, where you hang out, and go with that gut. A picture tells a thousand words.
Remember to send me a picture of the person you are interested to enhance the quality of your reading!
Copyright Carmen Miro 2010