"Does He Miss Me?"


This is always an interesting question to get as a male psychic. The answer is not an easy one.

Men and women are wired very differently. I hope that despite a 50 year campaign of the gender-benders to make all humans
androgynous, most observant and practical people are acknowledging these profound differences between the sexes.

None of the biological distinctions that I will write about below negate or replace spiritual feelings and aspirations such as love, hope, sentimental or sweet emotions. The biological component overlaps!

Also keep in mind as you read that this blog addresses most established relationships and/or marriages, not a new dating dynamic. 

These natural, biological differences go back tens of thousands of years (at least), to primitive times when humans where primarily hunter-gathers. Men often left on extended hunting expeditions that lasted days or weeks. Their survival depended on emotionally detaching so they could focus on the hunt. If they did not focus, they could get injured, killed or even worse, return to the tribe with no food!

Our society and technology may have changed significantly in the past thousand years, but biology moves much slower. Men still have the habit of emotionally detaching to focus on work or important aspects of life.

Women, being hard-wired for emotional closeness and intimacy, as a survival mechanism, are on the opposite end. While women may no longer physically or financially have to depend on a man for her survival, emotionally she responds just like she did thousands of years ago: panic.

Let's get back to the question of missing: Yes, your man misses you, but not in the same way you miss him. A man very rarely feels waves of sentimental feelings sweep over him immediately after he has departed his love's presence. What women in the modern world needs to understand is that this lack of sentimentality is not a bad thing! Your man still loves you, still wants you, and is still attracted to you. But when he departs, biology sometimes kicks in and he feels the wonder lust of the hunt (for food, income, acquisitions, and personal productivity).

For thousands of years, that detachment meant the survival of his family and tribe. And that will not change overnight, but neither does it need to be looked at as callousness, lack of love or lack of caring.

Yes, your man loves you, yes he misses you; just not in the same way, with the same intensity and on the same time table as a woman. And that's a good thing! :-D It is completely possible for you balance your need for closeness and intimacy with your man's occasional need to pull away. It's a matter of understanding, tolerance and trust that goes both ways.

There are many more issues revolving around this one topic I could go into. However, in the spirit of brevity, I'm going to end it here.
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