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Admit it. If you\u2019re a Keen member, we\u2019re going to guess that you\u2019ve placed a call or chat with a psychic advisor to ask about why your romantic interest is commenting on their ex\u2019s Facebook post. Or how about, \u201cWhat did it mean when they \u2018Liked\u2019 that picture?\u201d As harmless as the intent of our usage of social media may be, it\u2019s not surprising that sites like Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram\u2014oh, and how could we possibly leave out Snapchat\u2014are causing conflicts in romantic relationships.<\/p>\n
Not long ago, most of us remember writing our phone numbers down on a piece of paper we found nearby and waiting anxiously for a phone call. If you go back even further, some of us used to wait for letters in the mail. Now, with just a name or an email address, you can delve into someone\u2019s life almost instantly\u2014peeking into their social circles, finding information about their background and career, and with most social media sites, being able to view their interactions with other people online.<\/p>\n
With all of this information, and view into the interactions of your beau-to-be or significant other, social media is causing more insecurities than ever. We scrutinize every text, every pixel, and every emoji. What does it mean? He used a period, or she texted back two hours later. We\u2019ve lost patience with the process of dating, with the effort necessary to engage with people in a real and intimate way, and with the standard flow of relationships in general. Social media and the exploding use of technology are becoming the number one cause of problems and arguments in relationships.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you find yourself dwelling on what your crush is doing on Instagram instead of texting you back, you need to take a step back and recognize the foolishness in the overly anxious, attached, and dependent behavior. Yes, dating and relationships have shifted in this new technological era, but to focus on real connections, you have to try to maintain some semblance of the past. Don\u2019t let social media take the driver\u2019s seat. YOU are still in control, and you have the ability to allow yourself to engage in a relationship naturally, letting go of insecurities, irrational worry, and jealousy.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Keep your social media\u2014as well as your lurking habits\u2014in check. This way, you can maintain some intimacy in your relationships. You want to go out with someone? Pick up the phone and give them a call. Your partner liked some fitness model\u2019s Instagram picture? Great\u2014they\u2019re still a red-blooded human. You should accept that as normal and natural. Instead, focus on yourself, and focus on being the best version of you. Know that when you\u2019re happy, strong, proud, and confident within yourself, you\u2019re more desirable than any fitness model online.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t add friction to your own path by over-analyzing every little move on social media. Relationships should be about building trust, rapport, anticipation, and excitement. Letting go of this constant monitoring and focus on social media allows these things to grow organically in your romantic relationships. Express appreciation for people in real life, communicate with each other, maintain boundaries between your real life and cyber life, and don\u2019t let it take over. Keeping your relationship healthy online\u2014and offline\u2014doesn\u2019t take a lot of effort, but it does require a certain amount of letting go. It\u2019ll make the relationship that much more likely to last. And you know what else? You\u2019ll feel much happier. We promise!<\/p>\n
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Admit it. If you\u2019re a Keen member, we\u2019re going to guess that you\u2019ve placed a call or chat with a psychic advisor to ask about why your romantic interest is commenting on their ex\u2019s Facebook post. Or how about, \u201cWhat did it mean when they \u2018Liked\u2019 that picture?\u201d As harmless as the intent of our …<\/p>\n