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Early this
morning my neighborhood had a community garage sale. I scouted out in search of
toys and blankets for our local Humane Society and our Primate Sanctuary. They
are always in need of things. I sometimes will chuckle at how much people
really price a used towel for. Sometimes you can really find some nice things
that you can wash and donate, if not I am at the Pet store. I love doing these
kinds of things. I feel better for helping because I know that the animals need
things and all these places run on donations and volunteers.
The last
stop was out of my neighborhood with signs posted for an Estate Sale.
Everything was FREE! I questioned but entered. The entire apartment was being taken
apart from washers to dryers, hangers to dish detergent. There were beautiful
new comforters, sheets, towels. These were things the animals need. Who died
here that had such nice things?
The Aunt was
running the show while people were ripping things out of sockets. Two men took
a free brand new washer and dryer as I asked about the towels and bedding. She
told me you better take what you want because it’s all free, I have no use for
any of this. The woman that passed was 32 years old. I saw her license on the
counter and car keys. She worked at a local grocery store, she was an Organ
Donor. I felt terrible that she passed away. I don’t know how. I felt
uncomfortable as her Aunt was really short with me.
I took the
comforters and towels, politely thanked her and left. They were all donated to
the shelters. I couldn’t help but wonder
what her life was like. She lived alone, she had a rabbit. She was young and
now everyone was rummaging through everything she possessed. It makes you wonder. I felt sad. I hoped the
woman who passed was happy that things were being donated to help animals.
Our lives
are so complex. Everyone is always in a rush. We forget who we are sometimes.
We are worried about money, love, material things. I know people who are more
concerned with keeping up with the neighbors and their church friends then they
are about family or values, even with themselves. I have ex-in-laws who are spiteful in their
everyday life and seem to enjoy causing rifts between families. I don’t
understand why. I used to care that they said things behind my back now I just
ignore it all. It doesn’t matter. What matters is the legacy we leave behind.
Today’s
field trip really helped me once again put life back into perspective. I know
we need certain things to live. We all have bills to pay, responsibilities that
we are obligated to live up to. Can we incorporate kindness and being a
balanced, loving person while we do what we must? When we find who we really
are can we not lose that person in mundane things? Can we really not be so
attached to material things and try not to worry about the neighbors or what
others think of us? How can we make ourselves and this whole world better?
I don’t live
in a fantasy world. I do believe people can change. I do believe that we have
to be the change that we want to see in this world. I want to always remember
who I am, my values and morals. I want to stand by my convictions. When it’s my
time to pass I hope I will leave nothing but happiness, joy and love as my
legacy. Every material thing is irrelevant.
I used to watch the game Family Feud and play along with the TV. In the real world families now a days do not seem to stick together, share dinners, holidays or even keep in touch. Everyone seems to be doing something else and loosing the values that brought us all together.
I attended my nephews party tonight in celebration of his Confirmation. I was saddened by the fact that a cousin was rude and aloof to me. Once I found this person funny and enjoyed her company. She took words out of text through a third party and her spouse many months ago when I tried to cook them a dinner. She believed this third party family member who has been nothing but trouble since I have known her. She has wiped people off here and there for years. This family member continues to cause troubles, no one escapes her nasty wrath. I wanted to speak my mind but took the hide road and ignored them. I have vowed that it is in my best interest to not attend anything with these people unless it is necessary. My Grandfather would have had a fit if he were alive.
I left the party angry and sad. I am angry that people believe everything they hear and do not stop to consider there are two sides to a story. I am sad that this is what "family" behaves like. I was not raised this way. My family had issues but they said what they needed to, got it out and went on. There were no snide remarks behind everyone's back. It was easier that way and I feel it is a better approach.
Have you been finding yourself watching your family have these feuds? Many people have asked about family situations these days. I understand. Family is made up of blood relatives, they are not chosen. We are born into these families.
I would much rather have the choice. I bet you would as well.
With all this in mind I realize that I cannot change anyone including these people. I have no recourse to defend myself or make them like me. They are who they are. I cannot judge them either. That is doing what they do. However, what I can do is stay away.
We often think we must be involved because they are our relatives. Who said? There is no rule book. It hurts, yes but we don't have to be door mats or be subjected to toxic people who are shallow. Family or not. This is not healthy behavior.
Unless someone comes to me and wishes to work it out I am no longer going to put myself in a position to be hurt and snubbed. I wish them well but I am happier without the aggravation and the drama. Seeing that many of you find yourselves in these situations for various reasons, think about the fact that it's not okay just because they are Family. Abuse is abuse.
I choose happiness and I hope all of you do as well. No Family Feuds.
I hope everyone has a great week ahead and I look forward to reading for all.
Michelle
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The Dreadful
February the 14th
Every year
people spend thousands of dollars on Flowers, candy, stuffed animals and jewelry.
Is Valentine’s Day really the most romantic day of the year? I say no. It is
just another day where retailers make money and women slip into fear mode while
men customarily panic over what they should or should not do. I would honestly
hate to be a man. The pressure of performing and being Romeo for his Juliet
stinks. It’s too commercialized.
Love is a 24
hour 365 day a year feeling. Valentine’s Day means nothing if the rest of the
year is rotten and if one day is the only day we have to show someone with
gifts how we feel. Gifts are superficial. Flowers wilt and candy gets eaten. Jewelry,
well, that does last. None the less it’s all pressure from my perspective.
I once had
someone bring me beautiful wildflowers from the yard. They were mixed with
bright colors. He wrapped them in a ribbon and wrote “I love you” on a paper
towel. I will never forget that gift. It meant more to me then the store bought
roses or the Russell Stover candies. He was not in a financial position to buy
the “expected” gifts but I am not someone who expects much. Simple things are
big to me. I know, you probably don’t believe that but it is true.
Here are
some tips to get you through the 14th whether you are alone or
sharing the day with someone special.
One way to
not be disappointed is to not expect anything. Keep your mind clear and focus
on simple thoughts and things.
“Love is not about a particular day, or about cards, flowers, or even
being in a relationship. The illusion that coupled people are happy and
well-loved can feed feelings of loneliness or isolation for people who aren’t
with someone, and wish they were. Seeing the illusory nature of this holiday
can be the first step in feeling better about being precisely who and where you
are.”
You know how everyone always says that what you do for a living doesn’t
define who you are? Well, neither does your relationship status. Whether or not
you’re in a relationship doesn’t say anything about who you are as a person.
Don’t let a couple-driven culture make you feel like there’s something wrong
with you. Remember that being single is not something to be ashamed of. It
just so happens that being single on Valentine’s Day tends to create feelings
of self-doubt and loneliness due to all the media messages we’re bombarded with
telling us that we need someone else to complete us.
Most counselors will tell you the most important message that single people
should remember on Valentine’s Day is that love is not just for couples; it’s
for ALL of us. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about celebrating the fact
that you have a “special someone” to be romantic with. Look at Valentine’s Day
not just as a celebration of romance but as a time to reflect on all the love
in your life–your friends, your family, and even your love and appreciation of
yourself!
Wow, appreciate yourself. Cool concept. Guys, you don’t have to shower that
day or wait in line buying that perfect card hoping its good enough. Ladies you
don’t have to shave your legs, make sure your clothes are perfect or have your
nails done.
If you are in a relationship how about taking simple steps to show that
special person you care?
Fold a piece of paper and write a card out. You can even write a love letter
or a funny but caring poem. Pick from
that field some pretty wildflowers and grab some cheap ribbon and wrap them
together. Tag the card on it. Make them breakfast and bring it over, or serve
them in bed.
Make him a fresh pot of coffee, hand him his coffee in his favorite cup with
a heart card on it.
Any form of affection is appreciated. Rent a few movies. One he likes one
you like. Keep it simple.
When something is shared from the heart and is sincere you really can’t go
wrong.
Happy Valentine’s Day – May your year be filled with love and happiness.
May the heart that I love, know in his that I will care for him always.
Whether he is near or far, may he see with his heart and not his eyes.
Soon enough 2012 will be here, just as fast as CHRISTmas came and went. Oh how the year's go by.
My resolutions are to really work harder on creating peace. Not just peace in my life but peace that I can share with all.
There are many predictions for 2012 that are not so fun-filled. You probably know this by now. It's hard to not catch the doomsday prophecies. These things concern me like many of you whom have written or asked about.
My true feeling is I don't really know. What I do know is that love and peace start with each one of us. When we are in a state of peace we can branch out by showing love, compassion and giving peace to our family, friends and neighbors. No, this is not a Miss America speech!
If we want to leave a positive mark on the world, we have to start with self. If you are nasty, spiteful, vindictive and demanding you will not be doing much good for yourself or the planet. No, this excluded bad days. We all have those. Whether it be 2012 or the year next, I really do feel humanity has to change it's ways. We cannot live with the mindset of only being out for ourselves. The way to change is to really love and be peaceful with each other.
Let's each try one day at a time, one act at a time.
Happy New Year and let's make this world a better place. Love, Michelle
A Christmas wish to all..
May you never lose your innocence, always hold your grace.
Never lose your laughter; have faith.
Believe in the spirit of CHRISTmas all year through.
Keep hope in your heart, it's a perfect fit for you.
Pray for a world that is filled with peace & love. Then go out and create it! It starts with one.
May you always know in your soul that you are a child of the Lord. Trust, believe.
No matter what the world may serve you hold tightly to LOVE. It is the greatest blessing we all share.
Keep CHRISTmas in your heart always not just today, all year.
Love & Peace,
Michelle
We have unrealistic expectations for the holidays. Hollywood and songs have conjured up images of a traditional happy holiday dinner with our loved ones. However, because of all these fantasies I really feel the holidays don’t stand a chance! We lose the meaning behind this season. When lowering our expectations we are able to see realistically. Whatever benefit arises, becomes a bonus. We stop comparing what once existed in the past, or what we once were, to what is in the here and now. All that matters is the moment.
With this in mind, de-stressing can be facilitated by writing a different holiday list: the things we appreciate and the things we used to appreciate. We would then change our perception: Is the cup half full or half empty?
Remember the traffic gets crazier. Ignore people. Road rage is crazy enough as it is. Keep your emotions in check. Breathe. The Holidays go one of two ways: People are either cheery and pleasant or miserable and moody. I prefer to be pleasant all year round. It gets crazy. Don’t get sucked into the madness. Get real about the season.
Take time each day to relax, give yourself peace. Maybe volunteering for Holiday events would help you get a better perspective. If you volunteered at a food kitchen it keeps things honest and real. (I do feel this we should all know this is an all year event that people need help).
Smile regardless of the rude, cranky people. Emotions can run high. We miss our loved ones. We wish we had a partner; things may not be so good financially, etc. Count your blessings. When you check into what other people are lacking it certainly helps us feel blessed.
Exercise. That relieves stress, helps build endorphins. Eat well. Try going organic. Veggies are good. This time of year there is always a box of chocolate or cookies hanging around. Try stepping away from the junk and maybe grabbing a pear. It will do your body good.
Keep things in check. Take one day at a time. Enjoy the season for the right reasons not the silly gifts or parties. Keeping things simple is one of the best ways to enjoy every day.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and a very Happy New Year to all.
Love, Michelle
Sometimes we can easily find ourselves wanting to create a relationship with another because they fit all we desire. It's certainly okay to want and to dream. We all have our ideal partners in mind. When we meet someone and the fit all we have been searching for, the wheels start turning. Very often we can easily create that person to be something they are not. Individuality is to be respected as well as acknowledged. Lying to yourself about who someone is will eventually crash down on us.
Desire is a real kicker. The force behind the feeling is like a rush. It can over take you because we really want to be happy and in love. Being in love is the goal, the real goal is the feeling being returned. Often we make something out of nothing. This is where it gets tricky as well as painful. I pose these questions to you so you can weed out the fake relationships to help you get to the real one. There is nothing like the real thing.
1. Is your partner attentive and makes time just for you?
2. Does your partner call or return calls in a timely fashion?
3. Do they respect you, discuss the future while making plans?
4. Are you always doing the work? If you are that is not a well balanced relationship.
5. Are you being promised the world but given silence?
Have you created a relationship out of friendship or someone you know that caught your eye?
If you are ignored, disrespected and no compromise is ever made how can this be a relationship mostly a normal one? We do want healthy normal relationships.
Try not to create something out of nothing. When someone cares they make efforts. There are always going to be exceptions to every rule but customarily when someone really wants to make strides with you or get your attention they will. In reading a situation I am able to inform you if it is fake or real.
Wishing you joy!
Michelle
The act of finding closure is as simple as closing the door. But is it? It's not so simple. Simple to say, never easy to do. When I was a little girl I ignored the yelling from my parents;" will someone please shut the door"? I was a kid I ran out the door care free not thinking. Someone once told me these were subconscious things we all do because if you think about it if you leave the door open, you don't have to tell anyone whether you are coming or going or when will you return. Of course doing these things were inconsiderate and always got me in trouble because I owed my parents an explanation. I was the child, not in charge and not an adult. If I took off without them knowing my itinerary they were angry as well as the fact they would become worried about me.
As a kid this was the normal routine. It was always all about who's house I was going to or what friend I was playing with. I had a great childhood so in truth all I had cared about was fun.
As adults, most of us find that closure is difficult. I know I do. It's hard to put a cap on something that I have lost or given up. Something or someone that once created happiness, even if it hasn't in a very long time. It seems so final and sad. It can also makes us feel debilitated. Crippled. If the situation once gave so much joy it's really hard to live in the' memory. Sometimes the memory of it all is actually easier. Less painful. After all, finding closure on a relationship we still yearn for would just be a lie, wouldn't it? Shutting that door would mean putting an end to something we might not feel we are ready to address. Even if you're almost convinced that the happiness that was may never return, we still can find ourselves struggling with letting it go. As they say letting go takes courage. Who wants to be courageous?
If you've already lost your job, or the relationship has already failed, than what are you truly holding onto? You may believe because you are doing other things to keep yourself busy, you feel you've let it go and are moving on. Are you? Usually we are not moving on. It might be in our best interest to perhaps do something totally different so we are creating the closure that we need. Anything that will put the issue to rest. Something that declares you are ready to put the past in the past. Often others do not give us closure we have to give it to ourselves. This is hard.
Closure is just letting go of the past. It doesn't mean that you can't ever take a peak back into it if you want. However, it does mean that you have to let go as it "was" because the way it "was" is gone. For whatever reason it didn't work, it is probably good that it can't be that way again. After all, it didn't work. Perhaps it wasn't meant to be, or that it was, but in a different form than the way it was. We think we should stay holding on to hopes that one day it will work. No one's gettin' any younger. If it was supposed to work it would have. Of course I mean this with respect to a decent amount of time.
Now what if it's true that one door opens when another closes?
No one would know if they did not put any closure on their loss.
If you are driving a vehicle and you keep looking in your rear view mirror, you will never see what is ahead of you. What is ahead of you may be pretty phenomenal, important and life changing.
How to decide if it's time for closure:
Write down what it is that you're holding onto and read it aloud. Then ask yourself these questions:
1- Think about what your holding onto. Do you feel happy or satisfied when you think of it?
2- Is it helping you to move forward in life?
3- What will you be missing if I you really do close the door?
4- What do you gain if you let go?
Ways to find closure:
1- Be alone and say it out-loud. Tell your friends. Start thinking about the good things that you can focus on.
2- Call the person you need to let go of or who let go of you. Maybe you can even e mail them. I would only suggest e mailing if you are the one who was let go of. If you are letting go of someone have the consideration to tell them honestly.
3- If that person or even a job is unavailable, write a letter. You can always burn it or save it. Whatever works. It gets it off your chest.
4- Find something new that you can focus on in its place. Something that you can use as a positive replacement.
Remember that the reason for closure is to be able to appreciate the positive things the future holds for you. When thinking in a positive way, think of mental images that will help you along your road. I know it's never easy but we are all so worth it.
Someone once told me not to judge it. Judge what? Well, not to judge others or assume and in matters of the heart even when hurt not to judge the love I feel for another. My answer to her was; “Why do I always have to be perfect, why can’t I judge these emotions, they are uncomfortable”.
I took her word for it and started to look at all situations by not judging them or others. I never judged in a reading so why do it in my personal life? This is how I managed:
I looked at the situations without too much emotion.
I tried to think about what the other person might be feeling
I did not dive into to “save” someone. ( I am known for this)
I removed their face in my mind and could see they were only human.
I removed myself and just let it be.
I did not give them or the situation a choice, I chose not to engage and if I did I thought it all through without ANY expectations and NO JUDGING.
It’s hard because we are human. We all want to chat about it while passing our own opinions. It never succeeds, it always fails.
Try it! It may help when you are in a bind.
We live in a world that is filled with the " I want it now or better yet, I need it now." No respect, no patience, materialism. We as a world have shown each other that we care very little for our animals, all species, our planet, humanity. We kill, lie, cheat, steal, judge and think we can get away with it or fix it later. We ignore the needy, less fortunate or ill.
We think we are entitled. No one is entitled. We all exist here. It would be easier to co-exist. Our children are not being shown right from wrong most of the time. We live in a material world, gotta have it and can't do anything about the rest of the world anyway. Not so and the time is now! Now, today, this moment.
We are all light-workers, you don't need a degree or certificate. Do you come from the light of eternal joy? The man upstairs? The holy one who created all? Good, your in then. So where do you begin to save the world? It starts within and then spreads like fire. A good flame. Now is the time to recycle, volunteer, write your local congressmen, have your voice heard. Sign a petition to save the whales. Plant wildflowers, sunflowers so the bee's can pollinate. Are you aware that Albert Einstein said that once the honey bee became extinct man had four years left on this planet? They are becoming extinct.
Go look that up then think about the why's. We cannot go on hating, judging, killing, lying, abusing (the list goes on) and think it's okay. We are eliminating ourselves through greed. The time is now. Take the high road in EVERY SITUATION. You can understand the jest. Human Beings are pretty stupid when it comes to this kind of thing when we are supposed to be so intelligent. You know where we went wrong? When we became to technically inclined, stopped relying on our instinct and just being nice to each other. Just because we have book smarts doesn't give you common sense. The time is NOW! Not next week or next year.
The Earth is going through many changes and if we are to humbly co-exist we need to love, nourish and respect her as we do the same for each other. Find the good and God in all. There is no competition only love. There is no religion that is better than the other because in fairness I know we are all one and come from one Supreme being. Name God what you will. I call him Jesus.
We are all here to make a difference and a change. NOW IS THE TIME. "...Soul
is the most precious thing you can share, because you're sharing
yourself, and the world needs that gift more now than ever. The child
with AIDS in the ghetto is waiting for you, along with the starving
people of Africa, and everyone else who needs healing. Make the world
more beautiful by sharing with me the wonderful feeling you get when
your soul is lifted up to become pure love..."
MICHAEL JACKSON
Earth Song What about sunrise
What about rain
What about all the things
That you said we were to gain...
What about killing fields
Is there a time
What about all the things
That you said was yours and mine...
Did you ever stop to notice
All the blood we've shed before
Did you ever stop to notice
The crying Earth the weeping shores?
What have we done to the world
Look what we've done
What about all the peace
That you pledge your only son...
What about flowering fields
Is there a time
What about all the dreams
That you said was yours and mine...
Did you ever stop to notice
All the children dead from war
Did you ever stop to notice
The crying Earth the weeping shores
I used to dream
I used to glance beyond the stars
Now I don't know where we are
Although I know we've drifted far
Hey, what about yesterday
(What about us)
What about the seas
(What about us)
The heavens are falling down
(What about us)
I can't even breathe
(What about us)
What about apathy
(What about us)
I need you
(What about us)
What about nature's worth
(ooo, ooo)
It's our planet's womb
(What about us)
What about animals
(What about it)
We've turned kingdoms to dust
(What about us)
What about elephants
(What about us)
Have we lost their trust
(What about us)
What about crying whales
(What about us)
We're ravaging the seas
(What about us)
What about forest trails
(ooo, ooo)
Burnt despite our pleas
(What about us)
What about the holy land
(What about it)
Torn apart by creed
(What about us)
What about the common man
(What about us)
Can't we set him free
(What about us)
What about children dying
(What about us)
Can't you hear them cry
(What about us)
Where did we go wrong
(ooo, ooo)
Someone tell me why
(What about us)
What about babies
(What about it)
What about the days
(What about us)
What about all their joy
(What about us)
What about the man
(What about us)
What about the crying man
(What about us)
What about Abraham
(What about us)
What about death again
(ooo, ooo)
Do we give a damn
I DO!
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Bringing about peace..
Every day whether I want to or not, I hear of an earth
change or something horrible happening to someone or something. It seems as if
people have lost their minds. Maybe true. It’s rather difficult to raise your
vibration have faith and be positive when you hear of such things. It is
undeniable we are living in very trying times. The State of the Union is upside
down. I try to stay far away from any news. It always affects me. I don’t want
to be oblivious or unprepared.
I knew of the earth changes coming years ago. Things and
people are different since I was a child. Being a child was easy, those were
the days.
Can we fix the budget? Can we stop the changes our planet is
making? Can we save the earth, our children and animals? I believe our planet
is going through some major changes in order to bring about a new world. It is
scary, confusing and though predicted still unpredictable. However, if we raise
our vibration and start making changes NOW we can all get through these times a
lot easier. The world needs healing.
People need healing. There is too much hatred, abuse and violence. Nations
should not be rising against each other.
The “yes” to fixing things comes to me as thoughts and
actions. Here are some things we as a
world can do:
Forgive. Yes, forgive every person who did anything to you
that was wrong. Let it go. (I know this is easier said than done) Try.
Plant something. We are killing off our trees and
vegetation. It’s always a good thing to make oxygen and breathe.
Become a role model to a child or young adult.
Get involved. Volunteer even if it’s 15 minutes a week.
Truly practice random acts of kindness. (Stop perseverating on
what you don’t have, think of what you do have) I may not have designer clothes
or a home that is decorated with the finer things money can buy but I have
clean clothes with a roof over my head. I am simple, not complex. I hope to
always have this simple roof over my head and in faith, I will.
Smile at someone. They might think you’re nuts but who
cares. Positive helps.
Donate a quarter to a local charity. Who cares how much, it
all adds up. Imagine if everyone donated 1.00 to a food cause? We could
possibly end world hunger.
Save an animal. If possible you can sponsor, adopt or donate
time.
Replace a negative thought or feeling with a positive one.
Keep on doing that.
Honor the earth, clean up litter. Bless the ground you walk
on and the sky you breathe under. Recycle, please.
Pray! Pray for others, the earth, your family, friends and
all you know and have never met. Prayer is not about religion. I care that you
pray. I encourage you to walk in faith and not in fear. Fear will hoard all the
faith anyone has. Living in fear is crippling. Fear is negative and evil. It
can and often does control. I am sorry to say but I believe the powers that be
like to instill fear so they can keep us under thumb. As long as you continue
to remain attached by virtue of clinging, desire and ego - as long you continue
to live in fear - you will see that change or its potential as a bad thing. As
soon as you stop, it becomes just a thing - maybe even a no-thing.
Educate yourself. Don’t take the news as the word of God.
Take the word of God as the news.
Share, laugh, hug and love. Love is such a powerful force.
It can move mountains, change minds and hearts. Be open minded to new people
and ideas. Imagine! Try to be in a consistent state of grace.
Granted, this is not so easy to always do. Not impossible.
The world needs to be healed so do people. The only way is to start day by day then
we can multiply. We raise our vibration high where the planet feels the loving
energy. It flows through each one of us carried like a river that eventually
will lead out to an entire ocean. That is pretty cool.
Tonight I felt a sense of fear and then I did some things I
suggested above. I thought of my children and how I love them. How blessed I am
because of them. I spoke to a friend; e mailed another because I deeply care
for each of them. I worked, prayed and played with the dog. I looked at the
moon and thanked God. I asked for world peace and all nations to learn love and
those economic issues will be fixed, jobs will be had. I laughed at a silly show
and wrote this blog.
Let peace reside in your heart and pass it on. Michelle
Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
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After painful situations, I believe it is normal for us to
re-evaluate ourselves. I am human too and have found myself letting others
define who I am or how I should feel. This has never served me, never will and
it will be of no service to you either. Trust me.
In my opinion, I am an open book. I trust easily and make
friends fairly well. I customarily give people 2nd and third chances
while most would not let you past the first. This is just me. I may even know
in my heart that my choice to keep things going will eventually end up in dust.
Ya know the kind of dust that is icky and makes you sneeze, the kind that you
can’t shake off. Here we roll – well, our thoughts begin to spiral. It’s me,
not them. It’s them, not me. Why? What did I do or where did I go wrong?
Sometimes nothing and no one is to blame. People part for
various reasons. No chemistry. (Love that one). You just cannot agree. So don’t.
Agree to disagree. Often we just do not grow together but grow apart.
Friendships go through phases, so do romantic relationships. All relationships
do. Some do not survive. It can’t be helped. It still hurts. It hurts and
confuses us. I could list twenty questions but I think you get the idea. Yes?
Now that I have done some boo- hooing, is that even a word?
Here is my point-
No matter what hurts you, who does it or why, learn from
that. Perseverating on it will only keep it stuck in the center of your chest
and lodged in your brain. Grieve; feel rotten but certainly not forever. I know this is easier said than done. Been
there done that. EW!
What can you learn?
1.
What works for you?
2.
Someone was dishonest, do you want that?
3.
Do you really have things in common?
4.
Was that friendship going both ways or just your
friend’s way? I personally need my friends to step up for me and they do. If
someone is my friend and they consistently miss the boat with me, ignore my
needs and we don’t have an even exchange of “friendship”, it’s not really
friendship. Consistently missing the boat means they are just NEVER around.
Friends can often lose touch but they always catch up. True friends do.
5.
Boundaries.. That is a big one. Did you create
boundaries?
6.
Self Respect. We like to believe we have it, do
we?
The lesson is to learn what we want, will and won’t accept.
There is no need to tolerate people in our lives who do not create an even
balance of love, friendship, kindness and consideration with us. If we feel we
are unworthy of all that life has to offer, we will not be receptive to what it
is that we are truly wanting. All of us generally want the same things. It is
true that we must think better of ourselves in order to attract and associate
ourselves with phenomenal people. Each one of us has been created to enjoy
life, teach others, love each other and most importantly love ourselves first.
So, step by step put the past in the back seat. Live in the
present and look forward to the future. Be hopeful, mindful and move ahead.
Forgive yourself as well as others. Think highly of yourself. No one comes into
this world knowing exactly what to do. Life teaches us through experiences.
None the less, if we do not have marvelous thoughts of ourselves we most
certainly will never meet others who will think any better of us. No one can
define you but you.
"All
that we are is the result of what we have thought." (So True)
Please know that I am available and ready to take your calls on my main listing. Keen has been having technical issues with some of my sites. As they are working to fix this, no one can see my bio or what I have to offer so here is the main bio and what you can expect from me. When you do click to call I will be available to take your calls.
A reading with Michelle Caporale is a lot like talking with a best friend.
She is open and honest and delivers the answers to your questions with love,
humor, compassion and support. Just like any friend that genuinely cares,
Michelle is a straight-shooter and will not waste your time by tip-toeing around
the truth, as she sees it. She is able to zone in on what someone is feeling and the next course of events so you can make better choices.
Since childhood, Michelle realized she was
multi-gifted, which means as soon as you ask a question she immediately taps
into the ability that is best suited in delivering the most accurate answer. Her
gifts include Clairaudience, Mediumship, Clairsentience, Clairvoyance,
Psychometry and Photo Reading.
To prepare for your reading with Michelle, please
prepare a list of questions or ask for a general overview, and get ready to take
notes. She speaks quickly and she does not retain any details after the call is
complete. Egos are checked at the door, so rest assured there is no judgment
here – only love and understanding.
After taking a poll for several months I have decided to
write this blog in regards to what my male clients and friends have
expressed to me in what they are looking for in a partner. Interestingly
enough it is not what you may automatically assume; “sex”. Women often
say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really
looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn’t
worked. Modern men seem to be increasingly struggling to find his place
in a woman’s world. I don’t mean that in regards to a profession. I mean
it in regards to how men want to connect with a woman and form a bond.
Men are not insensitive, rotten *bleep*, as some may say. There are good
and bad in both sexes.
Men have started to change and are starting to grasp the fact
that their role may not be as it once was. “Starting” is the operative
word because this does not mean that there aren’t vast amounts of the
world where men insist on being the breadwinner and women should still
remain at home barefoot and pregnant. That may a long time to change for
those that hold that opinion. However in our western world that seems
to be changing. If a couple gets together and agrees on that concept and
role, then certainly that is acceptable as both parties agreed and are
happy.
So what is a man seeking? (Remember this is from my questioning a group of about 30 men over the last several months or more)
- It may be shocker ladies to know that most men are looking
for love and a solid relationship. The problem that I was told on
several occasions was that many women come across as cold and often
aloof. I was told by a client who I will call Jim that his girlfriend
was too involved in herself that she did not wish to spend time with
him. She professed her love but showed little attention unless she
initiated it. Surprisingly he held on until he gave up. She did not
cheat, she was just too self involved. He felt each of them should have
down or alone time but wanted his time with her as a couple.
- Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may
despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much
but be careful. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a Victoria’s Secret
model and many men don’t like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a
woman who takes pride in their appearance. The men I asked really
enjoyed the women that took interest in themselves, it showed self
esteem. Just like we want our mates to look and smell yummy, men feel
the same. No, they don’t expect us to be dressed to kill every day. Men
are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I would never
believe any man who says otherwise.
- Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can
have faith in and someone who will be there for them. Men want to make a
home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be willing to
share in a home life with him. Women with a sociable lifestyle are
attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social calendar
going when it is needed.
- Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind
because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an
attraction in itself. If a man wants children or has them already he
will often look for that maternal side. Do not mistake this for
“mothering” him. I was told by 75% of those I asked that was a no- no.
It was perfectly fine to take care of your guy if he was sick or hurt
but always remember your not his Mother, he has one.
- Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women who came
across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details were a turn
off. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is ‘one of the boys’.
What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is
sociable and fun to be with. Women who just go with the flow in this
aspect are attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and
relax when not working. Almost all, who I feel were truthful with me
said they really loved the women who were able to do the same, just not
turn into a cursing sailor.
- Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and
are caring and kind. “Soft” was a word that was used. “If I wanted to
hear a burp or fart, I would go to my buddy’s house.” It’s not as if we
all don’t do those things but all men asked agreed that was not a turn
on. FYI- Girls are not that thrilled when the guys do it either. Women
have girlfriends and men have their buddies. You can combine the crowd
but most have expressed to me that they really get turned on when their
girl acts like a girl and girls like guys can be versatile.
- Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to
criticize men in their behavior, career and can become set about trying
to alter them and mold them. This is a mistake. Men and women can be
manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The
best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is
not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize
then she may lose her man. I as a woman invite constructive criticism
but not constant that is non- supportive. If you nag me, I will
eventually grow annoyed which always leads to an argument.
- Men don’t like angry women who shout, scream or yell.
Naturally, we all do at times but I think you know what I mean. They
mostly wanted a woman who can debate, discuss and have good
conversations. Communication is key and women want this too. A fiery
passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on
day one. By the time a year has passed most of these men felt it became
overwhelming. (That may be saved for the bedroom)
- Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on
their toes. These 30 or so men openly admitted that they were generally
lazy in relationships once they feel they’re secure. When a man is
challenged, he does something about it. If you want to keep your man
interested, keep him challenged. This does not mean to play games. This
is what I was told.
- Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. These
men who were asked were really kind of cool and open enough to say that
know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. All had expressed
that they did not like when their partners discussed their intimacy with
friends or family. They felt rather betrayed when hearing their
performance was up for 10 pts or less. A few mentioned that even if they
were being complimented, they felt it was private information. They
also felt that they really liked when their mate was quiet outside of
the bedroom and knew how to act like a lady but as the song goes… when
the lights turn down low, that was exciting to them. Most women feel the
same.
- Men want a woman who will commit to them. Men don’t want to
be alone. These men also expressed that they really enjoyed friendships
first. Several had mentioned that upon not searching for a relationship
at that time, the friendship meant so much it spun into a romantic
relationship that was totally unexpected. Three particular gentlemen
polled had spent many years being friends with their women friends who
now are wives; she was right under his nose.
Naturally these findings will not apply to all people; there
are exceptions to every situation. I found it all interesting yet not so
surprising. Men can be lovable people and do have feelings even if at
times some may find it hard to express.
I hope you have enjoyed reading this as much as I have enjoyed sharing it with you.
"I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I
may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part
of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon
our circumstances."
- Martha Washington