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You just met an amazing man. He is intelligent, well spoken, sexy and available. Most important, he has a job! Everything seems so right, except for that feeling in the pit of your stomach … the one you would rather ignore. There are times when we all want to throw caution to the wind. Unfortunately the times we ignore this feeling inside are the most important for us to listen. We all hear the intuitive phone ringing, but instead we tune it out!
So why is it so difficult to trust your intuition?
When we meet people for the first time, they tend to put their best feet forward. For example, they will not always reveal their jealous, possessive side or their many undesirable quirks. Instead they might even deny that they having a jealous bone in their bodies. To try to gain your acceptance, they will try to be everything they think you want. Or maybe they are in denial and have not admitted to themselves that they actually have some serious character flaws.
If this is true, then we are faced with an internal dilemma. Everything he or she says sounds wonderful, but inside a little voice says NO. Do you believe what the object of your affection is telling you? After all, he or she seems so sincere, how could you not believe him or her? Or do you trust your gut. How many times have you asked yourself why you did not pay attention to the first impressions you received? If the information is not tangible, sometimes it is difficult to trust. How do you know you are not being paranoid or overly cautious? If you have experienced this feeling before and ignored it, only to have terrible consequences, then it might be time to pay attention.
Intuition can speak to us in many ways. We can have messages in our dreams, such as a lover cheating on us or a warning that we should find the nearest exit. However, sometimes the messages can be unclear or challenging to interpret since dreams oftentimes use symbols rather than exact meanings.
Perhaps we are en route to a specific destination and we just cannot make it there due to an accident, the car breaking down or accidentally driving past the street on which we intended to turn. Sometimes intuition can manifest in the form of a physical ailment, such as an upset stomach preventing us from going out at all. If you always get an upset stomach or have constant fears of leaving the house, it might be something more than intuition and you should probably talk to a licensed professional. But, if the feeling comes on strong or in an unusual way, your subconscious might be trying to tell you something.
There is a quote by Benjamin Franklin, “Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.” Sometimes what we see or hear is an illusion, which is why it is important to trust our own intuitive impressions before entering a relationship.
Below is a list of examples of signs of a negative situation:
• A sick feeling in your stomach or a headache
• Something just feels off, but you cannot put your finger on it
• The hair on your arm standing up
• A dark feeling about the person’s energy that causes discomfort
• Feeling you need to get away from the person or leave the situation
• Feeling drained when you are around the person
So the next time you hear the intuitive phone ringing, be sure to answer the phone!
You have just met an amazing love interest who consumes your
every thought. Nothing else matters, and your friends-well they are around when
you are single, but once you are in a relationship, friends are no longer
important. All that matters is love and you would do anything to ensure this
love lasts forever. Robert Palmer describes the feeling in his song, “Bad Case
of Loving You.” Does any of this sound familiar? If so, then you might have a
case of love addiction.
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Love addicts fantasize about unavailable people, such as
someone who is married or already in a relationship. They obsess over their significant others
when they are in love, confuse needs with wants, are sometimes addicted to
drama, have difficulty walking away from toxic relationships, replace ended
relationships immediately, and always look for happy endings. They jump into
relationships without taking the time to get to know the person. They lead with
their hearts and not with their heads. They can be needy, insecure and
controlling. The control can manifest itself as a projection of guilt on their significant
others, stimulating jealousy, nagging, a feeling of helplessness, or even the
use of sex as a tool to get what they want. Some even play the “caretaker” and
enjoy feeling needed in order to gain control.
Soren Kierkegard, the famous philosopher once said,
“Therefore worldly prudence shouts early and late: look before you love.” The
love addict is so swept away by passion that it is impossible for him or her to
remain rational and grounded. There is something romantic about being swept off
your feet and falling madly in love with someone. The idea of a storybook
romance has been glorified for centuries. After all, that’s what happens in the
movies, right? We have all had those friends who fall hard for someone and then
move on to the next “love of their lives” only a few weeks later. At that
moment, the object of that friend’s desire is more important than anything … that
is until the spell wears off.
In the book, Addiction
to Love: Overcoming Obsession and
Dependency in Relationships by Susan Peabody, the many forms of love
addiction are outlined, along with how to recognize and treat them.
In the movie Fatal
Attraction Glen Close obsesses over Michael Douglas. Like Glen Close, love
addicts believe they have to be with their significant others or die. Some feel
they must always be in a relationship. Others have to be with a particular
person, even if the feelings for that person have died. In some cases, love
addicts do not necessarily obsess over their partners, but the relationship
itself.
In his song, “Addicted to Love,” Robert Palmer describes the many different
ways love addiction can manifest itself. Some love addicts are addicted to the
“high” of the passion. Then once the passion dwindles, these addicts moves on.
The love addict ignores his or her own boundaries, accepts
dishonesty from their partners or has high levels of tolerance for suffering in
relationships.
How do you know if you are a love addict? Ask yourself the
following questions:
Are you needy?
Do you fall in love fast?
When you fall in love do you obsess over the object of your
love or over the relationship?
Do you get involved with almost anyone who shows interest?
Do you try to hold onto a relationship no matter how
unhealthy it is?
Do you find yourself always falling in love with the wrong
people?
When the relationship ends, do you feel life is over or have
suicidal thoughts?
Do you hate the idea of being alone?
Do you find yourself addicted to drama in relationships?
Do you have difficulty saying “no” to your partner?
Do you suffer rather than let go of a relationship?
Do you think a romantic relationship will fix everything?
Are you terrified that you might never find someone special
to fall in love with?
Do you find yourself playing the role of caretaker in the
relationship?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, it might be
time to explore the possibility that you have an addiction and seek help.
There is hope for the love addict. If treated, love
addiction can go into remission.
Some love addicts are automatically drawn to people who are
needy. There is a strong desire to take care of someone or feel needed in order
to control the outcome by buying love or making the significant other dependent.
Others choose people who will take care of them.
Unfortunately, the needy type of love addict runs the risk of being in a
relationship with someone who is controlling, dominating or in some cases
abusive. Some are drawn to abusive partners unconsciously, only to have
difficulty leaving the relationship down the road.
Then there are the love addicts who are drawn to
artificially beautiful people or someone who is handsome. In many cases, the
beautiful people are only beautiful on the outside and lack everything on the
inside. It’s important to know the person within rather than being swept away
by “love at first sight.” The love addict bonds to the idea or fantasy instead
of the person.
Love addicts also need to watch out for people who remind them
of their parents, especially if their parent/child relationships were
unhealthy. In some cases, childhood trauma or abandonment may have played a
substantial role in the cause of their insecurities and dependency issues.
In Addiction to Love
by Susan Peabody, she states, “…love addicts always start out looking for
someone to love, and end up with an unloving partner instead.” Since love
addicts fear abandonment and cannot stand the thought of being alone, they
often race into relationships too quickly, overlooking the warning signs of an
unhealthy relationship.
Boundaries are critical for the love addict, whether the
boundaries are sexual, emotional, physical, spiritual or relational.
Understanding the types of personalities that trigger obsessive feelings, such
as fear of abandonment, negative feelings, need for constant reassurance,
bonding too quickly or fear of letting go (to name a few) will assist in making
the choice to avoid the relationship altogether.
Making changes is not always easy, but recognizing and
admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery.
So how does one have a healthy relationship or break the
cycle of love addiction?
First and foremost, you must realize that being single is
not the end of the world. In order to have a healthy relationship with someone
else, it is important to develop a healthy relationship with yourself.
You must face the fear of being alone. While you are single, you should develop
interests, pursue hobbies, read books, spend time with friends, be adventurous,
exercise or journal about your feelings.
You should celebrate having the freedom and time to do whatever you
want. Yes, there are advantages and
disadvantages to being single just like there are to anything else in life. If
you learn to be content with being single, it will be easier to relax and not
obsess when you are in a relationship.
Recognizing the warning signs in advance will help you avoid becoming
swept up in an unhealthy relationship. Below is a list of helpful tips for how
to start a relationship:
- Take
time getting to know the person. Develop a friendship and discover whether
or not this is someone whom you can trust and who makes you feel
safe. Ask: Are you able to count on
this person?
- Hold
off on sex.
- Avoid
being blinded by emotions. Put romantic love into perspective. Lead with
your head and not your heart. If your heart is feeling as if you have met
the man of your dreams and your head is pointing out his temper, his
controlling tendencies, the fact that something is not right about this
relationship, then pay attention to what your head is trying to tell you.
- Know both
what you want and what you do not want. Make a list of things that are
important to you in a relationship, along with a list of things you will
not tolerate.
- Look
for someone who you do not need to change in order to meet your needs.
Find someone already healthy.
- Look
for someone who is happy with you just the way you are and does not try to
change you.
- Avoid
making excuses if your significant other is unable to take care of himself
or herself.
- Know
when to walk away and take action immediately.
- Set boundaries
in the relationship and stick to them.
- When
entering a committed relationship, discuss important topics with your
significant other. These can include
the future, fidelity and what some call “ground rules” of the relationship.
- Do not
panic if your partner pulls back, but if your partner does not return …
understand that it is time to move on.
Look for recovery support groups either online or in your
community. There are some wonderful
resources available that will help break the cycle.
If you’re single or dating, the odds of this magical man crossing your path are fairly high. He’s the guy that says all the right things and possesses amazing charm. He’s polished, well spoken and understands women---the kind of guy you might consider taking home to the family.
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Some may refer to these men as “pickup artists” while others call them “players.” They have one thing in common: the ability to morph into whatever suits our needs in order to accomplish their mission. The modern day magician is charming, persuasive and oh-so-hard to resist…but even when we suspect we’re being played, why do we fall for them hook, line and sinker? In a perfect world, one could hope to find a man who is upfront, and when we ask, “Are you a player?” that he would actually answer honestly. But, what man is going to admit that he is not looking for a real commitment, has dishonest intentions, doesn’t live up to promises, lacks empathy or is unfaithful? Instead they inherit the art of creating illusions and turning into con-men.
One female shared a story of a man she met locally. They had so much in common, immediate chemistry, long conversations and he was amazingly attentive with the “utmost respect for women,” which he credited to growing up in a household full of women. (Be careful when they start excessively complimenting our gender or bragging about their relationship with mom….huge red flag!) He mentioned owning a dog, which again made him a caring individual in this female’s eyes. After all, he respects women and he’s a dog owner! Hmmm. During their many conversations she inquired as to who walks the dog when he was away, since his job in the police force required he work 16-hour days. He became a little nervous on the phone as he admitted his “wife” walked the dog when he was at work! Of course, he cleverly explained away the absent wedding ring which was “in the shop” the day they met. He even made a feeble attempt at trying to win her affection after confessing the wife, which he hoped would not ruin what was developing between them.
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While writing this article I tried gathering information from the male population. The first male I asked suddenly had to hang up the phone. Something else came up which was much more important than answering a few questions about players.
The next man became hostile as he explained that women know they’re getting played. However, I later managed to get a sensitive, candid interview about the mind of a player from this gentleman.
A few men confessed to being former players. One man stated that “women sometimes date players because they like a challenge. Players tend to be mysterious and women are sometimes attracted or intrigued by the player.”
So why do men feel the need to play women? According to men, there are three types of players:
1.) The first type of player might not be interested in playing the female, but she makes it easy for him to play her. Sometimes a man will date a woman and discover that she’s not up to his standards, but he continues to “string her along” because he enjoys what he’s getting from the relationship. Sex!
2.) The second type of player is truly interested in playing women. According to one male, “Women are looking for the right guy and if he says all the right things and becomes that guy, he can go far.”
3.) The third type of player is being cautious. Sometimes men don’t know if the woman is playing them, so men play back.
A few men admitted that more women wanted them during their playing days than after cleaning up their act. It’s a sad state of affairs when we actually prefer the bad boys more than the clean cut guy-next-door type.
Why do some women get played while others manage to avoid these men?
A woman who doesn’t know what she wants is going to get played. When a woman is more aggressive and detail oriented, meaning she states her expectations in the very beginning, there is less chance of getting played. So maybe the concept of men loving temperamental women is true?
Are we supposed to have sympathy for the male gender? After all, they have to work so hard at being the modern day magician. According to the guys, if a man wants to be with an abundance of women, he has to play them. If a woman wants to be with a multitude of men, she doesn’t have to do anything. As one man said, “being a player is a very difficult job!” (Can you hear the violin playing in the background?) “You have to be a great liar to keep everything in check and most men tire of the game.” One man admitted to taking notes in an attempt to keep track of the many women he dated back in the day, and of course he wasn’t proud to admit some of the tricks of the trade. His intent was to avoid hurt feelings by not getting the facts mixed up. If the truth be told, not all players are on a mission to conquer and destroy women.
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Below are a few pointers from former players on how not to get played:
- Pay attention to the signs: Nine times out of ten, a woman is more intelligent than a man, but they still get caught up in the game.
- Ask all the questions when you’re not drinking: A man will fidget when he’s lying and it’s better to monitor his actions or reactions when sitting in a coffee shop as apposed to a bar. Most people (in general) will do something to give themselves away when lying.
- Tell him to take the sunglasses off! There is a reason poker players wear sunglasses. If he’s wearing them---run don’t walk!
- Figure out where he is in his life: If he’s already been a player, then chances are favorable that he’s moved away from that stage.
- Don’t give it up too fast! Most guys will say anything to get a woman into bed, so make him wait. If he’s serious about you, he will wait as long as it takes. If he makes a fuss, then he just wants you for the sex. As one man said, "Men are predators. Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place."
So the next time that smooth talking guy tries to sweep you off your feet, make sure he passes the test with flying colors. As the saying goes, “give a man enough rope and he’ll hang himself!”
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The relationship changed directions like a school of fish
detecting pressure changes in the water.
All of the sudden your relationship feels as though it were
hit by a tsunami and you’re in a quandary as to what caused the shift. According to Karen Rauch Carter, author of
“Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life,” the cure can be as simple as rearranging
the furniture or clearing away the clutter.
The term feng shui means
“wind-water” in English. This ancient
Chinese art relates to object placement and environmental design. Evidence has shown that feng shui has been
around over 4,000 years. One basic concept of feng shui is that everything in
your home acts as a mirror image of your life, similar to the theory that you
are what you eat!
The Bagua
From Feng Shui Palace
The purpose of feng shui is to locate areas in the home that
have good “qi” (pronounced “chi”), which means energy. Items
or furniture are strategically placed
in specific areas in order to attract positive energies into your life.
The
home is divided into nine categories, which include relationships and
love. For those of you with a little feng shui
knowledge,
“Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life” uses a type of feng shui that
doesn’t
involve a compass. According to Karen Rauch Carter, problems such as
commitment
issues, lack of trust, or a fizzling sex life can be attributed to
pictures of
ex beaus, photographs of a woman alone, one pillow or night stand
(instead of
two), a toilet in your relationship section, or anything that says,
“single” or
“alone.” If there is a board game sitting in relationship corner of your
home
or room…that might explain why you constantly attract men who play
games. If
the toilet is located in your relationship section, it might not be a
coincidence that your relationships somehow go down the toilet! Before
you
start hunting for a new home with better qi, try a few of Karen Rauch
Carter’s
simple feng shui cures: it can’t hurt. Maybe placing that cactus in the
corner
wasn’t such a good idea, unless of course you want him to leave!
Many times the calls I receive are
not so much about getting a prediction as they are about getting validation on
something the caller feels inside. I think we all need a little validation now
and then. So why is it so challenging to listen to the still small voice in our
head? I wrote a blog a while back called
"Paying Attention to the Signs" and in the blog I discussed the many signs all
around us. I felt the need to dive into
this topic again (a little deeper) since it really is a struggle for many.
A few months ago I gave a caller
a prediction that her love would return.
At that point things were looking bleak. I told her to ask her angels
for a sign, so she said a little prayer asking for something that might give
her hope. A day or so later she crossed paths with one of his relatives, but she wasn’t sure if that was the
sign. I suggested she ask for another
sign. Again another relative appeared. She continued to ask for signs and each time odd
things happened, but she questioned whether or not it was her imagination. Well the three month wait I predicted ended
up being six months, but he did return. The
cards kept showing he was coming back and if it wasn’t for the signs she kept receiving,
I think we both might have given up!
Many of you have heard me say
that the most honest voice you will ever hear is the voice that comes from
within. So why is it so hard for us to listen? Why do we put our fate in
someone else’s hands? Why can’t we accept what is right in front of our
eyes? There’s an old saying my mom used
to tell me, “Don’t believe anything you hear and only half of what you see." When we ask for an answer from above and it
comes in the form of a feather, a thought, a song or some other mystical
message, what do we believe? How do we know that sign was for us?
Right now I’m in the middle of
making an important decision. I took my
own advice and asked for a sign, but I made it almost impossible for the answer
to be yes <big grin>. I had a hair
appointment scheduled in a couple weeks.
It’s not easy to get a hair appointment with my hairdresser at the last
minute, which is why I have to schedule appointments way in advance. So I asked my angels to give me a sign in the
form of her having an available appointment a week earlier (the impossible, I
thought). She called back within a
couple hours and said she just happened to have an available appointment. I decided I needed another sign. The next day I was out on a boat in the
ocean, trying to overcome seasickness when the boat immediately made a quick
circle around something in the water. I
jumped up to see what all the commotion was about and as I looked out the
window I saw a hammerhead shark swimming around. I stood there frozen with fear
and just about jumped out of my skin when someone came around the corner. I can’t tell you how happy I was once the
boat returned to the dock!! When I got home I looked up sharks in my book, “Animal
Spirit Guides” by Steven D. Farmer. The
shark actually shows up when we are “especially sensitive and cautions us to
be careful what environments and situations we expose ourselves to.” It tells
us to “swim through our emotions fluidly so as not to get stuck in any one
feeling.” It’s also a sign to “maintain
our dignity and self respect no matter who or what we encounter.” Last but not least, “it’s a sign to notice a
heightened ability for discernment and discrimination, sorting out what’s right
and what’s not right for yourself.”
Sometimes when I’m really stuck (like
now) and I can’t seem to make heads or tails of which is the best path to take,
I turn to my Catholic upbringing and do a nine day Novina Prayer. For me, prayer is a form of meditation and
meditation is another effective way to hear the voice within. Meditation can be something different for
everyone. One of my relatives argues
that an afternoon nap is a wonderful form of meditation; I’m not sure that
really counts. However, asking for a
message in our dreams is a great way to get a dialogue going with Spirit.
I look forward to hearing your
thoughts!
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
P.S. The information and advice given on this blog is not a substitute for
professional advice, self-help or assistance programs, or any other
professional treatment that you would normally receive from a licensed
professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist, accountant or financial
advisor.
I just wanted to let everyone know I am once again offering email readings. Sometimes there is just not enough time during one call to pull the answers from the cards. Email readings are perfect for answering those questions that need some extra time. In my readings I do automatic writing as well as looking at your question from several different angles in order to channel the most accurate answers. Email readings are also helpful for those of you who forget to take notes! LOL
The prices are as follows:
Time Frame or Yes/No Reading: $10
One Question Reading: $25
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To purchase a reading, please send an email with your first name and the first name of any people related to your reading. If the name involves a job, please state the name of the company or first names of people related to the company. In order to provide accurate readings, I must have names. If the question relates to property, I need the name of the street. I'm not interested in birthdays, but it always helps me identify people in the reading if I have astrological signs. Thanks!
Please expect to receive your reading within 24-48 hours. I will send your reading via pay to view.
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
Dreams play an important role in
our soul growth.
Over the past month
I’ve received many calls requesting assistance with interpreting dreams.
However, understanding the language of our
dreams is not an easy task.
I always look forward to falling
asleep at night, in hopes of uncovering another answer about the past or a
warning of what’s to come in the future.
Many of my dreams have been prophetic, although very hard to interpret
since understanding the metaphors takes some work. Other dreams have not made any sense, but
there is a familiarity about them that uncovers a memory of long ago. Over the years, I have learned to pay close
attention to my dreams.
Where do we go when we
dream?
According to Marilyn Barrick,
author of “Dreams, Exploring the Secrets of Your Soul” our dreams provide
insight into the expression of our unconscious, challenging situations in our
lives, soul lessons, messages from spirit, past life recall and wisdom needed
for future events.
Each person, object, place or
event can represent an aspect of our own life.
While we are asleep each night our higher self stages a drama, which
includes all the parts of ourselves. The goal is to resolve a problem or
provide insight into our soul’s destiny or sometimes teach us lessons. Figuring out the lessons and remembering the
dreams can be a little more challenging.
Don’t disregard the dream because it doesn’t make sense or seems off the
wall, just write it down for interpretation later.
According to Deepak Chopra we all
have Alzheimer’s, meaning we come into this life and our memory is erased. We may encounter situations that seem
familiar, but we’re not quite sure why.
Sometimes our dreams provide a window to the soul and the many secrets
of our past lives.
Make note of if you find yourself
dressed in different clothing, in a different time period or recognize people
in the dream, but they look different.
These types of dreams can shed insight into a past life. Other times, our emotional responses in the
dream can represent feelings which stem from childhood experiences.
Pay attention to reoccurring
dreams. Sometimes repetitive dreams can
show us we have more to learn about a particular lesson. Reoccurring dreams can reveal inner truths
about our soul, as well as giving insight into possible options on our journey.
Our dreams also help us look at
the masculine and feminine aspects of our personality. Through our dreams we can learn about our
hidden nature by interpreting our inner self or other side of our personality. Dreams
provide a door or lesson showing us the way out of certain situations.
If your dreams cause fear, call
on Archangel Michael to protect you.
When you get lost in a bad dream that leaves an uncomfortable feeling,
try changing the ending once you wake up. By doing this you are opening yourself
up to empowerment as well as the possibility of positive changes in your life.
If you wake up feeling at peace, this is
a sign that you are in sync with your soul.
While writing this blog, my 94
year old grandmother pointed out that during her dreams friends who have
departed often visit her. It’s not
uncommon to receive a visit from someone who has passed on.
Keep a journal by your bed and
record the dream as soon as you wake up.
Make note of major themes, your reactions, people you recognize, objects
and surroundings. Make your own dream
dictionary. Your interpretation of symbols might be completely different from the
standard meanings. Remember your dreams
are all about you, so let your creativity flow.
I notice when my chakras are
balanced, I’m much more open to psychic messages presented in dream state. If I want to know an answer, I will ask for a
message in my dream before I go to sleep and the message usually arrives that
same night. Be sure to also ask to
remember the dream!
Through our dreams we can learn
about our life purpose and unlock the many mysteries of our soul! I look forward to hearing your thoughts!
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
The information and advice
given on this blog is not a substitute for professional advice, self-help or
assistance programs, or any other professional treatment that you would
normally receive from a licensed professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist,
accountant or financial advisor.
Ever have drinks or lunch with
someone who spent the entire time unloading every possible problem? In the end they walked away feeling wonderful
and you walked away feeling incredibly drained and depressed. Maybe there was a time you felt someone was interfering with your ability to think rational thoughts or make
you believe something about yourself that just wasn’t true.
In everyday life whether we
realize it or not, we need to constantly check in with ourselves and stay centered
or grounded. You wouldn’t get in a car
without fastening your seatbelt or go into the cold night air without a jacket,
right? Protection is essential in order
to survive. This past week I’ve
received so many calls regarding painful situations and the common theme I have
discovered during these calls are that we all need to focus on getting grounded. When we are grounded our annoyance level
decreases, our negative beliefs about ourselves start to disappear and painful
energy has no room in our bodies. I’m in
the middle of reading a great book called “Your Aura &Your Chakras-The
Owners Manual” by Karla McLauren and in her book she discusses some wonderful
techniques for getting grounded. One
grounding technique she uses is very simple.
Imagine a long cord coming out of your first chakra (see my blog on
Healing Quick Fixes to locate your first chakra), extending down to the center
of the Universe while imagining all negative energy leaving your body and
traveling down the cord. She also talks
about creating a room inside your head with four walls, a floor and
ceiling. You can hang a “Do Not Disturb”
sign outside the room and go to this place whenever you need to get centered. She recommends saying your name out loud
three times to bring yourself back into a grounded place while doing these
exercises. We can ground our homes, our
cars, our computers, etc. When you are
grounded you are living in the present moment.
Grounding your cars and computers is especially effective if you have constant
difficulties on a regular basis. She
warns not to ground other people’s possessions, homes or cars because you may
be interfering with their karma.
Another fascinating book is
“Psychic Protection” by Ted Andrews. In one
chapter, he talks about readings and different red flags to watch out for when
getting a reading, along with how to discern what is false from what is
real. He also recommends using caution
when accepting a gift from someone you suspect of having negative energy,
because even gifts can be charged with negative intentions. It’s a good idea to return or dispose of all
possessions connected with a person in order to sever the ties on a psychic
level. Personal items serve as a link or doorway to
you. Time spent in nature
is also a great way to ground, along with warding off attacks. Bless the person and forgive yourself as well
as the attacker. Brown candles are great
for grounding and stabilizing. Try
burning a white candle to determine the presence of negative energy. According to Ted Andrews, “If it smokes a
great deal and the smoke is dark, negativity is being burned off. As the smoke dissipates and the candle burns
clean, it indicates the environment is clean as well.”
Burning Sage in each room will
help remove harmful energies from your home.
If you find yourself in a
situation that threatens your comfort level, remember to cross your feet and bring
your hands together in your lap with your fingers touching to create a boundary
as well as protection from people trying to take away your energy. When feeling depleted, imagine the golden sun
above your aura, just over your head, and feel the warmth of your gold
sun. This gold sun represents the
infinite amount of energy available to you, which not only helps in healing but
also restoring your energy.
By understanding techniques to
bring yourself back to center, you can save much time and energy spent on
repairing the damage caused by unhealthy situations.
I hope this helps & I look
forward to hearing your thoughts!
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
The information and advice
given on this blog is not a substitute for professional advice, self-help or
assistance programs, or any other professional treatment that you would
normally receive from a licensed professional such as a lawyer, doctor,
psychiatrist, accountant or financial advisor.
I decided to write a blog focusing on metaphysical healing & I hope all of you find this useful. Please note these little remedies are no substitute for professional advice or treatment. Enjoy!
Chakras:
Concentration of energy within a living being, situated in specific parts of the body resembling a sphere, funnel or spinning cone in shape. Chakras are energy centers which receive, store and radiate life force energy. Many books and written material only mention seven chakras, but we actually have a few more that are rarely mentioned. I’m only focusing on the major seven in this blog.
Color, Crystals & Candles:
Ever have one of those days where you were drawn to a particular color? Maybe you opened the closet and decided on the blue shirt instead of the green, or maybe it was the other way around. Intuitively our body knows what it needs and without our knowledge we are naturally drawn to healing colors.
Red: Symbol of love, passion, wealth and expressions of primal life force. Red corresponds with the 1st chakra (Root) at the base of the spine, which governs sexuality and all basic survival needs, such as food, shelter, money, work, etc.
- Red Candle
- Red felt placed on the chakra (base of spine) is helpful in clearing blocks.
- Garnet works for clearing the 1st chakra, as well as lifting depression.
Orange: Symbol of joy & creativity, can help attract things you want into your life. Orange is associated with the 2nd chakra (Sacral), pelvic area just below the navel, relating to your emotional experiences, flow of emotions within you and relationships with others.
- Orange Candle
- Orange felt place over the 2nd chakra helps clear any blockages
- Amber, Citrine, Carnelian, Orange Calcite & Topaz are the crystals associated with this chakra
Yellow: Represents healing. Yellow is also associated with the 3rd chakra (Solar Plexus), above the naval. This is where you direct emotional needs and desires. The third chakra is also your power center, relating to will and stamina, where you’re giving away your power and how you feel in relation to the world. This is the area where you pick up feelings and emotions of others (clairsentience). Sometimes we naturally protect our 3rd chakra by crossing our arms. I know I do this all the time without even thinking. Many stomach problems are related to the third chakra.
- Yellow felt placed over the solar plexus is very effective in clearing any blockages.
- Golden Topaz, Tigers Eye and Citrine are crystals related to clearing this chakra.
Green: Symbol of growth & movement, stimulating abundance & fertility. Green is associated with the 4th chakra (heart), located in the center of the chest. The heart chakra is the home of the soul. Sometimes when we’re feeling sadness, loss or problems letting go of the past, it can result in 3rd chakra blockages. If this chakra is out of balance, there is likely an imbalance in other chakras since it assists in balancing the other chakras. Signs of an overactive heart chakra are anger, jealousy, blaming others, and over confidence. Signs of an underactive heart chakra include needing constant confirmation of self worth, possessiveness, self doubting, not feeling loved and lacking compassion.
- Green & Pink Candles
- Green felt placed over the chakra assists in clearing the blockages
- Rose Quartz (sleep with it next to your bed to release negative emotions), other crystals include Aventurine, Kunzite & Emerald.
Blue: Symbolizes spiritual understanding and the ability to perceive. Blue is associated the 5th chakra (Throat), governing our ability to communicate and express yourselves, along with being heard by others. This chakra is also related to self image instilled as a child
- Blue Candles (also helps in bringing money)
- Blue felt placed over the throat helps clear any blockages
- Aquamarine, Chrysocolla, Lapis Lazuli, Sodalite & Turquoise are crystals associated with this chakra.
Indigo: Combination of blue and violet, representing the 6th chakra (Third Eye), governing your ability to see. This is the home of your clairvoyance. Through this chakra you are able to understand the behavior of others. This is also where belief systems are stored about yourself and those around you. This chakra is blocked when someone doesn’t want to see or take responsibility.
- Purple candles
- Purple or Indigo felt placed over the 6th chakra
- Amethyst, Blue Calcite, Lapis Lazuli are crystals associated with this chakra
Violet: Both Violet and purple are associated with spirituality, power and mastery. Violet is associated with the 7th chakra (Crown), located at the crown of the head, governing spiritual beliefs and practices, connection to Source, to God along with your sense of purpose. When this chakra is blocked there is a tendency toward headaches, difficulty in “doing,” and a sense of confusion.
- Violet candle
- Violet felt placed over the crown of your head
- Amethyst, Charoite, Clear Quartz, Selenite, Sugilite are crystals associated with this chakra
Negative energy:
A few of you have contacted me recently regarding removing negative energy around you. First of all, there are a few things I want to say on this subject. Before you go out and spend excessive amounts of money removing “dark energy”, please take a moment to hear the voice of reason. The only negative energy around you is the energy you allow into your space.
A basic understanding regarding cycles of energy movement is necessary.
According to the Tao, “every facet of our being is a manifestation of energy.” In basic terms, don’t give the energy power over you. This happens when you focus on the fear. In a previous blog I cautioned against readings that cause fear, and “dark energy” falls into that category. My recommendation, if you really feel you have something funny going on….church would be the first place I would go. Bottom line, light is more powerful than dark. Save your money!! Here are some quick fixes that won’t empty your wallet:
- Sea Salt (local grocery store)
- Sage (burn it around your home, can be found at health food and metaphysical stores)
- Bloodstone, Hematite, Tigers Eye (protective stones, also found at metaphysical stores, ebay is also great for stones)
- Protection Candle (check with your local metaphysical stores, approximate cost should be around $10).
- Call upon Archangel Michael to protect you. I also recommend purchasing Angel & Saint Candles (99 Cent stores are great for the Saint candles).
- If the negative energy is coming from an ex, be sure to dispose of any items associated with this person….at least remove it from your home.
If you want to read more about color and stones, some great books are “Healing with Color” by Ted Andrews and “Crystal Therapy” by Doreen Virtue.
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
The information and advice given on this blog is not a substitute for professional advice, self-help or assistance programs, or any other professional treatment that you would normally receive from a licensed professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist, accountant or financial advisor.
Someone sent this to me not long ago and I just wanted to pass it on. :)
Mother Teresa’s Prayer
People are often unreasonable,
Illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway
If you are kind, people may accuse you
Of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway
If you are successful,
You will win
Some false friends
And some enemies;
Succeed Anyway
If you are honest and frank,
People may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway
When you spend years building,
Someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway
If you find serenity and happiness,
They may be jealous;
Be happy anyway
The good you do today,
People will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway
Give the world the best you have,
And it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway
You see, In the final analysis,
It is between you and God;
It was never between
You and them
Anyway
"We can do no great things -
Only small things
With Great Love."
Mother Teresa
I’m really excited that so many of you have started to explore your intuitive abilities. It’s truly rewarding to watch you grow and gain a deeper understanding of the challenges around you. A few of you have expressed frustration regarding the accuracy of your own readings, so I decided to address some of the many questions I’ve received over the past few weeks in this blog.
Sometimes Spirit tries to communicate messages, but we don’t listen. I’ve noticed that many of you are finding the answers in your readings, but instead filter them out and only see what you want to see. Many times the answer is right in front of you and the ego jumps right in and says, “yes but…” sending you in a downward spiral of negative self talk.
One important lesson in reading yourself is learning to separate your own ego from your higher self. This may sound impossible, but it can be achieved in time. I’m currently in the middle of reading “Soul Psychology” by Dr. Joshua David Stone and in his book he discusses the voice of the ego and the voice of Spirit. Your ego is similar to a bully and it’s time to stop allowing it to push you around. For those of you in painful relationships, ask yourself what is keeping you from walking away. If your answer is, “If I leave, he will be with her” or “If I leave, I will be alone”…it’s time to identify the source and take back your power. I’ve said this before and I will say it again, we can’t change or control the behavior of others; but, we can change our reaction, which will cause change all around us. The first part of changing ourselves is releasing attachment. We are trying to control a situation when we stay attached to a specific outcome. Some situations are not meant to be and life flows so much easier when we achieve a level of acceptance no matter what the outcome.
When you experience fear, pessimism, attachment, dependency, anger, depression, powerlessness, guilt, bad moods, competitive feelings, jealousy, judgment, insecurity or the feeling of being a victim (to name a few), it’s a sign that your negative ego is running your life.
Whether the lesson involves leaving a job or leaving a relationship, you will not know what is waiting unless you first let go. There is an old saying that a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It’s up to you to take that step into the unknown and trust that you are safe, protected & divinely guided. Soren Kierkegaard, a famous philosopher, emphasized that we have a choice and in choosing, we define ourselves. Do you want to stay stuck in a situation or take that first step of empowerment? The choice is yours.
Three years ago I went through an incredibly painful relationship that affected me deeply. As much as I was convinced we were destined to be together, I learned that it could not be in this lifetime or maybe ever. I chose to walk away which wasn’t easy. However through that pain I grew tremendously & I am thankful for the experience because I would not be who I am today had it not been for this individual. Part of evolving on your spiritual path involves forgiveness and gratitude. When Spirit sends a life lesson to you, it’s important to welcome it, see it as an opportunity to grow, and then deal with it appropriately.
Remember your higher self wants what is best for you, so try to seek what is for your highest good. If you are reading cards and one card doesn’t make sense, pull out a second deck and do a spread on that one card to gain more insight. Try to journal your readings, because even though it makes no sense now, it might make sense later. Sometimes the cards will deceive you. When asking a question, remember to call on your angels and guides to assist in bringing the most accurate information.
It is my firm belief that everyone is intuitive. The challenge is learning to trust and open ourselves to messages from Spirit. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
The information and advice given on this blog is not a substitute for professional advice, self-help or assistance programs, or any other professional treatment that you would normally receive from a licensed professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist, accountant or financial advisor.
Many
of us have unanswered questions ranging from why we have unusual phobias to why
we choose certain partners. Maybe the
question relates to the reason behind a weight problem, why you have a fear of
water, or where certain talents were acquired when no one in your family
possesses the same abilities. Perhaps
you are asking why you are interested in someone who is married or why the
person who appeared to be so right turned out to be so incredibly wrong?
It
all seemed so perfect in the beginning…as if you were meant to be
together. You picked up on each other’s
thoughts, connected in a way you never imagined (or maybe you did imagine it)
and then all of the sudden reality dumped a bucket of cold water over your
head.
The other day a caller asked, “How do I erase this man from my mind?” and
I couldn’t help but laugh. It would be
nice if it were that easy! I’m sure we all could think of a few we would like
to erase.
Speaking
of erasing…I recently ran across a wonderful book called “Karmic Healing” by
Djuna Wojton and if you flip to Chapter Eight, there are some helpful tips on
expediting the erasing process.
Oftentimes those mind boggling relationships are nothing more than
unresolved soul issues from a previous life.
According to Djuna Wojton, karmic relationships can appear in a few of
the following ways:
Karmic
Red Flags: Relationships involving hazardous conditions, meaning they
actually cause harm.
Karmic
Replays: The same situation repeating itself in this life, although the
names may have changed. Basically, you
didn’t learn in the last life, so you get another chance….sounds exciting, but I think I’ll pass on this one.
Karmic
Shadows: A relationship that helps you get in touch with a part of
yourself that has been kept in the dark.
These types of relationships help address patterns you might fail to
realize, such as attracting partners who have the same issues including fear of
commitment, different sexual orientation, different life goals, etc. However, the issue might not be your partners
fear of commitment but instead your own fear.
Karmic
Flip Flops: Relationships where you switch roles. How many of you have dated a man who was
overly in touch with his emotions or emotionally clingy and you-the strong woman with a certain level of detachment- felt like the
man in the relationship? I think you get the idea. Basically, there wasn’t equal power in the
previous life, so you have been forced (I say that with a grin) to do this
whole thing all over again, but this time you have switched places and are now in
the other partner’s shoes…sounds dreadful.
We
all have what are called "soul contracts" and "soul groups"…yes, you really did
make a contract with this person and that somewhat explains why you are in this
predicament. I’m sure a few of
you are asking, “How do I break the contract?!”
I know that’s what I would ask. I
suggest reading the book to find those answers.
I can’t give it all away. By the
way, you can’t kick them out of your soul group. If I figure that one out, I promise you’ll be
the first to know.
For
those of you who are just curious about the weight problem or the phobias…it’s
in there too. In order to have healthy
relationships and healthy experiences, we have to be at peace with ourselves,
set our intention and invite change.
I
look forward to hearing your thoughts!
Peace
& Happiness,
Diosa
Readings
P.S.
The information and advice given on this
blog is not a substitute for professional advice, self-help or assistance
programs, or any other professional treatment that you would normally receive
from a licensed professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist, accountant
or financial advisor.
Have you ever looked back at an
experience with regret? Maybe you knew the signs were all around yet you chose
to ignore the obvious?
Often times we’re
left realizing the accuracy of the still small voice inside our heads, if only
we had paid attention.
Sometimes the
signs can be so subtle. Other times it may seem very similar to an Aircraft
Marshaller with a safety vest and illuminated beacons, leading an aircraft
safely to its parking stand.
Sometimes
we really need those illuminated beacons to help us find our way!
There are many different types of
signs such as animal totems, numbers, dreams, physical ailments & repeating
events in our lives, just to name a few.
If we pay attention, these signs can act as messengers that guide us on
our spiritual path.
Did you ever stop and wonder why
it was you couldn’t find your keys?
Maybe you were in a hurry, already running late and suddenly your keys just
disappeared. Maybe there was a guardian
angel looking out for you…possibly by losing your keys and running late, you
missed a major car accident. I’ve heard
a few stories similar to that one & I always get goose bumps.
What about that cough or sore
throat? What part of your life are you
not able to express yourself or possibly don’t feel as though you are being
heard? Maybe it’s a stomach problem…are
you giving away your personal power in some area of your life? Perhaps you keep seeing birds every place you
go….birds can be a sign of soaring to new heights or possibly needing to remove
yourself from a situation in order to gain perspective.
Signs can also reflect our
beliefs. In Denise Linn’s book, “The
Secret Language of Signs,” she says that everything around us, our situations
& experiences are filled with signs.
Some signs can reflect our focus and others can bring messages of the
future.
We really only know a fraction of
what our body knows. Now that is an
interesting thought! Recently I went to a holistic practitioner who used muscle
testing to determine the cause behind certain ailments. I had what felt like a cold and he asked me
to put my arm straight out to the side, while he asked a series of
questions. I was supposed to resist him
as he tried to push my arm down. When
asking questions that had a “no” response, I didn’t have any problem
resisting, but when asking my body questions that had a “yes”’ response, my
arm became so weak I was unable to resist…and believe me I tried! Through the testing he was able to determine
I had a bacterial infection, which required certain vitamins to be taken twice
a day for 2 weeks. The vitamins helped flush the infection out of my system, so
I actually felt as though I was getting worse before I started feeling
better. I was absolutely in shock, but I
have to say that his approach worked and in two weeks I was fine.
What is your body or environment
trying to tell you? Maybe you had a
dream about a spider. This can represent
creative forces in the universe or a web of illusion; it can also be a sign of
situation where you feel trapped.
When you start to pay attention,
signs can be a very fascinating, useful tool, and awareness is the key to
unlocking some of the mysteries of life!
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
P.S. The information and advice given on this blog is not a substitute for
professional advice, self-help or assistance programs, or any other
professional treatment that you would normally receive from a licensed
professional such as a lawyer, doctor, psychiatrist, accountant or financial
advisor.
It’s late in the evening…you’ve felt content most of the day, called your favorite five advisors who told you the same thing about your loved one…some even gave a similar time frame regarding when peace and tranquility would finally be restored in your relationship. Then, anxiety & doubt crept in…you just needed some reassurance…you go to the computer and realize none of your favorite advisors are available to calm your nerves…so, you decide to get another perspective…call a different advisor...and all of the sudden, you have never felt more miserable in your life! Your worst fears have been confirmed….this person is never coming back and what makes it even worse….they have someone else in their life. You feel as though your world is over and just don’t understand why the other five advisors didn’t see this coming?
I can’t tell you how many times I receive a call saying, “I need you to talk me down from the ledge…I called a different reader and….it’s just terrible!” Then the caller wants to make sure that if I saw something that awful, would I really let them know? First of all, as a few regular callers know, I try to inform you when I see something challenging coming up so you will be prepared and know how to handle it. A few of you even have stories to share about dealing with the situation when it arrived. Others knew the situation was coming and somehow did something crafty to change the outcome. However, this topic really fascinates me, since I receive this sort of call so often.
A couple days ago I attended a workshop and while waiting for the workshop to start, I chatted with some talented local readers about this topic. I asked them to explain their experiences, how they handle it and why this sort of thing happens. One reader said, “If the message causes fear or is communicated in a hurtful way, it’s not from the light.” My feeling has always been that sometimes readers pickup on your fears, instead of what is actually happening. I pointed out that as the client, we need to realize when we are putting our own “will” in someone else’s hands and another reader jumped in and said she tells her clients to turn to their higher power or source for the answers. I feel as though inside we know the truth and we have to be completely honest with ourselves as to the reality of our situation & the validity of the reading we received. One reader pointed out that many other readers have unresolved issues in their own lives and reading a client may trigger some form of past abandonment or something from a past relationship which taints the reading. As readers we may naturally attract callers with similar situations and it’s important to separate the ego from the reader when communicating information. I recently read a wonderful book by Doreen Virtue, called the “The Lightworker’s Way” and it touched on the importance of removing the ego when doing a reading. It also referenced studies showing everyone is inherently psychic, but we shut ourselves off to this ability early on.
So if you had a reading such as the type I mentioned, ask yourself where it came from and if it was for your highest good? Be honest with yourself as to how much was mostly fear based and how much do you know to be reality? Don’t discard the reader, but instead wait and see if the reading comes to fruition. If the message was bad news, was it delivered in a loving manner?
I look forward to hearing your comments.
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings
We all encounter that moment where the answers we receive are just not enough and we are left searching and searching for something more…trying to fill the void we feel inside. Face it, if things were going well in our lives, we wouldn’t be looking for so many answers.
It is my firm belief that when we enter this life we have many lessons to learn along the way. I also believe that each encounter we have brings a lesson along with it. For some, it feels as though life is a broken record….different relationship or situation and the same exact problem. If we open ourselves up to what the experience has to teach, we can look forward to moving away from repeating the same experience over and over. For me, finding those answers, learning the lessons and filling the void has happened through reading myself. This is not to say I don’t still call or go to a reader to gain insight, but now it’s more for confirmation of what I am seeing. Sometimes it helps to have a few sets of eyes analyzing the situation.
Many of my callers express sadness over feeling the emptiness of the loss of a relationship. How could something seem so perfect, moving you in a way you never experienced and then quickly disappear? It’s all so complicated and many reasons we come together with another person is to learn a lesson, but your lesson might be different from the other person’s lesson. Sometimes one partner runs away scared and the other is left in a quandary as to what went wrong. When I hear a caller sound as though they hit a brick wall, called 15-20 different advisors and still feel as though they are chasing their tail, I make one suggestion…it’s time to get some cards and learn how to read yourself. Most of the time, my clients laugh at me, which is ok; but, some have started to dabble in their own healing adventure of tarot. For callers, it provides confirmation on what they hear from other readers. It’s so exciting when I pull a card and a caller tells me, “I pulled that same card when I read myself!”
I have been reading myself for many years and I use a couple different techniques. The cards are an excellent way to help process what you are feeling, along with what the other person is feeling. There is a wonderful book called ‘Tarot for Yourself” by Mary Greer, which outlines different ways to read the cards for personal growth and insight. There is another book called “Tarot Journaling” by Corrine Kenner, which teaches how to journal your readings and process the information. I started journaling my readings in 1995 and although they really didn’t make much sense at the time, they provided valuable messages for me ten years later. Now journaling has become a enjoyable part of my regular routine and I’m always amazed at the insight the cards provide.
If you are not as interested in diving into reading cards, another fun way to get insight into your life is through your dreams. There is a wonderful book called, “Divine Guidance” by Doreen Virtue which outlines ways to communicate with your angels and receive guidance. I really feel our dreams communicate messages to us, but the most challenging part is trying to figure out what those messages mean. Sometimes we can take the dream literally and not see any relation to our daily life; however, dreams for me have always used strong metaphors to get my attention and I have to admit, I don’t always get it right away. I usually write to my angels and outline exactly what I need to know. If I ask for an answer, I will usually receive it within 24 hours either in the form of a dream, something said by someone around me, a song on the radio, something flashing across the TV screen or any other multitude of ways. Most callers have had success with this form and usually call for help on interpreting the message they received. I can’t tell you how exciting it is to hear the latest update from a caller and for both myself and the caller, it is confirmation that this stuff really works.
So if you feel as though you are running in circles, give these methods a try. Let me know how they work for you & I look forward to hearing the updates!
Peace & Happiness,
Diosa Readings