The Light in the Tunnel

Blog will be moving

2009-11-20T21:29:00Z

Hi there my avid readers, I just wanted to let you know that I will be moving my blog to http://blog.mroveron.com so all the postings that you have come to know and love will now be found there. Thanks for the readership and all the wonderful comments that you all have left. I will be providing the same great service as always, just blogging in a different place. Thanks again Mr. Overon 1-800-275-5336 *03732137

Clearing out emotional and physical baggage

2009-10-18T17:27:00Z

Many times we obtain so much baggage, and clutter that before we know it we need to have a yard sale or be buried by it. First we need to think about what it is that we truly need. Things like family heirlooms are things to keep because they keep us rooted and help us see where we've been and what we come from.
Other items like knick knacks and things that really have no value other than esthetics really are not things to keep ahold of.

Baggage can be boxes but many times its emotional. So how do we get rid of emotional baggage? Have an emotional yard sale, and your potential clients may bring you tears, and some may help you laugh. I use the phrase 'yard sale' to symbolize what is needed to be done. At these sales, we dig through all of the clutter and open boxes and sort through the (for lack of a better word) crap that just needs to find a new home.

So what do you do when you want to have a EYS? Sit down in a quite place and recap over all of your memories, even the painful and tragic ones. If it requires someone else to be there to help you talk it all out, then get yourself another set of ears, and if someone else isn't available then get your self a tape recorder and just start talking.
Alot of times just hearing what you need to say helps, I know it does for me. Really allow yourself to have the full range of emotions that you need in order to knock these things out of your life.

You lover cheated on you, take a picture of them and just yell at it. You may feel funny yelling at something inanimate but you know what, this is about you and not what other people think. We bottle things up alot of times which just preserves the hurt, the pain, and the betrayal. Taking the lid off and allowing things to air out is what allows the healing process to begin.
You have the permission to keep the good things bottled up to keep them fresh and in good condition, though they may need a little dusting to make them shine again, but hey, this is what is going to help us remember the good times as well as the bad ones.

This is why I try and help!

2009-09-14T21:50:00Z

So many times we post things here or there on the internet and don't ever really realize how it can help change a persons life, in a postive or negitave way. Here is what a reader of the Blog had sent to me via Facebook.com and again here on the DAPC Blog. Hello, I have come to this via face book, and have been seeking guidance from Spirit…. I am in awe. Practically every one of the toxic relationship points apply to me. I am feeling so low at the moment. I am a mother of three teenage children, and their father was an addict/alcaholic, and abuser on evry level to me. He committed suicide three years ago.. Now, i am in a relationship…..and although their is not physical violence….the points you raise all apply to me…. why do i have this? It feels like others have unharmed lives but mine, right from childhood was scarred. I am made to feal so low about myself by him, but, he goes also to great lengths to ‘pamper’ me. Freinds say he is a control freak and that i am like his “harley davidson doll….to dress and do what he says when he says”. He even times me when i am on the Facebook to my family. i find myself lying to not get rebuked by him…. i want to get my power back, and feel a woman who is more than just used. I live in London U.K. any word of guidance for me? thank you…. Janet…. I responded to her just as quickly as I could with this. Janet, I am sorry about the past, but it is that turbelent road that we’ve traveled that will lead us into being the person that we will become. I know how hard it is to be alone, especially with little ones. They need a male figure in their lives yes, but not at the expense of losing yourself to the abuse cycle again be that physical, mental, spritiual, or emotional. Like most women in your situation you feel powerless because so much has been taken from you, that you lose your ’self identiy’ meaning that you no longer know who you are without someone constantly tugging your leash. The reason that you are feeling this powerlessness is because it was ‘beat’ out of you. Irregardless of who it was that did this to you or is still doing this to you, it has been taken away. I must stress some points to you, and you may or may not agree with them or even see them in yourself, but from what your friends say about him, it sounds like this may apply to you. 1. If he is controlling your every action….You are being abused 2. If you are afraid of ’speaking up’…..You are being abused 3. If your friends are conscerned for you…..Chances are they can see something that you are not allowing yourself to see. 4. He is putting you down just to dress you up, he is taking control away from you. I am currenlty dealing with a woman who has 6 children and a broken line of abusive realtionships. One of her kids committed suicide about 3 years ago, and the others have abandonment issues, and other psychological problems, and the ones that have children are repeating the pattern. She has now been divorced from this guy for about 2 years now, give or take. He was very abusive to her and the kids. He would make her eat, even when she wasn’t hungry because if she was ‘fat and ugly then no one else would want her and she would have to settle with what she can get, because there isnt another man out there that would want a hog beast for a wife….’ For the first few months after the divorce and the death of her child, I began getting her to socilize again. We began working on the things that he said were her faults. Were they…..NO, but she thought that they were and that is all that mattered. I asked her ‘what is one thing that you want more than anything right now?’ She looked at me and shyly said “I would like to look beautiful again, because I just feel ugly.” So I said “Okay, then lets go have a day with the girls.” We went to a makeup counter in the local mall where she bought herself some makeup and had a facile done, and walked out of there with a whole new set of makeup for under $200 USD. When we got back to the car and she sat down she started shaking and crying, I asked her what was wrong and she said “I am going to get in so much trouble for spending this money, what the f**k am I doing…” I held her hand and said “why are you going to be in trouble? Who are you answering too?” And she turned and looked at me and smiled and said “your right, I forgot that he is no longer going to be at home when I get there. I am so use to haivng to spend every last dime on him and the kids that I never get to do something for me.” I held up a mirror to her and I said “say hello to the new YOU! This is the YOU that was lost inside. This is the youthful YOU that he tried to take away. This is the YOU that has always been deep down inside.” That next night we went to a local bar for some social interaction. Like an abused caged animal taking its frist steps from its captive habitat she stepped into the room. Done up in a new outfit and new makeup she took the center stage of the whole room. She whispered to me “They are all looking at me, they think that I am just some fat ugly chick who is trying to be cute.” And I said “well hello (name of her abusive spouse) how are you tonight. Well I really dont care how you are, because it is no longer about you, and no one invited you along with us. You are a evil bastard who can only do evil things because that is all that is in your heart. Tonight it is about (name of client) and me having a wonderful time out on the town. You are no longer welcomed in her life, and I sure as hell dont want you in my life so good bye, you have no power over her, and you have no reason to stay, you need to leave….” And you know that by addressing her ‘inner demon’ which was the abusive toxin that was left over from her relationship with him, you could see a dramatic change in her posture and character. That night she danced with a few good looking men, had a few drinks and for the first time in over 17 years, lived a little as HER not as HER and HIM. Finding your identiy agin is hard, because once you lose it, and allow yourself to become what someone else wants you to be is sometimes a up hill battle that many lose and just settle for being what that other person wants them to be. Janet, what I would suggest for you is taking those small steps to regain freedom. Confront your fears, and put them in their place one by one. I am very sure you are a beautiful woman, full of a viberance that many never see, because it is foreshadowed by these self loathing assholes that want to keep you down at their boots. YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN OR ANYONE ELSE TO COMPLETE YOU. If you feel unhappy with the guy who you are with right now, and feel empty inside, then girl throw his bum ass to the curb. There are a great deal of proper gentelmen out there that would be willing to take you on. Make a list of who you were before you began seeing him and the man that you were with before him. Compare and Contrast the two objectively and judgmentally. And try to pin point where things when from good to bad to worse. And work on retracing those steps that brought you to where you are today, and watch as you asend to the person you will be tomorrow. YOU and your KIDS do not need this type of person or behavior in their lives. You are a beautiful person with a lot to give, why not give back to yourself and your wonderful children. If you dont want to do something or dont agree with something, then stand up for yourself. Don’t coward down to the possibality of a verbal fight. Even though he may yell and scream, remember you can always tell him to leave, or you yourself can leave. And once you have kicked him out or you have walked out the door, dont look back or let him back in because that is a cycle of abuse that isn’t good. No one wins in that situation. Say this mantra to yourself daily: “I am a strong beautiful woman how is deserving of love, and respect. I am a beautiful rose in a bed of weeds. Though my life may be filled with adversity, I am faithful that the almighty will see me through and guide my steps. I am a wall, an impregntble fortress of love and devotion to myself and my children. I will no long allow pain and suffering into mylife as well as their’s. I will stand tall, when others will see me fall. I am beautiful, I am woman, I am strength.” I hope and prey for the very best for you and your children Janet. Please keep me informed and updated. Love and Light Mr. Overon! ------------------------------- The point is that YOU do not have to have someone in your life to make you feel whole, espically if the person is being mean to you. In Janet's case she has had her spirit broken down so much that she has no where else to turn. This is exactly why I have created this blog, and put forth so much effort to promote my phone services @ 1-800-275-5336 *03732137 is because I know how it is to not be heard, and to feel like your emotions and feelings are not valid, and that you are alone. This is not true. YOU deserve the rights and respects that everyone is entitled to. YOU deserve to be happy. YOU deserve to have a partener in your life that is complementry to you and YOUR needs. My phone service is listed as Psychic Advice/Tarot Card Reader, however, I am there for so much more. And these are the types of things that I love to help with. Though I tell her a story about how I have helped this other person, I am doing so to point out that she is not the only woman who has been through a simular experience, nor that I am new to this type of help. The story that I shared with her is very true, and is very much a part of me, because it is someone within my own family that I had to help when no one else within the family would help. So please read this with an open heart and if you know of anyone who can benifit from this posting or maybe something else within this blog, please point them in this direction, it could be the thing that saves their life. If you or anyone else needs some live advice or someone they can talk to please call me at 1-800-275-5336 *03732137 Mr. Overon!

Looking for LOVE?

2009-08-21T03:20:00Z

Looking for LOVE?

We are all at one time or another looking for that speical someone to spend our time with, and every now and then we find that person that is there to stay. Yes of course we have had to kiss a lot of frogs to find that person, and even then it doesn work out. So WTF is that to say about us? ABSOULTLY NOTHING! Just because our Mister or Miss right dont stay in our life is no reflection on us, it is like I always say about the Tree...."Dont try and make a leaf a Root"

So where do we find our soul mate? This is a difficult question to answer. I have found it best to envision the perfect mate, and keep positive thoughts, and even from time to time day dream about them.

As we keep sending postive thoughts into the universe, our viberation's change and we begin to draw in and attract the same types of energies that we are putting out into the world. When we despare and become negative we draw those same energies into our life.

This can be hard to do, espically when you are already down in the dumps over the thought of being alone. But remember back when you were a kid and you use to Pretend? Remember how real those things felt? Im not saying go around "pretending" that you are romantically involved, just use those same visualization skills in helping you obtain your new lover.

--HOMEWORK--

1:) Spend at lest 5 to 10 minutes a day (best before bed) thinking about the qualities you want in a spouce. Try to flesh this person out, so that you have a good overall idea of what this person might look like. Now this doesnt mean that you will meet someone who looks just like this person that you've dreamed up, because the person who matches that physical description may not be right for you.

Remember when we are choosing a mate, we need soemone who will compelment us, and be our equal and someone that we can connect to on many other levels. DONT fall for someone just because the sex is good. Basing a realtionship on that is a very bad idea because if you only connect in the bedroom, how are you going to ever have a life outside of it?

2:) Every day and every night, look in the mirror and say "I am worthy of love. I am a beautiful person. I am a strong individual. I am ready for love. I am ready to give love. I am ready for happiness." Let this become your personal mantra, and say it when ever you are feeling down and blue.

3:) Finally dont forget to connect with your higher power. Ask for advice. Ask for help in finding your someone sepcial.

Keep your chin up. They are out there.

Not the reading you wanted?

2009-08-16T19:20:00Z

I can understand that sometimes when we have so much bad news, or situations happening in our lives, we can not bare to recieve any more. However, things are not so cut and dry, the old expression 'things always get worse before they get better' stands true.

Yes you may have just broken up with your lover, and in the process of losing your house/job, but understand that all things come full circle, and that is not always within our timeline. Time and the world stops for no man, nor can we change what the universe has set into motion for us. All things in life serve to teach us, and we must learn from it, so do not dispare.

The people who come into our lives are to be thought of like the parts of a tree. There are Roots, Branchs, and Leafs. There are times when people come into ourlives that are only supose to be there for a short while, yes we may grow to love them (or even hate them) but they are only there for a short time, they leave as quickly as they came. These people are leafs, because they leave.

Then there are people who are like branches, who look strong, safe, and strudy, untill you step out on them and hope that they will hold you, and they brake and leave you either just hanging there or falling.

Then there are people who are our roots. These are the people who enrich our lives, and make us better people. They are the ones that create our foundation, and that we can count on and draw strength from.

Dont ever try to make a leaf or a branch a root, because YOU are the one who gets hurt in the end, not them.

Remember that the future is ever changing, you can get a reading every hour of every day and never once get the same one, because the future is a liquid thing. It is changing because our present actions changes the out come of what happens down the road.

Now not everything we do effects the future, there are things that will happen because you need to learn from it. Learn to recognize these hickups in life as a lesson, not a curse. No one ever said that life is or was ever going to be easy. Take it day by day, dont get discouraged, dont throw the towle in, you never know what is right around the bend!

You need help figuring these things out? Give me a call and I will help you any way that I can, let me read the cards for you, this way you will know what to expect of the next 6 months to a year.

You can get ahold of me by calling 1-800-275-5336 *03732137 - Mr. Overon

The Edge

2009-08-12T02:02:00Z

The Edge

From time to time we allow ourselves to become bitter and jaded and cold. We withdraw into ourselves, shutting others out. This action is counter productive to our emotional well being.
Yes at times it feels like we are stupid, and have unobtainable hopes and dreams. It also sometimes looks as if the hole we are in is so deep that we can never get out of it. This is wrong. Today I had a caller who was extremely emotional, feeling like they had no place to go, no where to turn. After trying to defuse the situation, the caller slammed down the phone and walked away.

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE! That is why Im here. Lets talk things over. Dont hurt yourself or anyone else, its not going to make things better.

Please call me at the below number. I can help you weed through these things.

1-800-ASK-KEEN (275-5336), extension 03732137

-Mr. Overon

Take time to breath

2009-08-11T01:53:00Z

Taking a deep breath every now and then allows us to focus on what is important, and the task at hand. Many times we forget this simplistic measure and panic, which leads to rash and sometime illogical decisions. For thousands of centuries wise men and monks have taught us that by breathing in through the nose and exhaling through the mouth, can not only reduce our anxiety but also detoxify our bodies from harmful viruses and energies.

By bottling up our emotions and stress, we block our receptors, thus leaving us unchanging and stagnate. We move through our daily lives at the speed of light, never taking even a single moment for ourselves. We are the judge, jury, and executioner of our own well being.

To many times we bog ourselves down with stress when we don't have to. Worrying about how the bills are going to get paid, how dinner is going to be placed on the table, what happens if I or one of the kids get sick, work. Is worrying about that upcoming bill going to get it paid any quicker? Is worrying about it going to make money appear to pay it off? Is wondering how your going to buy clothes for the kids going to put new shirts on their backs, and shoes on their feet? NO! All stress does is speeds up the already hanging sword of Damocles, causing it to swing lower and lower.

Are they legitimate fears and worries, of course. But why stress yourself out? All this does it causes sickness, and tires you out, making you more bitter, and angery. This can and usually crosses over into the workplace, and sometimes even into our romantic lives. It is said that we hurt the ones we love most, and this is so true when fighting over something as stupid as money, or bills.

BREATH. Close your eyes and try to forget about the stresses of our day to day. Breath in through the nose and allow your whole body to expand with this life giving air. Allow yourself to loosen up and feel the clean positive energies flow into you. Now exhale through the mouth, and visualize yourself blowing away all of the pinned up anger, frustration, and stress.
I sometimes find it easy to 'blow up a balloon' allowing your negative air to inflate it. When you are ready just pop it and watch all of your fears, stress, and anxiety disappear.

Taking at least 2-3 minutes a day to do this, be it in the shower, at a red light, in an elevator, take time to do this for yourself and everyone around you. You will not only start feeling better, you will notice a new out look on life. And if you ever need some one to talk to about these things, please call me at the below number. I can help you weed through these thing, and read the cards to see what is coming down the pipeline.

1-800-ASK-KEEN (275-5336), extension 03732137

-Mr. Overon

Imprisoned

2009-08-10T04:54:00Z

Prison is not always cold grey wall and iron bars, it can be many things from your body, to your home. Many countless people suffer in silence because they feel that their emotions are not valid, or that they themselves are not worth it. Medical professionals deem this feeling of dispare as Depression. However, what if they're wrong? What if what they say depression is, is nothing more than an invisible prison, a prison that has no walls, no taste, and no smell? What if your prison is within you? A breathing, moving, thing that you can not get rid of, cut out, or even see, but know it's there. Prison is counting down to a change, when you dont want the change to happen. Prison is being alone, when your in a crowded room. Prison is feeling worthless, and laughing about it. Prison is being asked "How are you" and you responding in hidden code "I CAN'T complain, because if I did WHO WOULD LISTEN?" Prison is feeling trapped. Prison is wondering "WHAT IF?" We always look skyward to find our answers, and find nothing but a bright blue sky to some, and to others a dark grey clouded shroud for others. We many times bare our cross silently hoping to find a way of breaking our oppressive chains. But much like Alice who while trapped in her Wonderland, forgot the key on the table, looking up at it when she was small. Our fears and our problems sometimes belittle us and make us feel insignificant. Questions of "would they miss me" come to mind. But as with everything else, you are convicted but lack the actions to see them through. Where do you turn? Where do you stop? When do you break free? Only time and patients can tell. Having faith is better than having some mind altering drug. Keeping the faith be you Wiccan or Christian, that is what keeps us going. Keep the faith my friends, for it may be your last hold!