There is nothing to fear

2010 Forecast Report

With 2009 coming to a close, take a glimpse at what the future may hold. A full Astro/Energy Forecast is now available (7 pages) for purchase.  Please review my page for more information.

If you do not want to purchase the full (all zodiac signs) forecast report, I will be offering 2 smaller packages of the signs (Aries -Virgo / Libra-Pisces). 

:-)
Violet

Incredible Changes - You can benefit

Hi everyone!

So much happens in such a short amount of time that lately, at least for me, we are often found unsure of where we stand.

In some cases our wishes become reality (and thennnnn what do we do).  In others, we are playing catch-up to meet up with the new opportunities and not fall behind on what may have lapsed in the weeks or months left behind.  How wonderful.

Today I am playing catch up and sharing great energy with all my current readers, new readers, and you.  This means I have a few updates and a fantastic opportunity for you and yours.

Let's get started!

First off, yes, my rates have changed...you'll soon read why.  However, I am not one to forget my loyal customers and to them I have extended quite the offer.  By now they have received their special locked-in rate coupons.  Don't pass them up folks!  I honor my clients and I honor my offer 100%.  You can't lose.

The rate change comes as a result of my new service. Ooooo what could it possibly be? Well, as I have continued to develop my skills and incorporate all the aspects of gifts and metaphysical studies, I realized I had not brought two key elements together.  They are...clairvoyance and astrology.  Oh wait, don't panic, I am not going to switch to a cookie-cutter astrology reading the next time you call.  Do not worry.  That's not my style.  However, I will be working on getting dates and desired events better pinpointed for you and for your planning.  While time is a man-made concept...the stars surely are not. 

That being said, soon you'll see a special offer for a chart production and reading in one neat package.  Not just astrology -- no no that would be boring - but astrology with an UMPHF!  Curious?  Keep an eye on this blog for the COMING SOON offer that will take 2 astrological charts (from you, yes, I continue to honor my clients) and provide them with a free (oooo la la) 2 month reading and review of their planets and chart (along with lovely clairvoyance stuff in there).  I'll let the lucky readers supply the feedback on the given info and enjoy their read.

If you are interested in this offer, please email me with your name (first name only), date of birth, hour of birth, and place of birth.  I will only accept the first 2 responses to this posting.  So, HURRY!

In addition to said readings I am looking at ways to conduct a few "Developing Your 3rd Eye Classes/Courses" and how you too can learn to read for yourself and others.  Trust me, we allllll have the gift.

And with that, dear fans...I am off to catch up with the great things on my plate.  I look forward to hearing from the lucky winners and will update this message as soon as 2 names are secured.

WHY ARE YOU STILL READING?! Hurry up and submit your name.

Much love,
Violet

Is the issue really inside of you? How to 'fix' it.

I cannot begin to tell you the number of times that I have heard "it must be ME pushing them away" or even better "I must be giving something off that makes them run".  If these are your words/thoughts or something that was told to you time and time again....I am SURE that by now...you are believing it and, even worse, acting as if this were true.  So, of course, you can't help but think that you really are pushing people away and yet....no one is telling you how you could possibly change this process.

Ready for this -- it's not always you. 

Let's evaluate a situation: 

You meet a fantastic (at least on the surface and according to your projection glasses) person.  You embark on the start of a romance.  All is ideal (again, your glasses) and then communication issues begin.  You find that they can't express themselves or that they have unhealthy habits.  You try to work with them by pulling out your past maps on how to deal with certain behaviours.  The person retreats or becomes argumentative/difficult.  You find yourself distancing (both of you) and frustration begins to develop.  Before you know it, there is an argument and a separation.  Rinse, repeat.

Now, is this really inside just one person to push the other away or is this not an intricate dance (I am picturing Tango here for those that want visuals) where BOTH of you are dealing with internal situations that need more than a 'quick fix'.

This is where psychology steps in.  Remember the 'past maps' that I mentioned?  Yes, the ones you pull out to make things go smoothly, the ones that you carry with you since you were 4 when Billy took your dollie and how you reached out to him saying 'gimme, gimme, gimme'.  Yeah, that one.  Pretty old map you are working from there, don't you think?  So, ok, here you are using this circa 1970something item (please modify year accordingly) and here is Billy using his own map - the one of restraint, power, and control.  What happens? We carry this way of acting /reacting with us until we learn something new and do something different.  BUT FIRST - we must realize what we are doing and WHY we are doing it.

THIS is the infamous "there is something inside you that pushes them away" statement.  The one that frustrates a listener and offers little to no clarity to a person tired of the same life patterns occuring and no solution in sight. 

So, what do you do to solve it?  I'll post my suggestions and insights for your review and comments tomorrow.  In the meantime, take a moment to think on how you behave and what you do when conflict or difficulty arises.  If you care to post some of your experiences (please do not give real names and limit your comments to "what they do" and "what you do in response"), I will pick a couple of reader submissions and include them in part 2 of this evaluation and blog entry. We can all come to learn from this and we can all come to understand that this "thing inside you that you give off" does not have a thing to do with positive thoughts and changing thoughts etc. as much as it is understanding the issues and behaviours. 

Until then...have a fantastic day and...go search your attic for your internal map.

Namaste,

Violet

Response to the "But Why?"

Oh yeah, but WHYYYY?!

That's a constant pricking of the heart. 

Often we contemplate situations and wonder why people do what they do.  For some reason we never think that maybe, JUST MAYBE, they themselves are unsure why they do what they do because they are not aware that they do it.

Take for example, Joe (names changed to protect the innocent - ha).  Let's say he meets Jackie on a Tuesday; follows up with text messages by Thursday and then....fast forward 3 weeks and 4 - 5 dates later.... he goes silent.

Jackie's initial reaction:  WHAT DID I DO?!

And yet, Jackie may not have ever done anything to discourage Joe.  Joe could have situations (internal and external) that have caused him difficulty and pulled him away. So, what is Jackie to do now?  Does she call or text to see how he is? Does she sit and wait for an email or faint smoke signal?  Does she worry and wonder and recap EVERY situation and what was said?  Of course she will ... but why?  Simple...because we are programmed to believe that something we did must have caused for the person to pull away.  EVEN when we have done NOTHING to push them or have them move in a different direction.  Sorry, I am NOT a believer that we give off energy to push people away.  I'll blab on that view elsewhere though.

We ignore the flags.

I was on a date not too long ago with a person who allowed me to read his palm (at least in jest).  As I looked over his hand, and tried to contain my excitement over freely touching his hand (oh come on, you knowwww how that is) I didn't get anything from the lines on it as much as I did from the energy with it.  Without much thought I blurted out "You want people to know of you but not necessarily know you".  He pulled his hand away and gave a nervous laugh.  He told me I was a good actress at pretending to read.  He was def. nervous.  I realized what I had done and eased the moment by saying "Oh, what do I know, I am just playing Ms. Cleo".  As we exited the restaurant, he confided that he was a bit thrown by my statement.   "hmmm," I thought, "thrown or made aware of something".  I said nothing more.

We walked towards the car and he commented again, "what if you sensed something that would make you not want to be around me?".  His inquiry was par for course.  I answered honestly and attempted to ease what I felt were his genuine concerns: fear of rejection / acceptance / attachment / abandonment.  I said - "If that were the case, I would have been gone by now."

That weeks later this very man went underground/silent for no reason was def. not a surprise.  His open statement of his fear of abandonment told me what was to come. It would be MY choice to be 'surprised' or 'confused' over his actions.  In reality, I had been warned early in the coming to know. 

Lessons.

So, Lesson 1:  We are not as clueless as we think we are when dealing with a new relationship.  We often choose to just ignore what is given to us out of fear of our own internal guidance system or fear.  We choose to not listen to what a person says in the early stages of 'knowing one another' and instead, put on dreamy shades and ideals that we want manifested in a situation/person.  Yes, I am saying that in a way, we set ourselves up for failure in a desire to fulfill our needs.  And when those needs are not met - because the person can't meet them due to their own issues....we wonder what did we do wrong?!

What should we do then?  It's so simple and yet, we so often fail to:

• LISTEN to the other person and what they say and how they say it. 
• LISTEN to your inner voice and what you sense and when it came to you. 
• FEEL your gut and the areas it says 'oh, thatttt may be a problem or concern'. 

People give you clues EVERY day about who they are, what they want, when they want it, and how.  They show you if they are coming or going (or not moving at all).  They openly broadcast where they stand on things and what their fears are or could be.  YOUR choice is to pay attention or to go forward not believing what you initially sensed.

Now, how does this tie into -- "but why did they stop calling?" Or, "why did they get mad?" Or whatever else you may be wondering.... and the answer is... because on some level (that you may not fully understand) there was a trigger of a fear or worry - and this worry / fear may not even be directly associated to you.  And, to make this even better....(or more complicated) they had a choice of FIGHT or FLIGHT. 

• If they chose FLIGHT:  For them, running away from the fear/worry was easier than fighting it (facing themselves and the issue within themselves).  It could also be that the fight was needed elsewhere (something they have to resolve that is more pressing than emotional items with you). 
  
• If they chose FIGHT:  Perhaps they are coming around to you and battling the demons within themselves very slowly. 

Every time, the issue is with the individual.  You may just be a catalyst.  Remember that -- or TRY to.

Next time I'll look into YOUR fight or flight choices and what that could mean about you.

Until then, thank you for the comments and for taking the time to honor yourself and others on a deeper level than what is presented.

Namaste,

Violet

Scared or just aloof?

It's hard to stay focused when you feel less than stellar about a situation or an individual.  If you have found this post, perhaps this message is intended for you.  Take a moment to absorb what is being shared and, please, comment if the material fits. 

Thank you.

It hasn't been too long since you heard from him/her but his sudden departure really has baffled you.  You were just coming to know him/her and then... POOF.  Inconsistent calls.  No clarity of intention.  A bit reserved.  A bit aloof.  Def. intersted, but very unsure of the situation...and now, so are you.

Sheesh.  Why does this keep happening?  Why do the ones you don't want stick like gum and the ones you are curious about...well....they curiously go on hiatus.

In this instance, the feeling I get is that it was not something you did - as much as it is something he/she has not shared / resolved.  While you were daring enough to share a situation and carry it off with balance (albeit you know wht you said and didn't say), they can't work with the same kind of balance.  Although they sure think they can. 

You on the other hand are left to remember the touch, voice, face, and smile.  Not exactly good parting prizes but something.  Frankly, if you could do without it, you'd probably think you'd be better off.  But there has to be a reason for this to have happened.  There has to be a reason for you to feel like you did in such a short amount of time and for such a person.

Now, honestly, do you think they didn't notice it on their end too?

Yeah, it's mutual suffering...but why?!

4/1/09 - In follow-up to this post, I have added a response to the WHY?  Please visit the most recent post for said insights and message.  Thank you for reading.

 

They've Gone Silent - Love Interest

It's about mid-afternoon on a Thursday and that nagging feeling begins to build within me.  As usual, it's right on time.  Not too early, not too late, just perfect.  Just as perfectly annoying too. 

It's doubt, worry, wondering, and then, the realization that maybe, just maybe my love interest could have lost interest in me.

ARGH!  I pace.  I think of the foods that could help me overcome this and assure me that this is not the case.  I grab for my keys to go somewhere, anywhere, and then, I sit down and think.  The thinking usually goes like this:

• They must have met someone else.
• What did I say the last time we spoke/saw each other/emailed/texted? Could that have been it?
• Self-scrutiny:  Maybe it was my hips being too big.  My hair? Am I too old?
• I should have been more (or less) talkative.

This continues for about an hour - or as long as I sit there and ponder or stare at the boob-tube and deeply long for one of the Madison Avenue images to truly be my own.  You know, like the sickening Pillsbury 'biscuits for two' campaign (oh that really killed me when it was an active ad).  Anyway, I sit and stew in my own scrutinizing thoughts and feel worse by the minute. 

I've had to learn the hard way on how to overcome this angst.  I've given up many hours of joy and peaceful states to reach nothing.  I became an expert and scrutinizing moments and reaching not one single solution.

UNTIL NOW.  That almost reads like an informercial. But really, hang with me here, it's not. 

I have come to realize that the questions I ask about why a love interest has distanced has NOTHING to do with the actions taken by the love interest as much as it is my own view of my behaviour and self.  My own experiences coming to roost and asking me "are you satisfied with yourself and your behaviour".

Think on that for a moment. 

Re-visit your self-analyzing questions and ask if you are judging yourself or the actual situation. 

Are the questions/beliefs true about YOU or about THEM?

Are you assuming and creating exits or panic bombs in order to judge yourself more harshly or did the events you are viewing true and actual occurences?

If things about you have come forth in your 'Spanish Inquisition-like thoughts", what is it going to take from you to change your behaviour?  Remember, you cannot change another person's actions/behaviours; you can only change yours and in turn, they modify their reactions to you.  So, what is it that has come forth that you are unhappy with yourself about and requiring to change/modify?

Be honest.  After all, pacing, eating, rummaging through memories and past statements takes time - be sure to get true answers on YOURSELF and not on assumptions about someone else.

Namaste,

Violet

Do not panic - this too shall pass. But how?

On some days you wake up and you think:  Now what do I do?

As of late this question could apply to your employment situation and your possible economic down turn.  Or even worse, it could apply to your fears about the economy and the country as a whole.  Regardless, it all ends up tying into your well-being.  It's not surprising that with the constant state of worry felt by the now 5 million unemployed Americans, this is bound to hit home to you as well.

However, we can't panic.  YOU can't panic.  You must find a way to resolve your worry and expend the now pent up energy that this situation has caused.  But how?  One day and hour at a time. 

If you have lost your job in the recent months it has become difficult to maintain your routine or way of life.  If you are like the few, you may be exhausting your savings with the hope that a new job comes before you are down to your last penny.  This is scary.  I know.  But, you must continue forward and it may become overwhelming to search for jobs for hours and find nothing.  Or hear the news and become disappointed.  So, I am suggesting the following:

Every morning, wake up before 8 and prepare your morning tea or coffee.  Devote 2 hours to your job search and resume sending.  Make a list of the people or places you must go to and call to get certain things accomplished during the day.  Take care of those activities early in the day so that by noon your MUST DO list is accomplished.  Then...take a break.

When I say 'take a break' I mean, ease your mind and stressors and do something that does not make you feel unworthy or unwanted or challenged by the existing economic situation.  Go for a walk at a park (walk to the park if you can).  Take 2 hours and go to the beach to breathe and relax.  Take a few minutes and visit your local library - check out the DVD section, CDs, or magazine rack.  Check out a few items and books that are pleasureable.  Devote 2 hours to yourself and your interests. CONTINUE TO FIND JOY IN YOUR EVERY DAY.

Once you have pampered yourself for the given time, return to your job hunt.  Return to your networking efforts, but always remember to give yourself at least 2 hours of rest and reward for the emotional and taxing efforts of the job hunt.

Remember, this too shall pass and every day you are doing something to help it pass. 

With positive support and love,

Violet