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Healing the Past is a Must Before a New Relationship Has a Chance



With the onset of Valentine's Day, are you feeling left out when you see couples holding hands and your friends are receiving cards and flowers? 

For many of us, our relationships have been learning experiences... opportunities to heal and to reclaim our power.

If you want to experience that same heart-felt romance, you must first release any painful memories that are still in your heart. If you are still thinking of your last relationship, or previous relationships along with any residual heartbreak, then that relationship is not over because you are still connected to them. In other words, you are not yet open to attract a new relationship because you still have one with the person(s) from your past.
 
Putting a band-aid on your heart then going in search of someone to fill the void, what some would call rebound, is only a temporary fix and will not heal the underlying pain beneath the wound. Eventually the pain will resurface because your current boy/girlfriend will not be able to meet your expectations, or you may be comparing him/her to the last one.

So how do I move on, you ask?

* Delete their email address, phone number and text messages.

* Get rid of or put away photos and mementos that remind you of him/her.

* Don't look at their Facebook page, Twitter and Instagram accounts. You may want to delete pictures of them as well as posted messages; and you may want to unfriend them so you're not tempted to view their page.

* Don't look for them on online dating sites.

* Don't drive by their residence to see if they're home and go to places where you know they hang out (gym, mall, clubs).

Take time to focus on you:

* Make a list of the things you are grateful for... family, friends, children, hobbies.
* Find your passion... art, music, cooking, gardening, travel.
* Enroll in a class and/or workshop
* Travel to a place you've always wanted to visit that you've never been to before.
* Take care of your health and well-being: eat healthy food; exercise;
go to a spa; get a massage, facial, manicure/pedicure.
* Speak to a professional counselor/therapist who can help you process your feelings.
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Be patient and kind to yourself and do your best to focus on the present moment.


When you let go of the past you can manifest a wonderful, long-lasting relationship in the present.

Comments
# re: Healing the Past is a Must Before a New Relationship Has a Chance @ Monday, February 08, 2010 12:38 PM
Very good post. Very true! If we do not heal before we enter something new, we end up dragging all the problems of the old relationship, into the new one.
# re: Healing the Past is a Must Before a New Relationship Has a Chance @ Thursday, February 11, 2010 3:37 AM
Dear Heart:

Healing the wounds of the past, letting go and releasing them into the Universe is the ultimate act of evolution of your soul.  You need to move past the lessons you have endured to prepare for the new journey that is before you.  Your blog is so well written and informative.  Keep shedding light on a very important topic!

Rosie
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