Dissecting Life

Unemployment Extentions Being Cancelled Again...

Angel Tears From Heaven — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:21:00 GMT

Purchase my three question special for only $10.00 today only! I will edit this page at the end of the day to replace this offer on the blog with a picture instead. ;)

Once you make your purchase, you may send me your three questions, and I will get an answer to you within the next two hours, or on a first come, first serve basis.

More People Being Threatened By A Bad Economy!

It's a beautiful day out today, and I am thanking God for the blessing. It's warm outside in comparison to other days; almost 40 degrees F! The sun is gleaming and it just seems like a perfect day to help people with concerns they may have pertaining to their life. Other than the beauty of the day, the cheer has to come from deep inside; many people are being notified of their lives being affected again financially.

My husband received notice today that his unemployment extension will exhaust on February 18th whether he has benefits left to claim or not. It seems the legislatures want to close this chapter. I'm still thanking my lucky stars I have myself to rely on. As I told my husband, "Don't worry...when there is a will, there is a way, and together we will get through this." You see, I feel it's so important to be able to find the good, no matter how small it may be, in every situation. We can't be overly optimistic or we may set ourselves up for failure, but we can't just be pessimistic either, or we will pass up opportunities because we can't see they are there. I guess this is my lesson for you today as well. No matter what the hardship, you can make it through! Knowing the secret is what is most important.

Anyway, I'm not going to let life alter me. I'm going to plug through life altering it the way I want. ;) So I'm online again today sticking to the same routine, and can be contacted until 9 pm eastern time this evening. From 9-10 pm eastern time, you can schedule an appointment. If I receive the appointment before 5 pm eastern time today, I will accept it.

I have to also share a laugh with you today. My son, who is five years old, was walking through the living room. He just got his hair cut, so we are allowed to call him Fuzzy, so I said, "Fuzzy, you want to live with me for ever? You're so danged cute!" And he looked at me as though he hated to break the news and replied, "Mom, you know, of course, I would love to live with you forever.....BUT.... You know, right mom? I'm a boy now, but when I become a man, I have to move out. You understand, right?" lol I thought it was too danged cute!

Okay, so anyway, I am wishing you a really golden day and hoping happiness shines your way. Additionally, my prayers go out to those who are enduring hard times.

Many Blessings,

Teresa

I'm Back!

Angel Tears From Heaven — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 06:13:00 GMT

Good Evening!

I just want to let you know I am available from 10:30 pm eastern time until 3 am eastern time this evening. I will be accepting live, chat and e-mail reading requests. I am also offering 5 free minutes to any person who schedules an appointment for a reading at least 30 minutes in advance. To any person who wants to purchase my special e-mail readings, once the payment has been made for the service, you will receive five free minutes to follow up on the information you've received.

I'm sorry I have not been readily available to help you during the last year that just ended, but I have had to come to terms with myself, the actions of others and make decisions with the choices I have given myself. I am like any other human being, and when things go bump in the night, I must remember the basic rules of life. Unfortunately, because I am human, sometimes my emotions take precedence over logic. This has happened, but is now being altered.

Most of you know I have been through a lot. From reading my blog messages, one can see just a tiny minuscule vision where many can't understand my sanity. Not long ago, I lost everything I owned, for the third time in life, due to a wildfire. It somehow caused me to lose sense of who I am and when combined with the disrespect of some clientelle, backlash from the opinions of those in my community (hating tarot readers) and what I learned in my Psychology courses, I found myself drifting away from the very thing that makes me feel the essence of purpose; helping others.

People are happiest when they are learning, and when knowledge no longer matters, our souls begin to feel dried up. I began to feel I was one of these people, so I enrolled in college to be a psychologist. This is when I learned about a theory called the self-fulfillment prophecy. If someone tells you it can be done, you will do it. This can work to the good and the bad. You see, a psychologist tends to let you tell yourself what to do and tarot readings tell you how to do it. Psychology then teaches a person may not make a decision normally, but when a tarot reader says it should be done a certain way that the person listening doesn't learn from it, quits living or receives success not normally theirs. So are they better off for it? Is me telling them how to get the person they want to commit really the best thing? I think that answer lies with the person I help. I don't think it's my choice to tell someone if the person they love is right for them or not, unless I'm asked. If a person gets what they want and finds out it wasn't what they thought, they have the right to change things. Since I am a reader who gives choices, does that make me a bad person? Am I dictating your future, or are you simply being the leader with my guidance?

Basically, I've decided if what I have done for 22 years was so bad, no one would want my assistance! As I have always indicated, I am honest. I give the truth to what is asked, but nothing more. Remember: The truth shall let you free, but only you can be the leader of your own destiny!

Only you can control your life to bring you the success for happiness. I forgot this rule, and my life was turned upside down. Reading the information on the left of this box will summarize my experiences as an explanation to my lengthy disappearance.

I am going to beat my own drum to the tune of how I want people to hear it. One thing I've learned in Psychology is this: Even if I recognize similarities of my own experiences, no two situations are exactly alike. My opinion does not matter; things could turn out differently for you than for me.

More about my experiences will be posted daily on our blog and I invite you to read along with me. My blog is a magazine, but of my personal experiences and lessons. Call it my diary if you will. One way or another, my human experiences can help someone; somewhere. Well, I have to get ready to do some readings, so let me quit wasting your time and tell you the specials I have for this evening.

Any scheduled service receives 5 free minutes.

Get an e-mail reading of 3 questions for $15 and get 5 free minutes for a follow-up.

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Coping with Stress

Angel Tears From Heaven — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 11:46:00 GMT

Coping with Stress

Abstract

Stress can be both external and internal, be passive or active and can affect us physiologically, or psychologically. We have stress reactions when we feel we may be harmed, could experience an impacting loss, feel threatened individually or become challenged by the stressors affecting us. Often we experience a neuroendocrine stress reaction, depending on how our body and minds react in response to what has happened. What is most important is how we decide to cope with the stress that we are feeling, which can either be good, or can also be negative with effects.

Recent Stressor

In the last six months, I have been dealing with the same stressor that began almost one year ago today. The good news is that things are finally starting to come together. One year ago, we had everything we could have wanted. We had material possessions, good jobs, toys to play on in the woods, and basically nothing much to worry about. We had goals and dreams and had recently moved into my father’s home to be able to enhance his life as well, only to have a wildfire destroy everything we owned, and also finding out that our new place to live had no insurance at the last minute.

I actually had both external and internal stress at that moment in time. My stressor was the fire that was wiping out everything in sight because of the dry, hot conditions, combined with the 60 mile an hour winds (Aldwin, 2007). My environment handed me a transaction that would likely change my viewpoint on life. The fire itself made me experience over-arousal due to the fact that I was worried not only my family, but also those around me may become harmed with the impending threat (Aldwin, 2007). I felt the intense feeling of loss, felt the threat of the situation, and in the end, it certainly presented a challenge for my family that we never thought we’d go through. In order to have emotional and physiological effects, all of these areas must be present (Aldwin, 2007). Many impacts on my mind and body became a reality when faced with the strain that was put on me.

I knew the moment the fire began that it was going to be very bad, and I could feel myself trembling; along with this came the other peripheral nervous system reactions, and my palms became sweaty with the anticipation of what was going on. Additionally, my heart was pounding and I had the butterflies kicking in the pit of my stomach when I looked at the chart of who lost their homes, and even though no one else felt our house was lost in the fire, I simply had this dread that came out in the form of my autonomic nervous system (Aldwin, 2007). Additionally, my mind went through a lot of information that had to be cycled, and this is what would be considered neuroendocrine stress reaction to the fire itself (Aldwin, 2007). There is more than one area affected when put through stress, particularly if it is traumatic.

The following evening after the fire, we discovered the only belongings we had left were the clothes on our backs. When I was donated my first gift card to get my son the size clothes he needed, I cried when I read the message of hope, and had an immediate breakdown of emotions. It was the generosity that made me cry; even more than the thought of having lost everything. I actually at this point had become under-aroused trying to get through all the steps needed to help my family be secure, and I began to have Social Role Stress as my interpersonal status areas were in definite conflict with one another (Aldwin, 2007). I needed to juggle many events into one; maintaining college and my grades, re-constructing my family’s necessities and finally, having to work in my personal home-based business to keep money flowing for things we needed to do all seemed to be over-lapping and I wondered how I would ever get through and accomplish such a huge schedule, and to this day, sometimes, I still struggle with this, although it is getting better.

How I Coped With My Stressor

The first thing I did after I knew I had a place to stay for two weeks, was get on the internet, and write, write and write more about my experience. I made sure I wrote down why I had the goals and plans for the reasons I decided my direction could take (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). In order to maintain the situation, I definitely couldn’t sit back and just ignore the situation. Each step made was a reason to be proud at this point. I expressed each feeling I had, posted pictures, news articles and videos, but I also felt support from so many people that I also could focus on the good that was coming out of everything (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). I realized no one died, material possessions can be replaced and the good news was we had a place to work on to move into, and many other people did not. To this day, one family has yet to get their living situation back in order, and that was our neighbor.

I did many different things to cope with what I had experienced. I would have to say I had no time to sit down and relax when I had my priorities in order, until my goals were met for each day (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). Time management was a crucial part of my healing process after dealing with my stressor, and being positive helped me to realize that there was a much bigger picture that helped me to see that I couldn’t control what happened with the fire, but I could maintain a balance after it has happened. I also had to learn the art of compromise, because it wasn’t just me who lost everything I had (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). I have also made new plans for the construction of our home back where we had the fire. I have researched and will now design the layout quite a bit differently in the event a future fire goes through, I may have the chance to save my family’s belongings, and personal family collections. In this sense, I have altered my life due to the stressor I have faced, and on a reaction scale, I have learned to adapt to the situation, as well as have learned to accept what has happened, as there is no other way to look at it (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). I did not realize these were such positive ways to deal with stress, but now I am quite happy I conducted myself this way.

This is not to say I went without negative effects that I needed to change as a result with how I coped in the beginning. At first, I started smoking a lot more cigarettes, and started eating everything I found in sight, whether I was actually hungry or not (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). I also withdrew from not only some people, but also from who I used to be. I lost a lot of my desire to have what I once had and had the excuse, “Nothing is for sure anyway, so why replace it with what I want?” This affected me wanting to work for anything more than just the bills, although it’s really all I had time for anyway. I still fight with the problem I never used to have though, and that’s procrastinating on what needs to be done (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). Sometimes, I just wanted a break that I knew I shouldn’t take, and it almost became a habit with the strain that was put on me.

I still feel the strain of what has happened, and life is not perfect, but I have learned to take time for myself. I take walks to maintain healthy balance, get out into the woods like I used to do and spend time with good friends. I have maintained a journal ever since the fire to talk about my feelings in, as putting it on paper helps more than lashing out on someone who doesn’t understand what your real problem is deep down inside. Music that adapts to soothing often gets put on when I need to actually sit down, focus and prepare for the next goal I have in mind (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). Getting your emotions out is key to maintaining balance with your emotions is what I get out of what happened to me.

I thought maybe I was strange, but many people have looked at me, particularly in the last five months, and commented on how I am always happy, and no matter what happens, I don’t let it affect me. If they only knew, but as I explained, you can let the stressor strain you out to the max and dwell in pity, or you can look at the situation with a little humor, and the laughter gets you further down the track (Smith & Jaffe-Gille, 2008). ;) I can honestly say that I have joked about this situation from the moment everything happened, and it has helped me to see life is not all that bad.

Similar Situations and How These People Handle the Stress

I discovered through Abnormal Psychology about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is often caused during events such as the one I have had to recover from. The situation that is similar that I am going to talk about is the Great Fire of London in which destroyed most of London at that time (Crave 4 More, 2008). According to Samuel Pepys, it can take as long as ten to fifteen years for a person to be able to get through the effects of a natural disaster such as this one, and what resulted from the fire is much of what is seen today, and what I experienced. First of all, these people all experienced a lot of disbelief (Crave 4 More, 2008). It’s not like you would ever think when you wake up in the morning that so much would be permanently destroyed in a few hours. Some people forget different parts of what has been experienced, which I have also seen with my husband who sometimes have a different story of the one I remember. Others will have a hard time being able to sleep, may have bad dreams, and as a result of the experience, may even feel intense anxiety as a reaction to the event (Crave 4 More, 2008). As Post-traumatic stress syndrome indicates, many of these people had recurring dreams about the fire, felt their emotions become numb (like my feeling of not wanting to buy things that make me happy like I don’t enjoy the feeling any more), and some of those people felt incredible guilt for having survived the situation, when other people didn’t have the same luck. (I also experienced this as people came up crying because they had their home, and I lost mine, and we were so close together.) I felt; as did these people in this disaster in London, so much sadness and fear that your mind turns that numbing sensation on to protect you for the first few days of the initial shock (Crave 4 More, 2008). I can understand what this means with my explanation of how I couldn’t even cry at first.

Basically, these people realized that no matter how it affected them, this natural disaster was a challenge, and the challenge has to be met. What matters the most is that we face it, and how we decide we are going to work through the choices we are now presented with (Crave 4 More, 2008). We all have a status in life, and it can take some people a lot of time to be able to put this status to rest, but as long as it is handled positively, life does improve. Once again, all people in these disasters, if on the right track, will find their own meaning and purpose which eventually will lead to a renewed hope and trust in what our life can be (Crave 4 More, 2008). What it all comes down to for me, is take the challenge, improve the conditions and push forward until the situation can be put behind you.

Conclusion

Stress can be both good and bad in life, as strain can cause some people to want to shut down, while other people will meet the challenge and may increase our ambitions. Our minds have natural defenses when it comes to the initial impacts, which can be considered normal (such as the numbing sensation), but if these feelings continue to exist after an extended period of time, we may need to look at the patterns of coping which are being used to design something that has a more positive effect on our minds, but also help to prevent negative medical conditions that can surface as a result of too much un-resolved issues with strain (Hanbury, 2010). We need to try to use our stressors as a way to improve our lives and accept what we may find unbelievable, and be careful not to fall into a negative pattern with our coping mechanisms.

References

Aldwin, C. M. (2007). Stress, Coping, and Development: An Integrative Perspective (2nd ed.). Soho, New York City: Guilford Press.

Crave 4 More. (2008). Disaster Victims Experience Emotional Fall-Out Years Later. Retrieved on April 22, 2010 from the DISASTER VICTIMS.ORG Web Site: http://disastervictims.org/?p=289

Hanbury, R. F. (2010). Recovering from the wildfires. Retrieved on April 22, 2010 from the
American Psychological Association Web Site: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/wildfire.aspx

Smith, M. & Jaffe-Gill, E. (2008). Stress Management: HOW TO REDUCE, PREVENT, AND COPE WITH STRESS. Retrieved on April 22, 2010 from the HELPGUIDE.ORG Web Site: http://helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm

Does the thought of Christmas Make You Blue?

Angel Tears From Heaven — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 11:31:00 GMT

How many times have you forgotten how precious the Christmas season really is because you just don't have the kind of money to give someone a gift that you feel shows how much you appreciate them?

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of the Christmas gift-giving, we forget to step back and look at what the season really represents. For some people it means various things; some think highly religious, some think it's a way to drain the pocket book and still others enjoy the festive lights, good cheer, helping others and remembering the 'good' times.

I am sitting here writing this note while being surrounded by the beautiful lights strung through the house by my husband, and a beautiful tree that was put together with lots of love. The colors and dim hue alone tend to make me feel total peace inside. You know, I have always felt the best part of Christmas was the decorating of the home. It somehow always seems to life my spirits.

Simple things that are done together as a family really make the difference. One of my happier memories as a child was making paper garland with my mom that we strung all over the ceiling. Another truly happy Christmas (one of the best I have ever had) was when the Argall's had me over to their house for the holidays. I don't know that I ever really let them know how important their acts of kindness really have been to me.

On top of all else, my hubby has always made me feel super special at Christmas! He is my lover, my dreamer and my best friend. He has been known to spoil me and so cheers to you my wonderful dream man... The best gift I ever got from him was something I wanted for years and years; my 55-gallon fish tank. I still have it, but after the fire on 581, I simply have not had the cash to get back into it. I am going to start concentrating on doing something great with this tank again.

And it's not just these memories that I think of when I sit back at Christmas time. Some of the funnier things my children have said and done, whether good or bad at the moment of the action, brings a smile to my face. I will share some of these stories with you (although you may suffer by having heard them a million times by now). I trust that there are plenty of people on my facebook page that I can share these thoughts with that haven't heard them already. ;)... )

The Brain: Today, as I was talking to my 4-year old son, he expressed to me that my new rotating tree stand wasn't working right because it had a short in the wire. Considering he learned through our homeschooling, and only one time, what a short in a wire can cause, I didn't expect him to remember the fact. So I told him, "Oh yeah? And are you sure about that?" He replied, "Yessssss." I asked him, "Well, how do you know it's not just plugged in differently?" His simple reply as he always tells me was, "Because I have a brain, REMEMBER? It's in my head, and I use it to think." LOL I love it when he gives me this answer, and today when he told me, it reminded me of a story involving Paige and her brain! :)

One day when Paige was about three years old, and I was testing her knowledge of body parts, I duped her. She knew all kinds of parts, but when I asked her where her brain was, she didn't know what the heck I was talking about. She replied, "I don't know where my brain is mom, but I can only guess!" I was planning on her pointing to a part on her body when she replies, "I think my brain is lost!" I exclaimed, "Lost?!" She said, "Yes, and it has to be lost because Jasmine, Nelly or Autumn put my brain in their backpack, went to their dad's after school, and left it there!" LOL (I loved her blaming her lost brain on everyone in the house so much that I couldn't tell her where her brain really was for another two weeks!) lol

I Am Reminded Of A Sign I Seen In A Doctor's Office

The sign read: To calm yourself down, do the opposite of what you feel like doing at the moment. It only makes too much sense to me. From now on, when I am feeling blue, pitying my life or just plain dragging ass, I'm gonna do something I usually don't do...get on here and type about a memory that makes me laugh. I mean, the worst thing you can do is wallow around in the middle of a bad situation. Why not take my mind off of what is giving me the blahs because feeling sorry for myself doesn't make for good company. Who wants to be around that?

Anyway, it's time for me to let you get back to what you are doing, and I'll post another note again soon!

A Few Thoughts....

Angel Tears From Heaven — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:50:00 GMT

Volume I // Volume II // Volume III // Volume IV // Volume V // VOLUME VI // VII

Happy Holiday!

Well, the sun is up and it's in the sixties today; we missed the snow yesterday! Yeah! It's still pretty chilly outside, but none-the-less, makes me quite happy that the sun is blessing us. I fear our Labor Day weekend was a little screwed up with this weather. Our town doesn't have as many tourists cruising through today. I hope it doesn't hurt the couple of businesses that we have here too much.

I will be working today and bouncing back and forth between cleaning and helping set up a smaller family cook-out that we are having. I wish we had more money for this, because I always enjoy inviting anyone who hasn't had the opportunity for a get-together to join. Not sure I can do that today; and it kind of bums me out. I hope anyone reading this message has someone to share today with. I know first hand, from a past of loneliness that all I wanted on holidays was to share them with someone. It meant a lot to me when people reached out and included me in an event.

School is right around the corner for my children. I always like and dislike school days. ;) I'm one of them parents that likes to have my children home with me; yet I also enjoy some of those quiet moments. It allows me to work easier. ;) I've transferred two children this year to a school they used to go to. It's a very small school, and there will only be four children in their class! There has long been rumors this school would close, but everyone has teamed together to keep it going. There's something about smaller schools that I really adore.

My one daughter is very happy to go back to this school. She lived with her father for one year in North Carolina and had some rather scary moments at the school she was at. She never has to worry about the crime in this smaller school. I'm glad she came back home where she belongs! However, I'll have something new to write about. It appears that because of skipping school in North Carolina that her sister will be in the same classes as she is. We will be working hard at improving her points by doing online schooling as well. Like I told her; never give up, just work at what's been done wrong and all things will come together.

Well, the last thing on my mind to bore you with is that my favorite season is coming around the corner. All the beautiful leaves are somewhat like a fantasy story. I love the fall colors, and it's even verification that it's fast approaching as my husband is out today looking at deer hunting spots with my 'hopefully' future son-in-law. ;) Pretty soon our hubbies, all adorned and dressed in tree attire will become walking trees. And who says these men don't believe in Halloween! ;) I always love the boyish attitude my husband gets when it comes to hunting!

Since I do have a lot to do today, I will have my prices set at $2.00 per minute. Any time it is above and beyond what I would normally be working, I do make my prices a little bit higher. However, I am available for all e-mail readings which will stay the same price and will offer five free minutes to anyone who schedules an appointment with me today. ;)

Giving Up Real Friendships For Drug Buddies

Angel Tears From Heaven — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 18:14:00 GMT

Happy Saturday Afternoon!

     Well, today is a pretty cold day in my neck of the woods. Actually, they are calling for snow later this afternoon! So it's a tad-bit cold outside, and I think I'm just going to huddle with my business; candles glowing and meditation music playing. Each day that I work, I am going to post a new thought of the day; this thought today has to do with experiences involving friendships.

     Remember those people who have gone out of their way to help you in the past, and if they need help, reach out a generous hand in return, but also remember that sometimes hard love is better. There once was a time in my life when I hung around a group of friends that I let use me to get what they wanted. This all came to an end when I finally realized that I was busy buying my friendships. It was a hard realization to come to, and in order to feel better about myself and life, I had to make some drastic changes; changes that weren't easy. I have watched many people that were associated with this group go through changes when it came to me personally. You see, these people that I backed away from still can't get over it, and still want to try to interfere with my happiness (even though they are not successful). What I always wondered was, "Why doesn't anyone else have any problems with their friendships with these people? Why is it only me?"

     Well, I'm not alone any more; as these people have now shown I am not the only one that was being used. I also have figured out the reasons why. Do you know what this comes down to? It comes down to a matter of drug abuse. I was very shocked by this fact; I wasn't expecting this. I was gone for six months, and once I returned, the entire friendship groups had changed. Now, I have always been friends with anyone and not judged them for what they do; as long as it doesn't affect me personally. I had a friend who apparently likes her prescription drugs more for fun than she does for actual pain, and many people always wanted me to ask her if they could get some, and I always had the same response: My friendship has nothing to do with the use of her drugs; as a matter of fact, I don't even care she has them. You see, I thought that was the type of friendship this person needed, but as it turns out, the friend I walked away from also has a problem with wanting drugs. The two teamed up together, and now they are headed down a one-rutt road to hit rock bottom. Now anyone who used to be this person's friend has been cast aside for a little round pill; one that makes her look like death has warmed over, and yet, try as her real friends do; they don't feel there's a problem here.

     I was the ex-friend who was 'too good' for everyone else. Our other best friend is now an ex-friend because she said she didn't want to hang out one night out of risk that people would think she was doing drugs. Now the last friend was in dire need of help; drugs prevented that from happening. There is a lot of hurt because this friend is the one person who thought this would never happen. It's pretty sad, but this person is not going to know what a true friend is until she discovers what rock-bottom is and that those friends she is around for drugs are around only for that reason. Of course, right now, no one will be able to say anything different to this person; they can only sit back and watch the destruction. Many of you will know what I'm talking about, as you have been, or are, going through the same situation.

     As time goes on, I will share with you updates on what happens in this person's life, as well as how it affects those that are around them. This will be done in hopes that you can either help yourself, or others, to prevent this situation from happening. So far, there have been two times people have tried the intervention technique; but all efforts have failed.

     In this situation, I have to say it's important to remember you aren't turning your back completely on the person who is important to you, but you should also remember that you must not cater to harmful events that your significant others are participating in. If you are a friend, you will be there to the end, but when you are a friend, sometimes it's better not to blend. ;)

ADDITIONAL ARTICLES:

Please read my article about how people are afraid of change...click here

Meditation
Keys To Higher Spirituality
Childhood Abuse
Poem: My Father & Article
Lessons Of Love & Giving Up
Understanding Your Reading
Create Your Own Dream Dictionary
Why Compensation Is Required For My Gifts
Groups For More Self Help Created
Judging Others Less Fortunate
Proof Of Miracles & God
Sunday Worship Teresa Style
Our Rules Of Friendship Business

Meditation: Better Spirit, Mind and Energy
Interpret Your Dreams Yourself To Discover Your Future
Consolation Can Be Found Even With Grief
Hypnosis: Past Life Regression
Who Is The Angel Of Death? Have You Experienced This?
True Love Is Possible, Just Don't Give Up
New Poetry Submission By A Talented Writer
Services Based On Amount Of Information For One Question
Services Based On The Number Of Questions
Romance: Compatibility Reading
Channeled Messages...Do You Connect?
Evolution Theory
Simply Thinking
Ghosts/Entities
Spells
Poetry
Special Prayers
Online Dating
Angels
Spiritual Definitions
Controversial Opinions
End Of Time
Tarot Is Evil
Power Of Words
Keep The Other Woman Away
Codependence
Relationship Advice: The Diamond In The Rough
Spells
Poetry
Special Prayers
Karmic Debt
Changes
Controversial Opinions
Ignoring Abuse
Poetry
Colors For Mood Enhancement
Advanced Color Enhancement
Suggested Places To Create Moods
Dirt On Her Face; And Tears In Her Eyes
How Many Of These Children Have You Met?
Shorthand Version Of Childhood Negativity
My True Story Of Child Abuse
How This Has Haunted My Life
The Excitement Of Christmas Is Gone
God Didn't Create The Earth In Seven Days
Putting Timing To The Test
Playing Hide And Seek With Money
Introduction Of A Ghoul
Witnessing The Clock
Obsessive Behaviors Of Love
True Spooky Story: Halloween
Readings Posted
On Your Way, I'm Done With You
Battle Of The Friendships, Help, My Cruiser's Going Down
Are You Tired Of Being The Only One Who Tries?
Relationship Interference: What's The Purpose?
You've Reconciled: Beware Of Hazards Before They Appear
The Perfect Partner Gone Missing
Needing Progress With Communication
ASS + U + ME EQUALS ASSUME
God Bless You Franko
Get One Free Reading If You've Never Met Me
Self Love: A Lesson
Click Here For Specific Relationship Readings,
As Well As Information on how to heal the areas you will find out about.
Control Your Sessions For Optimal Results
Recognizing Professional Abilities
Using good Online Communication
Equal Part I
Equal Part II

What a Rough Week: Volume VII

Angel Tears From Heaven — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 10:48:00 GMT

Welcome To Volume VII Of Dissecting Life

Watch for the articles being connected with this issue by returning often.

Life Can Be Difficult

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I guess this leads me to speak of the power of positive thinking...You must be aware that you have the strength and the inner power to find the way to success, and every obstacle makes us stronger.

When it Rains, It Pours, but When It Shines, There Are Rainbows

Last week, I found myself so disgruntled with the way life was flowing around me that I wanted to just shut down and close my eyes. It was very hard to figure out how to change my life to make it better because it all seemed so over-whelming. Let me tell you what I went through: My car was repossessed; my financial funds were blocked; my grandfather died in a tragic accident and my scooter key was lost and no one thought they could help me to get another one. I cried a lot during this time.

Don't Allow Life To Control You; Control Life

Let me tell you exactly how everything fell into play. We had moved from NC back to MI and were making our car payments, but three of our money orders was lost in the mail. Despite that, I had the proof that I had mailed the payment because I over night my money. Anyway, the bank had the wrong address and sent us notification we never received. So last week, about two in the morning, I was woke up by my daughter informing me that someone was 'stealing' our car. The bank doesn't care about the payments sent, and now wants $14,000 paid all at once to get the car or it is being auctioned. The vehicle is only worth $7000 now. So presto, our ride is permanently gone. I thought that was bad enough, but then I found out about my grandfather.

I found out the next day that my grandfather had passed away. He was ninety years old, and lived a long life; served in the WWII era of time and was a veteran. There is nothing to complain about there, but how he died bothers me. He was going blueberry picking because he wanted to have a pie made and while he was driving, he had a heart attack. The heart attack caused him to stiffen, and he pressed on the gas. He actually flew over one tree, and crashed into another, the vehicle ignited and he burned. I am praying he was already passed on before that happened.

So I go to the funeral, and when I got home, I discovered the only key to my only ride through town was now gone. The key to my scooter. I was so upset, and cleaned the entire house, but it was gone. The dealership said they didn't have a key, and then gave me an ignition that didn't have a key that worked on the gas cap. Only a partial fix. Then to add to the commotion, one of my daughters, who is visiting her father and not only fourteen, but allowed to sleep at her seventeen year old boyfriend's pad while she is there, decided she wanted to stay there cuz it was more fun. I had enough, and definitely was not going to allow no rules to win over my roost of the house.

Then I go to spend money on some items that were needed in the house, and I find out that my account had been blocked because I had to verify my existence, and because of my wildfire, I don't have all the proof I exist. They thought they would just keep my money until whatever, and now I was not only car-less, grandfather-less and key-less, but I now had no money whatsoever! I was snapping! I ended up saying, "If things are going to be like this, even though I have a huge list of things to do, I'll do it tomorrow." I became the world's greatest procrastinator. Life was simply not going the way I wanted. I'm sure many of you reading this have felt like you didn't know how you would get through the turmoil, and just like me, has also been able to look back and not only say I made it through, but also note I brought these hardships to greater levels. You can too!

Motivation Is the Key

It's ironic how the entire situation finally came to a huge change, and gave me some relief.

The key to my success comes from what I've been learning in college; I'm studying to be a spiritual counselor who not only is unique and special, but also can actually help guide people through the rough spots. This information has proven to be an important asset with reference to the hardships life was throwing at me. The hard ball needed to curve so I didn't get hit smack in the head with even more troubles. Motivation is what helps human beings to change their lives, but think about how hard it is to feel energized when everything around you just seems to be falling apart.

Since the only way you are going to conquer the obstacles is by altering the existence in which you are living, motivation is one of the most important aspects to guide you to smoother waters. That is why I am dedicating this issue to this area of life. I will not only write stories, give advice and suggestions, but I will also post all of the material from my assignments to help you better understand the facts behind human emotion and how motivation actually can be affected in many ways.

It's not true that people can't change, but there's a process to being able to do so. This process will also be indicated within this issue of 'Dissecting Life'. By the time you are done reading this information, you should have a good basis and understanding of what to do to alter situations about not only your own personality, but also with those things we find hard to comprehend and deal with. I will also be sharing with you some of my own personal hopes and dreams for the future, and all of this is a part of the process involved with motivation and change.

Nothing in life really happens by chance is what I have discovered. Each thing we encounter is the reaction to an action, whether it's our own or the result of someone else. Therefore, all things we face are able to be changed. Which has been the focus point behind the readings I have given people for a long time now. It's not what the future holds for you, it's what you can do to reach the future. My ultimate goal is to help you realize the greatest potential exists within the mind itself.

You wouldn't know what being happy was like if you didn't know you were sad. It also goes to appropriately say that you wouldn't know there was good if you didn't feel the bad. We need both sides of the coin to get the complete picture. So embrace the hardships.

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My Rainbow Following the Storm

Yes, as you will read in the articles combined in this issue of 'Dissecting Life', nothing but good came out of these situations in my life. While I thought it would be impossible for me to admit something like this, let alone change my entire life around to get what I want and learn how to handle the stress, I can honestly say that God had a purpose behind the intent.

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The Excitement Of Christmas Is Gone
God Didn't Create The Earth In Seven Days
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Many People Are Afraid Of Change

Angel Tears From Heaven — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 10:08:00 GMT

Many People Are Afraid Of Change

In my sociology class, I learned that most people, cultures, groups, etc., are afraid of change. I believe this is the truth, because no matter what kind of change I have in my life, whether it's good or seemingly bad, I always dread the initial start of it. After all, change means that everything you once understood and had an organized plan with is now going to be turned upside down, and for a little while, it will seem as though it's a hassle, or that the change is not for the best for the first couple of days. Sometimes the change is adaptable in just a couple of days, but that's the key; being able to adapt.

I'm No Exception To This Rule

A change occurs when we change the status we currently have in our life. For instance, one day I was a writer making money to survive (along with other businesses), without a college education, and the next minute, I'm planning a $60,000 adventure with college. Before I know it, I'll have a new status; one that should really benefit my life and career. For one brief moment when I started going to college though, all I could think about was the money I am going to owe in the end, and what if I lost my interest in what I was going to be studying? After all, I just kind of stretched my arms one day and said, hmmmm, I wonder what it takes to get into college for Psychology? Within fifteen minutes I was writing my entrance essay. Today, I have a 3.90 gpa, and I'm loving every minute of college. My next worry is how hard is it going to be to start my own business once I am ready? Is this going to be a waste? I have figured out in life that it is correct, and everything happens for a reason. In the end, no matter how bad it seems to start off at, the outcome usually leads to something really good in the end.

Just This Week My Emotions Were a Whirlwind

I guess for you to understand how I felt this week, you would have to know what I have gone through in the last three years of my life. Well, lets start it at four. Okay, it starts like this: Once upon a time, my husband and I were making good money, but needed to, I guess, discover something new. We were pretty much to the point we had everything we wanted, and we sold everything to get to where we wanted to go. Now, the first time, and yes, I say first time we did this, we never did leave, and we used the money to replenish the empty shell that we had left. The second time, we sold those items once again, the remainder of what we hadn't sold before, and we moved away. We were doing better there than we were here, and had we stayed longer, would have been even better yet, but as it turns out, I just can't seem to quit missing my family, friends and environment from the Upper Peninsula. So after crying every time I had a SCAM to get a friend to move where I was, and failing, we decided to move back. My husband was as happy as I was, but we still wanted a change.

So we talk to Dan, who has a good job, and Jeff is going to get a job and I'm still writing and making my own money and we decide that we are going to have our dream of combining all money together so we could all reach our dreams. We get back here, Dan gets laid off, my husband can't find a decent job, and I started going to college which means if I want to get an A, I can't work like I was before. As if that wasn't bad enough, then we lost all of those items we had worked so hard for already to a wildfire, without insurance, and had to move to a home that was completely destroyed from the old occupants. Took two weeks, and many people to get this place livable again, and we struggled. With lots of help I must add. ;) Anyway, we been making it, and I quit feeling like I had to have things to be happy in life, and actually accepted we will never have our dream, and then like a bolt of lightening, all things have changed.

My husband started working good hours again, Dan just got called back to work, and I can work without pressure and still put good time into college. This is good right? Wow, it scared me! I'm sure you are wondering why, and I'll explain. I had to ask myself after all of this time, "Why now?" Sound weird? I don't think so. Once upon a time I had everything I wanted, and just like that, it was gone. Now all these goals are going to be put into play, and I have learned more than anyone in my life time that nothing is a for sure deal. Just because you get it, doesn't mean you keep it. I think I'm afraid to be happy about it. ;) However, it's been only one week, and already I've adapted to a new schedule, and I'm a much better person for it. ;) I actually like to clean, organize, work, do college, cook and deliver food to my husband when he's working close. lol I didn't know I had it in me, but don't call me Suzy....lol You know, Suzy homemaker. ;)

I'm Going With the Changes

Why not go with the changes? I don't care how much I worry about, the good far outweighs the bad, and so what if it's a taste of good, but for a little while? lol The way I figure it, this could be the break we all need, and so what if things change again to be different than what I want it to be? At least it wouldn't be ten straight years of hell and torture. ;) Having more money is supposed to always be a good thing, but this time, instead of making a lot of plans with my cash, and instead of buying everything I want, I think I'm gonna bank it. lol At least if a fire takes down my home again, I can run to my account and it will be just fine. lol

Sources of Motivation

Biological and Physiological Aspects of Motivation

Psychological Needs and Motivation

Personality Traits, Self, and Motivation

Goals and Incentives

Emotions as Motivators

New Identity; Goals For the Future

How I Can Help

Additional Materials

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Global Warming? Is This a Hoax?

Angel Tears From Heaven — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 07:30:00 GMT

Global Warming? Is This a Hoax?

Huge natural disasters...new untreatable diseases...natural resources being used up...ozone layer getting holes...what is causing this turmoil on earth? is it what we have been doing as human beings, or is this a natural re-occurrence of the past?

Explanations From Environmental Science

Chemicals we are using is causing holes in the ozone layer, which means when the sun explodes, we are hit with radiation.
We are overpopulating the earth and using up all natural resources.
Lack of trees is causing a lack of oxygen, and not just in the rain-forest.
Problems with the ozone is causing imbalance in the atmosphere, which leads to huge natural disasters.
Lack of trees, land and native wildlife causes less filtration, and less of a chance to discover new diseases, or cures to both old and new ones.
Actually, just about everything we do causes problems with the functions of the earth, and going green can cost a lot of money, but will help us survive in the end.

Spirituality and the End of Time

The bible and religion would tell us that the end of time is near, and all of these problems with the earth is happening as a result of what "Revelations" has predicted. Different cultures have predicted the end of time, and many of these groups of people have done so with the use of the holy scriptures.

New Scientific Discoveries

I have always said what has recently been experimented with when it comes to the change with our planet. I have always thought that we don't just rotate in one direction, but also at the North and South poles. If there is rotation at the poles on the earth, then we would naturally be moving back and fourth in an oval direction, which means our distance from the sun is going to be changing. This would mean the weather would change. One moment it will be cold and the creation of icebergs would take place, and the next, the sun would be melting them. This process could create instability with the planet, and while we may feel we know a time-frame for when things will happen, I don't think we necessarily know where on the time-line we are actually at. Yes, I feel history repeats itself, and it's a matter of knowing where in this process we are at. As of lately, I have watched a documentary where they have discovered we do move on more than one axis with the planet, and what I have thought all along may very well be the realistic truth about what is really going on, which is a natural process, and really doesn't have anything to do with global warming after all. Still, be good to mother earth.

Sources of Motivation

Biological and Physiological Aspects of Motivation

Psychological Needs and Motivation

Personality Traits, Self, and Motivation

Goals and Incentives

Emotions as Motivators

New Identity; Goals For the Future

How I Can Help

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Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:58:00 GMT

Attachment Styles

Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:44:00 GMT

Attachment Styles

Introduction

When a child forms a bond with someone who is important to their life, the interaction is the focal point in which the child feels secure enough to explore what is around them when they are alone. This theory, which was introduced by John Bowlby in 1988 was explored more in depth by a famous psychologist named Mary Ainsworth with her experiment “Strange Situation” (Dewar, 2008). This experiment was conducted in a specific way where the mother was the focus of the study. When the mother is alone with the child in the room, she interacts with the child by letting them explore interesting items found within the room (Sagi, IJzendoorn & Korean-Karie, 1991). Then a complete stranger enters the room, and can be seen talking to their mom; then shifts the attention away from what the mother is doing, and she leaves the room. When she returns, she comforts the child and then leaves with the complete stranger, which is then followed by the stranger coming back alone. In the end, the mother comes back and interacts with the child once again. The way the child reacts to the greeting that the mother gives he/she, shows how much the child will still explore without the mother being there, and what the reaction of the child is once they return (Sagi, IJzendoorn & Korean-Karie, 1991). This test was designed to explain the mother-child bond.

Children have different reactions to this experiment and will usually follow one of the four typical patterns found within the experiment. The child that is securely-attached may not like it when the mother leaves, but will independent enough to explore the room and is happy when the mother returns (Dewar, 2008). A child who is ‘avoidant-insecure’ doesn’t really check out what is in the room, but also doesn’t show much emotion when the mom leaves, nor when she returns. An ‘ambivalent’ child will explore a little bit, but has a lot of anxiety with the separation and may even act angry at the mother when she returns because she left in the first place (Dewar, 2008). The final type is the disorganized-insecure child because they often have a mixture of avoidant and resistant behaviors and can be an indication of a risk for behavioral and developmental problems (Dewar, 2008). There are varying reasons as to why some children will lean towards specific security patterns.

Major Findings

I think the biggest point to this experiment is to show the importance of the behavior of the guardian and the style of parenting they are using to better understand the child's reaction to separation anxiety. (Although it’s also important to say that not all insecure attachments are the result of parenting skills either.) A child that is secure is associated with parents who are sensitive and responsive to their needs (Dewar, 2008). A child that is avoidantly-attached tends to have parents who are not there with love and support and sometimes they even make the child feel rejected. The resistant-insecure children have parental figures that show a lot of emotions, but they are not necessarily consistent with the ways they are raising their children (Dewar, 2008). So I honestly feel that the first and foremost aspect with separation anxiety comes from the environment in which children come from.

It’s also important to look at other aspects that could affect security; the temperament of the infant itself (because it is differed), stress (such as nutrition that is poor) and genetic factors also contribute to the secure attachment of children (Dewar, 2008). In fact, a lack of dopamine could get in the way of an infant’s motivation to even want comfort from their mother (Dewar, 2008). So certainly, there is also a biological, chemical, hormonal and environmental combination involving childhood attachments and separation anxiety.

One Major Cross-Cultural Difference

This experiment went further, by looking for any differences that could be found between different cultures. The results ranged from being 70% secure with the attachment classifications in the United States to 52% of the children having avoidantly-attached infants in Bielfeld, Germany (Dewar, 2008). Now, in some of these cases that were studied, it could have been that the infants being used in the experiment were reacting to the experiment itself, and in other instances, such as Israeli children, they barely ever get to meet strangers, so it makes sense they would have more fear. Cultural differences definitely play a way in which a child is going to attach to their parent, because different cultures have different ideas when it comes to the environment and interactions found within them (Dewar, 2008). The problem with this study is that it was conducted mostly with mothers and children, but there are so many children in this world who have a different type of parental support, such as many relatives raising other relatives’ children (Dewar, 2008). This is just one example.

My Reaction

I wasn’t using my sociological imagination when I first started thinking about this topic. My opinion was that this whole situation we are studying with children and security was solely developed by the upbringing. I found out there is so much more to this. Such as the biology of our bodies, chemistry of our brains and sometimes even genetic factors. I never realized that in some cases, certain attachments could be a risk factor for future disorders. My heart is also going out to those parents out there who feel their child doesn’t love them as much because these chemicals and hormones are not balanced within the body.

Conclusion

Before I read the conflicts involved with this study, I immediately wondered why they didn’t use any children who was being raised by someone other than the mother herself. This test itself does not tell me concisely whether or not it’s the maternal bond that helps a child to develop their security patterns. I can honestly say that growing up in a very dysfunctional home as a child, I was very insecure with myself; actually to the point of never speaking up for myself or feeling it was okay to explore what my surroundings. After I went into foster care, and my foster mom actually made me start expressing myself, whether feeling fear or not, and showed me that it was normal to feel the emotions I was experiencing that I became the secure individual that I am today. I think it’s more who gives you the support that is necessary to becoming secure as a child, and not so much that it has to come from a maternal bond.

References

Dewar, G. (2008). Is your child securely attached? The Strange Situation Test. Retrieved on April 27, 2010 from the Parenting Science Web Site: http://www.parentingscience.com/strange-situation.html

Sagi, A., Van IJzendoorn, M., & Koren-Karie, N. (1991). Primary appraisal of the Strange Situation: A cross-cultural analysis of preseparation episodes. Developmental Psychology, 27(4), 587-596. doi:10.1037/0012-1649.27.4.587.

New Studies Proves Emerging Adulthood is Now Happening At A Later Date

Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:42:00 GMT

Abstract

The pattern of entering into adulthood has changed by almost five years in contrast to people who lived one hundred years ago. There are many reasons for these changes, which will be discussed more deeply with this paper. People are leaving adolescence, but not necessarily entering the stages of adulthood due to changes in goals and the freedom to decide on their own what they want. While people may take the step to move out on their own, they are not necessarily starting families or getting married. These people are pre-occupied with different ideas on wanting to find the ‘right’ love, career, paying off debts, and many other different ideas. This has changed the way people are entering adulthood, and this new stage has been coined “Emerging Adulthood” because of this.

Emerging Adulthood

In the past, emerging into adulthood was something taken very seriously at a very young age. This transition has been changing in life and has happened at such a slow rate, it has not always been as easy to recognize the actual changes that have taken place. During the year of 1970, most of the people who were at the age of twenty one were either planning to be married, or were married already and had either started working on having a family or had a family that existed already (Arnett, 2006). Things have really changed since then, as marriage has now been put off by about five more years due to education lasting a lot longer because people no longer just want to have any particular job, but one that pays well and is a profession that is well liked. At this point, in later years, we are taking longer to get to adulthood than we have before (Arnett, 2006). Most of us are not marrying when we are turning eighteen years old, don’t want to be parents yet, and don’t find longer term jobs until later in their twenties. People want to explore their options in the love area and because of these reasons, we can’t say that we are in an ‘extended adolescence” nor can we call it a period of “young adulthood” (Arnett, 2006). The new way of thinking can be called an ‘emerging adulthood’ because life is not the same as it has always been.

My Personal Experience with My stages of adulthood took place when I was 17 years of age. It wasn’t an easy transition for me. I went out on my own, ended up graduating from high school and became an unmarried mother by the age of 18. Life was not easy, and higher education was not thought of until much later in life. I did not understand how complicated life would be when I went out on my own at a young age, and soon wished I could go back to living under the roof of an adult figure, but when my son was born, my entire life was changed. I became a full time employee (not with the final career I wanted to be) and raised my child. About three years later, I entered into marriage. This was another stage that indicated I had entered into adulthood. Moving out on my own, having a child and getting married were all signs that I had entered the transition from adolescence into adulthood.

Comparing and Contrasting

At the time I had entered into my adulthood stages, things had already changed, and I was considered to be a ‘young’ mother. Most of my friends were going off to college during this time in my life, and were already putting off marriage and family for many more years yet. Things have been very different in comparison to my great grandmother who was married at the age of fifteen and had 22 children! It was simpler when my grandmother had to make decisions. It was expected at a young age to find a good provider for the family and for my grandmother to raise the children while my grandfather paid the bills and put food in the home.

Things have really changed. Now people who are leaving adolescence and entering into adulthood have more options. Women are no longer expected to just stay home and raise a family. They have opportunities for college, and careers that were not as strong of an option back then (Regan, 2004). People now can take their time with finding love, and what they feel is right for them. This has changed the course of how things happen in terms of adulthood itself. I doubt anyone from this day and age would want to produce as many children as my great grandmother did, nor get married and settle down without wanting to educate themselves further to have good income. To me, the phase of ‘emerging adulthood’ simply means you no longer live with your parents, but you don’t have to conform to jumping into the adult duties and have more time to explore what you want with the freedom to do so. There is a lot more to have to worry about today than there was back then. Many people take much longer to pay back their debts for their educations (Regan, 2004). Life is more complex than it was back one hundred years ago, or at least the worries have become different.

Conclusion

I think that the transition from childhood to adulthood is both easier and more difficult in comparison to the last 100 years. The reason I say this is back when there were not as many options, you knew what to expect, how to act, and what your life was going to be. You accepted your role in society and did what was expected of you. This would be simple and less pressure, but now, there are many more options. People can strive for more happiness in their adulthood lives now than once was able to be done. Yet, having to look at all the options and make a decision can be a very complex and hard choice to make. So in the past, I feel people may have found live fewer complexes with their roles, but maybe those people were not as happy as they could have been. In this day and age, more happiness can be achieved, but accepting the roles we are going to play in society has become more complex.

References

Arnett, Jeffrey. (2006). Emerging Adulthood: Books and Articles. Retrieved from the Jeffrey
Jensen Arnett, Ph.D. Website: http://jeffreyarnett.com/articles/EABOOK2004ch1.pdf

Regan, T. (2004). Emerging Adulthood. Retrieved on May 2, 2010 from the Abt SRBI Web Site:
http://www.srbi.com/time_emerging_adulthood.html

Thanksgiving....hmmmm....

Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 01:42:00 GMT

Welcome To Volume V Of Dissecting Life

The magazine is a little behind....

....But better late than never!

Happy Thanksgiving!

      I first want to say Happy Thanksgiving to every person out there, and note whether you celebrate this tradition where you live, or not, you have a lot to be thankful for, but I also want to state that I understand for some people, this tradition can lead to feelings of frustration that can be emotionally draining and hard to deal with. If you need help during this period of time, don't be afraid to reach out to me, because I am but one click away.

     I am using my tarot cards to design this message in hopes that it will be able to reach the hearts of people out there who are reading this message. The first message I am receiving involves the fact that it is both inspiration and very hard right now for many people because of the merging that takes place. While it's nice to get together with some people, sometimes it's frustrating to get together with others, and sometimes even more frustrating if you don't get together with the person you really want to be with. Now is a good time to keep an eye on those people who around you, but beware how much you really want to say, unless it's something you'll be thankful for. ;)

     For some, it will be a struggle to get through this holiday season, and it's because they feel like someone is being cold to them. They feel like they are in a partnership with someone emotionally, but are feeling very much alone. This is a trial to overcome, but remember, just because you feel alone doesn't mean you are, and according to the message I am receiving, many of you are being watched by someone who would like to spend the holiday with you, but don't know how to ask. This tells me things may become much easier for you in the future.

Global Climate

Along With This Holiday, Remain Strong Above All Else

Being strong will bring you inner peace!

Take control of your life's destiny.

Personal Reflection

I have not always had wonderful Thanksgiving, so I understand how it feels to find it crappy. My mother liked her alcohol and fun times more than she did the actual tradition, and it really rubbed off. I can't count the number of times as a young adult that me and my children were invited to her dinner, only to have her cancel it one day before the dinner was to take place. I didn't have money, and couldn't put a dinner on, and sat by myself, without a boyfriend with my children eating hamburgers. Because of this, I now focus my tradition with my personal in-home family, and now later in life, my mother wants me to participate in hers, but doesn't understand the detachment. So if you are having a bad time, please know, I fully understand why Thanksgiving may not be the most favorite holiday for you as well. Remember I am here for you.

Many Blessings, Teresa

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Physiological Needs and Motivation

Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 15:35:00 GMT

Physiological Needs and Motivation

Watch for the articles being connected with this issue by returning often.

Putting Timing To The Test
Playing Hide And Seek With Money
Introduction Of A Ghoul
Witnessing The Clock
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First of all, human beings have a strong need to want to fit in with other people; we are very social creatures. Then on the other side of the coin, you have some human beings who enjoy power more than they do the company of others. So which one is the right solution to achieve what you have always wanted? Honestly, the best answer is the one I am about to give you: be a little of both sides of the coin. To be honest with you, your social circle may change several times through the course of life, and this may be due to the decisions of those around you; or because it's time to move on. Yes, sometimes moving on is the hardest part, but it's always the part you thank yourself for later.

The Secret Equation For Life Success

The equation to getting what you want is the best secret to conducting your life. It goes something like this: You first need to recognize the need for a change in the situation you are contemplating on. Once you know what needs to be changed, you need to figure out what needs to be done in order to achieve success. (This solution may not be the one your heart really wants; but your mind will show you why.) Once you know what needs to be done, you will stick to the plan to create the outcome and in the end, you will have acquired what you feel you are worth. So lets sum this up now:

RRECOGNIZE PROBLEM = FINDING A SOLUTION + THE ACTION NECESSARY TO COMPLETE THE SOLUTION = REACHING YOUR GOAL

Now, before I explain the process with the example I am going to provide, I would like to explain a little bit more about how important each step of the process really is. First of all, think back to your childhood and what you dreamed of as being a realistic, but perfect type of relationship. Do you have that right now in your life; you feel successful at achieving that dream? Most people have not, and if you have, then congratulations, but if you don't have what you feel is important to have love, then there is apparently a problem. So this would be the first step in the plan; recognizing something needs to change.

Of course the example I am going with is but one facet of life and there are so many more aspects that are important to use this method with as well, but lets move forward. Okay, so we are pretending that you are in a relationship right now that doesn't match up to your dream. You have always felt that in order for a relationship to be perfect for you personally, the partner you are with must be willing to listen to how you feel and make compromises if they can out of the kindness of their heart. However, you have realized that your partner of three years cuts you off when you are expressing yourself, tells you that you don't know what you are talking about and has family and friends who agree with him.

THE PROBLEM IS: You are not feeling respected or loved enough to try to at least make you happy. So now you know the problem, you also know the goal. You need to be in a relationship that has good communication because you will feel respected and happy. Respect and happiness are the goals. This part is probably the easiest step in the discovery of your needs process, and as a result of admitting there is a problem, you can now work at finding a solution. Now, you can either make a list of what you know is necessary for change, or you can read up on the topic and design your approach through a specific manner. It is important to note in this situation that not all solutions seem to be what you want, and some even seem scary, but if you do what is right for yourself, you are better off in the end. Now, before I explain the next process, I want to discuss a little bit more about human nature.

Which Personality Type Are You?

There are two types of personality types when explaining about motivation, and while scientists will argue the theories as to which concept of personality is most important, I stand strong in my stance that combining both is really the most beneficial.

Some people base their lives on what other people think of them and being accepted by those people who are around their lives., and some people tend to base their decisions on a need for power. As a human being, we are very social creatures and from birth, we strive for acceptance and being able to fit in with the people in our social networks. The problem with being like this is some people will pass up their dreams in order to fit in, which in a sense is pretty much failing on yourself to please other people. If the people who are in your life are truly your friend, they will always feel that you 'fit' into the group whether you decide to do something different in your life or not. In fact, many people will say they don't like the feeling of power and advancement because they would rather be liked, but in all reality, we all want the feeling of power because it makes us feel like we are in control of our life and situation.

When we make our goals and have the determination to settle for no less than we deserve, the method in which we elect to handle the situation has incentives and reinforcements. Lets now get into the example that I want to share to help you better understand what we are discussing. Lets say that you and your partner have been together for three years and you've been disrespected as noted above for most of this time. Lets also add that you don't want to make waves and lose your partner, with the additional possibility of all the friendships and family members involved as well, but you are very unhappy inside. One one hand, you are afraid to start over, and you worry that you won't find anyone else, and perhaps someone as crappy as they are may be better than being alone. These fears are happening because of your desire to fit in, but as in all motivating factors, the need for what you feel real love is really pushes you to obtaining it; it's really hard to ignore what you are feeling.

The fact of the matter is if you don't want just any old 'love', but prefer to feel happy in your relationship, you need to hone in on the power you have inside, an din the process of doing this, you may discover that your social circle is going through huge changes. This is where you must begin your journey. What we want, which becomes our goal, will push us to do something about the problem. The plan of action will bring good results a little at a time, and therefore will pull you closer towards getting what you want. Now, if you already understand the only solution to find a happy love is by being with someone new, then your next goal will be to heal, then figure out a plan to get out and meet other people. Perhaps part of the solution is to find more love in yourself so you won't settle for less. Finally, you may also have to research what is necessary to love yourself, or what would be the most positive way to handle breaking up. You must think things through entirely and completely, and then you stick to the plan of action. Short term goals create smaller but happier moments, but the good news is all those smaller moments bring you to the height of success.

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DEALING WITH LIFE SPECIFIC ISSUES

Sometimes life can be overwhelming; especially when everything just seems to bombard you all at once; and none of it feels good. As you read at the beginning of this motivational lecture, I had been through so much in just three short days that I didn't know what to do and wanted to shut down from the depression I was experiencing. However, I dealt with each issue the best way that I knew how. Let me break it down for you and show you the end results to some very complicated matters.

car repossession: The stress of the situation had my stomach in pain! The first thing I needed to do was bring peace to my heart, which meant I had to figure out a way for my husband to get to work now. I made a list of priorities: call the bank or get another vehicle that we could afford. Well, I didn't get the car back, but I do have another vehicle set in motion. PROBLEM SOLVED.
grandfather's death: Going to my grandfather's funeral was actually very scary for me. I was afraid to go to it due to the fact that even though this has nothing to do with me, the entire family has been at war with each other; each of them on dividing sides. I have chosen not to be a part of any of this, but as a result, I have not seen any of either side of the family, with the exception of my one brother, for the last 12 years. However, I needed to feel good about myself, and in order to do that, I was going to have to pay my respects to my grandfather. To feel good, I was going to have to face virtual strangers who know more about me than I do, but my plan was to keep myself tight lipped when it comes to other people (unless, of course, the answer had to do with only myself). I followed my plan, ended up pleased to see loved ones who seemed long forgotten and felt at peace that I showed I cared about my grandpa, even though my mother didn't bother to show up. My goal was accomplished. I feel good about myself.
child acting up to have no rules: Two daughters once left to live with their dad; I was no fun with rules when there is someone who lets them live like mini adults in a world that is sometimes cruel. My seventeen year old got pregnant three months after she moved in with her father, and the other one never went to school, hung out with bad people and got into drugs. The second one has moved back and does not want to return, but now the oldest must stay 1500 miles away to be with the father of her child (I am happy they are working on things). Anyway, in the time that the other two girls were with their father, I felt heartbroken, so heartbroken that I worried it would happen again with the last of the three children I had in my first marriage. So I changed, and I allowed myself to be treated harshly; without caring about how the lies were hurting me. I ended up letting my 14 year old dictate how I would run my home to try to make her happy. The outcome: I ended up crying still because I won't let her sleep over a 17 year old boys house, in the same bed with him and posting pictures on facebook or have no curfew (in a city filled with crime). I figured out real fast that I needed to have peace in my life and be stronger in dealing with family matters. This was the only way I would feel happy as a parent. In order to take control of the situation, I decided to remain calm, but at the same time, make it perfectly clear that my daughter could not just stay with her father and that I would put up the biggest fight of my life in court. I also decided to first approach their father in a very kind manner designed to show him I'm not trying to hurt him or make him look bad. I followed through with my plan, and her father actually made her do the right thing and face consequences for something she did before she went there. He also stuck up for me to his wife and requested that she apologize to me for what she did to me throughout this situation. (Don't worry, in my added material, I have personal accounts of the terror I went through with each of these situations.) Last, my daughter quit focusing on moving away to be with her boyfriend and asked me to help her with school when it starts to get her caught up. Now I feel peaceful in my life. I also feel in control of the situation and as a result, I am able to focus on something other than what I worry the other side of the fence is doing. Yet another success!
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Physiology and Motivation

Angel Tears From Heaven — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 12:43:00 GMT

Physiology and Motivation

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Have you ever felt really hungry, but no matter what you grabbed to eat, it didn't seem to be what you are searching for? I have found myself having physiological cravings, and have not been able to identify what food item I truly wanted. From this website I have looked at, this doctor says that physiologically, we may be missing nutrients, vitamins, etc. that we need to live productive lives and craving specific items repeatedly could be a sign that you could be at risk for other health problems (Fischer, 2010). I have definitely experienced these physiological types of motivation.

I have read that this can also happen because of a matter of confusion. Sometimes our mind gets confused to what our body really needs, because we crave specific foods when we are lacking in specified types of nutrition or vitamins (Fischer, 2010). This can also happen because our body is craving something, but we look at a picture involving some delectable food source, and even though that is not the true nutritional value that is needed to make us feel sustained, we get confused that is what we are hungry for (Fischer, 2010). In this case, as I have done, your craving will not go away because it was not satisfied and can lead to very unhealthy eating habits. It's no wonder with the television ads why some people find themselves getting stuck with unhealthy eating habits. Have you ever experienced this type of physiological motivation from the body and the confusion that can stem from the brain?

Biological and Physiological Aspects

The Process of Eating
We all want to eat and are directed in physiological manners, as well as the fact that we all have different reasons behind why we want to eat. It all begins by understanding we need to eat because our body is sending us signals that we must take care of ourselves, but sometimes we also will eat because for other other reasons other than the physiological aspect, such as psychologically eating (Deckers, 2010). For the most part, what keeps me normal with the eating process is the fact that when my body says it is hungry, I will make sure that I take care of that notion because it has a tendency to make me sick if I don’t (Deckers, 2010). Lets take a look at the factors behind eating and what causes me to stop eating as well.

The Sensations that Led Me To Eat.
This morning I woke up to find my mouth watering because of the aroma of eggs and bacon being cooked. My mind cognitively told me that if I didn’t feed myself, I would find myself feeling weak inside; in fact, my stomach was growling at the mere fact of what I was smelling because the scent itself was very alluring (Deckers, 2010). There are many different types of sensations involved in the physiological aspect, some of which involves feeling dizzy, having a headache, my stomach growling and feeling a dry mouth; which in this case, my mouth was watering (Deckers, 2010). These physiological motivators in my life keep me balanced and able to take care of all of the other goals I have in life as well. Taking care of the basic needs of the human body must be met to be able to take care of anything else.

What Makes Me Stop Eating
What pulls me to stop eating is that I am to quit eating once I have the feeling of having sustenance. When I feel a little bloated, and don’t want to move, this is one thing that makes me want to stop eating. Another factor is that if I were to keep eating when I didn’t want to, I would feel not only uncomfortable, but I would also possibly make myself feel sick. This may occur because of hormones that are released within our blood chemistry as well (Deckers, 2010). Our body and brain will work together in a process of helping us to understand what our main goal should be when it comes to taking care of ourselves. We know when we have to eat, as well as when we should stop.

References

Deckers, L. (2010). Motivation: Biological, psychological, and environmental (3rd ed.). Boston: Allyn & Bacon.

Fischer, C. (2010). Identify Your Food Cravings . Retrieved on June 19, 2010 from the Body Mind Spirit Guide Web Site: http://www.bodymindspiritguide.com/article.cfm?articleID=18268

Conclusion
Unless we are eating for psychological reasons, which in many cases, there are people who are, our bodies are a complex process involving hormones, the brain, neurons, etc. In order to take care of any further goals, as I have learned last week, we must be able to take care of our basic needs first. If they are not met, then we will not find it easier to accomplish anything else. This is true of my breakfast meal as well because I couldn’t walk down to the town beach if I was so hungry that I felt like I would hurl in doing so. This means my plan to deal with being over-weight would be slowed down, or maybe even prevented if I didn’t take care of my needs with nutrition first.

This article takes a look at emotions and how these emotions can induce feelings of an impulsive nature or how there are benefits involved in using self-control. Those who choose to be impulsive do so by choosing the route that provides the least rewards and someone who uses self-control may find themselves waiting longer for the rewards but there are not only more of them, but they are more satisfying in themselves. Physiological arousal happens, as an example, when our emotions and body act together with a situation. In the case of losing my vacation days, I could say I almost could have tears in my eyes, my heart would beat harder and I would feel tired as a result of the depressive news; at the same time, I may resort to irrational behavior as a result.

Our motivations will start off as the desire to survive in life.

The Sensations of Hunger and Why We Feel Full

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Tendencies Found In Other Cultures

I expected there would be differences between cultures when it comes to being impulsive. This was expressed with a research study involving consumer impulse buying behavior (Kacen & Lee, 2002). It was discovered first of all, that men like to buy things because they need them, and women like to buy things for social reasons with identity. In other words, women are more likely to be impulse buyers than males because other women socially find it acceptable to buy things impulsively (Kacen & Lee, 2002). In addition with this information, it is also noted that younger people will buy more impulsively than the older generation, and I think this is because the older generation understands that the money just spent on something that is meaningless, without any thought, may be required for a stove that breaks down during the winter, but if the money was spent foolishly, you’ll have a hard time getting that stove. Many older people, in my opinion, were once young, possibly impulsive during that time, and remember what it is like to need money you would have had if you weren’t so careless. So rather than be impulsive with buying, the older generation will save their cash instead for that emergency moment that comes unexpectedly (Kacen & Lee, 2002). It’s actually tied hand in hand with the fact that older people are also able to control their emotions much better, and what is impulsiveness? Impulsiveness is connected with emotional arousal, and if younger people have a hard time controlling their behavior as a result of emotions, then they are much more likely to also buy things impulsively as well (Kacen & Lee, 2002). To me, this goes to explain how our experiences teach us through life how to control ourselves, and this all ties into motivation, emotions and being impulsive.

There are two different kinds of people when it comes to motivation. You have the ‘collectivist’ and the ‘individualist’ (Kacen & Lee, 2002). The collectivist is the person who is going to be motivated by sticking to the norms of society and following the duties and rules that the group feels is important, and the individualist is a person who does things on a more independent level and is motivated by their own beliefs, wants and rights. They set their own goals above all others and are very rational when it comes to relationships with other people (Kacen & Lee, 2002). In some cultures, people are taught at a very young age to act a specific way, rather than the way they would want to act. If someone is going to be impulsive, they are doing it because they are seeking out sensation and arousal with their emotions, and if one culture teaches the occupants not to act out in such a fashion, then the particular group of people are less likely to be impulsive (Kacen & Lee, 2002). What our cultures say is acceptable for society is most likely going to affect how people control their behavior with their emotions.

There is a difference between the United States and East Asia when it comes to being impulsive. Here, in the United States, we are taught to be rational when it comes to our decision making, but we are given the free-will to decide for ourselves if that is what we want to do (Kacen & Lee, 2002). This means we are more likely to be impulsive than people found in the East Asian communities because the people of this culture are taught not to put their own interests first and that their goal in life is going to be social harmony. Because of this type of system that the East Asian communities have, they are more likely to rely on what they need from the community that is around them, where in the United States, people rely more on themselves due to their independent natures (Kacen & Lee, 2002). Different cultures will affect emotions, behavior and motivation in a variety of ways, depending on what type of culture is prominent.

HOW HAS YOUR PAST AFFECTED WHO YOU HAVE BECOME TODAY?

The environment plays a very large part in how you handle your situations in life. Would you consider yourself to be a collectivist or an individualist? Which would you prefer to be?

Life can be rough, but what we do with raising our children can help to promote healthy motivating factors.

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