Do you ever feel that you are powerless and unable to gain control over certain events or situations in your life? It's easy to spiral into anxiety and frustration when it appears that someone else has all the power and control. Many of my callers are currently struggling with this very issue, and since I know first hand how awful it feels, I've decided to re-publish a blog I wrote years ago.
This is "The Parable of the Bitter Tea"
by Rev. Dr. Hypocrates Magoun, P.P.and it's taken from the "Principia Discordia"
, written by Greg Hill and Kerry Thornley.
"When Hypoc was through meditating with St. Gulik, he went
there into the kitchen where he busied himself with preparing the
feast and in his endeavor, he found that there was some old tea in a
pan left standing from the night before, when he had in his weakness
forgot about its making and had let it sit steeping for 24 hours. It
was dark and murky and it was Hypoc's intention to use this old tea by
diluting it with water. And again in his weakness, chose without
further consideration and plunged into the physical labor of the
preparations. It was then when deeply immersed in the pleasure of that
trip, he had a sudden loud clear voice in his head saying "it is bitter
tea that involves you so." Hypoc heard the voice, but the struggle
inside intensified, and the pattern, previously established with the
physical laboring and the muscle messages coordinated and unified or
perhaps coded, continued to exert their influence and Hypoc succumbed
to the pressure and he denied the voice.
And again he plunged into the physical orgy and completed the task, and Lo as the voice had predicted, the tea was bitter."
So many times I have found myself in this same sort of situation.
Much like Hypoc, I forget to ask myself what the true nature of the
situation, person, or object I'm dealing with might be before I choose
to go ahead with my plans. Usually, this happens when I don't want to
see the truth because it doesn't fit in with my personal agenda. I'm
trying to do a better job of seeing things clearly these days, though.
In his book, "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World", Harry Browne addresses this same sort of problem, and offers a solution.
"Each individual is acting on own knowledge in ways he believes
will bring him happiness. He acts to produce the consequences he
thinks will make him feel better.
You have to treat things and people in accordance with their own
identities in order to get what you want from them. You don't expect a
stone to be a fish. And it's just as unrealistic to expect one person
to act as someone else does. You don't control the identities of
people, but you can control how you deal with them."
When I read these paragraphs, it resonated as truth - just like the
Parable of the Bitter Tea did. I can't control other people, but I can
learn to judge situations and people according to their true nature.
One of the best ways I've found to do this is make my judgments and
plans based on the taste of the tea and the actions of the people
involved in any given situation - rather than on my preconceived ideas.
Or even on their own words and good intentions.
If the tea is bitter, I can throw it out, or use it for some other
purpose than drinking. For instance, bitter tea is great for treating
sunburn! Once I understood that there is more than one way to deal with
other people and things, I no longer felt the need to control or change
Bright Blessings & Love,