You’re searching for that special someone but did you ever stop to ask yourself, “Am I ready for love?” “Am I ready for a relationship?” The hard reality is that you may not be—not necessarily for the rest of your life, but for the time being. There are several factors that determine whether or not it’s the right time to be attached or to swing solo for awhile. Here are six key signs to look for.
You’re happy with yourself
You have to love yourself before you can love someone else, so until you get to a place where you think highly of yourself, a relationship is only going to be destructive. When you’re confident and happy, love will find its way to you without even having to look for it. It’s also important that you realize you’re still happy even when you’re alone. Fear of loneliness is not the correct recipe for a loving relationship. Not to mention, you have to be comfortable by yourself, otherwise, you run the risk of being overly-needy in a relationship.
You don’t have a strict list of criteria
Making a list of the qualities you want (and don’t want) in a partner is a surefire way to keep you from finding true love. Sometimes the love of one’s life is someone who doesn’t necessarily make sense or have the qualities we thought we were looking for. Fall in love with the person as they are, not how you think they should be. Remember, you’re not perfect either.
You’re not currently dealing with something heavy
While it’s great to have a partner by your side when you’re going through tough times, starting a brand new relationship while you’re in the midst of a rough patch could put a strain on both of you. For example, perhaps you just lost a loved one; give yourself time to heal and restore first. Of course, if you do meet someone that has serious potential, at least be honest with them about your current situation so that they understand where you’re coming from.
You’re willing to put someone else’s interests before your own
Perhaps you’ve been alone for so long that you’ve developed a “routine.” Well, get ready to compromise, dear reader, as relationships are all about the give and take—the same goes for your new partner, too. Are you ready to make a few sacrifices here and there?
You feel mature enough
Chronological age is just a number—it’s how you act and live your life that truly counts. We all fall on hard times at least once in our lives but is your behavior and lifestyle downright irresponsible? If so, what makes you think anyone is going to want to share their time with you? In short: Get your act together before bringing someone else into your circus.
You’re ready to put in the work
Sorry, no relationship is like a perfect rom-com. Relationships do take work as it’s simply normal that you’re going to disagree from time-to-time. This doesn’t mean you should break up. Rather, it’s an opportunity to boost the level of communication between the two of you in an effort to strengthen your relationship. Of course, if everything is constantly a battle, then you’ve got to know when to walk away.