Most of us don't want to admit we've made a mistake. If we're in a relationship that is less than satisfactory, we may go into denial and put up with being unhappy. This is understandable. For some of us, it is difficult enough to admit making a mistake. Most of us would rather not change. When a relationship is involved, this is especially challenging.
Evaluating your feelings and looking at the situation honestly are the first steps in recognizing the signs if you've chosen a partner who is truly not contributing to your happiness. You might begin by asking yourself a series of questions. For instance, do you feel depressed on a daily basis because of relationship issues? How often are you experiencing joy in your life with that person? Are there constant fights every day? Are you still participating with people or activities that brought you happiness before you met your partner? How well do you communicate with each other?
If feeling depressed, you might ask yourself if you felt that way before your relationship started, or did the depression begin after you met? With the understanding that most couples go through a roller coaster of good times as well as bad, if the answer is you felt generally depressed before meeting your partner, there's an unresolved issue that exists within you that has nothing to do with him. Or, that the problem still exists and the relationship makes the issue worse.
If the answer is that you started feeling unhappy after getting involved in your current situation, you might seek counseling for yourself, or as a couple. After all, if you're not happy neither is your partner if he is aware of your feelings. Realize, however, that many men refuse to see a therapist or counseling of any kind. That does not prevent you from seeking help for yourself. If finances are an issue, there is low-cost counseling services available so don't let that be an excuse. If seeking advice from a reputable psychic, there is also a range of prices available. But first, you have to admit that there is a problem. That's where denial might kick in, and hard.
Ask yourself if you explain away the trouble in your relationship. Do you always conclude an argument began because you or he were tired that day? That the source of your troubles began because of financial problems only? That even though you're upset, you can always forgive him because you love him? While on the surface these explanations can be in part true, they could also be the basis of denial that the person is simply the wrong guy for you.
One way to troubleshoot a relationship is the common suggestion to make a list of what you feel are positives and negatives in the relationship. Even though this might be a painful step, what the exercise reveals can really be an eye opener and invaluable. Make sure this list is not just based on emotions but also involves down-to-earth, very practical concerns. For example, if you receive substantial financial support that you need currently, you would put that on the positive side of the list. Being brutally honest now will prove invaluable in the long run.
Once you've really looked at the situation and made your list, if you are not in denial the conclusion may be clear to you. The trick is listening to that conclusion and acting upon it. This is especially true if you chose to seek counseling whether alone or with your partner and you arrive at the same conclusion. The challenge is not letting your emotions take over your logic or the reverse. The key is balancing both.
While referring to traditional therapy, understand that getting advice from an excellent psychic can go much deeper and broader into your situation by providing information such as your past life history together and how this influences your relationship now. A good accurate psychic can zone in on causes for behavior quickly so a reading can cut through time that traditional therapy might take years to uncover. The advisor may suggest to you different perspectives and ways of thinking that had not occurred to you previously. It's also reassuring and fun to experience that a well-regarded psychic can tune into you and the situation without any prior knowledge when accurately describing the dynamics and personalities involved. After all, we are channeling advice directly from Spirit, not from our minds.
Psychotherapy may be more helpful in helping you change patterns of thinking, in coping professionally with emotions and issues that are uncovered. On the other hand, many clients who are open, willing and understand a need to change their thinking now lead happier lives under my guidance. In fact, a professional psychotherapist has often used my services in understanding how in deal with her clients.
As questions arise regarding your choice in partner, be gentle with yourself. You might be tempted to ask "How could I not see this person for who he truly is?" Remember as they say, "love is blind." You might ask yourself, "Did I enter this relationship thinking I could change this person?" That is a common mistake women make. You simply cannot change anyone who doesn't want to make an effort or desire to do so.
Hopefully in going through the steps suggested, you may conclude that you did choose the right guy after all. I truly hope that's the case. If not, now the question is can you forgive yourself and do you have the courage to move on?
If you're in need of assistance, please don't hesitate to call.
May all your wishes and dreams come true...
Many Blessings,
Julie
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"Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you. Thank you!
Copyright @ 2010 Julie Yip
What do you first look for in a potential partner? Looks? Personality? Income?
In my twenty-four year experience as a psychic advisor, how to find a long-term partner is the number one question that people ask in a reading. What follows are some basic ground rules and handy guidelines that I've learned over the years, both personally and from guidance suggested by Spirit to my clients during a session.
Where Do I Meet Him?
With our busy
schedules, internet dating seems the easiest and most popular way to
browse through thousands of profiles for potential dating partners.
Among those thousands who use this means to search for a mate, here's how to narrow down
the playing field to a "few good men."
First, always use your own common sense and research the person as much as possible before giving him your full name, phone number, address or personal email. This suggestion is for the obvious reason of your safety.
Second, really study the profiles of the people you choose to browse. Is there enough common interests to "wink" or send a message? Does his personality sound like it might be compatible with yours? Does he want children? Is he a smoker? What about his political and religious views?
Trust your gut instinct no matter how handsome the face is staring back at you on his internet profile. Let's first cover what to look for in that profile.
The First Internet Encounter
1) Read and take notice carefully. What kind of relationship is he looking for? Is he interested in just dating or is he looking for an "LTR," long term relationship?
Having said this, we've all heard the horror stories about men who are "serial daters," the ones who just want to use dating services to find as many women as possible and who will post really dated pictures or make false statements on their profiles. You won't really know what the truth is until you dig a little deeper.
2) On the online profile how does he
present himself? Does he sound intelligent, funny, compassionate,
lonely or self-absorbed? Does he use good grammar, has he bothered to
use spell check? If he wants to make a good first impression, then his
profile will reflect the effort he put into filling out the information that
introduces himself to potential partners.
3) What do you have in common? What are his likes and dislikes, his hobbies and interests? How do you feel about the kind of work he does? Bottom line, is there really enough common interests between the two of you to show him you're interested? Again, don't just focus on that handsome face, no matter how tempting.
The Emails
After looking over several profiles, you might choose to respond to or contact some men who you think might be potentially promising via email.
1) What impression do you get from his first message to you? Do you find him interesting enough to go onto the next step of a phone call?
2) Rather than exchange numerous emails, it's better to exchange just enough information when you feel comfortable and safe enough, then you call that person. Always ask for a number rather than give yours. You don't want to have to deal with a stalker if it turns out a person is one.
The suggestion is to not keep the emailing for a lengthy time because there's a huge difference between written communication and actually hearing the person's voice and how he presents himself on the phone. You can save a lot of time by getting on a phone call as soon as possible. Just two emails are often enough to exchange before meeting on the phone. The point is to meet someone for a real relationship, not develop an email or message/text pal.
The Phone Call
3) If he doesn't give you his home telephone (if he has one) as well as his cell or possibly his work phone number, beware...he may be hiding a wife, or live-in partner. Ask for his home phone and see how he responds. If he gives it freely, then you know he has nothing to hide and he trusts you enough to give you his home number.
4) During your first conversation with him, if he sounds like the same personality who exchanged emails with you and his voice is pleasing to you, then you're off to a great start.
5) Notice how you feel when speaking to him. Are you excited, bored, uncomfortable? The conversation ought to go smoothly without a lot of effort. That's when you know how you can relate to one another and share common ideas, opinions, interests.
6) As in the email exchange, it's suggested to keep the conversation short to moderately long. After one or a couple of exchanges by telephone, and again when you feel safe and comfortable enough to go to the next step, you can save a lot of time and energy by meeting face-to-face. The person may act much differently in person than during an encounter on the phone.
The Meeting
Let's say the phone conversation has gone well. The next step is to meet in person.
6) Always meet in a public place. Drive yourself and do not allow the person who is basically a stranger to pick you up. You don't want this person to know where you live without knowing him better first.
7) Meeting for coffee is always a good first step. It's not as expensive as going to dinner so no one has to spend a lot of money, or feel obligated to stay throughout an entire meal. It's more casual and relaxed. Or if he suggests lunch, that can work as well. If things don't go smoothly, you just have to keep in mind the option of exiting quickly.
8) Does he look you in the eye when he's talking to you? Do you feel he's sincere in what he's sharing with you? Is he truly interested in you?
9) Hopefully, the conversation in person will go as smoothly as it did over the phone. Do be aware of how you feel in his presence. Are you relaxed and comfortable? Does it take a lot of effort to carry on the conversation? Is he doing most of the talking or is it a balanced exchange? Does he ask you questions about you?
The Date
Let's say the first meeting went well. Now it's time for a real date.
10) Is he courteous? Does he act basically the same to your liking as he did over the phone and when you first met?
11) Do you like him as the evening progresses? Are you having fun, feeling relaxed and comfortable?
12) Is he pressuring you for sex?
The Second Date
13) Is it going as well as the first? Do you find you like him this time as much as on the first date?
14) Does he still act genuinely interested in you as he did over the phone, in the first meeting and date?
15) Observe how he
treats strangers; for example, how does he talk to waiters and waitresses, parking attendants, valets, etc. The old saying is, you can tell a person's character not from how he treats friends, but how he treats strangers.
16) Is he pressuring you for sex?
By the third date and beyond, you probably get a good sense if this person holds potential for you as a long-term partner. Keep asking yourself the questions regarding how you're feeling while you're with this person. Are you comfortable, excited, do you feel safe, are you having fun and do you find him courteous and interesting? Do you share the same values, ideas and interests? Is he interested in hearing about your life?
All the suggestions above apply to meeting someone in person as well except for the obvious step of the first encounter. They also apply to any two persons, no matter whether male or female or sexual preference.
Honestly answering the same questions every step of the way will keep you from making a big mistake in picking the wrong guy. Remember, the best gauge in picking the right guy is truly based on your gut instinct or intuition. Listening to intuition is your best guideline towards a successful relationship.
Proceed wisely, have a reasonable degree of caution and have a lot of fun exploring.
Good luck in finding your life partner!May all your wishes and dreams come true...
Many Blessings,
Julie
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"Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you. Thank you!
Copyright @ 2010 Julie Yip
Dear Ones,
For those who have emailed me, I apologize for being gone so long without notice. I'm so sorry I was not available to help you when you requested and want to reassure you I'm now available again on Keen.
I've shared much of my life with you, including my recent marriage and the state of my family situation. My news today is bittersweet. My father after struggling with Alzheimer's for years, made his transition on August 10, 2010.
I was born on his birthday, so his passing is especially challenging as we always celebrated together except when I lived in Southern California for a few years. My dad was a very generous soul with a constant smile on his face. He embraced life, loved his family, had a positive attitude and was friendly towards everyone. I miss him and my heart aches for my mother as they were together for nearly 70 years.
Death is a strange bedfellow. While it brings people together, the experience of losing a parent I've learned can bring up old hurts, fears, a survival mode and less-than-desirable behaviors among siblings. I understand from grief counselors that losing a parent is like a part of the foundation you grew up with all of a sudden being ripped away. The result is confusion and chaos, and a scrambling for items that hold sentimental value. Perhaps, the attachment to items reflects a desire to try to hang on in a physical way to some "thing" since you cannot touch or feel the physical body of the deceased parent any longer. Whatever longstanding buried issues exist, they seem to rise to the surface. Grief acted out in this way is just plain ugly, but understandable at the same time.
Time cannot pass quickly enough for the wounds to heal. Meanwhile, we grieve essentially alone in spite of the well-meaning support from others.
Thank you for your patience and for the compassion I know some readers may feel and express.
A reminder to live fully because as they say in the great scheme of things, life goes by quickly and is indeed, short.As always, I wish you well.
May all your wishes and dreams come true...
Many Blessings,
Julie
Copyright @ 2010 Julie Yip
I'm in my car, right-hand side of the road, I have to merge to my left in order not to hit the parked car coming up.
An SUV is on my left. Does he let me in? No, apparently he wants me to crash into the parked car!
Ok, usually I just thank God that there was not an accident on a close call. I go into grace and feel fortunate to have made it through on the roadway, but yesterday I got upset! I don't normally spend a lot of time in my car waiting for traffic to clear, but that day there were numerous traffic accidents along my path, and traffic was slow even on the frontage roads. It wasn't really the traffic that bothered me so much as my nephew who has cerebral palsy was waiting for me to pick him up to go to this physical therapy appointment.
I raised my hand to the guy and shook my head when he pulled ahead of me. I knew I was giving into his power over me but I just couldn't help it. My lower self was overwhelming my higher self. My lower instincts of survival and power dominated held my higher frequencies of love and compassion.
What's the lesson here?
We are have choice on how to respond in any given situation. Obviously, my emotions took over at that point even though I knew better. Sometimes we falter, become vulnerable to our lower emotions. But the good news is, if we are aware of what's going on inside of us, we have more opportunity to stop whatever reaction we might feel. We have more choice in our self-awareness to stop and take a breath, figure out if a situation is really worth getting that upset, or just to let it go.
Fortunately, my feelings towards this man subsided quickly as I really did know that getting upset wasn't going to affect him so much as it would me.
Whenever you feel yourself on the brink of anger, sadness, confusion, anxiety, take the time to try this simple exercise (eyes open while driving!).
1) Take three or four full, deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling slowly.
2) Picture a bright sun in your solar plexus, right below your stomach.
3) Have that brilliant sunlight fill your entire body and beyond.
4) Hold that image until you feel more calm & positive.
Let's please show each other more kindness and understanding in these challenging times!
May all your wishes and dreams come true!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Note:
If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet,
"Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
When I asked my women friends and members of my family how they knew their husbands were "the one," they simply said "they just knew."
When I first met my new husband two years ago, I felt an immediate attraction to him but since I'd felt that way towards other men in my dating life before, I thought this might be one of those times again. (Yes, while we psychics are very good at tuning in to your questions, sometimes our own emotions and thoughts get in our way in spite of our messages from Spirit!)
When my husband and I first starting dating and got to know one another, we had so much in common in our backgrounds from the same religious upbringing and current spiritual beliefs to the same exact passwords on bank accounts that it was indeed uncanny. There was more at work here than just physical chemistry.
Still, we both had doubts. We had relationship histories that made us cautious, even afraid of entering into a new relationship. What we did next made sense to us. We went beyond our fears and into meditation where we each asked Spirit individually if we were to live under the same roof and get married! Luckily, we both came up with the same answers, not at the same time mind you, but eventually we came to the same conclusion.
So what's the lesson here? Here are some points to consider.
1) Ask yourself if YOU are ready and for a long-term healthy committed relationship (see my previous blog, Are You Really Ready?). Be completely clear and honest with yourself, otherwise you'll get confusing results (i.e., like repeated relationships that don't work out).
2) "Being ready" means evaluating whether or not you are emotionally healthy first if you want to attract a functional, happy partner. Nobody's perfect but ask yourself honestly, are you so emotionally needy and desperate that you might scare away a potential partner? Believe me, men have antennae that will definitely pick this up and they will run the other way unless they are co-dependent with you, and those relationships often end unsuccessfully.
3) Determine what you want from a partner and how well
the potential person fills your list of appearance, personality and professional
characteristics you desire.
4) Ask yourself how well you communicate with your new love. Communication is key to resolve any issue. If it's difficult now, realize it's not going to get better in the future unless there's a willingness from both of you to get help. If you feel it's your problem, call on a professional or seek training to help improve your skills. I suggest studying HeartMath, NonViolent Communication and the BePeace Method for effective and compassionate communication.
5) Make a list of pros and cons about the person and relationship once you start dating at least 3 to 4 months or more after you've had an opportunity to spend some time together. If the pros increase as time goes by, you're on your way perhaps to a wonderful union. If the cons score higher on the list, rethink the merits of continuing to see each other.
6) At 5 to 6 months, check your own emotional needs here again and evaluate whether or not you feel, "it's better than being alone." If that's the case, I suggest fulfilling your life with other activities, like volunteering for your favorite charity. Volunteering seems to fulfill the soul rather than activities like shopping, watching TV or overeating. Spend time with good friends or make new ones to fill any feelings of loneliness. Spend time with family with whom you get along and who support you. You deserve better than settling for a dissatisfying, unhappy relationship.
7) Most of all, trust your gut feeling about your dating partner. Don't let your own emotional needs, insecurity and negative thinking from the past convince you that this person "is the one" when there's someone else more perfect just waiting to meet you!
We all want to be loved and give love. Most of us want to find happy relationships. Trust your intuition rather than your emotions or your mind. If you need help with any of your relationship questions, please give me a call.
May all your wishes and dreams come true!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Note:
If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet,
"Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
Do you ever notice if you wake up from a bad dream one morning, the whole day seems a little off? Or, you wake up worried about something in your life, and things just don't go smoothly that day? At the end of the day do you feel stressed, tired or can't sleep?
If the answer is "yes" to any of the questions above, I highly recommend a method of meditation or active visualization that clears you of any negative, anxious, worrisome energy, and that which infuses you with peaceful, positive energy.
Here's a simple method to practice:
1) Sit in a comfortable chair with your spine straight, head up, palms up resting on your legs, eyes closed.
2) Set the intention silently to yourself that you want to clear yourself and your environment of any negative energy.
3) Take three or four deep breaths using your
diaphragm
. As your breathe in, count to 7 beats slowly and evenly. As you exhale, count to 8 slowly and evenly.
4) Imagine a brilliant sun in the room, radiating out bright golden white light, dissolving all negativity in your environment. (If you cannot visualize this, just repeat these instructions and pretend this is happening).
5) Pretend to breathe in golden white light, and with each exhalation, say that you are releasing all tension and dissolving all negativity from all parts of your body from head to toe. (Again, if you cannot visualize this, just repeat to yourself that the following steps are taking place and trust that your body follows your mental directions).
6) Using your imagination, fill each part of your body with golden white light starting with your head, then imagine you are exhaling out any tension and dissolving any negativity in your body as you exhale.
7) When you exhale, pretend to push your breathe out from the front, back and sides of your face, neck, chest, stomach, lower abdomen area as you systematically cleanse each part of your body.
8) Direct golden energy to run down your arms and out your hands, continue to breathe golden white light in and exhale from all sides of your pelvic cradle, thighs, knees, calves, ankles and feet. You can imagine golden energy also running down your legs and out your feet.
9) Go back to any area of your body where you still feel tense and use your breathe to inhale and release the tension.
10) Now imagine the golden white light completely filling you and radiating out from your solar plexus, going beyond your body and filling the entire room.
By the time you are done, you will feel lighter, brighter and free from stress. This same exercise will help you fall asleep.
Best of all, when done daily when you awake and again before you sleep and are still alert, this exercise will clear out the night and set the day in a positive way. In the the evening, the exercise works to clear out the day and set the night for sweet dreams!
May all your wishes and dreams come true!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Note: If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet, "Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
A big thank you to the clients who have called me since my return after my five-month hiatus from Keen. I appreciate hearing from each and every one of you. If you haven't read my former blogs, I was very busy preparing for my recent wedding in March! (see my blog I'm Getting Married! Do You Want To Be?)
Since I'm just returning, feedback is very important for current and new Keen members to read. Feedback is the only major tool that can help a person decide which advisor to choose in addition to reading our listings and/or home page. Positive feedback also helps to increase the advisor point system on Keen which potential clients also take into consideration.
Many companies value customer feedback and hire other companies to complete surveys for them. Professionals in other industries value how the public views their performance. We advisors on Keen are no different. We value our clients. We like to know how they feel about their readings from us.
So please take the time to leave feedback for each advisor from whom you've had a reading. Hopefully, you had a wonderful experience and sage advice from those who authentically care about your welfare. We appreciate your doing so!
Thanking you in advance.
Many Blessings,
Julie
Note: If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet, "Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
Hi Everyone,
After a few months hiatus as I adjusted to married life (see my blog I'm Getting Married! Do You Want To Be?) and taking care of all the details that followed, then needs of my family in addition to clients in my private practice, I am ready to again be of service to my clients on Keen. All of you are very important to me, so thanks so much for your patience. I know you have contacted me and I'm sorry I could not take your calls.
What have I learned in the past few months?
1) We are all going through challenges at this time whether financial, personally with family/spouse/partner or within ourselves with our own spiritual growth.
2) We are preparing for an energetic shift in August that will take us to a new level of consciousness.
3) To prepare for this time, keep around you positive people.
4) Do active visualizations daily. Clear out negative energy, infuse yourself with positive energy or Golden Light.
5) Concentrate on what you have and what you want to manifest in your life. DO NOT DWELL ON LACK, OR WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE.
6) Ask for assistance from friends, family, God (or whomever you believe in, i.e., your Higher Self, Spirit, etc.)
7) If you want a partner in your life, ask for him/her AFTER you've filled with positive energy and can imagine by feeling and/or seeing yourself in joy with a partner (YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SEE FULL DETAILS OF THE PERSON).
8) Count your blessings and stay positive! Your attitude makes all the difference not only in your life but resonates with all around you and that can affect global consciousness if you understand the pebble-in-the-pond effect.
Many Blessings to you All,
Julie
Note: If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet, "Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
Yes, that's right! Engaged on Valentine's Day (see blog I'm Engaged! Do You Want To Be?, I'm Engaged! Do You Want to Be? (Part II), I'm Engaged! Do You Want To Be? (Part III) ), I plan to marry on March 21, 2009, ten days from now.
Why so fast? I believe in living in the moment as much as possible. I think when a couple decides to get engaged there should only be enough time to plan the wedding and no more than that. Why? Well, unless you're an unusual woman who doesn't want to get married soon after engaged, you could be in for a long wait. We've heard all those heart-breaking stories, I'm sure.
Suggestion...do not give your partner too much time to hesitate or wait during the time you're engaged. Remember that betrothed is not the same as married. We don't want to rush the fiance but on the other hand, we do want to make the marriage happen.
Anyway, that's my suggestion if you truly want to be married. I wouldn't settle personally for a long engagement. Yes, my situation is a bit rushed and stressful but at the same time exhilarating!
Of course, what we're planning is fairly simple...a church wedding with reception immediately following at our church with 150 guests who we invited with a "welcome to bring champagne and hors d'oeuvres." Our community and family, being wonderfully generous and understanding of these times, truly are coming together to help us celebrate. We are so grateful and appreciative.
Let me say that my love and I have known each other for 14 months. When I brought up the idea of marriage (oh yes, I did), we asked our own intuition and astrologers of both Western and Eastern practices if our union was a good idea and if so, the best dates for this year. My own Chinese astrology said this year was a good time to get married. March 21st happened to mark the most convenient date for everyone involved, and most auspicious. We even received a "divine time" for the ceremony.
With wonderful community/family support, I will be married five weeks after the date of proposal in time to celebrate the Spring Equinox!
Thank you for all your congratulations. For those of you who have tried to contact me lately, now you know why I've been super busy with the wedding date so close. I will get some free time soon!
May all your dreams and wishes come true...
Wishing you true love!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Note: If I'm not available, please "Arrange a Call Back," or better yet, "Request An Appointment" so I can know in advance when to assist you!
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
In my last two blogs, I'm Engaged! Do You Want To Be? and I'm Engaged! Do You Want to Be? (Part II) I shared with you the steps I took over time to manifest the man appropriate for me, my engagement and soon-to-be wedding.
As I began this series, more actions came to mind that may be helpful to those of you who seek a life partner. Keep in mind these steps occurred at different stages over the years. You may not have to do each and every one. I do not want you to go into overwhelm and think that you must do all of them! Read them over and see what resonates with you in terms of the rituals. The other advice I give in terms of communication, being clear and emotionally healthy I would take to heart!
1. I created a large vision board with my goals in the form of pictures from magazines. This included not only a relationship and marriage, but also my career and all areas of my life, like family, health, wealth, benefactors, etc. I mapped out the placement of the pictures in the nine areas of the ba-gua that I use in my Feng Shui Consultations (please see my new Feng Shui listing). I placed a picture of my love in the marriage corner among those of total strangers of brides & grooms beaming happily from magazines.
2. When we first began dating, I gave my love all the freedom that he needed in terms of time apart. I very seldom called or contacted him. I let him do the "chasing." I believe this moderate non-action follows a simple biological primal drive for the male species need to hunt. It also gives the signal that the female is not emotionally needy, and so relieves the male of any kind of pressure to fulfill his mate's needs constantly.
3. While I gave my love a lot of room in terms of time to contact me, when I did contact him it was just a gentle reminder that I'm thinking about him and just wanted to say hello. I never pressured him to get together. In his busy schedule, I just wanted him to know I was around and interested.
4. I showed I cared about him early on. I handed him a small gift with a birthday card after a month of knowing him. No big deal, but the card and gemstone I gifted him were meaningful to him from what I learned about his interests. He was touched by both.
5. My life was already busy and full with friends, family and running my own business before I met him. I wasn't always available to him when he wanted to see me. Please keep yourselves somewhat unavailable so you are more desirable to him in terms of "the hunt." At the same time, you reassure him your happiness does not rely upon whether he's in your life or not. It takes a tremendous amount of pressure off our males who are often afraid of their own emotions to have around them a woman who is emotional and relying on them to fulfill all her needs!
6. Honestly, I didn't always have lots of friends I could rely on to truly support me, nor did I always have a sense of community. I existed mostly in isolation, in touch with Spirit and a few good friends around me. When I felt, however, that I wanted to form new friendships and physically participate with a spiritual community, I went out to look for both. In the process of taking those actions, I met some wonderful new friends, and my fiance at the church that we both now attend. (We now happily volunteer our time together with audio/video support at various services and workshops - an activity he had already volunteered for at the church, and to which I joined in as an interested party from my media background).
7. You might ask how I knew this was the man for me. It was simply uncanny how much we had in common. Besides the physical attraction and spark with the pheronomes dancing, we more importantly experienced a deep spiritual connection that repeated itself over and over again. Sometimes, we meet people and the pheronomes interact and we feel elated with "that loving feeling." Without the deep soul connection, however, that feeling may subside quickly. I've had verbal interactions with perfect strangers where I felt I was in love in the moment. An hour later I would see the same person perhaps later at a party and the spark is completely gone. I believe this kind of exchange may be based in sharing past lives with people you meet now. It's not just a matter of something they said later that turned you off. It's not just that you shared a wonderful conversation. It's a bit different than that, much more elevated in mood, almost like you're in an altered dream state filled with brightness during the exchange. It's a wonderful, in-love feeling.
8. It's that feeling that is the "glue" that I believe holds two people together. In spite of different points of view that may exist between you, that love for each other makes whatever those differences are, pretty insignificant. The recognition and care for each other on a soul level that bypasses the ego/personality makes up the solid connection between two people. No matter what happens, this reinstates itself over and over again if you care enough to nurture the soul that you've allowed into your life and with which you share a deep bond.
9. Love is fragile, yet strong. It is like a seedling that needs sun, water and love itself to grow and nurture. When mature, like the mighty oak tree, it can withstand great challenges.
10. Realize the one you seek is as vulnerable as you. While men may seem like the "alpha" species in many ways, their emotions are just as sensitive as yours. They seldom want to show that, but their feelings are all there.
Wishing you true love!
Many Blessings,
Julie
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In my last blog, I'm Engaged! Do You Want To Be? I listed ten steps I took to manifest my engagement. Here are other actions I believe helped to create a loving partner to share my life.
1. As a Feng Shui Consultant, I arranged items and colors in my home that I knew from my practice on how to attract a life partner, and performed the appropriate rituals. (You can get these answers from me under my "Feng Shui Answers to Attracting Love" listing for $45 via email prepaid).
2. I trusted and listened to the opinions of my supportive, loving family and close friends about my love when they first met him.
3. I never spent much time in the kitchen but I suddenly felt like cooking for him. He turned out to be a "foodie" (one who loves and appreciates food). There is truth to the old adage, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach!" And, there's nothing like home cooking to remind him of his mother with whom he has a good relationship, and who took good care of him (that loving feeling gets translated to you when you cook for him).
4. I never doubted that if I wanted him, he would want me.
5. I paid attention to what made him happy (within reason of course), and that would in turn make both of us feel good about each other.
6. I listen(ed) to him.
7. I make sure he listens to me and is clear about how I feel, what I want, and how he can respond to my requests.
8. We practice compassionate (or non-violent) communication. Each of us states what we observe without being emotionally charged, we share how we feel, and then we state a request, all very simply without going on and on (limit about 20 minutes).
9. I envisioned what I wanted in my "daydreams" and imagined what our lives would be like together. (Also can be done in meditation, i.e., "The Secret").
10. I did not let my mind go into negative thinking. At times, even when I had doubt, I accepted what I felt and let things unfold naturally.
11. I gave myself time to know him (we've been together 14 months), gave him time to know me, and room to explore how he felt.
12. Ultimately, I fed him the hints that he could decide to take or not, that led the way not only to our engagement but also to our current wedding plans to marry in the next few months!
Wishing you true love...
Many Blessings,
Julie
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Four nights ago on Valentine evening, my love proposed to me and slipped on my finger the most gorgeous ring! How did I get to this place in my life? Luck? Yes. Destiny? Yes. Did I strategize to manifest this event in my life? You betcha.
If you've read my other blogs under how to How To Attract Your Life Partner (11), you already know that I believe in everyone's ability to attract your true love. Here are the steps I took to make sure I made a clear request so that the universe would rearrange itself to fit my perception of reality, or in short, to answer my prayer.
1. I wrote a list of all characteristics I DID NOT WANT in a life partner. I burned the paper in a sacred ritual and buried the ashes in the earth.
2. Then I wrote a list of all the characteristics I DID WANT in a life partner. I folded up the piece of paper into four squares and put a candle in a safe container over it, lit the candle and meditated upon my wish often.
3. In a deep state of relaxation during meditation I said the following affirmation, "I am willing to release all negative patterns that keep me from my full potential. I am ready for my life partner."
4. I learned to love myself and my life without depending upon anyone else for my happiness. This is the most important step.
5. I made myself available to meet people and was clear from the beginning that my intention was to meet a life partner. I was not interested in just dating.
6. I made smart choices about who I dated. I paid attention to all the yellow and red flags.
7. I prayed and asked for guidance every step of the way if I was unsure about any decision I made.
8. I gave my love clear boundaries and requests. If he did not want to participate, I made it equally clear that I would happy to return to my life no matter what his decision.
9. Most women don't want to claim this fact. I firmly believe that women are in charge of all relationships with an intimate partner. If they have doubt about someone, that person will pick up those feelings and perhaps end the situation. If they want a person in their lives as a serious partner, they don't put up with those who are not looking for one, they are very clear about what they want without being emotionally needy, and they have come to an emotional point in their lives where they are fine knowing they are quite capable of living their lives happily without a partner even though having one is preferable.
10. Be a joyous, clear, independent and positive self-loving person first. You will then attract the same to you and manifest a mutually loving, functional happy union!
Wishing you true love!
Many Blessings,
Julie
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Today we celebrate St. Valentine as well as the ushering in of the Age of Aquarious (see blog Special Aquarian Alignment on Valentine's Day, 14th February 2009). Earlier this morning, we focused on peace and love for the world. Now, we can focus more on the love we have for each other, whether parent to child, between married persons, friend to friend, or lover to lover.
According to the following from Wikipedia, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Valentine, the name "Valentine" derives from the word "valens" meaning worthy. You might ask yourself today, who is worthy of your love? For instance, are you in a mutually loving relationship? Also, do you feel you are worthy of loving yourself? Questions to ponder on this day, a dawning age of true love - I hope the answers are all "yes" for you!
Let's see what the angels have to say for today...
I received the appropriate card divinely guided to me as an Intuitive Counselor, Psychic Reader, Channel, Medium, Reiki/Reconnective Healer and Feng Shui Consultant with over 20 years experience.
I use no tools for my readings and use Doreen Virtue's "Daily Guidance from Your Angels Oracle Cards" occasionally for personal use and thought I would share them with you. My private readings with you are specific to your situation and much more detailed.
After prayer and meditation, a card is drawn randomly after several shuffles of the deck.
The question I asked was the following:
"What message do you have for us about St. Valentine's Day?"
Card Drawn:
"See Only Love"
"Look past the seeming errors, mistakes, and misunderstandings, and see only the love within each person (including yourself). Your resolute focus upon the love that underlies every situation brings about healing in the undreamed-of ways.
The angels gave you this card as a reminder to see yourself, others, and every situation through their eyes. When you focus on love, anything that's unloving falls away. It's like turning a light to diminish the previous darkness (*my note, like moving from the Age of Pisces to Aquarius). Call upon angels whenever you need help to elevate your vision to a more loving vantage point.
Additional meanings for this card: Look past the personalities and egos of others, and see the angel within them (the angels can help you with this if it seems difficult) * Forgive * Release anger, hurt, or judgements to the angels * Affirm what you desire, instead of what you fear."
Once again, today's Angel Card Reading provides the perfect answer. Remember to always ask the angels for their love, support and guidance on any situation.
If you need specific advice on how to have more love in your life, in your relationship, or if you can benefit from answers regarding career, finances and more, please give me a call at 1-800-ASK-KEEN ext. 03064921 (Five free minutes for every paid ten minute reading), or to arrange a Reading by Email, click the button below.
Many Blessings,
Julie
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Greetings to you all! I'm happy to report from my last post in December, that my 90-year-old father has made a full recovery from his bout with pneumonia and eats normally again (he had temporarily lost his inability to swallow). For this, I am truly grateful. I want to thank all of you for your prayers, support and healing energy. I especially am grateful to Gankar Tulku Rinpoche, a powerful Tibetan monk living in India who I met personally in California two months ago and who prayed for, and blessed my father. I believe that all my dad received in addition to my own healings for him helped to balance his system back to good health.
I wanted to share with you that Saturday, February 14, 2009 marks a special time not only for the traditional celebration of St. Valentine with all the hearts, flowers and expressions of love but also a special alignment of the planets to usher in the Age of Aquarius. Concentrate on what you want on that date!
According to Jude Currivan, Ph.D., the following is true:
"At dawn on 14th February the day dedicated to St Valentine, the patron saint of Love, the Moon in Libra enters the seventh house of relationships. And Jupiter and Mars are aligned in Aquarius in the twelfth house of spiritual transformation.
Forty years ago, the intuitive words of a song called Aquarius, brought the dawning of the new age into our collective awareness:
When the Moon is in the seventh house
And Jupiter aligns with Mars.
Then peace will guide the planets
And love will steer the stars.
At dawn on 14th February the Cosmos actually embodies this perfect alignment to support our collective manifestation of love and peace and dawning of the Age of Aquarius.
The Aquarian chart of 14th February reveals an incredible concentration of cosmic influences blending with the energies of Aquarius in the twelfth house. Expansive Jupiter and energetic Mars are aligned with the higher purpose of the North Node. The presence of Chiron the wounded healer offers us the opportunity to heal the schisms that have separated us for so long. Neptune emphasizes collective humanitarian movements and the co-creation of social justice. And the presence of the radiant Sun enlightens the entire alignment.
Mercury also in the twelfth house but just beyond the cusp in Capricorn, allies with transformational Pluto to communicate and anchor the Shift throughout our global structures and institutions.
The Moon in Libra in the seventh house emphasizes harmonious real -ationships.
Venus in Aries in the first house energizes and empowers dynamic co-creativity.
And whilst Saturn the great task master in opposition to the unexpected awakener is suggesting an ongoing confrontation as the dregs of the unsustainable old paradigm reluctantly give way to the untested hope of the new, their placements in Virgo and Pisces brings practical altruism and visionary inspiration to the transition.
At 7.25am on 14th February - and for the 18 minutes of the alignment, I invite you, in the universal heart, to add your own intention for love and peace and to co-create the dawning of the Age of Aquarius to that of the Cosmos. In whatever way feels appropriate for you, you may choose to align with7.25am (UT) or 7.25am your own local time energizing a wave of intention that will surge around the Earth.
Please feel free to circulate this information, the Aquarian chart and its cosmic invitation to birth the Age of Aquarius." - Jude Currivan
So, the point is, concentrate on what you want to manifest in your life either on February 14, 2009 or do a meditation to project your wishes to that date (yes, that can be done). Do your part to bring peace, love, harmony and abundance to the planet. In the Chinese Zodiac, this is the year of the Ox which represents slow, steady progress. President Obama was born in the year of the Ox. Let's wish him well and help him build a new foundation for our country.
Always give thanks, appreciate for what you have and receive. Give what you can to others, not only in monetary ways but in your caring of them.
For instance, as a token of thanks to Gankar Tulku Rinpoche for helping my father, I coordinated a Chinese New Year Celebration Dinner and Benefit for him. People donated funds to help Rinpoche's cause with raising monies for kidney transplants for Tibetan refugees in India and medical care for the elderly monks and nuns in Tibet.
Make a wish this Valentine's Day, be grateful, help someone else and reap the fruits of your love!
I wish you health, wealth, peace, love, longevity and good fortune in this Chinese New Year of the Ox, year 4707 by the lunar calendar. May all your wishes come true in the Age of Aquarius!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Copyright @ 2009 Julie Yip
Belated greetings to you all! I'm late for Christmas for those of you who celebrate but in time for the New Year due to the fact my 90-year-old father went into the hospital with pneumonia on Monday, December 22nd. He's doing much better and we're cautiously optimistic for his full recovery.
I hope you had a wonderful celebration with your friends and family. We managed to get together for our traditional dinner with my mother who has vascular dementia and my nephew with cerebral palsy, my sister, her boyfriend, my love and me.
I mention the state of my mother and nephew because I couldn't help but think that Dad, even with his Alzheimer's "picked" an opportune time as any to possibly make his transition. Mom is getting more and more lucid and her recent depression is lifting with the right medication. She among us may be more accepting and ready for what my father will decide to do. Keeping her in good spirits will give us the strength to carry through if he determines to leave us. My nephew is centered in his world and while a very sensitive young man, is somewhat sheltered emotionally from the life/death situation that looms before us.
I feel blessed as my siblings do that we've had my father for so long thus far without any worse complications than moderate stages of Alzheimer's. He is quite aware of his failing mind and body and no one can fault him for deciding to leave when looking at the quality of life he now lives. My sister and I believe he's hanging on for us even though she and I have told him it's all right to go. Of course, we will do everything in our power to help my father recover without causing him undue discomfort according to his wishes.
We will see what will happen as the year closes and a new one begins.
I wish you all joy, peace and abundance in the New Year 2009!
Many Blessings,
Julie
Copyright @ 2008 Julie Yip