Dilani Diva ~ Strings of the Heart

 

We all want something or another. A better day. Less rain. More money, more joy. A more fullfilling relationship..

Many of us seek love, but we are crushed and torn with our presant and our past. We sometimes even unknowingly hold on to the memories. Projecting fear and anger into our footsteps ahead and killing th essence of true love that awaits us.

Here are some pointers to change this situation.

If you are at a threshold of a new venture weather it be love or life. Look at it for what it is. Where are you in it? In your Spirit, and in your Mind. If there is some anger or thoughts are that painful recognize it. Then you can change it from within.

The first step is to let go of the emotion that you have towards it.

Now the memory is hard to let go of . I agree. But today utter a prayer of supplication to God. Ask him specifically to help you let go of this emotion. Instead of anger or bitterness think of hope. Place a light around your spiritual mind when you pray about this. Breath deeply and let go of the pain.

Today I speak of the word “ Mercy” ---to forgive others even if they have wronged you. With this way of thought you can be powerful. It is the first step of prepearing to receive your blessings.

Mercy sets us free. From what was and helps us in the what is. Be specific in your mind about what you are letting go of. But do not place yourself above the other person in your mercy. You are side by side with them. It is ONLY their action that you forgive. For as you all know we are “all” made in the image of God, we are one in his site . We are not better or worse from each other.

I work with many of you to recognize what it is that is holding your power to move forward in love light and truth. For keeping your hands free from pain helps you to gather those gifts of love hope and joy that you have been praying for.

Your hands must be free to accept . To receive and to live that life of great abundance.

Do you have questions about your past? About your today? If you do then I can channel my guide Lianna to help us recognize them. I will then help you to let it go . Gently and caringly and move your spirit forward in order to receive.

For we are intended to be people of Love, People of Power and People of light...

Let us be so. Mindfully, and prayerfully

For those who seek this it is and shall be given unto them.

Namaste

Dilani Diva

The Art of “Effective Communication”


“ A smile speaks louder than words,- Silence speaks wonders”

Everyday we communicate with many aspects of our body and spirit. It is easy to forget that our arms and legs and head and everything else sets a tone, and gives a message.

There are many sorts of messages that fly past us, and by us everyday. Messages of love,kindness, healing, hate, anger... the list can go on and on.

What are you and I trying to communicate today?

Hmmm well lest just think about it. Is it being handled well in our daily world ?

I like to take a simple example of these rather interesting political figures.

There is always a promise us a better life; and yet they yell and scream from their podiums. They run the next man down and never address how to eradicate problems and bring about solutions. So how does their message sound to me ( just to me, please note ) it is contradictory and rhetorical, and most of the time I never listen.

If they want my help I prefer them speak to me about good intentions. Speak to be about how in simple ways we can make this situation better. Stand tall and strong in their shoes and speak for themselves. Their beliefs and their vision. What is their dream??? I would love to hear it.!!!!

Such is a art of non communication . When all I hear is a message of ridicule and anger. There is no healing and moving forward in that.

So I have been contemplating on a few ways you and I can bring about “Effective communication” into our lives.

RUNNING SOMEONE DOWN AIN'T FIXING A PROBLEM

No one likes to be told that they are wrong. Even though they may be wrong . A wise teacher once said. “Focus on the solution not the problem.”
So it is better for you and me to suggest a better way or even another way of handling the problem.

SPEAK KINDLY, and CLEARLY.

Yelling at the top of our lungs is only a waste of great energy, and is a fuel to great stress. Most of the time you will not be even heard !!!! No one wants to listen to someone that is yelling or whining all the time.

It is like the dog next door. When he does not stop his yelping and wining you want to just smack him to size. - I do anyway. :) and I love dogs .

TRY NOT TO CROSS YOUR HANDS OVER YOUR CHEST

The way we stand and speak has great effect of how we are received. Covering your body  with your arms will only create a barrier between you and the other person. Drop your hands and take a deep breath.
For me, I listen more to those who make creatively good and wise suggestions. Yelling just gets on my nerves. So keep the voice in a place where there is a sense of harmony created. Speak your truth kindly, not trying to belittle the person or persons who are around you

Appear to BE A GOOD LISTENER.

I find this sometimes hard to do since people have a tenancy to rattle on. and most of the time you already know what they are going to say.

However as a polite gesture let the other person speak for a while. If you feel they are going on and on down a lonely track gently raise your hand and say something like “ I get it” and then move on to the next matter. Firmly with some authority.

LISTEN TO YOUR FACE.

Funnily our faces communicate with others all the times. Feel if your face is it sad, angry happy.... are you smiling?  frowning ? or are you so angry that your poor eyes are all red. :)

Specially if you are talking to a loved one, that would not be a very productive conversation. and if you are talking to your boss. You should totally take a water break.

Try to keep a moderate expression that is the best form of energy. you will be well received.

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO SAY.

Think about your intent. Your words . How are you placing your point across. and constantly and gently come back to it. that way if they miss you once then they will hear you the 2nd time.

ALWAYS TAKE TIME TO ANSWER

Don’t yell back . Listen . Then reply.

Good luck with your world of great communication today.

Well wishes to all
Dilani Diva

The greatest of these is LOVE.

As most of you know I counsel the many aspects of love in my everyday teachings. All of us are faced with the many facets of love. Some of us more torridly than others.

Some of you want to know the potential of your relationships.
Others want to know how to find your true love.
and among them there are those that are hurting from lost love.

Yes handling lost love is not easy. It is almost like embracing the feelings of death. There is no way around it. Weather your lover has cheated on you. Or if he has walked away. Or if he is plainly not available the pain does not seem to get better.

In working through these various scenarios we must acknowledge the pain and the loss. That is the first step of healing.

The next step is to see why you loved. The feeling of love is a profound experience. The feelings of love make us desire to do wonderful things. when we are in love we can feel on cloud nine. we are elevated to great places. In our mind and in our spirit and this is a great way to reach the highest potential of your heart and spirit. This state of being is not found in our everyday life but only when we feel the delights of love.

This is one aspects of Gods wonderful creation. the feeling of love. This is a doorway to our higher self. 

and so through love we become better and finer people.

However if love is lost then we must be careful how we handle that too. being angry and revengeful and hurtful will only leave a horrible mark on your spirit and plummet you down to deep depression. That is not the best way to you.

Not all lovers work out for the “Now and forever journey” however to have loved and lost is better than never to have loved at all. For you have glimpsed a bit of heaven  on earth. and that no one can take away from you.

So be proud that you helped such great emotions and intentions towards your lover. But if the relationship has not worked out it is better to distance yourself from him or her for a while. It is better to seek truly one who gives you the same love unconditionally. Utter a prayer and once again work on letting your heart be rested.

Avoid angry and vengeful thoughts. Think of only wanting true love in your life and even though at that stage you are not really looking for that “other” special person. be of good courage. For if you have felt love once you will find it again. and this time know that it will be better

Remember that you own your heart and feelings and if you shared a wonderful moment and feeling within you then you were indeed receiving a great blessing.

may Gods blessings remain with you all now and always.
Dilani Diva

THERE IS NOTHING MORE PAINFUL

THANK A HEART

THAT IS TRULY BROKEN.

FOR THE PAIN LAST EVEN THOUGH

WOUND MAY HEAL.

So protect your heart, chose wisely, act graciously,

but most of all.

Love You !

There are many that come to me with this question. It is difficult when we are faced with doubt, in any part of our life and when it is to do with matters of the heart it is even more so. 

There is the physical cheating and then also the emotional cheating. Both are equally dangerous and damaging.
One thing that you can do when it comes to this is, of course ask your favorite reader the question. and then slightly distance yourself till you feel confidant enough to address the situation. 

If you and your partner do not have a verbal agreement on exclusivity then don’t take it for granted. He may be dating more than one. In which case limit yourself to areas in intimacy. It is hard to be the only exclusive one. However it is important to take things for what they are. Sometimes people take a while to get to that place of being monogamous. It is NOT a given these days. 

Even though it is good to wait for them. Waiting for a extended period of time is NOT the best course of action. You an end up being frustrated and bitter. The longest one should give a relationship to develop to a singular stage is approximately about one year. 

If he or she is still seeing others it is better to “have the talk”
Don’t walk away without it. It is better to know the truth even though you may not like to hear it. Sometimes “the talk” will help your partner to know what is on your mind and see if they would like to comply.
That is a good thing for sure. 

If your lover is cheating it is better always to stop giving to the relationship as much as you did before. Try to temper your expectations and see if you can work through it .
Always ask your spiritual leader on how you can communicate better so that you know the truth about your situation and it is also better to ask if it is possible to work things out. 

Remember that time is a gift that we have. and we must use it wisely. To be in a good spiritual space.
Sometimes we have to forgive and forget in order to make it work. In that case please do so.
Other times let go and let God, and in some cases walk away, in order that you may be loved and adored just as you were meant to be. 

I wish you all a loving day. With hope and truth and joy.

Call now for your own personal reading.

Blessings
Dilani Diva

Have you heard the whispers of constant prayer, when you enter the vestibule of a beautiful church? It is a powerful sound. Rising like the waves of healing from the lips of many utterer’s. Creating deep chorus.

I believe in the power of prayer. There are many who have been touched, blessed and healed by this unfathomable power. The healing light and grace that emanates from the groups of prayer is indeed amazing. The energy of the spirit is strong and resounding bounding to the heavens on the vehicle of faith.

I have read and witnessed personal healing. And been in the presence of one, who was called back from the doors of death; simply due to those that knelt in prayer.

It is truly the voice of faith and humility that touches the heart of God. The Creator. of all. and his ever loving hand reaches out with the miracles of healing. How amazing is that ???

The Knowledge of simple human creatures, collectively can bring about such healing to those that are around us. That is a awesome fact . I call it the “power of the riotous collective consciousness”

The secret is in this “collective consciousness” when we pray we are aware of several aspects. We are aware of a subject. The person, persons or events that need to be uplifted, we are aware of God and we are aware of a situation that needs to be improved and blessed. This is what we call mental and spiritual awareness, and therefore the “ Collective Consciousness”

All good that we share with those around us reaches up to the heavens and bring us great showers of blessing. Like the gentle buds of spring. and the gentle colors of flowers that are awaking to the day. How beautiful is that !!!

However just as there is the kind and gentle way of thought. There are those who are at bitter ends with each other. There are countries at war. There are many who are dying in the hands of those who are filled with greed and anger. Their thoughts giving way to vicious and agitated minds.

It is not something that is new. It has been in all past ages. This vicious and angry thoughts create as much destructive energy as the joyful and kind thoughts that create a loving energy.

This negative energy needs to find a home. Most of the time it goes into the universe and affects nature itself. The gentle balance of the mother earth is cruelly affected by these energies.

We are all chosen to have such thoughts on a daily basis. Imagine if half the world thought and angry thought how terrible the effects of that would be on nature. and it has been so. In this case the collective consciousness is that which is disruptive. It is not what God encourages or endorses. However it prevails very apparently around us.

There are many that evoke fear today. This fear too feeds and thrives and sets forth these negative flares of energy that is very disruptive.

It has created havoc throughout the world. You see it in the disasters of Japan. You see it in the storms and the fires and burns and destroys and disrupts. Yes, nature is indeed trying to regain it’s balance. It is indeed in deep battle with us human kind.

And so the lesson for me today was to understand the power and the pain of this collective consciousness and to share it with those who were around me. It is up to you, ( and me ) how you chose to live your life today. What thoughts you chose to have. If you will forgive someone that has hurt you. Or if you will be kind to someone who needs you today. As for me I think I will chose the simple path of healing and hope that God in his mercy would use me today and always.

Namaste

Dilani Diva

Greetings you Spring lovers. This poem is dedicated to all those who are hurting during this season. Specially remembering those in Japan who are faced with so much loss, and those who are fighting the world with harsh weapons. The lack of love and the abundance of hate to me is very disturbing and today I pray for them who have lost the joy and the simplicity of life due to the wages of war or the ravages of nature. All blessings to them today.

Does it hurt to sing?
When spring comes in..
Painting the world with gentle color,
Love me love me, gentle lover.
and touch those hearts that are broken,
For this season is a lovers token.

Dance now in your heart,
Even though sometimes the light of love
                   eludes you.
It is not far apart,
Only hiding to welcome you to in it’s arms,
and caress you with it’s dainty little charms.
So try and let your heart sing.
and welcome the tender love of spring.

I know how hard it must feel
If your lover is gone
Or your heart is torn,
Like a little wounded bird you will fly
High in the open sky,
But don’t run away,
Don’t cry
For love will find you.
In the light of dawn
and love you once more, till your pain is gone.

For to me there is much healing
Much revealing of love this season.
and let it reign without much reason.
and as the colors of gentle hue
paint your soul with all it’s dew.
Sing again with the gentle breeze
For your lover will see
The beautiful you
the wonderful me.
and with the singing of your heart
a new day is born
and with the dawn of spring.
Don’t cry
But let your heart, just once more
Sing.

Written designed and composed by Dilani Diva
Your spiritual counselor and Psychic Coach.
Blessings to all.

 
Destiny Verses Evolution.

Many clients call and ask me questions such as.

• What are the lessons I have to learn in this lifetime?

• What is my destiny?

• What was I meant to do here ?

These are all profound questions- and yes some of it can be looked at in terms of the present and the past. However, it is apparent that they don’t get or have not yet understood how the spirit works. If they did they would not be asking that.

So let me try and explain.

Our destiny is not a single written path. It evolves with choices that we take. Sometimes there are many choices but you and I chose. This creates the future.
Now I do believe that God has already planned many a path to confront us, and he sees  them. but we are given a choice for each path and the choice is ours, to make.

The path we chose has it’s own segment of learning. weather emotional or spiritual. That is another reason why we have come here to be. To grow and lean and evolve in what we call “ truth” our truth or our path of reaching our truth can be deferent. According to our faith and again our choices. many aspects of our spirit and mind is open or shut to learning and evolving. Each his own.

Evolution takes place no matter where we are. In the body or even in the spirit. We are learning. Some of us chose to become a little wiser. Thus making good choices. Others can take a longer path. making not so good choices, however each of us strives to be or get the best we can. In our own way.

Now our personality and the gifts we have also help to define our path. For example not every one is blessed with a great singing voice. But great singers chose to be great singers because of this gift. Sometimes one may have a gift but if one does not chose to use it one could loose it and it may have not been that fulfilling. I have read fro many that say things such as “ well I love to paint but my full-time job does not give me enough of free time to do so” and so they chose not to . and grumble about it for years. Thus their life path was defined by a choice not to do. Rather than do.

So as you see . Destiny changes according to choice. however the lessons we learn are really spiritual understandings . and that also changes with time. when you were a child and you ate chocolate for the first time you felt something. Now you are an adult and when you eat chocolate you feel something but it is not what you felt when you were a child. such is our learning. and our growing. The lessons of the spirit to me are simple. Love your God with all your heart and and all your soul and love your neighbor as you love yourself. That is not really a very hard thing to do. But as we older the way we love these aspects of our lives and the way we love ourselves also change.

According to the understanding of our spirit we chose to act out our learning. The life lessons are learning surrounds us everyday. It is not a one time experience. It is embedded in the fiber of our lives . In every constant moment, and how we chose to act and be is again our choice. God can help us make that better choice but he is a kind God and does not force our hand.
So yes . There is a destiny within us all. and no matter what we do - we chose.
and we learn ( hopefully ) and we grow. ( or not )
may today bring you great choices and may you chose wisely carefully and prayerfully today and always.
Namaste.
Dilani

Dear Friends,

As a personal counselor I have had many a session with my dear clients who are going through, or have been through tough emotional situations. No one is excluded. I too sometimes face such personal crisis.

The aftermath of such emotional trauma can me rather damaging. Causing some never to feel again and never to love or trust. One must of course realize that even such situations will have it’s endings as all good things in life ebb and flow.

There are many ways of handling such situations. Here are some guidelines that may help you, to move through this period in a faster and more efficient manner.

Take each day as it comes. Look at your day and see what tasks have to be done and cannot be avoided. Like going to work or paying a bill. Don’t avoid it. It will only make things worse. However break your task into little tasks.
For example. Getting out of bed in the morning. Put on some soothing music as you awake and have the pot of coffee already set the night before so you can have a slam of great warm brew in you.

• Just into a warm shower or a cold one, depending in which area of the world you are in . and make it quick. Don’t hang out there.

• If you want to cry. Then have a good cry. when you are stressing and your heart is hurting your body builds up toxins that need to be released. Tears do that well. and so crying several times a day not only heals you wounds but also your body.

• make your task little and small and try to focus on what is ahead of you. If you are driving don’t let your mind wonder. keep trying to notice details on the road. It will help you to stay in tune.

• Wanna jump into bed as soon as you get home. Go for it. sometimes the body needs to rest.

• Try to go out with friends that really know you well. But at the same time who can just listen and me companions to you.

• write down some great motivational words and pop them where ever you are . On your mirror or even in your purse.

• I always go to the good book. and say words such as “ The Lord is my Rock and my Fortress, I shall not be afraid” I love the 23rd psalm, that again is very subjective, so pick your own.

• No every one has the gift of site. But they have the gift of heart. So don’t try to speculate!!!!! Just let the day be. Try to just get through it as best as you can.

As time goes on you will notice that you will gain a better perspective of your situation and therefore you will be able to heal, and handle it and move on. At least the pain in your spirit will not prick like the dickens.
Remember to drink loads of water.
...... and take deep breaths. Throughout the day.
May thoughts and prayers are with you.
and Gods Mercy and love will surround you today and always.
Dilani Diva

During these winter days I love to create warmth and love around me. To those who need a little candle glow and the feeling of being love her are a few things that you can do to enhance that feeling and bring about a sense of well being.

• Place a serene statue in front of you. Make it stone if you can. and light and uncomplicated. The statue of the Buddha is one that is always serene. This is to center your mind and learn to focus without clutter.

• Place pictures of those you love during your happy moments around you. Frame them in easy frames so that you will be able to enjoy and re-live those moments again.

• Reflect optimism - Flowers and beautiful little lamps always bring warmth to a room. Place them inform of a mirror and you will double your joy !

• create peace in your heart with greenery. Add some pot plants around you.

• Give that glow of the candle light by placing floating candles. in a glass bowl. They are great for meditation. Just watch them as they float.

• Create a “ I love “ space i a corner of a large room. Drape a comfy throw over a chair have a lovely lace table cloth over your table. have the books you love stacked i that corner. Get a little foot stool . Relax.

• Paint your room with pastel shades. or decorate it in the same. it will bring about peace.

• Have a little fountain. Let the sound of water drip.

have a little pet to snuggle and enjoy your day.

Blessings to you.
Dilani

Many of us wonder why Life sometimes seem to take a unwanted curve on the road. We imagine that it is indeed our ill luck, or it is the devil playing his old dirty games, or we question why God allows such things to happen to us.

Many of these thoughts are indeed well founded. Even as spirit filled beings we have a side of us that is always tempted , That is dark. In all cases we chose which side we are on. The dark side or the light. and sometimes we just stick with the gray. Sometimes this is not a bad thing if we don't know what we are getting into :)

There are many reasons why bad thing's can happen to you. It could be just that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Life is not always governed by spiritual events. In other words there are random things that happen to all of us. Just cos the world goes round.

However there are also very bad things that happen to us humans. Floods, Fires, Hurting of the heart and pain of the spirit. The list can go on and on ....

As usual we ask why God let this happen. Well, God does not always interfere. He has given us the freedom to act and choose . What we do and what we say. This is the powerful thing. That we actually create energy by our voice thoughts and actions. You may not be saying anything bad, however if you have negative thoughts in your HEAD it can be as dangerous spiritually. For these thoughts create negative energy.

Now sometimes God does allow us to go through stuff. Remember we  were born to create experiences and to also experience functioning within the framework of the body. We also came to create heal and spread the love of God to those other spiritual beings who had not yet experienced the love of God. We are here to create Love. However to be deeper in the spirit and to have character to stand through the tough times of life we too have to go through some hard time. It is only then that we learn and understand the pain and the true value of hope love and joy.

Without spiritual understanding of what can truly destroy we will not only be empty if action but also unconnected to those we are helping on a daily basis.

And so we too have some trials laid on our path. Remember as God said. We will cry in the night but find true joy in the morning. Life will always hold the Good and the Bad in one breath, in one hand and yes sometimes we cannot control what crosses our paths but our journey of pain is shorter and wiser when we handle our hearts and minds with hope and love. Always asking the presence of God and his angels to help us and guide us in our daily life.

I chose to say. " why not me ? " when I see and feel trouble and then I try to handle it with the best forms of thought and deed. Now it is not easy and sometimes I do fall of that cliff and get a huge bump on me head. It happens, but such is life and I will say. "Why not me" Blessings to all and chocolates.

Greetings and Many Blessings to you all. I want to share a special note of thanks for my friends and clients who make me a part of their everyday life. I am grateful to all. Today I am posting a short little list of questions that may help you to plan and envision your new year. If any of you would care of a reading we can use some of these questions as a guideline to our session. If not, Please feel free to print it out and use it. Many of my writings and blogs are to help you and I hope in my own way that I shed some light along your wonderful path. May the universe bring you love peace and happiness this year. Joy and Peace to all. Dilani

YOUR NEW YEAR PLANNING GUIDE 2011

POETRY FOR THE SOUL

As we cultivate peace and happiness in ourselves, we also nourish peace and happiness in those we love -
Thich Nhat Hanh




the time to take a peek into the universe to see why most of it was so.
It is apparent that every time a major political turn takes place the media plays it up ! All this negative thought and criticism of the current situation. Most of the news is filled with such dilemma.
Yes over the last 10 years this country has made some very foolish choices. Some of us agree. and like most other stages of recovery it will take time for these repercussions to be resolved.
Will it happen over night? Highly unlikely. The wealth of this nation has not gone, but still is within the walls of this nation. However it is held by a few. The Rich, have indeed become richer, Sad to say....
Now similar things have happened in the past. History shows us that there was a time when the wealthy ruled the nation. However the ordinary man rose from the sand and educated himself and then shared in some of this wealth. Today the ordinary man has indeed become rather extraordinary due to education. The past patterns therefore cannot remain the same for an extended period of time. The wealth will trickle down to the bottom rungs, in a shorter period of time.
Even though this pattern is still coming through. It is almost as if the nation will shake those who have more and then it will trickle down to the lesser affluent people. Thus it will be .....
Even though this will still take a little time I am quite ashamed and annoyed at the media and the politicians that are still trying to maintain this spirit of uncertainty. Taking a tone of creating fear and uncertainty. Shame on them. This nation has too many wealthy individuals, to see it fall. We are too interdependent , nation to nation to let the ship sink.
So let us focus on building this nation with it’s old values and endless dynamic visions. After all some of the worlds assets still lies within. Lets not forget all the wealth that God has given us. Remember that God will provide, as he did give us manna while we wondered through the desert.
The way of the spirit is powerful and will rule the way of the flesh.
So lets find ways in our own lives to help our selves and help those around us with kind words and wealthy spirit.
Lets break the habit of fear that reigned for over a decade ! Fear ONLY reaps fear ! It is not a constructive energy . It is a disruptive energy. used to control . Let your fear go and be strong for we are building a better tomorrow Today.
Don’t let the media control you. Find the truth for yourself.
Today. Amen.

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