There is no doubt that men and women are different when it comes to relationships. Women are commonly more emotional and do express themselves on the whole, far better than men. As a man, I am here to tell you that just because men do not always articulate emotions as well as women do, it certainly does not mean that we don't have those emotions.
Men do want relationships, when they feel ready. Men do want to be loved, appreciated and respected just like a woman. Men also hurt very deeply. Here are some of my thoughts to help the male species be better understood.
Men want a committment when they are ready but so do women. At some point men do want serious relationships, but the ones that don’t want to be committed have a variety of reasons why. Sometimes it is because we have just ended a relationship, we wish to date a while so we can get to know others, we may not be ready to take that leap of faith.
However, most men often feel that we might be losing our freedom. Being tied down means we have to think of someone else in our life and welcome someone else into our heart. The ability to get up and go whenever and wherever becomes limited when you become attached. Often men have a hard time adjusting to thinking about someone else and when we are dating, we don’t have to, but in a serious relationship we do. On the whole most men have other goals that they are concerned with achieving in their own lives first before we are ready to entertain a relationship. We want our lives in order and to be more established before we settle.
In my experience women often feel more ready to give their heart in a shorter period of time. So ladies with all that being said what can you do when you are dating, how do you take the situation from dating to relationship?
First off, get to know one another. It takes a long time to really KNOW who someone truly is and what makes them tick. Don't jump the gun. Let things evolve slowly. Never expect you are going to change someone. That is a huge mistake. Neither party should ever have to change. Be who you are. Men do not like to be forced or changed. No one does. Be honest. Again in my own experiences I valued honesty. I may not have liked it or even agreed but I knew the truth. Don't ever expect a man to read your mind, we don't operate that way.
Enjoy the dating. If the relationship is to come it will. We all date so we can see what we like and also dislike. Try to be friends always, men need to trust as women do. Happy couples are always friends. They can count on one another.
That is my take, at least for now!
I look forward to reading for you and telling you my "intuitive male" perspective on your relationship.
Keith