Spring brings basically two things...ONE: New buds and pollen-the result is stuffy noses, watery eyes, swollen sinuses and generally a miserable existence for those who suffer with allergies! Since we have to breathe and most prefer not to walk around in a large plastic bubble we deal with it and have no choice. Some of the lucky ones actually get relief with allergy medicine that does not knock you out cold. My drug of choice is Benedril BUT it turns me into Rip Van Winkle--lol. Gotta breathe ..not too many choices with that! My Mom loves me and bought me a very powerful air cleaner. I love it! Blows you and everything not nailed down across the room but who cares I can sorta breathe and I can actually taste my food again. I don't just differentiate by the color and shape as to what I am eating...thanks Mom! Allergies not much choice....so as I sit here blowing my nose off my face I contemplate that romance is another thing completely!
TWO: Romance is in the air not just friggin' pollen. Spring represents new beginnings. New growth all around us..yeah that pollen thing again BUT it also means a fresh start for us. To me I feel spring has a stronger energy for change and rebirth than New Years. New Years it is still cold and things are dead BUT Spring it all breaks through and says real loud --"Here I am!" You need to say- "Here I am!" but you need to be ready to burst forth and make a claim for a new beginning. You have to do something new -- something exciting -- something you have never done before..in short --TAKE A CHANCE!
The two most often question posed to most psychics, especially me, is--"When is she/he going to call?" ( I must admit guys you suck big time on the calling thing..sorry but true!) HINT: If someone has not called you in over two weeks chalk it up to life lesson...and if they finally surface with no explanation and no hospital bracelet --- say-- "Glad to see you are not dead and I wish you well" PERIOD ---- AND "When am I going to meet someone?" Well...it helps if you leave the house! I am not kidding..gotta walk out the door and try new places and new people. Same ole same ole gets you the same ole same ole. Is it possible to meet new people .. YES! -- not easy BUT not impossible (unless you stay locked up in your living room)...MEET PEOPLE--remember how it was once done --
FACE TO FACE--what a concept!
Well it seems that concept has re-emerged. It is called -- Meetup.com -- finally the computer has gotten people off their butts not just glued them down into desk chairs for the duration. Internet dating works in about 25% of the relationship sought on line..75% is a damn big number of people getting used, abused and lied to in so many ways. The "box" promotes deception and misrepresentation. I am not being negative I am being real and honest. Too many people have become victims -- some emotional, some financial--either way it is costly and painful. Leave the house and meet the person face-to-face. The chances improve drastically that you may actually meet someone and at least be sure of what they look like!
Meetup.com is not perfect -- believe me-- far from perfect. People say they are coming to an event and don't show. BUT the ones that do are willing to leave the house. Willing to try to meet a person either for friendship or potential romance. THEY LEFT THEIR HOME! This is a big -- sadly to say-- achievement in today's world of complacency. They commit to attending, they get dressed, and they participate. They converse. They share their time and their ideas. They open up to other human being face-to-face. Being in a person's energy is very telling. You feel something. You look into their eyes. You pay attention to their body language. You can't get that from chatting or texting..even a voice over a phone line, unless your gifted, does not tell you much. Get out and meet in person..over food, over drinks, over books, over knitting needles, over bowling balls..it does not matter...just get out..reconnect with the human race. There are some really nice people out there..go meet them somewhere.
So to answer the $25,000 question.."When are you going to meet someone?"..When you get dressed, get involved, get motivated to actively participate in your new life. You will meet them when you are busy having fun or learning something or toning something and NOT looking...give it a try! It is much better odds then running into them in your living room! Be that flower that grows new petals and brings smiles to the people around you. Be that flower that attracts the rain so it can grow taller and stronger with each soft warm breeze. Attract warm and loving people and experiences into your life by being active, loving and open to new opportunities! What have you got to lose -- a spreading butt and loneliness! Give it a try!
Meetup.com...
Have a lovely Spring ^j^ God Bless Love Kat...not sure how to?? call me and I will help..
Let' face it most, if not all, human beings are insane. Honestly we are all INSANE! We all go through life doing the same damn thing and unrealistically, blindly, overly optimistically hope for a different outcome. We go to the same places, do the same things, say the same things, think the same thoughts, stay with the same people and live our lives the same way -- unhappily AND honestly, truly and thoroughly believe things will change. If I had a nickle for every time a client has asked me -- "When will my life get better?" "When will my life change?" When will I be happy?" --- I would be going to the grocery store in a limo. But the real truth is it is real REAL EASY to change the outcome! When you start changing the way you think, the way you do things, the places you go, AND the people you associate with....then your life will start to change and you will start to get the outcomes you desire --- BUT NOT overnight. Remember it took you years to get here..it will take time to reset and reposition your mindset and your energy. BUT you are worth the effort...If you don't think your worth the effort or you are just plain lazy..well then I can't help you nor can anyone else. YES-YES-YES there are circumstances beyond your control but let's look at that because I have been there and done that and have overcome.... : ))))
In a lousy relationship...Offer to go to counseling --- They won't go then you go and get your self-esteem back and then leave --- .if you are not married to them-- settle up and GET OUT! If you are married --settle up and GET DIVORCED....--don't have a fling or an affair!! That just pushes you farther from your desired outcome of being happy! It is a distraction from making positive changes nothing more. You are just piling more crap on your plate and complicating your escape. Not to mention your KARMA! If you have kids..hold this thought -- you are teaching them what a lousy relationship is..you are showing them and providing them with a negative and unhappy environment...you are setting the stage for what they will grow to expect in a relationship...think about that one for awhile and then decide honestly WHO you are really staying for...it ain't them! Be smart --- plan your escape to a new and happier life...review your financial picture and put money aside...secure or get a better career..prepare yourself to improve your circumstances...DO NOT ALLOW FEAR to enter the equation..and most of all remember unhappiness drains your energy -- on your own happier will INCREASE your energy....
In a lousy job or Don't have a job...Change your attitude or change your job -- Use our miserable economy to your advantage there is money out there to start over...Go to school ..go to a training seminar...change careers.. use what you already have but use it elsewhere --- GO SOMEWHERE! Get off your butt because the BUTs are what are keeping you on it! Do not just throw your resume into the internet black hole...start making appointments to met recruiters and go to job fairs with your card with your name and telephone number MAKE an impression...We have become a very very lazy society -- we sit and type ..we sit and fax..we sit and email...Change that approach -- show some initiative -- get out of your chair and make that change -- Do it DIFFERENTLY -- do it in person! Just show up! Show up and wait -- what else are you doing?????? Sitting home???? You are facing hundreds if not thousands of people wanting what you want..do it differently and you get it and they don't...if you don't get it realize you were not supposed to and better is waiting ...don't give up..and for God's sake do not say over and over "I did that!"..."I did that!"..you did it before now do it with a DIFFERENT MINDSET...believe in yourself ------believe you are deserving-- believe you are better than everyone else AND you are because you are doing it differently...
In a lousy location...Simple! MOVE! Cross the block..cross the country..cross the world....We live in a mobile society..we can move anywhere and with the internet we can look for a job anywhere..use the resources to your benefit and then put in all the energy necessary to make it happen..CAUTION!!!! moving doesn't change you only your zip code the secret is not packing your crap and bringing it with you. Can't move..make what you have got better...change the decor..change the color..use feng shui! Can't afford major changes --easy move the crap you have to a different place...try throwing out what you don't need or give it to someone who does...sometimes it is as simple as CLEANING UP! I know I let my house get away from me..the dust gets so bad I could write the entire Gettysburg address on my dining room table but when I buckle down and get out the rags and the polish I feel renewed and energized...
Remember the less we do the less we want to do!
In a lousy body..Your body is perfect -- you screwed it up by not taking proper care of it! Everytime you go to put something in your mouth think twice...Ask yourself --- "Do love myself? " "Do I care what I look like or how I feel?" " Do I matter?" "What am I afraid of?" Poor body care is a result of low self-esteem and fear of intimacy...This should come to no surprise to anyone. Society likes thin, healthy well put together people. Turn on the TV, pick up any magazine...skinny people rule! Stay fat and out of shape and SAFELY for you no one will approach you..fear of intimacy..fat is protection not just for winter but for other people from getting close! Think about why you do not take better care of yourself...all dumb ass excuses!!!! nice try lol you are a human being with a functioning brain -- MAKE BETTER CHOICES! Hell I prefer chocolate over any other food group BUT my ass and belly are a constant reminder of my poor choices...Health issues....I do not have a thyroid. I am forced to take daily medication to stay alive BUT I have lost 25 pounds through effort and I still have a way to go..crappy thyroid before they ripped it out added 60 pounds BUT I do not have to stay that way..With having had 3 back operations the gym is out of the question..I tried and that was the reason for the THIRD operation LOL so now we do Zumba and Wii fit ... cant afford the time or the money (bs just means you don't think you are worth it)...then watch heath TV for free or and you did not hear this from me get a cheap copy of an exercise tape and DO IT! DO SOMETHING for YOU! Once again get off your butt and MOVE!
Want a different outcome? Want your life to change for the better? Then YOU must change....no excuses...excuses no change...no change no happiness.. and all I can say to that is I wish you well in you unhappiness!!!!! Some things you can't change -- like other people and certain circumstances BUT you can always change your attitude---You are blessed to be human and with that comes strength, intelligence, inner beauty....and stubbornness! Use it all to make change and bring joy into your life --- You have the power to change and create your desired outcome not the some old one that does not work for you!!! Change for you and only you otherwise it don't stick! Please!!!! it is a journey of joy not a joyless job!!!!! Feel stuck and full of ridiculous excuses call me, let's look at the whys and get rid of them. I will help strip away the excuses and together we canreplace them with a plan of action for your new changed life that YOU will create....God Bless Love Kat
We use the terms "soulmate", "twinflame" and "connection" without really understanding what the real meaning of the purpose of these words. These words have definite meanings for sure but what is the real intention these words and their meanings serve? Very simple to understand but incredibly difficult to live and in so many cases overcome!
What binds all human interaction is the "connection". Easily understand is that a connection is the joining of two things. In this case it is the joining of two people or souls. If you can try to accept that all things happen as they should and connections help to bring our lessons to us in each lifetime, you can then see the tremendous importance of connections. Nothing in life is more important that learning. Without learning - no reading -- without learning -- no livelihood -- without learning -- no success -- without learning -- no growth. We learn on so many levels -- academic, social and spiritual. All of our teachers established connections with us. The stronger the connection the greater the lesson.
Many humans allow their hearts to rule their world. These humans have the hardest time accepting that the people we connect with on a romantic level are still just teachers...it its the lesson is so extreme and heartfelt they have a hard time accepting that not all connections, no matter how deep and heartfelt are for keeps. This is for two reasons 1) The other person although may also feel the connection has free will and 2) When we don't recognize the lesson for the connection they are taken in order to face it alone for greater learning. I often hear over and over again -- "But we had such a connection!" This is true but not for the reasons we may feel. Also resort to the serenity prayer to help you deal with a lost connection and be honest and ask yourself WHY!
Let's take "soulmate" a term often the most overused and misunderstood. Most people, if not all, take this word to mean -- life partner in a romantic sense. In one and only one aspect this is true. But the real foundation of the word and its intention is a person that is part of our soul group. One person of many that we made a spiritual agreement with before we came into this lifetime to learn life's lessons with. We offer to teach them and they offer to teach us. I say offer because we are human and possess a powerful tool called free will. Even though we have a soul contract with them and all the other people in our soul group we can at any time choose to not embrace the lessons and make the necessary changes to gain wisdom and grow as spiritual beings. We can choose to stay in our karmic contract and wait for another soulmate to come along and give us another opportunity to learn. We have this choice it just takes us longer to get it.
The second is "twin flame" which is an even more intense and powerful soulmate connection. This is a relationship which is very often very, very deep and heartfelt. It is sometimes so passionate it becomes to painful to bear if there is a parting. People have many definitions for this phrase but many it is a partnership that the lessons are very profound and often very difficult to face within ourselves. The reason we feel this person is our other half is because they are! But not in the romantic sense but rather a long established, possibly past life relationship that is unfinished or unresolved. They represent whatever is missing in you OR they represent whatever is what you need to heal or change about yourself OR was let undone from an earlier lifetime. I know most of you will hate that definition because it takes away all the love, romance and passion BUT BUT BUT if you start to see it that way it may indeed pave the way for the loving passionate romance you seek.
One thing all these words have in common is their intensity to our emotions. I have conducted thousands of readings, each time I would warn the client when involved in a true soulmate connection, that if they did not open their eyes and heed the lessons and warnings no matter how strong the connection they would lose it. Those who listened and stop thinking with their egos or only with their hearts and grew -- the relationship survived and prospered. Those who insisted on fighting what was being shown to them by their partner learned the hard way by dealing with loss. It was in dealing with that loss they were awakened and began to take honest and healthy responsibility for their part in the connection. Very often they came to realize the illusion of the perfect "soulmate" was only that -- an illusion. But the wisdom they walked away with was well worth the price of admission. I should know it happened to me!
I always say -- LIFE IS SIMPLE...we make it complicated. But remember as crappy as it is when we fall in love and it seems to go nowhere. We must try. We need to feel and experience life to the fullest with all connections no matter what the outcome. Otherwise we can not achieve success if we truly want to grow and obtain the ultimate end result ----happiness. Therefore I am not saying don't care, put your heart out there or be passionate -- YOU MUST! BUT at least try to stay balanced and try to catch yourself and listen. If tons of people are telling you the same thing --- remember these people are also and just importantly your soulmates -- listen before it is too late! The old adage of "If you are meant to be together you will be!" is absolutely true..just remember the saying does not say when or if forever. Call me to help you sort through your connections of all kinds! God Bless Love Kat
We go through life growing and facing fears or NOT..LOL..we also do something that leads to the most regret in our lives... ----. We take things for granted..sometimes this includes people. Taking things for granted simply means we just assume that something or someone will always be there. If we stop and think about how we take things for granted on some level we know that nothing is guaranteed in life. We know it..but we take it for granted anyway!
There are many things in life we can safely take for granted.
Here are some :
- The sun coming up in the morning -- even if it is a lot hotter these days
- The sun going down every evening -- no surprise there
- Wrinkles appearing with greater frequency as the calender continues to flip
- Our children thinking we are brilliant
- Our children thinking we are stupid
- We will eventually go to jail if we break the law
- If you drink too much you will make a fool of yourself
- If you eat too much you will look like a beached whale ---except you lucky ones
- If you cheat you are hurting three people -- mainly yourself
- They will take your tooth paste at the airport if it is more than 4 ounces
- Act envious and you will have no one left in your life to envy
- Don't pay taxes and Uncle Sam will hunt you down
- Do what you enjoy and you will be successful
- Put two socks in the washer and you may never see of of them again
- Cut out coupons and when needed they will have expired
Here are things we should NEVER take for granted:
- People we love - they are gonna die someday
- Getting ill will kill you -- you can get better
- Our livelihood -- just ask the 9% of the unemployed population
- Our health --- abuse and lose it
- People we like - they are gonna die someday
- The place we live in - we don't pay we lose it
- The teeth in our mouth -- neglect them and lose them
- Friendships -- they are not family they don't have to stay
- Family -- they may not stay if if they are
- Money -- don't mange it and it is gone
- People we hate -- they are gong to die but not soon enough
- People don't change -- they can if they want to
- Success -- even the best can fall when they don't pay attention
- Bad things happen to good people -- don't create "bad"
- Spouses will stay faithful -- neglect them and they will go elsewhere
- Spouses will NOT stay faithful -- love them and they will try harder not to
- Abundance in any form---it can slip away at any time for any reason!
Human nature is such that we like to believe that what is ours will always be ours. What we have will remain ours -- Until it is taken, we loose it or someone leaves. It is then and only then we realize what we had and how it filled our lives in some way. When it is gone and we now have a void do we miss it and realize we took it for granted. Take inventory of all you have -- whether it be people, places or things -- acknowledge it and openly cherish it because NEVER know when it could be gone NEVER to return!
To ALL I wish a blessed Thanksgiving...look around the table and soak it all up --- the smiling people, the luscious food, the smells of cooking and fall flowers -- imprint it and experience it to the fullest -- for someday it might not be there...
God Bless Love Kat
Addiction is as painful to yourself and as to those whom you claim you care about. Addiction means the inability to stop doing something you are doing that is harmful to you or someone you care about to their point where it can cause illness, terrible emotional stress or destructive situations. One must care about oneself during a crisis or perceived crisis or the effect is very damaging or very hurtful. When we are in a situation which is very addictive we are not in control of our lives or our actions. We are in effect not only hurting ourselves but all those around us. We are often so wrapped up in our pain we forget about others. We are not in control. We do not own our lives; we are not aware many times of the effect it is having on us and those we supposedly care about . We can not blame or shift responsibility to anyone but ourselves because it it is based on our choices. You may claim you do not have a choice...but you do. Not easy ...but a choice!
We must decide if we matter. We must decide if our health and well being matters. We the abusers must decide if we want to live a life that is ours or the choice of our addiction. We as participants must decide if the drama is worth it. Standing by someone is a true measure of a caring person but going down with the ship is just plain stupid. Some of the addictions are easy to spot....drink to much, smoke too much, focus on sex too much..these are easy..how about betting on two cockroaches running around in the kitchen, fighting every chance you get over nothing, eating way beyond your body is satiated, or the simple need to be always right. Obsessive behavior is also an addiction. Anything done in excess is addiction. But we accept so much negative behavior these days..who's to notice what is addictive?
The pain and the worry addictive behavior causes is staggering unless you are the person facing the addiction. You are so busy wrapped up in your obsessive need you do not care or bother to notice what it is doing to you or the people all around you. It is all about you...your needs in the immediate moment. No one or nothing matters it is all about you . The world revolves around you because you need to get your fix and get what you need. It is killing you and what is supposed to matter to you. But you can not see or feel. All you know is the need to scratch the itch..fill the need...the ends justify the means.
Pain is caused by banging your foot, slipping the knife, or allowing someone to hurt you---it is also caused by allowing a choice to over take you and run your life. Today we have many outlets to get help. Countless support groups. therapists, friends who will gladly lend a sympathetic ear..but ultimately it is up to you to make a conscious choice to change your ways ..you can change for no one but yourself. No matter how much you love someone or cherish their existence in your life, it is up to you whether or to not to be a healthier, happier person. No matter how many meeting you go to, no matter how many sessions you sit in with a paid listener, no matter how many promises you make and swear on the bible---- it is only with the true caring about yourself that the real and permanent changes can take place and the demon can be wrestled to the ground and put finally to bed and under control.
Addiction is not just about those individuals facing the problem on a daily basis. It is about those individuals who have chosen to stand by those affected by it. These caring dedicated people at first unwittingly are drawn into the drama feeling that there will be a light in the tunnel. But in short order the realization hits them that ----it ain't gonna change. They start, hopefully, to ask some hard questions of their situation. They begin to ask every single day --"Why am I doing this?" .... "Why I am putting up with this every day?.." Why do I keep buying into the bullshit?"..Why do I keep thinking tomorrow is going to be different?"...Why do I keep believing that tomorrow will be the day it all stops and life like this will change?" The addictive behavior effects all of those wiling to be a part of it. When will you..the addictive personality want it to stop? and the willing participant want it to stop? Only you can decide...but someday it will be decided for you when you have nothing left..and the only choice you have is to finally want more and finally KNOW you can have it!!!! The gabillion dollar question remainds the same...Is this situation bringing me more pain than joy???? Only you know the answer--and when you are ready you will do something about it! I am here to help..call when you are ready to make the changes necessary..God Bless Love Kat
The word success means many different things to different people. The dictionary defines it as: favorable outcome as of endeavors or attainment of wealth, position.etc. What interests me is the "etc.". We for the most part equate success with wealth -- money --. Not too many people would not agree with that definition. But the dictionary stresses first the favorable outcome of endeavors...meaning simply...you set out to do something and you accomplish it therefore you are successful. So why even if you work hard and work towards something do most people struggle with feeling successful. And why if they do achieve what the set out to do and do it even well do they feel it is never enough. Are you one of those people?
Success is not just based on how much money you have because those who do have buckets of it will often admit they are not as successful as they should or could be. Success is not a tangible. It is not millions of dollars, fancy car, huge home, or fame. Success is a feeling. It is the joy you feel about yourself when you have truly accomplished a goal you set out to achieve. This goal can be large or small. It can be as simple as cleaning out a long neglected closet or lucky as your first million dollars or as amazing as a cure for a deadly disease. It is not the importance to the world of the accomplishment -- it is the importance to YOU. Unfortunately we too often cheat ourselves out of the feeling of success because we put to high an importance of what the "norm" is which defines success by society. If I set out to do something and I do that is enough to be granted the sense of success. I do not quantify it as not as important as a cure for cancer, mighty dollar amounts or someone else's praise of my accomplishment. I just say with pride..."I wanted to do something...I did..I did it well..I am successful".
How many times if ever have you given yourself that kind of recognition and praise? If you did how did it feel? Because it is the feeling that you allow yourself that defines the success, not whether it was newsworthy.
Whether you realize it or not we set goals for ourselves every single day..some as simple as getting to work on time. We live in a tough society which puts the stick very high as to what is accepted and recognized as success. And more importantly what defines a "successful" person. Most mortals could never achieve that level of success -- NOT because they can't but rather because they don't believe they can. You hear hundreds of rags to reaches stories..the common thread..they believed they could and no matter what any one said they never stopped.....will and faith in oneself creates the drive to create the success...plain and simple. If you truly believe you can do it then you can--- the big BUT is how much are you willing to endure to get there, how much faith do you have in yourself AND are you willing to trust that if may not happen exactly as you envisioned.
When I was in high school during the last ice age LOL my guidance counselor told me I would never build a building because I was a woman. My teachers told me I would never build anything because I was a woman. I was smart enough for sure -- 4.0 BUT I was a woman. Well I never let anything or anyone dissuade me. Even in architecture college they told me I was there only to find a husband! My response was have taken a good look around at my choices!!! LOL --- It did not slow me down. I got my first drafting job at 17 in an architect's office. They said it could NOT be done. But I was not finished -- remember I want to build building not draw them! Construction was the goal. Over and over I was told no because I was taking food out of a man's mouth, I NEVER gave up.
To date I have personally supervised the construction of over 200 building projects -- hell maybe more -- never bothered to keep track..All I know is I set out to do what I wanted to do and despite years of opposition for me to be allowed to build buildings--I built buildings! And for the last 26 years and counting I teach others how to build buildings -- And I am a woman! Does building buildings make me successful? Not really because the way I see it -- it was easy because what I feel really made me successful was I got to do what I loved to do and got paid good money to do it. To me real success is THE doing what you love to do not WHAT you do or how much you make to do it--nor how hard or how easy it was to get there! You love it -- you do it -- SUCCESS!
So for all of you that want to be successful..take a step back and look at what makes you happy first...then fiqure out a way to make a living from it ..that is true success. Not even how much you make because you will make what you need -- through your joy and happiness you will manifest the wealth. Although I struggled to get doors to open I never worried about money and it was always there when I needed it. Three years ago I walked away from the physical aspect of construction at over $100,000 a year (but I continue to teach) -- my life passion to pursue my new life calling which is metaphysics. Everyone said to me are you crazy (where have I heard that before!!!) you have a house and you are a single parent of a kid in college in NY no less. You will starve.....well it has been over 3 years and my life style has only gotten better..my daughter and I want for nothing. Success is a wonderful feeling not something you have to prove to yourself or anyone else...all you have to do is go get it! Call me if you need help finding your path to success..God Bless Love Kat
Friend is a word use quite frequently --- But what does it mean? Is a friend someone you know? Is it a person you spend time with? Someone who has been in your life a long time? A new person you think is just great? Everyone will have a different definition of the word "friend"....since we are in mercury retrograde this would be a really wonderful time to re-flect on that word and its true meaning. As I said it is different for everyone which is fine and should be respected. This desire to reach out to you all and ask for you to think about your friends has come about by personal experiences and a general desire to fill my world with joyful healthy positive people -- which we all say we want in our lives plus much. much more....and we deserve it....however have we thought about how we treat others or is it mainly about how they treat us...mainly friends!
AND do you appreciate who you already have in your life --
Many of my readings are focused on love relationships...with our economy poor more and more readings are geared toward career and finances..but surprisingly not to many deal with friendships -- I would venture to say that is because we tolerate or just get rid of friends when they do not live up to our expectations. Friends very often are just more trouble than they are worth. OR Friends are a necessary evil and it is better than no one and you wind up shredding them to anyone who will listen. Friends are either very important to a person or very minor -- or very sadly in too many cases there are NO friends to fuss about.....Sound familiar? LOL When was the last time you actually SPOKE or ever rarer SAW someone you feel or think of as a friends -- especially your CLOSE friends..think about it?????????
The amazing truth is MOST of the people we learn the MOST from is FRIENDS! You see the funny emails about friends bail you out of jail -- REAL friends are the ones next to you IN jail!!! Friends tell you, "You look fine." Real friends tell you your dress looks like crap take it off. Real friends care if someone makes fun of you because you look ridiculous. You don't have REAL family -- you have family! You don't have REAL spouses -- you have spouses! You don't have REAL co-workers -- you have co-workers! So why do we allow "friends" as opposed to "REAL friends"??????
Mainly it is a need to be liked, part of something or just do not want to be alone...or have been raised to have the family or not family mentality. Only family matters so "other" people are just there to "socialize" with. With the breakdown of the family, more mobility of family members, and changes in what is considered the "traditional" family --- FRIENDS have become our new family therefore we put up with alot more because they have become like family. This a nice concept on the surface but a whole different matter in practice. Your family is your family...love 'em...hate 'em it is your family. Your choice how they fit into your life BUT they are still family -- and they feel the same way down deep...some family members it is WAY deep down LOL unfortunately!
Friends on the other hand..well they are friends not family...you may get close BUT unless they feel they way you do...share similar values...similar behaviors...unrealistic expectation will destroy a friendship and cause as much pain as family or lover breakup. Never assume your "friend" has the same definition of "friend" that you do....prescription for disaster! Like with all relationships...take time to get to KNOW the person..take time to listen to what they say and how they act...look at how they treat other people in your presence....trust your instincts!!!!!! Pay attention to not only what they say but HOW they say it. You are thinking well this is just plain good advice...it is BUT we have a tendency to diminish the importance of how much in today's world especially friends strongly impact out lives. We let too much slide or just ignore it -- because it is just a friend....BUT remember when a bond is formed and trust is extended and it is betrayed it is just as -- if not more so -- deadly with the folks you share DNA.
Once you are clear as to your values, how you want to be treated and how you want to treat others..make sure the people you open you home, your wallet, your heart --- feel as you do...There are millions of lovely caring people in the world...if they aren't they can be taught...are you willing to teach them???..don't have to!...but if not let then go and wish them well...Everyone who comes into our lives is a soulmate treat them as such..we all learn from each other just work towards making it a BALANCED HEALTHY experience for both you and them...Cherish your REAL friends they are rare and you know who they are!! If you are not sure call me and I will give you honest helpful insight..
God Bless Love Kat
This blog was supposed to be about the Total Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon in Sagittarius June 15th--in my sign! no surprise there for anyone who knows me or has read with me LOL--but I decided to leave astrology to the experts and I choose another topic which I recently faced. I am quite certain you have also faced this situation and my have even been "guilty" of exhibiting it. What am I referring to?? -- The lack of respect that happens when you are faced with a person with a closed mind. We all have opinions, beliefs, practices and general values that we live by and apply to our everyday lives. I do not believe nor should any reasonable person believe that everyone will agree with your views and ideas. That concept would be plain nuts!!! In fact the chances of someone DISAGREEING with you on some point is almost a given. That is NOT the problem. The problems occurs when the mind is closed to other points of view or ideologies.
I am not saying you should change your mind -- not at all--you have a right to your thoughts and ideals BUT the way in which you present them to others should be exercised with love and care. Especially how you receive their ideas and thoughts. How we interact with others tells alot about us. Being passionate and determined is awesome and wonderful. To be passionate about what is important to you is a gift and should be treasured. Wanting and taking the time to express what is on your mind is also a wonderful thing -- as long as it it done with respect and care. Steamrolling over someone solves nothing and the very thing you are trying to achieve is often lost forever. Healthy dialog between people exchanging ideas is the very essence of human growth and often pleasure. A serious healthy debate is good for the soul and society on the whole. Talking and sharing on a steady basis is essential but please do it with an open mind!
The whole idea of a discussion is to further information and gather wisdom. Your ideas get tested and you skills to get your point across get honed. Be grateful in a discussion that the other person or people are willing to listen and leave it at that. What the recipient does with what you want to share is up to them. Respect their choice as whether to adopt or reject your ideas. Do not browbeat or ridicule them if they choose to disagree. If you maintain an open mind throughout the entire exchange the experience becomes enlightening regardless of outcome. If they don't share your views so be it ...all exchanges leave an impression if not now maybe later. Who knows-- it doesn't matter what matters is what you gained from it and how you intend to use or discard it. Either way you have exposed yourself to information -- it is a win -win -- remember that.
As we choose our friends and companions -- we make choices --we usually gravitate to those who share our beliefs. But even within our comfortable circle of friends we have slight differences -- this is what makes life interesting....bring on the diversity!!! The more points of view the merrier certainly the more informative. Keep your mind open to what is around you. By not allowing yourself to hear contrasting views you truly can not be certain of your own set of ideals. Invite alternatives and different options. What have you got to lose. Don't be afraid to put yourself to the test..you never know what may come your way and open new doors to new exciting opportunities. As I always say life is a classroom chock full of experiences with an open mind and a sincere respect for others your experiences increase and your growth benefits. It is perfectly find to agree to disagree as long as it is done with respect for each other. Everybody wins! It is not about who is right or wrong it is all about the fact you have an interesting and fun time doing it...An open mind lets great stuff in ...enjoy the journey! God Bless Love Kat
Every Spring we sneeze cough and get watery eyes -- we also have a chance to revisit our lives and think about our chance to be reborn just as we did as children -- and we are blessed to be in a very special era of special children -- indigo and crystal -- very special children tapped into the universe in a very very unique way. These children see life very clear and honest -- they are very "real". They see through nonsense. They see through deception and false behavior. We need more of that! We need to be true to ourselves and others just like these special children. We need to have the strength to be "real". To get to know ourselves --to face our "real" selves-- to honor the REAL selves. <p>
Every Spring the trees, the plants, the bulbs and the ground comes alive once more taking care of the true nature of things. The honest breaking through the ground with no pretense or illusion just honest true real growth. Something we could all use---just plain growth. The seed is in the ground and it grows -- it honors its true nature and intention -- it just sprouts from the ground. Much like children do as they just grow. They learn --they gather -- they interact and they respond. They grown out of their shoes and clothes and they continue to experience....Some children are old souls they learn deeper and give so much more-- crystal and indigo -- they challenge and push the envelope -- offering other children and adults are real opportunity to truly blossom much like the bulbs planted last fall. Will you make the best of this wonder??? Will you see the opportunity given by this amazing event?? Will you fight it or embrace it -- your choice -- a wonderful choice.<p>
The flip side of all this wonder is what humans dread most -- change! Oh my God the horrible word --change -- the situation most of us cringe about --change -- to do something differently. Not like we always do-- LIKE WE WANT TO DO BUT can't seem to do on a regular basis. Children force us to change....sleep when we can --not when we would like to--cook healthy food not just grab what we can--watch our language and what we say in general--be more aware of what we do because someone is watching our every move and inflection-- tricky stuff being a parent or role model especially with a gifted child -- they let NOthing slide -- NOT a thing. So be careful and be aware because YOU may learn a thing or two in your travels to teach!<p>
So although we may sneeze this MAY or we may (luckily) just watch as the trees bud and the flowers break ground but no matter what we can not help but marvel at the wonder of it all -- it its no small matter --but rather a miracle and a beautiful thing to behold. Lest we forget to many this is a day -- May 1st -- to rejoice the new day -- new beginning -- our chance to be fertile-- be in wonder of our children -- be blessed in their existence and our potential to reproduce. Beltane-- the new beginning of nature and humankind-- Each day the ground splits with a green spear splitting the ground open as the force of nature will not be stopped as in the growth of a child. No matter what that child may do or think -- they will grow -- how they grow is up to their karma and their parents and the various soul mates in their soul groups. That child will grow! <p>
Gifted children grow in leaps and bounds and WILL fulfill their mission on earth -- to help humankind!!!! Their many lifetimes have paid off in experience and memory. We too have that kind of opportunity to grow on that level and speed. However are we to be part of that wonder or part of the struggle to learn later rather than sooner!!!!!! We face those decisions each and every day. There is no escaping it for the most part-- you can of course be in a fog and live life in denial. Your choice.....hopefully you will choice growth and rebirth and maturity sooner -- if not don't be too hard on yourself it just means it is just not quite your time--- but I do hope you do not run into a gifted child in the meantime because they may have other ideas on how fast you GET IT!!! LOL God Bless Love Kat
This is not one of those usual Mercury retrograde blogs -- BEWARE!!!! You will be late! You will be misunderstood! You will be slapped with arguments! You will break up with your significant other! You will pray for April 24th! Nope it is not the gloom and doom side of retrograde EVEN THOUGH these things will have a very, very high percentage of happening! :-))) This blog is going to explore the flip side of retrograde. The side that does not get the same amount of press that it should. The soul searching -- self-exploration--and hopefully the self-discovery energy of Mercury retrograde.<p>
Every few months the planet Mercury performs an usual type of orbit -- not to get to technical -- it just does not orbit the way it usually does -- so it creates a strange type of energy that humanity feels. Mercury was the god of communication -- a winged messenger -- so it is no surprise that it is all forms of communication and travel that get impacted during a retrograde period. Case in point-- a parkway I have traveled for over 40 years and exit I have used for probably as long I missed last night for the first time in memory. But this so goes beyond our physical world. It penetrates our energetic field deep inside us. So it should be no further surprise that communication within ourselves should also be affected. <p>
We are in constant communication within ourselves -- via our thoughts -- our emotions -- our dreams. This communication occurs between our brain, our soul, and the spiritual realm. This is very powerful communication to aid in our decision processes, our emotional and spiritual growth. So when this process gets impacted and influenced by retrograde energy AMAZING things can happen. In general, in order for us to promote all forms of growth there must be a time to BE and a time to DO. Retrograde is a time to just BE! By just being instead of doing it gives a chance to stop and think. Our energy is not being pulled in a million directions trying to accomplish tasks it is free to assist us in our growth. We have the energy available to think, evaluate and process. In retrograde the true idea is to go backwards as the planet seems to do. We are only thinking backwards so we can better see where we are at present. We re-visit -- re-view -- re-evaluate -- re-mind -- re-flect -- slap a re- on it and you will get the powerful benefit of retrograde. Take the time to look back and re-view what you have learned and what you may have missed. Compare it to where you are now and see what has changed -- not changed and what should change. By reflecting in this manner you are just taking inventory without placing any judgment on your progress. Change -- modification -- adjustment does not have a time stamp on it. Everyone works at their own individual and comfortable pace. Some people are quick and get it young -- some mid-life -- some old and sadly some never but time is not the issue. It is the learning and the implementing that determines success -- not how long it took you.<p>
Once you have taken a stroll back down memory lane THEN you can re-view and re-flect on the NOW -- Are you where you want to be? Are you with whom you want to be? Are you working in the field you desire to be? Are you the person you want to be? That's alotta self-examination!!! But if you are honest with yourself and take an accurate inventory of your state of affairs you will get tremendous insight. Answers will flow through you -- and even MORE questions but it is all good! When we take the time to care enough about ourselves to ask hard questions and seek honest answers we get them. When we are armed with a clearer picture of the situation -- less confusion and less stress -- we are more likely to do something about it. So when the energy clears as Mercury gets its rotation back on track, we are re-freshed, re-covered and re-newed to make the changes it the answers we discovered by being in stronger communication with ourselves. So create a re-spite and re-view the past in order to re-organize and re-vitalize the present! <p>
Always remember -- whether in retrograde or not -- always ask yourself this critical question ---
Is this --situation -- person-- thing --bringing me more pain than joy????? If it is than change it! Use Mercury retrograde energy wisely and you will not only survive it you will be re-born by it. Any questions you may need answers with do not hesitate to contact me -- May you all have a productive and happy Mercury retrograde -- LOL --God Bless Love Kat
March is about the little green people that have bunches of gold in little copper pots -- they are the keepers of the "LUCK"...What is luck? We refer to having good or bad of the stuff -- sometimes LOTS of the stuff usually as humans are prone to believe -- LOTS OF BAD (STUFF) LUCK!!! As far as I am concerned there is no such thing as luck -- oh bad and good stuff exists but it it not luck -- as a matter of fact I will go so far and be determined to explain to you that there is no BAD or GOOD. Heaven forbid OMG!!!! How can there be no good and bad? Good grief Charlie Brown -- how can there be no LUCK? Life would not be worth living -- Finally that part of the concern is true! LOL we do have "stuff" to go through to make life worth living BUT what is that "stuff" and how do we define it ???
We must define it! We are human beings and human beings must label "stuff" -- Are you my "friend" or my "boyfriend"? Are you "happy" or "content"? Is it "done" or "on-hold"? We must know everything and be clear as to its meaning. We drive ourselves and our soulmates -- ALL of them -- crazy until we are satisfied as to a state of condition -- the label -- Everything must be something and the clearer the better!!!! Not only do we label but we must know why. Why did they say that? Why did this happen? Why isn't it changing? Why aren't things getting "better"? Better another label....It is the what is and the why that drives us nuts so what do we do being the normal typical human beings that we are -- absolutley--you got it we come up with a label for what we can not explain and we call it ---LUCK"!
Luck explains the unexplainable and it also gives us an out -- human beings love "outs". You know the things that happen that is not our fault -- we could not help it - it was beyond our control -- OUTS -- humans love them. This way we do not have to take responsibility for what happens to us and more importantly what we do to others. Outs are just plain awesome. Luck is surely an OUT! The other important role an out or in this case LUCK provides us with is the lack of need to examine our behavior. We can go merrily along without having to take a good hard look and the what and especially the why of "stuff". If we can't help it we don't have to think about it--if we don't think about we can't fix it --Can we???...It is just bad luck it just happened. This is otherwise know as CRAP HAPPENS -- more commonly used today.
Crap is anything, besides the literal meaning of what we flush everyday, stuff we don't want -- the very reason for flushing -- we don't need it or want it -- so it get flushed -- NOBODY unless they have straps up the back saves their crap -- BUT we do don't we? Every time we brush our crap under the rug, bury it deep in our minds, or just plain ignore it -- we are saving it! We are not willing to admit it's our crap so we call it LUCK! How convenient! No matter what we label what we can't explain it still exists and until we stop calling it the easy out "LUCK"..it is going to keep happening -- yup your crap is going to keep happening -- because it is not LUCK it is intention -- owwww can't label it that then we will have to take responsibility for it -- we should however BECAUSE it is OUR CRAP!!! LOL LOL We created it! We chose it! It has our name on it even though we do not want to claim it -- You don claim it -- You don't face it--You don't think about it -- It keeps happening....no two ways about it..it ain't going anywhere until you decide you are done hiding behind the label LUCK!
You car breaks down..bad luck...You girlfriend dumps you... bad luck...You lose your job..bad luck...You lose your stuff..bad luck OR You find $50..good luck...You get a great deal on something you really need...good luck -- REALLY? Take a good HONEST look at your "LUCK" see what part you truly played in its manifestation -- take a long look at when you have a "streak of (good or bad) luck -- think of how you felt!!! Think of how you wondered WHEN it would stop or continue???? Your thoughts --your state of mind --- your intentions or feelings was the catalyst that began the LUCK!! True or false? Ties right into the belief that everything happens for a reason -- even crap--and you created it to help you along your life's path to peace, joy and happiness -- YEAH RIGHT -- Crap happening helps become enlightened -- that sucks! Yes it does for a moment until you decide to change the crap into gold!!! Your choice -- not always easy but doable! Every thing -- all stuff -- that happens to you is positive all it depends upon is YOU! Take what happens to you and MAKE it positive -- Find something -- anything -- you got or learned from it. Look and ye shall find...
Just think maybe that copper pot the little green people carry around used to be a chamber pot but they DECIDED to fill it with gold instead...Start doing the same when your copper pot fills with crap -- look deep and find the gold!!! For those of you who have read with me you all know the pony story.....Two boys need money so they go to the farmer -- He always needs help and he is willing to pay--So off the two little workers go to see the farmer--Just like they thought the farmer has chores and he is willing to pay--He hands each boy a pitch fork and points at the barn--"Have at it boys and I will give you each a dollar" announces the farmer -Well they open the barn doors and what a mess--The one boy watches as the other boy quickly digs in--"What are you nuts all this mess for only a dollar why you working so hard?", the amazed boy questioned. --"Well, the other boy yells deep into the mess, with all this horsecrap there has to be a pony in there somewhere"!!!
It ain't LUCK it's your intentions -- use them wisely to create what you want -- if it happens to be what you don't think you want -- No matter what happens find your gold or your pony in all that crap!!! Happy St. Patrick's Day...God Bless Love Kat
Here comes another February that brings cold rain to some and tons of snow to others -- like me staring at 7 feet of the white stuff sitting on my lawn with no end in sight -- it also brings Valentine's Day. The evil dreaded day of the single and perceived "unwanted and unloved" -- there is alot of pressure of these poor discarded souls -- Between the candy, flower, jewelry, AND EVERYTHING else commercials laden with lovers, hearts and kissing we have nowhere to go and hide!!! I say we because I am part of the ranks of SINGLE -- normally a label of shame passed the age of 12 on a normal day BUT February -- well -- single becomes the nearest thing to leprosy since the middle ages. You are shunned and pitied but the chosen few who have managed to latch on to someone -- even if they make their lives miserable -- it is better than being the dreaded SINGLE!!!! owwwwwwww
Let us take a good hard look at SINGLE...shall we...that means as a gown-up in layman's terms -- I can do what I damn please when I damn please and how I damn please without anyone's permission to do so...also the flexablility to make all the changes that I choose --that is a good start don't you think? LOL If I do happen -- by some miracle and weird twist of fate -- to met someone and I don't like them I don't have to hang around and be mistreated or just plain bored because I am SINGLE..that means I am independent, self-reliant, established, self-sufficient, and if I make some effort very HAPPY! Single means -- one -- it does not mean lonely, lost and desperate -- if it does for you than change it!!! Make an effort to get happy and stop attending your own special pity party -- that sucks and long term is very unhealthy...how?
Get off your ass!! Stop feeling alone and lonely by doing one of the following (you may add to the list if I missed any):
1) Join something -- anything! Preferably something you enjoy but anything is better than nothing
2) Pick up the phone and make plans with friends and family -- don't stress if they can't drop everything for you -- that is why God invented calenders -- make plans!!!
3) Check the local events -- grow some balls and go alone -- you never know -- maybe someone else used miragrow for their balls and is alone there also
4) Get a Wii -- you are still by yourself but you are having fun with little funny looking people who walk funny and beat you repeatedly in ping pong but you are laughing and toning up (for the day you have the balls to leave the house you will look good!)
5) Singles dances --they sorta suck because everyone is either too young or too old -- strange how that happens?? but it's music and prettier places than your four walls and the appetizers are usually better than frozen-- try it!
6) For those for you religiously inclined or just lonely -- try visiting a church, temple, mosque, tent whatever -- and check their calender I guarantee it has more doing than yours!!!
7) Last but most challenging by far is ---- drum roll -- trying computer dating with NO expectations other that someone to chat with (another single person afraid to leave the house) and MAYBE just MAYBE you might go on a date BUT remember NO EXPECTATIONS other than you will digest your meal..-- Internet dating is exactly like the LOTTO -- chances are slim to none but you never know unless you play!!!
Except for a few people in the world everyone KNOWS someone..make the effort to get to know them better without stalking them..make an effort to treat yourself better..make the effort to get out and do things...simply make the effort to create a fuller life for yourself without depending on others to MAKE you happy..hate your job get another one...hate your career get a different one...hate where you live than move -- hate YOU than change! Are these things easy ?????of course NOT but BECAUSE YOU ARE SINGLE you have more flexibility to make change-- and remember regardless of your status single or involved ---nothing in life worth doing seems to be easy-- but YOU can make it much harder by being a baby...Single is not the most horrible thing it is just your status NOT who you are!!! You are who you choose to be -- you can be a happy single person or an unhappy single person...single is not the important word -- happy is!
Valentine's Day is about LOVE -- all kinds of love -- I am single but I have people I love -- my mother, my daughter, my friends -- I send them cards and loving wishes and in return I am wished the same -- I have been married twice and lost track of the love affairs in between but as far as Valentine's Day the ONLY sadness I feel on that day is not that I am single but my Daddy is no longer alive to give me a bright red heart shaped laced covered box of chocolates (that were pretty horrible tasting). I used to keep those boxes until the lace turned black with dust -- that is what Valentine's Day means...so pay attention to the people ALL the people in your life no matter who they are -- FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU!!! I just bought myself a pretty bracelet and you know if you know me there is a big box of chocolates on a store shelf somewhere with my name on it waiting for mama to bring it on home -- yes it will have a lace on top!
To all my family, friends, and clients who are part of my blessed SINGLE life Happy Valentine's Day..who has it better than me!
God Bless Love Kat
There is every year a big hoopla about New Year's Eve. People go out buy pretty party dresses shell out big bucks on fancy dinners and dancing. Do not get me wrong I am the original disco dancing queen. Have a closet full of party dresses -- I love a good time! LOL But the true reason for the "party" or the NEW YEAR Celebration is lost on too many people. Yes it is gratitude for having lived another year. Shared our loved ones and friends good times and tough times one more year. And for those blessed with children -- watched our children grow and blossom another year...this is all in the spirit of gratitude for the past..but I feel the true celebration is for what is to come! We raise our glasses and toast to each other and for better times to come.
New Year's Eve closes out the past and flings open the door to any kind of future we choose. New Year's Day morning is a clean canvas -- a bright warm white light shining on endless possibilities. We can splash color upon color to create our new day -- our new year -- our new life. We chant together the countdown..10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 -- then it is 0. Truly meaning nothing -- no thing is to stand in our way of us creating a new beginning -- a new reality -- a new opportunity to be happy. Last year -- the year before that and the year before that one is gone -- finished -- and can not be changed modified or forgotten BUT it can be filed away in a place that no longer interferes with our new beginning called our future. Every New Year's Eve we are given a golden opportunity to toast our past -- honor our past -- reflect on our past and most importantly quietly allow it to slip away into a place where it can no longer hurt us or hold us back from our dreams and desires. Watch the past float away on each champagne bubble as it floats up your crystal flute. Drink and rejoice in the gifts of wisdom the past experiences afforded you -- remind yourself to say thank you for and to all your soul mates who helped you become the person you asked to become. Then close your eyes and let it all go...
When you open your eyes make sure there is a smile on your face, a lump in your throat and a warm feeling in your heart because that will alert the universe that you are ready to start on your new journey of creation -- the journey that you began the day you were born-the journey you buy a new ticket for every New Year's Eve at midnight. As the ball drops your ticket is punched. Whether you use your ticket is another story. Opportunities pass us by every second of every day -- when the ball hits the base -- Are you going to once again throw away another precious opportunity to create abundance in your life? Are you going to take the stance that nothing changes -- that it is JUST another year? Melodramatic? -- perhaps! But what have you to lose by kissing goodbye the past year with all its issues -- trials - and tribulations and making room for whatever you desire. You have NOTHING to lose worth holding on too and everything worthwhile to gain. Clean out your closet - clean out your heart and the soul will do the rest -- all you have to do is outline what it is exactly that you want -- yeah yeah yeah it is that easy -- it is the knowing part that it is in fact possible is sooooooooooooo hard!
The real ridiculous part about New Year's Eve is that it is so arbitrary -- an arbitrary date -- an arbitrary time -- but mostly arbitrary in its importance for only ONE night. The truth is every night is New Year's Eve -- every night we can reflect on what happen THAT DAY -- learn from it, be happy about the joy of growth and then file it if we need it. When then can close our eyes, rest our weary bodies only to wake to a brand new day which begins our brand new year and our brand new life....for this we should remain in a place of gratitude because like the weather if you don't like the weather -- make a few changes and you can get what you want -- We were given the gift of free will -- The best time to use our free will is New Year's Eve whether it be actually on Dec 31st or any date you choose -- JUST USE IT don't waste it...I want to wish everyone a healthy, happy, and abundant NEW YEAR..now or next week or any day you choose! :-)) God Bless Love Kat
I have, as others have, written repeatedly about gratitude before -- this time I dedicate it to my aunt who lost my uncle several years ago. They had a story book romance. They meet when she was a teenager and it was love at first sight. They had good times and rough times but their love was solid and persistent for over 40 years. When he died she wanted to jump in the box and the hole with him. The last few years have been very difficult but she has hung in there. My point is she still wants to jump in the box and the hole eventhough she has three loving and generous children and their spouses -- several adorable and attentive grandchildren -- a slew of patient friends who keep her constantly busy!!!! Each day she says she counts her blessings YET all she really does is dream of the day she will be cross over through the pearly gates to join him.All that surrounds her is lost on her -- this is a shame on many levels-- mainly because she will not get what she wants until she reaches a place of true gratitude. She is not alone in her thinking, unfortunately.
So many people are truly blessed with simple pleasures -- they come in the form of good health -- loving families -- satisfying jobs etc and others struggle with NOT having any of those things BUT the fact is they are still BLESSED with the opportunity to wake each and every day!!! Each day affords them another opportunity to change, better or replace any issues they face-- they have the power within to bring into there lives whatever they feel they need to make their lives better -- happier -- healthier!!! Why do some people succeed and other struggle -- yes karmic contract which I have spoke about several times plays a major role BUT we have the power to close out that contract when we want to. We are not stuck for life -- it is a choice -- not an easy one to achieve but a choice. So why then? They simply do not and why is that..........
Very, very simple because the do not FIRST take the time to see what they do have and TRULY TRULY appreciate it. I do not care if it is a slice of bread, or the ability to breathe the air or the reach out and grap a rag. Once we look at what we do have in a new light -- a light that is seen and shines from within our hearts and souls -- we can not proceed to create anymore that will change our circumstances in any way shape or form. We bitch about the mudane -- the unimportant --the silly -- we bitvh and moan day after day about things that in the greatere scherme of things are not what drives our happiness or our health in fact it is the very bitching and moaning that causes us to interfer with our health and happiness. The next time you open your mouth to complain about something really stop and listen -- take the time to hear the words you are throwing out to your energy and the world -- 90% of the time it is utterly ridiculous....make what you say be more positive and come from a place of gratitude!!!!!!!!!!
When you bitch about the traffic ---- give thanks you don't have to walk..When the price of food is up --- gave thanks you can still buy some. When your bills fill up the mailbox -- gaive thanks you are not cold and sitting in the dark. When you house is taken by the bank ... gives thanks that you can now have a fresh start without a crippling mortgage. When you lose your job...give thanks you can now find a better one. When your loved one dies..give thanks that the pain is over and is not in unconditional love. When you have a difficult disease..give thanks it is not 100 years ago -- you'd already be dead! No matter what the situation you feel has been taken fromm you or somehow distressed you there is ALWAYS a better nor positive replacement -- take the time to love yourself enough and the people around you that love you to FIND IT!!!! It is there you just need to get out off your way and negative thoughts to see the beautiful green forest staring right at you....sometimes it is as simple as a green tree swaying the the wind to show to roll with the wind and create new change.
With this new holiday season -- bring forth a new attitude one of gratitude and feel the blessings all around you...so you can't buy presents..give thanks you have someone that you would want to give something to and if there is no one -- there is always YOU!!!
May God Bless you all and shower you with the feeling of gratiude because if you look there is alwasy a reason to feel this way -- now and throughout the year. Happy Holidays and much joy to your life...God Bless Love Kat
No matter how horrible the relationship was -- no matter how long it was "over" -- no matter how badly you wanted "out" -- Once the relationship ends you still need time to mourn the loss of the relationship, not the loss of the person who you feel made you miserable or the horrific experiences you faced while in the relationship BUT rather the hope and dreams you had for the relationship. We all enter into a new relationship with high hopes and expectations -- unless we have become so jaded we enter with fear and distrust that is a whole other issue but mostly we enter happy, giddy and filled with promise that this is the ONE! The ONE that will be better than all the others in the past -- the ONE that will carry us gently and lovingly to our graves. We too often find out in short order that our expectations were unrealistic.
Whether a relationship ends due to unrealistic expectations OR incompatibility of any kind OR very commonly one partner outgrows the other OR certain mistakes made by either partner can not be forgiven -- the end is hurtful and needs time to heal. This time must be allowed. This time is necessary to move forward without hurt, disappointment AND most sadly anger! Unless we give ourselves time to regroup, forgive and to understand why -- we only carry these emotions into our next relationship and we ask --"Why does this keep happening??????" It keeps happening because you did not allow yourself time to LEARN and not REPEAT the same patterns -- HA HA you thought I was going to say "mistakes" -- These repeat performances are not mistakes they are lessons NOT learned.
When you allow ourselves time to be alone -- when we do not run from our thoughts and questions -- when we take the time to find answers that make us us -- we then are able to begin to grow and move away from our patterns and behaviors that no longer serve us! We start to discover who we really are through our relationships not inspite of them. The more willing we are to see our part in the process from start to end of a relationship the less likely we are to repeat what did not work for either partner. You must first admit it takes two to tango. If you do not do that then you are doomed to go through relationships like toilet paper! Do not go overboard and blame yourself for ALL of the failure -- remember martyrs die like the rest of us LOL.
Like all things, people etc we lose in our lives we feel emotion -- even if we were not truly attached to it. This emotion has to be acknowledged and honored if we hope to heal and go into our next relationship with an open heart. We do this for ourselves. We forgive for ourselves. We can only truly be successful at healing IF we do it ourselves. We should not sit around hoping someone new will come along and "love" us so we can heal. Someone may come along and help a little but it is up to you to figure out what you need to give yourself FIRST otherwise this new relationship will also suffer. That is way too much pressure to dump on your new partner.
After a divorce give yourself time -- live alone, reconnect with family and friends avoid the madness of self abusive behavior after you have been "let out of jail." After any other kind of breakup -- give yourself time -- do not run to the first set of open arms to find self worth. The call it "SELF" worth for a reason. Be kind to yourself, save your energy for you first you need it -- but avoid extremes do not isolate yourself or alienate people who truly love you. Do your very best to keep things in your life balanced. A temporary pity party is totally acceptable even a good cry is very therapeutic JUST don't make a career out of it!!!! LOL Let it go and move forward -- just PLEASE give yourself time to get there...Need help with a breakup? My guides and I can help make sense of the transition. God Bless Love Kat