I am speaking to all of you ladies out there who are taking dating as a goal instead of a journey. I know! I know! I hear it often okay. I hear ya ladies! You are looking for the one and do not want to waste your time with someone who is not going to work out. Well you just decided to take the fun out of dating and make dating a stressful event.
It is ok to have a goal of marriage and children but you must remember how to enjoy getting to know a man and see if he has qualities that you like. Also he needs to see if you are marriage material. Learn to see dating as an educational experience also. You learn how to ask questions better, listen better and how to set boundaries. Even if I or another advisor says yes you have met the one, that does not mean speed things up.
So many of you feel cursed with dating. Let's get real here. It is hard for everyone out there to find a perosn that they are comfortable with. You may have to date several men for a long period of time before Mr. Right shows up. Lose the idea that you are cursed. You must not take it personal if it is hard to find that perfect man. First of all, perect does not exist. Perfect is an illusion. Love is work not romantical! Yes I am making fun of you romantics! How many of you think that he should just know what to say, what you are thinking and how to pamper you. Come on ladies! Communicate!
Stop expecting the worse case scenario. Find the positives in a person and trust that he will find the positives in you. One flaw does not make him damaged. It makes him human. Lose the expectations and just get to know eachother. Give it several dates to see where things are going. Do not put out and if you do give up the goodies do not expect anything and do not regret it.
I can go on and on. Basically, enjoy the process and stop making dating a goal because it is suppose to be fun. Expect little and you will get more.