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ARIES: March 21 – April 20
How much further can you go? Big questions that involve calling it quits, or not, have many of you feeling indecisive. For someone who never wavers, at the last minute even you are asking yourself if it's worth it to put your faith in what has yet to pan out. There is no blanket prescription to use as a guide, but it's safe to say that you are going places. The next few months will include emotional fireworks and require more reserve strength than usual. You could pass all of this up and stay home but what will that get you? Take a deep breath and keep on going.
TAURUS: April 21 – May 20
Both ends to the middle is one of those places that all of us wind up in now and then. What we do about it depends on how easy it is to keep it up when we find ourselves in a compromise that requires more from us than we expected. You've gotten what you wanted from a situation that can't give you more than you've taken from it. As far as that goes? It'll take time to get the lesson. Part of you is too attached to all of this - but the idea that anything needs to be perpetuated past a certain point becomes ridiculous in the face of changes that beg you to move on.
GEMINI: May 21 – June 20
What goes around comes around. Given recent events you're either riding a wave of generosity and fulfillment, or you've crashed and burned. There's no easy way to talk about where you're going. Those of you who are on higher ground need to enjoy those blessings and bask in that goodness while it's alive. Those of you who have been hung out to dry are living with the laws of Karma. No matter how dire those consequences might be, everything is open to change. There is always redemption for anyone who sees the error of their ways and who wants to make amends.
CANCER: June 21 – July 20
You are starting all over again. Within the next few weeks another story will unfold. You are already at a place where you can see it coming. Whatever this is going to look like, hinges a lot on your willingness to let go of the idea that you need anyone else's permission to go for it. For many of you, the sense of responsibility to the past, to 'family', or anything that involves external expectations has you looking at your codependent tendencies. More than anything, the need to recognize yourself and your own needs is what will wind up serving everyone in the long run.
LEO: July 21 – August 20
You finally have enough room to breathe. It's good that you got this to work. Moving and changing, as things unfold, look forward to a new cast of characters and a whole new set of conditions. Balancing yourself, in an expanded state is bound to free your mind, and take you far enough to see what needs to be done. The old story is about to be infused by other worldly things, the kind of stuff that shows up when you're on the right track, waiting for a sign. Stay open; beggars on the path could be angels in disguise, sent to steer you in the right direction.
VIRGO: August 21 – September 20
The people who drive us crazy are always our best teachers. This is so hard to admit, but it’s true. In your case, whoever’s making you nuts reminds you too much of _______ (Fill in the blanks) for you to be able to see them as anything but a nuisance – at best. You don’t want to be reminded of things that force you to question everything about yourself. That’s OK but; sooner or later we all have to reckon with the things that youth and denial drive us to run away from. It will be easier for you to confront the truth if you can get behind the idea that it sets us free.
LIBRA: September 21 – October 20
It's hard to say how you feel. On the one hand you're totally in tune with the idea that everything is divinely ordered; on the other hand, you're a bit confused by whatever you're looking at right now. The burning question of the day is; what will it take to enjoy this? There is no prescription for what it takes to fill every experience with joy. Don't hassle yourself for being less than perfect and use what you know to let difficulty, stress, challenges, and doubt take you deeper into the heart of your reality. May your dreams be in keeping with what's in your highest good.
SCORPIO: October 21 – November 20
Tied up with people and things that are too close for comfort, you can't get enough distance on all of this to be able to see it for what it is. Everyone thinks they're right. Someone is 'righter' than others. Knowing more about their issues than they do is where it's at right now. Knowing as much about yourself feeds in to it too. In situations that are less than comfortable don't let your fear and control issues disrupt the ability to get the desired result. Keep your distance long enough to assess things. When you see this for what it is, you will make yourself heard
SAGITTARIUS: November 21 – December 20
You’ve totally had it. If you weren’t so good at putting on a happy face God knows where your attitude would be. As if one crisis after another wasn’t enough, all of a sudden things took a turn for the worse and you’re wondering what it’s all for. I have no advice for you except to say that even this has to have a purpose. Instead of focusing so much on the problem take a look at what the solution might be. If you could only bring yourself to accept the fact you have absolutely nothing to say about other people’s choices, their direction, or their life, this would be easier.
CAPRICORN: December 21 - January 20
If you could clear up one last thing it would be so much easier for you to sail right on out of here – literally or metaphorically, you are so close to having it all together, it’s scary! When nothing is totally clear, and belief keeps us from trusting what we know inside, it’s hard to know what to do. Don’t think that you have to keep agreeing to anything that isn’t working for you – and don’t think that what other people want has to take precedence over what it will take to get this to work for you. PS: you’re here too! Think about it; this time the choice could very well be up to you.
AQUARIUS: January 21 – February 20
This doesn’t have to turn into a big production. You could be over reacting to something that is less of a deal than you’re making it. Whoever you have a problem with would be easier to get around if you understood more about how they see things. You don’t have to be their next best friend to figure out why it is that they won’t get off your back. This is a no brainer my friend. If you want to sort things out all you have to do is be willing to hear them out, decide how much you owe on this debt, and strike it off your list of Karmic debts once and for all.
PISCES: February 21 – March 20 
You think you know how this is supposed to go. Years of needing to keep all of your ducks in a row have made it so that you are always the one who's supposed to have that information. In this situation, the less you try to manage things, the better. Too much has changed, and continues to change for you to think that you have the inside scoop on any of it. Rebirthing yourself, with new goals and a new sense of purpose is what this is all about. Don't be in a big rush to know what's going on. Consider a change of location. It could greatly increase your chances for success.

Exercise 1: One Minute of Mindfulness

This is an easy mindfulness exercise, and one that you can do anytime throughout the day. Take a moment right now to try this. Check your watch and note the time. For the next 60 seconds your task is to focus all your attention on your breathing. It’s just for one minute, but it can seem like an eternity. Leave your eyes open and breathe normally. Be ready to catch your mind from wandering off (because it will) and return your attention to your breath whenever it does so.

This mindfulness exercise is far more powerful than most people give it credit for. It takes some people many years of practice before they are able to complete a single minute of alert, clear attention.

Keep in mind that this mindfulness exercise is not a contest or a personal challenge. You can’t fail at this exercise, you can only experience it.

Use this exercise many times throughout the day to restore your mind to the present moment and to restore your mind to clarity and peace.

Over time, you can gradually extend the duration of this exercise into longer and longer periods. This exercise is actually the foundation of a correct mindfulness meditation technique.

You can also use a mindfulness bell to focus your attention on, instead of your breathing. If you have struggled with mantra meditations or breathing meditation techniques in the past, then a mindfulness bell recording can really help you to focus your attention in the present moment and achieve a state of mental stillness.

Exercise 2: Conscious Observation

Pick up an object that you have lying around. Any mundane everyday object will do...a coffee cup or a pen for example. Hold it in your hands and allow your attention to be fully absorbed by the object. Observe it. Don’t assess it or think about it, or study it intellectually. Just observe it for what it is.

You’ll feel a sense of heightened "nowness" during this exercise. Conscious observation can really give you a feeling of "being awake". Notice how your mind quickly releases thoughts of past or future, and how different it feels to be in the moment. Conscious observation is a form of meditation. It’s subtle, but powerful. Try it...by practicing mindfulness in this way you’ll really start to sense what mindfulness is all about.

In the book Mindfulness, Bliss and Beyond, Ajahn Brahm describes his own personal experience of conscious observation...

“The mind is like a megawatt searchlight, enabling you to see so much deeper into what you are gazing at. Ordinary concrete becomes a masterpiece. A blade of grass literally shimmers with the most delightful and brilliant shades of fluorescent green. ..the pretty becomes profound and the humdrum becomes heavenly under the sparkling energy of power mindfulness.”

Exercise 3: The Ten Second Count
This is more of an exercise in practicing concentration than it is in mindfulness, and it is a simple variation on exercise 1. In this exercise, rather than focussing on your breath, you just close your eyes and focus your attention on slowly counting to ten. If your concentration wanders of, start back at number one! For most people, it goes something like this...

“One...two...three...do I have to buy milk today or did John say he’d do it? Oh, whoops, I’m thinking.”

“One...two...three...four...this isn’t so hard after all... Oh no....that’s a thought! Start again.”

“One...two...three... now I’ve got it. I’m really concentrating now...”

Exercise 4: Mindfulness Cues
In this exercise you focus your attention on your breathing whenever a specific environmental cue occurs. For example, whenever you hear the phone ring, you promptly bring your attention into the present moment and stay focussed on your breath.

Simply choose a cue that works for you. Perhaps you will choose to become mindful every time you look in the mirror. Perhaps it will be every time your hands touch each other. Perhaps it will be every time you hear a bird.

Mindfulness cues are an excellent mindfulness technique that are designed to snap you out of the unconscious “autopilot” state of mind and bring you back into the present moment.

Mindfulness Exercises: Taking it to the Next Level
These mindfulness exercises are designed to develop your ability to stay in the present moment and they are a great way to improve your ability to concentrate. If you practice these exercises, you’ll also find it easier to meditate, as you are strengthening all the right mental muscles in the process.

Ideally, mindfulness is something that you will learn to integrate into all the moments of your daily life. These easy exercises are a great way to help you experience moments of mindfulness - brief awakenings so to speak. To really experience the profound benefits of mindfulness, I encourage you to learn to gradually incorporate mindfulness into everything you do and ideally, to learn how to practise formal mindfulness meditation.

Take a look at these mindfulness activities and take another step towards a more conscious, enlightened and peaceful experience of life.

The Difference between Concentration and Mindfulness
It is important to realize that there is a difference between mindfulness and concentration. Concentration is important. It helps you to focus your attention on one thing or another, and in this way it helps you to take command of what goes on in your mind. But mindfulness is another step beyond concentration. Mindfulness is a state of awareness. It is “presence” of mind.

Concentration is the tool you use to bring your mind into focus and to close the door on mental chatter, but it’s still up to you to “show up” and be present in the moment.

If this doesn’t quite make sense to you yet, then perhaps this information on how to practice mindfulness will clear things up.

One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.

Now, I’m not going to pretend I don’t ever judge other people — I think it’s either a built-in method all humans have, or something we develop because of built-in methods. We all judge people, and I’m not an exception.

But I’ve gotten better at noticing when it happens. And recognizing that it’s a sign of something harmful.

The judging itself isn’t bad. It’s what the judging is a symptom of that’s harmful. I say “harmful” instead of “bad” because instead of judging I’d rather observe that it causes harm.

What underlying harmful causes/situations are indicated by my judging people? Well, here are a few:

I am very ignorant of what the person is going through.
I don’t understand the situation.
I have unrealistic expectations of people.
I think I’m superior to other people.
I’m not grateful.
I’m being self-centered.
I’m not being curious, but instead I close off all learning.
I can’t really help the situation from a place of judgment.
How That Happens
Let’s take a fake but typical example so I can show you what I mean (I’m going to bold the symptoms, so forgive the overemphasis):

I see a relative who is actively harming her health, who is overweight and diabetic and yet smokes and eats junk food all the time and does other bad things. I know she can make her health better by changing her habits. I judge her for what she’s doing, think badly of her, get frustrated with her, dismiss her because she’s not worthy of my frustration. This kind of thing happens with me and lots of other people all the time — just change the details to spouse, co-worker, kid, friend and instead of unhealthy things, they’re doing something else you don’t like.

What’s going on in this example? Well, first, I’m ignorant of what she’s going through and I don’t understand the situation. She’s been depressed because of her health problems, feeling guilty, feeling stuck, feeling scared, untrusting of herself. Because of these bad feelings, she doesn’t like to think about health, and makes herself feel better through smoking and comfort food. She’s just trying to be happy. And in fact, I do the same kinds of things all the time — I fail. I feel bad. I comfort myself. So I’m not superior, even if I think I am.

What’s more, I’m not being grateful for the great person she is, despite her health problems. She’s wonderful. By focusing on judging her, I’m not appreciating that. Instead, I’m being self-centered by focusing on how much better I am, how she’s frustrating me, how my frustration is more important than any pain she’s feeling. I’m not being curious about who she is, what she’s going through and why … instead I have made a judgment and that stops all inquiry. And from this place of judgment, I can’t help because I have closed off dialog, and have written her off.

You can see how all of these things are harmful. They make me frustrated and unhappy, they harm my relationship with this lovely person, they stop communication and learning, they don’t allow me to help alleviate suffering, they close me off to what she has to offer me. Among other harms.

How to Let Go of Judging
First be aware that you’re doing it, and see it as a red flag. It’s not horrible to judge, but it’s a good sign that other things are going on that are harming you and others.

This takes practice. But there are symptoms that tell you you’re judging — if you feel angry or frustrated or dismissive of someone. If you’re complaining about someone, or gossiping about them. These are signs you’re judging. Recognize what’s going on.

After you notice the red flag, pause and be curious. Don’t get mad at yourself, but be curious:

Why are you judging?
What expectations do you have that are unrealistic?
What can you guess about what the other person is really going through?
Can you find out more? (This isn’t always realistic but sometimes you can.)
What about the other person can you appreciate?
Can you get out of your self-centeredness and put yourself in the other person’s shoes?
Can you imagine a time when you were going through something similar?
Once you’ve done that, ask yourself: How can you help? What does this person need? Sometimes they just need someone to listen, someone to be a friend, someone to not judge, someone to accept them. Sometimes they need more — advice, a guide, a hug.

But you can’t help them from a place of judgment. Only when you let go of the judgment that has arisen, and come to a place of acceptance and curiosity and empathy, can you really help. And incidentally, you’ll be a lot happier in the process.

Do you sometimes find that you sabotage yourself in your work or your relationships? Have you wondered why you would do that?

One of the things that may help you understand your self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself.

We all have a survival part that is programmed into us -- which I call our ego-wounded self. It gets activated by fear and goes into action to try to protect us from getting hurt. This stress response is very helpful, if you are being physically threatened and need to fight or flee.

However, many of us have been programmed to go into the stress response when we fear getting emotionally hurt, as opposed to being threatened with physical harm. You might be operating from a false belief that says, "I can't handle emotional pain," so you might find yourself fleeing a work or relationship situation, or engaging in some other self-protective/self-sabotaging behavior, as if there is a real physical threat, when in reality the threat is coming from your false beliefs.

Why Do You Self-Sabotage?

Below are some of the beliefs that might trigger your fears or your resistance to taking loving action in your own behalf:


  • I'm not lovable. No one can love me.
  • Once someone knows me, he or she will leave me. I will always be left. I'm not relationship material.
  • I will lose my freedom. I will have to give myself up to keep the relationship.
  • Being rejected is too painful. I don't want to take the chance of getting that badly hurt.

For many people, the fear of rejection and the fear of engulfment keep them out of relationships.


  • If I fail, it means I'm inadequate and stupid, and everyone will know that I'm not as smart as they think I am.
  • My parents have always expected me to succeed, and I don't want to be controlled by them. I would rather resist what they want from me.
  • I deserve to start at the top and I won't take anything less (entitlement issue).
  • I'm the artistic type and if I keep at it, I will eventually succeed -- even though I've been trying for years. I can't stand the idea of working for someone, so I will just keep telling my partner, parents or anyone else who is willing to support me that I'm getting closer and closer to making it.

Your fears are keeping you from taking loving action in your own behalf, but these fears are based on false beliefs, such as:

  • Success or failure defines my worth as a person.
  • I'm basically inadequate as a person.
  • I cannot handle rejection or loss.
  • I have to give myself up to be loved.

These are just a few of the false beliefs that may be keeping you stuck. You might want to go inside and see what other beliefs trigger your fears.

How Do You Self-Sabotage?


  • I keep myself isolated.
  • I rush into a relationship, making things up about the other person and wanting to spend all my time with him or her, and then either I do a quick retreat or the other person does a quick retreat.
  • I give myself up to the point of resentment and then end the relationship.
  • I make so many demands on my partner that he or she feels smothered and ends the relationship.
  • I judge everyone I meet as not being good enough for me.
  • I have sex very early in the relationship and then feel hurt when the relationship doesn't work out.
  • Other___________________


  • I keep putting off looking for the kind of job I want.
  • I am able to work, and I say I want to, but I keep living off other means.
  • I stay in a job that I hate.
  • I give myself up at work and allow myself to be used, working way too many hours.
  • I keep myself uneducated regarding doing what I really want to do.
  • Other___________________

Healing Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

Here are a few actions you can take that can get you unstuck:

  • Notice self-judgments. It is likely that your self-judgments are a major reason you are stuck. Self-judgment is a major form of self-sabotage. When you notice yourself judging yourself, ask your higher self for the truth.
  • Shift your definition of your worth, from outcomes to effort. Decide that you will define your worth by the loving actions you take for yourself and others, rather than by the outcome of the actions.
  • Consciously see mistakes and failure as steppingstones to success, rather than as definitions of your worth. Make it okay to fail. Allow failure and mistakes to inform you that you need to learn more, rather than being indicators of your intelligence or worth, or lack thereof.
  • Learn to be kind and compassionate toward your own feelings. When you can embrace your painful feelings with kindness toward yourself, rather than with judgment, you will not be so afraid of being hurt.
  • Make a decision that you are willing to lose another person rather than lose yourself. You will not fear rejection or engulfment when you learn to be true to yourself, and you are willing to take loving action in your own behalf -- even if another person doesn't like it.

By doing the above inner work, you can move out of your self-sabotaging behavior and into satisfying work and a loving relationship.

1. His pupils are huge. Either you're in a super-dark place, or this subtle signal means he's into you. "Dilation is a brain response that occurs when you like and are attracted to something

2. His eyebrows are raised. People tend to use this subconscious expression to help open their eyes when they like what they see. If he raises his brows ever so slightly while you're talking, it means he's interested in whatever you're saying.

3. He shows you his front teeth. "Guys stop smiling like this around the age of 5 — unless they're really happy," He might not show off a toothy grin while casually flirting, but on a really awesome date when he's having loads of fun? Look for teeth: "When he feels really happy, he's not covering that up"

4. He smiles above the mouth. Real smiles extend well beyond the mouth: They lift the forehead and give you slightly squinty eyes. If his smile involves his whole face, it means you're genuinely affecting him in a good way.

5. He licks his lips in a cute (not creepy) way. When you're attracted to someone, your mouth produces extra saliva, Wood says. In response, he might quickly lick his lips or press them together. (Slower = creepster.)

6. He locks eyes with your face — not your eyes. You might think that a guy who is totally enamored by you will find it hard to peel his eyes away. But now that everyone is used to being glued to their phones, nonstop eye contact can make people feel uncomfortable. So, new rule: If he spends about 80 percent of your interaction looking from your eyes to your nose and lips, he's into you,

7. He takes a deep breath when he sees you. Yes, men do require oxygen. But when he subconsciously takes a deep breath — he'll pull in his stomach and puff out his chest — it's a subconscious way to make his upper body look broader and his waist look smaller, two qualities that make him look more fit and (from an evolutionary perspective) more desirable

9. He puts his hands on his hips with his elbows out to the sides. Because this stance takes up more space than standing with your arms against your sides, this is a male power signal that guys use to show physical superiority over other guys. It means he's seeking attention. And if he does it while he's angled toward you? He's seeking it from you.

10. He touches your knee ("Soft pants!") or tucks your hair behind your ear. When he initiates physical contact under the guise of another reason, it's a test to see how you respond to his touch. Because touch is a tool he uses to test your limits, it could mean he's only interested in sex, Wood says. If he really likes you, though, he might pull back extra-slowly and smile sweetly as he does it, which means he wants to take the time to get closer to you.

11. He sits with his legs spread. Because this position exposes his man parts, which are full of sensitive nerve endings, it's a vulnerable position that could mean he's willing to put himself out there (literally and emotionally) to get to know you.

12. He angles his pelvis toward you. Because the pelvis is overtly sexual, it often signals sexual interest — or lack thereof. If he angles his hips away from you, it's probably the latter

13. He points his toes toward you. Because the feet are involved in the fight-or-flight response that kicks in when you're in danger, they're largely controlled by the unconscious mind — and can be very telling in social interactions. "The feet tend to point where the heart wants to go." Of course, timing is super important in interpreting the feet: If you're talking to a guy who seems interested, you touch his arm, and then see his feet angle away from you, the context says he's no longer interested.

14. He crosses his legs. If he crosses them in a way that turns his torso and upper body away from you, he might be disinterested. But if he crosses his legs away and turns the rest of his body toward you, it could just mean that he's shy, depending on the guy.

15. He sort of shuffles toward you while you're talking. He obviously wants to get closer to you.

16. He talks to you without facing you. Wood says this could be a sign he's keeping his options open. But don't rush to judge a great conversationalist just because he chats you up while he faces forward. If he makes an effort to find a common thread or asks you lots of questions, his body language may reflect his personality (shy), and he could actually be totally enthralled by you.

17. He touches his throat. The throat represents communication and vulnerability. If he reaches up to touch it during your interaction, he's interested in you and worried about coming across well. But again, context can play a role here. If you're talking to Mr. Slick, a throat touch could signal dishonesty. So feel him out, and look for other signs on this list before you go reassure him.

18. When he holds your hand, he presses his palm against yours. This kind of full-fledged hand-holding signifies a desire to connect. The same goes for interlocking fingers, while an arched palm means he's scared or may be holding something back (literally).

19. He grazes your forearm while he's talking. The message is loud and clear: He wants your attention, be it to impress you or to make sure you're listening — because he wants to be heard.

20. He walks beside you. If he's constantly two steps ahead of you, it means he's more concerned about himself than you, Wood says. Unless he's leading you through a scary or crowded space, he should adjust his pace to match yours.


I sense there is an emotional energy surrounding you this evening and wanted to reach out to you in the event that you wanted to speak with me.  You don't have to feel the way that you do.  I wanted to let you know that I can help you with the struggles and emotions that you are dealing with right now.  I'll be up all night taking readings, so please don't hesitate to call me. 


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Hi Barbara, good looking people all around for sure.  I will address all of your questions, but I probably won’t go in chronological order as I am channeling as I write so bear with me for a bit while I try to extrapolate the information from inside my being.  In regards to you and Greg it shows that two of you each individually are both hot headed and you would think that two fiery people would create a union that is to that end a blaze, but I feel like that is not totally the case between the two of you.  I see that both of you would rather spend the days being somewhat lacksadaisical where you can relax and not get bogged down to external stresses.  You all have a very complex relationship, that can be very emotional, but the problem is you both necessarily do not meet each other’s needs very well. 


That’s probably one of the reasons why you are gravitating towards Carl because I do feel like in a mystical sort of ways he is able to fulfill an emotional lack that Greg cannot fulfill or creates the lack if that makes any sense.   I see many power struggles between the two of you and even though Greg’s sense of humor may lighten some of this it leaves you frustrated at times and I feel like you say to yourself “I wish I could…”  It does show that Greg is in absolute love with you.  He has a hard time expressing these feelings for you and may not be so sympathetic in a lot of ways.  You both have very strong characters and you being the responsible one cannot always be cheerful and optimistic which I feel like Greg needs to feel balanced himself. 


Is Greg a good match for you?  I don’t have any strong opinions that’s making me say that it’s your destiny’s path to stay with him, but I’m also not saying that Greg is the type that would give up on you so easily…I’ll explain in a bit.


As for you and Carl, you actually bring out a side of him and I think you already know this or at least that’s my instinct here which tells me that he may in fact be a different person when he’s around you.  Even though the both of you are stubborn and opinionated you are able to bring out his sensitive side and in that you actually make him a better person.  Your connection to this man is strong and I feel like in his many transformations (he is undergoing one right now as we speak) he thinks about you often.  You are both a comfort blanket to him but also you inspire him to look deeply with in himself.  It’s something that he hasn’t totally put his finger on, but he IS aware and conscious of the fact that you are good for him – at least on an emotional level.  What I mean by this is he’s probably more expressive to you than he is to Tracy.  They have a very practical sort of relationship and to certain extent there exists devotion, but in terms of a deeper connection that elicits feelings of passionate love well he has availed himself to you in this regard. 


The energy that radiates from the two of you is magic.  People from miles away can sense it and it’s actually a shame that it’s not permanent in the present moment.  To that end, unlike with Greg, this feels more like the two of you would be happier together – I’m a bit of a romantic in that way, but it’s nice to see this sort of magic between two such grounded people.  It’s weird, but it’s exciting to see.  This type of radiant energy perhaps cannot be sustain over a long stretch of time, so marriage may not be such a good idea.  However, it does show that the two of you will have a window where you will no longer be able to restrain yourselves and falling in love with each other again appears inevitable.   What happens after will be a necessary balance; one that is vital to your longevity with each other.


It goes without saying that Carl is a sympathetic person and he necessarily draws this quality out in every person that he associates with.  He can be self indulgent like many tauruses, but what sets him apart is that he is also extremely sensitive to other people.  He’s a good looking man and in the past had to ward off a handful of stalkers lol.  I feel like he does love you.  I feel like both of these men are very different and they are both very lucky to be in the presense of such a beautiful woman, really.


I cannot make any of your decisions for you.  I will be here to answer any of your questions in regards to future prospects with either of these men.  Right, now you are with Greg and I do believe that he has the capability of showing you a loving side albeit in a controlled way, but nonetheless his true feelings for you and the consistency of those days are yours for the taking as your connection continues to develop.  However, I cannot denounce to what feels like a deep passionate love affair with you and Carl.  It shows that there is this magnetic attraction to each other that’s not just simply highschool sweet heart love.  It’s an emotional bond and the Universe recognizes this and parlays a certain magnetic magic energy that I’m not convinced either one of you will be able to get away from unless it’s resolved or address.  So you can expect with certainty that you will have this window of opportunity to get lost in this connection – and it’s good and feels even better. 


It’s not enough nor is it accurate to say that you will simply have a choice among these two men.  What it feels like to me is that you won’t have to make a choice.  When the time is right things will start to fall into place.

Just as a side note – I wanted to say this about Tracy.  It appears that she isn’t so much intricate as she is out in la la land.  Greg and her appear to work because he is sensitive to her and even though he cannot totally relate with her, understands the depths of her headiness.  You are not like her at all.  She is not as independent as you are and she tends to latch on to Greg.  She has a competitive streak and doesn’t like to lose though, but I can tell you that she is a piece of work in that she creates obstacles that often do not exist and that is very very draining on Greg.  Just because someone like Greg gets it, doesn’t mean that he’s happy about it. 


If you would like to call me I would more than happy to fill in more on the questions that you probably will have after this reading.  Plus, I do get that extra layer of depth when I actually hear the client’s voice.  Thanks for sending these pics.  I feel l have a pretty good read on the situation and can also likewise situationally answer whatever conflicts or questions you may have going forward with these two gentlemen.  I’m sure you have questions of when and timing, which I can help you with, but I wanted to hear your voice specifically.  I have provided an additional 5 free minutes for you to use to follow up with me.  As a courtesy please provide written feedback in regards to this photo email reading.  I would really appreciate it because I wish that all of my clients (both past and present and future) would take advantage of it.  Thanks and I hope to hear from you soon.




Kent Coffee

In the popular movie, 'Fiddler on the Roof', the protagonist asks his wife of 25 years, "Do you love me? Do you love me?". Her answer rambles on about the length and breadth of her responsibilities as his wife. How the fact that she cooks, cleans and looks after his household should speak for itself. And that her fidelity, among other things, should convey volumes about her love for him. But he still asks her, "Do you love me". And he is finally content only when she admits in so many words, "Yes, I love you."

So, short of following in his footsteps and asking her straight out, what are the more subtle signs that men can watch out for?

1. She tells you so

This is the most obvious and easiest one. Women are known as the more expressive of the species. Amid juggling work, home and maybe kids, if she squeezes in a 'Love you' or if she's really in the mood, 'Lurrrrve ya', you know she's out to make you feel special.

2. Her parents treat you good

You can often tell how a woman feels about you, from the vibes her parents give out. If they're barely civil, either they have something against you personally or you can start packing your bags. If they're courteous but distant, your relationship may still be on a tentative footing. If they're warm to you, it's an indication of the heat between you and your woman. And if they're effusive and treat you like a king, be sure their daughter has been saying nothing but nice things about you, an indication that she adores you.

3. You can see it in her eyes Quite often, women's emotions are clearly reflected on their faces. If her face lights up when you walk into the room or she's waiting up for you if you're late or standing at the door to say goodbye till your car's tail lights disappear, you have that magical effect on her.

4. Calls you up "just like that" In the middle of a hectic day, she still calls you just to hear your voice. Or you just met and she calls you to say she already misses you. Get the message, my man. She just can't get enough of you!

5. She caters to you It's often said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. And your woman may be no different. If she tries to cater to your palate and takes special care to cook your favorite meals, she's showing you in her own way that she loves you.

6. She tells you how content she is Sometimes we have to look deeper for signs of love. She may tell you how happy she is being around you or the sense of contentment just being your girlfriend/wife gives her.

7. Her friends tell you so Women often talk to their friends about their feelings. Her best friend may whisper to you that you're the best thing that's happened to her. Or her bosom buddies may tell you she's always talking of you and how good you make her feel. You can be sure she's head over heels!

8. She confides in you She feels lighter telling you about things that are troubling her or weighing her down. You make her burdens easier to bear. She loves telling you every little detail about her day, something good that happened to her or why she's feeling particularly low. You're an essential part of her life; of course she loves you!

9. She tries to make you happy She's a sucker for that smile on your face. She loves to do whatever it takes to see you satisfied and will go that extra mile. If she tries that little bit extra in whatever way, big or small, you can be sure she's madly in love with you.

10. She tries to compromise There's a give-and-take called for in every relationship. If she really tries to see your point of view and is willing to meet you halfway, it's a sign of her immense love for you.

11. She tries to look good for you She's so in love with you that she wants you to have eyes only for her. She makes an effort to keep fit and takes care of her grooming and appearance. You often find her asking for your opinion on what you like on her, and her unadulterated joy when you give her that gleam of approval. Your view counts!

12. She finds your quirks charming Habits that annoy your family or acquaintances don't have the same effect on her. In fact she thinks your little eccentricities are quite appealing. For instance, your siblings always taunted you by saying your habit of drooling in your sleep was disgusting but she thinks it's rather cute. It's a sign of true love!

13. She tries to spend time with you Even with all the multi-tasking she has to do, she tries really hard to put aside some quality time to be together. She basks in the pleasure of your company and says so. What more do you need? Her love couldn't be more telling than this.

14. She trusts you You've landed a plum assignment but it also involves working longer hours with your attractive and sexy colleague. Not only does she not have a problem with it, but also she never calls you to check on where you are or how much later you're going to be. Implicit trust in your significant other is a very strong indication of deep love.

15. She has eyes only for you It's only a normal human tendency to notice a good-looking member of the opposite sex. But if a gorgeous male specimen just entered the room and she's still engrossed in her conversation with you, that's good news. And if her eyes haven't strayed when that guy with the perfect butt just walked past, you've got it made, my friend!

Hi this is Kent Coffee.  Today is a day that I need you not to be so hard on yourself.  As the saying goes love will find you when you love your self.  And right now, at 6:50 pm on this Tuesday evening, I need you to give your self a break.  Sometimes when the person we love isn’t cooperating, it’s important that we do something special for ourselves.  In my last email, I talked about your absolute unapologetic happiness, and to go further with that idea, the time is now to indulge in yourself, to be selfish for once  & remind yourself of the only person since existence that has been with you from day one.  That’s right.  YOU. 

We are two days deep into the past retrograde cycle and communication that was lost in the noise of mercury is gone.  We pass this point of reference to ensure that the predictions come to being without disruption.  If you’re feeling like you’re a little bit confused right now remind yourself of the things that we spoke about and anticipate the inevitable challenge that exists for you to ultimately learn something and to make you stronger. 

I really do not have a problem telling you what you need to do.  I sometimes, don’t understand why it’s ignored, but ultimately I feel ok in knowing that you’ll understand where I am coming from.  I just need to remind you though, that you really need to let me know if you’re considering a bold move.  Clearly, there’s only a small percentage of our moves that are deliberately followed through in strategy because let’s face it, we all act on impulse and staying present is impossible to ignore.  But if you’re having a difficult comprehending the smaller parts that make the whole or if you are stuck with a negative vibe, attitude, or moodiness, you should really just call.  Let that be your impulse move. 

The people who call me probably do like to drink coffee.  I do too, but really I need to say that you all are a very interesting and fun collective.  There’s a certain type of energy that I’m trying to convey and it’s cool to see those that just get it.  There’s no discriminating flow here, just a group of down to earth souls who enjoy their lives, believe their future prospects in love and money to be directly proportionate to the love they send back to Universe, and finally who are totally deserving of the life they have been gifted.  Believe and be good to yourself in the next 72 hours. 
If you’re feeling some inexplicable worry or moodiness and want to know what he or she sees or is thinking, call me for updates immediately. 

Your Adviser and Friend,

Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. However, that may not be practical for all women. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with. The love of your life just might be a married man."

Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know. But when the man with whom you're involved is part of another couple, someone else's husband, then the challenge and unpredictability can make your life a messy, unhappy waiting game that you will rarely win.

The woman who is in love with a married man lives a life that, for the most part, is shrouded in secrecy. Her close circle of friends might know about her affair, but she really cannot let anyone else, such as colleagues or her family, know. She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together. She is not his wife, she is not mother to his children, she is not his parents' daughter-in-law. Her chance for happiness hinges on a future that is highly uncertain, to say the least.

Your own survival is crucial, and if you do happen to fall in love with a married man, there are several hard truths you need to know.

1. The needs of the many (namely, his family) will always outweigh your needs.
His family will always come first, and that includes his wife. Simply because he talks in a negative way about his marriage doesn't mean that his obligations to his wife are any less important to him. Whether or not they have children is a moot point; he will always feel as if he has to be a husband to her and take care of the marriage, whether he truly loves her or not. Their life together includes friendships and a social network that is shared and comfortable for him. He won't risk losing that.

2. His life with you is secret and always will be.
No matter how much you may want to walk in the sunshine with him and have him openly acknowledge his love for you, it won't happen. While he is more than willing to be your lover and to bring you gifts, he is not about to have you meet his friends and risk having his family find out about you.

3. No matter how nice a guy he is, you are a temporary diversion for him.
This is not an easy statement to comprehend. It's emotionally painful. Unfortunately it is true. The beginning of an affair is romantic and naughty at the same time. Planning to be together becomes a fascinating game and is thrilling to say the least. Stealing hours from work or home to have sex is exciting, and you may mistake his libido-driven passion for undying love. Don't. The game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he "has to do."

4. He will not leave his wife.
Less than 5 percent of men leave their wives for the woman with whom they are having an affair. Whether it is because of all the legal and financial problems attached to divorce, religious beliefs or the fact that they have become comfortable with their marriage the way it is -- or even because they still have a certain affection for their wives, men rarely end up with the other woman. Even Katharine Hepburn knew, and accepted, this fact during her long affair with Spencer Tracy. And don't ever kid yourself on this important point: He is still having sex with his wife, no matter what you may want to believe.

5. Legally, financially and emotionally, you have no claim.
You may realize that you have no claim legally or financially, but you would think there'd be an emotional attachment or bond between you and your lover. In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Here's why. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way. He's not a bad guy, he may be a wonderfully kind person, but he is also a practical one. He knows that holding on to emotions that can only cause problems for his family is something he cannot and will not do. When it's over, he will move on.

To safeguard yourself from too much emotional pain, you need to understand that he can only be a small part of your life and will never be more than that no matter how many promises are made. You need to have a life that works and that is full enough to withstand the pain of the eventual breakup. He has one and you need one, too.

A solid circle of friends and a social life separate from your hidden life with him is a necessity. Let your friends know that you still want to go out with them regularly. Don't always be so ready to cancel plans you have made with others to accommodate him. Casual dating with male friends helps, too. It allows you to see yourself through the eyes of another man who finds you interesting and attractive. It is up to you where it might lead. It helps to remember that the man with whom you are intimately involved in "your other life" is not living as a monk with his wife.

Being involved in an affair with someone else's husband is an almost surefire trip from ecstatic highs at the beginning to a depressing abyss at the end. Understand the basics of exactly what you are getting into, and what your status is.

You need to step back and identify the priorities -- your priorities -- in a relationship with a married man. Think with your head and not with your heart. Ensuring you have a life distinct from his that is your safe haven can make being the other woman, if not a secure, permanent position, at least one that is a bit more tolerable.


1. Set aside time each day to develop a personal meditation practice. When undertaken with discipline, meditation can lead to clarity and peace of mind.
2. Select a place where you can sit, uninterrupted.
3. Practice meditation for at least 5-10 minutes in the morning and 5-10 minutes at night.
4. Sit in an erect and upright position on a chair or on a meditation cushion. Have a sense of regality in your posture, an inner confidence and a sense of self-worth.
5. Softly focus your eyes on a spot on the floor about three to four feet in front of you.
6. At the same time, heighten attention on all five senses: touch, taste, scent, sight, and sound.
7. Feel your hands resting gently on the top of your thighs. Hear the sounds of traffic or birds outside the window. Smell the scent of rain, or dinner cooking on the stove. Taste the mint you recently finished. Experience, through your senses, the colors, shapes, scents and sounds of everyday things.
8. Now, bring your attention to the natural flow of your breath as it goes out and comes in.
9. Heighten attention on the out-breath, as you practice letting go of all thoughts and feelings.
10. At the end of the out-breath, notice a small gap, a space in time, before the in-breath occurs.
11. Repeat the process of maintaining attention on the breath as it goes out and dissolves.
12. When you find yourself lost in a thought: “What should we have for dinner?” for example, or if you feel an emotion like anger or envy, or even joy, silently, within your mind, simply label that thought, “thinking,” and bring your attention back, very gently, to the out-breath as it slowly goes out and dissolves again.
13. At the end of the out-breath, notice the gap, and then bring your awareness to the in-breath.
14. Repeat this pattern of following the breath over and over again.
15. At the next instance that you realize you are caught in a thought, swept away by a story in your mind, simply label the thoughts, “thinking,” and return your attention once again to the out-breath. Withhold self-judgment.
16. Continue the pattern of following the breath out, labeling arising thoughts as “thinking,” and returning attention to the out-breath.
1. Set aside time each day to develop a personal meditation practice. When undertaken with discipline, meditation can lead to clarity and peace of mind.
2. Select a place where you can sit, uninterrupted.
3. Practice meditation for at least 5-10 minutes in the morning and 5-10 minutes at night.
4. Sit in an erect and upright position on a chair or on a meditation cushion. Have a sense of regality in your posture, an inner confidence and a sense of self-worth.
5. Softly focus your eyes on a spot on the floor about three to four feet in front of you.
6. At the same time, heighten attention on all five senses: touch, taste, scent, sight, and sound.
7. Feel your hands resting gently on the top of your thighs. Hear the sounds of traffic or birds outside the window. Smell the scent of rain, or dinner cooking on the stove. Taste the mint you recently finished. Experience, through your senses, the colors, shapes, scents and sounds of everyday things.
8. Now, bring your attention to the natural flow of your breath as it goes out and comes in.
9. Heighten attention on the out-breath, as you practice letting go of all thoughts and feelings.
10. At the end of the out-breath, notice a small gap, a space in time, before the in-breath occurs.
11. Repeat the process of maintaining attention on the breath as it goes out and dissolves.
12. When you find yourself lost in a thought: “What should we have for dinner?” for example, or if you feel an emotion like anger or envy, or even joy, silently, within your mind, simply label that thought, “thinking,” and bring your attention back, very gently, to the out-breath as it slowly goes out and dissolves again.
13. At the end of the out-breath, notice the gap, and then bring your awareness to the in-breath.
14. Repeat this pattern of following the breath over and over again.
15. At the next instance that you realize you are caught in a thought, swept away by a story in your mind, simply label the thoughts, “thinking,” and return your attention once again to the out-breath. Withhold self-judgment.
16. Continue the pattern of following the breath out, labeling arising thoughts as “thinking,” and returning attention to the out-breath.

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