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How to Keep Jealousy Out of the Relationship

Keen Category: Love Advice

Angry & jealous girlfriend physically getting between boyfriend talking to another woman

Jealousy can be a destructive force in a relationship. Two people alone cannot be expected to fill each other's every need, and most relationships have to cope with exes, lifelong friends, and work colleagues. But sometimes jealousy will arise because of these standing relationships that mean so much to your lover and seem to come between the two of you.

Being jealous of people who seem closer to your partner in some aspects than you do, or who share a history with him that you cannot, is natural. It becomes a problem when your fears and doubts threaten the relationship you have with him. First, you should try communicating these feelings to your partner. Choose a time when both of you can be calm and rational about it. Remember that what you are saying is that you don't trust your partner — at least, there is the chance that is how he will perceive it.

Get to know these other people he is close to so you can feel reassured about their role in his life. If that is too hard, then just get to know about them and the purpose they serve. A work colleague will be less threatening when you understand completely that she and your partner are engaged in an important project together and that she also has her own life outside work. If he plays golf with close friends and you hate the game, recognize that he needs some time to pursue his own interests with people who share his love of the game.

Keep up your own network of friends and work colleagues. Sometimes a love relationship gains too much importance in your life and you neglect the person you were before you met your partner. Arrange some girls' nights out with old friends, or go shopping with your pals when he plays golf. Balance your relationships with your own personal needs and let him do the same; then you will better understand why he needs to maintain contact with old friends. But if none of this works, you still need reassurance about the strength of your relationship, and you are finding it difficult to communicate with your partner about the feelings that trouble you, it is time to call a psychic before your jealousy wrecks your life. A psychic can act as a counselor, guide, and spiritual resource when you need it most.

A psychic who uses astrology can study the charts of you and your partner and find out if you really have reason to be jealous. She can also help you understand why you are the jealous type and reassure you that you are not a crazy person, just someone inclined to be possessive or jealous. She can help you understand yourself and how to control your jealousy.

The astrological sign most associated with possessiveness and jealousy is Scorpio. The feelings in this sign run deep and are not often easy to express. An astrologer will look to see if you have any planets in the sign of Scorpio, especially the Moon or Venus. The Moon in Scorpio gives a deeply possessive emotional nature, and your sense of emotional security will feel threatened by any emotional ties that your partner has elsewhere.

Someone with the Moon in Scorpio in her astrological chart is particularly threatened by exes, because these people share a history with your partner that you do not. Old photos, memories, and mementos from a former relationship will feel threatening because the ex remains a tangible force in his life. The Moon in Scorpio will dictate the preference that these things are not displayed. Similar feelings will arise with old friends — especially female friends — and close work colleagues. Finding love is not easy for a person with the Moon in Scorpio, because no one comes without baggage. Such jealousy can be difficult to communicate and even more difficult to live with, but a psychic can guide you in dealing with these feelings.

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Venus in Scorpio has a slightly different approach. Venus is concerned with looks and romance, so the attractiveness of the exes, female friends, and work colleagues will be a big factor in jealous fears. Venus in Scorpio will lead to comparing oneself unfairly to others and striving to compete in fashion and style. If you have Venus in Scorpio in your chart, you will feel threatened particularly if your partner's job brings him into daily contact with attractive women, whom you will see as rivals. If he has to attend expensive lunches with attractive clients, you will feel threatened and demand that he make up for it by taking you out to dinner. If he has been looking forward to a quiet evening at home with you and does not understand why you need reassurance, it can damage your relationship.

The Tarot cards can also be very helpful in relationship problems. An in-depth reading with a psychic can reassure you that there is nothing to worry about and offer you a path to a happy outcome. If you both consult a psychic, she can show you how failure to communicate your feelings to each other is damaging your relationship and encourage you to talk about the things that are troubling you.

A psychic will help you understand your feelings of betrayal and hurt so you can communicate them better to your partner. He may not understand why you should feel jealous of people he needs to be in contact with every day. He may not understand that you see his contact with his ex in a different light. To him, it is something he has to do because they have joint business interests or children, while to you it looks as if he can't let go of her.

Men who are finding love build up a history of ex girlfriends, lovers, and even wives. Sometimes this history demands that they remain in contact, and new partners feel threatened by that. But unless you communicate your feelings of jealousy, they will fester and eventually destroy the new relationship as well. A psychic will advise you on the best ways of communicating with your partner, either by comparing your astrological natal charts or by reading the Tarot cards.

The key to a happy relationship is mutual understanding. Don't let your jealousy turn you into another ex-girlfriend.