Finding Joy by Marie Anna

In the last several of months I'v had countless clients that have gotten on to "dating sites" such as eHarmony, Match and Plenty of Fish. If you have been on one of these sites and you would like to know if you are having the same types of experiences that others are, please see the "issues" list below:

1.   99% have been stood up more than once.

2.   99%   have had a date canceled, but they find that the person that canceled is "on line now" during the time that the date was to occur.

3.   85%   have found that they guy has lied about how he looks by posting an old photo, or has lied about their age.

4.   90% of are constantly "looked at" by the same individual, but that individual doesn't make contact-ever.

5.   80% have found out that the person wants something different than they are putting on the site.

6.   25%  found that the person isn't divorced (yet) or that the person is in a relationship with someone else.

7.   50%  had better luck on a dating site 5-10 years ago.

So what does this all add up to?

1.   It's not you. I have absolutely beautiful, intelligent and honest clients...so guess what? It's not you.

2.   Loads of men are just window shopping and some women are, too.

3.  Some of these people are these sites are afraid to have a real relationship and they would rather have a cyber relationship.

4.   There's a reason that some of these people are on line. They fail at having relationships in real time or being able to meet people in person...so do you really think that they are much better at it in the cyber world?

5.   You may be on a site that is free or really cheap, so there's no value in the site or their need to act.

6.   The Universe is protecting you from idiots, it's not that you can't get a date, but if they aren't following through, feel fortunate you are learning this early.

7.   Some people only get on these sites to help their egos.

What should you do?

1.   If you have to get on one of these dating sites, make your intentions crystal clear, keep the information about you down to a minimum, and only post two very recent photos.

2.   Don't feel like there's something wrong with you.

3.   Find a better dating site.

4.   Never show interest in anyone first.

5.  Go out and find other ways of meeting people in real time. Cyber dating, text messaging, emailing...etc, etc, it's not communication, it's not being able to have a real relationship, it's not good interpersonal skills.

6.   Be crystal clear about what you are looking for...for yourself and for the Universe to answer your requests.

I am posting this blog to inform potential new clients that if you wish for me to connect with your situation 1 minute and 35 seconds isn't sufficient.

If you wish for me to be a speed reader and not connect directly to Source than expect me to use cards.

For my definition, less than 2 minutes is not an time ticking away.

For first time clients, try to expect a quality reading in five minutes and an excellent detailed  reading in 7-10.

I really really want to serve my clients best interests, but it is not in my clients best interest for me to feel pressured to get seven questions answered in two minutes or less. I get to worried about the minutes and not about the questions.

With Kind Regards-

Marie

This weekend I was doing research on some themes that I have blogged before. I do this pretty frequently so I first start out by Goggling and then I usually end with trying to find books to purchase at a local bookstore via Amazon.

To my absolute amazement, I found several of my blogs from Keen plagiarized on different advisor sites other than Keen. Should I be flattered or should I just accept that there are some people without original ideas?

Doesn't matter. The long and the short of this is that I put up blogs on Keen to help Keen's clientele and it was free information from research that I had done. I understand the risk factors of the Internet, but I didn't think that they would be used to drum up business on another site.

Therefore, I sadly announce that I won't be doing Exercises of the Day any longer and I have removed all blogs that have been copied.

I truly hope that those who needed help from some of these blogs got some help. I will keep some blogs up that I am not worried about being copied.

With kind regards

Marie

I want you to be successful, fulfilled, get what you want and bring into your life anything and everything that brings you joy. You are not helpless.

Starting today, I am creating a new series of blogs called Exercise of the Day. I am devising these exercises to help my clients establish what they want and how to get it and how to be successful in just about anything that they are seeking in their lives. I sincerely invite comments questions and inspirations that occur from these exercises.

Some of them may or may not seem to have a point until later on. "All will be revealed", as my pastor puts it.

In addition there are going to be clients that I dedicate these exercises to. Usually I will use their first name, as I can never remember user names. These names will appear at the very bottom of the page.

Now, I also will be doing these exercises and starting a fresh journal from them.

Right now, I feel it's the time for a new making for me and many of my clients. You know, Madonna has remade herself a half a dozen times in twenty years. She's had a load of success from doing so.  I suggest we look for renewals and fresh start whenever we feel inspired to do so. Hopefully, this will help.

Exercise #1:

The Complaint List

Write down absolutely everything that upsets you, that you don't like in your life, that make you uncomfortable and that you want to change-no matter how helpless you have felt to change it. This is your clearing house.

I know, I know...we aren't suppose to focus on what we don't want. Therefore, in short order I give you Exercise #2, only because I don't want you to brew over it too long. So when you are done venting do the following.

Exercise #2:

Altering the Complaints to Mantras

Now, everything that you have complained about change into a new mantra for what you do want. Make it short and memorable for you.

examples:

The Complaint List: I am broke all of the time and I never have enough money to pay my bills.

The Mantra: Money comes to me effortlessly and easily. OR All of my bills are paid in full, always.

The Complaint List: Men (or women) never follow through on their promises to me. I always find losers.

The Mantra: I attract love interests (men or women) that are consistent and keep their promises to me. OR I am worthy of treated with great respect and honor.

Keep all of these lists because they are all going to change over time to be more effective for you.

These exercises are dedicated to:

Nicole (Scorpio, whom has had problems with R and A)

Ann

Lesley Y

BA-Cindy

Torrance

I love you guys! You will get what you want (if it kills me)!!!

This blog posting is meant to give querents (you the asker or the seeker of readings) the background and philosophy of how I read. My belief systems do effect how and to some degree what I read.

1.   I believe that there is a life force, life source, god or what ever you call it. There is a limited amount of influence the divine force chooses to put in our lives without our requests. I believe that if you believe totally in your prayers, you will get your prayers answered. If you ask for clarity, you will get it.

2.   I believe that we have chosen to be here on planet earth and I believe that we have chosen our experience, i.e. where, when, to whom and what we are born into.

3.    I do not adhere to traditional beliefs such as, life is full of suffering (Buddha), we are born sinners (Christian), man is inherently bad (Confucius, Buddha, Christian, Islam).

4.   I do believe that if you ask for help you will get it.

5.   Your energy and thoughts is more purposeful and more effective than your words.

6.   I do think that we are occasionally blessed with getting the one that we are "meant for" but it doesn't ever mean you will end up with that person of the rest of your life. Free will, baby, free will on both parties.

7.   Everything that is happening to you externally is a direct reflecting of your internal world.

8.   90% or more of us come from messed up family lives. Our job is recognize it and get over it any way we can.

9.    There are no "have tos" in life.

10.   We are here to have a blissful experience.

11.   The external world is a reflection of what humanity thinks. There's a mixture of doomsday beliefs and abundance beliefs. Because the both exists, the world hasn't blown up yet.

12.    Nothing is really that serous. Let's face it, we are at the mercy of this big ball of mostly water hurling through outer space and we are just flees crawling all over it. One big asteroid that manages to penetrate the atmosphere and it's lights out. Live in the moment, be happy, find bliss.

13.   There is no such thing as death. We move on. It is those whom grieve that hurts from death.

14.    Quiet your mind twice a day and think of nothing and you won't age, you will feel better and be healthier.

15.    Like attracts like.

16.   Deep inner joy is far better than unrequited love.

17.   The only human condition is what we chose to believe that causes use to be miserable.

18.    We can create anything we decide. As blasphemous as this may seem, we are Gods. God has given us the free will and power in our own lives. We just have to accept it and do it.

19.    There is no difference between my abilities and me and your abilities and you. Admittedly it's incredibly difficult to read for oneself when one has an emotional attachment. You can predict things, you just have to pay attention.

20.   Where things are going or predictions are only the energy moving in a particular direction. It can be changed if someone changes their mind.

21.   There is more in Heaven and Earth than there are in our philosophies.

22.    Be smart, be motivated by seeking bliss not running from displeasure.

23.    You cannot create in another person's reality. If you mess with that via spells, etc., etc. the price is too high to suffer. I happen to know this from personal experience. Trust me on that one. Better live life without trying to mess in someone else's world.

In addition, I have seen UFOs, ghosts, had tons of prophetic dreams, deja vous and I know 1-5 minutes prior in advance that someone that I know is about to enter my space (walk into the room, drive by me, call, etc.)

In my readings I see things, get analogies that are relevant, I hear things  pull tarot for clarity and definition. I have no idea how I know any of this stuff. I don't know all of the fancy terminology to hearing, seeing, sensing, etc. I do know that I am a simple building inspector that just happens to get information.

I want you to ask yourself it you want a reading from someone like me.

How many of you have or have had one or more of the following problems?

The guy or girl is taking you for granted.

You can't seem to meet anyone that has follow-through.

You can't find anyone that you would like to go out, with much less someone that you would care to develop a relationship with.

Now, you say to yourself, "I'm easy on the eyes, I'm educated, kind, loving, a good cook, great with animals and kids, blah, blah, blah (insert other good attributes here)".

Here is a list of the possible problems that are underneath the surface.

1.   You are too good looking.

2.   You lack self confidence, but you know that you are pretty or handsome.

3.    If you are a woman and you are seeking a man, you make too much money. Although this is a short explanation, it is the most important.

4.     You can do pretty much anything and there's really no need for anyone else in your life to be a partner. So what possible purpose could someone else serve? Being there and loving you is not enough to another person. Is that purposed idea enough for you when you are involved with someone? "Sweetie, you don't need to do anything, just set there, look pretty and love me." I'd get pretty bored with that.

5.    Just because you want a relationship and someone in your life, but you don't need one. Believe it or not, I used to think that was a good thing. I refer to #4 in this list. Try to look at it this way one wants to be wanted sexually and needed in day to day life. Wanted in day to day life with not having any purpose is worrisome. If someone just wants me hanging around with no real purpose, it smacks of obsession. The next impulse is to run, run, run.....as fast as one can!

6.    You're a pessimist, nothing is good enough, you have disaster and chaos everywhere. You scream drama. Love is to be joyful and blissful. It is work, but the work revolves around getting used to each other's thought processes and lifestyles NOT dealing with the drama. Drama isn't whether or not you need to hire a roofer or get your vehicle fixed...it's things that can't be fixed...negatives, pessimism, thinking that you are going to get screwed at any moment.

7.   Wanting the best and expecting the worst. Guess what you are going to get...the worse. It is so true that you get whatever you expect...even without all of this hype about the law of attraction.

8.   You have this attitude...I'll never find anyone because there isn't anyone out there in my age group, with my interests, in my socio-economic group...blah, blah, blah (insert whatever else you might think). Allow me to refer to my favorite quote: Henry Ford - "Whether You Believe You Can, Or You Can't, You Are Right"

9.    Start your search like you would do for a job....create a resume, believe your resume and that you are capable. Create a business plan. Remove the desperation out of it.

10.   Your attitude and believe is this...."They aren't going to call, they are going to cancel the date, they are going to blow me off, they are like other men/women that have screwed me." Yepphers..they sure are...

I've done extensive and exhaustive research on good resources about the above subjects. I've researched reviews, etc, etc. Please take advantage of all of this work for free...Here's a list of books that you might want to try:

How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You - Jennifer Winston

Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man - Romy Miller;

Make Every Man Want You - Marie Forleo;

How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You - Mandy Simons

Ask, Believe, Receive - 7 Days to Increased Wealth, Better Relationships, and a Life You Love (BoldThought.com Presents) - David Hooper

How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You - Leil Lowndes

The Likeability Factor - Tim Sanders; DVD

A Whole New Mind - Daniel Pink; DVD

I have been doing readings and advising for over 15 years. It's been longer than that, but I would prefer to make myself out to be younger than more experienced.

Up until the last 3 years, I thought that sun signs or zodiac signs were nonsense. Now, after reading a person, I can peg their zodiac sign about 90% of the time without the querent revealing it. Out of that, I can tell if they are a fire, earth, air or water sign about 99% of the time. There's truth to this nonsense. I now buy it hook-line-and-sinker.

Below is a greatly plagiarized piece, with bits that I have added to increase the impact. Of course these are gross generalizations, but there are kernels of truth in all abstracts.

The personality traits of the twelve signs are as follows:

• - Aries (The Ram) (fire, cardinal, personal): Keyword: "I am". Freedom-loving, assertive, individualistic, independent, intellectual, pioneering, leader, action-oriented, fiery, straightforward, passionate, powerful. Can be extreme, arrogant, intemperate, violent, headstrong, impulsive. In relationships they like to feel as if they have won the affections of the other. They tend to be very self centered or seem to be selfish about love. They like to be the heroes as well. This is not true for all.  From dates March 21 to April 19.

• -Taurus (The Bull) (earth, fixed, personal): Keyword: "I have". Resourceful, thorough, devoted, patient, sensual, affectionate, cautious, musical, artistic, solid, earthy, strong, sturdy, kind. Can be slow, possessive, stubborn, acquisitive, indulgent. In love, logic tends to rule. They also want their partner to be as devoted as they are. From dates April 20 to May 20.

• -Gemini (The Twins) (air, mutable, personal): Keyword: "I think". Logical, inquisitive, lively, active, curious, multi-tasking, talkative, sociable, duality, mercurial, whimsical. Can be superficial, two-faced, inconstant, restless, impulsive, headstrong, stubborn. From dates May 21 to June 21.

• -Cancer (The Crab) (water, cardinal, personal): Keyword: "I feel". Protective, sensitive, tenacious, family and home oriented, helpful, nurturing, watery, emotional, loving. Can be crabby, clinging, moody, worrying, pessimistic. I frequently tell my clients to "ride the wave". Many times if a Cancer seems emotional or emotionless, it has nothing to do with their partner.  From dates June 22 to July 22.

• -Leo (The Lion) (fire, fixed, social): Keyword: "I will". Generous, proud, theatrical, passionate, sunny, bright, kingly, powerful, loves attention, dramatic, independent, noble, creative, leader. Can be arrogant, bossy, boastful, egotistic, snobbish. Try to remember with this sign it is the thrill of the chase that makes them feel love. Strange but true, if they feel like they have caught someone and have their heart they frequently aren't interested any longer. See it as if they are real lions. Once a lion has caught it prey, they are satisfied and walk away. From dates July 23 to August 22.

• -Virgo (The Virgin) (earth, mutable, social): Keyword: "I analyze". Practical, imaginative, creative, efficient, critical, work and service oriented, common sense, modest, health conscious, mentally active, helpful, flexible. Can be pedantic, fussy, over-critical, worrying, over fastidious. In truth about 80% of my readings are about Virgos. People whom love them tend to be very frustrated because they are so hard to read. They tend to be hard to read because there is so much activity in their heads.  From August 23 to September 22.

• -Libra (The Scales) (air, cardinal, social): Keyword: "I balance". Co-operative, diplomatic, urbane, fair, needs partnerships, refined, balanced, graceful, charming, debater, just, open-minded, social. Can be lazy, indecisive, dull, rationalizing. Libras tend to really need their partner to be balanced, resources and not a source of problems but solutions.  From dates September 23 to October 23.

• -Scorpio(The Scorpion) (water, fixed, social): Keyword: "I desire". Passionate, secretive, powerful, keenly perceptive, deep, complex, analytical, inquisitive, resourceful, magnetic, intense, hypnotic, sexual, perspicacious, creative, vigorous, , ambitious. Can be jealous, controlling, possessive, aggressive, cunning, cruel. This sign can be maddening. I tell clients, "Scorpios are the only ones that actually speak Scorpio. It's like Finnish or Hungarian. No one else should bother to try to understand those languages unless you are Finnish or Hungarian."  Oh and this sign is one of the most obstinate. Never tell them what they are thinking and never tell them what to do. Don't jump off that bridge: SPLASH. From dates October 24 to November 22.

• -Sagittarius (The Archer) (fire, mutable, universal): Keyword: "I perceive". Freedom loving, straightforward, extrovert, philosophical, intellectual, fun-loving, arrogant, adventurous, expansive, optimistic. Can be blundering, scattered, careless, jealous, too-serious, tactless. These individuals also will jump head first without thinking. They will invite you to an overnight without having even met you.  From November 23 to December 21.

• -Capricorn (The Sea-goat) (earth, cardinal, universal): Keyword: "I use". Prudent, cautious, patient, methodical, practical, reserved, ambitious, authoritative, competent. Can be saturnine, suspicious, rigid, cunning, over-cautious, pessimistic. These individuals tend to be the glass-is-half-empty people. They are always trying to circumvent calamity. From dates December 22 to January 19.

• -Aquarius (The Water Carrier) (air, fixed, universal): Keyword: "I know". Democratic, unconventional, detached, friendship oriented, humanitarian, cause-oriented, believes in the group/society, progressive, sophisticated, trend setting, magnetic, independent, objective, opinionated, devoted to goals, outspoken. Can be eccentric, elitist, dogmatic, aloof. These people are the "mad scientists", the lofty thinkers, those "ideas in the ski" people. They best deal and communicate in nuisances. From dates January 20 to February 18.

• -Pisces(The Fishes) (water, mutable, universal): Keyword: "I believe". Imaginative, sensitive, compassionate, feeling, idealistic, spiritual, accepting, undiscriminating, creative, mystic, self-sacrificing, artistic. Can be impractical, neglectful, escapist, lazy, distracted. This definition is so true. You cannot push water up hill. They are impossible to convince of anything once they have something in their head. Even logical proof does not bring them into reality. "I have my mind made up, don't confuse me with facts." From February 19 to March 20.

If you are one of these signs and you are offended about the above text, I bet I can nail your sign!

For additional reading I would suggest, Love Signs, by Linda Goodman.

http://www.amazon.com/Linda-Goodmans-Love-Signs-Approach/dp/0060968966

Endeavoring to be useful and helpful,

Marie

How can one take advantage of another person in the name of love?

"If you love me you will........

• have sex with me whenever I show up, whether I take you to dinner or show up at 4:00 in the morning."
• give me money when I need it. It doesn't matter if you need that money. You will be selfless and give it to me."
• avoid you family and friends because they don't like me."
• accept the blame for the things that I have done."
• apologize even though it's my fault."
• accept the fact that I don't call when I say that I'm going to call. I'll get back to you when I feel like it."
• sacrifice your self esteem because I create uncertainty in our relationship."
• sacrifice your self esteem, because I might just go out with someone else that I fancy."
• know that I'm not doing anything wrong. I'm not doing anything, so what could I be doing wrong?"

What's wrong with all of this?

This is covert abuse. Covert abuse is abuse that isn't hitting or yelling. Because their abuse isn't overt (hitting or yelling) it's hard to put one's figure on it. Covert abuse is abuse. It;'s emotional abuse, it's manipulative, and it's damaging. The problem with covert abuse one some times doesn't even recognize that it's happening until later and they frequently don't know how to heal. It creates deep emotional scars, depression, low self-esteem and other issues that can prevent one from having other healthy and loving relationships.

People, man or woman, that behaves in this manner towards someone else is abusive and probably has border line personality disorders.

What kind of personality disorders:

Passive/Agressive: Link- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggressive_behavior

Narcissism: Link- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

These are only two, but there's a myriad of disorders and behaviors that could be exhibited in the behavior above.

No one can change this behavior out of another. These are learned manipulation and control. Years of therapy, possibility meds will be the way these behaviors are changed. However, most of these types of covert abusers don't think that they have a problem. It's working for them and if someone does have a problem with their behavior then that person is mentally ill. After all, they aren't doing anything wrong.

Never ever believe that these types of people will change. They absolutely won't. Don't bother yourself believing that they will.

Folks, I'm getting better at seeing my manifestations come to light. It's difficult to get my clients to write stories.  I decided to tell you about mine.

Here's two that happened in the last two weeks. I have hundreds of them, but these are recent.

One year ago, I decided it was time for a new truck. I found the Nissan Xterra an acceptable vehicle and test drove it and found a photo of a silver one and pasted it on my "vision board".

Two days ago, I decided that I had to have a truck as my old Ranger was on its last legs. I found one on carsoup.com, called the dealership, did a credit application over the phone and went and picked up my new Xterra the next day. Now many people may not be finding this fascinating, but in the last two years I have had to rebuild everything in my life, so getting financed has not been possible.

When I decided that it was possible, it became possible. When I decided it was time, it was time.

Oh, and I also decided that I would pay about $4000USD less then the average listing on carsoup.com. And I did.

Now, I am an animal lover. My puppy died two years ago during an extremely rough time in my life and she had been with me for 10 years. 

In January I decided that we needed another dog in May.

I had settled on two breeds of dogs; a Havanese (same bred as my last puppy) and a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. In The Cities in which I live, these dogs run between $1700-2500 each. That's crazy. One of my friends and another reader on Keen started doing some research for fun for me and found a web site for me and within a day, a Caviler was listed on this site and I was sent a notification email.

On this site, the breeder had several breeds of dogs and she also had Havanese. I called the breeder and asked about both breeds, gave her information about my lifestyle and she said either would be good. I really loved her energy on the phone. She loved her dogs and you could hear dogs, puppies and children playing and calling the dogs in the background. I felt very good about the conversation. I would buy on from her, but I told her that I just couldn't settle on which one. She called me the next day and basically gave me one so I could have both. She told me that I'd been through a lot and she just wanted to make sure that her dogs went to good homes and that she still going to make $400 off of me even with this really big discount. 

I settled on two types of dogs. I decided we'd get one in the May. Even though I honestly could not afford the types of dogs that I wanted, I just kept believing that there had to be a way to get one. I believed that I could get either dog equally....and guess what?

They are coming Saturday. Both are a quarter for what I'd pay for ONE locally. They are exactly what I decided I'd get. Okay the timing is off by 4 days, but who cares.

Havanese Daisey

Cavalier King Charles Spaniel-No name decided on yet, but probably Petula.

Okay so the moral of the story is be really careful about what you want, you'll probably get it. If you can't land on a decision, you might end up with multiples.

What are the steps?

• Settle on what you want.
• Find a photo and paste it on a vision board
• Don't look for specifics...i.e. person, dog, particular person, just something that represents what you are looking for.
• Put a time limit on it. This does work or gives it particular time to land on.
• Don't ever figure out the who, what, when, where and why. That's really wasted energy. Use your energy more productively by just intending it.
• Intending it is the same thing as intending it as if you were going to go to the supermarket and get a box of Kleenex. There's no real barriers there, you don't ask yourself if you deserve a box of Kleenex, you don't question that you can afford it, you don't ask yourself if the Kleenex and you are meant to be together,  you don't worry if they will be out of Kleenex, anyway there's always Puffs....get the picture here?

Try it with no attachment and see what happens.

Many of my clients are frightened that if they are honest with their partner, that the partner will end the relationship or go away.

Nonsense!

One can rely feelings and thoughts if they convey it in the right way. Many people are not accustomed to doing this. Here are some ways to get your point across to people without ending up with a defensive argument. If the receiver of this information is abusive, they may not receive it well no matter how you put it, so decide what kind of a situation you are in prior to sharing.

• "This is how I see it........"
• "This behavior makes me believe.......".
• What is your goal of telling them what you think? Make sure you have a goal.
• Go into this conversation to get clarity about the situation.
• REMOVE EMOTION. This might be difficult to do, but treat is as a breach of interpersonal boundaries.
  Maybe he or she doesn't even recognize what effect their behavior has on you.
• Check yourself to see if you are making assumption based on emotions.
• Do not make assumptions such as, "I known why you are doing this." OR "You think that......"
• Do not put your thought processes into the person. Do not assume that they are doing something because you haven't any idea where they are coming from.
• Keep focused on the goal of the conversation. Is you goal to tell them that you feel left out and you don't know why they aren't including you in something? Keep focused on that, why they are doing this and if it's going to change. Try to keep the receiver focused on that goal as well.
• Make sure that you have all of the information prior to making any statements.
• Tell them that you are attempting to create a healthy relationship and that communicate more effectively.
• Determine after the conversation if they understand your point of view. Wait to see if they are going to try to change their behavior. If they have become argumentative or nasty then maybe your aren't going to achieve a healthy relationship with this particular individual.
• Understand you cannot make anyone change. You can point out that their behaviors make you uncomfortable and they might change their behaviors. If they continue to be hurtful or disrespectful, then you might be barking up the wrong tree.

Hazards of not being honest:

• Always second guessing why someone is doing something and you are probably wrong.
• Constant recurrence of a uncomfortable situation.
• Harboring resentment.
• Making too many calls to Keen about their intentions.
• Opening yourself up to abuse or being used.

Please feel free to add........

"Back off, I'm not that kind of a car."

"Answer my prayers, steal this car."

"Atheist are Beyond Belief."

"God gives and forgives, Man gets and forgets!"

"I did not believe in Reincarnation the last time either!"

"Keep on working, millions on welfare depend on you!"

"I fought the lawn, and the lawn won."

"Visualize whirled peas."

"Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder."

"If you can read this, I can hit my brakes and sue you."

"Does the name Pavlov ring a bell."

"Yes, this is my truck. No, I will not help you move." (I should put this on my truck.)

Here's a really basic lesson in intentions and manifestations.

Recently I started paying attention to my heart rate when I was on the tread mill. I'm on that thing at the YMCA one hour a day, five days a week. Someone said, "You're not loosing your winter 10 pounds because you aren't in the zone." Okay, whatever. I'm a Scorpio and that means nothing in moderation, it's black or white and there are not shades of grey. If a heart rate of 120 is good, 220 is really good, right?

So I started investigating this heart rate stuff and found that I wasn't in the zone. Alright, whatever that means. I just understood that I need to have my heart rate at between 119 and 128. So now when I am on the tread mill, I intend it. And guess what? It works. There's the power of intention in a nutshell. I can control my heart rate.

No wonder it's so blasted difficult to loose weight because you are paying attention to the fact that those trousers aren't fitting right.

No wonder it's hard to be in a relationship, because you're probably paying more attention to the lack.

No wonder it's hard to make and keep money, because you're most definitely paying attention to the fact that your checking account is dangerously low.

So how do you intend something that isn't there? How do you pay attention to something that you lack?

Simple: Intend it as if you are intending to go to the supermarket. That's what I noticed. Will it into existence. Here's the punch line: You can't figure out HOW IT's going to happen. In truth, I could give a fig how I manage to get back into all of those expensive tiny jeans. I don't care if aliens take me in the middle of the night and give me bonus liposuction. I don't care how that six figure amount ends up in my checking account. Would you?

Need more help with this? Let me know!

Wishing and wanting the best for you.....

Marie

It's my belief that we choose our experience. 

Do a little magic for yourself and follow the link...

http://www.whatthebleep.com/create/

I would also invite you to have a look in the mirror three times a day and tell yourself how much you love yourself and that you deserve the best!

See how it will change your attitude and prospective in the next two weeks!

Do you have some guy or lady in your life that gives you difficulty? Do they always keep you on your toes because you are never quite sure where you stand with them Is there always that looming question, "When is it going to get normal?" or "When can I rely on that person to be more of what they need to be?" or "When will my relationship be a soft place to land?" Allow me to save you money on dozens of psychic readings and give you the answer: NEVER.

How pesimestic of me. Right?

Let's evaluate the truth here.

Ask yourself the following questions:

If you have such a volatile relationship with someone now, will you ever feel 100% comfortable with them?

Even if you get what you want from them, can you trust them to be there for you 100%?

Do you think that you can solicit change from them? Can you make them change? If you can, will you respect them for being changeable to meet your needs?

What things about them make them so charming that you are willing to give up what you want in a mate to take them on? That is if you are looking for that "soft place to land".

What else are you giving up that you want in a mate?

Are you trying to fit a square peg into a round hole? Do you think that this peg is going to feel comfortable in their new hole?

The bottom line is that there are some people that will never be reliable, some people that only serve themselves, some people that have no empathy, some people that don't have time, some people that are mentally ill, some people that are players.

Eventually even these people get married. Do you wish to be on the receiving end of their odds?

You are a child of "God", you deserve love and companionship and a soft place to land. You might not realize that by trying to rationalize the other persons behavior. You might not realize that because you have been abused by this person. Yes, abused...your time, your energy and sometime even your money and resources.

What are some rationalisations for this behavior? Well, justifiably a death in the family, events that render a person depressed or if a person is chemically depressed, etc, etc. But narcissism isn't something that change a person. Self importance does not equal self preservation.

As a kid, I was told that everything was karmic debt. Call it paid and move on. I was told that there was some lesson in this. Graduation and learn not to do it again.

It is simple self respect and self preservation that must eventually kick in.