Silver Faery Hawk

Daughter of Evalach And Half Fairy or Faery

Decide What’s Best, Not Just What’s Good


Faery Blessings:

We interrupt today’s journey of the past 35 days to share this devotional I got in my Daily Bible Plan…it was an eye opener for me and I so wanted to share it with you all…..it’s a wee bit out of our norm but so thought provoking I thought it would be beneficial for some today!  Enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

Devotional

 

"Some things are not necessarily wrong; they’re just not necessary. Most of the choices you make in life are not really a matter between good and bad. It’s more a matter of what’s best for you.

The Bible talks about this in 1 Corinthians 10:23: “‘I have the right to do anything,’ you say — but not everything is beneficial. ‘I have the right to do anything’ — but not everything is constructive” (NIV).

A lot of things are morally neutral. To make a good decision, you need to go to a higher standard and ask, “Will what I’m about to do make me a better person?” That’s called the improvement test.

I remember many years ago when Kay was nursing our baby, who always got hungry about noon, and so she would sit down to feed the baby and turn on the TV. What’s on TV at midday? Soap operas. So she started watching a soap opera as she fed the baby. Evidently soap operas run into each other. One leads right into the next one. Pretty soon she was watching two. After a while, three. And those babies were getting fat!

After a while she said she realized she wasn’t doing this for the babies anymore. She was actually rearranging her schedule to make sure she could see those shows. She’d start thinking, “I’ll do ironing right now” or “I’ll clean up the kitchen,” and she’d make sure she had to be wherever the TV was.

All of a sudden she got connected to the lives of fictional people. She became intimately interested in the lives of people who didn’t even exist! Then one day it hit her like a ton of bricks: “I am wasting my life! This does not make me a better woman or mother or wife. It has no redeeming value. I could be caring about people who do exist.”

Are you more interested in fictional characters on TV than you are in Paul and Peter and the disciples and what God wants to do in your life? Do you invest your time in the shallow lives of people who fill celebrity magazines? Are you glued to ESPN from the moment you get home on Friday until Monday morning?

Are these things evil? No. Are they bad? No. But the question is not, “Is there anything wrong with it?” The question is, “Will it make me more like Jesus?”



God's Grace, Mercy, Peace & Love Upon Your Lives

Lavonda`

THE NEED TO ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

 

Faery Blessings:

Well I can honestly say I am getting better at establishing boundaries….I used to be a Yes person but when I learned to begin to say No to things that were none of my business and that the person requesting the help needed to do it themselves, so instead of taking others lessons I learned to let go and let them handle to the best of their ability…..and also if you do everything for someone and have no boundaries with them, then they never grow into the person God wants them to and sometimes we have to step back and say “Thy Will Be Done In Their Live”……today is day 35 of our journey of “100 Ways to Simplify Your Life” by Joyce Meyer and today is an especially good one I believe that could help a lot of people….enjoy the message and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE

“We love to overlook boundaries which we do not wish to pass.”—Samuel Johnson

 

“We can see from scripture that even God sets boundaries and we should set them also.  When you have no boundaries in your life, you have no protection.  Boundaries are like fences; they keep people and things out of your life that are undesirable.  They make things definite rather than vague.  Many people are afraid to set boundaries because they think they will offend or anger someone.  We must remember we are called by God to follow Him and walk in wisdom.  We are not called or required to let other people dictate to us what we must do to keep them happy.  There is no doubt we want to make people happy.  The Bible even says we should make sacrifices to do good and share with others(see Hebrews 13:16), but this is not to be taken out of context or applied in an out-of-balance way.

 

My youngest daughter is strict about her privacy.  It means a lot to her, so she asks people, including me, not to come to her house without calling first.  I admit, at first I had to have a small attitude adjustment, but her request was not wrong at all.  I needed to respect her boundaries without having a bad attitude.

 

No is exactly alike and all of us have different needs.  My oldest daughter is just the opposite of the younger one.  She says, “Come over anytime you like and don’t bother to call.”  However, she has other areas in her life where she has tighter boundaries than my youngest daughter.  We not only need to have boundaries of our own, but we also need to respect the boundaries of others. That is one way to get them to respect ours.  We may not always understand why people are the way they are, but we need to respect their right to be themselves.

 

Without boundaries, life gets very complicated, becoming a mixed-up brew of no restraints and no guidelines when it comes to how we do life with others.  We will often find ourselves feeling taken advantage of or feel we are in a place we don’t want to be, doing something we don’t want to do.  Saying no is placing a boundary.

 

We even need boundaries for ourselves.  For example, setting high standards we endeavor to live by is setting boundaries.  We are saying what we will do and what we won’t.  If we always say yes to ourselves and other people, then we have no boundaries and life will become extremely frustrating and complicated.

 

If you have no boundaries and have never learned to respect those of other people,  you are not only being foolish, but you need in order to be happy and then set your boundaries accordingly.   It is not wrong to do so; in fact, it is very wise.”

 


 

God’s Grace, Mercy, Peace & Love upon your lives

Lavonda`

WISE UP BEFORE YOU BURN OUT

 

Faery Blessings:

Day 34:  This one is a hard one for me on the journey of “100 Ways to Simply Your Life” by Joyce Meyer….I am a workaholic….I am the woman who could always “bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan” and keep the house clean the children fed and off to school….I was the most organized person and capable of multi-tasking person I know….all day I had to be doing something or I felt  like I was not accomplishing anything…but after read this today, well I decided to it just might be time to revamp my routine and life a bit…..I hope this helps someone today…..Enjoy and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE

“We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.”—George Bernard Shaw

 

“Wisdom is realistic!  Wise people acknowledge their limitations and avoid trying to be super human.  God has no limitations and can do things through u s we can never do on our own, but each of us can will burn out if we don’t use wisdom in our scheduling and the commitments we make.

 

Jesus said when we are weary and overburdened we should come to Him and He will give us rest (See Matthew 11:28).  One of the ways He gives us rest is by showing us what we need to change in our lives.

 

Have you ever suffered from burnout?  I have and it’s not fun; it’s definitely not an experience I want to repeat.  I love my ministry but I remember driving by our office complex one day and sticking my tongue out at it.  At that moment, I thought, “I don’t ever want to hear the name Joyce Meyer Ministries” again.  Of course, I did not really mean that, but at that particular moment I thought I did.  Why did I feel that way?  I had just finished doing thirteen conferences in thirteen weekends and I was burned out.  I need a change of pace, some variety and rest.   When I got it, I felt totally back to normal and ready to go again.

 

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight.  If you find yourself extra cranky, dragging into work and leaving early, caring less about what used to e really important, or feeling physically sick thought there’s not a clear diagnosis of what may be wrong with you, you may be experiencing symptoms of burnout.  Some people ignore the warning signs and keep pushing until their burnout is so bad they never recover.  They give up on things God truly intended them to do simply because they were not realistic about their own needs.  The simple way to live is to pace yourself so you can accomplish a lot in life and not get derailed through burnout.”

 


 

God’s Grace, Mercy, Peace and Love Upon Your Lives

Lavonda`

KEEP STRIFE OUT OF YOUR LIFE

 

Faery Blessings:

I am amazed that each time I share one of these lessons that in part I can relate to, either from my past or currently in my life….I love that it does because it is like a reminder to me to “keep it simple” in my life….and sometimes it reminds me of situations currently going on in my life and is like an answer to a question to that situation…funny how God works in that even when you don’t know what to ask, He just pops in randomly with an article like this to gently remind us or guide us in it…..so enjoy today’s message from Joyce Meyer’s book of “100 Ways To Simplify Your Life”…..Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE

“Heat and Animosity, contest and conflict, may sharpen the wits, although they rarely do; they never strengthen the understanding, clear the perspicacity, guide the judgment, or improve the heart.”—Walter Savage Landor

 

“When we talk about strife, we’re talking about all of the bickering, arguing, heated disagreement, and angry undercurrents.  We can experience strife with friends, family, and the day-to-day tasks of life.  The Bible teaches us the servant of the Lord must not get caught up in strife.(see 2 Timothy 2:23-24).  It says we are to have nothing to do with trifling, (ill-informed, unedifying, stupid) controversies over ignorant questionings, because they foster strife and breed quarrels.

 

To keep conflict and discord out of our lives, we must be willing to avoid conversations that lead to distress and turmoil.  I can tell when Dave and I are having a conversation that is becoming a bit heated.  I often choose to just drop it because, on those occasions, what we are debating is, often, something not worth arguing about.  It may even be something we are not well informed enough to be discussing anyway.

 

Our human desire to be right often leads us to a great deal of strife.  In order to keep dissension and disputes out of your life, entertain the ideal that even though you really think you are right, there is a possibility you are wrong.  Being right is highly overrated anyway.  We cause all kinds of problems just by trying to prove we are right, and what good does it really do in the end?  It satisfies the flesh, but God has called us to peace.

 

Let’s go back to the definition of strife:  arguing, bickering, heated conversations, and angry undercurrent.  All this makes me feel life is really complicated, but peace is simple and sweet.  Strife blocks our blessings and opens the door for all kinds of trouble.  Strife weakens us, but agreement increases our power.  As the old saying goes, “United we stand, divided we fall.”

 

The next time you have an argument with someone, stop and ask yourself if what you are discussing is actually worth losing your peace over.”

 


 

Gods Grace, Mercy & Peace Be Upon Your Lives

Lavonda`

CULTIVATE SOLITUDE: HEALING FOR THE SOUL

 

Faery Blessings:

Day 32 of “100 Ways To Simplify Your Life” by Joyce Meyer…at least I think it day 32…every once in a while during this 100 days, it gets interrupted with other wisdom to share with you……today I like the lesson because it is one of my favorite things to do….to be alone, just me, God and Spirit to rest in his arms and release all my cares to Him…..This one is sort of short and sweet, yet wise and meaningful in our lives…so take a break(even if only for 10 minutes)(no phone, no technology), just you and the silence around you and breathe in the good and enjoy the solitude….enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE:

“I love people, I love my family, my children…but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up.”—Pearl S. Buck

 

“Being along and enjoying quiet time is very healing to our souls.  Everyone needs regular time to reflect and allow the soul to quiet down.  Your mind needs to rest;  it needs to experience the peace found in solitude.  Emotions need time to settle and level out.   They need time to recover from daily life  When we feel weary and as if we cannot go on, solitude helps us find the determination we need to finish our course with joy.

 

Jesus regularly went off by Himself into the mountains to be alone.  He was refreshed and strengthened through solitude.   In the quiet, we hear from God, and we are reassured of the direction He wants us to take in life.

 

Without solitude, my life can get absolutely crazy.  Nothing makes sense and I can feel overwhelmed by everyone’s expectations.  I don’t know when to say yes and when to say no.  My mind is confused, my emotions are on a rollercoaster, and I frequently want to run away.  But after a little quiet time—some time, alone, in prayer and meditation—everything changes, I find wisdom and direction in the times of solitude.

 

I now absolutely love solitude and the peace I find in those times.  They prepare me for the rest of life.  Make the effort to carve out time in your day, week, or even month to find some solitude.  Get up extra early and watch the sun come up with God.  Find a quiet spot at a park and enjoy the beauty of God’s creation.  Whatever you do, I urge you to cultivate solitude because it is truly where you find the answers to a simple life that can be enjoyed.”

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`

THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND YOU

 

Faery Blessings:

When I was young I learned quickly that the world did not revolve around me….then I became a teenager and moved in with my mom and suddenly the world did revolve around me because she began to show me and buy me many things….over the years I became selfish and forgot that I was suppose to be kind to others and I became judgmental…..after a few years I began to see that the world did not think their world revolved around me…now it is ok sometimes to be selfish(like when you are sick or tired)….there is a time for that…but there are times when others need us more than we need “our” time…today’s devotional from Pastor Rick Warren I found amusing but true…so enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

There’s an old Chinese Proverb that says, “Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.” The Bible talks about this as well: “Look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own” (Philippians 2:4 TEV).

That is such a counter-culture verse. Everything in our culture conditions us to think first of ourselves. We don’t think about other people naturally. That’s something we have to learn to do. We naturally think about our needs, our desires, our goals, and our ambitions. As a result we have millions of people disconnected because they’re only thinking of themselves and not anyone else’s needs.

During about a two-hour period when I was recently watching TV, I saw three commercials with the same by-line: “You deserve it.” “Buy this shampoo! You deserve it.” “Buy this expensive car, because you deserve it!” We are taught that we are the supreme value in life.

Let me teach you two very basic truths about life. First, the world does not revolve around you. You’re very special in God’s eyes, and you were created for a purpose—but the world does not revolve around you. If you want to know how much you’d be missed, stick your hand in a bucket of water and pull it out, and see what kind of hole you leave. It fills back up pretty quick!

The second truth is this: God has promised that when you focus on meeting the needs of other people, he will meet your needs. Why? Because he wants you to learn to be unselfish. He wants you to learn to be loving and generous like him. Part of being considerate of other people’s needs is making allowances for their faults and not expecting them to be perfect (Colossians 3:13). You’re not perfect, so why should you demand it of anybody else?

Proverbs 17:9 says, “Love forgets mistakes” (TLB). When you are trying to make a connection with someone, you don’t have to be blind to that person’s faults. You just choose to overlook them. Great friends are good forgetters. They don’t rub it in; they rub it out! They are more concerned with the other person’s needs.

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`

THREE TERRIBLE THINGS FEAR DOES TO A RELATIONSHIP

 

Faery Blessings:

Oh My can I relate to this years ago…I can honestly say that all three things applied to me……I just have to add that I was “extremely” jealous and number 3 was my go to when I got my feelings hurt by someone I loved….so yes your advisor is human and does experience some of the things you go through or has experienced them in her life…..I now can honestly say that the only one I have to continue to catch myself on to this day is Number 2…..It is a fine line on that one for me…..but I manage to again as my granddaughter says, “Stop, Think, Before you even speak” lol….Today’s message comes from a Daily Devotional Plan I do with Pastor Rick Warren….with that being said, Enjoy todays message and Be Blessed!

 

 

“If you want to connect with someone, you’ve got to be willing to take the first step. This often takes courage. Why? Because it’s fear that disconnects human beings. When we’re full of fear and anxiety, we don’t get close to each other. In fact, we back off. We’re afraid of being rejected, manipulated, vulnerable, hurt, used. All of these fears cause us to be disconnected in life.

 

This fear is as old as mankind. When Adam and Eve sinned and God came looking for Adam, Adam said, “I was afraid, and I hid.” People have been doing that ever since. We’re afraid, so we hide. We hide our true selves. We don’t let people know what we’re really like, because if we do and they don’t like us, we face rejection. And so we pretend.


Fear does three terrible things to relationships:

 

1) Fear makes us defensive. When people point out weaknesses, we retaliate and defend ourselves.

2) Fear keeps us distant. We don’t let people get close to us. We withdraw. We hide our emotions.

3) Fear makes us demanding. The more insecure we are, the more we try to control things. We try to have the last word in a relationship. We try to dominate.

 

So where do you get the courage to take the first step to connect with someone and go into a deeper level of intimacy?

 

You get it from God’s Spirit in your life. The Bible says, “For the Holy Spirit, God’s gift, does not want you to be afraid of people, but to be wise and strong, and to love them and enjoy being with them” (2 Timothy 1:7 TLB).

 

How do you know when you’re filled with God’s Spirit? You’re more courageous in your relationships. You love people. You enjoy being with them. You’re not afraid of them, because God’s Spirit is in your life. The Bible says “God is love” and “Love casts out all fear.” The more of God you have in your life, the less fear you’re going to have in your life.”

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy be upon your lives

Lavonda`

BE EASY TO GET ALONG WITH AND NOT EASILY OFFENDED!


Faery Blessings:

Welcome to the 31st day of “100 Ways To Simplifying Your Life” by Joyce Meyer….I would like to say that these lessons do not apply to me, but that would be a lie and yes even I get a God-smack every once in a while…When I read today’s lesson, I had to stop and go “I’m so sorry Lord”…..because there have been days lately that I find myself edgy and “hard to get along with”….you see a couple of weeks ago I fell flat on my tailbone and it bruised it and when I get in a certain position it is painful(not overly so, more uncomfortable) and I get irritated….and usually someone will be asking me something right about the time I step the wrong way and I will snap at them….”yes even I am not perfect”(imagine that lol)….but in my spirit I heard, “you are your own pain in the butt” lol…..yes just like that….I did it to myself by not paying attention….so now God has my attention and every time I get into a position that it is uncomfortable I am reminded to (as my granddaughter says: “Stop & Think Before You Even Speak” lol)….out of the mouth of babes……so enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE

“Coming together is a beginning.  Keeping together is progress.  Working together is success.”—Henry Ford

 

“Most of us probably wish people in general, were easier to get along with, but have we considered how we ourselves score in that area?  For example, how do you respond when you don’t get your way?  Do you get your feelings hurt easily? Are you insecure and need a lot of attention to feel good about yourself?  How do you handle correction?  Are you adaptable?  Do you have very specific ways you want things done, and if they are not done that way, do you let everyone know you are not happy?  There was a time in my life when my answer to all of those questions would have been embarrassing.

 

I wanted everyone else to change so I could be happy, but God showed me many instances, I was the problem.  The simple truth was that I was hard to please and easy to offend.  I wanted my way and did not act nice when I didn’t get it.  Of course, my attitude complicated my life because I spent a lot of time being upset.  It is impossible to enjoy a simple life unless you’re easy to get along with.

 

It was really difficult for me to admit in the beginning that I was hard to get along with, but once I did, it was the beginning of a whole new world for me.  I quickly found it really was easier to adapt sometimes than to  demand my own way and go through all the arguments to get it.  I found if people did their best, I could compliment them instead of finding the one thing that did not go according to my specifications and making sure I corrected them about it.  I learned that many things could just be let go, and it really would not make any difference in the overall outcome.  With each of those petty things I was able to give up, my life was made one step simpler.

 

I am certainly not assuming all my readers are hard to get along with, but perhaps a few are.  If you happen to be one of them, then I know how you feel, but I can assure you God will help you change if you are willing.  You should start by admitting the truth, perhaps of all the ways you have been hard to get along with.  Remember, only the truth will make you free(see John 8:32).”



God's Grace & Mercy Upon Your Lives

Lavonda`

PERFECT IMPERFECTION

 

Faery Blessings:

We interrupt today’s journey of ways to simplify your life to inject a powerful message from Our Daily Bread email I received in my inbox…and again I am reminded of things I need to change in my own life….others believe just because I guide and counsel them that I am perfect but believe me I am not…I have my good days and bad days as well…..the only thing I do different now than I did back then is to stop & think before I speak now or I take a step back and instead of react, I take the time to listen to God and respond….so all you know that I too am like you, just had more years of practice to get where I am today and still to this day God is still teaching me about me….I hope to never know everything about myself, I want to learn everyday what He has in store for me…I feel like a child on Christmas day when I wake up, jumping out of bed and thinking “What do you have for me today Lord?”….I no longer dread my days, I look forward to each and everything he brings into my life….because like it says in the Bible, “All things work out for the good for them who love the Lord”…..so enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

 

"A college professor of mine, picking up on my perfectionism-induced procrastination, gave me some wise advice. “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good,” he said, explaining that striving for perfect performance can prevent the risks necessary for growth. Accepting that my work would always be imperfect would give me the freedom to keep growing.

The apostle Paul explained an even more profound reason to let go of our own efforts to perfect ourselves: it can blind us to our need for Christ.

Paul had learned this the hard way. After years striving to perfectly obey God’s law, encountering Jesus changed everything (Galatians 1:11-16). Paul realized that if his own efforts were enough to be whole and right with God, “then there was no need for Christ to die” (2:21 nlt). Only by letting go of—dying to—self-reliance, could he experience Jesus living in him (v. 20). Only in his imperfection could he experience God’s perfect power.

This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t resist sin (v. 17); but it does mean we should stop relying on our own strength to grow spiritually (v. 20).

In this lifetime, we will always be works in progress. But as our hearts humbly accept our constant need for the only perfect One, Jesus makes His home there (Ephesians 3:17). Rooted in Him, we are free to grow ever deeper in the love “too great” to ever “understand fully” (v. 19 nlt). —Monica Brands


Lord, so often we exchange the joy and freedom of life with You for the burden of relying on ourselves. Help us to humbly rely on You instead.

 

We are free to grow in Jesus’s love.

 

INSIGHT: Before his dramatic conversion to Christ, Paul relied on his observance of the law for right standing with God (Philippians 3:4-6). But we see in today’s passage that Paul’s focus has shifted from human effort to acknowledging the work of the Lord. Paul prays for the believers in Ephesus that God would strengthen them (v. 16) so that Christ may dwell in them (v. 17). Then they will be rooted in love (v. 17) and filled with the fullness of God (v. 19). These are things God does for the believer, not something we do.

Have you been tempted to rely on your own strength to please God? J.R. Hudberg"

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`

DON’T TRY TO TAKE CARE OF EVERYBODY

 

Faery Blessings:

Day 30 and as I have said before the hits just keep coming….My grandson told me yesterday(made me happy but at same time made me stop and think about what I am doing), “Nanny, you help everybody…..you help my mom, my aunts, my cousins, me with school clothes and if I’m really good maybe even my own phone”….then he said “I’ve never met anyone like you Nanny, you take care of everybody”….he’s 13 and for a 13 year to recognize that made me deeply smile because yes I do, but it also made me stop and think, “Do I need to continue doing everything for everybody?, or do I need to take a step back and allow some of them to take care of themselves?”….I asked myself those questions last night and today’s lesson from Joyce Meyer’s book “100 Ways To Simply Your Life” was “Don’t try to take care of everybody”…..it was like God was saying “Hey, you, down there, out of the mouth of babes, slow your roll and step back and allow others to do some things for themselves”…..lol….it’s funny but not, seeing as how I feel the “need” to do so, but after today I am going to have reevaluate just truly “who” needs my help and “who” could do it on their own….so here I go again on my daily journey of applying the lesson for today….enjoy the message and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE:

“I was so good at caretaking that I once found a piece of petrified wood and spent the next year trying to make it not be so afraid.”—Terry Kellogg

 

“Are you a caretaker?  Some people actually get their worth and value from taking care of everyone else.  It becomes their identity and they are proud of it.   However, most of them ultimately become martyrs.  They take care of everyone and constantly complain about having to do it.  They sacrifice themselves and make everyone feel guilty because they do.

 

The interesting thing about these types of people is you cannot keep them from doing what they do.  They don’t want help or an answer; they want to complain.  I know a woman who talks about how she has sacrificed her entire life doing for others and how unfair it is, but she still latches on to anyone she can care for.

 

Some people, however, do feel they are in a trap they want to get out of but simply don’t know how.  If that is you, I suggest you locate your true responsibility and give up the rest.  Of course, there will be people who won’t understand.  They will get angry and may even say unkind things about you, but at least you may get a life and save your sanity.

 

I tried to help someone for four years who was a wounded individual reared in a very dysfunctional home.  I wanted very much to see this individual have a chance at a good life.  We spent time,  money, and effort, and as long as we did everything for him, things moved in a good direction.  Then the time came for him to get out on his own and take care of himself.  He had a job, an apartment, a car, friends, and no reason not to succeed in life; however, as soon as we were no longer taking care of everything, he went back to all of his old way.  He would get into trouble and someone would call us to come get him.  After the third time, we finally realized we wanted his healing and restoration more than he did and we had to let go.

 

If you have tried to help someone for years and they are still not “helped,” you might want to consider whether or not they really want help.  You may like to see change in their life, but maybe they don’t want to change.  If you want a simple life, then by all means help all the people you can, but don’t become a professional caretaker who feels used up or burned out.”

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`

Emotional Attacks & How To Handle Them! :)


Faery Blessings:

Once again I interrupt the journey of Simplifying your life to post an eye opening article for you by Madisyn Taylor on “emotional attacks”….we have all been there and done that with people who sometimes unexpectedly and without warning just attack us verbally or emotionally and when it happens we are thrown off guard and tend to take it personally….below is an article that came in my inbox and it made me stop and think as I hear this a lot with clientele about how others treat them….I hope it helps someone today….Enjoy today’s message from DailyOM and Be Blessed!

 

Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It's important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their behavior isn't as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions.

If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone's behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn't do anything wrong, and you aren't responsible for people's feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you--whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard--you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them.

You cannot control other people's emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.



God’s Grace, Mercy, Peace & Love

Lavonda`


TRUST GOD TO CHANGE YOU

 

Faery Blessings:

Day 29 of 100 Ways To Simplify Your Life by Joyce Meyer…..I would like to say that I don’t need any of these lessons I am bringing to you daily, but that just is not true…I find myself in awe of just how “complicated” I have made my own life..had no idea until I started delving into the book…..today is a good one for me because I can honestly say over the years that I have read just about every “self-help” book on the market in order to bring about changes within me…..today I realized that knowledge is good, but surrender and wisdom is better……Yes I have had discipline and did change some things within my life but they did not stick because “once again I say” I was trying to do them all by myself and although I know I have a tremendous amount of willpower, some of these things will take more than willpower to change within myself….so today I give it all to God(the things I cannot change) and I reread the “Serenity Prayer” in it’s entirety so I would remember to ask God to “grant me the serenity to accept the things “I” cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference”…..Enjoy today’s message and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE

“You can’t change circumstances and you can’t change other people, but God/Spirit can change you.”—Evelyn A. Theissen

 

“Do you ever struggle with yourself?  Do you see things about yourself you know need to change and desperately try to change them?  I did that for many years and they wee some of the most complicated and frustrating years of my life.  I finally saw, through God’s grace, how it was a waste of time for me to try to fix something only God could do something about.

 

Paul wrote that God has begun a good work in us and He will complete it and bring it to its finish(see Philippians 1:6).  I try to remember God did not invite me into the game, throw me the ball, and tell me to make the touchdown by myself.  We receive everything we need the same way we received Jesus: by believing.  The only thing we receive by struggle and effort is frustration.  I remember putting a sign on my refrigerator that said, “Frustration = works of the flesh.”  God has graciously taught me each time I feel frustrated, it is because I was taking over and trying to do something without His help.  It is what His word calls “works of the flesh” and is something he hates.  We honor God when we depend on Him in all things.

 

When God shows us something that is wrong with us, all He wants us to do is agree with Him and repent.  I recommend you tell Him you cannot change unless He helps you and that you thank Him daily that He is doing so.  You may not see results at first, but faith works  A person living by faith begins believing what they do not see or feel, and they get results as they continue believing and waiting patiently.  Stop wrestling with yourself and believe that God can change you for the better and for good.”

 


 

God’s Grace, Mercy, Peace & Love

Lavonda`

 

SHELTER FROM THE STORMS OF LIFE!


Faery Blessings:

Today we take a detour from the journey we have been on to just “relax and enjoy” our day…..Yesterday was one of those days were it was so “hot” that my son-in-law said would make a mosquito seek out water to drink…lol…..I have the privilege of working inside so I did not feel the effects so much of the heat but my poor husband who is a boss in construction had to work outside in this heat and yes when he comes home he gets catered to lol….But I wanted to take this moment on looking at the “high heat index” we are having, the storm that followed it and placing a spin on it….today’s message is from “Our Daily Bread” I get in my daily inbox….it talks about the “storm” that comes rolling in unannounced much like the heat we have and then the storm that follows it….kind of like what our lives feel like sometimes, just out of the blue….so enjoy today’s message and find shelter in Him and Be Blessed!

 

“When I lived in Oklahoma I had a friend who “chased” tornados. John tracked the storms carefully through radio contact with other chasers and local radar, trying to keep a safe distance while observing their destructive paths so he could report sudden changes to people in harm’s way.
One day a funnel cloud changed course so abruptly John found himself in grave danger. Fortunately, he found shelter and was spared.

John’s experience that afternoon makes me think of another destructive path: sin in our lives. The Bible tells us, “Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death” (James 1:14–15).

There’s a progression here. What may at first seem harmless can soon spin out of control and wreak havoc. But when temptation threatens, God offers us shelter from the gathering storm.

God’s Word tells us He would never tempt us, and we can blame our choices only on ourselves. But when we “are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that [we] can endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13). As we turn to Him and call on Him for help in the moment of temptation, Jesus gives us the strength we need to overcome.

Jesus is our shelter forever. —James Banks

 

Lord Jesus, You conquered sin and death forever through Your cross and empty tomb! Help me to live and thrive in the forgiveness only You can give.

 

Our Savior calms temptation’s storm.

INSIGHT: As this passage in James 1:12-18 clearly teaches, God does not tempt us. Yet in this life temptations are sure to come. In fact, God may permit temptation in order to strengthen our faith as well as our dependence on Him. It’s an immeasurable comfort to know that our heavenly Father will “provide a way out” of temptation, as promised in 1 Corinthians 10:13. But what do we do in those times when we’ve made a mess of things?

It’s always best to run to our Father the moment we’re faced with temptation. But we can turn to Him at any point, even—especially—if we are trying to run from Him. Our God is such a loving and gracious Father. We can always come to Him.

To keep from getting to a point of desperation, it might be wise to ask ourselves these questions: Where do my temptations typically come from? What things might I need to get rid of that cause me to be tempted? Do I have trusted accountability partners to help me in my faith journey? Tim Gustafson”

 


 

God’s Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`



GIVE IT TO GOD

 

Faery Blessings:

 

I am the first one to admit that I have a hard time sometimes giving it all to God...I mean all my life I was taught hard work, pull yourself  up by your bootstraps, quit feeling sorry for yourself and just do it, and the list could go on and on....lately I have found myself pondering(especially during this 100 day journey) how I often look at how far I have come in my life and yes I am proud of all the changes God has made in me, but I also began to recognize that my one fatal flaw(yes I have them too) is that I forget that the clients I advise also are going through what I have already been through and sometimes instead of compassion I find myself telling them "work harder, pull yourself up by your bootstraps and quit feeling sorry for yourselves"....To those whom I have told this to, this is my apology to you...I underwent a humbling experience the last 24 hours of my life...it was a moment of "ok Lord, thy will be done"..it was difficult but it took me down a peg or two to show me that even I have more to learn...so the last 24 hours have really been about "giving it to God" lol...enjoy the 27th day of "100 Ways To Simplify Your Life" by Joyce Meyer and Be Blessed!

 

QUOTE:

 

"All that I have seen teaches me to trust God for all I have not seen."--Anonymous

 

 

"There has probably been a time in your life when you had a problem, and someone said, "Just give it to God."  Although that may not be the answer we want to hear at the time we are hurting, it is still the answer.  A great deal of our unhappiness and confusion is a result of us trying to do what only God can do.

 

"Let go and let God be God" really is a good idea.  it immediately simplifies any situation no matter how difficult.  We need to do what we can and then cast the rest, along with our cares, on God.  The bible says we should do what the crisis requires and "having done all..., to stand." (Ephesians 6:13).  The word "stand" translated in the original Greek means "to abide or rest in God."  Life is not complicated when we are doing something that comes easy to us, but it can be downright overwhelming when we try to do what we know we cannot.  Do your best and then let God do the rest!

 

Ask yourself if you are trying to be superhuman and do something that only God can do.  If so, stop right now and give it to God.  Say out loud, "This is something I cannot make happen and I release it to God right now."   Now, feel the weight of it leave you and refuse to take it back.  Remember, all that burden did was make you miserable and the same thing will happen again if you keep welcoming it back with open arms.  Keep life simple by, once and for all, casting your cares on Go, all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns."

 


 

God's Grace & Mercy

Lavonda`

EDITING YOUR LIFE

 

Faery Blessings:

We interrupt the normal posting of “100 Ways To Simplify Your Life” to inform you of an awesome article written by Madisyn Taylor of DailyOM about “Editing Your Life”….this just felt so profound when I read it that I thought “I have got to share this with my clients”…..So grab your popcorn and settle in to read and enjoy today’s message!!! Be Blessed!

 

"Our lives can be compared to an ongoing movie script over which we have complete creative control. Within us lies the power to examine what works or isn't working in our lives and make "edits" to our life's script, accordingly. Choosing to actively edit your life can be incredibly empowering. As you evolve, you have the choice to accept the script you've written thus far or edit it so you can create a life that fulfills you. You can cut out from your life's script what is no longer working for you. Acknowledging that you are responsible for the experience you create gives you the ability to create the life you've always longed for.

Granted, editing your real life isn't always as easy as erasing a line of text. If you've carried emotional baggage or held on to an unhealthy relationship for a long time, these may be difficult to edit out. But when you do cut out what isn't working from your life, you'll feel lighter and more alive. Editing out activities that you find stressful, disassociating yourself from people that drain your energy, and letting go of your emotional baggage are all beneficial cuts you can make. In the empty spaces that are left behind, you can add in anything you like. Just as you have the power to edit out negative situations or beliefs that you no longer wish to have as part of your life, you can now include the kinds of positive experiences, people, and beliefs that you would like to fill your life with. The manifestation of these thoughts and images as realities in your life will inevitably follow. As you make changes to your life, you can also add in the bits where you choose more intimate, healthier relationships, seek out adventure over tedium, and are no longer negatively impacted by old experiences.

To begin editing your life, simply think about your positive and negative experiences. When you determine what parts of your life are no longer serving you, make the commitment to remove them – though, it is important to remember that there is no proper timing or way to do this, and patience and compassion for yourself are always important during this process. Then, ask yourself what has brought you profound bliss and consider how you can make those experiences and beliefs part of your life now. With a little editing, you'll be able to clear out what is no longer serving you and make room in your life for more happiness, love, and wisdom."

 

 

God’s Grace & Mercy Upon Your Life

Lavonda`