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posted Thursday, May 28, 2009 8:09 AM by MysticWonder01

Hey everyone!

I will be on vacation from May 28th to June 6th.  I will be taking calls again on June 7th.  I will have limited access to the internet this coming week so I may not be able to respond to emails until the late hours of June 6th.

Cristin

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You Did It To Yourself

posted Thursday, April 23, 2009 11:53 AM by MysticWonder01
Life has been quite the rollercoaster for me over the last few years.  There have been highs, lows and of course, the coaster broke down a few times.  Given everything I’ve been through, it’s safe to say that my body is in need of great rejuvenation.  I took a short vacation at the beginning of March, but I desperately need another.  I’ll be leaving again at the end of May for a week and will be spending a lot of my time on the beach.  Thank God because this crazy Ohio weather is sucking the life out of me.    

Just to be clear, the lows I mentioned isn’t just about me.  I‘ve been mostly concerned about the people in my inner circle.  I’ve had nothing but happiness come to me since the day I moved to Ohio and I’ve made a lot of excellent choices.  Sometimes I pinch myself to make sure I’m really alive.  Yes, this is my life and it’s everything I never planned for.  I think that just might be the key to true happiness.  Don’t plan a damn thing.

A few years ago I had a conversation with someone and told them, “I don’t believe in the 5-year plan.  What if the Universe has a better idea?”  That’s the one thing I stuck with throughout my life and I’m so glad I did because it turned out to be reality.  The only thing I do plan for are fairly immediate personal goals (like moving, for example) and that’s worked out well.  

To be honest, I didn’t always feel this way.  My faith has been tested many times and I didn’t have much confidence in myself, my choices or my environment.  I wasn’t able to get a firm grasp on what I really wanted and I couldn’t figure out why.  I was so emotional about my circumstances that I wasn’t able to tap into my higher self or intuition.  

In hindsight, I recognize that I was given the answers, but I was too afraid to take that flying leap into the unknown.  What made me finally do it, you ask?  I think it was the fact that everyone around me had sped off with their dreams in hand and I was left in the dust.  In actuality I had the vehicle, the gas and the directions.  I just kept my foot firmly pressed on the brake.  How silly, right?

As children we want our way all the time and when it doesn’t happen we yell to our parents, “That’s not fair!“  Every time I got in trouble or didn’t like how I was treated my mother always responded with, “Well, you did it to yourself”.  I hated that phrase with a passion, but guess what?  It was the truth.  I did it to myself…every single time.  

As adults we’re faced with the same choices we had while growing up.  The only difference is now we have more pressing responsibilities, we’re held accountable for our actions and are solely responsible for the outcome.  When things don’t seem to go our way, our internal reflex kicks in and it can transport us right back to being 10 years old.  We want to scream, cry, blame and run away.  We want to ignore what’s staring us in the face.  We don’t want to be wrong and we certainly don’t want to start over.  That takes way too much work, right?

My husband says that life is all about “action and reaction” and I say “everything happens for a reason”.  Now that I think about it, both are true and both require accountability.  It’s always nice to find the silver lining in situations gone wrong, but if we’re not accountable for our actions, we won’t learn anything and will repeat the same pattern until we get it.  In this case we can’t use other people to motivate change.  We have to take the bull by the horns, get off our butts and make it happen.  

Being fearful of the unknown is a distraction.  It enables denial and it prevents us from achieving our dreams.  Keeping your foot on the brake is your own doing, as it was mine.  The most important lesson I received over the years is this:

Withholding who you truly are and what you really want makes you a liar.


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Reading Between The Lies

posted Wednesday, April 15, 2009 11:02 PM by MysticWonder01
Honesty is the best policy, so they say.  In this case I think “they” are absolutely right!  We’re living in a world where a lot of people are dependent on superficial elements to get what they want in relationships and business.  People who will use whatever they have at their disposal in order to come out on top.  

The other side to that is there are people who put themselves out there in a genuine fashion, but get screwed because they were too trusting.  There’s nothing wrong with trusting someone new who may appear to have an interest in you personally or your professionally.  Unfortunately though, I’ve had more people come to me confused and fearful regarding the intentions of their business and romantic partners (or potential ones).  If you happen to be in a situation where you feel someone is trying to pull a fast one OR you‘re worried that you could be overreacting, this article is for you.


The Lines of Omission
Is it really lying by omission or can leaving stuff out be a method of self-preservation?  I think it can be a little bit of both.  Depending on who you’re dealing with, omitting pieces of information while describing a situation could in fact turn into a lie.  If you tell a story to your lover about being at the bar and conveniently forget to mention a mild flirtation and then it comes out, your lover could possibly feel jilted and wonder, “if you can keep this kind of stuff from me, what else are you hiding?”  

Here’s my opinion: if you feel the need to keep things from your partner, whether you think it’s stupid or are fearful of their reaction, then you aren’t truly comfortable with your relationship to begin with or you’re up to no good.  If you’re really into that person, don’t withhold any information.  Most likely you’re only going to create an unnecessary insecurity and that will make the situation worse.  

A healthy relationship is one that allows both parties to be who they really are without feeling judged, fearful or insecure.  Don’t you want the “love of your life” to accept you as is?  Okay, then don’t project a false bravado or omit the truth...it always comes out in the end.  If you aren’t happy with someone who tends to lie by omission, it’s best to check out of the relationship.  


I Want To Believe Them, BUT…
I get a lot relationship questions from friends and clients.  Most of them include the, “I want to believe him/her, BUT…” scenario.  The issue is usually this:  He/she says one thing, does another and makes excuses for their behavior.  I understand when feelings are involved, you may want to give the object of your affection a second, third or even a fourth chance to prove your gut instincts wrong.  

The problem with giving all those chances and not seeing change is that you’re the one who needs to make a change.  You need to drop that person like yesterday’s garbage and make yourself available for someone with pure intent and great follow-through.  If all you seem to get from this person are broken promises, I can assure you that giving a fifth chance won’t instantly transform your relationship.  Only you know what works for you and what doesn’t, so if you’re okay with constantly feeling “let down”, then you only have yourself to blame.


Are you knee deep in someone’s BS?
Below is a short list of guidelines to see if you’re involved with someone who isn’t who they portray themselves to be.

*  They say one thing and do another

*  The person may be too agreeable all the time

*  When challenged, their body language shifts and/or gets real defensive

*  They make excuses for their actions, never being accountable

*  They can’t keep their stories straight

*  When confronted, they project the issue on to you (placing blame)

*  He/she will leave out pieces of necessary info that would complete their story

*  They always find a way to play the victim

*  They make outlandish plans for your future together pre-maturely (the too good to be true façade)

*  He/she carries a jealous, resentful and/or extremely fearful disposition


The Lines of Self-Sabotage
Sometimes we can misconstrue the behavior of people we’re dealing with, whether emotionally or professionally involved.  I’ve seen a lot of folks trying to decipher their co-worker’s intentions and coming to a less than favorable conclusion.  It’s been happening a lot more these days due to the economy and the instability of people’s jobs.

Feeling lost and insecure from time to time are natural things we all go through.  We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t feel them, but this sort of negativity (if dwelled upon long enough) can eventually destroy the foundation built for success. 

I truly believe in the Law of Attraction as I use it all the time in my daily life and have experienced an array of outcomes, positive and seemingly negative.  What you put out to the Universe does in fact come back to you, sometimes 10-fold.  We can sabotage our work environment and relationships by assuming something is true when it’s not and generally it’s when we’re being pessimistic.  We can also sabotage our lives by believing a daydream without having a solid experience to back it up.  By doing this, we can place all the real stuff on hold until we see the truth in the situation.


Are you overreacting to someone’s behavior?
Check the list below to see if you might be sabotaging a potentially good relationship:

*  You constantly question what’s going on without concrete proof of wrong-doing

*  You need your lover/boss to validate you all the time

*  You’re always wondering when the other shoe is going to drop due to past situations/fear

*  You freak out when he/she doesn’t call you exactly when they say they will and even when they do call, you berate them with questions

*  You analyze people’s motives when they make plans that don’t include you

*  You judge people based on their behavior in past relationships

*  You take part in stalking tactics like breaking into email/voicemail or do drive by’s

*  If you are ex’s getting back together, you hold the “what went wrong” stuff over their head

*  You call your psychic and ask leading questions to get proof that he/she is a liar

*  It doesn’t take much to trigger jealousy and resentment

*  You find manipulative/secretive ways to get what you want


The Real Deal
Trying to figure out whether or not someone is being truthful can be an adventure all on its own.  One can fly from extreme highs to lows in a matter of hours while analyzing their situation.  We can often brand ourselves victims once we get to the absolute truth…we knew he/she wasn’t exactly forthcoming and honest from the very beginning.  It’s a hard pill to swallow, that’s for sure!

I believe our emotions and egos have a tendency to cloud our judgment while going through the process.  The key to making decisions that you can not only live with, but be happy with is to let go of the “what if” factor, anger, jealousy, resentment and fear.  Don’t beat yourself up for missing the truth.  We all have our moments and we wouldn’t be able to move forward without that tough lesson.  Some people get it in a timely fashion and others need that extra kick in the pants to wake up.  The most important thing to remember is this:

If you are honest with yourself, the answers to your most pressing questions can be found within.

Once you get to the heart of the matter, you need to accept what you’re seeing, feeling and experiencing as the absolute truth and only then will you be able to take that leap into a future you can be proud of.

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I Want The Fairytale!

posted Saturday, April 11, 2009 10:55 AM by MysticWonder01
Stories about experiencing  the “great love” have been around for centuries.  We’re exposed to idealistic soul mate scenarios in books, movies and magazines all the time.  We see things through the eyes of the media and think, “I want that!” and “I wish someone would feel that way about me”.  It’s not just those beautiful love stories we hear about.  It’s also the pressure from outside sources such as family members or seeing everyone else settling down that can make the singles out there wonder, “Why not me?”

Believe it or not, the two most common questions I receive during a love reading are, “Am I just wasting my time?” and “Is he/she worth it?”  instead of “When will I meet the person that’s in my highest good?“ I believe those common two have the answer within the question.  If you are asking to begin with, the answer is an unequivocal NO.  No, it’s not worth it if you have to do the following:

*  Beg for someone to be there for you
*  Wish that someone would call you and wait for weeks, months or years
*  Wonder when someone will break up with someone else
*  Put on a show to make someone believe you’re their “type”
*  Push for someone to pop “the question”
*  Do something radical to get commitment you want

If you’re with someone who loves you for who you really are they will be there, call you and commit without you having to do much at all.  There won’t be that push me, pull you “connection”.  There won’t be any crazy drama between the two of you.  In general, there’s always something going on in our lives that could result in drama, but I’m not talking about that.  I’m referring mostly to the back and forth relationships which could result in unnecessary heartache and pain.  Unnecessary being the operative word here.

Great Expectations and the Fairytale
What is the fairytale, exactly?  I’ve seen a few different scenarios that fit the description and they are as follows:  

1-  The return of the long-lost love
When we’re single it’s easy to go back in time and feel nostalgic over a long-lost love.  That one person who we could’ve been with, but got away.  I believe that holding on to someone from the past for an extended period of time does nothing but prevent one from living.  I would know, I’ve done it.  When I finally realized that holding on to this guy wasn’t doing me any good, my life transformed dramatically.  This particular person recently contacted me after 5 years of nothing.  Now we’re both married with children and oddly enough, none of those old feelings came to the surface.  Now I feel like I’ve got my friend back, which means the world to me.

2-  The back and forth love that ultimately leads to marriage/commitment
This is the most popular scenario I’m presented with during readings.  They’re here, they disappear and then show up again.  I’ve yet to see anyone in this situation express gratitude and happiness while going through the back and forth.  Is it possible that one could get what they want after all is said and done?  Sure.  Is it probable?  Nope.  The reason I say no is because of the following:

a-  You wouldn’t be going back and forth if the relationship was real and stable to begin with.

b-  There wouldn’t be a back and forth if both parties truly accepted one another for who they are.

c-   One or both parties have unrealistic expectations and want the other to make all the changes

The worst thing in the world for me is having to give a reading on the back and forth.  Even if I see the individuals having the possibility of a long-term relationship in the end, there’s usually A LOT of change and growth that needs to occur before anything good could come out of the situation.  What I do in those cases is tell the client what I see (since that is what they’re paying me for), but also advise them to be realistic.  That’s a general statement, of course.  I do my readings case by case without judgment and I don’t carry stereotypical views.

3-  The instant “connection” when two people meet
This is my absolute favorite situation.  The dream that two people can meet and instantly know it’s forever.  I don’t believe in this personally as I didn‘t feel this way when I met my husband.  Actually, my judgment was clouded by my own issues and fears.  To be honest, I’ve never received information for any client that this scenario will happen for them and I‘ve been doing this work for many years.  I do, however, believe in instant chemistry/infatuation.  

This is another example of having great expectations.  It is said that you don’t really know someone until you’ve been with them for a year and a day…without any breaks.  I agree with that statement and I also think that it can take longer, depending on the situation.  How is it even possible for two people to KNOW they’re with the right person for them the second they meet?  Sure, we all have intuition, but wishful thinking and loneliness that can drive one to believe something they can’t prove immediately.  I’m a psychic who has been very successful in reading my own life and even I missed the boat when I first met my man.  Believe me when I say that this particular fairytale is just that…a fairytale.

The nice thing about the media’s perception of love and relationships is that they offer a great deal of hope.  We all need hope in our lives to proceed forward with our dreams and goals, but when does hope become a hindrance to achieving them?  There is such a thing as false hope and nobody wants to experience that.  You know you’re living in that situation when you’re not getting what you want from another person naturally.  

Try This Instead…
Seeking love based on “the fairytale” is like being someone you’re not and trying to live someone else’s life.  Taking this route never produces positive results.  I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and can achieve that if they’re honest with themselves.  Who are you?  What type of relationship do you really want?  If you’re clear about those two things and are not trying to fit into some idealistic mold or change another person, you’ll have greater chances of ending up in a situation that will actually work and last.  

Create a life that’s real and you’ll have a fairytale of your own to share.

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Red Light, Green Light...Again!

posted Friday, March 27, 2009 11:44 AM by MysticWonder01
Unlike most people, I celebrate my New Year’s Day on February 1st.  Nothing special has ever happened in this month.  I usually reap the benefits of that 4-week transition in March.  The new “New Year” tradition began about 2 years ago after I left Michigan in the pursuit of something.  What that was, I don’t remember.  What I do know is that I made the right choice for myself.  

Doing what’s best for yourself without allowing the pangs of guilt and fear to take over is the key to everlasting happiness, in my opinion.  Just so we’re clear, I’m not saying to do this out of jealousy or with the intention of hurting another and using them as a pawn.  No, no, no!  I’m saying that most of the time, taking a leap of faith into the unknown will change your life for the better.  It did with mine, that’s for sure.

So there I was, twiddling my thumbs and waiting for February to be over so I could start my new life.  I had a lot of fantastic ideas and things I wanted to pursue right then, but was stopped dead in my tracks.  I feel like a child playing that game “Red Light, Green Light“.  This happens almost every year!  You’d think I would have the hang of it by now, but noooo.  It still drives me crazy!  That’s the thing about being human; there’s always something that’ll get ya every single time.

I had a lot of topics to write about, yet I couldn’t get anything down.  I had birthday money to spend, but couldn’t find anything that tickled my fancy.  I had these wonderful visions for my website, but couldn’t implement the layout.  Those are just a few examples.  Needless to say, every door I tried to open seemed to have a huge sign that read, “DO NOT ENTER.”  Then I thought to myself, “The only thing I’m able to finish or be consistent with is working out.  Perhaps that’s the only thing I can take on right now.”   When I had that epiphany, I decided to do what I always end up doing in this situation…chill out and let my intuition guide me to the next step.  Thank God I stuck with working out because I lost 15 pounds that month, YAY!

A couple of days after my light bulb moment, I decided to check out Borders since I had a gift card.  At first I was seeking a new journal, but I quickly realized while browsing through them all that it wasn’t what I needed.  I haven’t been to this store in years so I looked around and came to the Metaphysical section.  I found 2 new books by one of my favorite authors, Sonia Choquette and had a major intuitive hit to buy them.  I don’t normally spend a lot of time reading other people’s work if they’re in my field because that might influence my writing.  I understand there are other people out there who have belief systems similar to my own and that‘s cool, but I still need to be original.  

I bought the books and started reading one.  I didn’t even make it passed the introduction when I realized that I was lead straight to the perfect source of motivation I needed.  That’s the thing about letting go…the Universe always has something special in store, we just have to wait until it is time.  That special thing for me at that time was finding new and innovative ways to connect with my higher self in order to achieve abundance in my career.  Abundance to me isn’t really about money.  It’s about being truly happy and fulfilled with whatever I’m doing.  So I gathered some tips from the wonderful author and began a new journey with my career.  Unfortunately, I was stopped yet again!  Hmmmm, just when I thought I had it all figured out.

So I lived through February just fine and there wasn’t a whole lot going on.  I did have to prepare for my trip to Vegas, which was March 1st.   I figured that Vegas would be the highlight of March and I was expecting to get the green light to move forward after I came home from my trip.  When that didn’t happen within the first two weeks I thought to myself, “Okay, I guess I’m missing something here.”  Well, I was.  On March 17th ( our anniversary) Dave said to me, “So…do you wanna do it?” and I said, “Sure.  Wait, you’re talking about sex, right?”  No, he was talking about marriage so now we’re doing it on April 4th.  

Once I got engaged, I was finally able to finish this blog entry.  I started it at the beginning of February.  

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Holiday Rehab

posted Sunday, November 16, 2008 12:17 PM by MysticWonder01
It is said that God never gives us anything we can’t handle. I also believe that God has a sick and twisted way of making us clear out the issues that have hindered our growth and ability to enjoy life to the fullest. A few years ago, God checked me into holiday rehab. I’ve had a few relapses, but I’ve been clear for a while. Now I’m ready to tell my story. So here it goes…

Hi, my name is Cristin and I’m a recovering “Holiday Saboholic“. (all together now, HI CRISTIN!) For those who don’t know, a “Holiday Saboholic” is someone who sabotages their life around the holiday season.

For many years the holidays have been a source of torment for my mom, sister and I. That sounds pretty bad, but it’s the closest word I could find to describe the emotional mess my father created. 15 years ago he left us for another woman on Christmas Day and designed a permanent scar on the three of us, whether we choose to see it or not. Throughout the years my father and his woman have made it very clear to us that it's their way or we can "F" right off.  Nice, eh?

Right after he left my sister said, “But, Mommy…it’s Christmas!“ My mother took the hardest hit and re-lives that moment every year, which is why she no longer celebrates on Christmas Day. Laura has been stuck in the middle between my feuding parents since the divorce and now that she’s married with a family of her own, it’s gotten worse. I, on the other hand, chose to detach as much as I could for self-preservation purposes. It’s kept the drama out of my life, but what I didn’t realize is that I created a huge wall that blocked that necessary connection to family, in general.

Now that I think about it, every relationship I’ve attracted since the divorce was with men who were family guys. Most of them came from families in which their parents were married and celebrated the holidays in a big way. That always made me feel extremely uncomfortable and out of sync with everyone. So what did I do? I found a way to sabotage the relationship, hoping to find someone who had a similar lifestyle to my own. I did this because I thought that nobody would truly love me for who I was or understand how my mind worked. Also, I was afraid to enjoy the holidays with someone’s family because I knew that my mother was miserable.

Now I see how I set myself up for failure in my relationships. It was as if I had a “dump them” time bomb ticking away, deep inside my soul and I always followed through. I believed that I didn’t want to get married because forever doesn’t exist. I told myself that I wouldn’t be a family person unless I created one of my own. I later decided that I didn’t want children of my own out of fear that I would lose my independence and freedom. Being involved with my boyfriend’s children was easy because I’m not their mother, am not responsible for their upbringing and for how they turn out. I was just the friendly female on the side they could spend time with and have something else to look forward to when they’re with their father.

I was SO wrong about SO much. The strange thing about this major epiphany is this: When I finally opened up to the possibility that I could be happy by allowing people in and experiencing a different lifestyle, I ended up getting everything I‘ve been needing and really wanting for many years. I’m in a relationship with a fantastic man who loves me for who I am and understands how my mind works. Due to the fact that my step-mother is a nosey turbo-bitch-on-wheels, I’ve made sure that I have a solid relationship with Dave’s girls and they have plenty of alone time with their daddy.  I also have a child of my own and can‘t imagine my life without him. I get plenty of freedom and my independence is still very much in tact.

Now that I’ve reached a huge milestone in my recovery, I have a completely different perspective of what I need, want and what I can accomplish if I just keep my head out of my ass.  I used to avoid decorating my home for Christmas and now I'm able to do it with pure joy!  This year I decided to deck my halls a bit early.  It totally changed the mood in my home!

In closing, I’d like to extend some advice to all you divorced parents fighting over time with your children during the holidays. My parents always had knock-down, drag-out arguments over stupid stuff like this. If neither parent stands up and makes a decision based on their children's needs, all they will hear is...

Mom: That’s not fair, I want “this!“

Dad: I don’t give a crap, I want “that!”

Children don’t care about their parents’ issues. What about what’s best for them? How hard is it to come up with a compromise so that everyone is happy without clawing each other‘s eyes out? What makes you think your kids want what you do? PLEASE! I implore you to take some time away from being self-absorbed to figure that out. Your children shouldn’t have to suffer like I have. All it takes is a jacked up childhood to sabotage many years of their adult lives.

Thank you.

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Attack of the Smelly Garbage

posted Saturday, November 15, 2008 9:32 AM by MysticWonder01

What a strange title to this entry, eh?  Well, let me just preface this whole deal by saying that most of my garbage is cleared out of my life, however, there are a lot of people around me who haven’t started yet and are suffering from someone sending garbage their way.

First and foremost, my usually lovely and very laid-back boyfriend, Dave. He’s so nice, but when he is overwhelmed with pointless BS, and I mean VERY overwhelmed, he becomes incredibly detached and introspective. Today, for the first time EVER, I watched as his attitude went from humorously annoyed to all about the “pay back”.

I presented him with the verbal smack down, explaining the laws of Karma and he just laughed. Of course he did, he’s a guy who is pissed off over things he can’t control and quite honestly, doesn’t give a rat’s hoo ha about Karma. He’s all about the instant gratification at the moment and who can blame him? We all feel that way when we’re attacked by someone else’s smelly garbage. So where does it all come from? There are many sources, but here are the most popular ones…

* Jealousy

* Competing with others

* Being self-serving

* Needing to be in control

 

Jealousy -

Ah yes, jealousy. I’ve been dying to write about this topic for YEARS, but never received the intuitive hit to do so. Since I’ve been hearing so many complaints about this lately, I figured that now would be a great time.

Straight up jealousy or as Spirit would say, envy to the extreme, is the #1 killer of true joy and fulfillment. From what I gather, it’s also the most potent stench found in someone’s garbage. Does that sound harsh? Well, it IS harsh, especially if you’re on the receiving end. It took me a while and now I’ve figured out where this “envy to the extreme” comes from…but first, what is jealousy, really?

From the ever-so-handy Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

Jeal·ous-

1: intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness

2: hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage

3: vigilant in guarding a possession

I’ve highlighted #2 because that’s the definition that’s sweeping the collective these days. My way of wording the definition of jealousy is this: You see someone with the life, person, notoriety or thing you want and instead of being happy for them, you’re pissed. Notice the word “rival” in the dictionary’s definition. A rival doesn’t always have to be someone you don’t like. In some cases, it starts out when people are friends or co-workers and after the jealousy sets in, it can take on a life of its own. More often than not, the person feeling envious doesn’t even know the other person that well, if at all. This is especially true if we‘re talking about the work place and the people involved aren‘t social outside of that environment.

Here are the most common scenarios and complaints derived from jealousy:

A co-worker is doing the same job as you and makes more money

Your ex-lover is happy with his/her love life and you still aren’t with yours

A friend seems to “have it all” and you can’t seem to get it together

Someone is getting a lot of attention and you think nobody notices you

Most people don’t want to feel jealous of another, but sometimes they just can’t help it. The #1 reason people get jealous of someone is because they lack the confidence to create the life they really want. No confidence and drive = No real life of your own, plain and simple.

Getting back to Dave for a second. The reason why he was so irritated this week is because one of his peers in his business class was defaming his contributions to everyone in his study group in a public forum. This guy wasn’t even close to telling the truth, wasted time by bragging about himself and was tearing people down. This guy isn’t using the group situation in a productive manner. He’s trying to take control, compete with others and is seeking notoriety in a situation which requires individual contributions.

 

Competition-

Jealousy and competition go hand in hand, however, there is such a thing as healthy competition. It’s only healthy when you have a natural drive to succeed, but aren’t out to “get” or “one-up” somebody else to achieve your goal. If that’s the route you’re taking, let me say that it will come back to haunt you. Unless you’re willing to take that chance and live with the consequences, I’d advise you to make a right hand turn and try something with pure intent.

About a year ago, I had a friend complain to me about a co-worker who had stolen a great idea she came up with. This person went to their manager behind my friend’s back and presented the new concept. The manager loved it and now my friend is left feeling angry toward this co-worker (who pretended to be her friend, by the way) and dreading the job.

I said to her, “Sweetie, this girl doesn’t think she can come up with her own ideas and be successful, so she took yours to try and promote herself.” Since my friend is quite popular at work and this girl doesn‘t seem to be, I added, “She may also be envious of your popularity and wants to get noticed. Instead of being herself, she’s trying to be YOU. Maybe she‘s tried other things and nothing worked.” With all of that said my friend replied, “But WHY would she want to be ME? My life sucks!” Yes, why indeed… By the way, this co-worker was recently fired from the job, which had nothing to do with my friend. Karma anyone?

If people really knew what the object of their affliction’s life was really about, would they be jealous? Maybe, but most likely not. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. You may think you want what someone else has, but what if you’re wrong about them? You know what “they” say about assuming. Just don’t do it!

Here are a couple of ways to get out of the unhealthy, competitive realm:

 

Play a supportive role with people instead of trying to “one-up” them.

If you take the time to see things from a non-emotional perspective, you will be able to appreciate and support the person you are intimidated by. Being self-serving will not garner you any sympathy or support. Once you do this, chances are you could find yourself in healthier working relationships and/or friendships.

 

Take on a career/hobby that you truly love instead of trying to do something that will only serve as an attention getter.

“Do what you love and the money will come” has been a popular saying for quite some time now and it’s not only true with finances, but with everything in life. If you’re doing what you truly love then you won’t be bothered by office politics, gossip, anyone else’s status or have the need to be constantly validated. It wouldn’t even pop into your mind.

 

Don’t try to be somebody else.

We hear it all the time, BE YOURSELF! Yes, be yourself and be ORIGINAL. You will not gain popularity or notoriety in the long run when you’re nothing but a theif. This is especially true in the work place when you steal someone else’s ideas or practice plagiarism. The truth always comes out. Take a chance with your own ideas. You never know who will actually like what you put out there. Stealing will only leave you with this: You weren’t the creative genius behind those fabulous ideas and you‘re still unhappy.

 

Accept situations and other people as they are.

My new favorite line is, “Miracles happen when you stop trying to change what is.” You don’t have to like another person to accept who they are. Acceptance means understanding that a person or situation is what it is, it can’t be changed and it’s pointless wasting your energy trying to do so. Once you accept things are they are, you’ll be able to work around them without being highly emotional and going into an unnecessary frenzy. Furthermore, if you’re trying to do something over and over, but without the results you‘re seeking, perhaps you’re not on the path that’s meant for YOU.

In closing I’d like to say that we can’t be victims all the time. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE has been guilty of dumping their smelly garbage on to someone else. Sometimes it can’t be avoided, but as long as you own up to the fact that you’ve been the “dumper”, you will probably receive forgiveness and be able to start again with a clean slate.
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The Source of Unhappiness

posted Wednesday, November 05, 2008 12:51 PM by MysticWonder01

To be or not to be? That is the question or maybe it’s the solution? I say it’s the solution. In my opinion that famous phrase is not a question, but a choice. To be or not to be happy/sad, angry/calm, selfish/grateful, hurt/joyful, arrogant/humble, lonely/fulfilled or intimidated/confident. Those are just some of the moods we can choose from while going through life‘s many challenges or triumphs.

I’ve been doing a bit of soul searching again and it’s not because something happened. It’s because things are happening all around me, all the time. I am human therefore I have moments of insanity. It’s usually over stuff I cannot control and in the grand scheme of things, usually ends up being silly. Just to be clear, I said moments, not freak-outs that go on for years. I graduated to the moments level a few years ago, which I believe is perfectly normal. I realized with everything I can’t control I have a choice: To be or not to be affected by someone else’s perspective and actions.

We are presented with that choice in everyday life, no matter which area we are focused on at the time. You may think the source of unhappiness is not having what you want in life. WRONG! The source of unhappiness is living with a lack of confidence and not staying true to yourself. I see it all the time with friends, family, clients and even myself at times. We think that if we had this one thing, then all will be good with the world. When it arrives, however, we notice something else we want, but alas, don’t have and that takes us right back to square one: Being unhappy.

Part of the reason some people are unhappy is because they are constantly giving their power away to something/someone else. I’ve been guilty of this plenty of times in my life, so fear not, you’re not alone on this one. This damaging lightening bolt can strike anyone, anywhere and at any time.

Why Do We Give Our Power Away?

Here are the top reasons you are letting other people and situations dictate how you feel…

* Not having enough confidence in your own choices.

* Waiting for other people to validate you.

* Freaking out when something doesn’t go your way.

* Comparing your life to someone else‘s.

* Caring too much about what other people may think of you.

Getting Your Power Back

The only things we can control is what we put out to the public and how we react to others. The number one reason we react negatively to any situation is because we don’t have enough confidence in our own choices. If someone doesn’t share your opinion, so be it. If someone doesn’t find you attractive, focus elsewhere. If someone wants to put themselves first, you do the same. If someone lies to you, don‘t dwell on it. If you allow yourself to live your life based on what other people want or believe, you’re not living at all.

Here are the easiest ways to get your power back…

* Listen to your heart and soul. Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right.

* If someone tries to make you feel like crap, stand up for yourself!

* Connect with yourself. Think about the things you want and pursue them.

* Don’t wait for someone else to validate you. Give yourself kudos when necessary.

* Trust in yourself. If you have confidence in your choices, other people will too.

MOST IMPORTANTLY:

* Stick with people who love you for who you are, flaws and all. If you are trying to be with someone who wants you to be “somebody else“, you may be trying to fit an elephant into a dime-size cube. It’s never good to change yourself just to make someone else feel better.

If you can muster up some confidence in your daily life, you will find that making decisions, getting along with others and not worrying so much will become MUCH easier. You’ll be able to stay focused on what’s really important to you. Not only that, but you’ll also be able to attract what you want without having to fight so hard. So today, choose TO BE happy, grateful, calm, joyful, humble and confident. All of these things will lead to fulfillment.
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The "Economic Meltdown" Sale!

posted Wednesday, October 29, 2008 9:40 AM by MysticWonder01

Hello to my lovely clients!  I haven't run a sale in a while and since there seems to be a lot of crazy energy floating around, I decided that this is the right week to do it.  I will be lowering my price to $3.99 per minute from today until Friday night.  I will be taking appointments first and then call backs.

Below is my tentative availability, but since I have to work around Angelo's naps, the times may change.  Please check my listing for current updates:

Wednesday, Oct. 29th

12pm-3pm EST

8pm-10:30pm EST

 

Thursday, Oct. 30th

Daytime:  email me

9pm-11pm EST

 

Friday, Oct. 31st

Daytime:  email me

9pm-11pm EST

 

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Finding Joy Through Disorganization

posted Sunday, October 19, 2008 11:26 AM by MysticWonder01

Yesterday started out a little crazy in my house. I bolted out of bed at 7am for no reason. I checked on Angelo and he was sleeping soundly. The girls weren’t up and Dave was dead to the world so I figured I’d go down to my office and get some things done. 8:30am rolls around and everyone got up. Dave’s 4-year old was having multiple trantrums over absolutely nothing and spent the majority of the morning in “time out”. Around 1pm he decided to take all 3 kids to the store to get their Halloween costumes, which was nice because Cristin Time is scarce these days.

I got in a 30 minute work-out and meditated in a fabulously mystical ambient. I was probably down for a little over an hour and came out of it a totally different person. When I crash during meditation it’s usually because my Chakras are all out of whack and my energy needs to heal itself. It’s amazing how wonderful you can feel after you take some time away from life to get in tune with yourself. I used a guided meditation for the first time and it was great!

After dinner last night I took some work calls and watched as Dave gave me a demonstration of his new weight bench. The next thing I know, I’m sifting through my computer and deleting all sorts of stuff I forgot I had hosted on that thing. I honestly do not remember how or why I landed there, it’s all a blur at the moment, but I’m glad I was lead there.

I previewed each file to make sure it was something I needed only to realize that I’ve been hosting items from the old-school! My God, I found pages that haven’t been updated since 2004, 2006 and 2007! Not only that, but I came across a few things I haven’t seen since 2001. Some I used and others never made it to publication. All I could think was, “Cristin, are you serious? What‘s the matter with you? How could you miss all of this?” I sat for a moment, thought about it and came to the conclusion that my computer, aka my life, is a disaster area. Yes, my computer has always been my life so how on Earth could I allow it to get so messed up? Then I wondered, “If I can neglect my computer so easily, then what am I capable of doing to myself?”

Each file I viewed took me down memory lane. I looked at those graphics made back in 2001 and compared it to what I’m doing now. What a HUGE difference! My God, I’ve grown so much just in graphic design alone and when I think about it, I’ve grown in leaps and bounds in my personal life as well. Each graphic and every page is a clear representation of who I was in ‘01, ‘04, ‘06 and ‘07. Oddly enough, those years have turned out to be the most significant, life-altering ones I’ve experienced to date! Interesting. I guess it’s time to do what I do best…chuck those files! So that’s what I did. I deleted them one by one and watched as the last remnants of my past slipped away.

The strangest thing happened when I was going through everything. I found a poem I wrote many years ago and it was the only one I had on the server. The message was about taking time for myself and getting away from life. If that isn’t a sign, I don’t know what is! Right after I deleted that poem, which was the last of the files, I received an email from my friend Jo. She sent me a link to a 10-minute You Tube video of this woman who was giving a speech titled, “Why Do We Celebrate Full Moons?“ It included thoughts about meditation, becoming one with your energy and transformation. Now how appropriate is that for me right now? Bizarre…

I’m always so amazed with how the Universe/God connects us to the right people and points us in the right direction when we need it the most. Now that I’ve had some time to let the events of yesterday sink in, I’ve realized that you can find joy through disorganization. If I wasn’t able to view those files, I wouldn’t have been able to see my growth and give myself kudos for a job well done. We all need to pat ourselves on the back once in a while and apparently my time is now. Is my life really a disaster area? Absolutely not, but it never hurts to get rid of stuff that doesn’t reflect the current reality.
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The Urge to Purge

posted Thursday, September 18, 2008 4:37 PM by MysticWonder01

Been hit by the cleaning fairy lately? Yeah, me too. Fall is usually the time I feel compelled to purge my home of anything that doesn’t match my energy and no longer fits into my home and/or life. This includes old pictures, letters, unfinished writings and other useless crap I’ve accumulated over time. I guess Fall is coming a little early for me this year because I feel like the cleaning fairy is using me as a ball for her batting practice. I’m getting nailed left and right with the urge to purge.

It’s not just me though. Family, friends and clients have contacted me with their stories and they all seem to sound the same, “Oh my God I had to clean and I found this old artifact from my past so I decided to strip my house of all the crap!” It’s different for me though. I got rid of most of the stuff from my past when I moved into this home. Everything, but my couch. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has yet to go through a few of his boxes that have reminants of his ex-wife. I let him know and he was horrified, so I guess he’ll be joining us pretty soon.

My big thing this week was getting rid of the girls’ old toys and turning their playroom into a work-out room. That will be Dave’s special place. The other project I took on was creating a more spiritual home office for myself. I’ve had this gigantic space since March with nothing but my computer and an old wardrobe in it. So yesterday we purged the playroom and I fixed up my office. Boy, does it feel incredible! The energy is completely different and more condusive to my own. Every time I enter this room, I feel invigorated, motivated and happy. Yes, happy. That’s how you know the purge was a success.

Why Do We Have The Urge To Purge?

When the urge comes on strong, out of nowhere, it’s time to pay attention to your current surroundings. Is this your dream room or home? Does it look the way you want it to? Do you have what you really want from life? If the answer is “no”, then it’s time to chuck all the stuff that doesn’t feel right anymore. Generally the purge is meant to clear out the old to make room for the new. This can also represent an impending life change.

Most of the time, our homes are a representation of how we feel about ourselves in some way. If you have accumulated a lot of clutter, most likely the issue is a problem with letting go. If your space is practically empty, that is how you’re feeling inside (or just like the open space). If you are in between those two examples, you are probably more balanced, but still could use a splash of inspiration or an upgrade. We all need to polish up our personal spaces from time to time. If you’re living with others and the problem is their clutter, it’s time to have a little chat.

Children have a tendency to take after one or both parents. If you have a messy child who (no matter what you do) won’t clean up their act, it’s time to get to the root of the problem. Most likely, their disorganization and “I could care less” attitude is some reflection of what’s going on inside the home and/or an emotional imbalance. If you’ve got a neat freak on your hands, they probably feel like they have to be perfect, have to be in control and/or care too much about what other people think of them. The reason for both examples could be as simple as them reacting to their environment and following in their parents’ footsteps.

Items that no longer serve a purpose can block your opportunities for growth and change, especially things from the past. Each item you get rid of should be something you really don’t use, don’t need and don’t like to look at. If it reminds you of something negative, it has to go immediately. When you get rid of that item, you’re releasing old energy that’s been suffocating you and perhaps affecting your moods. Your home should only have things that satisfy your true desires and needs.

A List Of Things To Get Rid Of…

Even though the purge is self-explanatory, I decided to offer up a short list of things to get rid of as a guideline.

* Photographs of yourself and others that represents a bad time in your life

* Letters and/or journals that reflect frustration, unhappiness and your old self

* Computer files (including MP3’s)

* Furniture pieces that doesn’t fit your vision

* Clothes/shoes that no longer fit or will never wear again

* Checkbooks that have an old address/ex-partner’s name

* Home décor that makes you feel icky

* Old make-up/hair products

* Books you won’t ever read again

* Electronics/kitchen appliances that aren’t in use

* Empty boxes

* Old bills

Sometimes we think “this one thing” should have a home in our space, but it may be the ONE thing that stinks up the atmosphere. Also, make sure you go over your space with fine tooth comb when you believe the purge is over. You never know what could be lurking behind that dresser of yours, *wink*.

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The Mystery of the Fall Season

posted Saturday, September 13, 2008 1:09 PM by MysticWonder01

The time for my favorite season is near…FALL! That’s the best part about living in the Midwest. As the leaves turn from green to an array of beautifully warm colors, I usually find myself looking inward and preparing for the next phase in my life. There’s also something magical about the smell of the fall air, which instantly transports me to cloud nine. I can feel it coming already and I’m absolutely thrilled!

For some reason I’m receiving a surge of inspiriation without warning, rhyme or reason. I’ve been hit with the psychotic writing bug all week, which I haven’t felt in quite some time. Looking back, I feel like I missed out on many of my normal fall activities since I wasn’t feeling very well. I was also going through a major transition due to my fear with the pregnancy and the changes in my romantic relationship. I had so much going on that there was no way I could connect with God and my higher self enough to pump out articles I felt matched my rather high standards.

Here are some of the things I'm feeling guided to do in order to reach my next step in life:

*  Cleaning my entire house

*  Pumping out a ton of articles at one time

*  Purging my space of things I no longer use or just don't need

*  Home improvement projects

*  New vision board for manifesting

Since the ambient of the fall season guides me into a more spiritually connected vibration, my work is being affected as well, in a positive manner of course. I was doing a reading today and someone from the Other Side came through. This energy was so strong that I truly believed she was still with us. So here I am, going on and on about how smart and intuitive this woman is and how much she likes my client. Boy, was I in shock when the client revealed that she was no longer with us. I haven’t had someone come through during a domestic reading at random and NOT know they were passed on since 2001. I’m writing this still in shock, but in a very cool way.

Most people don’t realize this, but being psychic does not mean that our gifts are phenomenal all the time. There are days when I’m “not feeling it”, but still do the job quite well. I usually don’t take appointments in that case. Other days I’m blown away with the strength of my connection to Spirit. We go through transitional phases like everyone else. Some are focused exclusively on psychic ability and others on our personal lives. Right now it seems as though Spirit is pushing me to reconnect with some of the gifts I haven’t tapped into in quite some time, which excites me greatly.

I often wonder why I’m stricken with a surge of inspiration and crazy motivation during Fall. Perhaps it’s just my divine time of year. I wish I could feel just as connected to myself during the other seasons. I’m making it my mission to figure out the mystery of the Fall season.

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Managing The Manic Meltdown

posted Friday, September 12, 2008 10:05 AM by MysticWonder01

In my last article, “The Manic Meltdown Movement”, I described a dramatic, energy sensation that seems to be going around and affecting a lot of people here recently. This time Spirit is offering up suggestions for managing the manic meltdown. If you are the victim, we’re going to tell you how to get out of the cycle. If you are taking part in creating a dramatic situation (Raise your hand if you’re sure…It’s ok. Be honest about it), we will produce a simple “how to” plan for managing the 3 D’s, feeling disconnected, distraught and drained.

 

THE VICTIMS - STOP THE CYCLE OF MADNESS

So now you’ve come to realize that being someone’s “special friend” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You’ve been there for this person time and time again and feel as though you get nothing in return, but more responsibilities and the need to crawl under the covers, never to see the light of day again. You’re now suffering from the 3 D’s and it never seems to end, but worst of all, you’re L O N E L Y. How can I be lonely if I have my special friend? I never thought you’d ask, so here we go!

L -

Losing sight of your own dreams and desires to be someone else’s mommy/daddy

O -

Over compensating for someone else’s shortcomings

N -

Never putting yourself first or at least a close second to people who really matter

E -

Every time your friend has a problem, you drop everything for the drama

L -

Living a lie. You’re not really the “special friend”, you are the personal assistant

Y -

Yearning for more. More time for yourself, real friends, family and perhaps a love life

Yeah, it’s a hard pill to swallow, but the truth must be told…especially since it’s been staring you in the face for quite some time now. You’ve just been too afraid to let go of what you think is a stable life. Not quite, I’m sorry to say. Always the victim, never the creator. I think that’s how the saying goes. No wait, that’s “always a bride’s maid, never a bride“. It’s time you become the creator and perhaps eventually, a bride or groom. You don’t have to be single going through this, so these “how to” steps are for everyone in this situation…

1-

Wake up and smell the coffee. You are not the special friend, but you ARE a person with real feelings, real goals and you have the possibility of a real life. It’s there just waiting for you to say, “I quit!”

2-

Stop being afraid. Afraid to fight for what you deserve; a real best friend, lover or family member who is there for you just as much as you’re there for him or her.

3-

Don’t just stand there, bust a move! Back that new sassy self up with confident action. Speak up and just say NO! You are no longer a doormat. You are no longer available for needless drama that doesn’t concern you. You are not getting paid for this crap and let them know just that.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Well, it actually IS. It just takes some guts to start the process, but once the ball gets rolling you will eventually weed out the real jerks and replace them with people who match your energy. Even if your true self doesn’t surface immediately, you’ll feel so much better. Who knows…maybe your insecure creator friend (or foe) may wise up and stop taking advantage of you. You might be able to get the best of both worlds; a new life and a rejuvenated connection with your “special friend”. All may not be lost.

 

THE DRAMA CREATOR - STOP THE CYCLE OF MADNESS, DAMNIT!

You have now come to see that you’re part (or most) of the problem and not the solution for finding peace and happiness on a consistent basis. Nice. Now it’s high time you get out of your victim stance and join the rest of us in the real world. It can be really great, I promise! I know you’re used to all this crazy excitement or at least THINK you desire it, but you can be an adventurous person without the extreme highs, lows and mood swings (Yes, men too). You have to understand that DRAMA is not just a 5 letter word.

D-

Demanding, oh yes you are. Stop it!

R-

Remembering all the bad things that’s happened “to you”

A-

Always placing blame on someone or something else for your “problems”

M- 

Meddling in affairs that don’t concern you. It’s not about you all of the time

A-

Allowing other peoples’ choices to affect you

Does it feel like we’ve just kicked you in the face? Does it hurt? Well, this is what you are probably doing to other people by assuming the role of the DRAMA CREATOR. You don’t think we’re talking about you here? Think again. Everyone has created drama at least once in their life, myself included. Like most of the world, you believe you are a good person and to be honest, you probably ARE, but check this out: Everyone will always have more room to see themselves clearer, learn, grow and change. Always. So let’s get started, shall we?

1-

Be accountable for your thoughts, words and actions. Stop placing blame elsewhere when there’s a possibility that you’re part of the problematic situation. It takes two to tango. You are not going to be right all of the time.

2-

Treat others how you want to be treated. Think about what you’re going to say and do prior to doing it. Be grateful and kind to those who are extending their time and effort to help you out.

3-

Still be a creator, but stop messing with the big D. If you feel the need to “shake things up“, do so by finding a new passion in life, not by dwelling on all the things that have happened “to you” and shouting them to the world.

4-

Do it all by yourself! Create the confidence to achieve the exciting life you want and deserve. Stop seeking out friends who appear to be weaker than yourself, just to get constant validation from the public and/or to utilize their resources.

5-

Behave. Don’t cause problems where there are none just because you‘re unhappy.

The above are the first steps to achieving a better environment for yourself and people living in your circle, but wait, there’s more! In order for all of this to actually work, you have to be able to manage the 3 D’s: disconnected, distraught and drained.

First of all, you have to find more unemotional methods of releasing those D‘s. It’s ok to feel them, it’s your right, but holding on to them for long periods of time and then getting angry only hurts you in the end. Channel your energy toward something that will help you let go of the angst. Here are a few examples to get out of your “funk” and if you want more, read my blog entry, “Defunkify Me, Baby”:

http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/MysticWonder01/De-Funkify-Me--Baby/310444.aspx

* Take some alone time and pamper yourself

* Exercise and if the weather is good, get outside

* Start a new hobby or join a club/class

* Meditate and/or connect with your higher power and yourself

* Go out on the town or even better, get out of town for a bit

* Try not to focus on what you don’t have or wanting what somebody else has

* Learn about the Law of Attraction and start applying it to your life/future

If you have decided that you’re a drama creator, understand that we’re not saying you’re made of stone. It’s quite the opposite, actually. You may be more vulnerable than you’re willing to see or admit. It’s very important to take care of your special needs so that you don’t rely on others to provide them for you. The excitement you’ve been craving will come to you, but not in the dramatic sense. This will ultimately bring you the inner peace, love and happiness you deserve. Try it, you have nothing to lose!
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The Manic Meltdown Movement

posted Thursday, September 11, 2008 7:37 PM by MysticWonder01

There have been dramatic energies surrounding a lot of people in my circle lately, myself included, which has produced what I'm calling the "Manic Meltdown Movement". It all stems from folks feeling the 3 D's: disconnected, distraught and drained. This movement has created the craziest drama a lot of us haven't seen in ages and it's not just affecting one area of our lives, it's everywhere we turn. Here's an example taken from my personal life:

My step-mother, who I don't have a relationship with, was told she had a "nervous break-down" recently. In the past 6 months she has claimed to have been going through a series of health issues, none of them related to one another. Her therapist called my father, who I also don't have a relationship with, and told him that she's suffered a mental meltdown and that she needs to be tested and on bed rest.

Both her and my father have banned the step-sister from their home, saying that she's to blame for all the problems. Two days later, they turn around and invite her back because they want to spend time with her newborn daughter. Step-sister is pissed so she dumps all over my sister, Laura. They gave Laura the same old song and dance. You're out and then back in again. Laura comes to me upset with this crap. The cycle stopped with me, of course, because I am spiritually savvy enough to know how to protect myself. As it turns out, my step-mother was tested at the hospital for many health conditions and she's perfectly healthy, in the physical sense. Hypochondriac, anyone?

So what's the point, you ask? Well, this is just one good example of the unnecessary drama conjured up by one person's manic meltdown. It not only affects their true senses and ability to live in reality, but that same energy is transferred over to all the people in their circle. I will say, however, that if you truly believe you are ill, it is possible your physical body can produce symptoms which reflect your state of mind.

The 3 D's -

 

Disconnected:

When one becomes disconnected from their higher self, their spirit is operating at a lower vibration than normal, thus weakening their energy field. It's like staying inside your home for a number of cold and flu seasons, then attending a party with finger foods. Soon after, you come down with the worst flu known to man. Sneezing, coughing, fever and vomiting, amongst other things and what happens next? You spread germies to some unsuspecting people in your circle and they get sick too.

 

Distraught:

Obviously getting sick isn't anyone's idea of a picnic. Once your energy field is contaminated with the disconnect virus, it will turn your system off. The feelings that go alongside this are as follows:

* Overwhelmed

* Sad

* Lost

* Lazy

* Headaches

* Extreme moodiness

 

Drained:

When your energy distribution center (3rd chakra) is sluggish or a "no go", your emotional, mental and physical self is drained of most (or maybe all) of its fuel. At this point you could start seeking alternative sources. When this happens, the new source is usually someone who appears to be bursting with strength, reliability or comfort. Some people do this consciously, but most do not.

In some cases people allow their wounded egos to control their brain and they can no longer function properly in reality. This is where the blame game comes into play. In other situations, the dramatically infused person could start trouble within their inner circle as a means of avoiding accountability and finding validation. Sometimes the person could just simply shut down, hide away and vegetate.

 

Creators vs. Victims of the Manic Meltdown Virus:

Of course there are always people who believe they are the victims, when in fact they are the shit disturbers. Unfortunately for the victims, the "Manic Meltdown" virus can be a constant influence for the long term unless he or she has an epiphany and stops the cycle of madness. Here is my list of ways to know the difference between a creator and a real victim:

 

Creators: Seek out people who they believe will take "their side" or offer sympathy of a situation that doesn't suit them.

Victims: Get hit with some (or all) of the symptoms of being distraught after consoling another person. Maybe not that second, but soon afterward.

Creators: Place blame on anyone or anything other than themselves in the situation in question.

Victims: If involved in that situation, can feel guilt induced by the creator. If not involved, feel the pressure to become a "mother or father" figure.

Creators: Complain about who isn't there for them, what they don't have and portray an image of hopelessness.

Victims: Feel obligated to help, offering a lot of advice and possibly other resources such as money, doing things that are not their responsibility and maybe more.

Creators: Sabotage their own lives with deceit, manipulation and fear. In some situations, they try to pull in the victim and make them believe they are the "special friend" who the creator can't live without. They tend to show people the "representative" side of themselves vs. who the really are…shallow, inconsiderate and insecure.

Victims: Sacrifices a life of their own in effort to be there for their "special friend". They're availability to the creator becomes limitless. In some cases, the victim may also believe they can't live without the creator.

Creators: Always have a problem of some sort and only seem to hold onto happiness for a short period of time. Their romantic house usually has a revolving door of people who treat it like a hotel, not a permanent residence (even if they carry a "relationship" for a couple of months at a time).

Victims: Their biggest problem is the creator.

 

The above are just a few of the most common examples to describe a creator and a victim. There are many more. Not all creators are vindictive in nature. Some are simply suffering from the 3 D's and do not realize the destruction they're creating by their thoughts, words and actions.

 

Higher Learning

Since I'm an advocate of pulling a positive out of a negative situation, I'm going to view this cycle as something it doesn't appear to be and that is a chance for us to spiritually evolve and change our lives. When mass drama hit's the streets like the plague, it's important to recognize that there is a higher purpose in the events that occur.

Though the lessons for each person is different, this is a sign that a shift in the collective consciousness is about to occur. This shift will evoke major change and it will affect everybody in some way. For some, it will be beautiful and for those who have yet to "get it" in life, it may appear to be a display of physical, emotional and/or spiritual havoc.

 

PART 2 IS COMING SOON

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I Feel Pretty...

posted Sunday, September 07, 2008 9:51 PM by MysticWonder01

Okay...so we all know that pregnancy can sometimes give a woman permission to let herself go a bit. That was the one thing I swore I wouldn't do when I found out I had a bun in the oven, but guess what? I fell into the trap. It's just now hitting me, but I've gained way too much weight in my last trimester. I can't believe I fell off the wagon, man. I was doing great until the last 3 months. I blame it on the fun times of summer and the fact that I didn't give myself any time off from work or taking care of Dave's kids after the baby was born.

I took a bath this afternoon when Dave came home from work. Afterward, I made my way toward the mirror, saying to myself, "I feel pretty, I feel pretty." So I proceeded and the face staring back at me was anything BUT pretty. My skin is starting to break out, my hair is frizzy, I'm in desperate need of an eyebrow wax and I'm so tired that I could've fallen over. Ugh. Behind me lies the scale and all I could think was, "Whatever you do Cristin, don't step on that thing. It's the Devil...THE DEVIL, I tell ya!" and so I didn't. My spirit had already taken a hit from the mirror and I didn't need another whack. Here's the silver lining though: when I gazed into that wretched mirror, I did see myself as good mother who feels blessed to have her son. Yes, I am a good mother. Thank God for that! I still wanna feel pretty though, LOL.

"I can't believe I fell off the wagon.  Man, this is hideous, just hideous!"

Since I am a new mother, I decided that the best way to go in effort to reclaim my physical self, or what I believe is acceptable, is to take "baby steps". I gained 54 lbs during my pregnancy and lost 32 within the first 3 weeks. My son is now 5 weeks and though I've been eating right and working out, I believe I've reached my first plateu. Not cool. So I will keep up with that and start saying, "I am pretty, I am pretty" until the shit actually happens. Here are the "baby steps" I've decided to take to get me where I need to go:

* Work out regularly
* Stay on my "real food" diet
* Get my hair done like a normal woman does (not every 6 mos like I do)
* Wax those brows often
* Give myself regular facials
* Get a mani/pedi once a month
* Take my mystical baths everyday
* Take one short nap a day until I no longer need it
* Meditate for at least 30 minutes a day
* Keep my house clean (no matter what the kids do to it afterward)
* Spend at least 4 hours a day (5 days a week) working
* Start a new hobby

With the help of my boyfriend, I know I can do it all! I did everything on the above list consistently before I got knocked up and I was a very happy woman. I think being happy on the inside contributes to at least 70% of how you look on the outside. If you feel like shit, you look like shit. If you don't believe you're pretty, you aren't. That's me right about now and I'm already sick of myself. Thank God, because you really aren't open to change unless you've hit your rock bottom...and I've hit mine.

What is a real food diet?
I don't believe in man made religions, so why would I trust in a man made diet? I know my body and what food it responds favorably to. I call my method a real food diet because I just spend more time at the grocery store buying real, fresh (mostly organic) food. I spend time cooking instead of going for the Lean Cousine. That's processed and isn't as good for you as "they" want you to believe. So it's 3 balanced meals coupled with 3 small, healthy snacks per day and not eating after 8pm. I allow myself treats once in a while because I'm not psychotic.

What is a mystical bath?
Technically, it's not really mystical, I just believe it is. I use candles, oils and bath salts I get from the mystical store. My bathroom is lit up with a million candles as I soak in the tub with the oils or bath salts and listen to new age music for about 30 minutes. During this time I'm usually drowning out my boyfriend who is yelling at the TV because his Chicago Bears aren't scoring touchdowns. I consider this my alone time and I try my best to care about nothing except staying connected to my higher self.

I don't know if I should give credit to the mirror or if it's just my time, but I'm completely motivated and not just with sprucing up my physical appearance. I'm so ready to polish up my career path, re-decorate my condo and finally get my home office looking the way I had dreamed prior to moving in here. I let my pregnancy slow me down so much, which I'm sure is perfectly normal, but now I'm ready to move into the next phase of my life. There may never be a day when everything will go exactly according to plan so I figured that I should take the bull by the horns and just do it now.

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