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Twin Flames Versus Soul Mates

I am often asked by my clients to explain just what twin flames and soul mates really are. There seems to be a lot of confusion on the twin flame / soul mate topic. I have decided to write about it, because I believe it is important that people be able to understand just what type of connection they are really dealing with in their personal and love encounters.

Twin Flames are literally the other half of your soul. You can only have one. At some point, in the cosmic scheme of things, your soul divided into 2 halves. We all come here, essentially, searching for that missing half of our soul, feeling a certain emptiness without it.  One half of that soul would be you, and the other half is your twin flame. In most incarnations, twin flames come in as one masculine and one feminine, so that if they find each other, they will be able to most easily draw together to become one again. However, do not be fooled into believing that you will always find your twin flame in the opposite sex, or even here on earth this lifetime. From one lifetime to the next, your twin flame and you could appear in many forms for many reasons.

I once encountered a grandmother and granddaughter who were twin flames. They would do things at the same time without even communicating it, because their psychic connection was so strong. They both even went into heart failure at the same time. I predicted and warned the family that this would happen, but can you imagine what the daughter / mother of these 2 ladies went through when they both were in the hospital? She thought it was the one thing I predicted that might never happen, but it eventually did. I felt so bad for her having to deal with that.

 I have also witnessed cases with clients where the twin flame is on the other side, working as guide for their other half, who is here for a lifetime.

Why do these things happen? Because twin flames may not be on the same spiritual  level with each other, and therefore may have to work through their negative karma in other ways in this lifetime, before they will be ready for a lifetime where they can accept themselves and each other enough to become one again.

Twin flames tend to have the strongest psychic connection. When you meet your twin flame, you will discover that you have been doing the same things in life at the same time as each other and making the same decisions in life at around the same time, even if there is an age difference between the two of you, the date / timing of your experiences still manages to match on big life decisions. This happens because of that psychic connection. You are sensing each other, even before you are aware of each others existence. Most twin flames are shocked when they realize they were doing things at the same time, because of their strong connection. Your twin flame shares your thoughts, because the two of you, are in essence, one. You might know what the other is thinking with no words being exchanged, and you can easily finish each others sentences.

Romantic twin flames tend to come into each others lives when they are the most spiritually aware. Twin flames sometimes may feel they did not even choose each other. It often feels like such a given, as if it was pre-arranged. They often feel as if they were already chosen by God for each other. Your twin flame is the literal other half of your  soul, divided in half, so that each of you could learn more, before coming back together and recombining as one.

The way to heaven, the way to eternity, is to learn as much as you can while apart from your twin flame, learn to keep God with you, listen and obey God's choices for you, and in the end recombine with the one person God specifically tells you is the one.
If you have progressed to a certain point, God will tell you, but it is up to you to listen and obey. And don't be surprised if you find that the 2 of you have a spiritual mission to achieve when you do come to a point of accepting each other...

Now again, do not be fooled into believing that meeting your twin flame is the key to a happy ending. It does not work that way for everyone. When one meets their twin flame, it can be absolutely beautiful. It is the most intense love you could ever possibly feel. Still, learning to accept someone so much like yourself, that you are so intensely connected to is not always easy.

Twin Flames are so much alike in many ways, and yet they still have the natural differences males and females have, and therefore, despite the psychic connection, still run into communication issues at times. All twin flame couples are still capable of this error in their relationship. The difference is, no matter what the misunderstanding is, you can still sense each other, and whether you want it or not, your love never fades.

Also, there are times where twin flames will encounter each other, but they are not on the same spiritual level yet, and they just can't make it work. This can lead to a lot of chaos and problems between them. They might have break ups and times apart. They may even decide to end things forever, and that it just can't happen this lifetime.

Despite the fact that the twin flame connection is the true God connection, we are all flawed human beings. If you feel that connection, yet you find yourself in a destructive relationship, you do still have free will to get out. Don't be fooled that you have to stay for your own spiritual advancement. Many have made that mistake. An abusive twin flame is not ready for the connection. Maybe that person has been put through too destructive or abusive of a life in order to even be capable of making it work this time. Will you have to come back another lifetime to work on it? Certainly, but you are not spiritually advancing with your twin flame, if they continuously beat you down on a spiritual, emotional, or physical level.

Many times, twin flames are so afraid of being truly connected to someone, that they will do everything they can to sabotage the relationship, out of pure fear. Many find themselves stuck in destructive realtionships with destructive patterns, because that connection is so strong, and the more advanced soul finds themselves simply hoping their other half will catch up, and stop living in fear, and perpetuating the destructive pattern. Sometimes, even worse, neither soul of this insanely strong connection has advanced enough to accept it yet, and in that case, both partners will do nothing but repeatedly push each other away and pull each other back. It's a miserable cycle that many twin flames face.

The biggest problem with a destructive twin flame connection though, is that the connection never goes away, so if you can't make it work with your twin flame, you will still feel them every day, and the pain never fully ceases, because this is your only other true half, so no matter what happens between the two of you, you can never fully get over each other.

 It is often unfair if one who has found their twin flame ever tries to get involved in another relationship, because they will never fully give themselves to the person the same way as their twin flame and the person they get into another relationship with will know it. They will spend their time with that person always thinking of the twin flame they lost. And even worse, their twin flame will feel their thoughts on them. Be very cautious in getting involved with someone else if you have encountered your twin flame. You are more likely to simply cause more damage to yourself, your twin flame, and the other person if you choose this route, so if it doesn't feel right, don't go there. It is better to remain alone then to dirty yourself with a person who does not feel right for you.

I have never witnessed someone completely get over a twin flame, but there have been occasional circumstances where there is still a soul mate waiting, because it was never going to be able to work with the twin flame this lifetime. But generally the twin who finds a soul mate still needs another partner to help them work through some of their own karmic debt.

Soul mates are very different from twin flames. We all have soul mate connections, and will encounter many, many soul mates in a lifetime. Soul mates can come in romantic partners, as well as in the forms of friends and family. We come together with a soul mate sometimes to work through karmic debt, a mission we have in common, or perhaps, to learn something.

 My daughter is a soul mate to me, who I made a mistake with in another lifetime, and had to relive something similar in this lifetime and make a different choice. We were brought back together so that I might work through some of my own karmic debt with her.

I have seen a good example of soul mates with a mission together through a romantic couple / husband and wife I knew many years ago. They were both highly intuitive, and they loved each other tremendously. It was obvious though that what really brought them together was a spiritual mission from God. If it was not for this couple, I might never have figured out how to pair my psychic abilities with my christian beliefs, and I will always be grateful to them for helping me, and so many others.

Sometimes, we encounter a soul mate simply to learn something together. I encountered one of my soul mates through a platonic friendship. He and I were brought together to learn things about energetics and meditation. Our learning was accelerated by encountering each other and remembering our past lives with each other, and our past life use of energetics. We both knew immediately that our time to work together was short and that we had a lot to learn, and that once we had, our time together in this lifetime would quickly end, as we both had other paths to take. That is exactly what happened. I'll always be grateful to this friend for the our learning period. People are certainly put in our lives sometimes for very planned out reasons, as was this friend.

There are usually past life connections to soul mates. You will often recognize them when you meet them as if you already knew them, because you have worked together for your progression in other lifetimes. There is an inner knowing that something is different, that makes a soul mate stand out more to you. Generally speaking, from lifetime to lifetime, your meeting each other on a planned life path, so that you each will achieve something. Some soul mates do have problems with each other, and not every soul mate relationship is meant to last, but a soul mate will often feel like a kindred spirit to you. Usually, when the soul mate relationship ends, though you may not suffer, as you would over losing a twin flame, or not for as long, you will generally be able to look back and see that you have learned something from the experience. You will know that there was indeed a reason for the connection, however long, or short term it might be.

Both the twin flame and the soul mate relationship have their value, and reason for being in your life. I am always willing to help people define just what type of relationship they are dealing with, because it also helps them to figure out what approach they should be taking in their relationships with others. If you are trying to define any of your relationships, and need someone to help you get down to just what you are dealing with, please, contact me. I would be happy to help you. Blessings!

# re: Twin Flames Versus Soul Mates @ Thursday, June 11, 2015 9:58 PM
when you honed in on my twin flame situation, I knew you were the one (psychic who was real!)
# re: ?? Twin Flames Versus Soul Mates ?? @ Monday, November 14, 2016 4:31 PM
Excellent article.  My life has been quite a journey.  I met my twin flame, it was confirmed that he is in a dream.  We got married, and now our lives finally feel complete.

Keep up the good work.
# re: Twin Flames Versus Soul Mates @ Sunday, April 23, 2017 2:22 PM
Can a twin flame visit this world temporarily?  Not to have a short lived life as a human, but to possess a human for a period the retreat back to the other side?
# re: Twin Flames Versus Soul Mates @ Saturday, March 24, 2018 10:27 AM
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