Years ago, my
astrology teacher told me, "when a
woman marries a man, she marries his chart. If a woman is single then only her chart matters."
At first, I
didn't believe her, but as time went on, she of course, was proven right as she
It's always interesting
to look at the chart of a woman (and it could be the other way around) and as she begins to talk it's clear things aren't good at home. In some cases they
are downright horrible. (I'm referring to women in serious
goodness I had a great teacher, and the years have taught me, look
at the chart of the significant other.
chart always tells the tale. When a woman marries a man, she marries his chart,
or in other words, she marries his karma.
And it goes the other way as well.
She may have
a great job, but if he can't keep one, things aren't good...
She may be
happy with him, but if he isn't happy with her..
If he is an alcoholic or philanderer.. If she comes from a close family and
his relatives are dysfunctional and always putting her down.. and on and on..
So if you
are considering marriage, moving in, or being in a committed relationship, you
are committing to the karma of your
significant other. The karma, or how things will play out in life, or how life
generally treats you, shows up in the astrological
chart. (When I speak of karma I am referring to the end result of things, and
the general way of life the natal chart shows).
There is nothing supernatural
about this and every natal chart shows basic direction and promise in life.
Some charts show ease, and others show a difficult, grating existence. Most
are somewhere in between and all human beings experience problems no matter who you are.
When I speak
of karma I don't mean just the transiting planets as they move through the skies.
That too has a big affect, but I also mean the natal chart the significant other was born with.
The natal chart and the transiting
planets are two different things.
chart is the chart you or anyone else was born with that shows the blueprint of
your life and remains the same throughout your life. As they planets move
through the sky they create aspects to our natal chart that show the current
circumstances of life, which are always changing. These planets can compel an
individual toward a committed relationship or not at the time.
The natal chart, however shows the personality,
traits and character of a person, their 'natal promise,' or what they were born
to achieve, and how their life will be lived overall.
for example, a man was born with a Saturn
conjunct his Moon in Capricorn, and the woman he marries or moves in and she has a
Moon in Cancer, square Venus and Pluto in
me a woman who has a strong need to be loved, and will be miserable unless she
gets it. She might even be manipulative and jealous if she thinks it will help
her achieve what she wants.
Moon conjunct Saturn in Capricorn, however may feel that expressing
his feelings, buying flowers and doting on his wife or girlfriend is unnecessary.
He might show love by paying the rent and seeing that things are financially
secure, he doesn't cheat so he feels that he has given his all.
the woman he is with is of the right temperament and attitude and very mature, she is going
to be miserable with this man. As their Moons are in opposite signs, this can attract, but further reinforce
the feeling there is no common emotional ground.
And it works
the other way. He would feel she was reactive, overly emotional, demanding and manipulative.
man may be somewhat insecure on an inner level, bound to his job or duty and
come from a family where feelings were never expressed, or had a cold
upbringing. So, if the woman in question marries him, she marries his karma. By
nature, he will never be an expressive man, and he might always put his job
tolerate each other for a short time, but unless maturity is involved along
with enough love to reach an understanding, this relationship will likely fail.
Let's say a
woman meets a man with Saturn in Aquarius in the
second house (money) and opposing Jupiter/Uranus and square Neptune.
the finer things of life and dreams of a big home, kids and fancy vacations
every year. She is an Aries ascendant
with Venus and Mars in the second house in Taurus, which squares his
works hard, but doesn't get ahead, just pays the bills. Ideas and spiritual
pursuits are more important to him than things, and money is only a means to an
end. Underneath he has a dream of artistic pursuits that won't pay the bills.
When he does seem to have an opportunity it seems to fall through suddenly or vanishes into the air.
woman is willing to earn her own money to pay for the finer things she wants and understands money is not his priority, it's
only a matter of time before the fighting begins and this relationship fails
because of money issues.
of astrology that deals with compatibility is called synastry
and can reveal all of these things in advance.
important because when you marry or commit to someone, you should understand their
basic karma, and how their overall life will be lived.
Compatibility/understanding is everything, and knowledge is always