Soul Expressions

Unmasking the Sociopath

Some call them psychic vampires. Our society calls them sociopaths. Whatever the label used, sociopaths often integrate themselves so well into your life and being that you may not realize you are under attack until the damage has already been done. And while it is true that every soul has a purpose to fulfill, there is considerable debate as to whether the sociopath has a soul to begin with. Hence the challenge involving nurture verses nature when attempting to define the true nature of the sociopath.

One thing is for certain. Sociopaths wear many masks and every mask worn, every thought or action is self serving. They need relationships to fulfill their end goal. You are the most important tool in their arsenal for obtaining the things they want and they thrive on you being oblivious to who and what they really are. They are not a force to be reasoned with, nor are they to be looked upon as damaged individuals who just need a little love and encouragement. Sociopaths are incapable of feeling love or compassion for you or anyone else. They cannot be "fixed" because in their own eyes there is nothing wrong with them.

Those who find themselves in any type of relationship or marriage with sociopaths often wonder how they could ever have attracted someone like this into their lives. After all, most of us have been taught through experience, to become aware of red flags at the onset of a relationship. But the sociopath is a cunning creature; extremely adept at blind sighting his or her victims, with the charm and attention they lavish upon you in the beginning. This is a person who will zero in on any weakness you may have, whether it is desperation, loneliness or lack of self esteem. Remember this is a person who can make you believe that you are the only person in the world who matters to them. And in a twist of irony this is true. Once they have set their sights on something you can help them achieve...you are what matters most to them.

Sociopaths can be extremely dangerous people and while not all sociopaths are or become killers, the damage they inflict upon their victims is often so traumatizing that it can take years of working through the recovery process to heal fully. They can drain you completely of energy, emotion and even your financial resources.

Other Profile Characteristics of a Sociopath

Superficial charm: This may not be evident at first glance. To the unsuspecting, the first impression made by a sociopath can be endearing, yet very deceiving.

Avoidance: Because the sociopath depends on not being discovered for what he or she is truly about, they will avoid any attempt at being understood or focused upon. They have the tendency to react rather harshly if you voice your suspicions or question them, even if it involves the simplest or generic of issues.

Master manipulator: The sociopath can be quite cunning and often ruthless in obtaining what they desire. They target and prey upon the weaknesses of others. For example: They often give the impression that they are doing you a favor by helping "spend" your money.

Pathological lying: Because the sociopath has no moral compass or conscious, lying means nothing to them. Even in the most heinous of crimes committed by sociopaths, you will often hear them lament that they did nothing wrong.

Criminal behavior: Stealing is a common behavior associated with sociopaths. They have convinced themselves that the item they are stealing somehow belongs to them or as in most case scenarios, that they deserve the item. A sociopath will often convince you that those they stole from, have "too much anyway" or "don't need it".

Lack of shame or remorse: Sociopaths do not see others as human beings with feelings, but rather opportunities. Even their "family", if any, or "friends" serve a purpose.  With sociopaths, the end always justifies the means, and that "means" is their arsenal of "victims", no matter how it harms those around them.  In the end even the so called "friends" and "families" of the sociopath wind up as victims.

Shallow emotions/ Incapacity to love: Sociopaths have the ability to feign displays of love and affection when it serves a purpose. Emotions are merely one of the masks they don in order to fulfill their purpose. This does not mean they feel this emotion; rather it is a behavior that they have learned to mimic in order to gain the trust and confidence of others. Tragic events or situations that would bring tears to the eyes of a "normal" person appear to irritate the sociopath, as if they cannot be bothered by the hardship and pain that those around them may be experiencing.

Self Serving: It's all about them. In the eyes of a sociopath the sun rises and sets at their feet. If it doesn't matter to them, it shouldn't matter to you and they will tell you this in no uncertain terms. When involved with a sociopath, you can forget about your interests, your dreams, your goals. He or she does not care! As his or her victim, your thoughts, your energy, your time will become so enmeshed with serving his or her needs that one day you may find your identity has been completely stripped from you. Studies have shown that in spite of the absence of any physical abuse, victims who have been personally and romantically involved with a sociopath often find themselves in the bowels of a deep depression, unable to cope or function even on the most basic level.

Working With Dream Cycles

The more we are aligned with the natural order of life on this planet, the more we realize that human cycles tend to synchronize with the cycles found in nature. Just as there are cycles of growth, learning and integration, so too are there cycles of dreaming.

Everyone dreams...but most of us do not remember our dreams. This is especially true in the spring and summer months, when learning is accelerated. The mind is continuously being infused with new information and lessons which need to be processed. Energy is so heightened that it is not uncommon to miss a lesson. This is the time when teaching messages are delivered through dreams, most often to show us when we have missed or glossed over something. During the fall we begin to slow down and process what we have taken in from spring and summer.

The dreams that we remember vividly, or, tend to wake us from a sound sleep, occur primarily in the winter months. These dreams are of the highest clarity and often feel extremely real. Because winter is a time when you embark upon greater inner and spiritual growth and prepare for the coming spring, your dreams will often contain messages and guidance in dealing with specific situations or events which are occurring in your life at the present time. If you are laying the groundwork for something that you desire to manifest in the coming months but are unsure of the direction you are moving in, these types of dreams can help point the way.

Lunar cycles can also affect the dream state. Just as the full moon can affect our emotions and can often make us feel, (especially if we are not centered), as if our energy is scattered all over the map, so too can our dreams appear scattered and strange.

 It is thought that during the "three day" period of a full moon, our dreams not only increase in clarity and strength, but often contain precognitive data. If you are working on any type of relationship or career path lessons and are interested in dream work, this is a particularly good time to program yourself to remember, to record and begin working with your dreams.

Harnessing the Power of Change

Like many of you at this time, I am currently at a crossroads. And if you are on similar life paths, you may have already noted the feeling that something has to give. Perhaps you feel as if you are not making much progress in your job or your relationship, or that for every step forward, you take several steps back. On some level…you know that a change is inevitable.

But for many, the idea of even the smallest change can be unsettling. The natural tendency is to resist and in resisting…we create obstacles which prevent us from achieving what we most want out of life.

 It has been said that fear is the driving force behind resistance to change. We fear the unknown and unfamiliar territory that change brings with it.  We have all heard of, or have known someone who has remained in an unhealthy relationship because they fear being alone, or the person who remains in a job they are unhappy with, for fear of not finding another one. Remember that energy flows where our thoughts go.  If we are focusing on the fear, we will be unable to see the opportunities that change can present to us. And in some instances we may even wind up manifesting a by product of that fear.

It is in how we address change, which determines our ability to harness the power within it. The key to finding that perfect job or creating a successful relationship is utilizing the tools we already have within us and changing the way we apply them.  

 I have outlined a few suggestions below, that I find are working very well for me. Keep in mind, however, that change in any type of behavior, habit or thought process, generally takes a period of  3 weeks, (21 days,) to complete. When you are dealing with behavior patterns, especially in relationships, changes in either direction do not happen overnight and as such, it is a good idea to affirm and re-enforce on a daily basis, the changes you want to create.

1.  Identify areas that need changing: I like to think of this as cleaning house; an opportunity to clear blocks and allow energy to flow freely. Do a mental and spiritual inventory. Is there something going on in your life which is no longer working for you? Perhaps it is a thought process that keeps you “stuck” or keeps bringing you back to a place you no longer want to be. Acknowledge that this is an area of your life that can benefit though the power of change. This will clear any blocks/resistance you may have, thereby creating an opening for change to work through.

 2. Welcoming Change: Attitude towards change plays a key role on so many levels. Throw open the door. Look for the opportunities that changes bring and be proactive and diligent in following through. If you are looking for a job or are changing careers, look at your transition and search as an exciting challenge. Opportunities come in different forms. Be aware, open and ready for anything.

3.  Perception: What we see occurring in our lives is determined largely by how we perceive changes. Take endings for example. Not everything has to end in order to change for the better. For example: If you find yourself  in a relationship that is failing, or doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, then you need to examine what is happening within you. Has the relationship truly passed its expiration date, or are you merely repeating patterns which keep yielding the same results? If the relationship is truly over...change your perspective. Think of endings as doorways to new beginnings.

When They Don't Return Your Love

When I was in my mid twenties I fell head over heels in love with a man I believed was my soulmate. As we moved into the sixth month of our relationship I realized that we were not on the same page; my love was not being reciprocated. It was at that point I launched a personal campaign to win this guys heart, no matter what.  Our relationship would last a little over two years, but nothing I did or said, made a difference. And although he was more than happy to be on the receiving end, I could tell that the more I upped the ante, the further he withdrew, until one day…without explanation, he was gone.

 

I felt like an idiot. I had to figure out what I did wrong so I wouldn’t repeat it in any future relationships. I knew that somewhere in my psyche I was drawing on an old belief that when you truly love someone you give yourself completely. What I didn’t know at the time was that giving oneself completely does not mean giving up “me”. It was obvious…not only had I sacrificed my entire life for this person…I had become too available.  And like it or not… in the language of relationships this screams “red flag!”

 

Over the years I have gathered the opinions of various individuals and couples on the subject of relationships. The one common thread that repeated itself is the availability factor. Surprisingly, I found that although females are not as “hard wired” toward the “thrill of the hunt” as most males, they prefer that their mate “has a life of their own outside the relationship”. According to one person I interviewed recently, “Anyone who is too willing to ignore his or her own life for the sake of being with someone speaks volumes to the other party in the relationship. It shows that person has little or nothing to offer. It may even be a sign that he or she is needy or has the tendency to cling a little too tightly and when you have that going on…it’s never an equal partnership”. One particular male simply commented that “it gets old after awhile…when a woman is too available, it tells me she is desperate. Who needs that?”

 

Like it or not, when it comes to love, most men are pragmatic, while most women speak from the heart. We ask the age old questions “how come he just can’t love me back” or “why can’t he tell me how he feels?” Most women are more than willing to make the man the priority, almost to the exclusion of self, while most men find this quality a turn off. Perhaps a throwback in their genetic code drives them to answer that primitive urge to conquer. The greater they find the challenge, the greater the thrill and therefore, the more they invest in the pursuit. Whatever the case….do not give up your individuality!

 

So how do put yourself out there without compromising who you are? It might take a little work on changing old behavior patterns but here are a few tips:

 

1.   Love yourself. This is so important in what you are showing to others. When you like yourself…it shows as radiating confidence and self esteem and that in itself is very appealing. People who like themselves generally like their lives. In social settings they will be the ones who attract others easily.

 

2.   Look for contentment and happiness in your own being. Find and cultivate at least one thing about yourself as an individual that you can take pride in. It could be a talent, a hobby, a skill you have mastered or a quality in your personality.

 

3.   If you are a single parent, focus on your children. Too often I have heard single Moms and Dads say they are a better parent when in a relationship. This way of thinking spells problems, not only for the person you are interested in, but for your children as well.

 

4.   Be thankful for the alone time you are spending with yourself, outside a relationship. The universe loves gratitude.

 

5.   If you have already attracted a significant other and are in the beginning stages of the relationship, curb that eagerness to make that person the center of your existence. A relationship is just one area of your life, not your entire reason for living.

 

6.   Do not give up your other social relationships and activities for the sake of spending more time with the new person in your life. Making time for friends and acitivities you are regularly involved in, gives you perspective and levels the relationship field. Most men and women I have spoken with tell me they respect this in a potential partner. It frees them from the worry that they will be suffocated in the relationship, while at the same time revealing a certain “staying power”. One woman told me she ended a relationship because her partner suddenly terminated his friendships and several of his activities, just to spend more time with her. “Not such a good thing” she said. “If he was more than willing to throw his friends and interests under the bus, he might do the same with me down the line”.

 

7.   If you don't feel like answering his or her call or email...don't! At some point even the most available people go through a period where they don’t feel like answering that phone call or email from their significant other. But all too often they pick up the phone or jot off a reply anyway because they are worried that their partner will take the lack of response the wrong way and end the relationship. Don’t buy into it! Our feelings are indicators of where we are and where we need to be. When we get that feeling and we respond anyway…we are not only projecting onto others what we think they are feeling; we are going against our own nature.

 

8.   Respect his or her personal space. Just because they have to work overtime, or want to play golf on Saturday, or hang out with the girls does not mean they are losing interest. Giving the other person your support in other areas of their life allows that person the freedom to be themselves and consequently strengthens the relationship.

 

9.   Sometimes it is what it is. Resist the temptation to read meaning into something that isn’t there. You can drive yourself nuts over-analyzing everything your partner says or does. And even though love does not have set growth time lines…if you find yourself exhausted after years of investing into a relationship that doesn’t feel like it’s going anywhere, chances are it isn’t. It might be time to get out!

How Well Do You Know Yourself? Answers To Personality Quiz

Last Sunday, I posted a little about the link between increased self awareness and success. At the end of the post I included a small personality profile quiz. Below is the quiz and following each question and its options, are the descriptions/answers. When going over these, do you find some commonalities between the descriptions and your personality? 

1.   If you could be a bird, which type would you be?

      a. Eagle   b. Owl   c.  Dove  d.  Hummingbird  e.  Peacock

Eagle: Signifies strength within oneself and the ability to conserve energy when needed for the survival of self. Able to balance and overcomes obstacles, to rise above limitations of the mind, Eagle profiles are able to look for and seize opportunities wherever possible, are extremely goal minded and are considered super-achievers.

Owl: Signifies the ability to find and nurture potential and possibilities in oneself and in life, which others may not see or be aware of. Owl personalities are often slow, methodical, and silent workers who don’t rake much risk, have and because they mind their own business, are able to achieve great success by not getting involved or stuck in the issues and trappings of others.

Dove:  Signifies the search and the achievement of balance within oneself. Dove personalities are team players, are loyal and hardworking and have the ability to build a new future from remnants of the old. Nothing is discarded which cannot be used to further personal growth.

Peacock: Signifies a passionate and enthusiastic individual who is capable of great vision. The Peacock personality is more than willing to help because it often gains them personal attention. When channeled constructively this energy can bring about great change, not only within themselves but in the lives of others who are in direct contact with them.

Hummingbird: Signifies the ability to find happiness in all aspects of one’s life. Hardworking and often over-active, the energy of hummingbird personalities have a tendency to burn out quickly. They have the potential to find the bright side in all things that otherwise seem hopeless and are able to accomplish great feats from what seems to be impossible situations.

2.   If a situation arose where you had to choose to keep only 1 of your five human senses, which sense would you choose to keep?

      a.  Sight  b.  Hearing  c.  Smell  d.  Touch  e.  Taste

Sight: Those who chose to keep their sense of sight are visual and detail oriented individuals. These personality types need visual stimuli and often make decisions based on what they can see before them. When engaging with others they often need to make eye contact to get their point across or to receive information. They often have the potential for success in the field of art, advertising, architecture, the theater, sales and any other careers or jobs which are visual oriented.

 Hearing: Those who chose to keep their sense of hearing need the sound connection to the world they live in. These personality types are often highly intuitive and are able to hear a vast array of sound decibels not normally audible to the normal human ear. In addition these personality types are often animal lovers and are often found to connect with animals on many different levels. These types may also be prone to a fear of not knowing what is going on around them. The lack of hearing can give rise to a feeling of being alone and shut out from life. These personality types make good intuitives, clairvoyants, channels, musicians, and speech therapists.

Smell:  Those who chose to keep their sense of smell may have a clean streak about them. These personality types often experience repressed memories associated with a certain smell and find themselves needing to “clean up” or sanitizing situations in life that may appear foul upon first impression. Smell types are highly aware of the human condition and can spot decay and stagnation in other individuals as well as areas of their own life. Smell types are often found in sanitation jobs, disease control professions and as allergists or ear nose and throat specialists.

Touch:  Those who chose to keep their sense of touch, are for the most part, compassionate, loving and gentle individuals. They need to touch to feel connected to the world around them. These individuals can find success in the healing arts, such as Reiki, Massage Therapy and are often found in hands on health care professions.

Taste: Those who chose to keep their sense of taste can be quite adventurous and often will try anything at least once. It is important for taste types to be wary of the tendency to over eat due to repressed issues. At some point taste types learned that comfort food could be a key to dealing with personal issues. When taste types are secure within themselves and their relationships, they are easy going and have the potential to adapt to major changes extremely well. Taste types are often restaurant critics, travel writers, and in restaurant/culinary, food service professions.

3.   Choose a type of song which appeals to you, from the following list:
    a.  Classical  b.  Ballad  c.  Heavy Metal  d.  New Age/Meditation
e.   Country and Western  f.  Classic Rock

Classical:  Refined by nature and often drawn to history, these types tend to be highly intellectual and often seek out those they feel are of the same caliber. These types often have a love of art and thrive on cultural influence and diversity.

Ballad:  Ballad types are generally easy going individuals. They tend to get nostalgic, and believe or want to believe in old fashioned romance. Many of them have the need to be in a stable, secure relationship with their soul mate.

Heavy Metal: These types are rebels. Often going against the “status quo” they have the ability to see an “alternate reality” yet can be prone to confusion, the feeling of being lost in a fast changing world and the need to escape.

Meditation/New Age: These types are highly aware of their spirituality and are almost always in a continual quest to further their evolvement and to achieve a true state of “Zen”, while at the same time applying their knowledge to their human existence.

Country and Western:  They types are often found to be  down to earth, loyal, “real”, hard-working,  individuals. By nature many of these types have a traditional take on life. Family, friends and community are extremely important to them.

Classic Rock:  The majority of these types are great at adapting to change. Past experiences have led these types to work silently behind the scenes to promote change and growth, not only in themselves, but in society as a whole.

4.   If you could be an element, which element would you be?

      a.  Water  b.  Air  c.  Earth  d.  Fire

Water:  Water personalities are emotional and view much of their world from an emotional standpoint. There is a tendency to re-act, act out or even fall into depression, if this personality type does not take time to stand back and evaluate, from a different perspective, those situations they find uncomfortable or threatening. Water personalities are extremely compassionate, spiritual, make excellent friends and empaths, and often can be found in the healing professions.

Air: Signifies the ability to use mental reason and communication to achieve success. Although goal oriented, air personalities have a need for structure and process in order to manifest what they want in life. They have a knack for getting the message across and waste little or no time in taking the necessary steps in obtaining what they desire, which often makes them appear distracted or distant.

Fire:  Signifies a no holds barred approach to life. Fire personalities have the potential to be motivated, somewhat bold and daring, and to blaze their own path to achieve their goal. The tendency to overlook detail in their over-zealousness, can often undermine or get in the way of  the intentions of Fire personalities, so the need for self control and to pull back the reigns is essential when  applying this energy.

Earth: Signifies a stable, steady, rational, nurturing personality with the potential to achieve goals through steady and practical application. Earth personalities are not shaken easily by change. When one door closes for Earth personalities, they simply look for another one.

5.   Choose the color that first comes to mind, from the following list:

      a.  Red  b.  Blue  c.  Yellow  d.  Green  e.  Brown  f.  Black

Red:   Energetic, bold, outgoing and full of life, this type can come off as overly aggressive and somewhat too eager to please, at times. They are always on the go, at times appear to be all over the map, and are often viewed as social butterflies. When this energy is channeled Red types can achieve great success in all areas of their lives.

Blue:  Calm, collected, thoughtful and consistent, this type is able to engage in profound and thought provoking communication for hours. Their way of approaching life can seem somewhat methodical at times but they have the ability to get the job done.

Yellow: Creative and inspiring, this type knows how to translate ideas into reality, all the while, inspiring others around them. Although lively and quick witted at times…they prefer to manifest their inspirations in the form of artwork, music and written prose and stories.

Green: Grounded and focused, this type is often the money maker. They often do well in the financial market but those who are in relationships or have families, are also adept at creating a solid foundation which enables them to apply to their home life.

Brown:  This type is practical, routine oriented, and diligent in all they do. They tend to work at a steady pace, by nature tend to be quite grounded and stable, and make great providers in relationships of a personal nature.

Black:  Interesting and often mysterious, this type is the explorer of the unknown and the un-seen. This type is often found probing the mysteries of the universe and the evolution of their own being. They tend to night owls and have a sense of knowing that in order to perceive light we must have darkness.

6.   If you could be an animal, which animal would you choose to be?

      a.  Dog  b.  Horse  c.  Cat  d.  Whale/Dolphin  e.  Elephant  f.  Bear

Dog:   This type is extremely social. For the most part this type never has to worry about survival. It is as if they know instinctively they will be provided for. They make excellent friends, co-workers and are the ultimate team player.

Horse:  This type is drawn to freedom from the restrictions of the human condition. They often do not like confrontation and tend to find a way out of it when they can. They would rather get along with everyone then be put in a situation where they have to choose sides. They are intelligent, love to travel, and are often found in humanitarian fields.

Cat:  This type often tends to appear aloof and anti-social. They are an extremely independent and resourceful type, capable of surviving even in the harshest life conditions, and tend to bond quickly with those they feel a kinship with. Their ability to spring back and move on from traumatic events enables them to succeed in just about anything they set their mind to.

Whale/Dolphin:  This type often has a strong desire to care for our planet and its animal inhabitants. Many prefer a scientific/spiritual approach to life situations and can often be found engaging in discussions about elevating human understanding of the world around them.

Elephant:   This type tends to struggle with memories of traumatic events. Although they move through life at a slow but steady pace, able to achieve the things they desire in life, they often are subject to set backs due to repressed memories.

Bear:  This type is protective over family and friends, is efficient, intelligent, and resourceful. Although their energy can be a bit over-powering at times, and they often have a tendency to intrude in the lives of others, this type does take time out to take care of their own.

7.   Choose the type of flower you most like, from the following list:

      a.  Rose, (all colors)  b.  White Lily  c.  Sunflower  d.  Daffodil  e. Lavender

Rose:   This type most often attempts to find beauty in all life. They tend to surround themselves with beautiful antiquities, artwork, inspirational quotes and sometimes vintage collectibles.  They form long lasting friendships through social clubs and/or groups but there is a tendency to suffer disappointments in the area of romantic relationships because of high expectations.

White Lily:  This type loves peace and tranquility. They much rather prefer to curl up by the fire with a hot drink and a good book on a cold winter night. Though they do not make friends easily, the friendships they do make are strong and for the long term.

Sunflower:  This type is open and often maintains a consistent sunny disposition. Because they are often generous to a fault, they tend to attract those who may drain their energy. Once boundaries are in place, these types are able to maintain and direct a continual flow of energy toward their goals.

Daffodil:  This type knows better than most that the only thing in life that is constant is change itself and as such prepares themselves for whatever life has to offer. They often spend a great deal of time in self-reflection and applying what they know to furthering their own evolvement.

Lavender:  This type is often highly evolved, and seeks solutions and answers to life questions through what the social norm would classify as unorthodox means.  This type embraces and often quickly recovers from temporary setbacks that stand in their way of achieving their dreams. They have a need to go into periods of intense self reflection and healing, and although the process may appear slow to them, they are able to make better informed life changing decisions.

8.   Choose your favorite type of reading venue from the following list:

      a. Romance Novels  b.  Sci-Fi  c.  Biographies  d.  Travel  e.  Self-Help/Inspirational

Romance Novels: This type of personality can be quite grounded and often hard working but occasionally likes to escape the routine of their daily lives. Although they may have their own little social circle they tend to feel “lost” and a bit overwhelmed in large groups or social scenes. This type is also the romanticist. Many feel something is lacking within their own love life and often seek new ways to fill that void.

Sci-Fi:   Most always open to alternative realities; this type believes that most everything is possible. They do not have to see it to believe it exists.

Biography:  This type has a genuine interest in the lives of others and is often fascinated with the experiences others have gone or are going through. With an extremely analytical mind, this type often feels a need to find out what makes others tick.

Travel:  This type is often quite a cultured individual and loves to explore new places, new cultures, new thoughts and ideas. Open to just about anything, they do not readily dismiss another individual’s point of view which may appear to differ from their own. Great listeners, they absorb everything they learn quite quickly and have an aptitude for getting to the heart of all things.

Self-Help/Inspirational:  Pretty self-explanatory, this type often recognizes destructive behavior patterns in their own lives and searches for ways to change it. These types are quick to “awaken” and realize their spiritual potential.  This type is found to be a perpetual student, the researcher. Always craving knowledge, they appear to be on a constant quest to learn anything they can about everything.

9.   Choose the food which most appeals to you from this list:
   a.  Meat and Potatoes   b.  Spicy   c.  Chocolate   d.  Fruit  e. Seafood/Fish   f. Vegetarian

  Meat and Potatoes:  This type wants nothing more than stability and consistency. They thrive on routine and tend to upset easily by any change that throws their routine off.   They often are very prompt for meetings and events of all types, sometimes even arriving earlier than scheduled. The well known phrase “The early bird gets the worm” more than adequately describes these personality types

Spicy:  The spicy types are passionate, highly adaptable and love excitement. They need to be wary of creating or participating in unnecessary drama. These types are often full of energy, and can go to extremes. They are powerhouses….and when this energy is channeled they are capable of manifesting incredible possibilities and realties.

Chocolate:  This type has a tendency to over indulge the self in all aspects of life if not properly grounded. Although they can be warm and loving types…they are often attracted to the exotic and the mysterious and can be prone to fantasies of fleeing the mundane pressures of everyday living.

Fruit: This type often feels they need to add variety of a more healthy and functional nature to their life. They are often keenly aware that certain patterns are working are no longer working, and often seek to balance out  by adding spiritual or educational nourishment.

Seafood: Pragmatic, and often self-sustaining, these types tend to follow a clear line of thinking. They are not interested in “What ifs? Once they set a goal in mind all steps taken will lead directly toward that goal, no matter what obstacles they are faced with or where that goal ultimately leads them.

Vegetarian:  This type often makes overall health and education a priority in their lives; they often have a keen awareness of the inner workings of their bodies and can often be found researching ways to combat certain illnesses, discomforts and other health issues.

10.     Choose your version of an ideal living location from the following list:

      a.  Ocean or Lake Front Property   b.  Desert   c.  Wooded Area   d.  Mountains or Mountain View   e.  Downtown/City View

Ocean/Lake:   This type needs to be near the water. Because this type is highly spiritual, often creative and intuitive, and can be prone to experiencing a great deal of emotional ups and downs, they need water to soothe,   renew and rejuvenate their spirit. This type needs water to keep their creativity flowing and often goes through many different types of romantic partners before finding the right one.

Desert: This type thrives on open spaces. They often do not like to be constrained by mundane routines and bore easily with their surroundings. Although they can be social, they prefer to explore uninhabited spaces as opposed to indulging in general social activities. Because of their need for freedom, this type is not often found to be a stable romantic partner.

Wooded Area: This type seeks harmony and tranquility through nature. Often this type is associated with being a loner but it is only their need for “quiet” and “down time” that gives this impression. This type prefers the company of one or two close knit friends as opposed to a large group. While they may experience problems in romantic relationships early in life, they ultimately find their “soulmate”.

Mountains:   This type seeks balance through a simpler way of living. They thrive within small communities that are uncomplicated by people and noise pollution. They often feel a sense of protection and comfort from the mountains around them which serve, for many of this type, as giant sentinels. In romantic relationships, this type often struggles with finding the right person.

Downtown:  This type needs the energy and culture diversity of the city. They are most often artistic types who thrive on human interaction and activity. In romantic relationships this type is best suited for those who share their energy level.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Well Do You Know Yourself? Take The Personality Quiz

 How well do you really know yourself?  Studies have shown that self-awareness and success are inexplicably linked. The more you know about yourself, the more you increase your chances for success and fulfillment in all areas of your life.

Although there are many different personality types, all humans share some similar traits that often overlap with the traits of others.  This is why you find that you are attracted to and relate better to some people than others. But what many people don’t realize is that the behavior patterns associated with their particular personality type, often dictates how they interact with others, and defines the way they approach life as a whole.

The following quiz is meant to explore just how much you actually know about yourself while having a little fun in the process.  You can enter your answers in the comments section of this blog. This quiz will run until Thursday, January 29^th when I post the definitions for each option in my next blog entry.

Please keep in mind that this quiz is dealing only with personality types and not the soul; therefore your responses do not define who you are on the soul level. It is only meant to give you a general overview of your personality type.

Note: Try not to think too much about the questions and/or answer options when responding. The first answer that comes to your mind is the most accurate marker when it comes to personality profile quizzes such as these. You will also note that some questions will have more answer options than others. This is not an error.

1.   If you could be a bird, which type would you be?

      a. Eagle   b. Owl   c.  Dove  d.  Hummingbird  e.  Peacock

2.   If a situation arose where you had to choose to keep only 1 of your 5 human senses, which sense would you choose to keep?

      a.  Sight  b.  Hearing  c.  Smell  d.  Touch  e.  Taste

3.   Choose a type of song which appeals to you, from the following list:

      a.  Classical  b.  Ballad  c.  Heavy Metal  d.  New Age/Meditation
e.   Country and Western  f.  Classic Rock

4.   If you could be an element, which element would you be?

      a.  Water  b.  Air  c.  Earth  d.  Fire

5.   Choose the color that first comes to mind, from the following list:

      a.  Red  b.  Blue  c.  Yellow  d.  Green  e.  Brown  f.  Black

6.   If you could be an animal, which animal would you choose to be?

      a.  Dog  b.  Horse  c.  Cat  d.  Whale/Dolphin  e.  Elephant  f.  Bear

7.   Choose the type of flower you most like, from the following list:

      a.  Rose, (all colors)  b.  White Lily  c.  Sunflower  d.  Daffodil  e. Lavender

8.   Choose your favorite type of reading venue from the following list:

      a. Romance Novels  b.  Sci-Fi  c.  Biographies  d.  Travel  e.  Self-Help/Inspirational

9.   Choose the food which most appeals to you from this list:

      a.  Meat and Potatoes   b.  Spicy   c.  Chocolate   d.  Fruit  e. Seafood/Fish   f. Vegetarian

10.     Choose your version of an ideal living location from the following list:

      a.  Ocean or Lake Front Property   b.  Desert   c.  Wooded Area   d.  Mountains or Mountain View   e.  Downtown/City View

 

This Woman's Journey: Are You In A Healthy Relationship?

My oldest daughter phones me a little after midnight. “I was born at this exact minute” she says. I wish her happy birthday then remind her that she’s an hour ahead of her actual birth place time “I was going to call you in the morning sweetie, but technically…you still have 1 hour to go,” I joke. But she wants no part of the humor.  Feeling older than her young years and forgotten on her birthday by the man she thought she would marry, she reveals some of the issues she has been struggling with in her relationship.  In no uncertain terms she describes her fiancee's selfishness, his lack of communication, motivation and commitment to anything, let alone their relationship. “I feel like I’m doing all the work,” she sobs.

 So I ask her the big question. If you are unhappy…why are you staying in the relationship? “Because I love him.” “Okay…what is it that makes you feel it is love?” She’s silent for a moment then rattles off a list of reasons that start with “He does this for me, he makes me feel like… and I don’t know who I am or where I would be without him.”

 I tell my daughter, (even though she really didn’t want to hear this,)  that the reasons she just gave, described her own feelings of inadequacy…and that somehow she had convinced herself that she needed this man to validate her existence. “In essence,” I tell her, “you are saying you don’t matter unless you are with him… and that is not love.”

 Unfortunately, my daughter’s experience is somewhat typical of so many unhealthy relationships in which one or both partners are together on a “need” basis. Whether you are looking for or are already in a relationship…if lingering personal issues have not been identified and resolved, you cannot expect to enter into or retain a healthy and fully functional relationship.

Many relationships are dysfunctional because one or both partners are still operating from old programming, or what I often call “old tapes” playing in the head. These tapes, (or baggage as some refer to them,) are residual issues we carry with us from past relationships. Some we even retain from childhood. No matter how many relationships one enters into, as long as we retain those old tapes, the theme will remain the same, whether it is insecurity, the need for validation, lack of self-worth and the list goes on.  Unless the tapes are discarded permanently, we will continue to attract the same type of person into our lives…and end up in the same type of relationship. It is important to remember that like attracts like.

 So for those of you who might currently be in a non-functioning relationship, or who are still working on identifying and healing your own issues from the past…I have compiled a short list of samples of old programming/tapes which should help you to get an idea of what to look for and to discard.

1. The feeling that you are not worthy of having someone love you just the way you are, faults and all.
2. The belief that you have to settle or wind up alone.
3. The need to “fix” the relationship or the person you are involved with.
4. Feeling that if you try just a little harder your partner will love you more.
5. The feeling that you have to be careful about what you say and do….feeling like you are walking on eggshells.
6. The expectation that the relationship is going to fail anyway and rather than be the one who is left, you subconsciously drive your partner away. This is acting out in what I call the “go away a little closer” syndrome.
7. Fear of abandonment.
8. Insecurity and lack of self-worth.
9. Feeling the need to be in a relationship in order to feel validated or complete.
10. Under-estimating your potential and not knowing just who you are and what you need.
11. The feeling that you are the only one putting in the effort to make the relationship work.
12. Lack of trust. Suspicious of your partner's behavior with no apparent reason on the surface for being so.

This Woman's Journey: Getting Rid of the Junk

The full moon of the 12^th brought the culmination of all that had been sewn during the new moon phase. Because I had allowed myself to hold onto self-sabotaging thought patterns and feed my “funk”, I was hit hard with a respiratory infection, the bodies’ way of telling me it is time to purge all things toxic from my system. So I made a conscious decision that in the present cycle of the waning moon I am banishing and discharging all that I do not want in my life.  This includes negative thoughts and old behavior patterns. None of us can move forward if our path is blocked by old and useless junk.

Now in my prior post I had included a little snippet regarding my personal relationship and how I didn’t need to invest energy which I felt would only be wasted. And in keeping with the topic of this post I feel it is important to tie those thoughts in with the process of banishing.

For those of you who are in a relationship, which does not appear to be working at the moment, banishing does not imply that you “throw the baby out with the bathwater” so to speak. You simply change the bathwater. Most likely the man/woman you fell in love with is still there…once you clear away the clutter that is causing the problems. For those of you who are not in a relationship, but desire to find your life partner…begin clearing the blocks and changing the thought processes that are preventing you from meeting that special someone. Perhaps you have already met this person but a fear of abandonment that has plagued you from childhood is blinding you from seeing them. Or perhaps you have been through so many relationships that have ended poorly, that you just don’t want to take the chance.

These are all self-destructive thought patterns that need to recognized and purged. As long as you hold onto them they will continue to create the reality you so do not want.

And so…as I move through the process of purging my own negative energies... I am allowing room for new thoughts to emerge, that will aid in transforming my own reality into one which I desire. And as my reality changes so does everything in it…including my personal relationship. Yours will also.

 

The Soul verses The Mind

 

 The soul and the mind are separate entities and are continually at war with each other.  Our souls are the offspring of God, the “One Soul”. The mind is the domain of the ego; it is our minds which have been programmed…and often confound us. The ego wants to control and dominate. When we allow ego to take over we are no longer in touch with our soul. It is the ego that keeps us in repetitive patterns that no longer work for us… it is our ego that produces and holds onto the thoughts that keep us drowning in negative emotion, in turn creating un-desired realities. If our minds are not in conscious harmony with the soul, we wind up in despair and self-destruction. It is a viscous cycle.

 

Let’s put this to the test by participating in a little experiment. The next time you watch the news, (if you do,) allow yourself to be an objective observer. Note the ratio between “positive uplifting news stories and negative broadcasts. What responses do you feel when watching either?  Do you notice that your thoughts and emotions are being triggered by what you are taking in? When your senses are overloaded with how bad the shape of our economy is in and how much violence has increased in our world today…how soon is it before you begin to feel that there is no hope? And how much further is it before you begin to think it is useless to even try to change your own circumstances?

 

Now try this same experiment with a love story…let’s say “Sleepless in Seattle”. Again be the conscious observer and note what you are feeling as you watch how the two main characters in the movie “find each other”. Do you find yourself wishing your partner was more like the man/woman in the movie and are somewhat disappointed because they are not? And if you are not presently in a relationship…do you find yourself secretly wishing for a similar relationship?

 

This is an example of how our minds have been programmed. This isn’t to say that this type of scenario is totally out of the question. But the reality is that most relationships require a little bit more work than writing a letter and running to the top of the Empire State building, especially soul mate relationships.

 

 Learn to recognize and banish that which does not ring true. Learn to listen to what your soul is telling you, not our mind. Put in the effort to release your focus on that which you don’t have or that which is causing you pain and suffering. When you hold on… it too easy to lose sight of your true goal…whether it is a healthy loving and fulfilling relationship, a wonderful career or your dream home. In releasing and discharging that which is toxic to your health and to your very existence…you are allowing room for new thoughts, new cycles and new processes which are necessary to create positive life change. When you change the way you think…you change your reality.

This Woman's Journey: The Nitty Gritty

The attempt to shift my thoughts away from worrying about my finances is similar to doing battle. I feel the doubt approaching like advancing enemy lines. But I won't wave that white flag. I've been through this before and have come through unscathed, twice as powerful and ready for my bounty.

My love life is null and void at this point but it is okay. The last thing I need is to invest my energy into something that is more taxing than supportive. My focus has to remain on changing my current reality. Too often in my past I have allowed myself to buy into the illusion of the "perfect relationship", only to find that I fell in love with an idea and not what truly is.

Which brings me to yet another truth. As children we are programmed to believe in the grand illusion...the reality that all those who went before us, helped to create. Just about everything we have been taught is backwards. For example: You have heard the saying "the calm before the storm"? What has this prompted us to expect? That when everything is going well...we shouldn't expect it to last? Ask yourself why this is so and what possible good could this bring us. It undermines every intention, every attempt to manifest a better world. I mean after all...what is the point of having a wonderful reality if you are to expect it will all collapse. See my point?

Try filtering and reversing everything you have learned growing up. Instead of thinking the calm before the storm....think....the storm before the calm. If I can get through this....I can get through anything. This transformation of thought alters the beliefs that have been in place since you were born. What you believe about yourself, how you think of yourself, what you believe you deserve and attract. All this changes. There is sudden clarity...knowledge...light.

I know I am changing old thought patterns. At times it takes more than just wanting it. I actually have to change my routine...get out of myself for a few hours. Our old thought patterns have years and years of practice on us and therefore are pretty strong. Sometimes we have to terminate those thoughts and set new ones in motion by following through with some physical action. For example this morning I looked in the mirror and gave thanks for everything I could think of. And that was not an easy task for me at this time. As I said at the start of this series...my feeling of gratitude has been almost next to nothing these days.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This Woman's Journey. Part 1: A Current State of Mind

Prologue

 

Let’s face it…on a global scale, 2008 has been a year better left to the annuals of history. And like so many people,  I too, have experienced my own share of obstacles and personal loss this past year.

 

Yes…I am an intuitive but I am also subject to the conditions of the human experience. I too, know what it is like to want to give up, to give in to doubt, to be overcome with grief and loss. I know what it is like to be angry and impatient and to want that immediate “fix” or practical application that I can use in turning the circumstances in my life around.  And I too, have tired of self help gurus, programs and books. Not because they don’t contain “Universal Truths” but because they don’t take one through the process which occurs between the struggling and the overcoming…the emotional and mental processes that are sandwiched between point A and point B.

 

So with in mind I decided my next blog entries will be written as a progress series. Since I am currently in the middle of “stuff” that I need to change,  I will take you from start to finish, beginning with where I am at right now. This will be a journey that you can take with me…through a collective of own thoughts, feelings and circumstances as they occur. You will know my current state of mind and heart and see how I set my intentions to overcoming and changing my present reality. You will be the witness to my own personal change and hopefully be able to take something away... that you can apply in your own life.

 

Sidenote: You may notice that at times my writings may appear as un-edited ramblings. I made a conscious decision not to edit or clean up my writing…so that you can see the inner workings of my own mind. Human thoughts are not born pre-polished and organized Some repeat due to old behavior patterns, some bounce around while others ramble. Ramblings are honest and reflect the nature of our thoughts. If we are to change our reality…we must confront how we truly think.

 

 

December 8, 2008 12:40 AM.

 

A Current State of Mind

 

It’s after midnight and I still can’t sleep. It’s been like this for months. There’s a temptation to dwell on what I don’t have and what I have lost. I’m still reeling from my baby brother’s suicide a few months back.  It shook the very foundation of my belief system…my faith.  My world was shaken to the core again, through yet another horrific loss, ( years back I lost a child to a bacterial infection).

 

If I had not received a visit from the magnificent wave of light that was his soul in transition, I might not have tried to go on.  His message was that I had to let him go…that the grief I was experiencing was for the human vessel that once was my brother. His soul was/is still very much alive and around, and I needed to move through the cycle of healing…to go on.  So I poured myself into my work and into my readings, knowing that giving to and helping others, would help me work through my own pain.  

 

But just when I thought I was putting the pieces back together, one of my surviving children developed another life threatening illness; another began displaying signs of bi-polar disorder, and my finances took a turn for the worse.

 

The fallout from it all is almost more than I can handle.  We all know the old adage that what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger. But sometimes I just want to scream “enough already God!” I have experienced every emotion from extreme depression to anger. Panic, worry and doubt have been fairly regular visitors within my reality. And I have more than entertained them…I have just about all but held on to them. Recently my communals with God have been little more than a plea for help. During my meditations…gratitude, which is fundamental to change, gets only a brief mention, if any. My heart isn’t in it.

 

And to be honest, even though  I know instinctively, that this too shall pass… that I can create powerful changes through my experiences…there are times when I have  either considered giving up entirely, or at the very least, throwing my copies of “The Secret”  and “A New Earth”  right out the door.

 

Being spiritual and intuitive does not warrant a “get out of hardship free” card. In fact the further one is on the path of spirituality; the more obstacles seem to appear in our path. And that bothers me for reasons I’m sure many of you who pursue your own spiritual path, can relate to.

 

Yet I know I must keep evolving and fine tuning my spirituality. I know that even as I write this I am changing the energy within my situation. I have decided. Enough of the pity pot…I’m doing something about it.

New Moon Rituals and Manifesting

Symbolism and ritual are everywhere. Look around. You will find them in nature, in the Catholic Church and even in your daily routine. Something as simple as putting on lavender lotion each evening, can calm the senses and instill peace after a stressful day. So why not utilize the power of the new moon when setting forth your intentions, wishes and desires.

 

Science has long known about the effect the moon has on not only the earth’s oceans, but on the human body and mind as well. Water makes up between 45 and 75% of our body weight. Our emotions are symbolized by the water element. Combine emotion with intention on the New or Full Moon and you have a powerful tool for manifesting.

 

Why the new moon? Think of the new moon as a re-birth…the beginning of the new cycle of the moon's phases.  It is an optimal time for planting and germinating your intentions and desires. Just as plant seedlings need the darkness of the soil in order to gestate and set down roots, before bursting forth in sunlight, so do our intentions. And just as plants follow a growth cycle before blooming or producing fruit, so do our desires. As the moon grows and waxes towards full, that which we have seeded, also grows.

 

Ritually speaking, there is the dark phase, (no moon,) and the 3 days which follow.  The dark phase is when one should “plant” or “plan” what they intend on manifesting. The 3 days that follow is the most powerful time for nurturing intentions. Just as a plant needs to set down a strong and stable root system, so does that which you want to see manifest. A reality, (such as a relationship, career, or new home,) is only as stable as its root system, or foundation. Continuing to feed or “nurture” your intentions and desires is an important step in seeing your wishes become a reality.

 

Example of a New Moon Ritual

 

1.         Tools and techniques: Use whatever you are drawn to and what allows you to feel comfortable and centered. If you do use tools…you can never go wrong with a white candle for the obvious reasons. White represents God, purity, protection, truth and all there is. White is the culmination of all color energies in the spectrum.

 

2.         Plan what you desire to have in your life. Visualize it….see it clearly. If it helps you…write your intentions and desires down on a piece of paper. Leave nothing to the imagination. If you skip details the Universe is going to fill those in for you and what you manifest may not be what you intended or even like. To give you an example: I knew a man who was ready to settle down and get married. He had dated over the years and still had not found “Mrs. Right”. After attending a seminar on visualization techniques he decided it couldn’t hurt to try one of them.  He sat down one night and wrote a list. On that list were three things: Attractive woman. Financially independent. Shares the same interest in movies, books and activities.

 

According to this man… he thought his list contained enough of his desired attributes. He didn’t want to go overboard.  His intention and the emotion behind his desire was so strong that he met and connected with a very attractive woman within the same month. She seemed to be everything he wanted and most certainly was everything he had put on his list. But…once the honeymoon period wore off this man found that he and his ideal woman had a serious communication problem. He found her to be self-centered; she had no desire to pursue anything of a spiritual nature and ridiculed him for his beliefs. Sadly their relationship ended within the year.

 

3.      Ask for and release your desires and intentions once you know without a doubt, what you want to see happen. Releasing is not the same as nurturing. Nothing can be given to you if you haven’t asked and released the desire for it first. When you hold on…you stay stuck.

 

4.      Thank the Universe for everything you have already been given and for what is going to be given to you. Even if you feel it is hard to be grateful for a life that you feel needs changing…try to pinpoint at least one positive aspect that you can be grateful for.

 

5.      Believe and accept that what you are asking for is going to manifest. Remember that energy goes where your thoughts go. If you put a lot of thought into doubt and skepticism that is where your energy will go.

 

Finally, keep in mind that all manifestations are a process and each intention we plant has its own cycle of growth. Some things will naturally take longer to manifest than others.

When: The Ultimate Question and How It Affects Timing

Perhaps the 3 most common questions asked of any psychic are:

1.   When is my soulmate coming into my life?

2.   We're in a relationship but it's going slow...
      when will we have a committment?

3.   We broke up. When will he/she be coming back?

The common thread in these questions is the word "when". 
And in thinking about the "when" of your relationships,
 you are focusing energy on the "without" of the situation,
and as such the "without" will manifest as your reality.

Words are thoughts and are powerful tools in creating situations and events
in our lives. Energy goes where our attention and thoughts are. 

Timing plays a cruical role in just about all areas and aspects of our lives 
and when we don't see our desires becoming our reality in the time 
frame we expect or ask for, we need not to energize the "without" 
by asking "when" but rather...ask ourselves if there is something we 
need to learn through the experience of "not having" or "being without". 
This type of experience is often seen in temporary soulmate 
relationships. If separation, loss or slow movement is occuring
in your relationship area, then finding the lesson in it is where
your attention should be focused. 

Timing can also be altered and/or delayed by choices we ourselves make. 
While it is true that some relationships are not "meant to happen" or to
be permanent, there are others which can be affected 
by "free will". A good example is the relationship that 
appears to be going no where. You still feel the connection, the
soulmate bond, but the communication may have ceased. Suddenly one
or both of the partners find themselves confused 
and full of doubt. Just choosing to focus on the doubt can 
actually tear a relationship apart or prevent it from moving 
onto the next level. Things that are imagined can become a reality.

Why energize doubt?  Why delay the timing? Instead of directing
attention toward the "have not",try visualizing and focusing on
what you desire as if it is already occuring. And always remember
to thank the Universe. Gratitude is at the core of all 
that we have and shall continue to have.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On Manifesting: Be Careful What You Ask For

I just recently came back online from a very long hiatus...
one which was prompted not only by personal family issues,
 but the need to further my education as a psychic advisor
and life coach. This in turn was born out of the
following experience:

In mid 2006 I began a course of intense study of the laws of
intention and manifestation. There were a few reasons I took
on this task..one being that I was going through a journey of
personal healing at the time, and second...it enabled me to
 not only manifest for myself, but to be able to share the
experiences and help my clients manifest for themselves.

Throughout 2006 and into early 2007 my training was put
to the test. I consciously, (and sometimes subconsciously,)
put out the intention for things I wanted, circumstances
I wanted to come about, but most specifically I asked for
a certain "someone" to come back into my life. I was able to
manifest the "things" and "circumstances" rather quickly, 
but the "someone" was still as elusive as the meaning
behind my desire to have them back in the first place.

And then close to mid 2007, I realized I had entered a
new state of being and I fully and completely "let go" of
my desire to have  this "someone" back in my life.
And just as suddenly as I let go, this "someone" was back,
wanting to reconcile our relationship. But...it was too
late. I had moved on. And all I could think about was the
energy I had put into manifesting this person back into my
life, only to discover that they were not what I needed or
wanted after all.

We do get what we ask for. Not always in the time frame
we would like but in the Universe's time. And it is important
to keep this in mind when you are asking and putting out
intentions because when you do get what you want...are you
still going to want it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

No...You Are Not Falling Apart!

The Tearing Of The Veil

 

Many of you have noticed that you seem to have been stripped down to a place where you feel an almost unearthly emptiness. a void that wants to make you scream "Am I falling apart!" Why isn't anything happening?

What you are actually experiencing is the great "tearing of the veil". A stripping down of sorts of the character and personality you once were. The  person who had certain things in their life, who knew what to expect and what to count on no matter how bad it was. And it is the same for those around you.

Time is accelerating. We are nearing the "paradigm shift". The "working facade" you created, long before you entered this world, was designed to fullfill soul contracts. Most of you have already fullfilled these contracts and are in the "lull" period. A new day is dawning and it is going to dawn quickly. Everything will begin to accelerate. Those who have been seeking their life partner,  will find the one they will spend the rest of their life with. Those who have already been in and out of a relationship with someone they recognize as their "karmic partner", will find themselves meeting up with them again and having to make a choice.

Those partners who failed to complete their karmic lesson with you, will find themselves seeking you out, wanting to establish a reconnection, although many will not understand why. For many of you this will boggle the mind. But know that this is part of the acceleration of the times.

There are some of you who may want to "get off the train" so to speak. You may feel life is going too fast. Your physical body may be having a hard time keeping up. You may even feel your health is at risk. Below I have listed a few practices which will help you to ready yourself for the shift.

• Nourish your body and soul. Pay attention to your body. It knows when it has had enough. Rest and rest often. Focus on finding any  blockages within your  chakras. We all get them and it is essential to pay attention to the area of our bodies that appear to have the most stress or pain. Match the area in question with it's associated chakra.

• Quiet the mind, whether through meditation or reflection. Allow yourself to just be. Draw a bath, light candles, stroll along the beach or lakeside or for those of you who don't live near large bodies of water...a fountain is the next best thing. Moving water is a tranquil life source, a rejuvinating energy source that can aid in the clearing of blocked chakras.

• Let go. We have all heard this more times that we can count but it is truly in the letting go that we find our strength and the energy needed. There is no sense in worrying over something we cannot control anyway. It is also in the letting go that our desires manifest.

• Look for the lessons in that which may be uncomfortable. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't but by all means, discern the difference between what you feel in the heart and what is being said in the mind.

 

 

 

 

 

Thoughts Are Things: How To Turn Off The Monkey Mind

Summer Solstice has arrived marking yet another season past.  Spring brought long awaited manifestations for some and lingering doubt for others. Many want to scream "I'm tired of waiting...this isn't going to happen".

The problem is that if you don't think it will happen it won't. Every thought is a thing. It carries its own energy. And when you put emotions and energy into the doubts you feel, you are giving control over to the "Monkey Mind".

The "Monkey Mind" is merely a metaphor for our own way of thinking. Our minds chatter incessently all day long. It tells us we can't do certain things, it tells us our life is hard, to take control because things won't happen for us the way we would like them to. And just when we have an ounce of faith and belief that perhaps we can have what we want it tells us to give up.

To turn off the "Monkey Mind" we must first tune it out or change the channel. When you begin to feel that first twinge of doubt, shift your focus...your consciousness. This does not mean, stuff the "Monkey Mind" because in stuffing it you are only creating a problem for later down the road. On the contrary, you must always be aware as the silent observer that the "Monkey Mind" exists but you do not have to lend it energy.  When you know it is trying to get your attention, shift your thoughts... think of what you would like in your life. Think in terms of your future as if it is already happening. If it is that career you have always dreamed of having, "see it", expect it, visualize yourself going through daily routines as if you already have that career. If this doesn't work for you, visualize and focus on anything that gives you positive thoughts. You will be amazed at the shift in energy.

Patience

We all get upset when we don't achieve or manifest something we want very badly. It's part of the human condition.And perhaps one of the words we least want to hear upon suffering dissapointment is PATIENCE. Well, like it or not...it is one of our souls' lessons. Of course this doesn't help when we look around and see how easy some people have it. Or so it seems. What the majority of people don't know is that the very same people who seem to have it easy may be undergoing some other trial, a lesson which may have brought them to their knees. Only we don't know this because we are judging solely on the outer appearance of things. And things are not always as they appear.

Timing

Like it or not, timing is everything. No matter how much humankind attempts to "screw" with the natural order of things, there is a season for everything and everyone. Take for example the blossoming of a flower. Humankind can alter the lighting, create micro-climates and give extra food  This may increase the plant's growth or vegetation, but the plant will bloom only when it has reached the blooming cycle....it's time. 

As in nature, human souls' cycle through different stages of growth. We can use intent, we can visualize, we can dream of what we want to manifest, (and it will manifest,) but it will only happen when we are in the cycle of it's time.