\t\t\t\t\u201cI\u2019m attracted to Dave,\u201d Ally told me. \u201cBut emotionally, he\u2019s like a desert. It\u2019s like he doesn\u2019t have real feelings! It\u2019s making me wonder if we should be together.\u201d<\/p>\n
Looking over their birth charts<\/a>, I could see they had some good Venus<\/a> and Mars connections<\/a> and fairly compatible Sun signs. But the Moon was where it was all going haywire.<\/p>\n \u201cYour Moon signs struggle to understand each other,\u201d I told her. \u201cThe Moon rules emotions, expression, and security needs. It\u2019s important in relationships because it relates to primal understanding and compatibility.\u201d<\/p>\n Understanding your own Moon sign will help you ask for what you need in relationships or give emotional support to yourself. And knowing your partner\u2019s sign will help you support him\/her in ways that are best for them.<\/p>\n Moon in Aries<\/strong><\/p>\n This Moon needs direct speech, action, and a passionate connection. Emotional finesse isn\u2019t her strong point, and she may be perfectly willing to say where you\u2019ve<\/em> gone wrong. She needs a partner who can understand her need for freedom and deal with bold communication. This Moon is best with Leo Moons, Sag, Gemini, or Aquarius. Moon in Cancer or Scorpio will find an Aries Moon impossible to connect with.<\/p>\n Moon in Taurus<\/strong><\/p>\n Taurus Moon wants life to be good! She needs grounded connections, physical affection, and simple romance. She\u2019s steady and can get emotionally dug into relationships past the time to move on because she doesn\u2019t want to change. Great with a secure Scorpio Moon, Capricorn, Virgo, Libra, and Pisces, but she won\u2019t find joy in a fire Moon (Leo, Aries, Sag) and may find Aquarius and Gemini too mental.<\/p>\n Moon in Gemini<\/strong><\/p>\n Gemini Moon hates boredom. She will typically have many friends and interests and need to express herself in a variety of ways. She doesn\u2019t like examining feelings at every turn\u2014she will drive Scorpio crazy\u2014and Leo will find her too fickle. Capricorn Moons will dismiss her as superficial, and Cancer won\u2019t like her restlessness. This Moon can do well with Libra, Sag, Aquarius, Aries, and sometimes Virgo.<\/p>\n Moon in Cancer<\/strong><\/p>\n Changeable and emotional, Cancer Moons need patience, understanding, and someone who is willing to draw them out of their shell. This Moon, more than any other, must learn to depend on herself emotionally to avoid co-dependent relationships. She is best with stable Capricorn Moons, Taurus, Pisces and even Virgo\u2014if they can tone back their criticism. Scorpio will likely be too intense and the air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) too heady. Forget the fire signs too\u2014Cancer Moon won\u2019t like the heat.<\/p>\n Moon in Leo<\/strong><\/p>\n Leo Moons need lots of adoration\u2014which is easy because they are fun and lovable. This Moon needs a lot of space to emotionally express and must develop good tools to deal with her tendency for drama. Great with other fire signs\u2014though Aries Moons will need to learn some flattery. Libra Moons may like her warmth, but Gemini and Aquarius won\u2019t be focused enough. Leo Moon with water signs is typically more trouble than it\u2019s worth.<\/p>\n Moon in Virgo<\/strong><\/p>\n Virgo needs her \u201csacred work,\u201d whatever that is for her, and she needs to be honored for her efforts while being gently encouraged to drop being<\/em> perfect. Most Virgo Moons need a clean environment and express themselves logically. Her downfall is insecurity and criticism, but Virgo Moon can be the most dedicated of companions. She works well with other earth Moons (Cap, Taurus), Gemini, and Libra. Pisces and Cancer are also possible Moon-mates. Leo and Aries are tough for her, but Sag Moon may find a philosophical connection.<\/p>\n Moon in Libra<\/strong><\/p>\n Such an accommodating Moon\u2014sometimes to her own detriment\u2014she is good with many different energies. She needs a pretty environment, thrives on harmony, and hates fighting. Libra Moon may be indecisive, and this can lead to letting others take charge in the relationship too much. Great with most other Moon signs, but Aries and Sagittarius may present too much independence. She may get bogged down with water Moons (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio) unless they are good at setting boundaries themselves.<\/p>\n Moon in Scorpio<\/strong><\/p>\n Ah, the sexy, intense, psychologically driven Scorpio Moon. She is a deep friend and lover but can be the hardest to satisfy emotionally. Like Cancer, she needs to take care of herself emotionally to avoid co-dependency. She will stay up all night discussing your psyche, reading Tarot cards, or making love one hundred different ways. Pisces will flow with her, Taurus can ground her, and Cap and Virgo can be her rock, though they may need a time out once in awhile. Fire Moons\u2014nope. Aquarius and Gemini may find her interesting but ultimately too much work.<\/p>\n Moon in Sagittarius<\/strong><\/p>\n This Moon needs freedom, interesting conversation, and a room of her own. She must grow so she never feels stuck in a relationship. Her worst side is she can be convinced she is right<\/em>, in which case, you\u2019ll never win an argument. She\u2019ll do fine with most Moons, except Cancer, Scorpio, and earth Moons that are stuck in a rut. Most likely, along with Gemini Moons, to remain friends with their exes.<\/p>\n Moon in Capricorn<\/strong><\/p>\n Deeply sensitive yet super practical, this Moon will not tolerate emotional fluff. She\u2019s intensely loyal, but you\u2019ve got to win her trust and never<\/em> betray her. This Moon loves structure and a practical approach to solving relationship problems. This integrity can make evolved Scorpio Moons a winning match, and earth Moons are typically winners as well. Leo Moon will love Cap devotion, but may not be able to meet Cap\u2019s high expectations. Pisces\u2019 innate understanding of depth will feel like a balm to the often misunderstood Cap Moon soul.<\/p>\n Moon in Aquarius<\/strong><\/p>\n An independent Moon, this sign craves dialogue, discourse, and discovery. She\u2019s emotionally objective, even aloof, and may completely stymie water Moons. Aquarius Moons can handle polyamory well and anything that smacks of the avant garde<\/em>. They need freedom and stimulation, though, like Sag, they can get locked into a one-sided view of what is right. This is the least emotionally expressive Moon, and she does well with Gemini, Libra, Aries, and Sag Moons.<\/p>\n Moon in Pisces<\/strong><\/p>\n This empathic Moon needs a safe \u201ccave\u201d to retreat in when she gets overwhelmed by all the feelings around her. Some kind of spiritual life and a calm environment will help her blossom. She is service-oriented and must learn to set boundaries to avoid depleting her energy. This Moon makes a lovely companion to Virgo and Capricorn. A settled Sag Moon or a self-reliant Scorpio might find companionship here as well. Pisces may like the nurturing of a Cancer moon but will struggle with fire moons and the remoteness of Aquarius.<\/p>\n Can Incompatible Moons Survive?<\/strong><\/p>\n Ally\u2019s Moon was in Leo. She was big-hearted, warm, and loved the give and take of emotions. But Dave\u2019s Moon was in Aquarius. He filtered most of his emotions through his thinking faculty and couldn\u2019t give Ally the emotional feedback her Leo Moon craved.<\/p>\n As with any astrological connection, you can<\/em> make anything work, depending on how hard you are willing to try. I told Ally that Dave was never going to be the warm, adoring type, though he could learn to speak a love language that felt more natural for her. Was she willing to give herself more of the love she was seeking from Dave? If not, no matter how good other components were, she would always feel emotionally shut out by him.<\/p>\n Ally took a few weeks to consider. When she came for another session, she reported that she had decided to step back from the relationship.<\/p>\n \u201cI came to understand that I need emotional interplay. It was hard to let go of Dave, but I think it\u2019s for the best. And in the meantime, I\u2019m working on self-love<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n Your Moon sign is vital to co-creating a lasting, satisfying relationship with yourself and with another. Understanding needs and emotional patterns by knowing Moon signs will give you a head start in navigating both new and established relationships\u2014and relationships with family and friends, too.<\/p>\n