Keen Category: Love Advice
Psychics, empaths and tarot readers are often asked this question. And it is understandable why so many people want to know the answer when getting a reading about potential mates. We can all become deeply attached to the love we feel for another, and experience a strong desire to have that love returned. At its core, this is as natural as the bond between mothers and children. However, in love relationships, just as in mother/child relationships, love is not always returned, sustained, or expressed.
Many times, when we ask if someone will ever love us, we are asking if a person will ever change. Regardless of a reader's prediction, this is always up to the individual in question because we all have free will and can change or not change at any time. Sometimes what we want to know is if we should hold on when things are rough. We want validation that things will change out of fear of letting go too soon. At other times, we may ask because we so want to be loved by a specific person, even though we are being treated in a way that makes us feel bad.
If we can get someone to tell us that our heartthrob will eventually love us, then we can use that to trick our brains into not feeling pain. We avoid and delay the heartbreak we would naturally feel if we didn't have outside assurances from a psychic reader who tells us that one day we will be loved by this individual. But if we allow ourselves to feel the pain of our current reality, then we allow action and change to work into our lives … and that is what we really need when we are not loved in a relationship.
Love means a lot of different things to different people. Someone may have feelings of love for you, but this person may not choose to be with you or life circumstances make it impossible for you to be together. Feeling love vicariously through a psychic reader may give you comfort; however, that is not real love. Not only do you deserve real love, it is also what your soul wants. Love is what is healing to humans. Trying to feel it through others only keeps you connected to a blocked source of love. You need to be released so that you can heal from your disappointment and move on and find a person who is willing and able to share love with you directly.
If you sustain the belief that someone who isn't loving towards you now, will be loving towards you in the future, you are vulnerable to putting up with a lot of non-loving behavior while waiting for what you desire to come. You shouldn't have to wait for love – it is either there or it is not. If you have to ask for outside confirmation about that love, then there is a good chance that it is not there, or the person is choosing to not share it. In either case, you are better off to accept the lack of it, grieve, and move on.
When we make choices based on how things are today and not on future predictions, then we begin to set the stage for love to enter our life in the present. Letting go of a relationship that is not showing us love, makes space for a relationship that is loving. We are telling the Universe, "I am not going to wait around and settle for a possible future prediction of love" and the Universe will support that.
Usually, when we do choose to wait around for a person who is unavailable with their love, it might be a way of avoiding real relationships. Real "in-your-face-right-now" relationships can bring up even more fears and uncertainty than a "future-maybe-hopefully-one-day-I-will-love-you" relationship, because that kind of relationship requires you to be seen and known by another person – now! It asks for levels of emotional and sexual intimacy that might be uncomfortable, especially if we have previously been hurt.
So understand your past and affirm your right to an available and loving partner, and in the meantime, consider asking your advisor about how you can be most loving to yourself. The guidance and insight you receive from that question will carry you much closer to a true and lasting love, than a prediction about if he will ever love you.