IrishDonna

After the pint of ice cream...when you finally said..."enough is enough!" Funny stories...

Do you remember any really funny thing you did when you finally decided a relationship wasn't worth your energy anymore?

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Please ADD your stories in "responses."  With Mercury retrograde it is a wonderful time to remember when we exercised our power to simply wash "that man our of our hair."

I was married to an attorney and Yale Graduate.  Every year we attended a Yale football game and I had the unique joy of entertaining a houseful of my husbands Yale buddies.  They treated me very well but he did not.  He always got drunk and didn't care if he left me to act the part of the Maid...versus hostess.   As a flight attendant I was used to taking care and liked entertaining but he always treated me like I was the staff more than his wife.
Outside appearances were everything to him.  The last year before we divorced I was exhausted and frustrated.  I told him for two weeks prior that I would not attend the annual event. 
 
He didn't believe me and was astounded when I did not show up at the airport on Friday night to meet him.  He called and demanded that I MUST come with him because otherwise he would not have his golf clubs for the outing.  I said "okay"...immediately dialed up the limo service and sent his golf clubs along in style riding comfortably on the back seat of the limo.  I made sure the limo bill was his to pay on the other end.  He totally melted down emotionally and called me screaming.  For a man that could always maintain his cool it was a REALLY FUN moment for me!  I never never ever turned back. 

"Should I wait for Him/Her?"

Most of us have asked this question at sometime in our lives.  It is a question fraught with pain, confusion, disillusionment and exhaustion.  It usually comes on the heels of waiting a painfully long period of time while we hoped a love partner find their way to maintaining a stable love relationship with us.  

We ask the question when our hearts tell us that we are deeply loved.  The truth is  repeatedly comes close only to pull away. 

We question our sense of reality.  We ask ourselves if we imagined it all or if it was real.  It is one of the most painful and sometimes humiliating experiences that we as humans can endure at the hands of someone we trust with our hearts. 

Unless your loved one has gone off to war or there is a physical reason they cannot be with you, the answer is almost always "NO."

We all "know" in our hearts that to continue to wait is probably going to bring us more pain, of which we have typically already suffered enough. 

Waiting is not natural in life.  Waiting is stifling and painful and we all know that we are meant to live our lives to the fullest. 

How do we move forward, how do we not give up on someone yet go on with our lives as a practical matter?

The answer is simple, we make plans.  Decide that until the person takes action that your life will always move forward.  NOT WAITING doesn't mean giving up hope, or
that you can't always hold that person in your heart, or love them deeply.  It simply means that like "job performance" until they learn or choose to take the actions necessary to make a relationship work that you will go forward.  It means remembering what YOU want.  It means in the midst of pain we remember to love ourselves.   In loving ourselves  get in touch with our own desires again.  We remember that our pain counts and acts as our own personal GPS system,  telling us something important about how we arrived at our present location.  Our pain is an indicator that this person may not be the right one.     

Sometimes as women we think we become so distracted by worries about being beautiful, smart or sweet enough to "win" our lover over.  It often makes us forget one simple truth.....we forget to spend time determining if their performance in a relationship meet OUR standards. 

In the process we get lost, our internal GPS gets confused and we make decisions to stay in relationships that are not in our best interest. 

The great news is that when we focus on our own lives the answers become self evident.  The pain we carried in our hearts like a ten pound roast disappears!
The sun shines and we know joy in day to day activities.  We flirt with the guy stirring sugar into his coffee at the coffee bar and we realize that we simply went off course and became temporarily lost on our journey.  Our emotions are our perfect emotional GPS system, if it hurts too much and too often we are probably off course in our choice.

Often times the greatest love to allow in our lives is loving ourselves.  No remorse, no mistakes, no regrets....we can simply learn and move forward in our journey of life.

Lovers return and when they do we can determine at that time if they are the right person for us. 

Remember to be the hero in your own life and love story.   Be gentle with yourself and always appreciate the blessings in your life and your heart will be warmed!

Warmest Regards to all,
Namaste
IrishDonna