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The Law of Attraction Bootcamp #2: Manifesting Prosperity (REVISITED)

Hi all, Kittenit here: Wow! This post was so popular, I thought I'd re-post it for those of you who hadn't yet seen it. If you've already seen it, I hope you enjoy it a second time :). I will be posting a follow up post to this one soon. -- Love and Light, Kittenit

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ATTEN-HUT!!! This is the second installment of the Law of Attraction Bootcamp. Today’s blog focuses on manifesting prosperity. In our last LOA Bootcamp, we learned a thing or three about manifesting love. One of the main mental ingredients is to be prepared, that is, prepare yourself to receive it. This is true with anything you want to manifest, since it’s difficult to manifest anything if we are wallowing in skepticism and doubt. This may be a bit difficult if you are a news hound and find yourself plastered in front of the tee-vee box everyday listening to the latest economical disaster. You may be one of those who is feeling the stress in some way.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to participate in the madness. That’s right, the financial world may be melting down but you don’t have to buy into in the mayhem. Instead, enlist with the Universe that waits to manifest what it is you are focusing on. So focusing on fear and worry will bring you what? That’s right-- more of the same. So as hard as it may be right now, you must find the power within yourself to know that you can rise above all of the hype out there.

That said, let’s see what steps we can turn our financial fortunes around.

Money is Energy
First of all, it helps to think of money as a type of energy. Does that sound confusing? Well, think of how you feel when you have little money in the bank and have a lot of bills to pay. Now think of how you feel when you have money in the bank with some to spare. Feel the difference? That’s the energy I’m talking about. Money in the bank energy helps you feel more confident, relaxed and with more freedom.

What is your current view on you and prosperity. Do you believe that you tend to be lucky or unlucky. This all comes down to what is called prosperity consciousness and that means how you perceive your ability to attract good fortune.

Be real about it. How much money you are able to attract is directly related to what your belief system is. For instance, if you’re used to making $30,000 a year, manifesting a job that makes $200,000 may be too much of a stretch for your beliefs-- at least for now. When you think of that amount, if part of you recoils, thinking, “that will never happen”, then you’ve picked a number that is too big for you to believe. However, manifesting a job that pays say $45,000 isn’t quite that stretch. So you work on it incrementally until you make the money you ultimately want to make.

So how do you improve your prosperity? Here are a few steps to get your financial situation under control. Here’s the first secret: what we manifest is in direct relation to what we believe we can manifest.

1) Examine your thinking about your financial situation. First, we need to stop any negative thinking. Try to pay attention to how you talk about your finances. Stop using negative words to describe your financial situation. Regardless of how negative your current situation, your mantra needs to be, “This too shall pass”, because if there is one thing we can count on is that things, situations always change. And they can change for the better. By embracing the idea of change, we know it’s only a matter of time. Think of this step as preparing the ground for planting the seed. You want to make sure the ground can support the seeds of your desires. So fertilize it with a belief that all things are possible. We can accelerate that time using affirmations (I’m getting to that part :-) Use affirmations to solidify your belief in yourself and your ability to be prosperous.

- I deserve financial abundance.
- All my needs are being met now and I am grateful.

2) Avoid negative situations or people when possible. Try to avoid listening watching/listening to the news or other disturbing tee-vee shows. Remember that these news-folks get paid to keep you terrified in hopes you’ll come back to find out more (and hopefully in the process, buy their sponsor’s stuff). This makes them happy and it also makes their sponsors happy, but keeps you in an ongoing state of paranoia and fear-- and fear begets more fear, and fear throws you out of alignment to your prosperity goals. While it’s alway good to be informed, it’s not good to be in a constant state of fear (unless of course we are trying to manifest fear itself). Also, avoid negative people when you can. These guys (or gals) tend to drain our energy -- remember negative energy is a depletive energy. It can suck the life out of our goals and ambitions.

- I am now attracting all of my wildest financial desires.
- I am now radiate the energy of prosperity.

3) What amount should you ask for? What do you believe? When manifesting money or a desired salary, work on an amount you believe you can actually get, and make that amount as high as you can reasonably believe. For instance, say you wanted to manifest a million dollars, if you are only making $20,000 right now and have never made that kind of money before, your inner belief will work against you. This means that anytime you think of manifesting that amount, a part of you skeptically snaps back, “yeah, right!” Unless you have an iron will and no back-talking little voices in your head sabotaging your efforts with doubt, it may be better to start a little smaller. Instead, try for a much higher salary, but reasonable for the job you are doing. So start in increments. So if you are making $20,000, try $45,000 if that’s reasonable. Once you achieve that goal, you’ll become used to it, you are much more likely to believe that you can make even more as your belief expands. So try to push that magic number out there as far as you can, but keep it within what you think is possible.

4) Use the power of focus and wealth affirmations. Whether this is meditation or prayer or writing down your question, or just reciting to yourself. Don’t question it -- just recite and block out any second-guessing. Here are a few more powerful wealth affirmations:
- I am receiving creating wealth now.
- I am a money magnet.
- I have an abundance of whatever I desire.
- I have unlimited money and wealth .
- I now give and receive freely.

Use these affirmations morning and evening to change the energy around you to prosperity consciousness.

5) “Perseverance brings good fortune”. Okay I borrowed that expression from the I Ching or Book of Changes, a Chinese book of wisdom that is thousands of years old, but the message holds true today. How long do you have persevere? That depends on how effective you are at turning any negative thinking around. Don’t worry about time, because the more you work on dissolving negative thinking. The good news here is the better you get at manifesting, the more effective and faster the manifestation.

We live in a material world (at least for now) and money is a reality, so it is an energy we need to work on to make our time on this planet enjoyable and east our stay so that we can focus on other goals.

Keep this practice and with a little time, you'll achieve your prosperity desires. - love Kittenit

Kittenit is a writer, psychic and tarot reader, and a certified hypnotherapist. She has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She is available for psychic readings and can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

Law of Attraction - Money Spell #1

- love Kittenit

Kittenit is a writer, psychic and tarot reader, and a certified hypnotherapist. She has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She is available for psychic readings and can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

Are You "Mothering" Your Partner Away?

How we can ruin our romance by working too hard at it.

Recently you may have heard about the high-profile split between David Arquette and Courtney Cox. It was so high profile that he took it upon himself to call into Howard Stern's radio show to discuss it with Stern and the Rest of the World. (Yipes! Times like now you can be grateful you aren't a celebrity with a celebrity boyfriend!)

Arquette blamed the split on Courtney's "mothering". He said on their 11th anniversary she bought him a motorcycle and told him she was tired of mothering him. Wow-- two gifts in one (although I tend to doubt he appreciated the last one).

"Mothering" is a trap many women get into with relationships, granted, some of us more than others. But when we do, it changes our role in the relationship. From lover and partner to authority figure. Not surprising, this affects your sex life since the allure is gone. In fact, if your partner tends to rebel against authority, you may find yourself in that category. It comes down to one person in the relationship having all the power.

Sometimes we interpret a free-spirited nature as fun but immature. As women we can have a natural desire to take care of others. We may courage him take on his own responsibilities around the house. Perhaps the woman makes all the plans, does all the work around the house, arranges all the activities for the couple/family.

So how do you make sure you don't get stuck in the "mothering trap"? You need to recognize it early. The signs are there, you must recognize them. What are the signs? He/she stops doing things for himself. When you talk to him/her, you feel like you are talking to a child, "Pick up your clothes!" "Make your bed", etc. Your partner should be doing this on his own. They are the other half of the relationship and they need to hold up their side of it.

Make sure you share responsibilities in the relationship. See that you are not giving 75% of the effort and the other person, a weak 25% (or less). Equality is important and is open to interpretation by both people, so communication is important here.

The final thing here is that men are just as likely to "mother" as women, although they have a different style about it (more "fatherly", of course). With men, this can often happen when they date women you are much younger than themselves. But in either case, it is dead-end road for the relationship and a solid turn-off. It's also an unnecessary burden on the mothering partner who will more than likely get sick of it in due time, and as this couple showed, it's often extremely difficult to un-ring the bell.

Equality is balance, and balance is important for the health of the relationship. - love, Kittenit

Kittenit is a writer, psychic and tarot reader, and has been a professional adviser on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with the I Ching. She is also a certified hypnotherapist who is available for phone sessions by appointment. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

The Law of Attraction Bootcamp #2: Manifesting Prosperity

ATTEN-HUT!!! This is the second installment of the Law of Attraction Bootcamp. Today’s blog focuses on manifesting prosperity. In our last LOA Bootcamp, we learned a thing or three about manifesting love. One of the main mental ingredients is to be prepared, that is, prepare yourself to receive it. This is true with anything you want to manifest, since it’s difficult to manifest anything if we are wallowing in skepticism and doubt. This may be a bit difficult if you are a news hound and find yourself plastered in front of the tee-vee box everyday listening to the latest economical disaster. You may be one of those who is feeling the stress in some way.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to participate in the madness. That’s right, the financial world may be melting down but you don’t have to buy into in the mayhem. Instead, enlist with the Universe that waits to manifest what it is you are focusing on. So focusing on fear and worry will bring you what? That’s right-- more of the same. So as hard as it may be right now, you must find the power within yourself to know that you can rise above all of the hype out there.

That said, let’s see what steps we can turn our financial fortunes around.

Money is Energy
First of all, it helps to think of money as a type of energy. Does that sound confusing? Well, think of how you feel when you have little money in the bank and have a lot of bills to pay. Now think of how you feel when you have money in the bank with some to spare. Feel the difference? That’s the energy I’m talking about. Money in the bank energy helps you feel more confident, relaxed and with more freedom.

What is your current view on you and prosperity. Do you believe that you tend to be lucky or unlucky. This all comes down to what is called prosperity consciousness and that means how you perceive your ability to attract good fortune.

Be real about it. How much money you are able to attract is directly related to what your belief system is. For instance, if you’re used to making $30,000 a year, manifsting a job that makes $200,000 may be too much of a stretch for your beliefs-- at least for now. When you think of that amount, if part of you recoils, thinking, “that will never happen”, then you’ve picked a number that is too big for you to believe. However, manifesting a job that pays say $45,000 isn’t quite that stretch. So you work on it incrementally until you make the money you ultimately want to make.

So how do you improve your prosperity? Here are a few steps to get your financial situation under control. Here’s the first secret: what we manifest is in direct relation to what we believe we can manifest.

1) Examine your thinking about your financial situation. First, we need to stop any negative thinking. Try to pay attention to how you talk about your finances. Stop using negative words to describe your financial situation. Regardless of how negative your current situation, your mantra needs to be, “This too shall pass”, because if there is one thing we can count on is that things, situations always change. And they can change for the better. By embracing the idea of change, we know it’s only a matter of time. Think of this step as preparing the ground for planting the seed. You want to make sure the ground can support the seeds of your desires. So fertilize it with a belief that all things are possible. We can accelerate that time using affirmations (I’m getting to that part :-) Use affirmations to solidify your belief in yourself and your ability to be prosperous.

- I deserve financial abundance.
- All my needs are being met now and I am grateful.

2) Avoid negative situations or people when possible. Try to avoid listening watching/listening to the news or other disturbing tee-vee shows. Remember that these news-folks get paid to keep you terrified in hopes you’ll come back to find out more (and hopefully in the process, buy their sponsor’s stuff). This makes them happy and it also makes their sponsors happy, but keeps you in an ongoing state of paranoia and fear-- and fear begets more fear, and fear throws you out of alignment to your prosperity goals. While it’s alway good to be informed, it’s not good to be in a constant state of fear (unless of course we are trying to manifest fear itself). Also, avoid negative people when you can. These guys (or gals) tend to drain our energy -- remember negative energy is a depletive energy. It can suck the life out of our goals and ambitions.

- I am now attracting all of my wildest financial desires.
- I am now radiate the energy of prosperity.

3) What amount should you ask for? What do you believe? When manifesting money or a desired salary, work on an amount you believe you can actually get, and make that amount as high as you can reasonably believe. For instance, say you wanted to manifest a million dollars, if you are only making $20,000 right now and have never made that kind of money before, your inner belief will work against you. This means that anytime you think of manifesting that amount, a part of you skeptically snaps back, “yeah, right!” Unless you have an iron will and no back-talking little voices in your head sabotaging your efforts with doubt, it may be better to start a little smaller. Instead, try for a much higher salary, but reasonable for the job you are doing. So start in increments. So if you are making $20,000, try $45,000 if that’s reasonable. Once you achieve that goal, you’ll become used to it, you are much more likely to believe that you can make even more as your belief expands. So try to push that magic number out there as far as you can, but keep it within what you think is possible.

4) Use the power of focus and wealth affirmations. Whether this is meditation or prayer or writing down your question, or just reciting to yourself. Don’t question it -- just recite and block out any second-guessing. Here are a few more powerful wealth affirmations:
- I am receiving creating wealth now.
- I am a money magnet.
- I have an abundance of whatever I desire.
- I have unlimited money and wealth .
- I now give and receive freely.

Use these affirmations morning and evening to change the energy around you to prosperity consciousness.

5) “Perseverance brings good fortune”. Okay I borrowed that expression from the I Ching or Book of Changes, a Chinese book of wisdom that is thousands of years old, but the message holds true today. How long do you have persevere? That depends on how effective you are at turning any negative thinking around. Don’t worry about time, because the more you work on dissolving negative thinking. The good news here is the better you get at manifesting, the more effective and faster the manifestation.

We live in a material world (at least for now) and money is a reality, so it is an energy we need to work on to make our time on this planet enjoyable and east our stay so that we can focus on other goals.

Keep this prractice and with a little time, you'll achieve your prosperity desires. - love Kittenit

Kittenit is a writer, psychic and tarot reader, and a certified hypnotherapist. She has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She is available for psychic readings and can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

10 Quick Ways to To Tell If He's Interested

Do you think he may have a crush on you?

Lucky you! You’ve met someone new. He certainly seems nice enough (And cute too). But does he like you? Well, he may not actually broadcast his feelings like a love-swept Romeo clinging desperately to your balcony like the good ole' days. (or so I've heard...). However he may give you some subtle (and not-so-subtle) hints that can be almost as revealing. Here’s 10 ways you can tell if he has a crush on you or not:

1) He makes an effort to be around. In other words, he knows where you will be and makes a point to be there. Does he show up at your favorite hot spots?

2) He smiles when he sees you. Smiles are always a good thing to see, but especially from someone you think may be interested in you.

3) When you invite, he accepts. There certainly may be other reasons he may turn you down other than lack of interest, but when he does accept your invitation, does he show up?

4) He goes out of his way to talk to you. Does he seem to have a mission here? He  might have a crush.

5) He invites you to events he’s attending/participating in. If he’s involved in an weekend activity, he may want you to admire how great he is at it and see if this is something you like too. Maybe it's flying nerdly little airplanes, or playing in a jazz ensemble -- he might want to know if you like that too.

6) Do you catch him looking at you? If you can feel him looking at you when he thinks you won’t notice, he may like you.

7) He likes to tease you. Not mean-spirited stuff, just something to make you laugh and get your attention and hopefully help “break the ice”.

8) He appears interested in the things you do. Does he ask questions about you or interests?

9) He is polite to you. Does he hold the door open for you? Do you get the feeling he’s trying to impress you? Does he tend to try to be helpful in some way?

10) He calls you. By “call”, I mean either a text message or an actual phone call, if he is making an ongoing attempt, he probably likes you.

Naturally, a lot will depend on whether this person is within a reasonable distance or if he is available. For instance, he could certainly like you, but still be in a final stages of a relationship, where he may have obligations to someone else. But if you can safely check off the majority of these, you may be in really good shape. - love, Kittenit

Kittenit is a writer, psychic and tarot reader, and has been a professional adviser on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with the I Ching. She is also a certified hypnotherapist who is available for phone sessions by appointment. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

The Law of Attraction Guide to Online Dating

Online dating literally opens up a world of possibilities to meet someone new.

1) Conquer your fears. Sure, if you search for them, there is no lack of horror stories about online dating gone terribly wrong. But you can also say that about driving in traffic, eating sushi or some shady babysitters. In fact, you can make a case against leaving the safety of your house in the morning everyday. As well, you can make a case that ALL areas of life hold some kind of risk. But remember, one of the purposes of the Law of Attraction is to keep you out of trouble. So be sure to work on affirmations of safety and good judgment on your part, and attracting only the perfect person. If you are that worried about what others think, then you may have a different problem to deal with before you are ready to find love.

While it has happened that love can be a instantaneous process, if your history with it has been one of fear and disappointment, you may have to take some time to re-program your head a little before you hit the “continue” button. Depending on your present mindset, it may take time and some direct intention for love to manifest in the way you desire it. So develop some affirmations that address any weak areas. Be inspired to know that a lot of people have attracted true love this way and you can certainly be one of them. Focus on that stellar experience of attracting the perfect person who is looking for you as much as you’re looking for them.

2) Commit to it. If you’re going to do it, then do it. Decide that you’re going to give online dating a judicious try. Some folks approach it with a completely negative mindset. They have the idea that anyone who dates online must be either desperate or complete losers. They may feel that online dating services are essentially nutbag farms. So these hesitant daters stick their proverbial big toe in the water of the internet love world and quickly withdraw it before they have a chance to really experience it. Sure there are plenty of nutbags out there, but that’s not a statement of internet dating as much as it is one of statistics.

When you use the world wide web for dating, you’re fishing with a bigger net, and when you fish with a bigger net, you tend to attract more of those creepy, inedible fish you have to throw back. That’s not bad luck. That’s mathematics. The bigger the net, the more sharks and barracudas you’ll catch. But that big net also increases the chances of attracting that one handsome, loving swordfish that makes all those pesky sharks worth the effort. In terms of pros and cons, the pros here is you only need one wonderful catch, then you can put that net away.

So remember the Law of Attraction rule here. If you worry about attracting nutbags, your mind will be trying to find the nutbag in everybody you meet. It’s a prescription for failure, so stop it. Either commit to online dating or don’t do it at all, because when entering into it with the wrong mindset, anything you consider a “failure” will only serve as validation in your mind that it doesn’t work and you may surrender yourself to accepting bad luck with relationships. Instead, approach online dating with the will and determination that regardless, you will make a solid, honest effort with the intention of enjoying the experience. So keep smiling and throw those sharks back to the sea and make an active commitment to date for at least 6 months to a year.

3) Selectivity is the Key. This is actually more like part 2, to step 2 above, and that is -- be selective. The only thing worse than being too careful is being too impatient. We may decide we hate online dating and be anxious to stop, so we may “settle” for the first person we can have a halfway decent conversation with hoping we can Playdoh that person into who we really want to be. In the process, we may give in to the subconscious desire to end the dating process as quickly as possible. Unless you are particularly skilled in the Law of Attraction to manifest instant relationships, I would caution you against forcing the relationship to manifest, as is. Don’t let fear be the determining factor as to when you choose a partner. Not a good idea in the Law of Attraction world. The unfortunate reality is that some people will put more time in choosing what car to buy than they do in finding the right partner for themselves. Don’t be one of them. Approach the dating process patiently, sensibly, with the joy of discovery, of meeting interesting people and above all, keeping your sense of humor throughout the process. Commit to not committing to anyone within the 6 months to a year of your dating service membership. If you signal to the Universe you are fearful and worried, can you guess what you’ll attract? Uh, huh. You know better than that. Take your time. Meet as many new people as you can. Again, remain uncommitted for the full term of your membership so that you allow all potential partners for that time period.

4) Choose a good avatar/nickname. Your online nickname speaks volumes about how you choose to represent yourself to your potential partners. Avoid peppering up your name to attract more attention with something like, SexyFoxy4U, HotBlonde, Stud_muffin88 or some other user name that may give an impression that you might regret later. You’ll definitely attract suitors, but look at the bait you are using to realize what you may attract. The truth is sexually suggestive names may be off-putting to someone who may be a little more conservative and looking for monogamous relationship, I mean, how do they know you will not be a “HotBlonde” with everybody else on the internet? Can they even bring you to meet their family, or are you one of those lecherous persons their mother warned them about? So if you use sexual overtones to attract a partner, don’t be surprised if you attract people who are looking specifically for sex, but not necessarily a relationship or anything else beyond that. Choose your screen name wisely. It represents who you represent yourself to be. Consider using a name that highlights your interests or profession instead.

5) Use a good (and recent ) photograph. Adding a photo of yourself increases your chances of getting interest exponentially, in fact, it’s a necessity. How many suitors do you think are going to be interested in a profile with no picture? Zilch-- would you? In fact, leaving off the photo does not send a good message as it suggests either a lack of commitment on your part, or you just don’t want people to know what you look like. It’s also the first impression you send out to others (the first after your nickname, that is) So put some thought into the photo you place on your site. It is it recent enough to represent what you truly look like? Or is it an old one, and since it was taken, you’ve bleached your hair and put on 30lbs? Remember that one day you will have to meet your potential partner in person, when there will be no photo to hide behind. Let your first real introduction to your future partner be an honest one, since it will set the tone for the quality of the relationship.

6) List your hobbies. And read your prospective partner’s carefully. Your potential partner wants to know what you like to do in your spare time, since they may be sharing that time with you. While it’s true that opposites often attract, if people are too opposite, they may on occasion clash and one (or both) of them will have to be open to changing something. A partner who likes to go rock climbing on the weekends may not be a great match up for a Kim Kardashian-watching couch potato whose greatest adventures in life are found at the end of a remote control. However, even those kinds of differences don’t necessarily mean you can’t get along as a couple. In fact, some people cherish their freedom or autonomy. They like doing their own thing in a relationship.

The problem comes if yoweu feel threatened by our partner’s interests and how they take them away from us on the weekends or whenever, and now we want them to stop doing what it is they love to do and pay more attention to us. Suggestion here: never place yourself between your partner and their passion. It’s a battle you can lose, and not fair to them. The other issue is if your fearless new partner insists you join them in scaling some cliff-of-death in a some remote area of South America. Some people like to have partner that joins them in their interests, and this something else you have to consider. You should also flip these scenarious around. Are you the breathless adventurer and is your partner a teevee junkie? As the sage would say, choose wisely, Grasshopper.

This is all part of the discovery process of getting to know someone. The benefit here is someone with different interests open us up to new hobbies and passions, which we may or may not learn to be passionate about ourselves. These could be the very motivation we need to get us off that comfy couch. Or vice versa. So a good mix is to be sure to find someone with some similar or overlapping interests and maybe a few new ones you might consider exploring. So put down that remote (or set aside those spiked climbing boots) and pay attention here.

7) Safety measures. All that said, you’re personal safety is always important. When you begin to meet suitors you’re interested in, you may need to narrow down the list to the ones with the most potential and compatibility. Step (1) To start, begin an on-going email conversation with them . Get to know them before you ever meet in person - and take your time with this.

So far so good? Then it may be okay to upgrade the relationship to telephone conversations, which would be Step (2). Speaking over the phone is even more revealing about that person, since you can gage the tone of their voice and get a feel for their temperament. If you’re potential sweetie is in another country, go pick up some pre-paid phone cards to keep telephone costs down.

Hold back any pre-judgments on any new love interest until you learn more about them. A few distant conversations can go along way in determining whether you two are suited to one another temperamentally or not. This is also a good time to discover any “red flags” that may determine if this relationship should go to the next step, which would be Step #3-- meeting in person. It’s much easier to “break up” after a few revealing email conversations then after you meet them in person, and definitely much easier then after you become emotionally (or physically) involved with them.

So take your time. When you meet, set it up on your own terms. Arrange to meet in a public place with plenty of people around, where you always feel comfortable and safe. The Universe will test you here to see if this is what you want. Consider that if this person reveals a history of train-wrecked relationships, or tends to attribute the failure in relationships to his or her partner(s) and never his or herself, you may have someone who is in complete denial about their responsibility in relationships and will therefore be a very bad bet. Chances are good this pattern will not change in a relationship with you, so it may be wise to move on. It’s much easier to eliminate a relationship at the email stage than after you meet, which may feel to them like a real rejection.

But if the magic isn't there, it isn't there. So your online dating should follow logical sequence of “weeding out” 1) email contact 2) voice contact 3) meet in public. Then there's the final Step # 4) Keep dating. Don’t fally in love with the first person you can have an intelligent conversation with. Unless you are 100% sure this is the person for you, you should continue dating for the full 6 months or year of your membership, without feeling the pressure of having to make a commitment.

8) Better choices. So you found that special person, that moves your groove, floats your boat (or does whatever it is you need to have done). Remember that when you are fully committed to using the law of attraction to attract a relationship, you have a responsibility to keep your thoughts in a positive state of mind, even after you find that person.

First of all, be grateful you found this person. The Universe registers gratitude as a sort of “mission accomplished” and seeks to do more of the same. If your insecurities crop up, be sure to work on manifesting harmony.

Many people have had success with online dating, which led them to meet others they wouldn't have met otherwise. With patience, a positive minded, a little street-smarts, you too can find luck with it.

For more information, be sure to read one of my earlier blogs on using the Law of Attraction in your relationships. They can be found

• Law of Attraction Bootcamp #1 - Attracting Love
• Your soulmate has finally found you. But are you ready for him?

Kittenit is a writer, psychic reader and has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She is also a certified hypnotherpist who is available for phone sessions by appointment. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

Law of Attraction Bootcamp #1 - Attracting Love

Are you ready to attract a loving relationship into your life?

ATTEN-HUT!! Straighten up and wipe that smile off your face (nevermind-- keep the smile ;-). So you’ve decided that you’re really to meet your perfect love partner? Well I hope you’re ready to drop and give me fifty (love affirmations, that is). With a little effort and determination, we can help you be everything you can be (so to speak).

So can you use the Law of Attraction to attract a loving relationship? Of course you can! Many have had great success using their minds to attract relationships, often with people they feel are their soulmates. Sounds impossible, but it’s really not. In fact, we use it all the time without even thinking about it. The problem here is if we tend to worry about being alone, then we attract people that may be good company but not good relationships. And when we attract with worry, we attract people who make us worry more. So it’s important that we are aware of what we’re thinking so we realize how we manifested who we did. This isn’t always as easy as it sounds, if we aren’t use to keeping track of what we tend to focus on all day. But with a little discipline, we can work wonders. So let’s create a love strategy right now!

How can the Law of Attraction help you attract a new love partner? As you focus on this new desire, through the use of affirmations and with the power of your intention, your thought-energy is going out into the Universe. The Universe responds by setting up a series of events that wind up putting you in the right place at the right time to meet the right person. For instance, you may get a sudden invitation out of the blue to go to a party or club. Or maybe you start a new job with access to a lot of new interesting people. Somehow, some way, the Universe will put you in touch with someone you will have a strong attraction to and often feel like you’ve known for lifetimes.

But there is a slight catch here. Remember that the Universe will only respond in like with the energy you put into this. If you put out the intention that you want a relationship, but you wonder if you are ready or not, you confuse the message. Chances are you will attract someone you have a great attraction for (and vice versa) but they will not be ready either (i.e., married, engaged, etc.). Save yourself that headache and follow my formula.

I’m not going to kid you here. This is going to take some commitment on your part. You have to get ahold of your brain and make an effort to eliminate any negative, pessimistic thoughts about yourself and others. The I Ching tells us that positive energy is the Yang energy that creates or manifests. Keep your mind in state of positive thought so that you may be in the state of manifestation at all times. Keep your mind free from worries and try to keep your optimism strong. Manifestation time is generally around 3-5 months. If you have been doing some self-work already, the manifestation time may be much less. If you are locked in a cycle of negativity and self-doubt -- all bets are off. You’re on your own. But if you are ready for love, here are the five steps you need to take:

1) Develop a practice of meditation. This is when you connect with The Source. Through a regular practice of meditation, you achieve balance, and hone your instincts to make better choices. Meditation is the time when you build the spiritual wisdom that manifests in your life as good intuition.

2) Always work from the inside out. Take an inner inventory-- a big one. And let’s be honest here. If you’ve been attracting one knucklehead boyfriend after another -- there may be something you need to work on yourself. So make sure you write an affirmation to work on whatever it is that is attracting you to jerks.

Example: “I am now attracting the perfect relationship into my life with a responsible, committed and loving partner.”

Speaking of ex's, are you still holding a grudge on your last partner? Please get over it. Time to let it go so that you can both move on. Negative emotions bind you to people and doesn't not allow you to move forward until you release them. You don’t want to drain away precious energy on a disturbing ghost in your memory. Instead, focus on how much you are looking forward to finding someone new and absolutely perfect for you. Send positive energy to your ex and let him/her go.

A warning here: often when letting go of a partner, that same person may return again, often with a desire to start the relationship anew. This is the Universe testing you to make sure you are ready to move on. Remember that you manifested that relationship too. How you handle this will determine whether you are ready to move on or not.

The other important point here is we must be ready for our new partner. Love is not a one-way street. It doesn’t do us any good to manifest the perfect partner, if we are too emotionally immature to deal with them. It’s certainly not fair to them if we are loaded with emotional baggage and insecurity. We have to do our part here and work on ourselves to be better persons. Try these affirmations:

• I now ask for the confidence, wisdom, maturity, compassion and understanding to be in a committed relationship.
• I am now manifesting the qualities to become the perfect partner.
• I radiate harmony, joy, love and understanding to all those I come in contact with.

By the way, how did it feel to say the words, “committed relationship”. Did your heart jump with a little fear of commitment? Then make sure you work on that too.

3) Design your perfect lover. No. Seriously. Make a list of all the characteristics (mental, spiritual, physical, etc.) you would like to see in your next partner. Can’t think of any off the top? Then briefly think about all the things you didn’t like about your past relationships. Now write down the opposite in affirmation form. Here are a few ideas:

• My perfect partner is unattached and available.
• My perfect partner is monogamous to me.
• My perfect partner meets and surpasses all my greatest expectations.
• My perfect partner is financially responsible and generous to me.

4) Use the power of self-hypnosis.Hypnosis helps opens up your subconscious mind to eliminate self-defeating habit patterns in your life and re-program your brain for success. A half-hour before you go to bed you are extremely suggestible (hypnotizeable). This is why if you watch a disturbing movie before bedtime, you may carry that disturbance into your dreams. But your subconscious is also how the Universe connects to you. So reciting affirmations before you go to bed brings these affirmations to the Universe in a more effective pattern (I’ve received great feedback from my clients on this method).

5) Take Action. Start going out and socializing more. Join a reputable dating club or singles chat. Join a gym and start getting into shape, if you believe you need to. Work on your self-esteem. The point here is to (1) energize your intentions by taking physical action and (2) help the Universe out by providing outlets where the manifestation can take place. The Universe likes to find the easy way (water runs downhill, remember?).

So there you go. There are only 5 steps but you have to want this for it to work. The Law of Attraction is not some easy-peasy way to get stuff for nothing. Your time, energy, intention have to go into too. There’s a reason why this is a Law of Attraction Bootcamp-- it takes some motivation and discipline! Attracting love using the Law of Attraction is certainly possible... if you are ready to make the commitment. At ease!

Kittenit is a clairvoyant and has been a professional adviser on Keen.com for nearly 10 years. She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She is also a certified hypnotherpist who is available for phone sessions by appointment. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

1. Breakfast in bed - a tried and true. Always include their favorites. (I’ll have pancakes please - yummy! I’m in love!).

2. Make a special dinner for your partner. Does your partner like Thai? Italian? Greek? Any kind food always takes better with a dash of love.

3. Plan a brief getaway to a new location. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, in fact a day trip would be great.

4. Plan a walk a local trail or beach and bring a small picnic. Nothing soothes nerves like a walk in nature. 5. Give your partner a relaxing massage. Don’t forget the romantic ambience of candles and soft, relaxing music.

6. Send surprise flowers/candy to them at their job (If appropriate - Some employers are more tolerant than others, so use good judgment here.

7. Be the “Other Woman”. Buy a sexy wig and greet him at the door when he comes home as “the other woman”. What do you do next? I think you can take it from there. :-) 8. Rent a steamy movie. And watch it together. Don’t forget candles.

9. Dust the mattress lightly with perfumed talc or (if you’re on a budget) baby powder.

10. Spend the day in bed. Yes-- spoil him for a day.

As the weekend approaches, you have a day or two to put something together. It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, as this is a time for you two to just enjoy each other’s company and the reason became attracted to each other in the first place. Often, the smallest things we do can be heart-felt when love is in the mix. It is moments like these that you both remember as your relationship grows. So remember to have fun!

Kittenit is a clairvoyant and has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

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End the Cycle of Relationship Sabotage with a New Way of Thinking

So you’ve met someone new and you’re really excited about it. Congratulations! Good for you! You’re certainly one of the lucky ones. Maybe you feel the Law of Attraction has heard your desires loud and clear and manifested an amazing relationship with an amazing person. Maybe he’s exactly what you asked for (maybe even better). But if you’re fresh out of a string of bad relationships (or even one really bad one), you may hold some hidden reservations about diving into a new relationship. While you may be gung-ho on a conscious level, subconsciously, your psyche may be somewhat battle-scarred emotionally and wary.

When we’ve been through one (or a few) difficult relationships, it’s a real challenge not to walk away without a certain amount of resentment which ends up manifesting as some form of emotional baggage. This “baggage” can be carried to our new relationship, making us vulnerable to insecurity and doubt. Our inner dialog may start to question our partner or his motives.

Our subconscious is our instincts and it’s job is to protect us from harm. And just as if we burned our hand on a flame while exploring fire for the first time, if we are emotionally scalded in a relationship, our subconscious will step in and try to block us from trying that again. Any way it can. It does this through our emotions. Then, silently, it begins the slow unraveling of the relationship.

Our inner dialog may start like this: “He’s such a great guy” , “I know he’s my soulmate”, “I can tell he loves me”, “This is it. He’s the one.” Then after the initial “honeymoon” of the new relationship wears off, the second-guessing games start. Our subconscious, in an effort to keep us from being harmed, starts to drive a wedge of doubt in the relationship: “I can’t believe I’m so blessed”, “He’s too good to be true.”

After these thoughts/ideas are repeated endlessly in our minds, they start to get personal: “I have no idea what he sees in me”, “I don’t deserve him”, “Why is he attracted to me?” That kind of thinking can open a Pandora’s box of insecurity: “I wonder if he’s seeing someone else”, “He didn’t call me last night.”, “I suspect he still seeing his ex!” “Maybe he doesn’t really love me after all.” Then finally, “I knew he was too good to be true.”

Then the real sabotage starts. Worries may build to full-blown anxiety attacks, because this relationship has become so important in our life and we don’t want to see it end like the other(s). We may feel the need to inject ourselves more into the relationship, calling him more, emailing him more. We may find ourselves essentially “testing” the relationship. We need proof of his love-- over and over and over again. If he fails any of our tests, anger and resentment quickly rise, as our subconscious reminds us how much this relationship appears to be like the last. And the one before that. And the one before that.

Do you see the negative progression here? Slowly our subconscious summons up doubts and warnings that we felt before in past relationships, that may not even be real in this one. They are worrisome thoughts we keep having, over and over. Sometimes its’ all we can think about. But by shifting our focus onto all the bad possibilities, we are essentially changing the direction of the relationship. The negative ideas we have can actually manifest in some form. What we are essentially doing is reciting negative affirmations which can only guarantee the eventual failure of the relationship. By continuously worrying about his ex-girlfriend re-entering the picture, in some ways, we may’ve helped paved a road for this to manifest through the power of our negative thoughts or thinking.

Recognize this cycle? Tired of it? Then you have to actively take measures to stop it. The way to do this is to first become aware of it. Don’t dwell on it. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Recognize the pattern and then take action to eliminate it. Decide that you will not fall victim to doubt again. Here are some pointers that can help:

When you manifest a new relationship in your life:

1) First of all, be grateful. You really are a very lucky person. The Law of Attraction does work-- and you just proved it.

2) Forgiveness. Let past relationships go by releasing them with love. Mentally send your ex your love and forgive him for whatever part he may’ve had in the break up. Wish him the best. Then let him go. The desire to hold on to anger and resentment is often the source of our emotional baggage. Leave the baggage behind.

3) Make a commitment to yourself, that you will do everything you can to stop any knee-jerk negative thinking. This can be a real challenge because we may have had this type of thinking pattern for years. So we must make a point to constantly catch ourselves, stop it and reverse it with something positive instead.

3) Replace negative affirmations above with positive ones that create an atmosphere of harmony around you: “I radiate harmony to myself and those around me”, “I totally enjoy my partner’s company, their humor, their smile, their love of dogs“, etc.

4) Positive affirmations send a strong message to your subconscious that you want to change the current programming. Perhaps the most important affirmation, ”I am now ready for the perfect relationship in my life.“ Rinse. Repeat.

In summary, if you’ve been though stormy, damaging relationships in your life, and you are now in a new one, take an emotional inventory of how you're feeling. It may be wise that before you become involved, you may need to take a fully conscious effort to heal yourself. Positive affirmations like this need to be your new mantras in life. After awhile, your subconscious will get the hint and start to work with you, not against you. You’ll find yourself making better choices, having better luck and attracting better mates. And remember: be mindful of the thoughts you continually entertain.

While your subconscious may appear to act like a sabotaging enemy, when trained, it can be one powerful ally in your life. - Love and Light always, Kittenit

Kittenit is a professional clairvoyant and has been an advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

Winning the (non)Battle with Anxiety

Where winning the battle involves disengagement.

We live in a time where anxiety is running high for some folks. Anxiety can be toxic to your relationships and your health, and it can often lead to depression. There are different ways people choose to deal with anxiety, including medication-- but is medication always the wisest choice? Here are some alternate solutions to anxiety that may help you get past difficult periods in life:

1. Take up meditation - Heard this one before? There’s a reason why. Meditation is like a spiritual oasis for your mind and body. Pick up a good meditation tape, find a dark, quiet room and put on the headphones. If you are really stressed, start with this twice a day, morning and night. Don’t get frustrated at first, just relax, and with a little practice, you will begin to allow yourself to relax.

2. Take a walk in nature. The energy of Nature has a way of helping us reorganize our “priorities”. Find a beach, a park or a trail in your area and just walk for at least a half-hour. During this time, promise yourself, during the whole time you are walking that you will block out any thoughts of your current problems. Instead, take in the scenery and the natural beauty around you. While this is most effective if you are alone, if you bring someone make sure it’s not one of the people causing you stress.

3. See a therapist - Often therapist can help you discover the source of your anxiety and that alone is a great start. From there, you can start looking at solutions as to how you can put this source of anxiety into perspective.

4. See a hypnotherapist - Some people complain about spending years in therapy. To those folks, I suggest seeing a hypnotherapist in your area. Stress-relief hypnosis works incredibly well and may only take one or two sessions. The experience is often so enjoyable, people sometimes return for “follow-ups” when they have flair-ups of stress in their lives.

Kittenit is a clairvoyant and has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years.
She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).

Forget the Twilight Saga: Are You Dating a REAL Vampire?

But I digress…

The vampire archetype represents the idea of something that has to feed off something else to survive, and always at the expense of his or her prey... Like all other negative energies, the vampire energy is draining, destructive and debilitating. In your love life, a “vampire” lover or partner can affect you emotionally, and usually to your detriment. As a result, you may find yourselves working pretty darn hard just to keep the relationship alive— a relationship that may be taking a heavy toll on your heart, your health and your self-esteem. And like Dracula, some “vampire” sweethearts have a hypnotic effect, captivating us with their sometimes fiendish, and often self-serving charm. So when these… “bloodsuckers” bat-flap their way into our lives, we need to be able to recognize them and deal with them accordingly.

How to Tell If He/She’s a Vampire So how can you tell if you’ve fallen in love with a vampire?
There are a variety of ways, for sure, but the one thing that is consistent among them: the draining of resources in some way, whether that resource is your love, your health or your wallet.

Are you putting waaaaaaaay more energy into the relationship than your partner is?
If you feel that he or she is taking you for granted... you may have a vampire (okay... at least a potential vampire).

Does your partner always make promises they don’t keep?
If you find yourself disappointed and disheartened by your partner’s inconsistency, you may have a vampire. A partner who is always breaking promises can quickly drain the trust out of the relationship and replace it with resentment.

Does your relationship exhaust you emotionally more than it makes you feel good? As a couple, are you spending too much time in a state of strife, aggravation, or frustration? Is your love life always a struggle or a full-blown stress-fest? Looks to me one (or both) of you may be a vampire.

Has your partner put your relationship on hold indefinitely and will not make a commitment?... And is married?... With kids? Sorry ladies, but you are dating the undead in the flesh. Dracula himself would probably treat you better than him.

Does your whole life seem to revolve around theirs? Does your partner monopolize your time? If you’re always at the beck and call of someone else, but can never find time for yourself, you may be a willing hostage to a vampire. Are they always borrowing money and never paying it back? They promise over and over to pay and never do. Guess what? You may have a vampire (A financial vampire is still a vampire).

Has your relationship had so many make-ups and break-ups that the whole thing has made you feel years older than you really are and worn out emotionally? Do you need me to say it? (I didn’t think so).

Let’s move on…

Some folks will tolerate a parasitic situation, in the hopes of a big payout of some kind (i.e., marriage, commitment, sex, etc.). They are, in essence, obligating the other person to do something that they probably weren’t going to do by their own volition. It’s a set up that reeks of manipulation and control. And in a case like this, it’s often hard to tell who the real vampire is.

So How Do You Deal with a "Vampire"?
What do you do when your partner is clearly and repeatedly taking advantage of you? The truth is, sometimes we have to ask ourselves: Am I enabling my partner’s behavior? Am I allowing myself to be a victim in this relationship? If you find yourself answering, “yes”, then you will need to take a close look at your relationship.

It’s important to set standards for yourself and stick to them. There’s nothing wrong with helping someone out. But when it becomes a chronic habit—when your efforts are being taken for granted, you may have a codependency problem. When you experience repeated infractions of careless acts on the point of your lover, you need to take a stand. Remember the old adage, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”As well, if you’re lover is a chronic user of other people, you should talk to him or her about seeking professional help.

In any case, it would be a better idea for you to move on to a healthier relationship. By moving on, you are empowering yourself, and sending a clear message to the Universe that this kind of relationship is not what you had in mind. In a way, you also empower help your "vampire" by giving him or her another opportunity to become self-reliant or more appreciative of those that care about them. And when they can learn that lesson, they have a chance to repair their own self-esteem, since not all vampires want to be vampires.

So no matter how cute your vampire is, he/she’s still a vampire. So if you suspect you have a chronic vampire relationship, you need to do what the smart people do in vampire movies. Run.

Kittenit is a clairvoyant and has been a professional advisor on Keen.com, for nearly 10 years. She also works with both the Tarot and I Ching. She can be reached at (800) ASK-KEEN, extension LOVE (5683).