FAITH AND BLESSINGS

May 30

2009-05-31T00:59:00Z

Good evening my friends....

Today we had my Mom's funeral.....and it has been a long day....I feel I must take tonight to rest....and recharge.

I will be available all day Sunday....5/31.......

Thank you so much again for all your loving thoughts and prayers.....

My love to you...

~Angel hugs~

Debra xoxo

MY Mom~update

2009-05-29T02:21:00Z

My friends~

My beautiful mom passed today.....4:01 pm-est...and I was very fortunate and blessed to be there with her when she did.

My husband and I were bedside with her.....talking to her(altho she has been unconscious for a week....she could hear us...I know>>>>>)...we were looking at pictures of her ...and she just went peacefully right in front of our eyes......my hand on hers.

Thank you so much for all your prayers.....it helped her pass peacefully...and I it helped me keep strength for her......Thank you so so much.

I am here tonight...appt only.....

I will be take some calls tomorrow as well...as I can........

My love to all..........

~Angel Hugs~

Debra xoxo

MY MOM~Marie--May 28

2009-05-28T14:44:00Z

Good Morning everyone~

So many of you have been expressing concern..as I have not been available....

Yesterday my Mom took a major turn for the worst....I was with her all day.

We expect she might pass today/tonight......I will going back to her today...as I want to be with her when she passes.

I thank you for your love and prayers......

I have the most amazing loving clients and friends in the world......

MY heart is touched.....

I am not sure...but if I CAN I will be possibly taking calls later tonight.......

YOU are always important to me.......

~Angel HUgs~

Debra xoxox

TODAY~ MAY 22

2009-05-21T16:45:00Z

Just a quick note to everyone.......I am off to the hospital today to see my mom...Marie........she seems to be taking a turn for the worst......and I am very saddened. I selfishly want more time with her.

I will be available tonight.......ok?

Sometime after 9 pm-1 an-est.......

Thank you to everyone for your prayers and love........You touch my heart and soul.

~Angel hugs~

Debra xoxoxo

PRAYERS FOR my MOM~AVAILABILITY TONIGHT 5/17

2009-05-17T18:03:00Z

Good afternoon everyone~

I just wanted to take this moment to fill you in alittle about what has been happening with my mom. I know some of you already know alittle bit about her being in the hospital.

My Mom was admitted in the hospital 2 weeks ago ..and has been diagnosed with multiple myeloma...and blood cancer. It is not positive diagnosis at all..but doctors feel that if treated with chemo and radiation she has a chance for staying with us indefinitely.

The past week she had trouble breathing and was getting oxygen. Now the past 2 days she had to be put on a ventilator because she was having trouble breathing on her own....and on top of that...her kidneys are failing and is on a dialysis machine now as well.

We don't know if she is going to pass over...or if God is going to allow her to stay with us. Only god knows this right now....but we are not losing hope and faith .

Your prayers are so appreciated right now. Her name is Marie.

Thank you for your love and support and patience thru this time.

Of course....I must continue to do my part and be here for you too. And I can......unless I get too physically and emotionally exhausted...you know that I will not read for you.

Please do not feel like you are bothering me or that your concerns aren't important. By being here for you helps keep me strong and focused thru this tough time.

I will be available tonight.....5/17 ...around 6 pm-1 am-est.

Sending love and light~

~Angel Hugs~

Debra xoxo

TONIGHT 7/23

2008-07-23T23:49:00Z

Hi My beautiful friends.....

I went to the dentist today....I have a major absyss/infection...(whatever it is called)....in my tooth...and the pain is really bad...and then sometime subsides.....I am taking an antibiotic and pain killer....so I am hoping for some relief soon......

I promise to come on tonight sometime if I start to feel up to it.....Spiritually I feel strong.....but my mouth is not cooperating!

Please know I always want to be here for you......I love you all....

Thank you for being the BEST!

~Angel Hugs~

Debra xoxo

TONIGHT-6/19SO SORRY MY BEAUTIFUL FRIENDS

2008-06-20T02:08:00Z

I had every intention to take your calls tonight....but I really feel it is best to wait till tomorrow night...or this weekend......

I just finished putting together a big picture collage of my dad as a tribute .....and it became a very emotional healing time for me.

I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all your well wishes...your love and prayers.

I am touched beyond words......

If there is any emergencies...by all means email me....and I will try to take your call...ok??I never want to leave anyone hanging in a uncomfortable place.

..Otherwise I am going to take the rest of tonight for My Dad.

Much love and light~~~

~~Angel Hugs~

Debra xoxo

PRAYERS FOR MY DAD~~ BENJAMIN

2008-06-18T15:08:00Z

Hi Everyone!

I just want to ask a special favor.....

My beautiful Dad who has been diagnosed with Lung Cancer....and has been suffering with congestive heart failure and kidney failure has taken a major turn for the worse yesterday. He has started to have alot of pain and his breathing and heart is slowing down......He probably will pass over very soon.

Your prayers for him would be so appreciated.

Thank you for all your support...my loving clients...who always ask me about him when you call.

I will be available as I can.....off and on......please know you are not bothering me.....it helps me to be here for you .....and keeps my energy up.If I ever feel drained....I would not read for you anyway...as you know it is my spiritual rule.

Much love and light

~Angel Hugs~

Debra xoxo

How being HAPPY will Manifest YOUR DESIRES very quickly!

2008-06-14T17:26:00Z

We’re going to look at how being happy will manifest your desires very quickly.

Happiness is a state of mind that you create with your actions, words, thoughts and feelings. You first need to find what makes you happy (Changing self-limiting beliefs is an excellent start!), get happy and stay happy, then attract your dreams and desires. It’s not the other way around, “I’ll be happy went I get what I want!”

This is true for anything you desire – a better job, the love of your life, that beautiful red sports car. If you are unhappy, attracting your desires will not make you happy. Only you can make you happy. If you are happy, attracting your desires are a complement to your happiness.

Let’s get very clear on two ideas of being happy or happiness where getting what you want it concerned.

1. Contrived happiness.

2. Being naturally happy.

~~~~Contrived happiness

Contrived happiness is a thought process that says, “I will be happy when I get what I want!” This is a very negative, self-limiting belief. Remember, happiness is a state of mind. In other words, if you think you are unhappy, you can just as easily think you are happy. It’s all in your mind…your thoughts.

For some reason, today’s society has convinced people that it’s wrong to be happy. There is so much suffering and misery in the world; therefore, we all need to be unhappy.

What has actually happened is the fact that people have realized that they have become very good at getting what they do not want and that is what makes them unhappy. Let’s look at the opposite of these dilemma.

If more people would be grateful for what they have in their lives at this moment in time and be happy for it, then there would be less unhappiness and misery.

One of the 12 UNIVERSAL LAWS is called the Law of Polarity. The Law of Polarity states that everything has a range and an opposite. The opposite of unhappy is happy; therefore the opposite of lack is abundance and each has it degree (range) of unhappiness, happiness, lack and abundance. Another of the 12 UNIVERSAL LAWS IS called the Law of Vibration and it states that everything and everyone moves in a circular pattern and it applies to our actions, words, thoughts and feelings. What you give out, you will get in return. If you are unhappy, you’re sending out negative vibrations and you will get them sent right back to you in the form of what you do not want. What do you really want? Do you want to be happy? Do you want all your desires fulfilled? Then think yourself happy!

There is a literary work by James Allen based on a quote from the Bible. “As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.” If you think you are happy, then you will be happy.Law of Attraction senses your happiness, which is a positive vibe, and you will get what you want. Is it that simple? Yes, fortunately, everything is that simple. It’s people that make things difficult.

~~~~~~Naturally happy!

When you are happy, you give off a very high positive vibration level....LAW OF VIBRATION. High positive vibration levels attract your desires very quickly. Your desires manifest themselves much more quickly when you are happy, grateful and joyful.

Remember, get happy, then attract your desires!

Have a HAPPY DAY!!!!! :))

~ANGEL HUGS~~~

Debra xoxo

What are you CREATING?? Become AWARE now!!

2008-02-04T02:06:00Z

THE CREATION CYCLE begins on the spiritual plane and ends on the PHYSICAL PLANE. If you are not manifesting what you want you will not find the reasons why in the PRESENT, because what you are currently creating is the result of the thoughts you planted in the PAST. To improve your future, you musy examine the qualilty of the thought seeds that you planted in the past.

Most people live unconsciously.......therefore they often unknowlingly and haphazardly create VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCIES IN A SELF-DESTRUCTIVE,FEAR-BASED MANNER.

When you consciously create frequencies of love based energy that are in harmony with the God Force Energy(LOVE)...you become a conscious creator which is YOUR divine birthright!

SAY these five magic words..."I INTEND TO FEEL GOOD"

When you feel good you are "in Spirit"-

When you feel bad you are in "fear based ego"-it really is that simple.!!!

So make a conscious decision to feel good,because you can not be connected to SPIRIT and be stressed,fearful and depressed at the same time!

The Creation Trilogy:

THOUGHT-WORD-DEED

THOUGHTS exist as energy vibrations in your mind

WORDS are auditory expressions of thought energy

DEEDS transform the power of your words into vibrations of creative energy called actions.

As you learn the CREATION TRILOGY ,the world will begin to make room for you and your creations. You will vibrate frequencies of love, which will magnetize to you,through the law of attraction, all of your creative desires!

TIMING ....AND THE UNIVERSE

2007-10-28T22:40:00Z

If you plant a seed in your garden I am sure you know that your creation is well underway before you see any physical evidence. It is highly unlikely you will go out to your garden and stomp on the seed you planted and demand that you see results right now! You don’t worry about it, instead, you allow the natural laws of the universe to do their work and the small seed you planted matures into what you desire.

**********If you look at your life you will see you have planted many wonderful seeds of creation. However, in your impatience, worry or lack of understanding concerning the principles of the creative process you have focused on what you don’t have or don’t want and therefore have destroyed or sabotaged the seeds of your desire. ***************

Your desires will come to you at the very best time.

You can influence the very best time by releasing your desire and saying,

“The Universe knows the bigger picture. I’m going to let it deal with the timing of this. Meanwhile, I’ll just do everything I can to keep focused on what I desire or open myself to SOMETHING BETTER!”

Sometimes you may think there is a shortage of what you desire. That you will not get what you want because someone else will get there first. What you must realize is there is no shortage. If you miss one opportunity, another will open up, then another, then another. Your stream of opportunity never runs out.

You don’t have to tire yourself by trying to force things to happen – just enjoy what you have and create more of what you desire.

You must know that Universe supports you in everything that you desire, and that there is nothing that you can identify, whether you articulate it or not, that the Universe withholds from you. All things are given in the moment that you ask and accept.

When you are specific about what you want(ASK), and you accept the Path of Least Resistance, the Energy flows through you toward your inspired idea – and you will manifest what you desire.

Here is what you must know.

That which you defend against will become your experience,

That which you fear or worry about will become your experience

That which you prepare against will become your experience.

What we fail to understand is that the defense against sickness is the cause of it. The defense against poverty is the cause of it. The defense against evil is the cause of it. The defense of being hurt in a relationship is the cause of not having the relationship we desire.

Nothing is more important than focusing on what you want. That is the mindset that you have to have to be at. In other words, you must stop trying to get rid of things that you don’t want or don’t make you feel good, because you can’t. You can’t make people go away or make them stop thinking or talking about you. You can’t rid the world of terrorists.

As you are reaching, in a determined way, for the Path of Least Resistance, anything that is resistant within you will present itself for you to take a look at. All your fears, doubts, and insecurities will pop up. This is your subconscious resistance based on your past experiences.

All you have to do when this happens is to turn your focus in the other direction toward what you want.

You must know, believe and understand that you are creating what you call your future in this moment. What you are looking for is balance in your thinking. In other words, living in the present moment while giving thought to something you desire and expecting it. If you desire and expect it, it will be yours.

If there is anything that I want you to take away from this is that you do not have to struggle to have what you want.

Let the Universe that links everything together (and allows the seed to grow) to take care of the process or the details.

SELFISH vs SELF-RESPONSIBLE~~DO YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE?

2007-06-22T00:21:00Z

MANY OF YOU ASK ME..."AM I BEING SELFISH HERE?" or "IS HE/SHE BEING SELFISH?"

IS THERE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

SELFISH AND SELF-RESPONSIBLE??

YOU BET..........!! READ ON!!

We are being selfish when:

We expect others to give themselves up for us.
We make others responsible for our feelings of pain and joy.
We get angry at others for doing what they want to do rather than doing what we want them to do.
We consistently make own feelings, wants, needs and desires important without also considering others feelings, wants, needs and desires.
We believe we are entitled to special treatment, such as not having to wait in line.

We are being self-responsible when:

We take care of our own feeling, wants, desires and needs rather than expecting others to take care of us.
We support others in doing what brings them joy, even when they are not doing what we want them to do.
We show caring toward others for the joy it gives us rather than out of fear, obligation, or guilt.
We have the courage to take loving action in our own behalf, even if someone gets angry with us. For example, we go to bed early because we are tired, even if our partner gets angry at us for not watching a movie with him or her.
We have the courage to speak our truth about what we will or will not do, and what we do or do not feel, rather than give ourselves up to avoid criticism, anger or rejection.

Giving ourselves up to avoid being called selfish is not self-responsible - it is manipulative and dishonest. When we give ourselves up to avoid criticism, we are trying to control how another feels about us.

Taking loving care of ourselves, with no intent to harm another is self-responsible.

Yet we are often called "selfish" when we take care of ourselves.

It is important for each of us to define selfishness and self-responsibility for ourselves so that we are not dependent upon others' definition of us.

When you become secure in knowing that you not only have the right, but the responsibility, to support your own joy and highest good -- with no intent to harm another -- then you will not be tempted to give yourself up when someone tells you that you are selfish for not doing what he or she wants you to do.

When we are secure in knowing that our own intent is a loving one, we do not have to manipulate others into defining us as caring by giving ourselves up.

Remember one thing: the more you love and care for yourself.....the higher your spiritual vibration....the more you attract the same to you....without even asking! Now isn't that truly wonderful!! :))

ANGEL HUGS

DEBRA

Feeling GOOD!! The Universe DELIVERS!

2007-06-08T00:49:00Z

"I have made a decision that nothing is more important than that i feel good,which draws like a magnet all good things to me."

Lets think about this for a moment together....................

What is so important about feeling good in manifesting and creating what we desire?

The Universe hears your words BUT what it listens to is VIBRATION. Your vibration is another

word for "feelings/emotions" You know the old saying"You can't fool Mother nature"....well this applies here.

If you "SAY" one thing and "FEEL" another...the Universe delievers based on your "feelings"

So the work is changing your "feelings/emotions/vibration" to one of HIGHER ENERGY. You do this by feeling good!!

How do i do this you say......feeling good ....about what??? ANYTHING that takes your mind off what does not make you feel good! IMPORTANT: When you have emotions of just plain feeling good for more and more of your day....this puts you in the place of the Universe "matching" your vibration with the things that you already told it that make you feel good. You have been telling the Universe for years what makes you feel good!

You have done this through your desire,your wishing and hoping. BUT , also in those past years ,you mixed the bag with stuff that did not make you feel so good. You canceled out so much of the good stuff that was on its way to you!!!

So...what i am trying to say here is begin to pay attention in your day! Is what you just heard from someone,what you just said to someone,what you just were thinking about: DID IT FEEL GOOD OR DID IT NOT FEEL GOOD????

If it did not feel good, change it---QUICKLY!! If it did not feel good, then you are moving away from all the things that you say you want. Is it that easy? YES YES!!

You do not have to feel good about the "thing" that you want or the "thing" that is making you not feel good.You just have to feel good about ANYTHING!! It is never about the "thing" ....it is always about the "vibration" ......WOW! Did i just hit home with you?

So...to sum up: As you think on these things you will realize how expensive it is for your life to "not feel good" and you will reach the point in your knowing that no matter what.....you will make the decision that nothing is more important than that YOU FEEL GOOD!!

Watch what happens.......................................... :) :) :)

Love

Debra xoxoxo

Do you have healthy BOUNDARIES? What is it really?

2007-05-17T16:07:00Z

The difference between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome."

My clients often explain to me how they set a boundary. They tell me something like, "I set a boundary. I told him he has to stop putting me down in public," or "I set a boundary. I told her she has to be on time from now on," or "I set a boundary. I told him he has to stop being critical of me."

This is not a boundary. A boundary is not about telling another person what to do. It is about telling another person what YOU will do in the face of the other's continued unkind or undesirable behavior. While it is hard for most people to accept, we cannot control another's behavior. What we can control is our own response in the face of others' behavior.

A boundary is about telling your truth and taking action on it. For example:

"I'm no longer willing to be with you in public when you put me down. The next time you do that, I will announce to everyone that I'm unwilling to be put down by you any more. Then I will leave and take the car or a cab home."

"I'm no longer willing to be late to events because of you being late. The next time you are late, I will leave without you. If you continue to be late, then I will just plan on taking separate cars."

"Your constant criticisms feel awful to me. From now on, when you are critical, I will tell you that it feels awful and leave the room."

Then, of course, you have to take the action you have said you would take. If you do not take the action, then what you have said is a manipulation rather than a truth. A boundary means nothing until you are willing to take the action.

The tricky part of this has to do with your intent. If you intent is to control the other person rather than take loving care of yourself, then your statement and action is just another form of control. If your desire is to take responsibility for yourself, then your tone of voice will be calm and matter-of-fact -- just letting the other person know what you will be doing or are doing. If your desire is to control the other person, then your tone of voice will be angry, blaming, and accusing, and your energy will be hard and closed.

We cannot hide our intent -- it will always come through in our energy and our tone of voice. However you might try to mask an intent to control, the other will always pick up on it and probably react to it with his or her own controlling behavior.

You are coming from a place of personal power when your intent is to take loving care of yourself rather than control the other. Since you cannot ultimately control another, trying to will leave you feeling frustrated and powerless.

The challenging part of this is taking the loving action on your own behalf. In order to take loving care of yourself, you need to be willing to let go of the outcome regarding how the other person will feel and behave. If you are focused on controlling how the other person will feel in the face of your actions, then you will not be able to take the loving action. If your focus is on the other person, such as, "He will feel hurt and angry if I leave the party," or "She will be furious with me if I leave without her," or "He will feel rejected and tell me I am running away from conflict if I leave the room when he is critical," then you will be unable to take the loving action.

Only if you are in compassion for yourself will you be able to act on your own behalf. Compassion for yourself means that you are 100% willing to take responsibility for your own feelings rather than trying to get someone else to do it for you, or rather than trying to control another's feelings. It means that you are willing for the other person to be upset with you rather than continue to be treated unkindly.

*************People tend to mirror how we treat ourselves. If you tolerate unkind treatment, you are letting others know that it is okay to treat you badly. By taking loving care of yourself in the face of others' unkind behavior, you will find that generally others will respect you and treat you well*****************

WHAT BOUNDARIES DO YOU NEED TO BE AWARE OF TODAY???

CAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF MORE TO SET THESE BOUNDARIES?

LOVING YOU ALL.....

~ANGEL HUGS~

DEBRA XO

REAL LOVE vs TOXIC LOVE~Understanding the difference!

2007-05-09T18:10:00Z

It starts in early childhood with Fairy Tales where the Prince and the Princess live happily-ever-after. It continues in movies and books where "boy meets girl" "boy loses girl" "boy gets girl back" - the music swells and the happy couple ride off into the sunset. The songs that say "I can't smile without you" "I can't live without you" "You are my everything" describe the type of love we learned about growing up - toxic love - an addiction with the other person as our drug of choice, as our Higher Power.

Any time we set another human being up to be our Higher Power we are going to experience failure in whatever we are trying to accomplish. We will end up feeling victimized by the other person or by our self - and even when we feel victimized by the other person we blame our self for the choices we made. We are set up to fail to get our needs met in Romantic Relationships because of the belief system we were taught in childhood and the messages we got from our society growing up.

There is no goal to reach that will bring us to happily-ever after. We are not incomplete until we find out soul mate. We are not halves that cannot be whole without a relationship.

True Love is not a painful obsession. It is not taking a hostage or being a hostage. It is not all-consuming, isolating, or constricting. Believing we can't be whole or happy without a relationship is unhealthy and leads us to accept deprivation and abuse, and to engage in manipulation, dishonesty, and power struggles. The type of love we learned about growing up is an addiction, a form of toxic love.

EXAMPLES::::

1. Love - Development of self first priority.
Toxic love - Obsession with relationship.
2. Love - Room to grow, expand; desire for other to grow.
Toxic love - Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love (may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness)
3. Love - Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships.
Toxic love - Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests.
4. Love - Encouragement of each other's expanding; secure in own worth.
Toxic love - Preoccupation with other's behavior; fear of other changing.
5. Love - Appropriate Trust (i.e. trusting partner to behave according to fundamental nature.)
Toxic love - Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects "supply."
6. Love - Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together.
Toxic love - Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation.
7. Love - Embracing of each other's individuality.
Toxic love - Trying to change other to own image.
8. Love - Relationship deals with all aspects of reality.
Toxic love - Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant.
9. Love - Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other's mood.
Toxic love - Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other.
10. Love - Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner, while letting go.)
Toxic love - Fusion (being obsessed with each other's problems and feelings.)
11. Love - Sex is free choice growing out of caring & friendship.
Toxic love - Pressure around sex due to insecurity, fear & need for immediate gratification.
12. Love - Ability to enjoy being alone.
Toxic love - Unable to endure separation; clinging.
13. Love - Cycle of comfort and contentment.
Toxic love - Cycle of pain and despair.

DO YOU FEAR BEING ALONE OR ABANDONED?

EVEN WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

On an energetic level, abandonment means getting unplugged from our energy source. Abandonment feels life-threatening because the cords that bind us to other people, and feed us Life Force energy, gets unplugged and we do not know how to access that energy for ourselves. That is why it is so important to learn to plug in internally, access the Transcendent emotional energy of Love, Light, Joy, and Truth that is available to us within. . . .

The goal is to focus on who we really are - get in touch with the Light and Love within us and then radiate that outward.

With love to all of you......Radiate love from within....and you will attract the same to YOU!!

~Angel Hugs~

Debra xo

FAITH AND BLESSINGS

May 30

MY Mom~update

MY MOM~Marie--May 28

TODAY~ MAY 22

PRAYERS FOR my MOM~AVAILABILITY TONIGHT 5/17

TONIGHT 7/23

TONIGHT-6/19~~SO SORRY MY BEAUTIFUL FRIENDS~~

PRAYERS FOR MY DAD~~ BENJAMIN

How being HAPPY will Manifest YOUR DESIRES very quickly!

What are you CREATING?? Become AWARE now!!

TIMING ....AND THE UNIVERSE

SELFISH vs SELF-RESPONSIBLE~~DO YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE?

Feeling GOOD!! The Universe DELIVERS!

Do you have healthy BOUNDARIES? What is it really?

REAL LOVE vs TOXIC LOVE~Understanding the difference!

TONIGHT-6/19SO SORRY MY BEAUTIFUL FRIENDS