By: DZigns aka Denise
Inspired by: Denise Young
How many times did he/she tell you that they would call later? Or..that he/she told you that they would see you soon? How often did they tell you that they would try harder, do better, care more? How long did you wait? How long did you hope that it would get better? Relationships evoke so many questions and incite so much worry and all we want are answers and sometimes there are no answers. Most times, the answer is right in front of our eyes but, we choose to not see it because it is not the answer we want.
How often we hope and pray for change with the one we love. They tell us they will call, we wait and nothing happens. They say they care about us, we hope and no call. They say “I will see you tonight." We get ready, a no show. They say all the right things, but nothing happens. Sound familiar? Do you constantly find yourself hoping they will call, hoping you will see them, hoping they will change, when in fact all they do is make promises and say so much with so little action. Each time they do this, you lose a piece of you. Pretty soon there is nothing left of you and nothing left of them. You waited. They moved on. You are sad and depressed. They found someone new.
Is this right? Regardless if it is right or wrong. You must stop and watch their words while listening to their actions. If a man says he loves you but never does anything, that is not love. A man will show you he loves you. He will show you through action just how much he really cares about you. A woman will do the same thing. She will show you with action. Action will always speak louder than words.
Imagine that the person of interest finally comes around after years of emotional letdown. You finally have them back in your life. You waited all this time. Now what? Have things changed? Are you more important to them? You could go through a lifetime of sadness, letting life pass you by, waiting for them to change.
Yes, I realize these words may cause pain. But, what if I am saving you from a lifetime of unhappiness. What if I am giving you your life back?
Do not make excuses or enable the other party not to participate in a healthy relationship. Do not wait by the phone, instead, heal yourself and take back your life that you gave away. Always remember, people change when you change, but that change must come from within. You must be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone.
And, if you find yourself in a situation where false promises are made, hopes are raised, and tears fall, just ask yourself, ”Why am I doing this to me?” Then make a choice to be happy and take action to make it happen. As you see, it takes action to make things happen. It takes commitment to make a change. Combine both and you will be able to watch someone’s words by listening to their actions.
Often the courage to just speak the truth is hard to muster so promises are made that will never be kept. It's hurtful, deceitful and unmerciful. And let’s face it, just downright cowardly. It would be so much easier if they just said the words that matched their actions. A lot of time and heartache may have been saved.
I always say, "Keep it simple" and "do not give yourself a hard time," when it comes to anything in life. The simpler, the better I believe. If only more of us employed these two tactics when it came to relationships we would save ourselves a whole lot of time and grief. You not only have to listen to what is being said but pay attention to what is being done. Actions are the real truth. In regard to any relationship, "watch their words and listen to their actions." If someone is saying it and they are not doing what they say, you have your answer. Simple, the proof is in the pudding.