Be Careful What You Believe To Be True

An ancient scroll was found and when translated it read: Be careful what you believe because what you believe to be true will be manifested in your life.

How Can I Tell If He Really Loves Me?

Overtime it gets hard to see the truth.  The truth gets blurred or confused.  You forget what to look for and you wonder if your seeing things clearly.  The angels say, you will recognize him by his love.  The one you are to marry.  The easy answer is …


He Tells You, He Loves You! He Shows You, He Loves You! You Feel, He loves you!

However, in real life, it can be a little more confusing than that.

For instance, you might get involved with a man who avoids saying “I love you” because he feels awkward, uncomfortable, or even scared at the thought of a serious commitment. Or a man who thinks he shows you he loves you by ... fixing your car!  Maybe he grew up in a family that discouraged direct expression of love. Or maybe in the past he declared his love to a woman, and she ended up rejecting him.  You know someone loves you by how they treat you.  Love is different with each individual!  Just because he can't say it, doesn't mean he doesn't feel it.

Even if he has trouble expressing himself, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.  It just means he's not good at communicating ... that is something that can improve over time.  We wonder, does he really love me or does he just want sex?  Is he the one or should I keep on looking?  What did he mean by that comment?  Is he being honest or just being nice?  Is he too good to be true?  You just want love! No games! No drama!

Then, of course, you might be tempted to love the guy all the more for the (real or imaginary) reason that he loves you. This can be risky and painful.  Loving him no matter what!  More than one woman who’s sympathized with a man -- because he’s tragically blocked from sharing the love -- has been stunned and dismayed when he turns around and openly shares the love with the next woman he meets ... for a one night stand ... a weekend ... a month.  Then why can't he love you?  Your beautiful, smart and kind.  Maybe that's the problem ... your too kind!  Love must be balanced with integrity, respect and effective communication.  Some men are confused about love and some think a pretty face and a pretty figure equal love.

That’s why I want you to consider this: A lot of men, whether their confused or misguided, with certain women, have NO problem declaring to her how they feel. They might not always use the words, "I love you," but they manage to get their point across!

So, when you fall hard for a man, and he does not end up using the L-word with you, it might just mean that he isn't see you for the queen that you truly are.  You may have to dress the part and seduce him into falling in love with you.  Men do get confused about love and sometimes need to be guided to love!  Once they taste real love, they know its special!

More importantly, if you fall hard for a man, and he doesn't really show you that he loves you, it might just mean that HE IS TRYING TO SEDUCE YOU! TRYING TO MANIPULATE YOU INTO AN AFFAIR!

What does it look like when a man isn't showing you the love? Here's a list of possibilities:

1.  He doesn't treat you like you're a top priority in his life!

2.  He's nice to you mainly when it's convenient for him (like right before sex)!

3.  He checks out on you emotionally for long periods of time, and acts like you're crazy and/or needy for wondering why!

4.  He's openly critical of fundamental things about you that you can't change! (This is to keep you humble and depending upon him).

5.  He seems to enjoy your company, but it's as though he hasn't decided that you're the special woman in his life!  Yet he keeps encouraging your being a part of his life.

6.  He shuts you out of big parts of his real world and inner life (family, friends, and his past life)!

7.  He keeps telling you that he's not good relationship material or he doesn't deserve you but he doesn't discourage you from sleeping with him!

8.  He takes no emotional risks for you, but doesn't object when you take emotional risks for him! (Unfair, unbalanced relationship).

9.  He gets irritated with the vulnerability you feel in the relationship!  He doesn't want to think about your feelings.  He keeps turning the subject towards a romantic affair.

10.  He rewards you for being "strong" and/or "understanding" when he does things that he knows hurt you!  If he loved you, he wouldn't hurt you.


11.  He keeps sleeping with other women.  He's not ready for a one on one relationship but he still wants those hot romantic nights with you!

A man who has his emotional act together and is truly in love with you WILL WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. It will bring him pleasure. Just as hurting you will make him feel like he hurts himself and he'll try to figure out how to stop doing it!   He'll also want you to feel as special and valued as you make him feel.  He'll be willing to take risks for your love. He'll want to share himself and his life with you.  He'll let the world know that you are his.


Many couples live together for a while and the woman wants a ring and the man is happy with things as they are.  After a certain amount of time passes, the woman gives an ultimatum ... let's get engaged and set a wedding date!  The man is in shock and awe!  He wants to keep things the way they are ... don't go changing!  So, she gives him the final ultimatum ... after a getting to know you stage ...  either we get engaged and set a wedding date ... or I'm leaving and I wish you the best!  Often when they break up ... the man is devastated ... he knows they're love was good ... the woman feels burned ... giving him some of the best years of her life ... she should be glad she moved on before wasting all of her youthful years ... she reminds herself!  Being strong enough to walk away often have men and women reconnecting later on.

The man realizes life was so much better with her in it.  He calls.  They talk ... they set an engagement and wedding date!  Love is what makes life divine.  When a man loves you like this, you feel it.  When he really loves you ... you know it.  His actions always speaks louder than his words.

If you feel uncomfortable, a sense of dread or doom in your life, whether it comes from a relationship, a work situation, or any area of your life.  You can change your mind and change your destiny, choose a direction that feels right.  Doing what you feel you should be doing!  Trusting your intuition is key to your trusting yourself.
Please call me for any concerns you have: Love? Mysteries? Dreams? If it is important to you ... it is important ... period!

The angels have a modus operandi for your love life and happiness. Keep the faith. Call me for any concerns that you have: Love & Relationships, Mysteries, Dreams, Career or Life Questions.

Have faith and hope, because there is something positive and new on the horizon that you can't yet see.

Crystal of Light and Love 5

# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, September 17, 2007 6:20 AM
I have a problem, i'm so unhappy because a couple of years ago i lost the love of my life, but i didn't know it at the time, only as time went on i realised but it was too late he had left me and a few months later met someone else.  However, i have since found out he has split from this girl and bumped into him on my birthday, it told him i still cared about him and i have heard through a friend that he likes me alot.  I don't know what to do as i have heard he is considering moving to another country to live.   I never told him how i felt i think that is partly the reason he split from me and i still have strong feelings for him but am scared of getting rejected by him if i tell him.  Also i don't want to call him i am hoping that i bump into him again soon as i have an ally so hopefully i will have a chance to tell him how i feel.  What do you advise?
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, September 24, 2007 6:15 AM

Blessings, Charley:  I would advise that you simply befriend him again.  You will both be getting to know each other, all over again.  You don't have to tell him that he's the moon and the stars.  Just be friendly and things will happen naturally, as they were intended too.  You can get another chance to try again, the year 2008 is a great year for lovers.

Crystal of Light and Love 5

# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Friday, February 29, 2008 7:57 AM
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-Wysteria Blossom
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, March 01, 2008 11:14 AM
This blog really opened my eyes, and made me think. It also convinced me that one day I will "reconnect" with an old flame, and the positive signs would show. Thanks for the list of signs of love.
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Sunday, March 02, 2008 8:38 PM
I've been with this guy for over 3 years now, our relationship started when he called me after breaking up with his big love of four years. She cheated on him, he wanted to forgive her but she still wanted to be independent so they split. WE moved in together in a week, I became part of his life and business-he is very successfull- but I was never sure of his feelings even though we declared our love to each other, because his ex kept on calling and they would have long conversations that I didn't know about till later from the phone bill and that drove me nuts. I asked him to please stop but he said it's innocent since she was overseas so I had no choice but accept it. He asked me to marry him but never gave me a ring, he never spoke to my parents about his intentions and I  always felt like I was not a priority in his life. Now he is in jail for over a year, I  support him because everyone has turned his back on him and now he keeps telling me how much he wants to marry me and have kids with me. He became the ideal man. I am confused, is this because of the situation that he's in , is he trying to manipulate me ? Please help me with an answer, I am going nuts!
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, March 03, 2008 1:37 AM
My ex just asked me to see him after long years of breakup. He was just here for a week vacation settling his mothers papers. Our relationship never had this closure at all that perhaps made me decide to see him. I am returning the ring he gave me before but he refused to accept it. I asked him about his intentions for me but he said that he just really want to see me. Im confused. I know that I still have feelings for him and he knows that. How do I know if he still loves me or not? What should I do?
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, March 24, 2008 6:14 AM
I know this man for the past 5 years, i loves him so much but i don't know if he loves me too. I use to be jealous but now not anymore. The only of communication is via SMS, he never calls and  I always are the one who be asking about his life and stuff. Once he says that he has feeling for me but doesn't want us to go further. I'm confused as to what actually he wants from me.
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, July 28, 2008 10:19 PM
I have been with this guy for almost 2yrs. He tells me he cares about me for but when he gets drunk he says he has dreams he wants to follow and they dont include a relationship, then when he sobers up he says relationships scare him and he didnt mean to hurt me. I am so confused if i am wasting my time. He says 2 different things and i dont know which to listen to. He says he wants to stay together but only for the next couple years. What does that mean?
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, January 10, 2009 9:35 AM
I have been dating a man for 2 months. He works Sun-Wed goes to bed early due to his job. On his days off Thus-Sat he spends with his son (which i am not included)  He only texts me when I text him first. Does not call on phone.  When i do see him it is at night we have sex go to bed I leave at 5AM We talk sex and do it but nothing else. Do not do anything w/him during the day.  No movies,dinner,outside activities. His friends do not know he is seeing me.  Unfortunately i have fallen deeply for him yet i do not see him unless convient for him when son is not around..
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, February 14, 2009 9:55 PM
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, February 14, 2009 9:57 PM
# HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, March 28, 2011 9:58 AM
Ok I have been dating this guy in the Navy who is only 20 an im 19 with a baby....He says he loves me but we have never met an he says he is a virgain....An yesterday my daughter had a seizure an he seemed really worried about us but after a while he started ask me about if we were going to have sex when he got back....He gives me to many mixed signals I just don't know wheather he does Love me!
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Thursday, June 23, 2011 8:46 AM
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, September 17, 2011 9:31 AM
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# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Saturday, November 19, 2011 5:34 PM
I been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs. And we have 3 kids together but he has allwats cheated on me since the begining for the 6 yrs now we dont live together we started dating again and he tells me he loves me and that he will never cheat on me again that he wants to be a familly and marry me but he dosent call me I have to call him all the time and everything he has tolled me I heared it to many times before and he keeps doing the same as before and I dont trust him because he has always lied to me about everything and I was the one that tried to make it work and still willing because I really love him my heart want to be with him no matter what but half of it its telling me to leave him and let him be but when I do that I miss him and want to talk to him and I end up calling him again what can I do to forget him and does he really mean it when he tells me I love you
# re: HOW CAN I TELL IF HE REALLY LOVES ME? @ Monday, January 21, 2013 3:39 AM
This lovely guy at my drama-group was flirting with me all last year and told me his life-story basically. We've always hugged and he calls me hun. We've known each other for nearly two years now, and during our recent drama-production he's started to kiss me on the lips, closed lips though, but in front of the entire cast. he always smile at me when I enter the room and we are very close. The only problem is that I am married, howeer my marriage is like a roller coaster and the guy I'm flirting with has a lot of qualities that I like and he's also lovely to my kids. I have met his kids when they've been at rehearsals.
Does he love me??
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