A common complaint I hear from my clients is something along the lines of, “I am doing all this work on myself and I feel different but things in my life are not changing.” They feel that they have shifted inside but the outside world is not matching up. This is not a cause for alarm; in fact it’s quite normal.

Perhaps you’ve been on a personal growth path for a while and you are wondering when you are going to reap the rewards of all your transformation. You’ve reframed a limiting belief, healed an emotional issue or let go of a behavior pattern that wasn’t serving you, so where is the money, job, body or relationship you want? If you feel that your external world is not (yet) reflective of the “new you,” please do not interpret it as feedback that you aren’t doing enough and allow this to discourage you.

Shifts in our external world often come much later than our internal shifts.  Why? Because physical world reality is very dense unlike our emotional, mental or spiritual world where things can change in more fluid and immediate ways.  Sometimes the Universe does provide the immediate external changes reflective of our internal vibration but often times there is a delay either because the changes in the dense physical world need more time to take shape or because there is more we need to integrate internally before the external can manifest.  But the Universe does not really operate in the same time space continuum that we do, so its Divine Timing is always right on time!

I’ll share an example from a frien.  For years she dealt with health issues and doubted whether she was really doing the internal work “right.” Her health wasn’t shifting even though the way she felt about her body and its challenges had completely transformed due to the healing work she was doing. When she began to understand that since her body is part of the physical world, it needed time to recalibrate to her new awareness level, she was able to be more patient. She had faith in her internal progress and allowed the way she was relating to her health to be more important than what her body was doing. And then eventually as time passed, her physical body began to catch up with the internal shifts she was making and she started seeing changes in her health.

So the next time you are frustrated because your external world does not feel reflective of your internal world, remember that physical world reality is often the last thing to change. Chuck your desire for instant gratification and your obsession with results. The more you care about seeing change, the more likely you will be distracted from enjoying the fruits of your labor.  Pat yourself on the back instead of expecting reality to do it for you with something more, better or different.

Another thing to keep in mind is that often when we have a big “aha” so much to the extent that we feel transformed, the Universe will bring us a situation that feels very similar to past experiences. Often people get frustrated and think, “This again? I thought I learned this already!” That may be accurate; you may have learned the lesson and now the Universe is bringing you an amazing opportunity to practice the learning so that you can fully integrate it. For instance, if you tended to attract unavailable people romantically and you did the work to get crystal clear that you are no longer interested in dating unavailable people, you may discover that an attractive yet unavailable somebody comes into your life again. This does not mean you haven’t healed! It is a chance for you to say “no” to that person so that you can truly experience and integrate the lesson.

If your internal reality (meaning your thoughts, feelings and relationship with yourself) is transforming so that you are experiencing more love, compassion, peace and acceptance, you’re doing great. Keep going!! Do not measure your progress by anything outside of you because if you do you may not see how much progress you are actually making.

Let your internal world be the measure of your growth and have patience while the external one catches up.

If you've recently broken up, sex with your ex is one of the worst mistakes you could make. Everyone knows it. But many ignore it. So why then is it so bad?

Your goal right now is to recharge your energy sources and to be powerful and strong. But sex requires vulnerability to another person. So then why would you make yourself completely vulnerable to the one person who took away his commitment, who broke your heart in the first place?  Sex is a shared encounter of love and pleasure. But if you are experiencing it from a place of sadness, loneliness or emotional instability, it will only hurt you worse and more deeply than before.

If you are being honest with yourself, how confident are you that your ex will come back to you if you sleep with him? If you’re sleeping together but not back to dating and courting and working things out, he’s not coming back for a full-time relationship. It’s no secret that men love having sex—the more, the better. And if they are getting sex without the complications of a relationship, that’s even better. So if you’re still sleeping with your ex and you don’t have a renewed commitment, then it’s just sex. If you were expecting a full relationship, you need to talk to your ex. Otherwise you’re assuming a lot and disappointment is sure to follow.

Furthermore, do you know for sure that he isn't also having sex with someone else? If he is having sex with another person, he is not showing you any sort of respect other than possibly friendship. Possibly. If you are having sex with him while he is having sex with someone else, you are not only endangering your physical body, but also your emotional stability and feelings of self worth.

And here’s the real sting: It's weak, it's pathetic. And what's worse? He knows it! You lose all leverage, all credibility and all ability to empower yourself.

I say don't do it Girl!

But what do you think?

Jason Mraz's inspiring song, "I'm Yours" was in my head when I woke up this morning and has stayed there, stuck on repeat, singing to me, asking me to listen.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A

It's funny, I always thought it was a love song. And it is, but not in the way I was thinking. It's really about the love relationship we have with ourselves, the possibility of losing that relationship, the consequences and ultimately, the joy of committing to it and to a life of freedom, love and a full, rewarding spiritual life. That's just my opinion. What do you think it means?

I'm Yours by Jason Mraz

Well you done done me and you bet I felt it I tried to be chill but you're so hot that I melted I fell right through the cracks, now I'm trying to get back

Before the cool done run out I'll be giving it my bestest And nothing's going to stop me but divine intervention I reckon it's again my turn to win some or learn some

But I won't hesitate no more, no more It cannot wait, I'm yours

Well open up your mind and see like me Open up your plans and then you're free Look into your heart and you'll find love love love love

Listen to the music of the moment people, dance and sing We're just one big family And it's our God-forsaken right to be loved loved loved loved loved

So I won't hesitate no more, no more It cannot wait, I'm sure There's no need to complicate, our time is short This is our fate, I'm yours [ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/j/jason_mraz/im_yours.html ] D-d-do do you, but do you, d-d-do But do you want to come on Scooch on over closer dear And I will nibble your ear

I've been spending way too long checking my tongue in the mirror And bending over backwards just to try to see it clearer But my breath fogged up the glass And so I drew a new face and I laughed

I guess what I be saying is there ain't no better reason To rid yourself of vanities and just go with the seasons It's what we aim to do, our name is our virtue

But I won't hesitate no more, no more It cannot wait, I'm yours

(I won't hesitate) Open up your mind and see like me (No more, no more) Open up your plans and damn you're free Look into your heart and you'll find that the sky is yours (It cannot wait, I'm sure)

So please don't, please don't, please don't (There's no need to complicate) There's no need to complicate (Our time is short) 'Cause our time is short (This is our fate) This is, this is, this is our fate I'm yours



Have a full and blessed day, Everyone!

All Good Things to You, Genevieve

New Moon Special -  1 Quick Question for only $7 (usually $10) today only until 4pm EST.

Morning All!  The New Moon in Leo Solar Eclipse took place just 3 hours ago.  This means big change for many of you.  Take advantage of my special today to find out what change may be in store for You.

If you haven't done your New Moon wishes, do them now!

New Moons and Eclipses especially are agents of change – and they often bring the change we don’t want but know we need. Eclipses can be quite positive in this way, especially New Moon eclipses (which this one is). A New Moon eclipse which hits your chart strongly can see you suddenly do something wild like quit your job, pack your bags and go off to see the world, or decide to kick that no good lover to the curb... finally!! They are turnaround times and the only real way to suffer as a result of the eclipses is to cling on grimly to someone or something which you already secretly know you should let go of.

So, in the words of Julia Cameron, remember today to "let go and let God."

MAKING NEW MOON WISHES

1. If you have a Wish List from last month, read it over, to see which came true - then thank the Universe. If it's clear one or two wishes are no closer to coming true, consider revising them. What on your list have you edged closer to?

2. Decide on your Top Ten Wishes or Intentions for the coming four weeks.

3. Be as specific or vague as you want to be, but BE AUTHENTIC and TRUE TO YOURSELF.  These are for you and your eyes only.

4. Write them down - either on a sheet of paper with a pen, or with colored pens, pencils and so on. The more energy you invest, the better your results are likely to be.

5. Read them out to the Universe then either bury or burn your list, or set it aside in safe hiding so you can check it this time next month, to see how your wishes worked out.

6. Get on with your week, safe in the knowledge that you've expressed your wishes to the Universe. Do all you can to make them come true.

Many Many Blessings.

All Good Things to You,

Genevieve

This is fun!  ...and explains why my dog had a stare-down with my now husband when they first met.  Unfortunately, it does not explain why my husband entertained and participated in a stare-down with a dog!

My pup's a fire sign for sure.  What's yours?

An astrological analysis of your pet

by Cortney Litwin

So you've brought home a puppy, a wiggly bundle of love. Do you wonder what kind of personality your new friend has? Is it a wanderer or a homebody? Obedient or mischievous? Even if you have a longtime canine companion, knowing your dog's Sun sign can help you understand your pet's idiosyncrasies so you can bring out the best in each other.

Fire: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Your dog likes lots of action! Walks, hikes and runs in the park are a must. Your pet will bond with you through games and other high-energy activities where you interact with each other. Fire signs have a keen sense of adventure and love to investigate new environments. This is especially true if your friend is a Sagittarius. All fire sign dogs are talented escape artists, so be sure your backyard is escape-proof. The "come" command is usually ignored (you didn't mean me, did you?). Socially, fire signs are the alphas of the pack and will defend their (imagined) superiority, especially if your dog is an Aries or Leo. Your alpha dog will be more respectful of other dogs if you arrange canine play-dates early on. Fire signs are quick learners and like a challenge, but they get bored easily, so be sure there's plenty of play during training sessions.

Air: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Your dog is smart and sociable. It loves to play with you and other dogs (and perhaps your cat as well). Games that show off your dog's ingenuity will delight you both. Aquarians are especially ingenious when it comes to figuring things out, like finding a toy you've hidden (or the shoe you swore was out of reach). Your Air sign will be the top dog in training classes, especially if it's a Gemini. Air signs are the communicators of the zodiac, so learning to speak comes naturally. However, teaching your friend not to bark at everything that walks by your house may be a challenge. Socially, your dog will enjoy dog parks with lots of friends to choose from. Libra dogs will especially appreciate one-on-one time with you.

Water: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
Your dog is sensitive and perceptive. Water signs enjoy deep emotional bonds with their caretakers. Scorpio dogs are especially loyal and protective of those they love. Water signs are also quite psychic, so your dog will perceive what you're feeling and may even act out your moods, like joy, stress or anger. This is especially true if your companion is a Pisces. If your dog is acting strangely, check to see what you're feeling. Socially, your dog will play well with one or two friends at a time, but it may become bashful in dog parks where there's too much commotion going on. Training your dog should be a breeze because pleasing you is its first priority. Mainly, your Water sign is a homebody who loves to just hang out with you. This is especially true of Cancer-born canines.

Earth: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Your dog is loyal and even-tempered. After the energetic puppy stage, they will enjoy slow snuffs around the park and leisurely nature hikes. Or just lazing about at home (and enjoying plenty of belly rubs). But don't mistake mellowness for dullness - your dog is smart. It may take some patience to teach it new tricks, but once learned, your friend will never forget. And Earth signs are more obedient than most. They also appreciate consistency and may have a hard time with changes (new home, new groomer, new vet), especially if it's a Taurus. So give your friend plenty of time to get used to new environments and people. Earth signs are especially physical, so your dog may respond best to hand commands. It may also be sensitive to certain foods. Temperamentally, Earth signs make excellent service dogs. This is especially true of Virgo and Capricorn canines.

Almost every person who calls me is also an intuitive on some level, and are only seeking a bit of direction amidst some weeds and fog.  It is so very important, aftet the reading is over, to tap into your own energy to keep it pointed in the appropriate direction.  Below are some tips I found about how to enhance the psychic powers you already have.  Try it out for yourself to stay on track on the path you have chosen as the best one for yourself...

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Have you ever woken from a dream wondering if it was foreshadowing? Thought about someone only to have them call or email? Had a gut feeling that something was going to happen and then it did? These are just a few of the ways our gifted psychics say you can tell that you've got psychic tendencies. Here, they share stories of how they knew they were psychic, how they receive their information and how you can do the same. After all, many psychics agree that we've all got the gift to a certain extent - we just have to learn how to use it!

Keep a psychic log
The important thing to do when you think you see something (related to the metaphysical realm) is to write it down.  These visions could come from a variety of places including pictures in your mind, dreams and feelings prompted by inanimate objects like a pen dropping or a sudden noise that jolts your mind. 

One psychic says, "I communicate with all things, and in turn all things communicate back."

Release your ego
Enhancing your psychic ability is about getting out of yourself and into the energy. I believe that all people are blessed with intuitive abilities.  The key to enhancing those abilities is eradicating the ego.

Channeling information is a very powerful and intimate energy exchange.  Your own ego, your judgments, your opinions, cannot be brought into the (metaphysical) context.  Your readers don't do it to you and you shouldn't do it to yourself.  Likewise, the key to being psychic is connecting with the other. Being psychic essentially means being acutely intuitive and being able to "plug in" to others.

So, how do you learn to do that?

Practice makes psychic
The first thing to do is recognize that psychic ability is like a muscle. Just like in sports, we must "exercise" the psychic "muscle" to keep in working and in good form.  It is recommended that those who want to develop their talents take time out regularly to sit by themselves in silence.  Cleansing the pallete allows the canvas to be painted for you by the universe, in a manner of speaking. 

In addition to meditating in whatever way you take to, be it yoga, silence, breathing, running, walking, etc., familiarizing yourself with Tarot cards may offer a window into your inner messages. And, if you're up for it, there are also "games" on the internet for developing psychic ability.

Explore training methods
Type develop psychic ability into a search engine and you'll get a lot of options. Explore them and see what's fun and interesting for you.  These are all methods of psychic "training." But perhaps most important, once you've committed yourself to developing your psychic side, is what you do with the information that you receive.

The most effective way to cultivate intuition, is to trust it and act on it.  How many times have you had a quick thought that you should or should not do something, but your own agenda, ego, desires, lead you in the opposite direction and the outcome was less than desirable?  It happens to everyone, but next time, go with the intuitive message and see what happens.  Do this a few times and you will have developed an important psychic "habit" that will never fail you.

I'll be on Keen all day today and for the rest of the week.  Call me if you feel you may have lost your way and need to get back on track.

All Good Things to You,
Genevieve

A New Space Can Help You Heal

Found this article so very helpful and wanted to share.  Speedy Mercury's move into Super-speedy Aries makes this a perfect time to get motivated and do a little spring cleaning - in your house and heart.

by Theresa Danna

There's no getting around it: Breaking up is hard to do. Your heart is broken, your dreams shattered, and your hope swiftly slipping away. That's why starting over after a breakup can be daunting. But life does go on, and if you view moving - or creating a new space where you already live - as an opportunity to heal, you'll actually be inspired to move on!

Emotional cleanse
Sure it sucks, but once you get going you'll feel relieved! The first, and probably toughest, bit of housecleaning is gathering up all of the items that remind you of your ex-lover. This means photos, gifts, cards, clothes, music, DVDs, text messages and emails - anything and everything! And, yes, that means getting rid of their email in your address book and deleting their number from your cell phone (trust us, you will regret any messages or emails you send at weak moments - and you will have them!). If it was a particularly bad breakup, block their email address and change your phone number. Starting anew requires a willingness to let go of the past, something you can do.

Hang on
Don't toss all those relationship items into the trash, even if you're feeling angry about the breakup. Instead, put them in a box that you don't see very often (in a garage or the back of your closet). After three months, go through these items and observe your feelings as you sort. Are you still highly emotional? Go ahead and allow the tears to fall. Crying cleanses the soul. This will be a good gauge as to how fast you're healing.

Is it time to throw away this stuff? If the answer is no, put it all out of sight again and repeat the ritual in another three months, if necessary. Then, continue every three months until you can sort through your relationship stuff without crying. At that point, decide which items, if any, enhance your current life. Keep those and then either throw away, sell or donate the rest. As you get rid of them, take a moment to give thanks for the lessons learned from that relationship and the breakup. Wish your ex the best and truly shut the door.

Physical cleanse
Whether you're moving to a new home or rearranging your current one, now is a good time to clear out items you don't use. So you think it's all useful? Think again. The general rule of thumb is that if you haven't used or worn something in a year, get rid of it (unless, of course, it's an annual holiday item). Be realistic about clutter that you think you might need or read "some day." Does some day ever really come? Could someone else use that stuff now? Hanging on to things from the past keeps you in the past. That's not where the healing happens.

Once you're left with only the things that are presently important to you, deep clean your home. Be brave and burn some calories! Don't just vacuum the carpet, shampoo it. Dust the high places. Move the furniture and clean under it. Wash or replace window coverings and shower curtains. With each dustpan of dirt or bucket of dirty water that you dump, you'll feel the particles of the past disappearing.

Your sacred space
When the physical cleaning is done, it's time to clear the air - literally - by burning sage smudge sticks and sweet grass. Sage clears away old energy, and sweet grass attracts new, positive energy, the kind you need to start fresh. Burn incense to bring in sacred energy and buy new candles to create white light and calming energy.

Feng shui
Finally, apply principles of feng shui to encourage harmony in your home, your life and yourself. To find the specific power places in each room, stand in the main door and look in. The middle of the wall along the doorway represents your career. Look to the immediate right. That corner empowers benefactors (representing help from other people). Then the space between that corner and the corner in the far right is related to children. That far right corner represents marriage. The wall directly opposite of where you're standing is for fame or other recognition. Then the corner in your far left is the wealth spot. Continuing around the left, the wall between the wealth corner and the corner to your immediate left is the family area. The last power place is the corner to your immediate left, which is the knowledge spot.

Enhancements
Besides making sure each area is clean and free of clutter, you can enhance the energy flow by adding live plants, moving objects (such as mobiles), sound (such as chimes) and items that either produce light or reflect it (such as mirrors or crystals). Try to eliminate or at least soften any sharp points or jagged edges. Curves are the key to gently flowing energy.

Now, you're completely ready to attract new love into your life! Be sure to put the colors red, pink, or white in the marriage corner. Also, two matching solid items, such as a set of bookends, in the marriage corner will reinforce the idea of partnership. That wasn't so bad, was it? With a clean house and clear mind, your heart will heal faster and feel light again. To find out who is on the horizon to share your new home with, call one of our psychics today for a reading.

All Good Things!
Genevieve

Someone may have already posted this, but I saw it today on another site and thought it was a good idea to take and just to think about, for learning, for introspection.  Bottome line is, unless you have recently experienced a tragedy, if you are not happy, chances are, you are not being true to yourself and are not on your path.  This may be because you can't see it.  If you can't, call one of our amazing psychics or speak to a friend who may be able to help.  Either way, your happiness lies in being your most authentic You.

Happiness Quiz

Take a look into your real being

by S.K. Smith

What is happiness? If you're among the millions who find the concept elusive and hard to define, you're not alone. Life has its ups and downs after all, and as such, feeling miserable is sometimes par for the course. Still, even with the mood swings and stresses that are part of every day modern existence, a general state of well-being is possible - and even definable to some extent. How, you ask? After all, being happy means different things to different people.

While that may be true, research has shown that genuine happiness is not linked to external circumstances. Rather, it is the product of a series of internal factors. Take this quiz and find out how happy you are - and what you can do to increase your overall state of well-being.

1.  Even when I'm stressed beyond belief (about money, love, career or anything), I have a general sense that "everything will be alright."

a)   Always (9)
b)   Sometimes (6)
c)   Rarely (3)
d)   Never (0)

2. I accept responsibility for my mistakes - and take credit when I do something good/beneficial/skillfully.

a)   Yes for both (9)
b)   Mistakes yes, victories/achievements… not so much (5)
c)   I don't like being blamed, but sure I'll celebrate my successes! (5)
d)   Neither - I like to stay under the radar (0)

3. When things go wrong, I want to…

a)   Find the culprit! (0)
b)   Move on… (3)
c)   Come up with solutions to avoid it next time (9)

4. The best word to sum up my usual mental/emotional state is

a)   Dread (0)
b)   Frustration (3)
c)   Curiosity/Wonder (6)
d)   Peace (9)

5. I have too many priorities to focus on taking care of myself!

a)   Always (0)
b)   Sometimes (3)
c)   Rarely (6)
d)   Never (9)

6. I value people - and spending time with them - more than possessions.

a)  True (9)
b)   False (0)
c)   True - though I could use some more great people to spend time with (6)
d)   False - though only because my possessions out number my friends/loved ones (3)

7. It doesn't take a lot to make me smile - in fact, I take pleasure in the little things (like when my favorite song comes on in Starbucks or the first sunny day after a rainy week).

a)   Always (9)
b)   Sometimes (6)
c)   Rarely (3)
d)   Never (0)

8. I am often afraid - even if I don't know of what.

a) True (9)
b) False (0)

9. When a good thing happens, I might enjoy it for a moment, but I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.

a)  Always (0)
b)  Sometimes (3)
c)  Rarely (6)
d)  Never (9)

10. I've grown a lot throughout my life - especially thanks to the bad times!

a) True (6)
b) False (0)

11. My life has a spiritual side - however I define that.

a)   True (6)
b)   False (0)

12. There are things in my life I will never get over.

a)   True (0)
b)   False (6)

SCORING

0-33 POINTS: Caught in the wheel…
Stop a moment and take a deep breath. Whatever situation you've gotten yourself into (and that "situation" may be as simple as the daily grind!), it seems you're letting your life control you rather than you controlling your life. This is no way to live a fulfilled existence - and it's no wonder you're not feeling happy!

Whether you're stuck in the past (like on an ex-lover) or waiting for your life to start (for instance, when you get that promotion), here's the thing: life is happening NOW. And in the now, no one else is responsible for your well-being. Likewise, no situation is beyond your control. In other words, while you don't necessarily create every circumstance you wind up in, you do have ultimate say in your reactions. You can say no, you can move on, you can cultivate a sense of general well-being that includes taking time to savor the world around you as it is right this second! A happy life means caring for yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, socially, financially (and, yes, even sexually). Sure, it may sound like a lot… but you can do it.  After all, if your answers are any indicator, you're already taking care of everyone and everything else! 

34-66 POINTS: Getting by just fine
You could certainly be a lot worse off. But you could also be a lot happier. It's likely, however, that you know this… you just need some work on follow through. For instance, you're aware you'd feel better if you spent more time doing that thing you love (yoga, running, painting, crossword, fill in the blank), but you have to find the time to actually do it. That's where you keep getting stuck. It's time to turn that corner. Have faith, take a leap. Let go of the urge to blame and don't feed your insecurities. You're on your way to trumping them - for the most part (remember, no one is perfect!).

In short: a list of things to do for more joy on the fridge is a really great start. Now make it a point to do them all. Even if it's one at a time.

67-99 POINTS: A Happy Place
Congratulations happy person! The good news is you're usually living in the moment… or at least working on it. The great news is that means you don't have to focus on being present. Instead, you can work on making the here and now the best it can be!

Some ways to do that:

Cultivate your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Surround yourself with people you value and be sure to treat them well. Practice gratitude and strive to learn when you do make mistakes. Meditate. Eat right. Overindulge every once in a while - and don't beat yourself up for it. Go easy on yourself - and on others.

In a toxic situation?  Last evening's eclipsed New Moon in the sign of Aquarius is the Universe's best medicine for ridding yourself of toxicity.  Eclipses can be difficult to take if we are not doing what we should be doing, i.e. clinging to a bad situation or someone who does not serve us, is toxic, or simply is not destined to be part of our path.

In fact, the Universe can be very heavy handed in tearing away these toxic messes during New Moon Eclipses, but if you are living well, open to positive change, you can really harness that power to do good and not..., well, bad stuff.  Now is a great time to try and figure out whom is the "Alternate Universe" version of yourself.  Is it Miss Sunshine Happy Pants, or Dr. Doom?  And which version of yourself to you like best?

Whether you want to make big life changes or just a few minor adjustments, eclipses enable us to jump from one reality to another (esp. when they occur in your own birth sign --- Aquarians!)

If you think a situation might be toxic but are unsure, call me. 

But chances are, you know the answer already.  Let me know if you are having trouble figuring out exactly what to do about it.

Oh, and it's not too late MAKE YOUR NEW MOON WISHES.  Here's how:

MAKING NEW MOON WISHES

1. If you have a Wish List from last month, read it over, to see which came true - then thank the Universe. If it's clear one or two wishes are no closer to coming true, consider revising them. What on your list have you edged closer to?

2. Decide on your Top Ten Wishes or Intentions for the coming four weeks.

3. Be as specific or vague as you want to be.

4. Write them down - either on a sheet of paper with a pen, or with coloured pens, pencils and so on. The more energy you invest, the better your results are likely to be.

5. Read them out to the Universe then either bury or burn your list, or set it aside so you can check it this time next month, to see how your wishes worked out.

6. Get on with your week, safe in the knowledge that you've expressed your wishes to the Universe. Do all you can to make them come true.

Good luck and blessings!

Hello All!

 

This week's full moon hit a lot of people really hard and I wanted to offer a few words of comfort to anyone still feeling feeling or coming off of its effects and/or those of the new year.  Below are a few easy tools and ideas to help you not lose sight of what is truly important.  YOU!  Everyone I know is being affected with big changes and difficult lessons and I want to first remind you to relax, breath deeply – cannot stress this enough – and take heart that this is temporary.  Our bodies are made primarily of water and just think of what the moon with its fullness, newness and eclipses does to the tides.  Your body and state of mind are naturally affected as well. 

 

Recently, I was speaking to a friend about her path as an artist and we began to explore the quote from Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz.  When asked what she had learned at the end of her journey, Dorothy  replied, "Well, I - I think that it - it wasn't enough to just want to see Uncle Henry and Auntie Em - and it's that - if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own back yard. Because if it isn't there, I never really lost it to begin with!"

 

We all have our own pair of ruby slippers, our own personal power and special talents.  Over the next several days, I will post some specific tools and principles to help you find your ruby slippers if you’ve lost them and to help you keep them in plain sight so that you never lose them again.  The new year makes this is a great time to get started!

 

These are just a few ideas to help you turn your focus inward and away from any of the unhealthy targets you may have been trying to hit (and, thankfully, missing) so that you may unblock some of that dirty old energy.

 

1. Journaling.  To keep those ruby slippers shiny, you may need to find them first.  And even if you know where they are, this is a great tool for clearing out the “muck” in your head, so to speak.  This is another form of meditation.  I encourage traditional meditation and quieting the mind, but find the exercise of journaling a healthy outlet for those thoughts that sometimes will not go away.  Write them down in your journal in any way they come out, stream-of-consciousness.  3 pages are recommended and I find that to be the magic number for me as well.  It only takes about 15 minutes and I often find myself compelled to continue on to 4 or 5 pages.  Make time for this every day, preferably right after you wake up (Mercury, the planet of the mind, meeting Neptune, the planet of altered states make this an excellent time to record dreams as they may be a bit psychic for us all right now). Write about your troubled relationship, your feelings of failure, your fears.  Heck, write about your morning coffee and that it is too hot, that you have to do laundry today, that you have a pimple on your nose..Just write!  Every day.  2-4 pages.

 

1. Identify your inner “Screaming Meanie”.  We all have one.   Who or what tells you that you can’t do something, that this relationship won’t work out because the last one didn’t, that your work isn’t good enough, that you don’t make enough money and never will.  Find it and give it a face, a name.  And when you feel he/she/it talking down to you.  Call them to the carpet.  Call them on their bad behavior and unfairly high standards.  Remind them that everyone has to start somewhere.  Remind them that even Michelangelo painted a few ugly paintings, that George Washington lost some important military and political battles before becoming president, that Thomas Edison made over 2,000 attempts at getting just the filament right before he invented the light bulb.  2,000. Can you imagine?  And now, can you look anywhere within a 10 foot radius and not see something somehow affected or illuminated by man-made light?  The power of our minds is pretty amazing if only we know when and how to put the Screaming Meanie in the corner.

 

1. Get out!  Go for a walk, go to a museum, go shopping, go for a drive, go to the movies by yourself, go on a nature walk, a jog, a bike ride, a boat ride – whatever – just GO!  And make this special time for yourself on a weekly/bi-monthly basis.  Take time to be alone with yourself and enjoy it.  If you can’t enjoy your own company, how can you ever expect anyone else to?  As cliche' as it may sound, you really can and should be your own best friend.  You are special and unique and important and you owe it to yourself to appreciate yourself and to see yourself in all of the wonderful ways that others see you.

 

 

Tag these items on to your list of New Year's resolutions.  This is a fantastic time to start positive habits and plans to stick to them. 

 

Have a blessed day!  Tomorrow I will be back with tools to re-claim and own your true sense of Identity.

 

All good things to you,

Genevieve

Does Your relationship feel stifled?

Are You feeling increasingly more disconnected from your partner?

The good news is, your relationship has not fizzled.  It just needs a breath of fresh air.  Lucky for your partner, that breath of fresh air is You!

You can reignite your man's passion, appreciation and affection for You and get your relationship back on track in 4 easy steps that will promote not only a healthy relationship, but a healthier You.

Step 1: Stop the Madness!

When a relationship feels stimied or stuck, one of the first instincts is to fix it or work harder.  Unfortunately, this is one area where our instincts fail us.  Trying harder at what you are doing only perpetuates the problem.  You have to throw a cog in that wheel if you want things to change.  That means changing your patterns and habits.  This first step is the most difficult.  ...but most "firsts" are.
  
So step one, plainly and simply is, Stop.  Stop arguing, picking, pointing things out, making your case, being passive agressive, bringing up hot topics.  Instead, take all of that wasted energy and plow it into fun, excitement, your hobbies, interests, fitness routine, new years resolutions, etc.  Spend a day having fun, all by yourself, or with him/her.  Who cares?  You're having fun! 

Try this for just a day or 2 and you will be amazed at the results.  Men especially love to be with a woman when she is happy, fun, outgoing and living her life to the fullest and in the moment.  You will feel lighter and so will your relationship, ...and so will your partner.  Once you have removed the dark cloud of gloom, doom and argument, it is time to move on to Step 2.

Step 2: Center

Meditate, relax, go to the gym, go to the spa, go shopping, light candles, listen to music, BREATHE!!!, ....  Do something indulgent for your own well being and find Your Center.  Pamper yourself to the point of feeling good about yourself.  Find your beautiful, sexy, exciting, fun-loving, confident self.  If love is what you want to receive, that is what you should be giving.  And you should give it to yourself first.  Once you are feeling lovey dovey, throw a little love your partner's way.  This furthers the disengagement of tension in the relationship.  Both people are feeling good, feeling loved and are thus not on the defensive, or offensive...whatever.  The point is - level the playing field and suddenly you are on the same team again.
  
Once you feel this center, have a renewed sense of clarity, and are able to show love to your partner, you are ready to advance to Round 3: Reaching Out.

Step 3: Reach Out, Don't Freak Out

It is important to give proper thought to what you want to say, how you want to say it and to ensure that what you say comes from a place of love and not from a place of fear, anguish, panic, jealousy, bitterness, etc.  You want a positive outcome.  You want to feel connected to your partner.  By "Reaching Out" rather than lashing out, criticizing, pointing to faults, complaining and even nagging, you create a safe place to connect and converse with your lover, in a way that no one feels threatened, diminished or disregarded.
 
What's the saying?  You can attract more flies with honey....  Give your honey some honey.  Watch how quickly he comes flying hoping to stick to You!

Step 4: Re-align Yourself and Love, Love, Love

You can only have a full, satisfying, authentic life and relationship if you love them and nurture them for what they are.  We all fantasize, hypothesize, hold on to the past, hope for the future.  But our lives do not exist in those places.  They are in the here and now - where we are.  Your life may have existed in a place you love to revisit and it will exist in a wonderful place in the future.  And it is ok to daydream about those times.  But living in them takes your life away from you and plants you far outside of your own lovely reality.

Let go and let God, or the universe, or whatever higher being you feel at work in your life.  Men in relationships truly appreciate and respect a woman who both is in touch with her feelings and who can still go about her life in a loving and open way even when things aren't exactly the way she wants them to be.

A common mistake many women make is becoming upset with a man for something that
the man (naively) didn't know would hurt her feelings, and pushing him away out of fear.
But striking out when we feel hurt is a sure-fire way to spell disaster by creating more bad feelings and misunderstanding in your relationship.

Should men be more understanding in these situations and care for your feelings?  Of course!!  But it doesn't always work that way.  So the important thing is to give the benefit of the doubt, even when you don't feel like it.   Afterall, you love this man, right?

I certainly do not mean to insinuate that your partner doesn't have some work to do as well.  But if you follow these steps, shift your perspective, redirect your focus, love and live in the moment and create a warm, unthreatening, safe environment for your relationship and things still aren't quite right, the problem is him (or her).
 
And Baby you should run like the wind!

 

If you want to know if your lover is worthy of all this attention, call me.

All Good Things to You,

Genevieve