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Changing Is A Part Of Growing Spiritually

Most people do not like changes because it seems to threaten their security in their life. People love their routines. Routines are safe and predictable. Fear of change is tied into a need to control our lives. We can not control our life. The majority of people have a misconception about change. It is assumed by many people that if change occurs than they are doing something wrong. Change will happen whether we like it or not. Changes occur as a part of the human evolution. JUST THINK WHERE THE WORLD WOULD BE WITHOUT CHANGE. We would not have the technology today without change.

THE COMMON FEARS ABOUT CHANGE...........

1. That if you have to change than there is something wrong with you. FALSE! It is impossible to live in a world and interact with people on a daily basis and have so many world influences without it needing to become more fluid as an individual.

If you plan to have friendships and romantic relationships, you must be willing to be flexible or you will fail in the relationship area whether it is with friends, a partner, co workers ,etc.

When we hold on hard to our belifs, we are strangling our perception of truth and not allowing for others to have their perception of truth. This is a sure way to invalidate your partner, friends,etc and it will create isolation from the people you want in your life.

2. If I change than that means that I am changing my belief system. FALSE! It is impossible to not have a core belief system. It is how a human navigates in their life. Due to our life experiences, we will have interpretations that lead to a belief system. The only issue with our beliefs is that we must remember that we can not inflict them on others.

We must be open to other people and who they are. Remember everyone has been influenced in a way that causes them to have their own set of beliefs. The key is to not have tunnel vision and to stay open to the fact that truth is different for every individual.

REMEMBER.

Change is about having a core self definition with room for expansion of who you are. Change is not completely giving up who you are. It is just staying open to your environment and the people in it. Embrace change and you will have a more enjoyable life because you are allowing for more opportunities to come to you.

If There Were Only 100 People In The World............... These Are The Stats

100 PEOPLE VIDEOS STATISTICS PROJECTS WHO WE ARE GET INVOLVED SCHOOLS

100 PEOPLE VIDEOS 100 People 100 PEOPLE VIDEOS Detailed Statistics 100 PEOPLE VIDEOS About The Data

The following statistics are an abbreviated version of the research that we commissioned from the University of Wisconsin - Green Bay. The detailed research and source information can be found here. The statistics contained in the email that originally inspired the project have been retired, but can still be viewed here for purposes of comparison. If the World were 100 PEOPLE: 50 would be female 50 would be male 20 would be children There would be 80 adults, 14 of whom would be 65 and older There would be: 61 Asians 12 Europeans 13 Africans 14 people from the Western Hemisphere There would be: 31 Christians 21 Muslims 14 Hindus 6 Buddhists 12 people who believe in other religions 16 people who not be aligned with a religion 17 would speak Chinese 8 would speak Hindustani 8 would speak English 7 would speak Spanish 4 would speak Arabic 4 would speak Russian 52 would speak other languages 82 would be able to read and write; 18 would not 1 would have a college education 1 would own a computer 75 people would have some supply of food and a place to shelter them from the wind and the rain, but 25 would not 1 would be dying of starvation 17 would be undernourished 15 would be overweight 83 would have access to safe drinking water 17 people would have no clean, safe water to drink Sources: Fritz Erickson, University of Wisconsin - Green Bay and John A. Vonk, University of Northern Colorado, 2006; Returning Peace Corps Volunteers of Madison Wisconsin, Unheard Voices: Celebrating Cultures from the Developing World, 1992; Donella H. Meadows, The Global Citizen, May 31, 1990.

This Is Another Very Truthful Quote

Sometimes people think that calling on God means inviting a force into our lives that will make everything rosy. The truth is, it means inviting everything into our lives that will force us to grow--and growth can be messy. The purpose of life is to grow into our perfection. —Excerpted from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

Some More Relationship Bootcamp- Communication, Expectations and Disappointment!!

So many of us have expectations in a relationship. I noticed from doing so many readings that we have decided what we want in a partner and how we want our partner to behave but we forget to tell them. This is what I call the danger of having expectations that become unrealistic.

The unrealistic expectations are created by lack of communication on our part not our partners part. There seems to be an assumption that our partner should know how to treat us without us verbalizing our expectations. When the expectations are not met for obvious reasons, there seems to be disappointment. Never ever expect your partner to know how you feel or what you need if you never verbalized it.

It seems that a lot of us are afraid to ask for what we want and we just want to find someone who automatically knows what we need. We want our partner to just figure it out magically. The truth is that you have manifested a partner who thinks just like you... scared to express themselves. Therefore, there is no communication and only frustration.

The lesson is that we always have our right partner and that is determined by who we are at the time. If you want a partner to express theirselves to you than you must be willing to do the same.

Relationship Bootcamp Exercise # 2

Look in the mirror and say to yourself  " I LOVE ME! ". So many of you will feel weird or uncomfortable doing such a thing. you might think that it is weird. If you can not tell yourself that you love yourself than do not ask someone else to say that they love you because that is outsourcing for validation and love.

Practice in the mirror say that you love yourself, your are attractive, you are smart. Then expect to hear these things from your partner.

Whenever we are mad at our partner for not telling us that they love us, we are really mad at our self for not telling our self that we love our self. Heal the source ( you ) and you will feel stronger in your relationship regardless of your partner validating you with  saying " i love you".

This Is A Powerful Quote

This is why I say that God is non judgemental. This from Mairanne Williamson Book

 

Rather than accepting that we are the loving beings that He created, we have arrogantly thought that we could create ourselves, and then create God. Because we are angry and judgmental, we have projected those characteristics onto Him. We have made up a God in our image. But God remains who He is and always has been: the energy, the thought of unconditional love. —Excerpted from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miraces

Relationship Bootcamp - Soulmates

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE WITH A SOULMATE?

You are so attracted to the person and it is mutual. You may even have a great romantic start and you think that things can only get better. Then all of a sudden your partner is disconnecting from you out of no where. You love this person but they are irritating the crap out of you because they give no explanation and just all of a sudden is not emotional available to you. You feel confused, hurt, angry,etc. GUESS WHAT! It is for a good and necessary reason why the relationship has slowed down.

WHAT COULD BE SO GOOD ABOUT A SOULMATE SEPARATION?

Growth. True spiritual growth. You may not have asked for it and would rather do without the lesson. I had a wonderful caller laugh and  "say f#ck the lesson!" It was great she inspired this blog. She was laughing!

I say that a partner is really a teacher to us. A teacher that gets us closer to our true selves. If we need to learn to control less, to risk rejection, patience, etc. Our partner will teach us that lesson and we have to get that lesson before the relationship can continue. You can not go around the lesson. You can get upset but your spirit guides are not your friends so they do not care if you are upset.

WHAT DO SPIRIT GUIDES DO?

Force you to keep your spiritual contracts. You know the ones that you do not remember signing or reading the fine print on. Your partner is doing their job also. this is for your benefit spiritually.The attraction to your partner is the only way that you will buy into honoring your contract. Yes there will be love and fun but you must do your work.

 

Relationship Boot Camp Series

So many of you want a relationship. You are dying for a relationship. our society is built on having relationships. So many people are not sure of why they want a relationship. Most people do not want to be alone, can not afford to be single or need someone to make them happy. These are all the wrong reasons to have a relationship. There are plenty of poor couples, unhappy marriages and many lonely married people. This is why the divorce rate is so high. We expect people to make us happy. To " complete " us. When our partner shows us that they are not perfect than we swear that they do not love us. These is a subconscious manipulation that if a person loves us they will.........( you fill in the blank). I call it dangerous outsourcing for love.

WHAT IS OUTSOURCING FOR LOVE?

Expecting a person to be perfect. They cater to your emotional needs all the time. You think that their purpose is to make you happy. Your partner must pick up the phone every time you call. You partner must tell you that he loves you everyday day all day long. Your partner must agree with you all the time.

WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF A RELATIONSHIP?

To grow you spiritually. Yes there will be love and fun in the relationship but also a lot of disappointment. Relationships is journey not a destination. ENJOY THE JOURNEY OF LEARNING ABOUT YOURSELF THROUGH YOUR PARTNER.

TEST TO SEE IF YOU ARE READY FOR A LONGLASTING RELATIONSHIP

One major test. Do 50 Byron Katie worksheets. Do at least ten on every ex you have had. Do one one each parent and sibling. It is a painful journey but it will get you closer to your true self. Do not argue with the results, embrace the truth. Watch her videos on you tube.

 

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Learning To Be Patient May Not Be The Real Issue After All !

I had a thought as I commented on my last blog. We always say that we must learn patience. Especially when it comes to a relationship. The most common question is " When?!!!!!!!!!! " We want to know when because we want a date that our suffering and impatience will end. We get mad when the time frame comes and nothing happens because we are left dealing with the unknown. Let's face it. The unknown sucks! It does. We are left when our mind making up tons of untrue scenarios. We get sad because we feel rejected and we lost control. We are left surrendering to the unknown and even worse we are at the will of the other person. The other person has the control. That is what we hate. We lose our patience because we have to surrender our need to have control. Therefore, patience is a symptom  of a bigger issue. CONTROL.

 

Winning When It Comes To A Relationship

The best way to win in a relationship is to surrender to it. What does it mean to surrender? It means that maybe you have to call instead of waiting for him to call. It means that you will allow your partner to make their mistakes and know that they still love you even when they screw up.It means saying soryy even if you feel your partner should say sorry first. It is not feeling hurt because it feels vulnerable when you want to feel safe. Surrendering means enjoying the journey of the relationship. The person you love is your perfect person for at least the current time. The person you picked is the person you want to show you how to love and trust when the relationship seems rocky and hopeless. The universe was nice enough to make you partner attractive so that you would be willing to tolerate some of the ups and downs which can later lead to pure bliss.

Being a winner in a relationship is trusting that you are willing to let the hard times happen and not lose your faith. Winning in a relationship is not about the good times. The good times are the pay off for tolerating the hard times.

When he/she does not call it is knowing that they must deal with their self before they will be ready to share their self with you. It is not a rejection when they do not call. It is a growth period that sucks because you are left wondering what is going on. Never take that separation as rejection. The separation is usually about acceptance. Winning in a relationship is surrendering to what you can and can not control. Winning is freedom from wishing for a certain outcome to happen a certain way. The outcome is always perfect.

The " Winning " Series Part 1

This is a three part series about how the need to win has actually taken away from our happiness. Our need to win in relationships also has ruined our spirit. I was inspired to write this blog after chatting with a friend at a seminar that I just came from.

I had gone to a BEST mastery seminar. It is always different every year and we do different things to challenge and to see where we are at on our journey. I love my technique because it is so fluid and progressive. BEST defines how necessary and powerful it is to be willing to change and surrender.

One of our activities was to play a game that the native American would play to settle disputes between tribes. We can learn a lot from Native Americans because they are truly peaceful people.

I was the tribe leader for my group. I had everyone make a decision. I wanted team work and we had fun. I had no idea how this game affected anyone because we were just having fun. We were told to stop playing the game. My team laughed because we ended up in a tie. Which ever tribe lost was suppose to offer the winning tribe a gift. We still wanted to offer the other tribe a gift. They would not take it because of the tie. A member of the other tribe was upset that it was a tie. He harped on it even the next day. A fellow member of my tribe said to me that she thought the one guy had too much of a western philosophy and could not see the message of the game. I agreed.

The day after the game, I had spoke to another tribe member about the one guy's attitude. My fellow tribe member said something awesome to me. He said people think that winning defines success or growth. He said even if you win a war how many people did you have to kill and mame to win the war. What he was really saying is how far will you sell your soul to win?

After the game was stopped, we were asked to talk about our experiences of playing the game. People mention feeling, peace, unity, team work and a sharpened sense of trusting their intuition. I wonder what this one guy refuse to feel.

 See when we need to win, we really lose. We lose out on a wonderful learning opportunity about ourselves. We stunt our growth by needing to win.

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Are You The Cause Of Your Sadness?

I am the perpetrator of my suffering
- but only all of it."

~ Byron Katie

I am writing this blog because I notice a pattern that lives within us humans. We all have this issue to some degree. We love to torture ourselves with negative thoughts. Yes I believe this to be true.

HOW DO WE MAKE OURSELVES SUFFER?.........

1. When we say that we are unlucky in love. What makes a person lucky in love.

2. When we assume that if he/she is not with us than he/she must be with another woman/man. Sometimes people need their space. It does not make them a cheater.

3. When we focus on the one thing that is not working in our lives. You will magnify the negative by focusing on it. Remember, the universe has one job and that is to prove you right.

4. That damn #@!&* my space, facebook. You know those social groups that represent fantasy land. Stop looking at a person's page if you can not handle it emotionally. So many of you see a comment, a new friend on a person's page that you have a love interest for and you freak out. How many people actually talk to their friends on these sites? Very few. It is a fantasy world and it was designed for teens. Stop judging people by the comments and pics on the site. When you let your imagination run wild that they must be dating this person, you are the cause of your own suffering! There is nothing that the person did to you, you are harming yourself.

STOP THE INSANITY!

1. If you do not hear it from the horses mouth that they are cheating than do not believe it.

2. If you think you are unlucky in love, get over it or else you will stay unlucky in love.

3.Stop making up story lines in your head. You are stressing yourself out for no reason.

4. Learn to think positive and you will get positive experiences in return. Stop expecting the universe to prove you wrong. It don't work that way.

5. Learn to forgive and let go of the past. It is not going to ever serve you in a healthy manner if you keep on thinking about the past. Learn from the experiences and move forward.

The bottom line is to stay in touch with your reality.  You can decide what happens in your life. If you want a positive life you have got to create it.

Please Vote And Try To Vote Early

No matter where you stand on the issues, please vote! Remember only 533 votes decided the election between Al Gore and President Bush. The lines are long for  some states with early voting but it is necessary to vote. If you have a state that has propositions on the ballot, make sure you vote. This is a critical time in this country. 725,000 jobs have been lost since september 2008.  We have two expensive wars going on right now.In california, we will vote to decide if gay marriage will be legal. We have a history making presidential election. Be a part of that history and vote. This country is in need of changes and yes your one vote no matter where you stand on the issues count.

I do not care if you claim to dislike both presidential candidates, pick one and vote! Complaining does not solve issues. Voting does!Voting is a privilege so use it!