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I used to sugarcoat my readings

Some years ago when I first started on Keen I was always worried about my feedback. I was very new to giving phone readings on a full time basis. I was very accomodating to clients, I bent over backward with free minutes and changing my price for them, corresponding via email constantly...I sugarcoated my readings at that time. I didnt always say what I knew because I was afraid in a way, because I didnt want to make anyone sad and I didnt want to mess up my feedback. One day back in 2004, one of the people that I sugarcoating for quite some time has a terrible terrible tradgedy. A very bad bad accident occured and she was asking me the outcome, I told her the truth with compassion...It was the first time I was honest with her. I never heard from her again for 3 months, she called and blasted me .. bigtime. I sat through it because I wasnt expecting it..I still remember what she said ...and without too many private details it was something to the effect of "How dare you tell me that "Jane Doe's" fate would be ..xxx...Do you know what that did to me? Do you know how terrible it made me feel, you have no right messing with people's lives this way" .... and I said "Was I wrong? What happened?" and she said "You were right but how could you tell me something like that when you knew the emotional state I was in?" I didnt really know how to answer that. I told her the truth because I cared about her. I changed my ways ALOT, I dont want to get personally involved with my clients where I am afraid to hurt thier feelings. I use her as an example to myself when I am afraid to say what I see. I guess I had to make a decision.. I could either be for "entertainment" purposes only and play a role, be a fake and make things up... or I could be real, be me, tell the truth, and hope people appreciate me for it. thanks for reading.

Feedback liars.

Hi,

 I cant stand feedback liars.

Nicole, What do you mean?

Here is one example.

Customers who are asking about thier boyfriend/girlfriend  ..... while they are cheating on thier spouses. They dont tell me they are married, and hey..I'm the psychic here so they dont need to. Whether that is right or wrong who am I to judge you? I'm no one, I'm a medium...a channel for the information to come through. If it comes through that you have a husband/wife... I see that (through my guides) as cheating. Whether you are in love with your spouse or who you live with or not...its still considered cheating (in the interpretation) or thinking the grass is greener...putting yourself in situations where cheating may occur. It is what it is. Period. If *YOU* are uncomfortable with someone saying it to you out loud then thats something thats obviously a problem to work through. Being comfortable with the situations that you put yourself in.

Feedback liars IMO are people who get angry when I bring up these facts and leave feedback that always sounds the same. Its always something like this:

'I never leave bad feedback and I hate to do this, but Nicole is rude, made me feel worse about things, I want a refund"

.....So I believe that my readings  do make those uncomfortable in thier actions feel bad. I've learned that from taking over 12,000 calls on Keen over the past 6 years. I havent changed the way I do things and I dont believe I will. Should I start omitting things from the readings because I know it will bother you? Should I start holding back the information and give half ass readings because a few dozen people or a few hundred out of 12,000 arent comfortable? I think not. I would be putting a filter on my senses that I have worked my entire life to fine tune. I talk in a very conversational tone and yes, I lead the reading by doing most of the talking. NicoleListens means I listen to my guides, as my main sense is clairaudience. It doesnt mean I listen to and hang on your every word...as you talk I listen (to whats going on inside of me...your words are usually virtually meaningless...) I've noticed that some want me to read them based on what they tell me. Sorry, I dont do that.

I just wish the feedback liars wouldnt lie even further by starting out with "I hate to leave bad feedback BUT...."            But what? You dont want to take responsibility for that either? If you hate it, why are you doing it? Dont like to think your that type of person? Well, you are. Deal with it.

Leaving me nasty feedback or a 1 star?

then

Please own it.

Tell the truth. Or at least give it an hour or so to sink in. I always find it peculiar when the 1 star is left instantaneously with a long paragraph attached. Seems very contrived and emotionally driven. (....although to get the Keen refund you need to leave one star and if you need to hurry up and call the next psychic in hopes that they will say what you want to hear then you need to hurry up and bash me quick to get your free money for the next call...)

I love all my regulars! I love that you understand me and how positive my intentions and thoughts for all of you are.

love love love love love love you all my longtime clients/friends.

*nicole!*

 

Personal and childish

Tolerance. : sympathy or indulgence for beliefs or practices differing from or conflicting with one's own b: the act of allowing something :

I find that some others who claim to be tolerant are definatly not. Maybe they can pretend to be, especially when being paid by the minute. But when not being paid, can be downright ignorant.

"I dont understand this conversation and I'm not feeling it...so goodbye" with a slam of the door in my face. Maybe if I had paid by the minute I would at least get some pretend empathy.

thats not tolerance, or acceptance, or anything but ignorance.

As an energy reader I expect others to be accepting, accepting of new ideas, new ways of thinking, of the exchange of energy, and the picking of each others brains.

Most people would not understand this entry. In fact no one will understand this entry other than myself. Thats ok. I want everyone to know that I accept what I do not understand and embrace new information and new ways of learning, through tolerance. Through talking to others who are nothing like me I learn things. I dont question curiosity because I myself am curious about the inner workings of others. Questions. Its ok to question everything.

I find I get under the skin of others with my questions. Under thier skin because they dont have the answers, and it makes them feel like they are on the hot seat when thats not my intention. (I am not talking about Keen customers...as I dont waste my callers time with questions. I am speaking of my personal life.)

Any exchange of ideas, words, emails, text message, WHATEVER is an energy exchange. When you slam the door in someones face or block thier emails, or phone calls ect. thus leaving things unsaid and not finished your creating karma and refusing to understand the message one may feel important to convey to you.

Please be tolerant and dont shut others out.

.....Or at least dont shut others out and then whine to the world about it later when the same thing happens to you. Thats the karma I was just talking about taking a chomp out of your butt.   =)

And hey, it ALWAYS comes back.

Those that say they are on the high path and close the door on others without even trying to understand are really very much still in the dark while claiming to be enlightened.

 

Apology to my loyal clients

Hi All,

 I want to apologize to everyone for raising my rates on my love listing. I've been charging .99 since June, and last night I decided to raise it back to my regular price of 1.99.

I had a caller who asked me what most of you are so curious about, "When will I meet a man"  ...its a great question to ask, and my listing in LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS is the right place to ask it.    =)

I want everyone to find love and a significant relationship and be happy.

But sadly, I dont have a magic wand.

Calls on that listing are lasting 1-2 minutes, they hear me say "No, not anytime soon" and by anytime soon I'm talking the next 60 days. Obviously, to really get in there beneath the surface and check things out it takes me a little longer. I'm like a lavalamp sometimes. I need time to warm up and really connect with you.

Whats been happening is almost like I have customers coming to the shop window and saying "Hey, I want that beautiful jacket the mannaquin is wearing! Do you have my size?" and I say 'What size do you take, large? extra large?"   ....and the customer runs away in a huff leaving a review of how insensitive & hurtful I am.

"I will *NEVER* shop in Nicole's store again, she assumed I wear an EXTRA large, how hurtful/insensitive she is...she is a disgusting terrible person, the WORST store in the area"

Even though you never stepped foot in my shop.

 All the other stores have been selling you smalls & mediums. Maybe you've been meaning to lose weight, but the truth is, you havent. You *NEED* the large. Why continue to buy what doesnt fit because your embarrassed of the size.

I'm selling many coats/jackets, its my lifeblood. I'm not laughing in the corner at you. I have no motivation to be mean to anyone. I am not insensitive nor am I an inaccurate psychic.

I make mistakes just like everyone else, I'm human. I say what I say in the most subtle way possible while still getting my message across loud and clear.

Sometime soon, I will again offer low priced readings but for now ... it needs to be this way.

XOXOXOXOXO,

Nicole

 

.99 CENT SALE GONE CRAZY

I am running a .99 sale. Originally it was to thank my regulars for thier patronage over the years, and to pick up some newbies who might want to try me out.

I am not doing too well though. I thank my regulars for not abusing the sale ... but to all these new callers, you've been absolutly horrid. I say this because I've been cursed at and called names, many have told me to "SHUT UP!" ....  I've been threatend with "If your predictions dont happen, I am keeping a record and it will be reflected negatively in your feedback, I have 90 days right?"  

I'm not trying to insult the world here by saying this, because there are plenty of people who want the deal and take the reading seriously *AND* respect me. Just because I have lowered my rates doesnt mean I am a dog that you can abuse.

I give my all in the readings even if I were charging .25 .... I would raise them up higher but my soul wants me to do this.

......And for other advisors calling me, I really dont care if you are an advisor it doesnt change the reading. I found myself talking to an advisor who told me she doesnt like the way I am interpreting because thats not the way she does it .. WOW, have you ever heard that we are all special snowflakes, individuals, and I dont talk like you ect ect ect.

Please people, if you want a reading I will bring it and bring it unlike any other psychic, because I am ME ...  I dont care who told you what and when... that was *thier* reading ... not mine.

Oh yeah, thank you all who take what I say and have it as food for thought and not live by it, as always *YOU* are the master of your own destiny, your focus creates your reality and energy is *ALWAYS* in flux...changeable. 

 

 

The psychic scapegoat.

Over the years, coming in contact with with 3000+ people on Keen, I've only had about a dozen people with the cohones to make me thier scapegoat when things go wrong or something is not accurately predicted.

It really doesnt bother me, I expect it and I'm surprised that it doesnt happen more often then it does.  Everyone who calls me is very vulnerable, but I assume they want the truth as it is shown. So I give it.

This is a difficult career. I have a very good friend who is in the medical field and she botched a report, in turn jeopordizing a life. I knew exactly how she felt because thats how some of my callers make me feel... like I am jeopordizing thier lives. I dont play with people, I dont lead people down the wrong path for fear that it will be my fault. I'm very cautious with the advice I give and words I choose.

BUT HERES my vent... my rant...

I like to get readings from my colleagues, I have a certain few I call and sometimes try out a new one every now and then. If I said it once I've said it a thousand times, a doctor can not treat himself/herself. Plus, I find it entertaining to hear how different people from different parts of the world spin the tale of my life. I've been down and out and depressed and in the same state as many of my callers. But never ever ever ever ever ever even once have I spent my 50 bucks, then a week or 2 later when he didnt call or I didnt get the oppurtunity or my father really did die, when the readers that I trust told me he wouldnt, or the readers that I trust told me he would call ect., have I even thought of the readings. I still trust those readers...I still think they had good intentions... and I never became angry after the reading, and if I was angry about anything I was mad at myself for spending too much when I knew I had bills to pay... but thats about self control and a totally different story. 

I know that in the moment, they made me feel grounded, they calmed me got my mind on other things and somehow balanced me for that moment so I could get my bearings. Made feel like there was a light at the end of the tunnel when I felt only darkness.  I dont blame them for being wrong. I dont blame anyone for the things that have happened or didnt happen. I dont think the readers lied to me.  When I dont click with someone, I just dont call again.

I surely wouldnt continue to call the same person for years and years and then finally say "You know what, you've never been accurate, your readings are biased by your opinion and I'm just sick of the garbage your spew" .... If its a garbage reading, its a garbage reading forever. There arent parts of it that you like, something kept you calling.

I remember the little market in the tri state area started selling wraps, roast beef/cheese, turkey/cheese ect. they looked so tasty and good, so I bought one and it was horrible. Next time I went in for lunch, I got another one .. cause again.. it looked so darn good. Again, it tasted like trash. I did this about 6 times before I finally said  to myself  "Stop buying these darn sandwiches, they taste terrible!!"  .... but I did it 6 times.   I have callers who have called 115 times and then slam me with the "Your such a bad reader"  ... I guess maybe it takes some people longer than others to formulate an opinion, but I dont think so. I think in this case I cant compare myself to a sandwich and I have to go back to the first paragraph of this post ... scapegoat. When things go wrong some people need a scapegoat, someone to blame, a fall guy. At least the classier clients I have apologize a few days later, but the ones I know arent going to get any smarter by realizing its not my fault things went the way they went... I'm sorry but I have to block you.

thats all.

PS-thanks to Ebony for telling me to "blog about it...."

 

 

I dont need your life story.

Got some feedback today calling me "rude" because the caller said "She didnt even let me finish telling her all my problems before she cut me off and asked WHAT IS THE QUESTION"

.....Let me put it to ya like this.

If you are proofreading something and looking for a certain word, lets just say the word is "me" .. you call me up at 2 bucks a minute and spend 3 minutes saying "ME ME ME ME ME ME ME"  ....and I'm listening patiently, but your going around in a circle "ME ME ME ME ME ME ME" .... and in the first 60 seconds I have your answer and I know what your all about and I interject ...or interrupt. Why is that rude to you? Do you want to spend alot of money and not get any answers?

I am suggesting that in this economy if you just need to hear yourself talk that you should keep a journal, or put on a cell phone headset and talk to yourself in the car. It *will* help you alot. I'm being serious.

If you have money to burn, by all means...I will listen, I know you need to get things off your chest. I just want you all to know that you dont need to tell me the WHOLE story...just the names or whatever tidbit I may need.

I'm hear to help you, not gauge you.

=)

At your service,

nicole

Dont shoot the messenger....

I dont know how to put this any other way than how I am about to say it. One of my main goals is to give you so much information in one call  that you dont need to call again. I dont talk fast because I am trying to rush anyone or be rude to anyone. I say the things I say to get the point across and not dance around the issue. Of course, if you just need someone to talk to and vent frustrations, I'm here for that too. My price is affordable enough to be your life coach/advisor and I do have clients that call me on a daily basis for insight. I feel a little frustration though, as a human being, when I have a caller that is asking about a relationship that is obviously dead end .... and caller is really needing to let go of it. To evolve. To see the beauty and joy that everyone in life is entitled to experience. I feel this frustration because I tell it how I see and get left with feedback about how I am so unprofessional and have no bedside manner ect. Then I see the same caller leaving feedback everyday/every other day/every week for other advisors that says stuff like "I know he she still loves me, and I will be patient like you said" ... for like... months and months. I'm confused. Its like, feeding a drug addiction. "Oh honey, he/she will call, he/she still loves you, hang in there" 

How is this helpful? Unless you enjoy having someone tell you lies to make you feel better and line thier pockets with a high priced bullcrap pep talk...it makes no sense. Sure, I can be your friend and have empathy and compassion .... but friends arent suppossed to string you along and charge you.

I'm only saying this for those that think I'm some kind of nasty, mean, person that is trying to hurt thier feelings. I'm in this business to help people. Thats my main goal.

Do you know that its hard sometimes to tell the truth?

I feel the pain and emotion of my caller .... it sometimes makes me cry when I hang up as I am left with a residue of energy. I know how much each and every one of you love your ex or the person that used you and never called, ect. Do you think its easy to say "Hey, theres nothing there... this person has moved on and doesnt think about you at all"   ..... its not.

Some people respect my honesty and embrace the ingredients I can give you to make a better more productive life for youself and your future.

Please understand before calling me my intention is not to ...rude, unproffesional, rushed..ect. I need to seperate myself from how its going to make you feel, and I would never intentionally try to hurt anyones feelings.

Thats all.

I needed to get that off my chest.

Venting is theraputic for all. I do tell callers that sometimes just saying something out loud and hearing how absurd or stupid it sounds can give you a little clarity.   =)